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KatM
11-27-2019, 04:45 PM
10th of December 2011 i came back home from the UK leaving my ex and since then i am celibate.
I tried dating but never had sex or even a kiss in-between so yeah, i totally forgot how intimacy with a guy feels.
Don't know if i'll ever be with a man again cause things are complicated, is not easy to find a good man who will accept my work and health condition plus i dont feel like i can put up with somebody else's needs, life style, so on.
Relationships are not easy especially at an older age when u need to accommodate a person coming into the relationship with it's own baggage plus ur own baggage, family matters too (kids, ex partners, so on).
I miss love in my life but i feel safer single and cam work is one of the reasons i don't want a partner cause u can never know what they do or tell if things turn south, camming is not regular job, is one of a kind.

~Carmen~
11-27-2019, 10:18 PM
Still celibate but these fuckboys are making it hard when they offered me sex... that made me feel real special and complete.



Best gif ever! New York scares all the fuckboys off. She's my hero.

52375

miss.a.p1600
11-28-2019, 11:00 PM
Would you tell a new guy that you’ve been celibate?

I feel like there is some stigma and I don’t even want to disclose it. I’m mean if he asks maybe I’ll be forthcoming but idk.

Like dudes simple minds would auto default to “oh you been celibate? Yeah right” or “oh you’re celibate? What’s wrong with you/your pussy?”

KatM
11-28-2019, 11:39 PM
^^^ Of course i will tell, like are we all supposed to be in relationships all the time and have sex all the time?
I am selective, i want to be with the right man not just have a tool for my pussy around me.
Do they ever ask that question "what's wrong with u/ ur pussy"??!? Only ignorant people will ask that same like 'oh, u should rebuild ur life' when some find out i am single, i say 'who said so, is this a must? cant i be on my own, is my life not complete being single?"
As i said, ignorant!

~Carmen~
11-29-2019, 12:22 AM
So many men believe that their cock is the be all end all. We can't possibly live without it. I have lived happily without it for many years.

I still believe that there are good guys out there. If I meet someone I click with and he treats me with respect, that will be wonderful. If not, I am very happy on my own.

I grew up in an era when girls were taught that finding a man should be our #1 goal. I don't buy that anymore, thank goodness.

Esixxx
11-29-2019, 12:23 AM
^^^^AMEN^^^

KatM
11-29-2019, 12:43 AM
^^^ ^^^ The difference between us women and them is, we can live without their cocks but they can't live without our pussies being real or virtual haha, thank God for that otherwise we wont be cam girls and make money off this business!! God bless their cocks hehe
(There are also women who cant be on their own and seek for a man as soon they ended a relationship but they rare, they normally cant function without sex and the presence of a man)

~Carmen~
11-29-2019, 01:14 AM
^Haha love this post! You speak TRUTH. Thank God for cocks and credit cards :D

miss.a.p1600
12-13-2019, 01:09 PM
I thought I was going to end my celibacy

But instead, I’m going to end things with this new guy because i think he’s still with his ex (he hasn’t made any plans to see me since our second date 3 weeks ago)

I’m kinda sad cause I was excited but it’s for the best.

*i really need support (so I can quit posting on sw and get to work) so if you like this post I’d appreciate it.

I’m ending things on Monday and need the strength not to get sucked in to the charm

naomi_doll
12-13-2019, 01:12 PM
I thought I was going to end my celibacy

But instead, I’m going to end things with this new guy because i think he’s still with his ex (he hasn’t made any plans to see me since our second date 3 weeks ago)

I’m kinda sad cause I was excited but it’s for the best.

*i really need support (so I can quit posting on sw and get to work) so if you like this post I’d appreciate it.

I’m ending things on Monday and need the strength not to get sucked in to the charm

You deserve someone who can give you what you want. You deserve his full attention. You've got this, we are all cheering you on!

miss.a.p1600
12-13-2019, 01:14 PM
Thank you Naomi that means a lot!

Marina Starr
12-13-2019, 01:34 PM
Been celibate for too long so this Christmas I'm asking Santa to bring me a man that could change that. My body is ready.

52461

~Carmen~
12-13-2019, 02:18 PM
[QUOTE=Marina Starr;3151931]Been celibate for too long so this Christmas I'm asking Santa to bring me a man that could change that. My body is ready.

52462

Marina Starr
12-13-2019, 03:35 PM
Closed legs don't get fed, sis!


[QUOTE=Marina Starr;3151931]Been celibate for too long so this Christmas I'm asking Santa to bring me a man that could change that. My body is ready.

52462

~Carmen~
12-13-2019, 03:46 PM
Closed legs don't get fed, sis!

[QUOTE=~Carmen~;3151933]52463

KatM
12-13-2019, 11:13 PM
I will ask the therapist i am going to to help me sort out my issues with trusting men cause since the last relationship i had back in 2011 i did not have sex at all, i kissed a guy but then i did not like how he 'proposed' me to have sex lol so i told him to 'fuck off'.
I have soo many issues to sort out, dont know how i'll pay the sessions but son will help so will see, one step at a time.
I really wish to end the celibacy cause i miss intimacy and love but it has to be a good man and i am hard to please when it comes to relationships lol.
I shall see ;)

Glamourmilf
12-16-2019, 09:21 AM
You can't spell "Disappointment" without ' men'.
Yeah, that's where I'm at lately.
So glad that I'm celebate. 2 1/2 years and counting.
The day a man isn't a complete Disappointment, is the day I'll give it up.

miss.a.p1600
12-16-2019, 07:25 PM
^lol!

I think I’m just going to end the celibacy with some oral sex

But then again they probably don’t even deserve THAT

Esixxx
12-20-2019, 06:47 PM
I fully reserve the right to be petty :)

No d since April, single since August.

Today I took I woke up from a nightmare that my world was being deconstructed. I checked my phone and the ex sent me a text. I was a petty bitch and I am okay with that.
No one can love me better than me.

Carmen Elixer
12-20-2019, 08:33 PM
I'm in the club for sure.

My plan is to get a sugar daddy. I have been freestyling this week.

I have been going to the malls bc around here a lot of people go Xmas shopping,
but I've noticed a lot of men & women who seem like they really might be trying
to meet somebody instead. So I went to the mall a couple nights this week.

Weds. night I met a older guy going into the mall as I was leaving. I got a vibe he
was freestyling too when we passed & made eye contact and both did a very
small smile. But again, he was going in, and I was leaving, so what was I going
to do? turn around and follow him inside? That's too obvious for me.
So I just froze. And then continued walking out to my car.

The second one was Thurs. night, and it was the exact same scenario.But it was
a blooper again because it still hadn't dawned on me that I had not planned
out the second step after I spotted somebody. So we made eye contact and
then a few mins later, he walked past me, back out of the store again. My head
was spinning like "should I walk out after him?"
But it just felt too desperate.

If it's a sugardaddy, I've got to make it seem like its him pursuing me

So now my plan is to go back tomorrow. Going to just sit somewhere like on a
couch in the shoe section. And wait for somebody to sit down beside me. And
hopefully go from there. It would be so easy if you met someone at the mall and
then one of you just casually said "hey do you want to go grab lunch at whatever
place in the mall?" but I just wasn't prepared this week.

miss.a.p1600
12-20-2019, 10:05 PM
^Yay! Post in the holiday freestyle thread if you want


And if I were you I would have “accidentally” dropped something lol!


I'm in the club for sure.

My plan is to get a sugar daddy. I have been freestyling this week.

I have been going to the malls bc around here a lot of people go Xmas shopping,
but I've noticed a lot of men & women who seem like they really might be trying
to meet somebody instead. So I went to the mall a couple nights this week.

Weds. night I met a older guy going into the mall as I was leaving. I got a vibe he
was freestyling too when we passed & made eye contact and both did a very
small smile. But again, he was going in, and I was leaving, so what was I going
to do? turn around and follow him inside? That's too obvious for me.
So I just froze. And then continued walking out to my car.

The second one was Thurs. night, and it was the exact same scenario.But it was
a blooper again because it still hadn't dawned on me that I had not planned
out the second step after I spotted somebody. So we made eye contact and
then a few mins later, he walked past me, back out of the store again. My head
was spinning like "should I walk out after him?"
But it just felt too desperate.

If it's a sugardaddy, I've got to make it seem like its him pursuing me

So now my plan is to go back tomorrow. Going to just sit somewhere like on a
couch in the shoe section. And wait for somebody to sit down beside me. And
hopefully go from there. It would be so easy if you met someone at the mall and
then one of you just casually said "hey do you want to go grab lunch at whatever
place in the mall?" but I just wasn't prepared this week.

KatM
12-21-2019, 02:06 AM
Just seen in here that Glamourmilf is banned, i wonder what happened...

Cutie101
12-21-2019, 02:33 AM
Just seen in here that Glamourmilf is banned, i wonder what happened...

Oh! True!!
I wonder what happened?

Midwest-Mistress
12-21-2019, 04:39 AM
They were being racist so they had to go :)
Oh! True!!
I wonder what happened?

IvoryDoll
12-21-2019, 05:13 AM
Omg me! I’ve hooked up orally a few times but never had full on intercourse yet! I am 24 and yes I’m real lol! I’ve had quite a few chances to do the deed, but something within me kept saying no not now! Sometimes I feel like the only person in the world that’s celibate by choice lol. Everyone thinks I’m so weird for it and is always showing me pics of their guy friends, trying to “set us up” not for a relationship but just to get dicked down. It’s so weird to me that people can’t just accept my personal boundaries. I’m nicknamed the cat lady in my friend group just because I do not have sex. I am sweet, attractive, funny and smart but because my pussy is sealed shut something is wrong with me.
Almost nightly in the locker room you hear about these wild drunk sex adventures and whole time in my head I’m like “can’t relate” I’m not slut shaming anyone I just feel too “sacred” for lack of a better word to give my body to a random hook up
I just want to save myself for a special someone. I know I know it’s 2019 love ain’t real blah blah blah but I want a genuine connection before opening myself up like that (literally lmao)

miss.a.p1600
12-21-2019, 06:32 AM
^^sacred rings a bell

The more time goes by the more I realize that the guy who is granted access has to take steps to show his worthiness.

It’s kind of like a fine aged wine. You’re not going just crack it open on a random day, you’re going to enjoy it and savor it on an important day n something significant has to be going on

miss.a.p1600
12-27-2019, 08:38 AM
Okay so I have another guy....

I went ahead and told him I been celibate (cause I was wondering if that scares them off) but at this point I feel like you can’t say the wrong thing to the right guy and so he was like “oh it’s like you a virgin again” lol!

He did seem shocked by the length of time though

Marina Starr
12-27-2019, 12:58 PM
You need to get a celibate hat so you don't even have to tell them!

52528


Okay so I have another guy....

I went ahead and told him I been celibate (cause I was wondering if that scares them off) but at this point I feel like you can’t say the wrong thing to the right guy and so he was like “oh it’s like you a virgin again” lol!

He did seem shocked by the length of time though

miss.a.p1600
01-11-2020, 07:46 AM
Just curious if y’all find it easier to be seduced when you’re celibate?

Marina Starr
01-11-2020, 11:32 AM
For me it's the opposite, I am much harder to seduce because being celibate helps me think with my head and not my emotions 'cause feelings can be deceptive. They say women think before sex and men think after sex is very true.

Also, when you are celibate you DON'T seduce men because if a man cares enough about you to stick around when he knows you're celibate, the goal is to deescalate his hornyness. If you seduce and in the middle of everything you say I'm not ready to go there he will be hot and bothered and view you as a tease. You can't throw a dog a bone and seconds later take it away and give it a celery. That's not fair.


Just curious if y’all find it easier to be seduced when you’re celibate?

~Carmen~
01-11-2020, 01:00 PM
Just curious if y’all find it easier to be seduced when you’re celibate?

I don't find it easier to be seduced. For me friendship has to come first, although of course there does need to be physical attraction. A mental connection first is vital. I would not let myself be put in a situation where a guy tries to seduce me before we really know each other. If they tried I would run fast!

I don't have a specific timeline but it would have to be at least a few weeks before I even kiss him. There are guys out there who feel the same way and I would rather hold out and wait than settle for anything less.

miss.a.p1600
01-11-2020, 08:39 PM
For me it's the opposite, I am much harder to seduce because being celibate helps me think with my head and not my emotions 'cause feelings can be deceptive. They say women think before sex and men think after sex is very true.

Also, when you are celibate you DON'T seduce men because if a man cares enough about you to stick around when he knows you're celibate, the goal is to deescalate his hornyness. If you seduce and in the middle of everything you say I'm not ready to go there he will be hot and bothered and view you as a tease. You can't throw a dog a bone and seconds later take it away and give it a celery. That's not fair.

Interesting.

I feel like I can still get emotionally attached even without sex. Idk. To me it’s not necessarily the sex but the *time* to get to know a person to see what they gone do and mf cannot get access to sex without worthiness proven through actions over time.

I agree. About seducing men I don’t think I’ve ever seduced a guy (that I know of) got him hard then been like “NOPE access denied” but I have a couple months ago had a guy seduce me then I had to stop him I’m sure he probably thought of me as a tease even though he was the initiator of seduction

miss.a.p1600
01-11-2020, 09:06 PM
I don't find it easier to be seduced. For me friendship has to come first, although of course there does need to be physical attraction. A mental connection first is vital. I would not let myself be put in a situation where a guy tries to seduce me before we really know each other. If they tried I would run fast!

I don't have a specific timeline but it would have to be at least a few weeks before I even kiss him. There are guys out there who feel the same way and I would rather hold out and wait than settle for anything less.


I guess I should clarify I don’t me just a stranger or anything but maybe a guy you’ve dated for example.

~Carmen~
01-12-2020, 01:56 AM
I guess I should clarify I don’t me just a stranger or anything but maybe a guy you’ve dated for example.

Oh I'm sorry, I misunderstood. For me, I get less horny as time goes on being celibate. I want it more if I'm getting it on the regular. At least that's what I remember from so long ago. haha

Marina Starr
01-18-2020, 09:34 AM
I met a man for the very first time, he's of Hispanic descent... he shaked my hand then gave me a kiss on the cheek. I was so taken back by it because we don't do that in my culture.

That made me question celibacy.

Then it made me wonder how some of you hoes want intimacy and celibacy at the same time...

izshadow
01-19-2020, 09:38 AM
I met a man for the very first time, he's of Hispanic descent... he shaked my hand then gave me a kiss on the cheek. I was so taken back by it because we don't do that in my culture.

That made me question celibacy.

Then it made me wonder how some of you hoes want intimacy and celibacy at the same time...

You can have intimacy and have celibacy at the same time. Being intimate isnt all about sex. You can be intimate by kissing, cuddeling, hand holding, candle light dinners, etc.

Marina Starr
01-19-2020, 09:41 AM
That's quite transparent but truth is very few can stick to just intimacy and not have sex. People always gave in to temptation.


You can have intimacy and have celibacy at the same time. Being intimate isnt all about sex. You can be intimate by kissing, cuddeling, hand holding, candle light dinners, etc.

izshadow
01-19-2020, 09:52 AM
That's quite transparent but truth is very few can stick to just intimacy and not have sex. People always gave in to temptation.

I guess I'm one of the few but I'm also asexual. I have zero desire for sex. I enjoy intimacy but thats as far as my enjoyment goes.

Marina Starr
01-19-2020, 09:54 AM
I am also asexual so I do agree with you it's absolutely fine for us to have intimacy and not have sex but we are the exception.


I guess I'm one of the few but I'm also asexual. I have zero desire for sex. I enjoy intimacy but thats as far as my enjoyment goes.

miss.a.p1600
01-19-2020, 10:20 AM
That's quite transparent but truth is very few can stick to just intimacy and not have sex. People always gave in to temptation.

I think men have been trained to include sex as part of intimacy. Add to that fire is male dating coaches convincing men that if women aren’t fucking by second date then something is wrong with their ability to seduce women.

People pleasing women are more likely to just go along.

I’m not exactly sure what it means or feels like to be asexual but I’ve had my moments where I view men and their shenanigans as distraction so I just avoid dealing with them (unless they make it worth my while) even if I want to have intimacy or sex my need for peace and happiness is more important. If I have to go through a lot of fuckery just to fuck then I don’t want it. And a lot of men be on their entitled ego power trips.

I used to be a people pleaser to men but nowadays if I ain’t getting what i want then the guy is not ever getting entry to this glorious gateway of pleasure.

too many fuckbois with nothing to offer but mediocre dick and annoying quirks which is waste of time and pussy

But to get back to your point, for me being celibate having intimacy without sex is moderately easy. It’s like I’ve gone without actually sex for so long so this makeout session is more satisfying than I thought or I’ve gone without sex this long so this shoulder massage is feeling just as good.

Interestingly i think if you don’t use it, then your other senses are enhanced or maybe that energy can be redirected. About a year ago, this guy totally seduced me and one day we had this sexy phone convo and it felt like i had a mild orgasm. Like you can train your mind and body to experience pleasure even orgasm in other areas of your body/in other ways.

Plus I have really good willpower I’ve only had 1 maybe 2 situations in life where I would have done almost ANYTHING for dick/tongue.

I have to know a guy can please me before I let him fuck but I won’t let him fuck if I don’t know if he can please me. So 95% of time I’m left at square 1 because I don’t want to waste my time/my pussy

Idk I have a complex relationship with men and sex

miss.a.p1600
01-19-2020, 10:52 AM
That's quite transparent but truth is very few can stick to just intimacy and not have sex. People always gave in to temptation.

I’d add to this I wish I could give into temptation.

I probably would have had a lot more orgasms.

But my rational mind ALWAYS kicks in and then my vagina sheds a tear

charlie61
01-19-2020, 12:29 PM
I guess I'm one of the few but I'm also asexual. I have zero desire for sex. I enjoy intimacy but thats as far as my enjoyment goes.

Same! ♡

miss.a.p1600
01-24-2020, 05:29 PM
Celibacy is still the best policy because hearts rarely get broken when legs are CLOSED. #celibatehoe #celibatelife #closedlegs

Except those times I got dickmatized ..... without getting dick.

It can still happen. But it’s not AS heartbreaking.

It happened to me like 2 or 3 times. I still fantasize about those guys. Well Actually I use them for solo pleasure visualization material and think about what it would be like to ride their face

miss.a.p1600
01-24-2020, 05:53 PM
http://celibrate.org/benefits.php

~Carmen~
01-24-2020, 07:40 PM
I’d add to this I wish I could give into temptation.

I probably would have had a lot more orgasms.

But my rational mind ALWAYS kicks in and then my vagina sheds a tear

Hitachi will dry those tears up quick, I promise. Or not. :D

~Carmen~
01-24-2020, 07:44 PM
I guess I'm one of the few but I'm also asexual. I have zero desire for sex. I enjoy intimacy but thats as far as my enjoyment goes.

Same here. 0 desire for sex but I very much enjoy sensuality and intimacy.

miss.a.p1600
01-24-2020, 07:48 PM
Hitachi - I’ll probably never leave the house, be screaming so loud my neighbors will hear, and never have sex with a dude again- if it’s anything like I think it is.

Would having a guy use a vibrator on you count as being celibate?

Like just use his hand to help keep the vibrator in place?

Or does that not count since you had an orgasm in the presence of a dude and he watched?

I guess my definition of celibacy is no penetration (especially from dick) but idk like what is the actual definition like no penetration and/or orgasms with dudes (if one is heterosexual)?

~Carmen~
01-24-2020, 08:49 PM
Hitachi - I’ll probably never leave the house, be screaming so loud my neighbors will hear, and never have sex with a dude again- if it’s anything like I think it is.

Would having a guy use a vibrator on you count as being celibate?

Like just use his hand to help keep the vibrator in place?

Or does that not count since you had an orgasm in the presence of a dude and he watched?

I guess my definition of celibacy is no penetration (especially from dick) but idk like what is the actual definition like no penetration and/or orgasms with dudes (if one is heterosexual)?

That's a good question. You really make me think. LOL

I believe that any sexual activity in the same room as a guy=not celibate. Kissing and cuddling is very intimate so again, not celibate.

Hitachi works for me 100% haha.

miss.a.p1600
01-24-2020, 08:59 PM
Ok so that makeout session I had a couple months ago doesn’t count then cause I didn’t orgasm nor did I let him play with my pussy but my boobs were out and he sucked on them for a couple seconds - wait does this count?

Anyways I googled Hitachi and the results.....30 second orgasms....cotdamn!!!!

carmen_b
01-24-2020, 10:43 PM
I fell off the wagon but rejoining ! :)