View Full Version : The Official 'What's On Your Mind?' Thread!
~Carmen~
09-01-2021, 05:09 PM
Depends on their maturity but I feel 10, 12 is old enough to be home alone. As you said, they need to build independence and learn responsibility.
I feel some parents baby their children too much.
Yes, there are some children who are not mature enough but I think the majority are. It's easier now than back in the day if you have security cameras to keep watch.
Marina Starr
09-01-2021, 05:13 PM
Or facetime every 30 mins. I don't have the time or mental capacity to babysit. Would you?
Yes, there are some children who are not mature enough but I think the majority are. It's easier now than back in the day if you have security cameras to keep watch.
~Carmen~
09-01-2021, 05:17 PM
Or facetime every 30 mins. I don't have the time or mental capacity to babysit. Would you?
I think facetime is a better idea so they can have some privacy but not too much. lol
For your question about babysitting...nope, nope and nope! Not anymore.
Marina Starr
09-01-2021, 05:33 PM
LOOL, you don't want to watch all the grandkids at your house, sis?
I think facetime is a better idea so they can have some privacy but not too much. lol
For your question about babysitting...nope, nope and nope! Not anymore.
~Carmen~
09-01-2021, 06:58 PM
LOOL, you don't want to watch all the grandkids at your house, sis?
I love my grandkids but I prefer THEIR house! LOL
Marina Starr
09-02-2021, 02:29 PM
I said no to babysitting.
I love my grandkids but I prefer THEIR house! LOL
~Carmen~
09-02-2021, 06:08 PM
I said no to babysitting.
I also say no to babysitting. I meant THEIR house when their parents are there. lol
Marina Starr
09-02-2021, 06:32 PM
Because we're not going back, sis! We're NOT going back!
I also say no to babysitting. I meant THEIR house when their parents are there. lol
~Carmen~
09-02-2021, 08:19 PM
because we're not going back, sis! We're not going back!
Yes Kamala!! Say it one more time for the people in the back. We're not going back!
You always make me crack up sis;D.
“I was raised to be an independent woman, not the victim of anything.”
-- Kamala Harris
Marina Starr
09-03-2021, 08:57 AM
LMAO!
She's also great at prosecuting predators! I'm glad President Biden chose her as his VP because I would be happy if he made her Attorney General.
https://i.ibb.co/vJF9ZYv/giphy.gif (https://imgbb.com/)
Yes Kamala!! Say it one more time for the people in the back. We're not going back!
You always make me crack up sis;D.
“I was raised to be an independent woman, not the victim of anything.”
-- Kamala Harris
~Carmen~
09-06-2021, 02:27 PM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kCtQ4L377vo
This made my day. Grandma's got moves and very nice legs too!
Marina Starr
09-06-2021, 02:41 PM
Grandma has more energy than me. Protect her at all costs!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kCtQ4L377vo
This made my day. Grandma's got moves and very nice legs too!
Miss_ShaSha
09-06-2021, 04:28 PM
I'm babysitting my granddaughter for 2 weeks while my daughter finds day care & assistance to pay for IT as she started a new well paying job.
We are using the parenting method 123 Magic. It's what I raised my daughter on. Time outs & sticker charts for start behaviors like brushing teeth, getting dressed, or eating healthy meals (we set a timer & if she beats the time sticker. Once a section is full tiny, cheap reward).
She's doing sooooo well.
Anyway, we were at the pool sitting down in the sun the other day. She was hanging on my back like a monkey & we were playing & giggling. Then she called me Mommy. I smiled & said "I'm Savta not Mommy". She said "Mommy" again. I pulled up a pic of my daughter & said "that's Mommy, I'm Savta".
She hugged me tight & giggled "Mommy Savta". We play argued for a bit.
OMG it really just lit me up! My daughter is great with her. I felt so honored to hear that.
Universe: thank you for allowing me to be a part of their lives!!!
#BLESSED
Marina Starr
09-06-2021, 04:36 PM
https://i.ibb.co/7Xm1gLL/oprah-crying.gif (https://imgbb.com/)
I'm babysitting my granddaughter for 2 weeks while my daughter finds day care & assistance to pay for IT as she started a new well paying job.
We are using the parenting method 123 Magic. It's what I raised my daughter on. Time outs & sticker charts for start behaviors like brushing teeth, getting dressed, or eating healthy meals (we set a timer & if she beats the time sticker. Once a section is full tiny, cheap reward).
She's doing sooooo well.
Anyway, we were at the pool sitting down in the sun the other day. She was hanging on my back like a monkey & we were playing & giggling. Then she called me Mommy. I smiled & said "I'm Savta not Mommy". She said "Mommy" again. I pulled up a pic of my daughter & said "that's Mommy, I'm Savta".
She hugged me tight & giggled "Mommy Savta". We play argued for a bit.
OMG it really just lit me up! My daughter is great with her. I felt so honored to hear that.
Universe: thank you for allowing me to be a part of their lives!!!
#BLESSED
Miss_ShaSha
09-06-2021, 04:41 PM
https://i.ibb.co/7Xm1gLL/oprah-crying.gif (https://imgbb.com/)
Sister...those feels exactly!
I hope you're still sleeping well xoxo
Marina Starr
09-06-2021, 04:48 PM
The feels I didn't know I needed!
Been sleeping much better, sis! Being a highly medicated hoe has it pros.
Sister...those feels exactly!
I hope you're still sleeping well xoxo
Miss_ShaSha
09-06-2021, 04:58 PM
Ahhh shit sis: AMEN! Good sleep is a blessing. Happy to hear <3
Cutie101
09-07-2021, 10:52 AM
Is 12 year old, just started 6th grade too young to be home alone? I was asked to babysit for someone and I was told the child is 12 years old.
I think that's more than old enough to be home alone. This sounds like a case of parents overbabying their child.
I think it's too old. Me and all of my class mates were home alone since 7. I would get back from school, having food in the fridge (there were no microwaves back in then, in this post comunist part of the world, only people with money could afford them). I was heating the food on the stove, checking the gas to not have leaks everytime i was turning it off, then doing my homework and washing dishes. By the time parents were home, everything was all set.
Today is different, obviously kids get more comfort than we did back in the day and they don't need to "struggle" so early, but at 12 is a well grown up who is supposed to be able to stay home alone and not turn the house upside down or do anything dangerous.
Marina Starr
09-07-2021, 11:03 AM
I totally agree with you! I think 12 is plenty old enough. I was babysitting when I was 12 and I remember husbands/fathers of kids I was babysitting hitting on me and getting real creepy. They were such horny bastards all the time. Those were back in the days. I wonder if girls still babysit at that age and having to subject their innocence to that.
Maybe that's why I was destined to be a Hoe!
I think it's too old. Me and all of my class mates were home alone since 7. I would get back from school, having food in the fridge (there were no microwaves back in then, in this post comunist part of the world, only people with money could afford them). I was heating the food on the stove, checking the gas to not have leaks everytime i was turning it off, then doing my homework and washing dishes. By the time parents were home, everything was all set.
Today is different, obviously kids get more comfort than we did back in the day and they don't need to "struggle" so early, but at 12 is a well grown up who is supposed to be able to stay home alone and not turn the house upside down or do anything dangerous.
Marina Starr
09-07-2021, 12:05 PM
Got this new line of permanent hair color today that claims to cover gray in 10 mins. I'm excited to try it. No, it's not Redken but YES, it's professional color. No, it ain't no back alley color either.
LMAO when people think that only Redken makes professional shit. Broaden your horizons, sweetie!
~Carmen~
09-07-2021, 04:48 PM
I'm going to be the most highly medicated hoe ever. My pain management doctor told me to tell my psychiatrist to bump me waaaay up to double and plus some on my medicine. He said it would help my pain as well as my batshit craziness. If she won't do it, he said he will.
Lets gooooo!!!
Marina Starr
09-07-2021, 05:00 PM
LMFAO, Love him! I'm gonna have all my meds bump way up and another new meds added this Friday!
Better highly medicated than under, sis!
I'm going to be the most highly medicated hoe ever. My pain management doctor told me to tell my psychiatrist to bump me waaaay up to double and plus some on my medicine. He said it would help my pain as well as my batshit craziness. If she won't do it, he said he will.
Lets gooooo!!!
~Carmen~
09-07-2021, 06:49 PM
LMFAO, Love him! I'm gonna have all my meds bump way up and another new meds added this Friday!
Better highly medicated than under, sis!
The more meds, the merrier sis! We won't have a care in the world;D.
Marina Starr
09-08-2021, 09:03 AM
Do you let people in your circle know what kind of meds you're on and what they're for, sis?
I do because to me it's no different then letting people know if you have peanut allergy. I think it's important that people be mindful with those dealing with mental health and on meds so they know not to provoke or troll us. Certain meds side effects can make us irritable and quickly SNAPPED!
People have to take responsibilities for the energy they bring and how they treat us while it's our responsibilities to know who we can and cannot be around. Self care is not giving access to toxic people that are not healthy for us.
The more meds, the merrier sis! We won't have a care in the world;D.
Erika_Xstacy
09-08-2021, 10:36 AM
I think I was more devastated more than my kid when Steve left blues clues and had joe come in and really thought did Steve not like being Steve? I cried on Steve’s last blues clues full episode and tried to hold back tears bc my kid was watching me watch the show lol
I love blues clues.
I still sing we just got a letter wonder who it’s from!?
Steve made me cry today lol I love him. So sweet.
https://twitter.com/nickjr/status/1435332689532440579?s=10
~Carmen~
09-08-2021, 11:40 AM
Do you let people in your circle know what kind of meds you're on and what they're for, sis?
I do because to me it's no different then letting people know if you have peanut allergy. I think it's important that people be mindful with those dealing with mental health and on meds so they know not to provoke or troll us. Certain meds side effects can make us irritable and quickly SNAPPED!
People have to take responsibilities for the energy they bring and how they treat us while it's our responsibilities to know who we can and cannot be around. Self care is not giving access to toxic people that are not healthy for us.
Yes, I tell people I'm close to which meds I'm on and what they are for. Most people in my circle are or have been on meds for mental health. Some of them one the same meds I do, or have taken it in the past. My psychiatrist told me that the way meds work can be genetic, so if it works for you it's more likely to help a family member also.
I agree about taking responsibility for who you can be around and avoiding toxic people. Sometimes that's not possible. I have to give landlord my 60 day notice in a few days and do a walk through with her after I move. She's a hateful bully so I need to find a way to deal with her. Thankfully, I will never have to deal with her again in a couple of months.
Marina Starr
09-08-2021, 12:16 PM
Damn, plantains take forever to ripe. I want to bake them!
~Carmen~
09-08-2021, 12:25 PM
Damn, plantains take forever to ripe. I want to bake them!
Walmart usually has good ripe plantains. 59 cents apiece.
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
09-08-2021, 12:28 PM
Damn, plantains take forever to ripe. I want to bake them!
It takes about a month for a green plantain to turn yellow. Putting them in a window helps. I went to a Publix recently and the dude working in the frozen food section had NO idea what I was talking about when I asked about maduros or sweet plantains. I must have looked at him like he had two heads because he said "My bad, I'm from Kansas."
Marina Starr
09-08-2021, 12:31 PM
I forgot Walmart has groceries. Got them from Trader Hoes!
I like mine like these when I bake:
55893
Walmart usually has good ripe plantains. 59 cents apiece.
~Carmen~
09-08-2021, 12:44 PM
I forgot Walmart has groceries. Got them from Trader Hoes!
I like mine like these when I bake:
55893
I have never tried baking. I always fry them in olive oil. Do you put olive oil in your baking pan?
~Carmen~
09-08-2021, 12:45 PM
It takes about a month for a green plantain to turn yellow. Putting them in a window helps. I went to a Publix recently and the dude working in the frozen food section had NO idea what I was talking about when I asked about maduros or sweet plantains. I must have looked at him like he had two heads because he said "My bad, I'm from Kansas."
I actually bought plantains in a Kansas Walmart yesterday. LOL
Marina Starr
09-08-2021, 12:53 PM
You can also put them in paper bags. It's been a week and mine are already yellow and soft. I think they should be ready to bake in a few days. Are plantains Mexican or Jamaican bananas?
It takes about a month for a green plantain to turn yellow. Putting them in a window helps. I went to a Publix recently and the dude working in the frozen food section had NO idea what I was talking about when I asked about maduros or sweet plantains. I must have looked at him like he had two heads because he said "My bad, I'm from Kansas."
Marina Starr
09-08-2021, 12:56 PM
I've only fried them a few times and they never turn out right. I will use oil.
This is what I DON"T like:
55894
I have never tried baking. I always fry them in olive oil. Do you put olive oil in your baking pan?
PhatGirlDynomite!!!
09-08-2021, 01:20 PM
You can also put them in paper bags. It's been a week and mine are already yellow and soft. I think they should be ready to bake in a few days. Are plantains Mexican or Jamaican bananas?
The origin is Africa and South east Asia? I just know that it's a big deal in the Caribbeans and Florida. Tostones y maduros are expected at family get togethers... Sunday dinners.
~Carmen~
09-08-2021, 02:29 PM
I've only fried them a few times and they never turn out right. I will use oil.
This is what I DON"T like:
55894
I will try them in the oven next time. Yours do look much better than the fried ones.
My ex is from Cuba. They are a big deal there too. My mother in law used to boil them sometimes. I can't remember what she put on them. Maybe brown sugar? They were delicious like that too.
Esixxx
09-08-2021, 03:42 PM
I am sooooo excited- my girlfriend from grade school messaged me today to wish me happy birthday. She's coming down to visit next month and she's going to be a grandma :D
I am going to live vicariously through her lol
~Carmen~
09-08-2021, 04:48 PM
I am sooooo excited- my girlfriend from grade school messaged me today to wish me happy birthday. She's coming down to visit next month and she's going to be a grandma :D
I am going to live vicariously through her lol
Oh my gosh, how wonderful!! It's so much fun to hang out with friends from way back. Happy birthday!
Esixxx
09-08-2021, 05:09 PM
Oh my gosh, how wonderful!! It's so much fun to hang out with friends from way back. Happy birthday!
Thank you!
I am really looking forward to seeing her-it's been too long :)
~Carmen~
09-08-2021, 08:53 PM
I finally found something to keep flies out of my house. Cut up a lemon in half and stick whole cloves in it. Put them in ziplock bags, poke some holes in it and put it outside your windows. I have not seen one fly since I did that 2 days ago.
naughtybabe1
09-09-2021, 12:37 PM
So Covid has been on my mind. I wanted to go back to my career and get a PT job and do camming too but with this raging shitshow of Delta as it is..I'm putting that dream on hold until next year...probably late spring. I'll just keep camming full time until then. My doctor said I should get the booster soon and he said that in his professional opinion, the US should be close to reaching the 70-80% total population vacination rate by next summer. He said that it can take 1-3 years for everyone to get on board. I kind of thought that myself when the vacinnes started to role out. I'll just hang out and cam until then. It's winter anyways and the holidays are coming up so it's the best time of the year to bank anyways. I'm excited for the holidays. I'm turning 50 in Nov and plan to do turkey day and my birthday in CA in wine country with my elderly mother. Thank fuk everyone in my family is vacinnated. Its warm enought to do the outside tastings and tours in CA during the winter so that's a plus. I'll have to drive to CA from Iowa...WITH THE CAT AND DOG..oh vey...but i love roadtrips..so does the dog and the cat is not so fond but she tolerates it pretty well. lol...STay safe everyone!
izshadow
09-09-2021, 12:52 PM
SM has been so dead that I'm considering putting my morals of only being naked private aside and try to learn MFC and Chaturbate.
Marina Starr
09-09-2021, 03:13 PM
Thank you, POTUS! This is what social responsibility looks like!
President Biden is expected to sign an order today requiring all federal employees to be vaccinated, without any option for coronavirus testing as an alternative and:
https://i.ibb.co/19yMX44/Screenshot-2021-09-09-6-10-19-PM.png (https://ibb.co/Zh4Sgbb)
Cutie101
09-10-2021, 12:39 PM
Thank you, POTUS! This is what social responsibility looks like!
President Biden is expected to sign an order today requiring all federal employees to be vaccinated, without any option for coronavirus testing as an alternative and:
https://i.ibb.co/19yMX44/Screenshot-2021-09-09-6-10-19-PM.png (https://ibb.co/Zh4Sgbb)
Wow, this is scary. Glad I don't live in US.
SOCIAL responsibility is to wear a mask and disinfect your hands, to not spread the virus. The vaccine is PERSONAL responsibility and it's up to any individual if they want to have it or not, because even vaccinated, you still spread the virus if you don't wear a mask.
I do believe in covid, heck, i canceled all of my vacations, i haven't seen friends and family, i wear mask and disinfect, i stay away from people. This is the most effective anti covid measure. I don't have a fetish to go in crowded places, i don't like to have people touching me, i never understood people who love doing that, i can tell i was like that before covid.
I wonder, why don't they make these who released the virus and shut down the whole world PAY for what they did? Why nobody is talking about it? Why no one wonders how it was possible in 2020, to create a pandemic? Why no one investigates the moment zero of the pandemic, when everything started? This is what is making my blood boil, because absolutely nobody is talking about this. Everyone is arguing about vaccines and masks but no one looks at the guilty. You create an entire world disease, in a modern day, shut down everything, ruin lives and don't pay for it???
Everyone is busy pushing this vaccine, to the point you are FORCED to have it? Threatened? What the heck is this??? Ew. No. This is wrong on so many levels. Everyone must have a choice, each to their own.
Anyway... when the guilty pay for this? Nope? Never? When do we get an explanation with the existence of this virus and how it was released?
Marina Starr
09-10-2021, 01:26 PM
I disagree. In America by the time you reach adulthood, you've already got plenty of required vaccines. Back in the day that's how we eradicated polio. Choice was given and in this case it's allowing the virus to spread and mutate. That obviously did not work so it's time to protect the vaccinated from the unvaccinated. People can still choose to not get vaccinated but they have to do weekly testing. It's about time that President Biden make this difficult choice so countless lives will be saved.
President Biden to the unvaccinated: "We've been patient, but our patience is wearing thin. And your refusal has cost all of us."
Everyone must have a choice, each to their own.
~Carmen~
09-10-2021, 01:43 PM
I am finding that the best way to deal with toxic people is to remain calm and don't respond.
Marina Starr
09-10-2021, 01:48 PM
Can we do both sometimes, sis?
Remain "calm" and respond, lol.
I am finding that the best way to deal with toxic people is to remain calm and don't respond.
~Carmen~
09-10-2021, 02:08 PM
Can we do both sometimes, sis?
Remain "calm" and respond, lol.
Yes, we can remain calm because we are highly medicated. Do NOT respond, under any circumstances. lol
Marina Starr
09-10-2021, 02:14 PM
LMAO! I just got off video call with Psychiatrist and got my meds RAISED. Highly medicated to the max.
I made eggplant parms today and look how great they look during the prepings! All was done with airfryer/toaster oven ;D
https://i.ibb.co/wJhFNp0/20210910-113651.jpg (https://ibb.co/db4w0kW)
https://i.ibb.co/5MMy78s/20210910-122052.jpg (https://ibb.co/r77SW65)
Yes, we can remain calm because we are highly medicated. Do NOT respond, under any circumstances. lol
Cutie101
09-10-2021, 02:22 PM
I disagree. In America by the time you reach adulthood, you've already got plenty of required vaccines. Back in the day that's how we eradicated polio. Choice was given and in this case it's allowing the virus to spread and mutate. That obviously did not work so it's time to protect the vaccinated from the unvaccinated. People can still choose to not get vaccinated but they have to do weekly testing. It's about time that President Biden make this difficult choice so countless lives will be saved.
President Biden to the unvaccinated: "We've been patient, but our patience is wearing thin. And your refusal has cost all of us."
You talk like we, the rest of the world live in a jungle and don't get modern vaccines. I have nothing against the covid vaccine, i am against forcing people to get vaccinated. STD's have been killing people for decades and no one is forcing vaccination against that.
Mask should be stay obligatory, as a protection measure. I hate when people cough and sneeze, especially in grocery stores. It's just gross. I'd keep the mask obligatory in grocery stores forever, long after the pandemic is gone.
I hope they keep the posibility of covid test. That's also a very good measure.
My problem stays in the rest of the comment I initially said. Why no president from this earth, said "I will make the guilty pay! I will make the one who infected my country pay!". This is the real question here and this is my concern.
I am finding that the best way to deal with toxic people is to remain calm and don't respond.
I am right here, you know :) I am toxic for asking questions and wanting to know the truth? Or why am I toxic? Having a different oppinion is toxic? Did I insult someone? Did I talk down to someone? How am I toxic exactly?