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BambiCutie
11-15-2016, 03:16 PM
Her health is equally important in caring for the children and apologies for anything perceived as bashing..that was never my intent.

We had a rabbit like you
11-15-2016, 04:33 PM
OP is not the first woman to fall in love w a married man. Not maybe wise on her part or empathetic to the wife,,but she did not promise to be faithful to the wife til death to them part , the husband did, he's the one cheating not this girl. The only home wrecker here is the man wrecking his own home. I feel like some ppl may be being a bit too hard on op, and I say this as a married woman myself
and in all actuality, the wife will probably not eave. In the past decade she's known he's been a cheater, and stayed for whatever reason. Unhealthy dependent relationships are complicated

OHITSRIRI
11-15-2016, 04:41 PM
I think people would probably have a different tone towards the OP had she of just stayed in her lane. But she actually put her hand in his home life & acted out of malic towards the wife. If you're going to play the side chick, then whatever. But if you choose to start any kind of conflict or confrontation with the wife, you are indeed intentionally trying to wreck a home.

We had a rabbit like you
11-15-2016, 04:51 PM
If she had been lying, I would agree that it was her who wrecked the home, but she was actually telling he truth, the guy didn't even "slip up" in a drunken fling, he did it for ten years, what did he expect

LoveyDovey
11-15-2016, 05:00 PM
You're hurt, and you wanted to hurt others so you wouldn't be alone. IF you're going down, then you're taking them down with you.

Be glad that this man was not the love of your life. Start fresh.

OHITSRIRI
11-15-2016, 05:11 PM
i'm not saying she's fully responsible, nor did anyone else. but she definitely put her hand in the wreaking when she reached out to the wife. it wasn't out of respect for her, or even trying to look out for her. it was a malicious move. whether she was drunk or not is irrelevant. making excuses for that kind of behavior doesn't bring you any closer to learning from it.

We had a rabbit like you
11-15-2016, 05:14 PM
Guess I'll just agree to disagree since emotions are running high in this thread lol, she had no ammunition that he did not freely give to her, he's the married one was just my point. I think she was trying to hurt him, not the wife. Also confused as to why the wife now suddenly cares after 10+ years of knowing her husband is a piece of crap who doesn't love her or her kids enough to stay faithful

miss.a.p1600
11-15-2016, 05:21 PM
A married man is a married man by choice. If his wife is so terrible then why did he married her and staying?! There are two sides to every story.

Cause it was a business arrangement? Lots of men (and women) stay in unfulfilling marriages. Staying out of duty/obligation, religious purposes, not wanting to deal with courts/lawyers, not wanting to face another failed relationship, and not wanting to go through the painstaking task of dividing up assets/possibly losing money.

But true though just sounds like a difficult situation for everyone involved

OHITSRIRI
11-15-2016, 05:30 PM
yeah it's a touchy subject. most of us have been on one side of the fence, or both. so that's expected. unfortunately the wife can't defend herself, nor should she have to. no side chick will ever know the 100% truth of what goes on between the wife & her husband. should the OP really take what the cheating husband tells her about his marriage as fact? lol I don't think so. that's why I think the wife should be completely left out of this story. & the only constructive criticism should be towards the OP.

BambiCutie
11-15-2016, 06:06 PM
I think the reason why emotions run high in this thread, has to do with children taking a majority of the turmoil. He is to blame entirely for wreckage of his own marriage and the distrust later to come, Op just text or told the truth at a not so convenient for him. There will be those who find cheating to be inconsiderate and invasive to others when protection is not used and honesty is hidden (10 years to be exact). The problem that Op will encounter with agreement, would be the genuine remorse of being the one to initiate the separation. She could be the innocent one throughout this, but the problem comes from breaking apart important bonds that determine the outcome of someone's life that has yet to grow. I wonder why the wife didn't do anything at that time, but the marriage is already shattered.

LoveyDovey
11-15-2016, 06:46 PM
^^ That's my issue. That kids were involved. People have affairs all the time, and I won't judge on that. I'm hoping their mother and father have the maturity to shield their kids from this. All too often, parents drag the kids through their issues and it screws them up.

cede
11-25-2016, 02:25 PM
I'm pretty sure she will not divorce him. Beyond my issues in this situation...she is a fool. She has had 3 out of 4 of the children w/ him knowing that he cheats (she probably even knew before they got married too). She has caught him messing w/ me several times over the past 10 yrs (while choosing to have more babies w/ him), and she has known he has had affairs w/ other women too. He even OWNED and MANAGED a strip club for years AND his brother was charged criminally for rape (of a girl that he was partying w/ after hours in the club). His brother was acquitted of rape, but went to prison for perjury. But they all got sued and they just settled (after lengthy court proceedings that cost them most of their savings and businesses) for an additional $150k (I think). His wife used to (and maybe still does) get numerous texts and calls about his cheating, I think it was related to the court case (but probably not all). I have known this man to be a serial cheater throughout their entire relationship (including sleeping around behind my back, duh). Maybe that's why I don't feel bad at all for texting his wife!

cede
11-25-2016, 02:34 PM
There is sooo much more, I could seriously write a book.