View Full Version : The Official 'What's On Your Mind?' Thread!
PixiieGirl
02-29-2020, 12:24 PM
This is honestly why I've been weary of joining skype platforms & which to invest in, because time = money & I hate wasting my time on non existent funds. Being harassed about your rate is already bad enough on a site that TAKES 70% of your earnings, but this is unacceptable.
one of the issues is they dont enforce a minimum rate :/
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
02-29-2020, 01:33 PM
IMO performers should only focus on one Skype show directory at a time. Pick one that works best for you and work the customer list built up from that platform. You should then simultaneously build up your own traffic from your own marketing efforts. Otherwise you're not really working the Indy hustle... you're still working for a camsite.
Too many people think that signing up for everything will bring in more money and that's not how it works. You can actually do more harm than good by signing up to new ventures. Also be weary of the performers who show up singing the praises of some of these sites. Things are not always what they seem. I recently updated the camsite list and there are a few directories that I'm not sure should be listed based on more than a few things. BTW I'm not talking about Camlust, although I did leave them off the list... for a reason. I think that some of the Euro sites can be profitable as long as you see it for what it is and don't use your primary performer name. There's levels to this. ☺️
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
02-29-2020, 01:36 PM
Man do I love Saturdays. �� People just seem to be in the best of moods on Saturday mornings? We went to Home Depot and a pet shop and everyone there was so cheerful it was infectious. I'm headed to Trader Hoes next.
PixiieGirl
02-29-2020, 02:16 PM
IMO performers should only focus on one Skype show directory at a time. Pick one that works best for you and work the customer list built up from that platform. You should then simultaneously build up your own traffic from your own marketing efforts. Otherwise you're not really working the Indy hustle... you're still working for a camsite.
Too many people think that signing up for everything will bring in more money and that's not how it works. You can actually do more harm than good by signing up to new ventures. Also be weary of the performers who show up singing the praises of some of these sites. Things are not always what they seem. I recently updated the camsite list and there are a few directories that I'm not sure should be listed based on more than a few things. BTW I'm not talking about Camlust, although I did leave them off the list... for a reason. I think that some of the Euro sites can be profitable as long as you see it for what it is and don't use your primary performer name. There's levels to this. ☺️
Good advice! I definitely don’t really engage in an indie hustle I don’t think but I mainly work stream sites and am happy with that, my advertising etc tends to be to drive clip sales more than anything
tbh I tend not to listen to where others do well cause it’s individual for everyone isn’t it, tho i was being told to join NF for about a year before I did and wish I’d listened to that sooner lol!
I literally got two camlust shows back to back after this post - despite having nothing there since november lol weird
izshadow
03-01-2020, 09:24 AM
I'm really sad to learn that due to my illnesses, hair color no longer stays. I used to love to go crazy with color from time to time but now it just slides right out. Even enlisted the help of my hairdresser friend and nada. My hair just can no longer hold color. I may try one final old school attempt and whip out the kool-aid.
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
03-01-2020, 11:35 AM
It wasn't until I was at Trader Joe's yesterday that I found out the founder had passed away. People were actually putting flowers out front as a memorial. An employee said earlier in the day they had a moment of silence after it was announced. I think Trader Joe's is one of those establishments where people actually like working there? I could be wrong.
Marina Starr
03-01-2020, 12:23 PM
I believe they start you out at $13 something with benefits so that's really good. People that work there seem to love it.
That's better than hoeing for 100 hours and make $5 but heeey, to each his own.
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It wasn't until I was at Trader Joe's yesterday that I found out the founder had passed away. People were actually putting flowers out front as a memorial. An employee said earlier in the day they had a moment of silence after it was announced. I think Trader Joe's is one of those establishments where people actually like working there? I could be wrong.
NitaBaby
03-01-2020, 06:15 PM
I need to do something about my lack of discipline.
I'm an ambitious, determined, hard-headed mf'er. But that's only when I have a goal in mind. Working hard for some aimless, non-dire reason brings out the sloth in me.
ggminx
03-02-2020, 07:17 AM
discipline muscles are like normal muscles...gotta always keep working them...and its always a struggle!
this is a 7 part series (only 5 parts actually are posted...the other 2 didn't seem to necessary after how helpful the first parts are). i love reading and rereading...i hope you and others find it useful!
https://lessonsfromthepeacecorps.com/2014/09/18/discipline-through-defeating-deception/
this is another read from somewhere else on this forum. I can't remember where because I bookmarked it so long ago! lol
https://www.wisdomination.com/screw-motivation-what-you-need-is-discipline/
I need to do something about my lack of discipline.
I'm an ambitious, determined, hard-headed mf'er. But that's only when I have a goal in mind. Working hard for some aimless, non-dire reason brings out the sloth in me.
Marina Starr
03-02-2020, 08:55 AM
Been having a strong craving for burgers lately. Cheeseburgers, fries and diet coke. That does sound good for lunch!
DahliaSimone
03-02-2020, 10:56 AM
I really have to stop getting on Amazon late at night, when im stoned and have the munchies....i forgot I ordered a huge tub of cheese balls when i had the munchies the other night and today the mail lady pulled up and i was like 'wtf, im not expecting a package'....I mean, im not MAD that I have a giant tub of cheese balls, but.....its kinda dumb lol
Esixxx
03-02-2020, 04:21 PM
Wishes that there was a magical device to delay my period to begin on my days off.
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
03-03-2020, 08:38 AM
I'm gonna do a scary moviethon today. It's super Tuesday and need to detach a bit. First up is The Skeleton Key. This movie didn't get as much love as it deserved.
https://youtu.be/nPegIryJ5DM
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
03-03-2020, 08:39 AM
I really have to stop getting on Amazon late at night, when im stoned and have the munchies....i forgot I ordered a huge tub of cheese balls when i had the munchies the other night and today the mail lady pulled up and i was like 'wtf, im not expecting a package'....I mean, im not MAD that I have a giant tub of cheese balls, but.....its kinda dumb lol
I've done this many times. The dumbest order was a 5 lb gummy bear. ☺️
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
03-04-2020, 08:31 AM
Some days you just have to wake up and decide to be happy. I know that's not always possible, but man is that realization a beautiful thing when it works out. This morning I woke up a little grumpy and my body was a little achy. Then three steps from the bathroom I asked myself, Why are you grumpy and why are you groaning? After that I stood up straight and did my stretches. Now I feel perfectly fine and today is so beautiful.
http://www.camhustlers.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/x0n6y7pzf3yy.jpg
naomi_doll
03-04-2020, 11:16 AM
I really wish I could get all my videos for the month filmed in 1 or 2 days, but it is not happening. I had to rearrange the cam room because I need my computer on the wall with more plugs. That took forever. Now I've got to put up some things I pulled out. Then go to the store to grab an energy drink (its for one of the videos). I also just saw that cams wants hd photos.
I know it's worth filming to have a new video out daily, but I am chomping at the bit to get back to streaming. I feel guilty I guess.
minibagel
03-04-2020, 11:21 AM
I have 514 ppl blocked on SM. I'm too ban happy sometimes. I should lighten up a little and do some unblocking because surely those 514 can't be all bad.. some must be willing to pay, I hope?
SoloDesire
03-04-2020, 11:43 AM
I have 514 ppl blocked on SM. I'm too ban happy sometimes. I should lighten up a little and do some unblocking because surely those 514 can't be all bad.. some must be willing to pay, I hope?
Nope, once you unblock them they will come back and do the same shit you already blocked them for. I've seen it too many times. I currently have 2,637 assholes blocked for life.
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
03-04-2020, 12:01 PM
I have 514 ppl blocked on SM. I'm too ban happy sometimes. I should lighten up a little and do some unblocking because surely those 514 can't be all bad.. some must be willing to pay, I hope?
I think you may have more patience than most of us. 514 is a low number and for that reason I would unblock at least half of them to see what happens if I were you.
minibagel
03-04-2020, 04:03 PM
Nope, once you unblock them they will come back and do the same shit you already blocked them for. I've seen it too many times. I currently have 2,637 assholes blocked for life.
I would say the good majority of people I have on my block list are the silent lurker types who never said anything or took me to a show. Like the kind that popped in and out of my room 3-4 times and never said "hi" or took me to pvt, so I just blocked them. I feel like maybe that's a little severe cuz maybe eventually they might tip/take me to a show?
I think you may have more patience than most of us. 514 is a low number and for that reason I would unblock at least half of them to see what happens if I were you.
I've only been on Streamate for 4-5 months camming 10-20hrs/week so I thought 514 was a lot lol. I have less than a hundred people blocked on MFC and I have been on that site for 5 years dunno :shrug:
NitaBaby
03-04-2020, 04:46 PM
It looks like I'll be quitting cam a lot sooner than I expected. Instead of it being in two years I'll likely be completely done within two months.
I'm honestly scared to completely leave the one "job" that has always been there for me when other jobs haven't. But my situation has changed. I gotta go.
SoloDesire
03-04-2020, 05:15 PM
I would say the good majority of people I have on my block list are the silent lurker types who never said anything or took me to a show. Like the kind that popped in and out of my room 3-4 times and never said "hi" or took me to pvt, so I just blocked them. I feel like maybe that's a little severe cuz maybe eventually they might tip/take me to a show?
I block for pretty much anything that irritates me. I do make a lot of notes though. If they lurk I'll kick them out and make a note that they lurked...if they come back and do it again...blocked. Guys that come in and act like they want a show then leave...make a note of it, if they do it again, blocked. Come in and greet me then leave...2 strikes you're out. I do give chances because sometimes there are site glitches or mishaps, but I don't take much shit.
SoloDesire
03-04-2020, 05:19 PM
I would say the good majority of people I have on my block list are the silent lurker types who never said anything or took me to a show. Like the kind that popped in and out of my room 3-4 times and never said "hi" or took me to pvt, so I just blocked them. I feel like maybe that's a little severe cuz maybe eventually they might tip/take me to a show?
I block for pretty much anything that irritates me. I do make a lot of notes though. If they lurk I'll kick them out and make a note that they lurked...if they come back and do it again...blocked. Guys that come in and act like they want a show then leave...make a note of it, if they do it again, blocked. Come in and greet me then leave...2 strikes you're out. I do give chances because sometimes there are site glitches or mishaps, but I don't take much shit.
Marina Starr
03-04-2020, 05:28 PM
I don't think you blocked enough. There's no such thing as too much blocking on SM. You gotta have a money goal and a block goal.
I've blocked over four THOUSANDS and that will only keep going up! #thickthighs #thinpatience
52900
I have 514 ppl blocked on SM. I'm too ban happy sometimes. I should lighten up a little and do some unblocking because surely those 514 can't be all bad.. some must be willing to pay, I hope?
~Carmen~
03-04-2020, 06:04 PM
I block for pretty much anything that irritates me. I do make a lot of notes though. If they lurk I'll kick them out and make a note that they lurked...if they come back and do it again...blocked. Guys that come in and act like they want a show then leave...make a note of it, if they do it again, blocked. Come in and greet me then leave...2 strikes you're out. I do give chances because sometimes there are site glitches or mishaps, but I don't take much shit.
I do something similar. I make notes for those who pop in and out or great and run. 3 strikes=blocked. If they say they are going pvt, I will add a note saying "bait?" and remove it if they do a show.
minibagel
03-05-2020, 05:13 PM
Glad I am not the only one I guess lol. Maybe some guys have a fetish for being kicked out of chat rooms or something because lately they'll come back into my room and tip gold or take me excl. Some who get blocked will message me and ask what they did wrong, beg for forgiveness and ask if they can take me to a show.
caramelcraze
03-05-2020, 10:25 PM
my favorite highlighter fell off my limited counter space and broke. luckily I saw a snap story months ago about fixing eye shadows that are broken and IT FUCKING WORKED!!!!!! Just crushed it into a fine powder in the pan, added rubbing alcohol, pressed it down in the pan, and let it sit overnight. now it's relatively stable and i can use it again!!! so freaking happy I don't have to spend $22 on highlighter again for a while.
nattyfetish
03-05-2020, 10:50 PM
I hate this time frame right before your period is about to come & during. I am an emotional mess almost all the time. Obsessing over stupid things, overanalisying everything, basically everything beeing out of proportions. I hate it because I feel less strong during this times. Whyyyyy us woman do we have to get it? I don't mind the bloody mess as much as i do "the hormonal dance" we get each month.
jessicka
03-06-2020, 06:32 AM
I used to never ban anyone and would just try to "kill them with kindness". I've been streaming for about 5 years. It took a lot of emotional effort, and I don't think they ever deserved how much patience I gave them. They proved that to me. My ban list is growing steadily and it feels good.
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
03-06-2020, 07:15 AM
My mother calls me screaming at 6:30am saying there was a copperhead trapped in her closet. I go all the way out there and it's a friggin garter snake. Not that I wanted a venomous snake to be in her closet. But ma'am, it wasn't even full size. All I had to do was open the front door and the snake basically saw itself out. I really think she just wanted me to drive her to Publix.
Midwest-Mistress
03-07-2020, 09:23 AM
Hmmmm In midst of this virus freak out, flights are cheaper than ever! Everyone has been sad that festivals are getting shut down but I'm an introvert & never go out so I don't really care lol. And just in time for my birthday too, I've been wanting to go back south & visit friends/family, & a round trip flight to ATL on Delta is $147 what a steal! I might just kick my ass in gear hustle for these bills & head out! :D
Marina Starr
03-07-2020, 06:44 PM
Prayers answered.
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PhatGirlDynomite!!!
03-08-2020, 07:19 AM
Hmmmm In midst of this virus freak out, flights are cheaper than ever! Everyone has been sad that festivals are getting shut down but I'm an introvert & never go out so I don't really care lol. And just in time for my birthday too, I've been wanting to go back south & visit friends/family, & a round trip flight to ATL on Delta is $147 what a steal! I might just kick my ass in gear hustle for these bills & head out! :D
Yup, Ultra Music fest in Miami was cancelled. That really sucks because I had payed for a spot downtown so I could work on my truck. Now I gotta wait to get my refund and also find another event. Then we found out that a conference he's scheduled for might be cancelled in Vegas due to this virus. That was gonna turn into an epic road trip. I'm grateful for good health but dammit man!
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
03-08-2020, 07:22 AM
Prayers answered.
52910
LOL This is a reminder to all us virtual hoes to work our customer list. You can't get Corona via the internet. Come through bb! 😊
izshadow
03-08-2020, 10:01 AM
It looks like I'll be quitting cam a lot sooner than I expected. Instead of it being in two years I'll likely be completely done within two months.
I'm honestly scared to completely leave the one "job" that has always been there for me when other jobs haven't. But my situation has changed. I gotta go.
OMG!!!!! I'm happy and sad for you all at the same time!!!!! Hugs!!!!!
NitaBaby
03-08-2020, 10:21 AM
OMG!!!!! I'm happy and sad for you all at the same time!!!!! Hugs!!!!!
Thank you, friend :hug:
ggminx
03-09-2020, 02:45 AM
Kick ass on the vanilla side! hope the camming gods make it rain down on you until you're last day!
I have a 2 year plan too...but don't know if I'll make it either...due to sanity!
Thank you, friend :hug:
edited to say how much i love your siggy
NitaBaby
03-09-2020, 04:56 AM
Kick ass on the vanilla side! hope the camming gods make it rain down on you until you're last day!
I have a 2 year plan too...but don't know if I'll make it either...due to sanity!
edited to say how much i love your siggy
Thanks ggminx! I hope she makes it rain on my ass, too.
My availability to cam has already been reduced to just Friday, Saturday, Sunday and within the next 14 days it'll be just Sundays. So the time to start working my lil at-home jobs is NOW. School starts next week. Then my bf is asking me to send him pictures of "the type of ring you like" so I feel like a lot of changes are coming soon and I'm just nervous as hell.
And thanks again, about the siggy lol
nattyfetish
03-09-2020, 06:26 AM
My bank just refused my payment after 5 years of using them. The reason? Suspicious activity of the company sending the money (gambling, videochat ETC). They are such hypocrites. They use us and than fuck us (the sex industry). My period came aswell.
I need wine. ASAP.
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
03-09-2020, 06:28 AM
My bank just refused my payment after 5 years of using them. The reason? Suspicious activity of the company sending the money (gambling, videochat ETC). They are such hypocrites. They use us and than fuck us (the sex industry). My period came aswell.
I need wine. ASAP.
Oh wow that's terrible. Im really sorry that happened. Can you say what bank it is?
nattyfetish
03-09-2020, 06:36 AM
Oh wow that's terrible. Im really sorry that happened. Can you say what bank it is?
It's an east european bank. One of the most popular and used in my country. The west of Europe and Usa is safe from it. Tough I bet some other banks do the same all over the world (in case of sex industry workers).
I shall move my account in a diffrent bank but it is so frustrating and time consuming.
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
03-09-2020, 06:52 AM
It's an east european bank. One of the most popular and used in my country. The west of Europe and Usa is safe from it. Tough I bet some other banks do the same all over the world (in case of sex industry workers).
I shall move my account in a diffrent bank but it is so frustrating and time consuming.
Yes this happens here in the US as well. A few years ago there was something called Operation Choke Point (https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/4w74jg/how-the-financial-sector-is-making-life-miserable-for-sex-workers-714)that became a headache for some us. I'm still careful about which banks I send my adult payments to. It's also why companies like being discreet about who they bank with.
Definition- Operation Choke Point was a 2013 initiative of the United States Department of Justice[1] which investigated banks in the United States and the business they did with firearm dealers, payday lenders, and other companies believed to be at a high risk for fraud and money laundering.
gbjenna
03-09-2020, 07:29 AM
I think you may have more patience than most of us. 514 is a low number and for that reason I would unblock at least half of them to see what happens if I were you.
I’ve been on SM since June and I’ve got less than 100 blocked. Maybe like 80 odd or something? I thought I was getting quite ruthless with these guys but obviously not!!! Lol!
I guess I’m too nice.
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
03-09-2020, 07:36 AM
I’ve been on SM since June and I’ve got less than 100 blocked. Maybe like 80 odd or something? I thought I was getting quite ruthless with these guys but obviously not!!! Lol!
I guess I’m too nice.
Naw I wouldn't say you guys are too nice. You just may have a higher tolerance for bs than most of us. Actually you may not even see it as bs? Some have a hard time dealing with freechat and others can pull long hours enduring it. Less than 100 blocked...whatever you're doing keep doing it.
gbjenna
03-09-2020, 07:57 AM
Naw I wouldn't say you guys are too nice. You just may have a higher tolerance for bs than most of us. Actually you may not even see it as bs? Some have a hard time dealing with freechat and others can pull long hours enduring it. Less than 100 blocked...whatever you're doing keep doing it.
I started out on Adultwork and I have insanely low tolerance for freechat on there. I can manage an hour very max before sacking it off. I avoided signing up to SM for a bit as I didn't want to do free chat constantly going by my previous experience, but I actually find it pretty tame compared to AW so maybe that's why!
Midwest-Mistress
03-09-2020, 08:08 AM
Damn from September to December I've only blocked 22 customers :sarcastic Mmmm I really think I was too laxed. Honestly the only thing that irritated the shit out of me was room hopping... Luckily I never got a whole bunch of rude ass wipes...
Marina Starr
03-09-2020, 08:14 AM
Pretty much my face when fuckboys are around.
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Esixxx
03-09-2020, 12:12 PM
Thanks ggminx! I hope she makes it rain on my ass, too.
My availability to cam has already been reduced to just Friday, Saturday, Sunday and within the next 14 days it'll be just Sundays. So the time to start working my lil at-home jobs is NOW. School starts next week. Then my bf is asking me to send him pictures of "the type of ring you like" so I feel like a lot of changes are coming soon and I'm just nervous as hell.
And thanks again, about the siggy lol
Congrats!!! Sounds like A LOT of good changes are happening for you :)
Happy for you!!!
I'll miss your humor and helpfulness
izshadow
03-09-2020, 04:00 PM
I swear nothing hurts worse then having to decline a cam show. My dinner has to come out of the oven in 20 mins and he was wanting to do a 20 min plus show. Sigh. Fingers crossed he wants to play in an hour instead. I havent eaten all day though so I'm getting hangry haha.
naomi_doll
03-09-2020, 04:55 PM
Ugh, anxiety is trash.