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rickdugan
11-11-2017, 07:01 PM
OP, I'm not going to keep arguing with women who, inexplicably, seem to be he'll bent on promoting the welfare of a deceitful pimp husband over your own. And their argument for why you are complicit in all of this and should just accept this is because you made the horrible mistake of actually trusting your husband. I guess trusting the word of your spouse is a crime to some around here.

One road leads to letting this guy leave you barren and ultimately dying alone. The other gives you the unique joy of motherhood and a future with you someday surrounded by grandchildren in your silver years. One road let's him deprive you of everything you could have and the other allows you to take control of your own destiny.

You know what to do.

Again, good luck as you work through this.

whirlerz
11-11-2017, 10:53 PM
Well I don't see anyone advocating for the guy, but w/EV..
Anyway, the choice is yours, I think those against it are saying consider how the child will be, knowing it wasn't wanted..& yes it does happen regardless, but this's being deliberate..
It's unfortunate you didn't tend to this earlier, when you would have had more time for choices & now having to make such an important decision w/ little time to spare & added risk

Ultimately, you & your future child will have to live with w/EV decision.
Again, best of luck

LoveyDovey
11-12-2017, 12:08 AM
If I were you, I'd divorce him as amicably as I could and keep him on as an employee. Don't fire him unless you have to. Tell him that you are at the point you are ready to have a baby now and if he can't hold up his end of the deal, then you'd find it best to part ways, as you guys want different things and you don't want to subject him to raising a child if that is something he honestly doesn't want to do. I am telling you, it's probably better to have a baby on your own than have it with someone who isn't completely on board. Your husband may wind up resenting you and your child and God only knows what could happen. And if you stay with him and childless, you'll wind up resenting the hell out of him. So whether or not you guys have a kid together, your marriage is going to take a hit.

So tell him you're ready to have a baby and if he isn't on board then maybe it's time to part ways so you can each live the way you want. Find a sperm donor and get to it. I think if you were to find a new guy, he may be grateful to know that there is no baby daddy in the picture. Your baby will know that he or she was planned and wanted. I'm not really sensing that your husband and you have a strong connection and divorcing him will leave you open to finding the man who will love both you and your kiddo.
Unfortunately, your child may or may not have a strong father figure, but at least they will know that you wanted them.

Good luck. This is just some advice.

Sam38g
11-12-2017, 12:43 AM
You need to make him miserable. Let him feel the wrath, disappointment & misery in your heart for a month.

Go off the pill, which means he wont' fuck you So what... don't fuck anyone only film solo videos. This way he don't have NOTHING new to jerk off too, so he isn't getting his sexual freak on at all with the cuckhold stuff. Learn how to edit & do all the stuff he does for you.

The past 13 years he has gotten his way. He has easily put you off & put work & shoots in the way to distract you. Remove all of them. Cut him off sexually, work wise & be a BITCH! Show him the resentment building in you NOW.

Give him $1200 & tell him to move out until after New Years eve. Let him experience the holidays without you. It will hurt, you will be lonely, but he needs to suffer life without you in it. He needs to feel the potential consequences in a real way.

You have 13 years of him training you to provide him with his kink & way. So he will fight back & try to manipulate you into the same patterns you both have been living in all this time.

He is easily replaceable, there are plenty of guys who can learn how to edit, upload & film porn. IT ain't that fucking hard. Where as finding a wife who will film porn, do cuckhold as a life style & income... Well, that is rare.

When you are feeling lonely get to doing stuff he does for your site & revenue. While he is out there on his own, he needs to be getting a job or work without you involved. Let him know in no uncertain terms that the gravy train he is riding can all disappear.

Write him a notice of eviction & job ending soon. AS in he has two weeks to find another place to live & a JOB. You need to have him sign it & make a copy for both of you. Then put up a calendar with his move out date & your ovulation schedule.

You can use this time to diversify the type of videos you shoot, learn how to edit & everything he does for you. You are way to independent upon him & his income is too dependent upon you fucking other men. Never let a man be in a position that you can't survive without him.

A two month breather or separation might be what he needs to feel that you wanting a kid is not something easily pushed off to a later date. Go off the pill, tell him you did.

DeepThoughts
11-13-2017, 06:07 AM
What an incredible conversation!! So I did some soul searching and although I was like 95% on board with what Rick is saying I have come to change my mind. Sam your humor has really helped me out on this one and Im just going to follow my plan to start trying at the end of December but Im gonna tell him. I will just stop the pill and tell him that is it Im not taking it anymore so one way or the other Im gonna have a baby cause I WILL go out and find a man to get me pregnant! I also know a ton of sexy pornstars that would happily give me a baby and I will fucking make movies and post it as cuck vids even!

Honestly if he wont do what he needs to do I will go out and get it. I want a baby and Im so ready for children so this has got to happen but I honestly dont think its gonna come to that.

I realize I may have put my husband in a bad light though. He is not controlling or pimping me out Im 100% in control of every detail of our life and Im a control freak so it kind of has to be that way or I freak out. Im the kind of person who doesnt even like other people doing my dishes because they dont know or follow my system.

My husband is a good 50% of my business and its 100% all owned by me but it wouldnt be anywhere near as successful and I wouldnt have gotten anywhere near as famous as I did without his marketing. There are a lot of people in this industry that have benefited from his ideas and they dont even know it! They just started using them and got rich!

Plus he is a total asshole of a guy but he is so fucking good to me. He will talk about anything and he really tries to fit himself to me so I will be happy. Sex work can be hard to do but he is like my rock.

What changed my mind was thinking about that moment when I find out Im pregnant and I have to tell him. I really dont want to tell him and have him be Shocked/Angry with me I want to be able to surprise him with the good news and celebrate it together.

Thank you to everyone who contributed it was so great to hear your opinions and Im thrilled you all responded cause you helped me out a ton in this!

Bahuba
11-13-2017, 08:45 AM
At the end of the day what matters is that you took control of your future and made your own choice. I think you’re doing the right thing to tell him and let the chips fall where they may, if a child is important to you.

rudemike
11-13-2017, 01:20 PM
Best of luck and don't forget to post baby pics. :p

Sam38g
11-13-2017, 03:37 PM
Best of luck & Do NOT post baby pics, EVER on the web.

PhatGirlDynomite!!!
11-13-2017, 04:16 PM
Best of luck and don't forget to post baby pics. :p


Best of luck & Do NOT post baby pics, EVER on the web.

This just made me laugh so hard. :)

Bahuba
11-13-2017, 04:42 PM
This just made me laugh so hard. :)

Sam is a treasure

Sam38g
11-13-2017, 09:02 PM
Awe, thanks ladies.

She is a porn star, so certain types once or if they know she has a child will target that child. Considering facial recognition software and stuff, it is best to be careful. I feel that no child's pics should be on the web due to pedophiles & such no matter who the parents are or what they do for a living.

The child's privacy is the utmost importance. While the poster probably doesn't have bad intentions, this isn't the proper place for kid's pics and it can be misunderstood.

Strongly feel that until a person turns 18 no images on the web. There are too many creeps in this world who stalk the internet for kids to groom. Kids of porn stars, cam girls & sex workers easily become targets even more sooooo. I barely post pics of my adorable pets online.

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On a positive note, I know plenty of adult children of sex workers of all types. All of which grew up happy, well adjusted & 95% have college degrees & great careers not in the adult industry.

SnuffleUffleGrass
11-13-2017, 09:24 PM
Awe, thanks ladies.

She is a porn star, so certain types once or if they know she has a child will target that child. Considering facial recognition software and stuff, it is best to be careful. I feel that no child's pics should be on the web due to pedophiles & such no matter who the parents are or what they do for a living.

The child's privacy is the utmost importance. While the poster probably doesn't have bad intentions, this isn't the proper place for kid's pics and it can be misunderstood.

Strongly feel that until a person turns 18 no images on the web. There are too many creeps in this world who stalk the internet for kids to groom. Kids of porn stars, cam girls & sex workers easily become targets even more sooooo. I barely post pics of my adorable pets online.

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On a positive note, I know plenty of adult children of sex workers of all types. All of which grew up happy, well adjusted & 95% have college degrees & great careers not in the adult industry.

Valid point. I'm sad Anna Nicole Smiths daughter is often in the media. Not a good thing to be honest.

rudemike
11-16-2017, 05:28 PM
I feel I may have to clarify. I was absolutely joking when I said post baby pics. Please under no circumstance should you post pics of your child on the web.

crystalize
11-21-2017, 09:35 PM
he's a major asshole cause he clearly doesn't want kids and was leading you on for 13 years. freeze your eggs asap and look for someone with the same goals.

RebeccaDTS
11-21-2017, 11:57 PM
Ok. Don't panic because you are 39 years old. Usually the beginning of menopause is in your late 40's. Everyone's body is different though. That's something everyone should remember. Lots of women in their 40's have had babies perfectly healthy and normal.
I wouldn't go out and find some random guy to try and get pregnant though... because after all this is 2017 it's not the 60's anymore and you don't know where or who they have been with before you. It's not the times of where you just get the clap and go get a shot there is a chance of risking your life.
Lots of women have trapped their husbands into having a baby before at least you know it's not some just random guy that you don't know.
I would tell him what you want and if he disagrees with you then tell him to hit the road. You can always do the insemination process and buy some sperm. Don't freak out over your age...Janet Jackson and Halle Berry have both gotten pregnant later in life.

Sam38g
11-22-2017, 12:02 AM
She has a plan of action & will be honest with her partner.

All we can do at this point is wish her the best of luck & happy fucking.