View Full Version : Why do sex workers date losers?
OHITSRIRI
10-06-2016, 07:31 PM
Yes, this, me too.
Before I was a full-time dancer (just dabbling for a few weeks at a time for extra cash), I dated dudes that treated me like crap. Not texting back, wouldn't admit to people we were dating, told people I was crazy because I got upset at their behavior (gas lighting!), getting hammered every single night, doing shit like writing themselves checks from their dad's stolen checkbook, etc. Ugh. It wasn't an issue of intelligence. It was an issue of low self-esteem. I rationalized literally everything they did somehow... most of the reasoning for their behavior turned out to be true, but still doesn't mean it should have been tolerated.
I went on a date with the one ex while on a break with SO, and he was the same awful human being... once he demonstrated that, New Improved Stripper Selina simply said "Take me home now", spent the whole drive silently ignoring his whining & blaming other people for his behavior, and then removed his existence from her brain permanently. I will not put up with that shit now.
Also, everyone's definition of 'loser' varies. My SO still likes to hang out all day playing video games & smoking weed... Some girls might hate on that. But the man works 40 hours a week on his feet, pays our rent, and takes half the animal care duties. The other night, without being asked to, he hand washed all the dishes (because I'm a cheapskate and bought crap dishwasher soap), folded my laundry for me, & cooked dinner... For fucks sake, I'm not gonna begrudge him his afternoon off playing Xbox with a blunt, even if that says "Loser" to another type of girl.
exactly. & I think a big reason many girls stay isn't because they're in love, it's that small twinge of hope that he might change, or change his ways for the next girl. the truth is they never change, they go on to treat the next girl like shit & as soon as she kicks his ass to the curb, he goes & finds another victim to put up with his mess. when you find a real man, there's no confusion about your position in his life & his actions make that very clear. things like cheating, never texting back, not claiming you, & gas lighting all cause confusion. & therefore he is a POS, run! lol
NakedNicole
10-06-2016, 11:08 PM
My personal explanation: loser 1- I was not a sex worker at the time, but I dated him because I was in high school, he was in college with his own place and a car and he was doing all my math homework I wouldn't have been able to pass otherwise inorder to graduate.
Loser 2- again was a good friend turned bf while in high school with me and our relationship continued once we graduated and I became a stripper. I was in the relationship before he began robbing people, not contributing etc.
Loser 3 and current bf- he was a customer who spent a decent amount of money on me for a long time. He seemed like he was independent, financially stable, goal oriented, even tempered etc. I thought I finally found a good one. Time proved that all those attributes were short lived though.
I've tried to calmly break it off with him but he doesn't believe I'm serious about it. I'm just not a rude person, if I inform someone politely that I would like them to move out and not consider me their Gf any more, I expect them to respect that but he ignores that request and has remained. So hear i am still with him because he doesn't get how serious I am, and I'm too much of a pussy to rock the boat. I just want him to realize I don't want him and for him to leave on his own, the thought of having to force him out and argue stresses me out.
In my case, Im not inherently attracted to losers. I'm starting to think that perhaps strippers turn guys into losers.
Good guys shack up with strippers and realize how easy it is to not have to pull their own weight so they start slacking and evolve into douche bags.
Once I'm single again I will not get back into another relationship because obviously I change the person into someone I don't like. I'm so jaded. I will never allow a man to be supported by me again. I will never allow a man to believe that I love him enough to excuse his laziness, disrespect, abuse etc. From here on out the only thing I'm interested in finding in men is their money. I don't think I can allow myself to ever find romantic fulfillment in a man again.
Women with money will always attract people looking for a free ride. Most women who make as much as strippers are older, have more life experience and are therefore wiser to this kind of behavior, and know it's very rate tha people will change and get their shit together
OHITSRIRI
10-07-2016, 02:59 PM
My personal explanation: loser 1- I was not a sex worker at the time, but I dated him because I was in high school, he was in college with his own place and a car and he was doing all my math homework I wouldn't have been able to pass otherwise inorder to graduate.
Loser 2- again was a good friend turned bf while in high school with me and our relationship continued once we graduated and I became a stripper. I was in the relationship before he began robbing people, not contributing etc.
Loser 3 and current bf- he was a customer who spent a decent amount of money on me for a long time. He seemed like he was independent, financially stable, goal oriented, even tempered etc. I thought I finally found a good one. Time proved that all those attributes were short lived though.
I've tried to calmly break it off with him but he doesn't believe I'm serious about it. I'm just not a rude person, if I inform someone politely that I would like them to move out and not consider me their Gf any more, I expect them to respect that but he ignores that request and has remained. So hear i am still with him because he doesn't get how serious I am, and I'm too much of a pussy to rock the boat. I just want him to realize I don't want him and for him to leave on his own, the thought of having to force him out and argue stresses me out.
In my case, Im not inherently attracted to losers. I'm starting to think that perhaps strippers turn guys into losers.
Good guys shack up with strippers and realize how easy it is to not have to pull their own weight so they start slacking and evolve into douche bags.
Once I'm single again I will not get back into another relationship because obviously I change the person into someone I don't like. I'm so jaded. I will never allow a man to be supported by me again. I will never allow a man to believe that I love him enough to excuse his laziness, disrespect, abuse etc. From here on out the only thing I'm interested in finding in men is their money. I don't think I can allow myself to ever find romantic fulfillment in a man again.
maybe you have some merit idk.. but I honestly think those guys were douche bags from the start. everyone puts their best foot forward & displays their best behavior in the beginning. in the end the mask always slips & they display their natural behavior.
fbsmgirl
10-07-2016, 03:01 PM
everyone puts their best foot forward & displays their best behavior in the beginning. in the end the mask always slips & they display their natural behavior.
Yup. The honeymoon phase.
Gia2608
10-07-2016, 10:56 PM
NakedNicole, how could you date my ex after I have posted about him relentlessly on SW?? J/k. But, I seriously had the same issue. I would tell my ex EVERY single day that I hated him and to move out. He thought I was "acting up" or angry and every morning when he would leave for work (when he could manage to hold down a job) he thought I was over it. No, asshole- I still hate you, just don't feel like fighting at 6:45 am when I got home at 3:45 with the rent once again. Girl, change your locks. Tell him to call you when he is ready to get his stuff or take that shit to his Mama's house. Life is too short to waste one second on a dude you don't want. Trust someone who got through it.
Thread jack aside- There are a lot of reasons adult workers date "losers". A lot of sex workers are losers themselves; addicted to drugs or with no direction; making enough to skate by then not working til the money runs out. Some are lonely and have insecurities or trust issues, some may actually break half-way decent men down. I have done all of things, including being a loser so I am not judging, just pointing out there is no simple answer.
Velveteen.Rabbit
10-08-2016, 12:06 PM
People who manipulate and hustle for a living attract guys who are manipulative, using, and who want to lowkey hustle them. Surprise surprise.
Violethollywood
10-08-2016, 12:33 PM
nicole,
to add to what gia said, get your own secret savings account. I did . i've been slowly adding to it . B/c for one if i didn't we wouldn't have a savings, for 2, I have lawyer fees and other shit i want and need to pay for and i'm not gonna get it by him spending my money , ya feel me . Every woman should have an emergency fund for anything
Velveteen.Rabbit
10-08-2016, 04:31 PM
I wanted to add that most guys, especially successful, won't put up with dating a sexworker due to the job duties and the drama that comes with being one. They will casually bow out, ghost, make excuses, or at least not commit to sexworkers long term because they are used to making good investments that pay off. Making those good decisions is what made them a catch in the first place.
If the girl has nothing else going for herself except being a depreciating asset (as with any job that relies on your looks and body) / sexworker, then you're left with a tiny pool of guys, most of which who are manipulative or depreciating assets themselves. If that's the standard pool you have to pick from, you won't notice that they're all low quality because it seems normal to you.
fbsmgirl
10-08-2016, 04:55 PM
I could read your posts all day, VR! If that ain't the truth. Like surely attracts like...
Marina Starr
10-08-2016, 05:06 PM
It's not just sex workers. But since you are asking about sex workers, I would have to say because they don't have a very high opinion of themselves, not recognizing their self worth and have low self-esteem. We accept what we feel we deserve.
audritwo
10-08-2016, 05:12 PM
It's not just sex workers. But since you are asking about sex workers, I would have to say because they don't have a very high opinion of themselves, not recognizing their self worth and have low self-esteem. We accept what we feel we deserve.
That's usually why anyone dates losers too.
Marina Starr
10-08-2016, 05:15 PM
Yes, bb! YASSSSS :)
That's usually why anyone dates losers too.
MissLouboutin
10-08-2016, 05:50 PM
People attract those they're compatible with through being receptive (or not) to certain behaviors as well as common values/morals. Compatibility is fluid.
Many men are unreceptive to sex work.. so that leaves plenty of open-minded men. Some of the men who are open-minded may use drugs, delusional/low self esteem mixed with some gems/wonderful human beings.
Velveteen.Rabbit
10-08-2016, 08:38 PM
I find it no coincidence that when you mention that you're in school, especially for a STEM degree, the customers act completely shocked or put you in the "smart stripper" category and then are in VIP 15 minutes later with the least booksmart girl in the club. I can't even tell you how many times I've seen that happen.
People stereotype and sadly I don't think that will ever change. If you want something long term (or even a sane short term thing), it's better to keep your adult work to yourself. Even if you're proud of it.
You never know who is going to internally react negatively to your occupation but keep their real opinion to themselves... and try to keep you around as a FWB while secretly wasting your time. How people really feel about sexworkers is a wild card. Most of the time it's negative, even if they verbally say oh that's cool! It's usually not. They'll also tell everyone they know about your adult work, including your mutual friends. And then those mutual friends will probably tell others. It's a cycle of drama you do not need.
HoneyMachado
02-08-2018, 04:15 PM
They see the down sides of richer and powerful men
They can't fully blend into "that world". Don't forget sex workers are still regular just like everybody else, doing sex work doesn't automatically propel you to the life of a Duchess
Ifyouseekamy
02-09-2018, 04:37 AM
I think the me too movement made it clear It’s pretty common for women to be treated like crap.
Abuse can happen in any religion, education, and financial background.
I think mainly because strippers make great narcissistic supply- we are pretty, smart, and we have money...what narcissistic wouldn’t want to get that kind of supply.
I remember reading a blog somewhere about how beautiful women are targets for abusers because of their beauty.
Sam38g
02-09-2018, 11:54 AM
Most men are losers & they all lie.
Stats prove you are more likely to be killed by your partner as a woman than anyone else. There are tons of domestic abuse & not all of them are i the sex industry.
Now lots of abuse victims turn to it because the jerk they were involved with left them with nothing.
To say because you are in the sex industry is the reason why means that we deserve it and we don't.
CFMNH44
02-09-2018, 01:27 PM
I think the opposite - 'She's smart, won't be doing this long, see her dance now before she goes to work for NASA...' But then I'm a sapiosexual.
Edit: The spell checker here wants to correct sapiosexual to homosexual?!
I find it no coincidence that when you mention that you're in school, especially for a STEM degree, the customers act completely shocked or put you in the "smart stripper" category and then are in VIP 15 minutes later with the least booksmart girl in the club...<snip>
EastCoastDancer01
02-09-2018, 02:04 PM
Most men are losers & they all lie.
Stats prove you are more likely to be killed by your partner as a woman than anyone else. There are tons of domestic abuse & not all of them are i the sex industry.
Now lots of abuse victims turn to it because the jerk they were involved with left them with nothing.
To say because you are in the sex industry is the reason why means that we deserve it and we don't.
I completely agree! And yes the majority of men are losers and assholes. Hate to say it but it’s true. It doesn’t help us as strippers the fact that a lot of us live isolated lifestyles when we’re not at work so that limits our selection even more. I don’t go out much when I’m not working so I’m not exposed to a lot of different men outside of work. Instead of settling for any loser who I do come across, Im happy being single and doing me!
Morrigan
02-09-2018, 02:20 PM
do i get points because I married a woman (well im in a very unique position with several 'spouses' but only one im legally married to) instead of a guy? I mean shes more tomboy natury dont give a shit sort - but shes working on her degrees in environmental ecology not really looser by most definitions
ZeroSugarMonster
02-09-2018, 03:54 PM
I think most men would not want to date a sex worker, because of the stigma against us.
I've tried dating while in this industry. I was open about being a dancer, because I believe that all relationships should begin with honesty as the foundation. And that's what I was looking for-a relationship. Well, that was dumb. I've accumulated some awful experiences with men that way.
This industry can be a bit lonely. I think a lot of people desire some sort of companionship. When there is not many people who will accept them, sometimes ladies settle for what is not necessarily the best for them. The losers is sometimes what's left. Also, I've noticed lots of guys leech off of dancers for money.
Luckyguy09
02-11-2018, 01:57 PM
Most men are losers & they all lie.
Stats prove you are more likely to be killed by your partner as a woman than anyone else. There are tons of domestic abuse & not all of them are i the sex industry.
Now lots of abuse victims turn to it because the jerk they were involved with left them with nothing.
To say because you are in the sex industry is the reason why means that we deserve it and we don't.
I completely agree! And yes the majority of men are losers and assholes. Hate to say it but it’s true. It doesn’t help us as strippers the fact that a lot of us live isolated lifestyles when we’re not at work so that limits our selection even more. I don’t go out much when I’m not working so I’m not exposed to a lot of different men outside of work. Instead of settling for any loser who I do come across, Im happy being single and doing me!
The majority of problems between men and women is over money and children. When two people going in different directions have assets as well as children it creates huge problems. When two people who are toxic to each other who can't make a clean break because of children it creates huge problems.
Secondly, men like to have sex, and they like to have sex with different women, but secioty and women won't allow men to openly be who they are so men learn to lie as to not rock the boat and some turn into abusive ass*** out of resentment for having to supress their natural desires.
Men who have sex with lots of different women are seen as pigs, immature, or defective. Why?!
I remember I took a tour to Assateague island where all these wild ponys roam around and the tour guide said that one male pony has a harem of female ponys. The tour guide then made a joke about it to which all of us tourist including the females laughed. Its natural in the wild but when a man does it now it's a problem.
I think most men would not want to date a sex worker, because of the stigma against us.
It goes both ways. Most vanilla women don't want a man who has patronized sex workers. In no way shape or form can a man be open and honest and say, "Hay, for 4 years of my life I had lots of fun with prostitutes and strippers".
This industry can be a bit lonely. I think a lot of people desire some sort of companionship. When there is not many people who will accept them, sometimes ladies settle for what is not necessarily the best for them. The losers is sometimes what's left. Also, I've noticed lots of guys leech off of dancers for money.
In 2018 I don't understand why people have an issue with a woman supporting a man either short term or long.
In the majority of relationships, men by far support women, but when a woman takes the breadwinner role everyone has an issue with it and some how the man is now a loser.
miss.a.p1600
02-11-2018, 05:21 PM
Secondly, men like to have sex, and they like to have sex with different women, but secioty and women won't allow men to openly be who they are so men learn to lie as to not rock the boat and some turn into abusive ass*** out of resentment for having to supress their natural desires.
Men who have sex with lots of different women are seen as pigs, immature, or defective. Why?!
Society? Women? Dude----society is made up of Men as well and you know as good as I do that 1. Men outnumber women population wise 2. Men are the ones in legislative power
I'm sorry but I think men created their own demise on that one.
They are constantly creating laws AGAINST the very things they want then do the shit in secret and lie....
Women probably would agree to polygamy if they can do it too, and if they have kids - their partner will help them take care of the family/not run off chasing ass and creating new families thus depleting resources unless they are ultra rich
If you want polygamy go and vote for that shit or go be a politician who is for polygamy or move to Iowa or wherever that shit is accepted.
Half of yall get a thrill out of doing taboo shit so even if that sort of thing was accepted by society - being open and honest takes away the thrill/fun....
THAT's why....
But anyways as far as why do sex workers date losers? Idk. If I were a sex worker I would refuse to date any type of loser/fuckboy....rather be single than do that.
Sam38g
02-11-2018, 07:02 PM
Men sexually harass women at every job. We now know that to be a fact. They have no respect for women no matter what college degree or how hard you work. We are all prey to them & their desires.
Domestic abuse happens all the time, so does rape & being killed by your spouse to women. Many of which have NEVER done any sex work related jobs at all.
Face the facts, it isn't our jobs and picking the wrong guy. It is society that protects predators & has zero value in women.
How many women does it take to make allegations about ANY man before they are investigated for rape & molestation?
How many women being sexually harassed at a job does it take to bring down one CEO?
Sex workers are actually smarter than most women, we demand to be better paid for sexual harassment.
STOP BLAMING WOMEN for clearly the issue is bad men trying to take advantage and use every female he can in this world.
miss.a.p1600
02-12-2018, 12:19 PM
In 2018 I don't understand why people have an issue with a woman supporting a man either short term or long.
In the majority of relationships, men by far support women, but when a woman takes the breadwinner role everyone has an issue with it and some how the man is now a loser.
I also don't think males are losers if women are breadwinners as long as the guy is contributing in some other way and they agree to that situation on the front end.
I think the 'losers' reference in the title are the guys who for example don't contribute financially but have the gall to be verbally abusive, lazy, etc.
It goes both ways. Most vanilla women don't want a man who has patronized sex workers. In no way shape or form can a man be open and honest and say, "Hay, for 4 years of my life I had lots of fun with prostitutes and strippers".
This is interesting and I believe I created a thread with a similar topic. But I think in general, both men and women have reservations about sharing their deepest fetishes with their partner.
Me personally I assume every adult male over 30 has experienced adult industry in some form so for me I would not care as long as the dude is not a lying cheater/does not do risky things like have unprotected sex or waste money he can't afford to lose on pr*stitutes, strippers, etc.
nyccourtesan
02-13-2018, 08:52 PM
Since becoming a SW and putting a value to my time and being careful to screen for respectful men... has raised my standards A LOT in dating. Before, I used to do it for free with losers just for company and affection. Never again. Now I don't have time for anyone who's not adding value to my life in one way or another.
Bahuba
02-14-2018, 06:06 AM
Me personally I assume every adult male over 30 has experienced adult industry in some form so for me I would not care as long as the dude is not a lying cheater/does not do risky things like have unprotected sex or waste money he can't afford to lose on pr*stitutes, strippers, etc.
You are correct according to everything I've seen, survey, data or anecdotal. To pretend otherwise, as we often do, is stupid.
Sam38g
02-14-2018, 12:41 PM
The majority of problems between men and women is over money and children. When two people going in different directions have assets as well as children it creates huge problems. When two people who are toxic to each other who can't make a clean break because of children it creates huge problems.
So Do NOT have kids, wear a condom. Problem solved.
Can't make a clean break because of the kids? So you hate & resent your own kids? You want zero emotional, financial responsibility to children you helped create so you can fuck other women more ? Sounds like you are the toxic one here.
Secondly, men like to have sex, and they like to have sex with different women, but secioty and women won't allow men to openly be who they are so men learn to lie as to not rock the boat and some turn into abusive ass*** out of resentment for having to supress their natural desires.
Then don't get married. Do not promise fidelity & lie, you lied to get her to love you & to be faithful to you but you had no plans of being faithful to her. No one forces you into a relationship or marriage. You can easily remain single for the rest of your life. STOP thinking this is all forced upon you, it wasn't. NO one forces into marriage. Men have been in control of society since day one. Remember, women only got the right to vote about 100 years ago & to own property about 40 years ago or to have credit. Don't blame us for the world you created.
Men who have sex with lots of different women are seen as pigs, immature, or defective. Why?!
NO, only when you lie to the female about your intentions & relationship status. If you are in a relationship, promised to only have sex with them and cheated. Well,that is on you. Why didn't you have an open relationship where both of you could have sex with whomever you wanted. Not like those don't exist & have for over 60 years. Nope, you want the wife to be loyal to you, but you don't want to be loyal to her. You just don't want to be confronted with lying & misrepresenting yourself to her.
I remember I took a tour to Assateague island where all these wild ponys roam around and the tour guide said that one male pony has a harem of female ponys. The tour guide then made a joke about it to which all of us tourist including the females laughed. Its natural in the wild but when a man does it now it's a problem.
You want an harem, so you want lots of sex slaves and feel that is perfectly okay. You want to hold a group of females hostage so that ONLY you can rape them. Females who are in a harem are not there voluntarily. You are also responsible for feeding, clothing for them & the off springs. Yet the first thing you complain here is about the money & how kids just prevent a clean break.
It goes both ways. Most vanilla women don't want a man who has patronized sex workers. In no way shape or form can a man be open and honest and say, "Hay, for 4 years of my life I had lots of fun with prostitutes and strippers".
Women are being very clear about their expectations. Unlike men who are saying whatever it takes to get what they want without considering the emotional damage it does to the person they claim to love. You can stay single & see all the sex workers you want. Then no wife to complain about thousands of dollars going missing out of the budge each month. How would you feel if she spent $300 to $5000 or more a month & refused to tell you where the money went? If you are prioritizing strippers over child support, no stripper will have any sympathy for you what so ever.
In 2018 I don't understand why people have an issue with a woman supporting a man either short term or long.
Or long term, so you want the wife to pay for your hookers?
In the majority of relationships, men by far support women, but when a woman takes the breadwinner role everyone has an issue with it and some how the man is now a loser.
WE need stats on that to believe it. Plenty of women despite lower pay are the bread winners in the family. You have no value in the extra work besides a full time job she has to do in the home with house work, grocery shopping, meal planning, cooking, laundry & who stays home when the kids are sick? Like most men you have zero value all the work married women do, if you were to pay a maid, cook, personal shopper how much would that be a year?
Maid-$25,000
Cook $40,000
Personal assistant $30,000
Sam38g
02-14-2018, 12:43 PM
Luckyguy did you come here to have strippers trash your wife so you can feel better about cheating on her?
RyanXO
02-14-2018, 02:58 PM
Secondly, men like to have sex, and they like to have sex with different women, but secioty and women won't allow men to openly be who they are so men learn to lie as to not rock the boat and some turn into abusive ass*** out of resentment for having to supress their natural desires.
Wow since when do women have all the power? LOL I love how the woman is the villain when it is convenient, otherwise the men get to be in control. How convenient.
Genoveve
02-14-2018, 04:56 PM
Secondly, men like to have sex, and they like to have sex with different women, but secioty and women won't allow men to openly be who they are so men learn to lie as to not rock the boat and some turn into abusive ass*** out of resentment for having to supress their natural desires.
Men who have sex with lots of different women are seen as pigs, immature, or defective. Why?!
So these men you reference become abusive because they make the misguided decision to enter into committed, monogamous relationships when they overwhelmingly prefer promiscuity----and that's the fault of women? That's interesting.
I've always preferred monogamy and I find it to be more stimulating to fuck the same person repeatedly rather than switching partners, and there ARE men out there who feel the same way. Not every man out there constantly needs new pussy, so I think you are making a mistake by assuming that all men secretly feel the way you do.
I'm just curious too, since you seem to be advocating for open relationships, would you have no issue with dating a woman who was having sex with other men? So long as she was open about it?
Luckyguy09
02-14-2018, 08:48 PM
So these men you reference become abusive because they make the misguided decision to enter into committed, monogamous relationships when they overwhelmingly prefer promiscuity----and that's the fault of women? That's interesting.
I've always preferred monogamy and I find it to be more stimulating to fuck the same person repeatedly rather than switching partners, and there ARE men out there who feel the same way. Not every man out there constantly needs new pussy, so I think you are making a mistake by assuming that all men secretly feel the way you do.
I'm just curious too, since you seem to be advocating for open relationships, would you have no issue with dating a woman who was having sex with other men? So long as she was open about it?
I have no issue dating a woman who has sex with other men. The fact alone that I see escorts with no problem means that I share a woman with an untold number of other men. Monogamous relationships are ok if there is a great deal of chemistry, but for me, nothing tops having sex with a new person. They have done studies that what guys like me feel is similar to a hit of crack.
NezzyKnowzzz666
02-15-2018, 09:51 PM
being a sex worker tends to lower the type of guys they attract since most guys with things going in life want a girl who is going to be exclusive!! me personally i have a gf who does modeling but to honest if she ever became a stripper or did porn idk if i could date her i think the idea of men touching your gf is just a lot to think about!! I honestly think sex workers should date other sex workers since they have a lot in common and would have a mutual understanding!!
DonaDiabla
02-16-2018, 11:13 AM
Yet, your girlfriend dates a weeboo who complains on an sex worker site. But,I hope she is the same as you.Just saying, people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. One wonders if your girlfriend hit the jackpot in the relationship department or not? :)
being a sex worker tends to lower the type of guys they attract since most guys with things going in life want a girl who is going to be exclusive!! me personally i have a gf who does modeling but to honest if she ever became a stripper or did porn idk if i could date her i think the idea of men touching your gf is just a lot to think about!! I honestly think sex workers should date other sex workers since they have a lot in common and would have a mutual understanding!!
MissMoore
02-16-2018, 11:38 AM
Yet, your girlfriend dates a weeboo who complains on an sex worker site. But,I hope she is the same as you.Just saying, people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. One wonders if your girlfriend hit the jackpot in the relationship department or not? :)
Sums it up.
lemiwinks31
02-16-2018, 04:40 PM
Wow since when do women have all the power? LOL I love how the woman is the villain when it is convenient, otherwise the men get to be in control. How convenient.
lol.....you mean you don't agree that when the man 'turns into' an abusive asshole....that it is the only because he cant sleep with more women, and its the wife fault that she doesn't let him....
people have been lead to believe there is no such thing as a wrong opinion.........It has lead to this....^
Ifyouseekamy
02-24-2018, 02:39 AM
Now that I’m older, I won’t date guys unless they can improve my life exceptionally. It’s just not worth the risking years of my life when I can use that toward improving my Socio-economic-status . I need some serious collateral before I fall for that dumb shit again. In fact, next time I need to be like, “okay sign your title over to me and if you lie or cheat that’s mine”...LOL. I don’t believe in “true love”. I think people might have good intentions, but I’ll let Disney stick to writing fairytales.
SnuffleUffleGrass
02-25-2018, 10:14 AM
A better question to ask is "why do losers gravitate to dating sex workers"?
* addiction
* severe psychiatric issues
* financial usury
Any non loser male who earns the love of a sex worker always knows where he stands and does not define his worth by the worth of his partner/wife.
Vyanka
02-25-2018, 12:26 PM
Yet, your girlfriend dates a weeboo who complains on an sex worker site. But,I hope she is the same as you.Just saying, people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. One wonders if your girlfriend hit the jackpot in the relationship department or not? :)
For real. :yes:
Bahuba
02-25-2018, 01:39 PM
So I once read this blog of what we used to call a "suitcase pimp" i.e. a sort of BF to a SW who largely benefits from her revenue and (yuck) participates in her scheduling. I have met these types and they aren't repulsive people or anything, but they do tend to be a bit controlling.
This particular one went on and on about how he and his "lady" ate at, and I'm quoting here "the best restaurants" and went to the "best clubs" and everyone envied him because he was with a hot chick living the high life. All I could think reading it is: This person has absolutely no idea how to build wealth and when the 3-4 years or less of high earning are over, they'll both have nothing.
In other words, the dude wasn't so much a loser, and I guess was her choice to date him, but the real value destruction was in their spending and lack of planning for the future at all. I guess some others are worse, but even that means the SW partner will be 28 or 30 or 33 and won't have many assets.
We had a rabbit like you
02-25-2018, 02:46 PM
All my vanilla friends date absolute losers who use and abuse them (and they’re a lot more gullible and put up with a lot more than I will after seeing how men operate after 6 years in the industry. ) but everybody’s quick to find fault and pick at EVERY little aspect of a sex workers life and choices. We are under a microscope and everything that goes wrong must be because we are shameless jezebels
sarah101
02-25-2018, 04:24 PM
I maybe going out on a limb here but any woman whatever her occupation could end up with a albatross around her neck. Sometimes I think we just enjoy the challenge of a fixer up project.
Ifyouseekamy
02-25-2018, 04:40 PM
All my vanilla friends date absolute losers who use and abuse them (and they’re a lot more gullible and put up with a lot more than I will after seeing how men operate after 6 years in the industry. ) but everybody’s quick to find fault and pick at EVERY little aspect of a sex workers life and choices. We are under a microscope and everything that goes wrong must be because we are shameless jezebels
That’s a really good perspective. I just had to comment. It really changes the critical voice in my head when I think about it that way.
My single mom says she feels the same way. Similarly some men pray on single moms- much the way some guys prey on dancers.
As a single woman, I have to be very careful about which guys put their foot in the door. A classic foot in the door -“I can watch your kids while you work.” or whatever favor.
None of these losers start off like losers. They pretend they have their shit together. It’s not until it’s too late do they let their true colors show.
SnuffleUffleGrass
02-25-2018, 04:51 PM
I maybe going out on a limb here but any woman whatever her occupation could end up with a albatross around her neck. Sometimes I think we just enjoy the challenge of a fixer up project.
Bwaahahaahah my vote is that we're all living the reality of a Goddess (for a while anyways) & some people cannot resist the appeal of us.....