Log in

View Full Version : Sugar baby, how do I know how much to ask for?



Pages : 1 [2]

Nilah
11-21-2019, 02:40 PM
More since I stopped ignoring his texts:

Sweetie I know you are busy but is something more going on? I don't want to bother you if you are no longer interested in me.

But you do know I already love you. :) I hope you don't mind.

I've just been hesitant to mention it. I did not want you to be nervous about it. I want you to be happy. And sugar please know I'll do what I can to make you happy!!


Keep in mind; we met exactly a week ago :S

Bahuba
11-21-2019, 03:02 PM
52345

carmen_b
11-21-2019, 04:44 PM
Please don’t venture over to the Hilton unless he has at least 2k ( or whatever your happy amount is ) and will work within your boundaries. I’d be up front that weekly ( if you even want to deal with him ) is all you can do for now ( student , debts , ect )! If he wants more time he can play within your rule book and give you a large $$incentive$$.

arielbriel
11-21-2019, 06:02 PM
What a nutcase and a cheap one at that! He wanted to give you $166-200 ish PER sleepover wow.

DonaDiabla
11-21-2019, 09:17 PM
Yeah, it's time to block him and move to the next one. In my experience, when they bring up love to quickly...that means they are cheap and weird. Just prepared for the next one. :)



More since I stopped ignoring his texts:

Sweetie I know you are busy but is something more going on? I don't want to bother you if you are no longer interested in me.

But you do know I already love you. :) I hope you don't mind.

I've just been hesitant to mention it. I did not want you to be nervous about it. I want you to be happy. And sugar please know I'll do what I can to make you happy!!


Keep in mind; we met exactly a week ago :S

rickdugan
11-22-2019, 07:01 AM
It sounds like he was looking for an intimate girlfriend type relationship at a cost effective price. That works out to around 500 per week and for that he wanted three overnights with sex and, since he'd be using your place, no additional hotel costs. Isn't this what they mean with the term "Splenda Daddy?"

I'll never tell a girl what she should or shouldn't do with her own body. But IMHO if a guy wants to get that deep into you and your living space then he needs to be paying you a whole lot more than just enough to cover a few routine bills.

Anyway, just my :twocents: fwiw.

Nilah
11-23-2019, 12:44 PM
I stupidly didn't block him, just ignored his texts, and the last one was of him saying he called the police because he was so worried, and that "he's fortunate enough to know them", which I took as a thinly veiled attempt at blackmailing me to contact him. Thank GOODNESS he doesn't know a stitch about where I work or live. And this was only after a week! I now have him blocked. I still feel bad about the $1,800 he paid me, with nothing in return for him, other than the cost of my sanity for that week, and probably looking over my shoulder for the next while.

SnuffleUffleGrass
11-23-2019, 02:50 PM
I stupidly didn't block him, just ignored his texts, and the last one was of him saying he called the police because he was so worried, and that "he's fortunate enough to know them", which I took as a thinly veiled attempt at blackmailing me to contact him. Thank GOODNESS he doesn't know a stitch about where I work or live. And this was only after a week! I now have him blocked. I still feel bad about the $1,800 he paid me, with nothing in return for him, other than the cost of my sanity for that week, and probably looking over my shoulder for the next while.

OH MY Gawddd….he frigging called the police...I doubt it. I told you some of these guys don't have the most strong grip on reality.

I had a guy bug out on me like that & I realized he was too mentally delicate to handle the stresses of a SD/sb arrangement. Thankfully I was able to cut him out of my life.

carmen_b
11-23-2019, 05:10 PM
Gross. No one should bring up the word " police " with a SWer . NEXT ! Loser.

carmen_b
11-23-2019, 05:11 PM
^ Same goes ( he probably didn't think about this ) ...... if you are a guy trying to purchase sex .... perhaps you should not involve the police. hahaha

That $1800 is a gift for two meetings and A LOT of needy texting from what it sounds like.
If the police even ask ( which they won't because we are all 99.9999% sure he is playing stupid games ) .

miss.a.p1600
11-26-2019, 05:31 AM
Agreed. Police would probably laugh at him - they have bigger fish to fry.

rickdugan
11-26-2019, 11:01 AM
I stupidly didn't block him, just ignored his texts, and the last one was of him saying he called the police because he was so worried, and that "he's fortunate enough to know them", which I took as a thinly veiled attempt at blackmailing me to contact him. Thank GOODNESS he doesn't know a stitch about where I work or live. And this was only after a week! I now have him blocked. I still feel bad about the $1,800 he paid me, with nothing in return for him, other than the cost of my sanity for that week, and probably looking over my shoulder for the next while.

If he was blowing up your phone for days, then the guy has issues. He got too emotionally invested in the whole thing. I'm wondering if he was really who he said he was or as successful as he claimed. IMHO an ideal SD is one who won't miss the money and who has lots of other life commitments that keep his head grounded, like a big job, a family at home, etc. Guys who don't fit this profile are much more likely to get emotional about the money, you or both and create lots of problems for you.

In the future, you might want to consider screening them more carefully. Doctors and lawyers can be checked against state professional databases and most others who claim to have big jobs can be verified through company websites and/or online professional networking sites like LinkedIn.

Anyway, just my :twocents: and good luck!

Nilah
11-27-2019, 09:47 AM
His name checked out as a partner for a firm I was familiar with, picture and all. I don't think he was being honest about his divorce, because he wouldn't let me come near the area he worked/lived in, but yet he wanted me to be exclusive, and stay at my home 2-3 nights a week, and he was relentless with the sexual talk; it turned me off, and felt like he was more looking for someone to abuse. After I blocked him, I didn't hear anything more (from him or the police, haha). I hate that it could have worked, had he not been so aggressive and pushy in the first place, because I actually did enjoy spending time with him aside from all that. I think some people with money think they can act and talk a certain way because they can just throw more money at the situation to allow them to do so, but no money is worth being treated like that.

SnuffleUffleGrass
11-27-2019, 09:52 AM
His name checked out as a partner for a firm I was familiar with, picture and all. I don't think he was being honest about his divorce, because he wouldn't let me come near the area he worked/lived in, but yet he wanted me to be exclusive, and stay at my home 2-3 nights a week, and he was relentless with the sexual talk; it turned me off, and felt like he was more looking for someone to abuse. After I blocked him, I didn't hear anything more (from him or the police, haha). I hate that it could have worked, had he not been so aggressive and pushy in the first place, because I actually did enjoy spending time with him aside from all that. I think some people with money think they can act and talk a certain way because they can just throw more money at the situation to allow them to do so, but no money is worth being treated like that.

^^^^^^^^


THIS so much!!!!!! "Not all money is good money."


This discussion deserves its own thread....being a Sugar Baby to an abuser/violent creep is never worth it. Trust me.

miss.a.p1600
11-27-2019, 09:58 AM
.... he was relentless with the sexual talk; it turned me off, and felt like he was more looking for someone to abuse.....

This is exactly what I thought reading this

He was waaay to forward too soon about wanting to fuck unprotected and as you mentioned expecting you to be exclusive to him by invading your space (to make sure no other men lived/came over to see you)

Then once you stated your boundaries his dumb ass started backpedaling and laying on fake pleasantries to convince you to let your guard down.

Then threatening you by saying he thought about calling police.

I don’t know this dude but some guys are so sadistic they think paying a lady money is the lady consenting to receive whatever shitty behavior they put out.

Youre better off having ditched him.