View Full Version : Sick and tired of Los Angeles
22lligm
12-17-2016, 12:26 PM
TBH I don't think I'll always live in LA and will at some point settle in Austin or Portland, so I understand the Texas thing. Aren't there a lot of people from CA there?
Yeah I've heard people say theres a lot of people moving out here from CA. I've met a few from work but not a whole bunch.
BobbleHead
12-17-2016, 12:54 PM
Im born raised and still live in LA county. My brother was also and moved to Texas a few years ago. His family loves it out there for the better schools, less expensive living and the difference in people's attitudes. I have been to visit a few times and I can see all of that. The area he lives in is growing so fast with new tracts of homes being put in all the time. I can buy the same home out there for about half of my cost here. The weather is a bit different as they get the plus 100 degreee weather more times in the summer than we do out here and much more rain the rest of the year though. He has told me several times to try it out there but there but LA is my home and I couldn't ever see myself leaving it. I just don't think there is anywhere else in the world that has all the things SoCal does. I do think that Texas is a great place to transplant to though for anyone that is struggling and cannot afford to live here in California.
whirlerz
12-17-2016, 12:59 PM
Pokey should weigh in, he's in TX. :)
KaraLynn
12-17-2016, 01:39 PM
I moved out of CA to TX and I'm thinking I may never move back. When I go home to visit family it's nice but after a day or two I'm wanting to get back to my apartment in Texas. I love the cheap rent and the strip clubs (good money and they're huge). And idk I just kinda like the vibe out here.
I know alot of people back home though that would NEVER leave SoCal and say 'ew why Texas'. But I personally am so glad I moved.
This reminds me of a friend of mine who posted a meme on facebook about how Texas is better than Cali because it has the same warm weather, beautiful beaches, but cheaper rent and she captioned it with yeah....but it's Texas. She's never even been to Texas and I have so I responded to her post telling her about some of the cool bigger cities there and what they have to offer and how much cheaper it was and she responded with "I'd rather pay twice as much to live in Cali than go anywhere near Texas" completely disregarding everything I said. I was like okayyyyyy.....suit yourself. lol
As far as dancing is concerned I made triple the amount in Texas that I EVER made in Cali and spent so much less to stay there. Most of the people who shit on Texas from Cali have never even been there.
22lligm
12-17-2016, 06:25 PM
^ Yeah that's exactly how people in CA view Texas and I'll admit I was the same way before I flew out here. I remember thinking 'ew Dallas..?' thinking it sounded so country and lame. But I ended up loving it lol. Some people from CA really do hate TX for some reason though. I knew a guy who had to move out here for work and he kept saying he could not wait to get back to California. Obviously not everyone will love texas but it's stupid to assume anything before trying it out for yourself. I just think socal is so overrated but that's just me.
& ya the money is great I will never step foot in a CA strip club again lol
Luckyguy09
12-18-2016, 06:22 PM
Im born raised and still live in LA county. My brother was also and moved to Texas a few years ago. His family loves it out there for the better schools, less expensive living and the difference in people's attitudes. I have been to visit a few times and I can see all of that. The area he lives in is growing so fast with new tracts of homes being put in all the time. I can buy the same home out there for about half of my cost here. The weather is a bit different as they get the plus 100 degreee weather more times in the summer than we do out here and much more rain the rest of the year though. He has told me several times to try it out there but there but LA is my home and I couldn't ever see myself leaving it. I just don't think there is anywhere else in the world that has all the things SoCal does. I do think that Texas is a great place to transplant to though for anyone that is struggling and cannot afford to live here in California.
I actually agree. I only moved for family, but otherwise I would have stayed in California. California has so much to offer so as long as you can afford it and stay out of trouble.
LAX for overseas flights, TJ, Las Vegas just a short drive away, Hawaii just a 5 hour flight away, Disney Concert Hall, Fashion District, Hollywood, USC, UCLA, Stanford University, Big Bear, Lake Havasu, Angeles Crest, as well as all kinds of unique and historic landmarks, shops and restaurants that I just haven't seen anywhere else from dago all the way up to Frisco. LA is also the place where on any given day you can meet/see famous people and it's no big deal. I remember once I was eating a meal with a bud at a well known restaurant and Coolio was eating in the next stall and during my college years I met many pro athletes like Maurice Green former world record holder and Olympian.
As far as Angelenos, yes some of them might come off fake, but having lived in the east coast just as long I would rather be around Angelenos any day of the week because at least they know how to have a good time and are friendly/talkative. If an Angeleno is rude it's because of traffic but outside of that people are pretty open and chill.
The grass isn't always greener on the other side. Dispite the cost savings, the East Coast (aside from NYC) is horribly boring and depressing and it's only getting worse due to no jobs and a huge increase of heroin and other drugs flooding the streets.
Lastly, about race, I really miss the diversity of California. Never experienced any racism in California and I'm a black guy whose stomping ground was pretty much the whole state. Lived in working class Mexican neighborhoods as well as high end white/Asian neighborhoods and never had any problems.
22lligm
12-20-2016, 09:06 AM
Angelenos..? lol
Velveteen.Rabbit
12-20-2016, 09:57 AM
Loan Angeles is much better long term when it comes to men, not women. So that's probably why you feel that way. The men purposely stay single and have a wide range of high quality stunningly beautiful and ambitious women to choose from, more so than even Manhattan.
The problem lies more in the fact that men (especially stable men) in Los Angeles are extremely non-commital and are really into the sugarbaby thing after like age 35, and really into having a steady rotation of women if younger. That's not saying much because competition for the role of sugarbaby is extremely high since there are tons of smart, interesting, accomplished famous women who need a sugardaddy or some form of secret sexwork to pay the bills.
rickdugan
12-20-2016, 10:33 AM
I did get a chuckle reading that article slowpoke posted and flakey people was at the top. That would definitely annoy me. Social norms are very different in la and Hollywood. People are over the top there and many are superficial. In my mind, it seems like it would be a good place for young singles.
The people here are generally vapid.
I suspect that one either loves or hates LA and that there isn't much of an in between. I'm also guessing that personality type has a lot to do with it. I am out there about once a year and, tbh, I find myself grimacing even thinking about having to go back again soon. When I am there, I can't even sit at a bar and watch a football game without multiple goofballs trying to impress me with their various accomplishments and ventures, about 95% of which I have no doubt is complete BS. Then there is the saccharin sweet fake politeness that I encounter in so many people there.
I don't get as worked up about bad traffic as some as I have contended with it most of my life in the northeast, but needing 2 hours to get ten to fifteen lousy miles is just icing on the whole shit cake for me.
But I am also open minded enough to see the other side of the coin. For people with certain outlooks and/or lifestyles, I could definitely see the appeal of LA. The ideal is that we each find the place that works best for each of us. I find that my personality type fits well in places like TX and FL, but I cannot begrudge anyone who feels most comfortable in places like LA or San Fran.
Vyanka
12-20-2016, 11:49 AM
Loan Angeles is much better long term when it comes to men, not women. So that's probably why you feel that way. The men purposely stay single and have a wide range of high quality stunningly beautiful and ambitious women to choose from, more so than even Manhattan.
The problem lies more in the fact that men (especially stable men) in Los Angeles are extremely non-commital and are really into the sugarbaby thing after like age 35, and really into having a steady rotation of women if younger. That's not saying much because competition for the role of sugarbaby is extremely high since there are tons of smart, interesting, accomplished famous women who need a sugardaddy or some form of secret sexwork to pay the bills.
I get the sense LA would be rougher to date than in Manhattan, and in Manhattan it's pretty rough too. More women than men. Most of the men who go out are married, or are gay. Not much left. Lol.
LA men expect their chics to be close to their daughter's age, and be a tooth pick.
Both horrible places for single ladies.
xStitchesx
12-20-2016, 12:52 PM
LA is sooooo not a stripper friendly place. I found going to Vegas for a weekend or two to be worth it. I hear the OC is nice. But the city of LA itself can be a hellhole. I was born and raised there and although I miss it, I don't want to move back just yet. There are definitely things I miss and love about LA but I'd rather stack up some cash and pay cheaper rent where I am than go back to the constant hustle. That's something I *don't* miss about LA: the constant need to hustle.
Velveteen.Rabbit
12-20-2016, 02:41 PM
I get the sense LA would be rougher to date than in Manhattan, and in Manhattan it's pretty rough too. More women than men. Most of the men who go out are married, or are gay. Not much left. Lol.
LA men expect their chics to be close to their daughter's age, and be a tooth pick.
Both horrible places for single ladies.
Yeah it's weird because if you're over a size 2, you're considered fat. Even a size 6 would be considered fat. But only in LA.
LA highly values youth, thinnness, and long legs. It's really weird because the rest of California is not like that. If you don't meet that standard, you have to be apart of some niche market or scene, and most are not welcoming unless you develop the mannerisms, interests, music, and specific fashion for that scene to a T. It's so weird.
Living in LA is like being apart of some secret club pre-internet since everything here is still mostly underground and exclusive when the internet has exposed everything elsewhere. It's like the one place where you can't lurk the internet to find out about even half the events because a lot of it is invite only. And that's in every scene and demographic of LA. So I guess it makes sense why they each have such rigid standards and an overall one for LA. It's the land of exclusivity that even the internet couldn't fully break.
Glamourmilf
12-21-2016, 07:13 AM
. There are definitely things I miss and love about LA but I'd rather stack up some cash and pay cheaper rent where I am than go back to the constant hustle. That's something I *don't* miss about LA: the constant need to hustle.
Yes this. So much this. Exhausting.
So happy that I don't live there anymore.
It's just a ' memory ' now.
Happy memories from when I was young, and carefree.
Not so happy memories when I got older, and got tired of the hustle .
That damn constant hustle .
Luckyguy09
12-21-2016, 11:04 AM
Loan Angeles is much better long term when it comes to men, not women. So that's probably why you feel that way. The men purposely stay single and have a wide range of high quality stunningly beautiful and ambitious women to choose from, more so than even Manhattan.
The problem lies more in the fact that men (especially stable men) in Los Angeles are extremely non-commital and are really into the sugarbaby thing after like age 35, and really into having a steady rotation of women if younger. That's not saying much because competition for the role of sugarbaby is extremely high since there are tons of smart, interesting, accomplished famous women who need a sugardaddy or some form of secret sexwork to pay the bills.
The reason why guys are extremely non-committal is due to divorce Court and child support/child custody problems that they want to avoid. And in the state of California it's no joke as after 10 years of marriage lifetime alimony gets put on the table for review by the Courts. I knew of a guy who got kicked out of his pacific palisades home only for his x wife to move in her new boyfriend. The guy now has to pay his x wife something like 3-4k a month forever or until she dies or she gets remarried.
Luckyguy09
12-21-2016, 05:43 PM
I get the sense LA would be rougher to date than in Manhattan, and in Manhattan it's pretty rough too. More women than men. Most of the men who go out are married, or are gay. Not much left. Lol.
LA men expect their chics to be close to their daughter's age, and be a tooth pick.
Both horrible places for single ladies.
To be fair, it's equally just as hard for men in Los Angeles or NYC if you're looking for a wife. Being a regular average Joe just isn't enough anymore to impress women and earn their respect which is the foundation to a healthy relationship.
There are lots of single regular guys but young women in LA or NYC rather be single or feel they are better off being a sugerbaby because Joe the plumber can't provide the lifestyle that they want. This is why everybody is single. Everybody is trying to get the most with what they got and nobody wants to feel that they settled.
xStitchesx
12-22-2016, 04:19 AM
Yes this. So much this. Exhausting.
So happy that I don't live there anymore.
It's just a ' memory ' now.
Happy memories from when I was young, and carefree.
Not so happy memories when I got older, and got tired of the hustle .
That damn constant hustle .
Yeah it's constant! I will probably end up back out there since all my family is there. Well, unless I start a family or meet a long term partner out here. Or I get deported. Whichever.
Glamourmilf
12-22-2016, 04:52 AM
Yeah it's constant! I will probably end up back out there since all my family is there. Well, unless I start a family or meet a long term partner out here. Or I get deported. Whichever.
Yeah, me too. Not because of family, but because of 2 things.
1.The weather. Hot as it is most of the year, my body is riddled with arthritis, so I'm really suffering in the cold.
2. I'm used to the colourful people there. I need constant visual stimulation, otherwise I'm bored to tears. Everywhere else seems so 'generic' to me.
* The next big earthquake, or recession is what I'm waiting for to move back.
During both I was able to move into rent controlled luxury apartments for half the price.
xStitchesx
12-22-2016, 05:18 AM
Yeah, me too. Not because of family, but because of 2 things.
1.The weather. Hot as it is most of the year, my body is riddled with arthritis, so I'm really suffering in the cold.
2. I'm used to the colourful people there. I need constant visual stimulation, otherwise I'm bored to tears. Everywhere else seems so 'generic' to me.
* The next big earthquake, or recession is what I'm waiting for to move back.
During both I was able to move into rent controlled luxury apartments for half the price.
Yeah the the weather is unbeatable! I seem to find the freaks wherever I go lol.
The rent is out of control in LA now. There's been a lot of my friends moving out.
DorienG
01-01-2017, 04:57 PM
YA most of the places that used to be like that have all closed down by now unfortunatley :/ That was my issue when I last lived there. Just recently i heard they closed down 7557 (why I dunno) certainly curious tho. Star Strip 2 used to be awesome like 8 yrs ago but it closed in 09'. I dunno why the lower tier dive places all closed, must've not been getting enough business?
I worked at 7557 for a long time and haven't been there since June of 2015. I had no idea they closed! I saw a friend I use to dance with there around that time and she didn't say anything to me about it. Damn! Was thinking going back one night a week just for petty cash. (Been out of the industry since Feb. 2016).
DorienG
01-01-2017, 09:13 PM
Yeah it's weird because if you're over a size 2, you're considered fat. Even a size 6 would be considered fat. But only in LA.
LA highly values youth, thinnness, and long legs. It's really weird because the rest of California is not like that. If you don't meet that standard, you have to be apart of some niche market or scene, and most are not welcoming unless you develop the mannerisms, interests, music, and specific fashion for that scene to a T. It's so weird.
Living in LA is like being apart of some secret club pre-internet since everything here is still mostly underground and exclusive when the internet has exposed everything elsewhere. It's like the one place where you can't lurk the internet to find out about even half the events because a lot of it is invite only. And that's in every scene and demographic of LA. So I guess it makes sense why they each have such rigid standards and an overall one for LA. It's the land of exclusivity that even the internet couldn't fully break.
I've been living in LA a long time and have worked as an actress (legitimate, line -speaking, getting paid with a check actress, not porn) and I have experienced the opposite: I've been told to "go eat a burger". As a dancer, I was always being out hustled by dancers with really thick thighs and bootys, not the thin, leggy ones. I really felt that women weren't considered hot UNLESS they were a size 4 or up! It wasn't until I worked at a club with mostly Asian dancers, that I finally fit in somewhere and started making some $$...and I not Asian. This club was in Hollywood too.
LA can be like that, but I have a few groups I hang out with, and I've never found it hard to meet people. I've been living on the west side , fairly close to the beach since I moved here.
(Sorry for thread jack).
LoveyDovey
01-01-2017, 09:49 PM
I had to laugh when I saw what happened to the Hollywood sign last night...
BarbieNYC
01-01-2017, 09:55 PM
^^ lol I wish I was in the city to see that. I haven't been in LA in about a month and there are little things I'm starting to miss that we don't have here in the suburbs. It's funny, when I'm there, I hate it. When I'm gone, I miss it.
Glamourmilf
01-02-2017, 08:30 PM
I had to laugh when I saw what happened to the Hollywood sign last night...
Yeah, that prank ....sums up L.A.
Never a dull moment.
This morning I watched a car chase on Facebook live, which shut down the entire freeway.
There were at least 20 cops, surrounding this old beat up truck, with some Mexican dude inside.
Such dramatics. Such overkill .
So unnecessary .
LoveyDovey
01-02-2017, 08:39 PM
LA is crazy, that's for sure. Every time I visit, I have A LOT of fun. Living there, I'm not sure. The traffic would annoy me.
xxxGothBarbie
01-04-2017, 03:48 AM
I went there for xmas vacation this year & had a blast. Actually couldn't wait to move back there! I missed all my old spots for food & hangouts, fave neighborhoods. Gas is a bit more expensive there now than what I remember it being 4 yrs ago.
babygrrrl
01-06-2017, 09:40 AM
^ Yeah that's exactly how people in CA view Texas and I'll admit I was the same way before I flew out here. I remember thinking 'ew Dallas..?' thinking it sounded so country and lame. But I ended up loving it lol. Some people from CA really do hate TX for some reason though. I knew a guy who had to move out here for work and he kept saying he could not wait to get back to California. Obviously not everyone will love texas but it's stupid to assume anything before trying it out for yourself. I just think socal is so overrated but that's just me.
& ya the money is great I will never step foot in a CA strip club again lol
I'm happy I made the move to dallas from LA.
xStitchesx
01-06-2017, 01:08 PM
I went there for xmas vacation this year & had a blast. Actually couldn't wait to move back there! I missed all my old spots for food & hangouts, fave neighborhoods. Gas is a bit more expensive there now than what I remember it being 4 yrs ago.
That's the drawback to LA! Gas prices and the bad public transportation. If I move back (or rather when), I'm definitely getting a place off of the red line.
SnuffleUffleGrass
01-06-2017, 08:53 PM
I went there for xmas vacation this year & had a blast. Actually couldn't wait to move back there! I missed all my old spots for food & hangouts, fave neighborhoods. Gas is a bit more expensive there now than what I remember it being 4 yrs ago.
That Special Blend gasoline lol! I had to get a Costco card for cheaper gasoline when prices were too high.
I'm pretty sad I have to put off a trip home yet again. I really miss one or two people back home, that is it, ha ha.
Missdoll
03-16-2017, 12:48 PM
I still hate LA haha
slowpoke
03-16-2017, 03:37 PM
I moved out of CA to TX and I'm thinking I may never move back. When I go home to visit family it's nice but after a day or two I'm wanting to get back to my apartment in Texas. I love the cheap rent and the strip clubs (good money and they're huge). And idk I just kinda like the vibe out here.
I know alot of people back home though that would NEVER leave SoCal and say 'ew why Texas'. But I personally am so glad I moved.
Shhhhh! We are trying to keep it a secret.
whirlerz
03-16-2017, 05:28 PM
Watch Out for Snakes, tho:O
Missdoll
03-18-2017, 04:16 AM
Vegas is still looking very appealing. I've been staying at my moms recovering from debt from living out here but once I save a couple G's I may just take a chance and re locate there.
Bahuba
03-18-2017, 07:41 AM
I live in Manhattan now and have for years, but I lived a summer in Houston working for an oil company (working on their global development, not the oil fields) and I lived in LA for 6 months on a big 4 contract.
There may be a lot of attractive women in LA, but no normal guys there ever have a chance with them. I would hate to be an average guy in LA. If people knew how famous or rich guys live in LA, there'd be a revolution. It seems like everything there is focused on wealth or fame. If you're not in possession of one or both, life is a grudging logistical nightmare.
Houston was just frickin hot and humid. It was beautiful in a weird way, with silver towers 70 stories tall sticking out of what looks like woods. It is the ONLY place where I've ever had a whole office, bosses, receptionists, engineers, and accountants, go to a strip club together. It seems like the women in Texas are pretty awesome, that's true. They cultivate an air of, nothing phases me I can handle anything. The poor people there too are very ashamed of themselves.
Maybe it's because I live here, but Manhattan is much more egalitarian. Five blocks from where I live there are projects, and 5 blocks from where I live are apartments that cost 100 million. We all eat at the same diners. we have as many pretty women as LA, true, but they're not as sequestered from life as people are in LA. All in all, if you're on your way up, I'd rather be here.
SnuffleUffleGrass
03-18-2017, 07:42 AM
I live in Manhattan now and have for years, but I lived a summer in Houston working for an oil company (working on their global development, not the oil fields) and I lived in LA for 6 months on a big 4 contract.
There may be a lot of attractive women in LA, but no normal guys there ever have a chance with them. I would hate to be an average guy in LA. If people knew how famous or rich guys live in LA, there'd be a revolution. It seems like everything there is focused on wealth or fame. If you're not in possession of one or both, life is a grudging logistical nightmare.
Houston was just frickin hot and humid. It was beautiful in a weird way, with silver towers 70 stories tall sticking out of what looks like woods. It is the ONLY place where I've ever had a whole office, bosses, receptionists, engineers, and accountants, go to a strip club together. It seems like the women in Texas are pretty awesome, that's true. They cultivate an air of, nothing phases me I can handle anything. The poor people there too are very ashamed of themselves.
Maybe it's because I live here, but Manhattan is much more egalitarian. Five blocks from where I live there are projects, and 5 blocks from where I live are apartments that cost 100 million. We all eat at the same diners. we have as many pretty women as LA, true, but they're not as sequestered from life as people are in LA. All in all, if you're on your way up, I'd rather be here.
Interesting. I'll add some thoughts later. I think men have it pretty good in LA. But that's my opinion......
rickdugan
03-18-2017, 08:16 AM
I live in Manhattan now and have for years, but I lived a summer in Houston working for an oil company (working on their global development, not the oil fields) and I lived in LA for 6 months on a big 4 contract.
There may be a lot of attractive women in LA, but no normal guys there ever have a chance with them. I would hate to be an average guy in LA. If people knew how famous or rich guys live in LA, there'd be a revolution. It seems like everything there is focused on wealth or fame. If you're not in possession of one or both, life is a grudging logistical nightmare.
Houston was just frickin hot and humid. It was beautiful in a weird way, with silver towers 70 stories tall sticking out of what looks like woods. It is the ONLY place where I've ever had a whole office, bosses, receptionists, engineers, and accountants, go to a strip club together. It seems like the women in Texas are pretty awesome, that's true. They cultivate an air of, nothing phases me I can handle anything. The poor people there too are very ashamed of themselves.
Maybe it's because I live here, but Manhattan is much more egalitarian. Five blocks from where I live there are projects, and 5 blocks from where I live are apartments that cost 100 million. We all eat at the same diners. we have as many pretty women as LA, true, but they're not as sequestered from life as people are in LA. All in all, if you're on your way up, I'd rather be here.
Funny, I had a cab driver in LA sharing this same perspective with me a couple of months ago. He was a young decent looking guy, but as we chatted about life stuff (my wife, kids, etc.) he said that he'd love to have a family, but that nobody in LA wanted to date a cab driver. I've read and heard similar comments in other places from other blue collar guys who live in the LA metro area. Idk how much to believe, but I'm out in LA at least once a year and I've met enough people there over the years that I've formed an unflattering opinion about the cultural attitudes in the city. Net-net, I am inclined to believe a lot of what I hear from regular guys.
I've never been in a place with so many shallow and sometimes outright insipid people as I meet when I'm there. Now I've met plenty of good people too, but it seems impossible to avoid the other types, along with the loonies and other characters. Idk, but the place just feels soulless to me, with noise and nonsense filling the void left by a lack of cultural identity and character. Now perhaps I am being entirely unfair and no offense to anyone who lives there and likes it. Maybe I just don't know the town well enough, but my annual visits there never show me anything to change my mind and I find it very easy to believe comments like those from the cab driver and others.
Anyway, just my :twocents: on the matter and I could be way off base but there it is.
Luckyguy09
03-18-2017, 08:53 PM
I live in Manhattan now and have for years, but I lived a summer in Houston working for an oil company (working on their global development, not the oil fields) and I lived in LA for 6 months on a big 4 contract.
There may be a lot of attractive women in LA, but no normal guys there ever have a chance with them. I would hate to be an average guy in LA. If people knew how famous or rich guys live in LA, there'd be a revolution. It seems like everything there is focused on wealth or fame. If you're not in possession of one or both, life is a grudging logistical nightmare.
Houston was just frickin hot and humid. It was beautiful in a weird way, with silver towers 70 stories tall sticking out of what looks like woods. It is the ONLY place where I've ever had a whole office, bosses, receptionists, engineers, and accountants, go to a strip club together. It seems like the women in Texas are pretty awesome, that's true. They cultivate an air of, nothing phases me I can handle anything. The poor people there too are very ashamed of themselves.
Maybe it's because I live here, but Manhattan is much more egalitarian. Five blocks from where I live there are projects, and 5 blocks from where I live are apartments that cost 100 million. We all eat at the same diners. we have as many pretty women as LA, true, but they're not as sequestered from life as people are in LA. All in all, if you're on your way up, I'd rather be here.
Funny, I had a cab driver in LA sharing this same perspective with me a couple of months ago. He was a young decent looking guy, but as we chatted about life stuff (my wife, kids, etc.) he said that he'd love to have a family, but that nobody in LA wanted to date a cab driver. I've read and heard similar comments in other places from other blue collar guys who live in the LA metro area. Idk how much to believe, but I'm out in LA at least once a year and I've met enough people there over the years that I've formed an unflattering opinion about the cultural attitudes in the city. Net-net, I am inclined to believe a lot of what I hear from regular guys.
I've never been in a place with so many shallow and sometimes outright insipid people as I meet when I'm there. Now I've met plenty of good people too, but it seems impossible to avoid the other types, along with the loonies and other characters. Idk, but the place just feels soulless to me, with noise and nonsense filling the void left by a lack of cultural identity and character. Now perhaps I am being entirely unfair and no offense to anyone who lives there and likes it. Maybe I just don't know the town well enough, but my annual visits there never show me anything to change my mind and I find it very easy to believe comments like those from the cab driver and others.
Anyway, just my :twocents: on the matter and I could be way off base but there it is.
I guess it all depends on what you're looking for and what kind of lifestyle you want. Yea, if you're looking for a wife and you want a family, in this day and age, it's hard to find a down to earth chick in California to do that with.
California babes are hella cool and open minded, but at the same time a lot of them have drug problems, they party too much, and they can be very shallow and materialistic.
If you're in California and you want to get married a man's best bet is to find a young Mexican girl who comes from a good family, and even better if she hasn't been living in California for all that long. But in general, Mexican girls are amazing. They cook, they expect to have families and they love blue collar regular dudes. Furthermore, some of the most prettiest women I have ever seen in California were Mexican.
That said, I have been all around California as a regular dude and I just never felt that because I wasn't rich, or well known, that I couldn't find a wife or something like that. I do think my avantage was that I was from the East Coast. For some reason California girls really dig guys from the East Coast. Men from the east are more mature, laid back, and I noticed that we treated women much better then California guys who all seem to think they are pimps and that treating women like crap is acceptable.
Bahuba
03-18-2017, 10:43 PM
Interesting. I'll add some thoughts later. I think men have it pretty good in LA. But that's my opinion......
What's cool is, we actually have some of the mythical beautiful "California Girls" (beach boys, not me) on here who can probably tell us the whole truth.
@Lucky I was only there for 6 months but all the rich guys I dealt with, especially the ones who had, and I'm not kidding, "been to Steven Spielberg's house" were constantly surrounded by outrageously hot women who would show up out of nowhere. In NYC we have a million famous people and there is always someone richer than you. No one brags because you look like a tool standing next to a billionaire who isn't bragging.
Many wealthy guys in LA only seem to go to "in" places and are driven everywhere. They don't integrate, and neither do the women who hang with them. You get weak when you get scared of normal people. As everyone else has said, I don't mean to insult LA people at all. I'm sure we NYCers, fighting over our tiny apartments and crowded restaurants, look silly too sometimes.
22lligm
03-19-2017, 12:07 AM
I guess it all depends on what you're looking for and what kind of lifestyle you want. Yea, if you're looking for a wife and you want a family, in this day and age, it's hard to find a down to earth chick in California to do that with.
California babes are hella cool and open minded, but at the same time a lot of them have drug problems, they party too much, and they can be very shallow and materialistic.
If you're in California and you want to get married a man's best bet is to find a young Mexican girl who comes from a good family, and even better if she hasn't been living in California for all that long. But in general, Mexican girls are amazing. They cook, they expect to have families and they love blue collar regular dudes. Furthermore, some of the most prettiest women I have ever seen in California were Mexican.
That said, I have been all around California as a regular dude and I just never felt that because I wasn't rich, or well known, that I couldn't find a wife or something like that. I do think my avantage was that I was from the East Coast. For some reason California girls really dig guys from the East Coast. Men from the east are more mature, laid back, and I noticed that we treated women much better then California guys who all seem to think they are pimps and that treating women like crap is acceptable.
Lol! These generalizations are funny. CA girls digging east coast guys? Why? lol I'm from san diego and idk if I had ever heard "Ooh he's from the east coast!" No offense lol. When I think of an east coast guy I think of The Situation or Ronnie lol
But I will say that being from socal I literally grew up thinking there were more attractive women in the world than men. Just because every girl around me was pretty lol. And there were hotter girls on my college campus than there were in the strip clubs. It's kind of the opposite out here. The dancers are beautiful and then I go out and everyones like.. meh.
Although guys do seem to have way better manners out here in Texas. And I love when they say "darlin" it is so damn cute to me lol. And way more people out here are married with kids at younger ages than they are back home. But I was talking to a guy about that out here and he said "well what else is there to do" joking but not joking lol. Just two very different places! And I like them both for different reasons.
SnuffleUffleGrass
03-19-2017, 07:00 AM
Deep down LA is still that scary oil trash town it started as....... LA also has ample opportunity but also enough avenues to pursue either your success or your doom. One must choose wisely there...
SnuffleUffleGrass
03-19-2017, 10:06 PM
California is a great place but if you live there a long time you see the gritty underside (poverty, the anger/hatred of the rich towards the poor.) I miss my home state but I was on a tight budget just to survive. It took a lot of the fun out of life to just scrape by.
Los Angeles trivia- my mom lived next to Compton in the early 1970s. She said the landlords were cruel and predatory & she hated being surrounded by junkies. That was exactly why she ended up moving north. The "fairy dust" of the late 1960s still put an allure on the Bay Area into the 1970s. I'm grateful I got to grow up there...
BobbleHead
03-19-2017, 11:48 PM
Born raised and lived in LA my whole life and in my experience this thread seams to be over exaggerating the stereotypes of Southern California. Yes, some of the women are only into you if you have money and yes some of the men are total douchebags but if you're not in that Hollywood industry or that kind of circle it's pretty similar to other large cities. It's just who you surround yourself with. If youre the kind of person who only wants to be around people who can do something for you then you're gonna be in that circle and youre part of it, if not you're not. There are millions of "normal" people here.
As someone else said there is a difference overall in culture though from a place like Texas or the south or Midwest. When I visit my family in Texas the people are more polite and just more at ease. I think bigger cities just naturally make people more guarded and less open.
Missdoll
03-20-2017, 02:45 PM
Yea, as someone who was born and raised here in CA too, I can tell you not all girls want rich guys ha.
There are some nice Cali girls. :)
xxxGothBarbie
03-20-2017, 02:52 PM
Yea, as someone who was born and raised here in CA too, I can tell you not all girls want rich guys ha.
There are some nice Cali girls. :)
EXACTLY! Who ever wrote that thing about all beautiful white women only want rich guys is seriously ignorant LOL Also the comment about how mexican girls are prettier than white girls was also fucking stupid. That's not always true, I've seen both beauty in all races there as well as everywhere!
SnuffleUffleGrass
03-20-2017, 05:03 PM
I think in LA different classes have different values. Pretty much every ethnic community is represented there so no one has to make assumptions on skin color, it has to do with cultural views & class ....warfare. There I said it. IMO your social class is a bigger factor in your life than your race, age, orientation, etc.
I have met a couple celebrities & honestly you can't even generalize there. Some invested wisely during their time of fame & some are still hustling. Beware a hustle from an apex predator, is all I'm gonna tell you....lol......
SnuffleUffleGrass
03-20-2017, 05:04 PM
Yea, as someone who was born and raised here in CA too, I can tell you not all girls want rich guys ha.
There are some nice Cali girls. :)
FWIW I was a nice "California Girl" who got stepped on a lot. My poverty & willful ignorance caused me to miss the USS Opportunity a bunch of times when I was living in CA. It's the sad truth. You have to be quick to catch on out there...sigh...
Luckyguy09
03-21-2017, 10:04 AM
EXACTLY! Who ever wrote that thing about all beautiful white women only want rich guys is seriously ignorant LOL Also the comment about how mexican girls are prettier than white girls was also fucking stupid. That's not always true, I've seen both beauty in all races there as well as everywhere!
Why take offense to someone else's personal preference or experience in life?
California has a almost majority Hispanic population with Mexican women who range from tall light European looking women to short darker skinned beauties who obviously have more Aztec and Maya lineage. No offense to any other race, but Mexican women are simply such gorgeous women. The most beautiful I have ever seen without makeup or anything.
https://youtu.be/XBCDvINm0Vo
Glamourmilf
03-21-2017, 06:32 PM
I love how #LARain is trending on Twitter right now. Lol! :rain:
Makes me #Homesick cause L.A. is so full of itself, and it's nice to be that way too every now and again.
SnuffleUffleGrass
03-22-2017, 06:18 AM
There are sooo many ethnicities of female beauty in CA. I grew up around Armenian, Assyrian, Latin, Asian & Portuguese girls. We have pretty funny compliments for the kinds of beauty present there. On the other hand there are so many beautiful women there that men are spoiled. There is always a new girl or the babysitter waiting around the corner if your man gets bored.
BobbleHead
03-22-2017, 01:36 PM
I love how #LARain is trending on Twitter right now. Lol! :rain:
Makes me #Homesick cause L.A. is so full of itself, and it's nice to be that way too every now and again.
All over the news....STORMWATCH 2017!!! Haha!
Bahuba
03-22-2017, 01:51 PM
Let me reiterate my apology if my post seemed to generalize LA or Californians. I only lived there for 6 months so I have a brief view, not the perspective of a long time resident. I'm only stating, in agreement with Snuffle, that class warfare does seem to be particularly strong there.
Still, there are many places in the world where class warfare is much worse.