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Adelina
12-12-2019, 09:39 PM
Yes, this is a forum, and we are sharing our opinions. I think what many men do not realize is when they think they are still desirable, they very often fail to check whether their object of desire feels that he is desirable to her, too. It's like men feel entitled to young attractive women.
Bahuba
12-12-2019, 10:37 PM
Yes, this is a forum, and we are sharing our opinions. I think what many men do not realize is when they think they are still desirable, they very often fail to check whether their object of desire feels that he is desirable to her, too. It's like men feel entitled to young attractive women.
Not all of us. And many of us have a pretty good idea whether we're desirable or not. I'll give you that plenty don't though. Probably those make excellent customers.
Sweet_Julia_Loves_Money
12-13-2019, 06:17 AM
I'm not a fan of marriage in general, but I think I would.
MrDuckie
12-16-2019, 10:42 AM
I just read this article on Huffpost. It sort of goes along with this thread:
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/sex-worker-what-its-like-to-date_n_5dd6d273e4b0e29d728105d8?guccounter=1&guce_referrer=aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuaHVmZnBvc3QuY29tLw&guce_referrer_sig=AQAAAIXZO4cp6SIv9qw0OEd70t84oDc7 UjhyIzGZ5UF26rrSaI1YJh-rSLSlT2UB1Xp8Dh104Q_d8BMSRScHHY72H_aT8zFf7lJeF6HHR HmcVUqMN90_MGMgfuNeZBU8w-pDigUfJdOVQhN4LYT5rWoWKIPLGbx1LPMv6M4B9OQTvQWT
It's an awfully long url, but I tried it and it worked.
Bahuba
12-16-2019, 11:49 AM
Good article. The guys are really hilarious, in a sad way. I can't believe, after all the work she does to move to the next phase of her life, the one guy casually asks her to escort "for him" because he needs money.
Luckyguy09
12-18-2019, 08:46 PM
Yes, this is a forum, and we are sharing our opinions. I think what many men do not realize is when they think they are still desirable, they very often fail to check whether their object of desire feels that he is desirable to her, too. It's like men feel entitled to young attractive women.
I agree but I think the reason men don't check into that is because:
1. They believe they can "win her over" just like in the movies
2. They believe being financially successful will trump anything
That said, I prefer women to pursue me, or at least give me a few signals that it is ok for me to pursue her. I don't pursue women that have no interest in me. It's a colossal waste of time and it's demoralizing.
Adelina
12-19-2019, 08:55 AM
I agree but I think the reason men don't check into that is because:
1. They believe they can "win her over" just like in the movies
2. They believe being financially successful will trump anything
That said, I prefer women to pursue me, or at least give me a few signals that it is ok for me to pursue her. I don't pursue women that have no interest in me. It's a colossal waste of time and it's demoralizing.
Financially successful, that means nothing if he is not planning to share his resources with the chosen woman. I laugh when guys talk about how successful they are, then offer to go "to grab a drink" lol
Adelina
12-19-2019, 09:01 AM
[That said, I prefer women to pursue me, or at least give me a few signals that it is ok for me to pursue her. I don't pursue women that have no interest in me. It's a colossal waste of time and it's demoralizing.[/QUOTE]
Pursuing a woman is demoralizing? Since when? If a man doesn't have the balls to pursue me, he is not worthy of me.
Bahuba
12-19-2019, 10:53 AM
1. They believe they can "win her over" just like in the movies
2. They believe being financially successful will trump anything
You'd be surprised though. IMHO fame comes first - you have to see it to believe it. Then wealth. But it has enormous power - people say they'd reject it, then they don't. I think this may be unpopular on here, especially since the pink side here are largely professionals and they keep their heads around fame and wealth. We are talking about civvies, aren't we?
Adelina
12-19-2019, 11:06 AM
You'd be surprised though. IMHO fame comes first - you have to see it to believe it. Then wealth. But it has enormous power - people say they'd reject it, then they don't. I think this may be unpopular on here, especially since the pink side here are largely professionals and they keep their heads around fame and wealth. We are talking about civvies, aren't we?
Not civvies, the original OP's question was "Would You Marry A Woman Who Worked In Adult Industry?"
But you are right, Bahuba. The professionals are less impressed (fooled) by wealth or fame.
Honney
02-06-2020, 08:37 PM
I will marry her if she is the right person. Doing some job doesn't prove what kind of person she is. She, of course, has some other charms. And being a stripper just makes her sexier sometimes.
lover90210
02-12-2020, 09:44 AM
I am married to a former stripper who is a member of this site and I wanted to provide my perspective because so many of my wife's friends who are sex workers have bad relationships and have a hard time finding a decent stable man to settle down with.
They answer in a nutshell is complicated. I met my wife after she had stopped stripping and I married her not knowing she was a former dancer. At the time she was working a corporate job. I was a bit naive and should have known that since her sister and many of her friends where strippers than chances are that maybe she had been or is a stripper as well. Anyhow, she kept the stripping a secret from me until many years after we were married and after we had 2 kids. An ex-boyfriend who had been released from prision was trying to extort money from her by threatening to release sex tapes she was in and so she had to spill the beans. The fact that she didn't tell me prior to our marriage has had a profound negative effect on our connection as I don't know what else she has lied to me about and can't trust that she is telling the truth. So my advice to any sex worker is to not keep their work or past a secret from a potential spouse because it will affect the quality of relationship.
So would I have married my wife knowing that she used to be a sex worker. The honest answer is maybe.
If she was not an extras girl and prostituted herself while stripping I would have been okay with her stripper past and it would not have been an issue she needed to cover-up and keep from me. If she was a prostitute I would not have married her as I couldn't deal with that for a variety of reasons.
As for our relationship, It is less than ideal. We are not best friends, we don't have sex or have a close connection, and I know she doesn't love me. I was the decent guy with a good job she decided to settle down with. As for divorce, I have come close on several occasions but I stay with her because of the kids mainly as they deserve stability. Once the kids are off to college I am sure we will part ways.
I think in the end if you are a sex worker and want a successful relationship, honesty is the best policy even if it ends up costing you a few relationships in the process of finding the right guy who wants to be with you.
Just curious if you would wife up a stripper, escort, cam model, body rub girl, porn actress, nude model, burlesque dancer, etc......
miss.a.p1600
02-12-2020, 01:20 PM
^
95%of men cannot handle that kind of truth even though they say they want it.
Did you tell your wife about every single time you waltzed in the strip club, clicked on pornhub, or jacked off to some fetish she doesn’t know about??
lover90210
02-13-2020, 09:00 AM
You are right most men can't handle that kind of truth even though they say they want it. I know I would have walked had I known the truth. But there is also an even bigger risk to not telling the truth as in a ruined relationship / marriage after you and your partner have invested much time and effort into building a life.
As for me I was honest with her about my past and skeletons in the closet including my sex history, all the times I had been to a strip club (5 at age 27), my one fetish (I like beautiful female feet with nice toes and arches), and yes I like watching porn and she knew that.
^
95%of men cannot handle that kind of truth even though they say they want it.
Did you tell your wife about every single time you waltzed in the strip club, clicked on pornhub, or jacked off to some fetish she doesn’t know about??
rickdugan
02-13-2020, 09:32 AM
So lover, your theory is that she should have precluded herself from a high percentage of the eligible market by coughing up ancient history every time she got serious? Honestly, what she did before you is none of your business and the only reason it ever came up again is because of an absurd low probability situation.
Besides, it sounds like your marriage went to shit for reasons completely unrelated anyway, so that whole little diatribe sounds whiny and disingenuous. Also, if you know that she's a member of this site too, why in the world would you post this here? This is private business and should have remained that way.
I do wonder though how your marriage would have fared if you showed a little more loyalty to the mother of your children instead of searching for ancient history to hold over he head.
NitaBaby
02-13-2020, 09:56 AM
^^Where is a hand clap gif when you need it
Bloom2018
02-17-2020, 12:56 AM
I would marry a male adult industry worker. NBD.
The shame associated with women who openly express sexuality for pleasure or profit makes the job a deal-breaker for some men, but not all.
pinups4
02-28-2020, 06:53 AM
Most of my dates / relationships / whatever have been in or considering the adult industry. I don't look for that but I guess cuz it's kind of pictures I take it just happens. Actually I find them to be the most faithful partners or I guess faithful might need to be phrases honest since many of them have wanted open relationships but they've been up front about it. I think that good ones who stay off the drugs relatively or at least keep it recreational are some of the best business people I've ever met and even the ones I no longer with I still consider them on my top list of friends that I can count on is something really went bad so yes I am all for it. Not in comparison to anyone else I don't want to get into a debate that sex workers aren't better girlfriends than anyone else I didn't say that. I said my experience has been very positive
Sam38g
02-28-2020, 09:17 AM
I am married to a former stripper who is a member of this site and I wanted to provide my perspective because so many of my wife's friends who are sex workers have bad relationships and have a hard time finding a decent stable man to settle down with.
They answer in a nutshell is complicated. I met my wife after she had stopped stripping and I married her not knowing she was a former dancer. At the time she was working a corporate job. I was a bit naive and should have known that since her sister and many of her friends where strippers than chances are that maybe she had been or is a stripper as well. Anyhow, she kept the stripping a secret from me until many years after we were married and after we had 2 kids. An ex-boyfriend who had been released from prision was trying to extort money from her by threatening to release sex tapes she was in and so she had to spill the beans. The fact that she didn't tell me prior to our marriage has had a profound negative effect on our connection as I don't know what else she has lied to me about and can't trust that she is telling the truth. So my advice to any sex worker is to not keep their work or past a secret from a potential spouse because it will affect the quality of relationship.
So would I have married my wife knowing that she used to be a sex worker. The honest answer is maybe.
If she was not an extras girl and prostituted herself while stripping I would have been okay with her stripper past and it would not have been an issue she needed to cover-up and keep from me. If she was a prostitute I would not have married her as I couldn't deal with that for a variety of reasons.
As for our relationship, It is less than ideal. We are not best friends, we don't have sex or have a close connection, and I know she doesn't love me. I was the decent guy with a good job she decided to settle down with. As for divorce, I have come close on several occasions but I stay with her because of the kids mainly as they deserve stability. Once the kids are off to college I am sure we will part ways.
I think in the end if you are a sex worker and want a successful relationship, honesty is the best policy even if it ends up costing you a few relationships in the process of finding the right guy who wants to be with you.
Oh, he acts like there are a ton of decent good men out there & it is our fault for getting into relationships with bad men. Victim blaming when 1/3 of men have at least one past violent act in their past. And physically & verbal abuse happens to any woman at any income or educational background.
Or how about the fact that women are more likely to be murdered by their male domestic partner than anyone else. And how once she leaves he becomes more violent/ Not to mention most mass murder as in 3 or more victims is a man getting revenge upon the woman who left him, the kids & the family members that took them in..
Yes, I can see how from a male perspective a stripper or hooker past is way worse. (being extremely sarcastic here)
I don't value marriage or hold it up as the golden ring that I need to strive for. I never worry if I am good enough for any man, men worry if they are good enough for me & most of them fail. Since it is literally our lives on the line, it is men who need to live up to our standards instead of the other way around.
maximvsv
03-02-2020, 08:52 AM
Just curious if you would wife up a stripper, escort, cam model, body rub girl, porn actress, nude model, burlesque dancer, etc......
This forum is supposed to be customers asking questions of dancers. Nobody wants to post on the Blue side any more.
Regardless, back to an answer to the original question: I could, but with three caveats. I would not be able to be around while she was working--I cannot tolerate sharing attention. I would be consciously insecure about performance anxiety and unintentionally offending the woman. I would be insecure about money.
miss.a.p1600
03-02-2020, 10:17 AM
Well it doesn’t show up as “blue” when I’m on mobile
Also you assume women working in adult industry can’t be customers....I thought it would be better to ask customers of adult industry workers than to post in Lounge which is more random topics but perhaps this could have been posted there instead.
In addition it’s not that people can’t post on blue side, it’s more so that weirdos come on blue side trolling so they end up getting reported and banned as they should.
miss.a.p1600
03-02-2020, 10:20 AM
This forum is supposed to be customers asking questions of dancers. Nobody wants to post on the Blue side any more.
Regardless, back to an answer to the original question: I could, but with three caveats. I would not be able to be around while she was working--I cannot tolerate sharing attention. I would be consciously insecure about performance anxiety and unintentionally offending the woman. I would be insecure about money.
Can you elaborate on what you mean you’d be insecure about money?
maximvsv
03-02-2020, 12:04 PM
There are a lot of concerns and insecurities there that get folded into one.
I have a paternalist disposition.
I am insecure about my own income, to begin with. I would prefer to be making enough, on my own, to fund myself and a spouse. I would also prefer to be making more than my spouse.
One of my biases is that I think that a woman ought to not want to be in sex work. I would feel bad if I thought that she was in it or continued in it solely because there was not enough money for her from some other source. I would be insecure about having enough money and enough of an income that I could support my spouse, so that having money is not a factor in her being in it or continuing to be in it.
maximvsv
03-02-2020, 12:09 PM
Well it doesn’t show up as “blue” when I’m on mobile
Also you assume women working in adult industry can’t be customers....I thought it would be better to ask customers of adult industry workers than to post in Lounge which is more random topics but perhaps this could have been posted there instead.
In addition it’s not that people can’t post on blue side, it’s more so that weirdos come on blue side trolling so they end up getting reported and banned as they should.
I would think that it should go here:
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?163-Dancer-s-Discussion
It's no big deal, though. More, a lamentation of the lack of participation in that area of the site.
Bahuba
03-02-2020, 11:03 PM
This forum is supposed to be customers asking questions of dancers. Nobody wants to post on the Blue side any more.
Regardless, back to an answer to the original question: I could, but with three caveats. I would not be able to be around while she was working--I cannot tolerate sharing attention. I would be consciously insecure about performance anxiety and unintentionally offending the woman. I would be insecure about money.
No, both pink and blue can ask each other questions here. Blues post all the time, but as you may know blues were almost banned, so SW is not looking for quantity, just the few, the proud.
Sam38g
03-03-2020, 08:12 AM
There are a lot of concerns and insecurities there that get folded into one.
I have a paternalist disposition.
I am insecure about my own income, to begin with. I would prefer to be making enough, on my own, to fund myself and a spouse. I would also prefer to be making more than my spouse.
One of my biases is that I think that a woman ought to not want to be in sex work. I would feel bad if I thought that she was in it or continued in it solely because there was not enough money for her from some other source. I would be insecure about having enough money and enough of an income that I could support my spouse, so that having money is not a factor in her being in it or continuing to be in it.
I have many friends that have been married 20 plus years. There are plenty of ups & downs in careers & at different times either one was making more than the other. Less income at career changes, or lay offs and such, Neither were the top earner forever & getting divorced due to such circumstances was never an option. And in the beginning they were either both sex workers or just one was, what was important was working as a couple towards the same goals.
Luckyguy09
03-03-2020, 08:51 AM
Pursuing a woman is demoralizing? Since when? If a man doesn't have the balls to pursue me, he is not worthy of me.
It is statements like yours as to why some men turn into stalkers and don't know when to walk away when a woman says she's not interested. There is no winning over process like the movies. A woman either likes you (to various degrees) or she doesn't.
And to clarify because my post wasn't quoted correctly, it's demoralizing to pursue a woman romantically if you know she has no interest in you which is always apparent from the beginning.
Luckyguy09
03-03-2020, 09:38 AM
Did you tell your wife about every single time you waltzed in the strip club, clicked on pornhub, or jacked off to some fetish she doesn’t know about??
It's not the same comparison. Actually having sex live with other people is not the same as looking at a bunch of pixels on a computer screen. Men don't even have the ability to have as much sex, or have willing sexual partners as women do.
Also, when men do have sex, we don't bond as easily with sexual partners meaning we take it as just a notch under our belt and nothing further which is why a man can bed 3000 women and eventually settle down with 1 woman but you never hear of a woman who slept with 3000 men and became a happy normal housewife later on.
When it comes to sex and how men and women process and value it it is completely different.
95%of men cannot handle that kind of truth even though they say they want it.
You're right. But it's something biological. No man is going to be ok with knowing that his woman is a sex worker or use to be.
The only men who I have seen that truly don't care are pimps and male drug addicts who use women to make them money to buy drugs. In both of these instances men are using a woman body as a tool to obtain something else that they see is more valuable.
Luckyguy09
03-03-2020, 09:52 AM
So lover, your theory is that she should have precluded herself from a high percentage of the eligible market by coughing up ancient history every time she got serious? Honestly, what she did before you is none of your business and the only reason it ever came up again is because of an absurd low probability situation.
Besides, it sounds like your marriage went to shit for reasons completely unrelated anyway, so that whole little diatribe sounds whiny and disingenuous. Also, if you know that she's a member of this site too, why in the world would you post this here? This is private business and should have remained that way.
I do wonder though how your marriage would have fared if you showed a little more loyalty to the mother of your children instead of searching for ancient history to hold over he head.
His story is actually a familiar one. I have seen it play out over before. He thought he married what was actually presented in front of him but in actuality there was hidden baggage.
How is it that before people buy homes, cars, or even to hire an individual all want background checks but with relationships you're expected to go into it blind.
Regardless of gender if you're planning on getting serious with someone and starting a family your partner should be told if sex work was involved in the past and to what extent.
It's easy for you to criticize this guy because you're not in his shoes but how would you like it if the mother of your child and your wife had a secret life she didn't tell you about? It's not even just about sex work it could be 200k in student loans and unpaid credit card bills that was kept hidden how would you like that? Still going to be loyal?
DonaDiabla
03-03-2020, 10:27 AM
I have to disagree with this statement some what. Guys can have the ability to have as much sex and as many partners as they want. Tons of guys bed a lot of sexual partners. However, that was my experience with men. :) Also, not too many people want to settle down with people who had over 500 partners despite their gender. Frankly, the sex partner count does not determine how stable that person is going to be in an relationship. Also, there are tons of men do not care if they marry sex workers but they have to be secure within themselves. :)
It's not the same comparison. Actually having sex live with other people is not the same as looking at a bunch of pixels on a computer screen. Men don't even have the ability to have as much sex, or have willing sexual partners as women do.
Also, when men do have sex, we don't bond as easily with sexual partners meaning we take it as just a notch under our belt and nothing further which is why a man can bed 3000 women and eventually settle down with 1 woman but you never hear of a woman who slept with 3000 men and became a happy normal housewife later on.
When it comes to sex and how men and women process and value it it is completely different.
You're right. But it's something biological. No man is going to be ok with knowing that his woman is a sex worker or use to be.
The only men who I have seen that truly don't care are pimps and male drug addicts who use women to make them money to buy drugs. In both of these instances men are using a woman body as a tool to obtain something else that they see is more valuable.
Adelina
03-03-2020, 10:40 AM
It is statements like yours as to why some men turn into stalkers and don't know when to walk away when a woman says she's not interested. There is no winning over process like the movies. A woman either likes you (to various degrees) or she doesn't.
And to clarify because my post wasn't quoted correctly, it's demoralizing to pursue a woman romantically if you know she has no interest in you which is always apparent from the beginning.
I disagree. It's not always apparent whether the woman is interested in a man from the beginning. Unlike most men, who consider women's physical attributes the decisive factor whether he is interested in a relationship with her or not, a woman usually takes time to evaluate her potential partner's qualities. And it takes time to learn whether those qualities are up to her standards, or not.
And this: a stalker is someone who was clearly told that she was not interested, and he is still trying to pursue her. Someone who she is still potentially considering but she has not yet decided for certain one way or the other, is a prospect, not a stalker.
miss.a.p1600
03-03-2020, 10:49 AM
Bruh! Everyone has secrets
If this is the case NO ONE would ever marry and/or divorce rate would be sky high
Yes you are supposed to be MORE honest with your spouse but no one is 100% honest to anyone.
If husbands were more honest they’d admit they contracted clamydia back in ‘05, that they have sex addictions, that they are serial cheaters, and that they will spend money (that could be used on their wife n kids) on porn, that they have extreme fetishes they pay for behind their wives backs, and that they frequent strip clubs/get lap dances without their wives knowing.
The only thing spouses need to be aware of are past adult work that have a high certainty of affecting the present and future.
And dude never said anything about 200k debt so where is that coming from?
His story is actually a familiar one. I have seen it play out over before. He thought he married what was actually presented in front of him but in actuality there was hidden baggage.
How is it that before people buy homes, cars, or even to hire an individual all want background checks but with relationships you're expected to go into it blind.
Regardless of gender if you're planning on getting serious with someone and starting a family your partner should be told if sex work was involved in the past and to what extent.
It's easy for you to criticize this guy because you're not in his shoes but how would you like it if the mother of your child and your wife had a secret life she didn't tell you about? It's not even just about sex work it could be 200k in student loans and unpaid credit card bills that was kept hidden how would you like that? Still going to be loyal?
miss.a.p1600
03-03-2020, 11:02 AM
I honestly think there are holes in that guys story.....
Seems fabricated
How she go from working as a stripper in the past to her ex extorting her for sex tapes?
SugarCookies
03-06-2020, 11:26 AM
which is why a man can bed 3000 women and eventually settle down with 1 woman but you never hear of a woman who slept with 3000 men and became a happy normal housewife later on.
Not true, a lot of these high count men have "madonna-whore" complexes and the thought of settling down in a monogamous relationship is alien to them. I was reading through the Return of Kings/Roosh forum a few years ago and remember a thread where many users admitted that they just can't get hard for a "nice" girl-next-door type no matter how drop dead gorgeous she is.
Golden_Rule
07-11-2020, 11:02 PM
I’ve had a couple of longer term relationships with women in the industry. I don’t have a jealous bone in my body. I only care about how someone is with me, not how they are with anyone else.
So if it’s the right person I don’t actually care about anything other than if they’re a good partner or not.
miss.a.p1600
07-12-2020, 06:20 AM
^why would any “churchgoing virgin” want a hypocritical guy who’s been completely jaded from a plethora of past baggage-causing situations
If she’s wise she’ll chose a fellow churchgoing virgin like herself.
Bahuba
07-12-2020, 07:57 AM
^why would any “churchgoing virgin” want a hypocritical guy who’s been completely jaded from a plethora of past baggage-causing situations
If she’s wise she’ll chose a fellow churchgoing virgin like herself.
Good point
Violethollywood
07-12-2020, 03:21 PM
Ive been married twice. First time, i became a camgirl 2 years into our marriage. He loved the money i made. But he did get jealous bc he's stupid and thought i actually got horny to these rqndom guys, kept explaining it was just an act, a job, he was insecure. He actually cheated on me a bunch. I never did. I left him after 7 yrs. My 2nd husband who is still my husband knew i was a camgirl before. I got back into it after i had lost my job, he loves it. In the beginning he even did it with me making couple videos. There are guys out there that aren't total insecure idiots who won't tear you down for your line of work. And chances are they got a bigger dick and are hotter than the last guy you were with. Just saying lol. Guys who get jealous about your work --that's small dick energy. Point blank period.
Golden_Rule
07-12-2020, 08:24 PM
Ive been married twice. First time, i became a camgirl 2 years into our marriage. He loved the money i made. But he did get jealous bc he's stupid and thought i actually got horny to these rqndom guys, kept explaining it was just an act, a job, he was insecure. He actually cheated on me a bunch. I never did. I left him after 7 yrs. My 2nd husband who is still my husband knew i was a camgirl before. I got back into it after i had lost my job, he loves it. In the beginning he even did it with me making couple videos. There are guys out there that aren't total insecure idiots who won't tear you down for your line of work. And chances are they got a bigger dick and are hotter than the last guy you were with. Just saying lol. Guys who get jealous about your work --that's small dick energy. Point blank period.
Being jealous is always only about two things.
it’s either one doesn’t think they can hold onto the person they want. In which case they should be looking inward, asking themselves why they think that.
it’s about lack of trust in the other. In which case one needs to ask why, and if it’s because they gave you cause look for someone else. If it’s because you can’t trust, see above.
merlinus111
07-14-2020, 01:30 AM
This is a very interesting question. For me I would not have a problem with it. A lot of men have trouble seperating fact from fiction and think that they'll have endless sex parties not realising that strippers etc are human beings that need care and attention like anybody else. I hope I know better. If I was so fortunate as to meet someone from the adult industry I wouldn't take her for granted. I would make sure she was cared for and looked after.
Adelina
07-14-2020, 07:48 PM
I became a thousand times more conservative after I had entered the industry. If I told you how long it has been since I have had a sexual relationship with a man, you wouldn't believe me. This job did wonders for my abilities to screen men. I am not easily impressed and will hold out for the right guy no matter how long that takes. My real life is 180 degrees opposite of what SC customers might envision lol
jack0177057
07-18-2020, 01:56 AM
I don't know if it's maturity or that I've gotten more open minded and/or kinky with age. When I was in my 20s and 30s, my attitude would have been something like this: you're MY girl and I am the ONLY man that can touch and feel your body. Those are my tiddies and my ass and I don't share my gold with anyone... And, vice versa, I'm all yours, baby; you hold the key to my heart and my dick... But, my attitude now (early 40s) would be different, I'm less possessive. It would be something like this: as long as YOU can handle being in the adult industry and you don't drink too much or do drugs or put yourself in any physical or psychological risk, I support whatever you want to do. And, it's actually kind of sexy to be married to a sex goddess that many men lust after, but, she comes home to me every night.
Golden_Rule
07-18-2020, 02:26 AM
I don't know if it's maturity or that I've gotten more open minded and/or kinky with age. When I was in my 20s and 30s, my attitude would have been something like this: you're MY girl and I am the ONLY man that can touch and feel your body. Those are my tiddies and my ass and I don't share my gold with anyone... And, vice versa, I'm all yours, baby; you hold the key to my heart and my dick... But, my attitude now (early 40s) would be different, I'm less possessive. It would be something like this: as long as YOU can handle being in the adult industry and you don't drink too much or do drugs or put yourself in any physical or psychological risk, I support whatever you want to do. And, it's actually kind of sexy to be married to a sex goddess that many men lust after, but, she comes home to me every night.
Just be understanding enough to know that, after dealing with testosterone for a full shift, she’s apt to be slightly less tolerant of yours. Not all the time, but often enough.
if you can manage that it will be fine on the days she’s nor suffering from over exposure to the male libido. ;D
jack0177057
07-22-2020, 05:04 PM
Just be understanding enough to know that, after dealing with testosterone for a full shift, she’s apt to be slightly less tolerant of yours. Not all the time, but often enough.
if you can manage that it will be fine on the days she’s nor suffering from over exposure to the male libido. ;D
I have a high libido. At least once a day would be ideal and less than four times a week would be a deal-breaker for me, regardless of whether she works in the adult industry or in a church.
Djoser
07-22-2020, 06:57 PM
Guys who get jealous about your work --that's small dick energy. Point blank period.
There are guys with giant schlongs who get jealous too. Just a few less of them maybe, and they learn to 'rise above' it a little easier. ;D
miss.a.p1600
07-23-2020, 06:32 AM
Hahah... like that play on words
Raziel
07-29-2020, 02:38 PM
To go a little deeper than my earlier comment, if i loved her i would marry her. I don't know that i could marry an active escort, though. Just don't like the idea of some other dude sticking his dick in my girl, for any reason. Just a recipe for disaster. Nothing against Escorts, just a hangup i have. An EX-escort is fine, if i loved her. I'd marry a Stripper in a heartbeat if i loved her, or a camgirl, or pretty much everyone else.
Sam38g
07-30-2020, 07:00 AM
His story is actually a familiar one. I have seen it play out over before. He thought he married what was actually presented in front of him but in actuality there was hidden baggage.
How is it that before people buy homes, cars, or even to hire an individual all want background checks but with relationships you're expected to go into it blind.
Regardless of gender if you're planning on getting serious with someone and starting a family your partner should be told if sex work was involved in the past and to what extent.
It's easy for you to criticize this guy because you're not in his shoes but how would you like it if the mother of your child and your wife had a secret life she didn't tell you about? It's not even just about sex work it could be 200k in student loans and unpaid credit card bills that was kept hidden how would you like that? Still going to be loyal?
And men should fully disclose if they have any mentally & physical abuse against past partners. Since 1/3 of men have at least once been physically violent with their sexual partner. And if so then they should be banned from ever entering a relationship again. They more so should remove themselves from society & have a worst stigma than women who have been sex workers.
miss.a.p1600
07-30-2020, 07:19 AM
^that would ban 90% of men lol!!!
Raziel
07-30-2020, 10:31 AM
And men should fully disclose if they have any mentally & physical abuse against past partners. Since 1/3 of men have at least once been physically violent with their sexual partner. And if so then they should be banned from ever entering a relationship again. They more so should remove themselves from society & have a worst stigma than women who have been sex workers.
As a man, i agree.
But the ones who don't do that... Just don't do it. The ones that do... will never tell you that they do. I would never strike a woman, One woman i was with cheated on me all the time, still never struck her. I just got the fuck out of that relationship.