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Dorothea
05-16-2017, 08:00 PM
I'm going to totally ignore the part about meeting him through camming. Generally it's a bad idea to get personal with custies, but I can't say for sure whether or not it can turn out ok in rare cases.

Even if that weren't a factor, I can tell you for sure that being the "other woman" in a long distance relationship is HARD and PAINFUL. Long distance is hard, especially when you feel really in love like you say you're feeling. When you feel like you'd jump out of your skin or break the time-space continuum just to touch him for a moment, it hurts, right? It's exciting, but your body, your heart, your soul all feel like they're on the edge of a knife. Now imagine that stretching on for years. If you don't live together and barely ever get to see each other in person, that longing doesn't go away - you just learn to live with the hunger.

On top of that, what if you let yourself fall hard in love thinking that he'll leave his GF for you, but then he doesn't? You can tell yourself that you'd move on, but there are countless self-respecting women who, when push came to shove, loved the guy too much and decided that they'd rather be "the other woman" than not have him at all. Being the other woman is really hard, too.*

Being his secret gf means that you can only have him when he can get away, and not always when you need him. If you're having an emotional breakdown and desperately need a shoulder to cry on, but he's out to dinner with his main gf, you know you're not allowed to call him. Sometimes you and he will have a fight, but he'll have to hang up when his main gf comes home suddenly, and you'll spend the rest of the night not knowing if your relationship is over or if he's forgiven you. You two will make plans, and you'll be super excited, but then his gf will get sick at the last minute, and he won't be able to get away to see you. You probably won't meet his family and friends, and your family and friends will always wonder why your elusive boyfriend is never available for Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner. You'll wonder if maybe you should be looking for a guy who can actually be with you, but the thought of being with someone else will hurt too much - then you'll worry that if/when the relationship ends, you'll be older and not as eligible on the dating market. You'll have really dark moments when you'll wonder what would happen if one of you were sick or in an accident and were slowly dying in the hospital - you wouldn't be the person at his bedside, and the man you love might not be able to find an excuse to get away to be at your deathbed.

I know it's really hard to control your heart, and I don't know how things might work out for you, but be advised that even if you take the model/client aspect out of the equation, there's a lot of potential heartache down that rabbit hole.


*I realize that what I'm describing is generally considered cheating, and I realize that it can cause a lot of pain for the wife/main gf. I'm not trying to diminish the pain of anyone that's been hurt by a cheating partner. I'm just saying that it's not exactly desirable to be on the other side of the coin. Most of us make our living off guys who aren't being strictly 100% faithful to their wives, so I'd hope I'm not about to get a lecture about how "evil other women" deserve all the pain that's coming to them.

thank you for this
I will definitely not meet him ever and just look at him as member. There is love there for me somewhere but definitely is not him.

Icantdecide
05-16-2017, 08:04 PM
I don't think she was attacking his gf.rsther I think she was relaying what he told her. She doesn't know..and that's the point.

What magical hoohah says also has a lot of merit..ive been the other woman once or twice myself..young inexperienced and naive to how people operate.

She took him at his word..it isn't a bad quality in a person..i see it like...if she thinks are people are genuine then she is probably mirroring herself into other people. Projecting her own qualities. It makes her more vulnerable which can be good and bad.

PhatGirlDynomite!!!
05-16-2017, 08:08 PM
I'm sitting here wondering how many of y'all got backup accounts...or you just been lurking since Jesus?

https://stupidcupidblog.files.wordpress.com/2014/08/fresh-prince-hmm.gif

Dorothea
05-16-2017, 08:08 PM
I don't think she was attacking his gf.rsther I think she was relaying what he told her. She doesn't know..and that's the point.

What magical hoohah says also has a lot of merit..ive been the other woman once or twice myself..young inexperienced and naive to how people operate.

She took him at his word..it isn't a bad quality in a person..i see it like...if she thinks are people are genuine then she is probably mirroring herself into other people. Projecting her own qualities. It makes her more vulnerable which can be good and bad.

thank you for that and that is very true
I am like this - truthful
He knows that and tried to take advantage and I bet am not the first and last model
He has this thing kinda orgnized - his email anonymous, his skype with this sexy name...

Icantdecide
05-16-2017, 08:08 PM
I missed where you said she looked dumb...oh well...

Dorothea
05-16-2017, 08:10 PM
yes she does sorry but she does look and write kinda naive dumb style - but I think am this way too - childlike and he likes women like this for a reason

Icantdecide
05-16-2017, 08:11 PM
thank you for that and that is very true
I am like this - truthful
He knows that and tried to take advantage and I bet am not the first and last model
He has this thing kinda orgnized - his email anonymous, his skype with this sexy name...

I get it..Ive been you in some context or another
Don't get jaded but give yourself a list of essential qualities you want in a partner...and start that list right in the top with knowing their real name when you meet...if someone can tell a Starbucks barista what their name is they sure as hell can tell their future mate

Icantdecide
05-16-2017, 08:24 PM
yes she does sorry but she does look and write kinda naive dumb style - but I think am this way too - childlike and he likes women like this for a reason

Its entirely possible. He really isnt worth another thought beyond analyzing his style so you recognize it when the next user comes along.


Look fwiw...the way people connect digitally has changed relationships forever. There more opportunity to meet people..monitor people..cheat ...but it doesn't change how someone smells..or how they feel..how they look drooling in their sleep.
Before you know these things I don't think you can know you love someone anything online and before that point is just what they show you..and no one shows you how they stink up the bathroom online. How they treat strangers in public. Like...what if the guy doesn't tip waitresses? What if he steals old ladies small dogs? You just don't know.

lildevil_kittie
05-16-2017, 08:46 PM
I FOUND A LIE.
finally after digging through his girfriend fb i played it against dates of mine and his emails on these dates.
On his and his girfriend's anniversary which was very important to her and they spent together he popped in on camsite to send me several emails and one of them was he has business phone calls and will not be online then he vanished when i pmed him. Now he says that often and I assumed he was busy with work but what it really is - him spending time with girlfriend and playing me too same time. So he is more tricky than I thought and he uses excuse of phone calls often.
I think I am angry now. Is cool to have camsite fun but I feel he is overdoing this talking about meeting and also his relationship is 16 years long which i also discovered from digging her facebook and not even married I think he is master at stringing women. I don't know but I suddenly don't see all this and him the way i saw it only two days ago.
Question is what do i do now.
option one is keep him around keep collecting money
option two - block him
no I will never meet him am very sensitive if I slept with him would maybe not recover for a long time and I doubt he is serious what I was even thinking.
I am sad because I thought it might be true love and will I ever find true love. It felt like it could be it for few months and waking up now is kinda sad.

Sweetheart you say you have no clue what I am getting at. YOU log on and go to their profiles to compare things its stalking. YOU dont have to contact someone to stalk them. He's telling you all this dreamy catchy things to get "FREE pics/videos" because he saw you were naive and young.
No I'm angry because you out of nowhere bashed her for looking dumb and then say she looks like a younger version of you o.O That was like out of nowhere you threw an insult to a woman in her 50s for being with a guy in his 50s that you are infatuated with. I'm sure they are still sexually active with one another. But you are probably not the first camgirl to fall for his trap of "puppy love interest" and will most likely not be the last girl.

Dorothea
05-16-2017, 08:50 PM
oh i get it
is the age thing with you
YOU SHOULD BE SUPORTIVE OF OTHER WOMEN SWEETHEART
no need to be upset am getting closure
and no longer infatuated with him after seeing who he is outside of the fantasy he tried to sell me and thanks to sobering effect of this forum but you are out of place attacking me why dont you take a look at what this guy trying to do? ok
ok

Dorothea
05-16-2017, 08:56 PM
I could have ended really hurt. Am glad I wrote here and seriously this has been so helpful. Am back on track now. Thank you to everyone who helped me see this for what it really is. At least am listening to other women. Some women do not and end up with guys who snow them. i will always listen to other women - always. Nothing like another woman pointing to who the guys really is.

Dorothea
05-16-2017, 08:59 PM
I love it how you wrote I should come clean and tell him have his real name now. Wow is kinda - help this guy snow other women better. Seriously get a grip. No need to help him.
yes most likely am not the only model he loves loved or will love and ask to meet

DonaDiabla
05-16-2017, 09:01 PM
I agree 100 percent with this philosophy. :) Yes, I also say do not ruin a good thing and get the money as well. :)


Nope. Don't ruin a good thing. Pay your bills, and let him go when he runs dry. You have him visiting frequently, and your fantasies of him at night to keep you entertained which is more than enough.

Every reg I've crushed on always chooses to stop the money train in exchange for those mutual 'feelings'. ALERT! ALERT! This is a trap. Keep it business, always or risk fucking up your coin for long distance and free skype shows because you 'like him'. Regs eventually stop spending money on you if you fall for them and that is not what you want. It should always be the other way around.

Even the girls I know who date/met their regs got the short end of the stick. Basically they're fucking and skyping but he's not paying them anymore. Or he has them paying HALF THE RENT/BILLS and they're still faking orgasms for free.

And once you retract and see it for the fuckery that it is, and put them in the client slot again, most of them feel a certain way and guilt trip you. "I feel like you're treating me like a client again. Money is all you care about."

lildevil_kittie
05-16-2017, 09:04 PM
Attacking you far from it actually. Its not my fault you a are tad bit naive I was simply trying to get it through your skull. That what the scumbag was doing to you. The age thing No not really I got annoyed because out of nowhere you started bashing his girlfriend after comparing yourself and her looking alike. I actually had a naive friend that I worked with that met a customer who was viciously murdered because she fell for someone who lied and told her a bunch of bullshit. And the guy was in a long-term relationship.

Genoveve
05-16-2017, 09:06 PM
'Supporting other women' shouldn't mean telling them what they want to hear.

lildevil_kittie
05-16-2017, 09:11 PM
I love it how you wrote I should come clean and tell him have his real name now. Wow is kinda - help this guy snow other women better. Seriously get a grip. No need to help him.
yes most likely am not the only model he loves loved or will love and ask to meet

Helping him. Nah not really its more of him shaking in his boots for a wake up call of his mistake.. You really dont see an error in anyone and observe peoples actions huh? I'll break it down for you alittle more -Since you know his real name and whatever he does to try and hurt your feelings you can rub whatever lovey dovey emails he sent you. YOU can remind him of what kind of scumbag human being he is. That you are not someone who deserves to be hurt and feelings taken advantage of..

lildevil_kittie
05-16-2017, 09:13 PM
'Supporting other women' shouldn't mean telling them what they want to hear.

I do support other Women I just hate to see anyone get played. I rather not Sugar coat anything and be blunt.

DonaDiabla
05-16-2017, 09:15 PM
Yeah, he most likely does not love any model that he asked that of. He just use "love" to see who he can play for free.He does not want to pay....so he uses love to capture any cam model who falls for his trap. He might doing that to multiple cam models. That is why you just get focus on your business, meet other guys in your area,get other customers, and forget about this person. Or make him pay for double for his "love" and block him from your cam room. :) Good luck.


I love it how you wrote I should come clean and tell him have his real name now. Wow is kinda - help this guy snow other women better. Seriously get a grip. No need to help him.
yes most likely am not the only model he loves loved or will love and ask to meet

Dorothea
05-16-2017, 09:19 PM
Yeah, he most likely does not love any model that he asked that of. He just use "love" to see who he can play for free.He does not want to pay....so he uses love to capture any cam model who falls for hist trap. He might doing that to multiple cam models. That is why you just get focus on your business, meet other guys in your area,get other customers, and forget about this person. Or make him pay for double for his "love" :) Good luck.

yes...he mentioned skype many times and shyly skillfully

Icantdecide
05-16-2017, 09:20 PM
Helping him. Nah not really its more of him shaking in his boots for a wake up call of his mistake.. You really dont see an error in anyone and observe peoples actions huh? I'll break it down for you alittle more -Since you know his real name and whatever he does to try and hurt your feelings you can rub whatever lovey dovey emails he sent you. YOU can remind him of what kind of scumbag human being he is. That you are not someone who deserves to be hurt and feelings taken advantage of..

That's. A dangerous game too and borders on extortion.
When I got a hold of the "other woman" in my own case I let her know that I would be dragging her pictures emails and recovered text messages through court. I would be dragging out every iota of personal details of her life in front of a judge and I would be suing the shit out if her for loss of estate due to her part as a paramour in a marital demise ...then I cited case law.
She was and is ..a scared little rabbit ...she came at me sideways and defensive..and truthfully she didn't do shit but that would not have stopped me from running her the fuck over and dragging her over the coals for public humiliation.
Play with fire and you might get burned.


Tho truthfully I'd probably mention his and her real name to him watch him, chuckle at him. Then say..youre a real stupid piece to work aren't you? Then something to the effect of..you don't even know how I know that? How anyone can find it that has basic pc skills and keep laughing. Right before u banned him

Icantdecide
05-16-2017, 09:25 PM
I'm sitting here wondering how many of y'all got backup accounts...or you just been lurking since Jesus?

https://stupidcupidblog.files.wordpress.com/2014/08/fresh-prince-hmm.gif

I think I originally joined her under a different name in 2005/2006 time frame ...but under regular strippers before deciding I wasn't gonna go back to it.

I've been lurking in camming for the last few weeks tho

lildevil_kittie
05-16-2017, 09:33 PM
I want to apologize Dorothea for coming off to blunty and bitchish/catty however you want to say. I speak this way with my real life friends. and also I am a mother. SO Over-protective bitchified mommy mode engaged But realizing you are probably young and what happened to a friend. I Wanted you to understand and I don't want you to get your feelings hurt/hurt in general from someone who is a customer and take advantage of you because they know you are single and lonely.

lildevil_kittie
05-16-2017, 09:34 PM
tho truthfully i'd probably mention his and her real name to him watch him, chuckle at him. Then say..youre a real stupid piece to work aren't you? Then something to the effect of..you don't even know how i know that? How anyone can find it that has basic pc skills and keep laughing. Right before u banned him

god yes! ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

PhatGirlDynomite!!!
05-16-2017, 09:34 PM
Im in and out of this at the moment. I haven't had a chance to fully read the reasoning behind telling a cammer to just get the money. I know that's what we always say, but sometimes you just have to walk away. This scenario has gone too far and I don't see this turning into a prosperous situation. No injury added to insult intended but the hustle isn't that strong here. I think it's time to walk away with some dignity.

SophieEmerson
05-16-2017, 09:43 PM
Seriously, get out, get out now. The hard truth is this guy doesn't love you, he loves seeing your tits on the internet for free, as he probably does many other peoples boobies. Hell, who doesn't like free boobs? Stop bitching about his girlfriend and creeping on her facebook, it's irrelevant. He's a client, and apparently mostly a freeloader so ditch his ass and move on to the next one who actually pays.

Genoveve
05-16-2017, 09:51 PM
I do support other Women I just hate to see anyone get played. I rather not Sugar coat anything and be blunt.

I know I was agreeing with you.


I'm sitting here wondering how many of y'all got backup accounts...or you just been lurking since Jesus?

https://stupidcupidblog.files.wordpress.com/2014/08/fresh-prince-hmm.gif

This made me bust out laughing :rotfl:

Dorothea
05-16-2017, 10:25 PM
I want to apologize Dorothea for coming off to blunty and bitchish/catty however you want to say. I speak this way with my real life friends. and also I am a mother. SO Over-protective bitchified mommy mode engaged But realizing you are probably young and what happened to a friend. I Wanted you to understand and I don't want you to get your feelings hurt/hurt in general from someone who is a customer and take advantage of you because they know you are single and lonely.

thanks is all cool :)

Dorothea
05-16-2017, 10:28 PM
I still cannot get over the fact how real it all felt. I checked some emails and realized he did not tell me he has girlfriend until 3 months into it. Somehow I thought was from beginning.
I really don't understand why I fell for all this but this guy is good and somehow he knows what to say.

PhatGirlDynomite!!!
05-16-2017, 10:44 PM
I know I was agreeing with you.



This made me bust out laughing :rotfl:

LOL people showed up for this one.

lildevil_kittie
05-16-2017, 11:00 PM
LOL people showed up for this one.


Lol <3

DonaDiabla
05-16-2017, 11:14 PM
Yes, Phat, you are right.My reasoning behind telling her to just get money is because I would have did that. Of course, I would be hustling the whole way. I would have got one more tip from him and block him permanently. However, I went back read everything and feel that she should just block him. :)


Im in and out of this at the moment. I haven't had a chance to fully read the reasoning behind telling a cammer to just get the money. I know that's what we always say, but sometimes you just have to walk away. This scenario has gone too far and I don't see this turning into a prosperous situation. No injury added to insult intended but the hustle isn't that strong here. I think it's time to walk away with some dignity.

Dorothea
05-17-2017, 01:23 AM
One more thing was wondering but forgot to ask. How can a man in his 50s jack off almost every night on cam and still have sex with girlfriend?
anyway am too tired to analyze this anymore but I remember thinking that before so might as well post it

EricaErotica
05-17-2017, 04:58 AM
Dorothea,

To answer the question you posed above.....

Men think about sex dozens of times a day. Their minds operate on a constant state of arousal. Most men masturbate once daily. Some men even masturbate multiple times a day. That is just how they are wired sexually. If a man could have sex daily with another person he would do that too. Often the only thing that prevents a man from having daily intercourse is a partner who is too busy to have sex.

I only really get horny on the weekends. During the weekdays I am too focused on work. My husband would love to have sex 7 days a week. I only give it up on Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays. The only time we have sex everyday is when we are on vacation. When I am on a trip I am not thinking about work. So I am more relaxed and able to focus on sex.

miss.a.p1600
05-17-2017, 06:13 AM
You've been bamboozled.

Get out - before you fall deeper "in love" which by the way is just fairy tale lust.

You don't know the dude, he's broke, AND has some ball n chain he live with

Fuck a love, name one thing this dude has done to make your life better (not including sell you a dream)

Don't waste your Youth on smoke and mirror type dudes. You are in your prime and should be able to get any man you want - you do know there are millions more out there right?

Dont do this to yourself.....

politicsandporn
05-17-2017, 06:44 AM
.......

DahliaSimone
05-17-2017, 07:23 AM
sidenote: watching so many rally around and dispense sage advice to a fellow camgirl is super inspiring.

politicsandporn
05-17-2017, 08:58 AM
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miss.a.p1600
05-17-2017, 09:09 AM
Free porn is the devil. That's how you get viruses on your computer lol! All types of spyware n shit

But you're right not everyone is rich. Also his girlfriend is not wise to have her pics posted publicly on social media if she wanted privacy but the op is totally wasting her time Perusing Facebook oogling their pics and trying to analyze them

I just think both people are lonely and looking to fill a void. It wouldn't be healthy for either him nor her.

hyori
05-17-2017, 09:18 AM
Wow, fantastic thread of support and sisterhood!

All I have to say is, what if you did meet the guy? And things did progress? Wouldn't you then always wonder what he was doing while on his computer? Would you ever really trust the guy?

Why does he want you to come to him? He sounds like he wants all the cake in my opinion. It's an ego boost to have a beautiful, young camgirl "in love" with him when she could literally have any guy.

If you can detach yourself from the outcome, you could try milking this guy for all he has since he's being an ass. Also, pay attention to his points, if they keep accumulating and he's not spending on you, then most likely he's duping a lot of other cam girls. Some men just get off on being online casanovas since they can't do it IRL. In a way, womanizing men who are actually skilled at it IRL are better characters than guys who do it in virtual reality.

Also, when a man truly loves you, he will make a great effort to treat you well, respect you and treat you like a queen. There will be no question or doubt that he loves you. Don't you think you deserve that kind of love and not a fantasy that isn't real to any extent? Real love doesn't have you chasing a dream. True love is patient and kind. I know I'm quoting the bible and I'm nowhere near Christian but the best description of love that I can find is Corinthians 13:4-8:




4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

A lot of women don't think that real, true, genuine love exists for them because they don't believe they deserve it. You need to believe that it does exist and that there are kind, wonderful men out there and the perfect one for you will come and already exists just for you. Imagine how much more your life would be enhanced with a really loving man. The thing is, you don't really need a man, in the end it's really about loving yourself so much that when a man comes along he just happens to be someone that makes your life more interesting and not someone you need to revolve your life around. Statistics say that 1 in 12 people are your soul mates. That's a lot of soul mates. Don't ever settle for less that you deserve, you don't want to live your life half ass. You deserve a man who is available, who truly loves you and will make a big effort to gain your respect, trust and love.

When it happens, and it will, you will look back on this moment and wonder what on earth you were thinking. I know it's hard to to let go right now. It helps to see it this way, at least you know you're ready for love. That usually means it's just around the corner.

lildevil_kittie
05-17-2017, 09:27 AM
One more thing was wondering but forgot to ask. How can a man in his 50s jack off almost every night on cam and still have sex with girlfriend?
anyway am too tired to analyze this anymore but I remember thinking that before so might as well post it

I think it's best to just ban the dude you are still trying to figure out and make up excuses of maybe he is truly in love with you. I know you are in love with him.
We all have been there trying to come up with every excuse and analyze a persons actions and think ohh hes really into me and take up for his actions

Mind you I am not talking about falling for a customer I was just using as like finding someone real life or on some sort of dating website,etc.

A man in his 50s will jerk off almost every night and still be able to have sexual contact with a girlfriend or anyone. Especially if their libido is amazing and as well as if they are taking care of themselves health wise even if they are on Viagra or a natural vitamin regimen.

But, Yeah This is affecting you emotionally and you even mentioned of losing sleep over this guy when he probably isn't even phased with real love emotions considering him stating he Loves his girlfriend whom he probably lives with and they probably have some sort of Joint bank account so she watches closely to. He probably takes out money for gas or food and puts it aside on a different card to use on "his internet time on camsites". Which probably again why he hasn't taken you to a TRUE Private.

The ladies have gave really good advice and is telling you to ban him and Move on They see through this guy.

PhatGirlDynomite!!!
05-17-2017, 09:36 AM
If he is effecting your emotions and mental state to this extent I would ban him; no reason to keep stringing this along if it is having a bad impact - no amount of money is worth your well being (even if he was paying, which you made it sound like he isn't). I know not everyone is rich, but if he loves you so much wouldn't he at least treat you to the occasional private, even if only to help support you & keep a roof over your head? Surely boyfriends buy gifts for their serious girlfriend to impress, court, help, etc. - on camming this could be privates/true privates, it's really not that much money when you consider IRL people buy rings and all for their significant other, especially when they are 'in love'. Good luck. P.S. Stop stalking his gf, she has nothing to do with this and is 100% entitled to her privacy; sure, her FB may be public but certainly not with the intention of being critiqued by adult workers she knows nothing about because of the actions of her BF.

I wanted to give you an Amen to this one earlier but I was working. I really hope that this man's girlfriend is super successful, happy and amazing. Maybe it's because I'm in a relationship or that I'm a girls girl but it was getting under my skin how this woman is being critiqued. Luckily she's oblivious to it all. Or maybe she isn't. Maybe they have a relationship where she let's him have his online fun? I was just recently thinking about all the guys who buy shows from me who have their social media on lock down. They're friggin terrified that some chick may start poking around. But I have noticed that the ones who spend the most are also the most incognito. Anyone just entering the sex industry in any form should understand that these guys aren't just paying us for the services, but they're also paying us to go away afterwards. "You don't pay a prostitute to have sex. You pay her to leave" This is why they pay. Don't get it twisted. I feel like models who understand and respect boundaries as well as discretion are best suited for this line of work.

anonymous camgirl
05-17-2017, 09:53 AM
that MOFO is having a midlife crisis looking to escape with a pretty young thing.


The way I see it I have been extremely lucky to get his real name like that. He probaby had files on his computer with name and he is not aware. Seeing his real life really got me thinking.
He gave me some pics but he kinda looks different in them. Sexy and dressea dark colors. In pics with his girlfriend he looks different light colors and unhappy or bored. Not animated like on cam. The difference is huge I wish i could explain but cant post pics here of course.
He really looks unhappy there and happy with me. But it does not mean anything. He has friends, work etc and i doubt I fit into his life. I just dont see him as a man changing his life completely unless he would come to usa and live with me but can a man in his 50s want to change his life.
Also one of you wrote he does not want to meet me because he never told me his real name. That was secretive. I only got the name by accident.
From the looks of it his girlfriend either has family money or he pays her bills. There is no way she making anything with her online "business" sorry and 12 twitter followers. She looks happy he looks unhappy. I really dont know evegtythung but looking at some stuff on her facebook i found out date of their anniversary ( they not married is relationship anniversary) and looking back few months ago i see he frantically emailed me in that day and day befire and after like if he was trying to get away. If he was happy why would he not be radio silent in camland on their annversary?

these are just my thiugts my head is spinning from tears so not sure how it came out but need to share...

Marina Starr
05-17-2017, 09:57 AM
"What does it mean when a man this age gets interested in a female much younger who looks like his girlfriend?"

It should be:

Why would you give somebody that much of your power?

Why would a beautiful person like you chose to accept and engage in such poor behavior in the first place?

What does it mean when a much younger female find a man that's already taken so appealing to the point of obsessing/stalking?!

I can go on and on and on but this is a self-esteem issue. A person who doesn't recognize her self-worth.

Rispy_Girl
05-17-2017, 10:09 AM
Since he loves you say that you had a serious medical bill pop up and you need help. Ask him for $1000 to help you pay for it. He loves you and if he's a man he should want to take care of the girl he loves. You can pull stuff like this. One ploy I heard of is planning to meet him, have him buy the ticket, then have soemthing happen that results in you needing to go to the emergency room that night. Ask for money to help pay for it. Make it so suddenly you've become very sickly and need meds and could use help with that. Milk him! He just played you. Be sad and upset that a person had the audacity to play with your precious heart and make him drain his wallet on you. Make it so bad that his gf finds out and he's less likely to pull this bs again. You deserve better. You deserve something real.

I personally like dating guys who are already in a relationship, but I don't just date the guy. I date the guy and the girl. If I do only date the guy for some reason the girl and I meet and talk and I know that it's cool and that I'm not stepping on anyone's toes.

As for the desire to skype and what-not, charge. Charge extra for the inconvenience of getting on Skype. You can use SkyPrivate (I decided not to because I don't like the payment methods) or NiteFlirt to charge. If he wants to keep chatting with you charge for it. Say your email got hacked (hell let's make you have a stream of bad luck that he can fix with his money) and you got a virus on your comnputer because of it, so now you don't like using email. Sign up with a PhoneSex or a sexting site and give him that number, so he has to pay per message. If he's really that into you he'll be willing to and won't be able to help himself.

Honestly I'm betting that he's just a player who played you to get freebies, but if you make things dire and he likes you even a little you might get something out of him.

Good luck girl.

Dorothea
05-17-2017, 11:11 AM
wow wow wow!!!
I woke up today and came here amd found even more support!!! I felt so alone yesterday and now is like...it feels better and he can no longer take advantage I feel supported and am getting logical about it!
Thank you!!! all of you!!! you are so smart many of you and pointing out things I did not see
ok...

yeah this thing about draing him for money I can try but tried to suggest a pvt before and he backed away he is on some minimal budget almost same amount each time in my room like if he thought it over

Now am thinking if he truly loved me then yeah he would be like trying to impress me with ocassinal whale tip or something but no
He tips but is always small his tips are often the smallest in the room every other member tips more

He is kinda controling himself with that and being careful but suggesting skype and not even mentioning payment was insulting
I mean how about I do free skype with him so he can save his pennies for vacation with girlfriend right? lol
Yeah this is definitely not behavior of man in love with me or even thinking he is
In fact he also rejected my one and only suggestion he help with countdown once
just bullshit with these tokens of his but he also tips often is kinda tricky
Okay well possibly he cannot aford it maybe that is the case but he spemds some money on things trips - saw on fb - which i believe cost him more than a pvt would abd he did not even do one pvt

is okay - some guys dont like pvt and one on one they prefer group fun and social BUT then why suggest skype right? He been pushing that skype very shyly not really pushing just mentioning shyly sweetly after few months

Anyway there was no skype from me but he still comes to my room. He is not like the guys you say no to and they just vanish. He is always nice that way. That is why is difficult to just tell him to fuck off.

I looked at his girfriend fb and will continue doing that if I chose and is not really stalking. I would look at his rather however he has everythung hidden nothing posted there but one main photo name and that he male not even location and then some links and posts.
A couple of his friends comments on a post led me to his girfriend whose facebook is very open with his pics all over the place and is where I gained my knowledge of his life and I doubt his girfriend even knows what he up to.
Yeah as a camgirl I am inti keeping it all secret and I will never take advantage or anythung this is my job to just walk away like someone said but I also have the righ ti get closure and knowledge for myself so that info fell into my hands. I actually had his file fot a while until one day i opened it in a program and there in small letters was his name as creator in tiny print. I got lucky. If I did not I would have never even made this post and eventually starting doing skype with him already been writing about love and focusing on him when in my room and just also wondering if this is the man who is the love of my life and wondering if I will marry him.
Had completely different idea of his relationship thought they dont live together and dont have sex he told me they have no sex and he said he loved her but somehow I thought is more like a friends thing and he must be seeking romance and true love somewhere...he seems still like he is seeking somethung and looks very unhappy and different in all the pics on facebook with her like he wants to get away and only happier in one solo pic on his and very happy in what he send me the pics

Dorothea
05-17-2017, 11:17 AM
I think I will keep him around as client and of course say nothing and just back away from the romance but possibility of banning him comes close. However now is kind of entertaining to me almost and I need more closure on this because I am not sure why I even fell for all this. I kind of am into making money and for me to just ignore that and even consider free skype with him when I have so many tippers is just strange and dangerous I would even try to think this way. I started camming to avoid abuse , to make money and be free , to get away from abusive people in my life and is very important I do not fall back into some abusive situation and keep it cool because it was extremely difficult to get to free place and independence from abusers.

Dorothea
05-17-2017, 11:20 AM
that MOFO is having a midlife crisis looking to escape with a pretty young thing.

Yes I was thinking that too and considered it a sign that he really wants to be with me forever because he ready to leave relationship. Kept googling midlife crisiz and wondering if am going to get married to him because he never maried his girfriend over 16 years and maybe he still looking for the one.

EricaErotica
05-17-2017, 11:26 AM
Just move on. This old manipulative geezer is not worth your time or your mental energy. You need to work on your self-esteem. You need to go out and socialize with people in real life. Pursue your passions. Get out there and do things that you enjoy. You will eventually attract the attention of a man who you share similar interests with. This is exactly how I met my husband 19 years ago. I love animals. My husband does too. We met while we were both volunteering at an animal shelter. We worked together every weekend for 3 months and developed a friendship. I got to see what a sensitive, nurturing, devoted, and loving person he was even before our first date. By observing him for 3 months I knew he was someone really special and the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.

minniesoporno
05-17-2017, 11:27 AM
I still cannot get over the fact how real it all felt. I checked some emails and realized he did not tell me he has girlfriend until 3 months into it. Somehow I thought was from beginning.
I really don't understand why I fell for all this but this guy is good and somehow he knows what to say.

There is something out there called the long con-game. Similar to when cops go under cover. It will feel real because you have to go deep to play out the scenario and also get the job done. Then your mark wakes up and realizes it was fake the whole time.

Dorothea
05-17-2017, 11:28 AM
I think he has another account on camsite. He is never online unless I am on. Never. And he used to be online all the time. Not sure if he gave up other models or has another account which he logs into to see other models. He started being online only for me shortly after I started with the romantic talk. I just wonder.
And he is in my room whenever am on.