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Dorothea
05-18-2017, 06:32 PM
Actually saying am in love one day and next day being completely out of love would be off center. I appreciate all info and I need at least few days to process and eventually this will come to conclusion. I will update that when it does here maybe but right now am also quitting this thread (not the forum) and THANK YOU for all advice.
Icantdecide
05-18-2017, 06:40 PM
received long email from him today in which he confessed his love for me and this email is very beautiful
I seriously anonymous camgirl thank you for your post because I need this. He has a way about him that gets to me.
I read an interesting idea once- about relationships and people who cheat and say how awful their relationships are...
the grass that is watered most is greenest...so if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence- its probably because you worked on cultivating it more
I think you should look at yourself to figure out why you've bought his particular brand of bullshit
where will you both be in 10 years? in 20? ..the woman that put 16 years in deserves to be passively bullied on a forum she doesn't know anything about? idk
maybe she isn't naive- maybe she is smugly superior- maybe she is ridiculously happy with life? maybe her social media is complete horseshit?! like how many peoples are?
is it about winning power over him? men in general? about feeling valued or loved?
I just don't understand why you don't see the lunacy in all of this.
EricaErotica
05-18-2017, 06:42 PM
Hi Dorothea,
I mean this in the most sincere way. Please get professional help. You have mental health issues that need to be addressed. No one here on this forum is qualified to deal with mental illness. Best of luck.
hyori
05-18-2017, 07:25 PM
I used to wonder how on earth men would have wives and children all over the world without any of them finding out about each other. It's like one of those sad 60 minutes episodes.
lildevil_kittie
05-18-2017, 10:02 PM
We are all giving you advice but I don't think you are taking it and remain hopeful that you and this dude will end up together.
YOU want answers Break Down and ASK THE DUDE HIS REAL NAME info and things tell him that you are tired that he has a girlfriend and that you want to be with him PRONTO IF he is willing to tell you and do all these things then there you go.
One minute you hate this guy The next you are in love with him either or and STILL remain hopeful that you and him are going to run away into the sunset..
YOU want answers TRUE answers ASK THE GUY BE BLUNT If he ignores the questions tell him that since he cant answer a simple question if he is in love with you then what is the point? It isn't hard answers if you love someone enough and want to be with them.
I think it's time to sit down and email the guy or talk to him VIA IM and get your answers because WE really Don't know what to tell you other than from getting hurt to BAN the scumbag.
OTHER option go to a therapist and talk to him/her about these issues.
Blovely
05-19-2017, 03:19 AM
Hi Dorothea,
I mean this in the most sincere way. Please get professional help. You have mental health issues that need to be addressed. No one here on this forum is qualified to deal with mental illness. Best of luck.
We are all giving you advice but I don't think you are taking it and remain hopeful that you and this dude will end up together.
Go to a therapist and talk to him/her about these issues.
Yes, yes, yes. Being so invested in someone you've never meant an obsessed with someone who won't even give you his name or do cam2cam (I'm assuming you haven't since you said his Facebook pics look different than the pics you've seen) isn't "normal" or healthy. You should really talk to a professional Dorothea.
Shanda1836
06-03-2017, 06:07 PM
Wow, fantastic thread of support and sisterhood!
True love is patient and kind. I know I'm quoting the bible and I'm nowhere near Christian but the best description of love that I can find is Corinthians 13:4-8:
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
Dorothea, when I stopped to answer Hyori, It looked like you came to your senses. If you hadn’t done so, with all of the great advice you received, I will cry for you. I couldn’t quit reading this thread. I just came here to catch up since I have to cam until I replace my income, and found this great outpouring of sisterly love for you. I’m grateful that I clicked on this thread. I never met a cam customer. I had plenty of them give me their real names, phone numbers, emails, and addesses. They were the single ones.
Hyori, I do consider myself a Christian. I also consider you one. You freely help everyone and make time to answer everyone. I would have lost my mind when I needed to cam with very few resources if it had not been for you, all of your threads, advice, and youtube videos, and Jessie. I was 58 and crippled. I’m 59 and even more crippled. I still have a good body, Thank you God! But it takes work to make my face look 53.
You act like a true Christian. I have been able to make it with my freelance writing for almost a year. I just lost a steady but horrible client, and I must cam some more. I don’t have enough internet speed yet again, and I’m locked for a year and 2 months with the only ISP I could get then, and there is a broadband one available now that I might have to switch to and my credit isn’t good anyways…haven’t decided.
Shanda1836
06-03-2017, 06:24 PM
Now I have to go back to where I stopped reading this thread to find out why it looked like you had got smart, but now the ladies are sounding like you did not.
I believe Dorothea would be in this same situation if she was a nurse, legal seccretary, or astronaut She is not mentally well. To put all of you through 7 pages of advice to only say "I'm quitting this thread" is not only ungrateful, it is a sure sign that she does not live in reality. She does not want help nor will she take your advice. This is truly very sad. If she moves on, she will only find another man to obsess over unless she truly wants to get mentally healthy. I also think that Dorothea fed off of everyone's sympathy for her situation. I think she used the good nature of everyone who tried to help her.
You are correct Blovely, we are not mental healthcare professionals. But almost everyone gave her good, solid advice, and she ignored it. The road to hell is paved with good intentions. Everyone made me feel so good about this forum in this thread.
Dorothea
06-04-2017, 01:28 AM
I am very grateful for everyones advice and planned to and started writing many times but I have nothing new to report regarding this. It has been only a week , few days i took off then changed hours and with hige time difference ( few hours ) he was not even in my camroom yet since last time. So the only thing that happened so far was he wanted to send me something in pm another fun file and I wrote back I dont want it. I have been trying to keep a distance from this whole thing to better understand it and I noticed that on days he was not in my camroom but I was online I was much happier and made more money.
The posts that helped me the most were written by anonymous camgirl. I think I read these like ten times. Also other posts I took screenshots of almost all and read these once in a while. To say am ungrateful is really not fair.
I avoided the posts about me being not healthy mentally. I dont need to read that but thank you but whatever you dont really know me.
I will post more soon but only very little time passed since then time when my earnings skyrocketed and I was enjoying the success a bit and was just trying to be happy and forget things.
I will never get involved with anyone who is not single because I care too much about myself. I also do not go on that facebook anymore. Am not obsessing.
Nothing else to report at the moment but am not finished yet and will update again.
Dorothea
06-04-2017, 01:42 AM
Things got a little emotional for me there before. The cold buckets of water I got then from many of you and the hugs really set me back on track. I did not ban him but I feel a lot more in control and much wiser.
I am now thinking of him as someone with tokens and with his next visit to my camroom will see if I can handle it this way. Taking few days off from camsite was the first thing I did.
If he was single I might entertain idea of meeting him however like this he can go fuck himself to be honest. I seriously don't think I need to settle for THIS if I ever wanted to meet someone on camsite.
So thanks because with all of you being so supportive a dude cannot take easily advantage of a camgirl. You protected me with all the advice.
I also said am quitting thread now not forever.
If he ruins my mood in a major way next time am online, if I notice earnings drop - he is out.
PinkPopcorn
06-04-2017, 06:20 AM
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Seriously though, I am happy to hear that you are happier - that is the most important thing.
LadyGodga
06-04-2017, 11:32 AM
Things got a little emotional for me there before. The cold buckets of water I got then from many of you and the hugs really set me back on track. I did not ban him but I feel a lot more in control and much wiser.
I am now thinking of him as someone with tokens and with his next visit to my camroom will see if I can handle it this way. Taking few days off from camsite was the first thing I did.
If he was single I might entertain idea of meeting him however like this he can go fuck himself to be honest. I seriously don't think I need to settle for THIS if I ever wanted to meet someone on camsite.
So thanks because with all of you being so supportive a dude cannot take easily advantage of a camgirl. You protected me with all the advice.
I also said am quitting thread now not forever.
If he ruins my mood in a major way next time am online, if I notice earnings drop - he is out.
Thank goodness you decided against pursuing this man. It will benefit your mental health as in make you much happier in the long run. You will find your perfect man but not on cam. Any person that brings you down instead of raising you up to a point where your earnings suffer is not worth anything. Remember, you put your food on the table, not him. And you come first. I also don't think you're mentally unhealthy, just vulnerable. We all have done stupid shit for love, but that more so has to do with addiction. The serotonin levels. However, it does help to speak to a professional just to get it off your chest. It does not mean you are mentally ill by any means. No one here is qualified to diagnose you as having a mental illness even if they had a PhD in psychology simply because you are not their patient and they haven't spent time with you to be certain you are mentally ill.
Like I said, it would do you some good to speak to a professional just like how people speak to a professional when they experience death. To learn coping mechanisms and what steps to take next. Learn how to not let this happen again and differentiate your feelings between work and reality. I've been to many therapists in the past and the good ones will not judge you.
Shanda1836
06-04-2017, 02:47 PM
Dorothea, I could only go on what I read. At one point, you thought it was a game. I am very glad that you have taken some of the advice. I do not want to see anyone suffering from work in a business that is as tough as camming.
But you do come off as being out of touch with reality. I sure hope you keep up the strength and keep reading the excellent and caring advice from all of the ladies that came here to help you. They spent a lot of time on you for no money and poured out their hearts for you.
It was ungrateful and childish of you to just say you were not going to read this thread now. If you are young and vulnerable, as some people here think you are, then you can slide once. I am a realist, and I see that many ladies here are too.
I have been the recipient of this kind of sisterhood on here; mainly for technical and work related help, but none the less, I was extremely grateful for that help. I think you are too emotionally young to understand and appreciate what these ladies here have tried to do for you.
Dorothea
06-05-2017, 03:38 AM
Yes decided not to pursue him and no I never said am not reading posts but falling in love in camland happens and even on this forum are posts and plenty on ambercutie too from both guys and camgirls and some even got married. Is rare but happens and is not a reasom to seak theraphy. Decided not to pursue him because he is not single and I dont need this particular drama am turned off by mommas boys and by married attached men - am not into relationships where 3 people - 2 women and 1 guy are in and only guy benefits.
Anyway that is all and am into making money and make plenty but this stuff is real I really did fall for him and if he was single would go for it and it would not prevent me from making money on cam either as I have plenty tippers most of them higher than him.
Dorothea
06-05-2017, 03:49 AM
I am really glad that a lot of posts here woke me up. When anonymous camgirl wrote that the guy she met etc changed her atitude to camming that was a big one for me. I already noticed how I started to feel drama and I enjoy camming too much and dont want the experience ruined by some guy looking for a fuck.
LoraDoll
06-05-2017, 06:28 AM
I dont want to sound rude, but I think u see too much into it.
Normal guys come to cam sites, to kill time. Someone who is not a complete idiot, why would he lie about himself. Just u are so fascinated that he aint lied about his relationship and all. Is there anything special in that?
However, as we doing this silly job, I dont think that many of them think too much about us.They say what they say, but in reality, I don t think any of them would take us seriously. They come here to entertain themselves, and that is all we are for them.
So what should u do: do not tunnel vision. Really dont. Just my opinion.
I heared stories when someone met with custi and they live happily ever after. Idk.
hyori
06-05-2017, 08:24 AM
Hyori, I do consider myself a Christian. I also consider you one. You freely help everyone and make time to answer everyone. I would have lost my mind when I needed to cam with very few resources if it had not been for you, all of your threads, advice, and youtube videos, and Jessie. I was 58 and crippled. I’m 59 and even more crippled. I still have a good body, Thank you God! But it takes work to make my face look 53.
You act like a true Christian. I have been able to make it with my freelance writing for almost a year. I just lost a steady but horrible client, and I must cam some more. I don’t have enough internet speed yet again, and I’m locked for a year and 2 months with the only ISP I could get then, and there is a broadband one available now that I might have to switch to and my credit isn’t good anyways…haven’t decided.
Shanda, this is so touching, thank you so much for this. I haven't been reading or posting as much on here because I'm working on other projects that will hopefully get me out of camming altogether. If it works out I plan to share my road to success. Feel free to PM me anytime.
Shanda1836
06-05-2017, 10:36 AM
Hyori, I speak from my heart and the truth. I wish you all the success that you deserve. I never forget the kindness I receive and I consider it a huge blessing.
DonaDiabla
06-05-2017, 10:41 PM
Sorry, Dorothea, but I do not buy that whole mythos that tons of cam models and customers are getting married. Frankly, I believe that many of these alleged happy ending fairy tales are not happening on an massive scale. It rarely happens and it is always other factors at hand. Plus, most of those customers who created " I have fell in love with cam models" threads are doing so for either attention, are super naive, should be visiting girlfriend experience escorts,white knights looking for someone to save ,cheapos who use love to stop paying, looking for victims, and severely disturbed. Just read all of those threads on here and ambercutie forum. Do you believe that most of these customers who create those types of threads are well adjusted and nice guys who happen to fall for cam models? Usually, they are not.
They are same type of customers who also write " I am in love with this escort" and "Does this stripper likes me?" Just think about it on massive scale. Rarely, these threads are created by people who actually truly love sex workers as people. In addition, I do not believe that you should seek therapy but need to stop using cam sites as some sort of outlet for your loneliness.Seriously, camming is fun business but you should not get caught up in a few sweet sounding whipped cream lies just because you heard about some cam model and customer getting married on some forum. Maybe you should meet some new guys and go on out few dates to get gain some more perceptive. Good luck! :)
Yes decided not to pursue him and no I never said am not reading posts but falling in love in camland happens and even on this forum are posts and plenty on ambercutie too from both guys and camgirls and some even got married. Is rare but happens and is not a reasom to seak theraphy. Decided not to pursue him because he is not single and I dont need this particular drama am turned off by mommas boys and by married attached men - am not into relationships where 3 people - 2 women and 1 guy are in and only guy benefits.
Anyway that is all and am into making money and make plenty but this stuff is real I really did fall for him and if he was single would go for it and it would not prevent me from making money on cam either as I have plenty tippers most of them higher than him.
hyori
06-06-2017, 05:07 AM
I think Dorothea is doing fine now, when I reread her posts I see more of a battle between reason and desire and that's something we all can relate too. It's getting a bit bullish and harsh in here with the labelling and assumptions about her mental health and the way she handles her own business. Lay off already. Don't we get enough shit from trolls and customers? It was super brave of her to share her story and we have done the best we can to help her out with this situation.
Dorothea
06-06-2017, 03:31 PM
I think Dorothea is doing fine now, when I reread her posts I see more of a battle between reason and desire and that's something we all can relate too. It's getting a bit bullish and harsh in here with the labelling and assumptions about her mental health and the way she handles her own business. Lay off already. Don't we get enough shit from trolls and customers? It was super brave of her to share her story and we have done the best we can to help her out with this situation.
thank you Hyori!! and thank you for all the advice Everyone! really HELPED
As times goes by I feel like I really want to ban him am much happier when he not around. I don't like it how he tried to use me for sex as it seems what it was.
I am not doing it right now because I don't want him to know or think am so in love I cant even handle him in my room. He got a huge ego boost from me and my love notes and behavior and I will not give him another so he can go around thinking how he crushed me. I will rather take the tokens whenever he around as money add up and that part is cool and act like no big deal. It will make me feel better in the long run because I have the power. So far my changing hours fixed things as he is completely unable to join my room due to time difference it also skyrocketed my income as my new hours are better and gained some new regulars.
I am very grateful for all your help and am much calmer and see clearly and is what matters so thanks girls!! You all helped and took time to offer advice and is not the first time on this forum!