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lurkingtitties
03-21-2018, 06:18 PM
OMG I just looked up kids eating Tide pods I had no idea that was a thing!
We had a rabbit like you
03-21-2018, 08:07 PM
What about clips or camming?? Boob touching is light to medium contact in most areas so a lot of the girls don’t like it basically insinuated we are less or dont have standards for allowing it .I know you may not have meant it that way but yea.
This is a very competitive industry where you’ll be working w/ girls who have looks, hustle, and allow more contact (if you go to a club that’s any good or busy) so ppl are just trying to be realistic w/ the questions you’re asking
RyanXO
03-21-2018, 08:18 PM
^Yea I was thinking camming too because then you don’t have to have physical contact. And just a thought though it’s not really “adult” or greatest pay, but a waitress at Hooters or something?
tempest666
03-21-2018, 08:22 PM
Are peep shows even a thing anymore? I worked at one in Albuquerque and I loved it.
chanzep
03-21-2018, 08:29 PM
Interesting thread, from what I read I do not think dancing is for the OP, Guys will try and touch your boobs and everywhere else in most clubs because that's how it is nowadays esp in money clubs. Also if you go to a club with the same attitude you have on here then the "washed up old veterans" will most likely have you fired/beat you up/make your life hell.
chanzep
03-21-2018, 08:30 PM
Are peep shows even a thing anymore? I worked at one in Albuquerque and I loved it.
The only ones I knew of here and the UK closed down.
chocolatebombshell
03-21-2018, 08:32 PM
I mean I don’t like the random men touching,grabbing,and trying to suck my tits...but it’s to be expected.
Most of the replies were pretty legit,but it just seems like you just don’t enjoy that type of work. Nothing wrong with it,but there’s soooo many ways to make money in this industry if you decide dancing isn’t for you in the end.
_Elle_
03-21-2018, 09:09 PM
Boob touching is the norm in a lot of places for sure but boundaries are a personal thing. Just because someone is not comfortable with something doesn't mean they look down on others for having different boundaries. I'm far more interested in what I am doing and how I make money rather than what other people are doing/not doing. I agree with the above post that there are so many ways to make money in this industry and you just gotta do what works for you. I also kind of see judgment being passed both ways- just because you don't like certain types of contact doesn't mean you can't make any money/shouldn't be dancing. It just depends. I am lucky enough to work in an area where boob touching is NOT the norm. I am fully aware that big city type clubs are not for me but I can still do just fine in my small club working within my comfort zone.
Personally having my boobs grabbed triggers some bad childhood memories- it took me awhile to figure out this correlation but there is a specific reason why it upsets me. So for me it is just an off limits thing that I prefer not to deal with. Boundaries are an interesting thing- I am far more comfortable in a club environment than I ever would be camming...even though the club has the potential to put me in more potentially stressful situations.
RyanXO
03-21-2018, 09:22 PM
OP, I’m not sure what’s left to say, everyone has given all the good advice. No one is judging you if you don’t want your boobs touched. If that is your boundary stick to it nothing wrong with that. Just keep in mind that will limit your dancing prospects and like others said, guys will grab you anyways without warning and there’s no way to avoid it. Try another avenue in the business there are options that don’t involve touching. Good luck to you.
Taetum Jae
03-21-2018, 11:18 PM
OP, I’m not sure what’s left to say, everyone has given all the good advice. No one is judging you if you don’t want your boobs touched. If that is your boundary stick to it nothing wrong with that. Just keep in mind that will limit your dancing prospects and like others said, guys will grab you anyways without warning and there’s no way to avoid it. Try another avenue in the business there are options that don’t involve touching. Good luck to you.
*Kisses*
Taetum Jae
03-21-2018, 11:20 PM
Boob touching is the norm in a lot of places for sure but boundaries are a personal thing. Just because someone is not comfortable with something doesn't mean they look down on others for having different boundaries. I'm far more interested in what I am doing and how I make money rather than what other people are doing/not doing. I agree with the above post that there are so many ways to make money in this industry and you just gotta do what works for you. I also kind of see judgment being passed both ways- just because you don't like certain types of contact doesn't mean you can't make any money/shouldn't be dancing. It just depends. I am lucky enough to work in an area where boob touching is NOT the norm. I am fully aware that big city type clubs are not for me but I can still do just fine in my small club working within my comfort zone.
Personally having my boobs grabbed triggers some bad childhood memories- it took me awhile to figure out this correlation but there is a specific reason why it upsets me. So for me it is just an off limits thing that I prefer not to deal with. Boundaries are an interesting thing- I am far more comfortable in a club environment than I ever would be camming...even though the club has the potential to put me in more potentially stressful situations.
Omg I love you!
Taetum Jae
03-21-2018, 11:26 PM
I mean I don’t like the random men touching,grabbing,and trying to suck my tits...but it’s to be expected.
Most of the replies were pretty legit,but it just seems like you just don’t enjoy that type of work. Nothing wrong with it,but there’s soooo many ways to make money in this industry if you decide dancing isn’t for you in the end.
That's the thing though I love everything else about dancing except certain contact ehhh oh well. Don't get me wrong I understand that things happen some guys are jerks but allowing is different than a mistake and that's what some girls aren't grasping.
vanessa_mtl
03-22-2018, 12:35 AM
That's the thing though I love everything else about dancing except certain contact ehhh oh well. Don't get me wrong I understand that things happen some guys are jerks but allowing is different than a mistake and that's what some girls aren't grasping.
Oh newb stripper tell me what I don't grasp that you do... with your vast experience. I've worked in clubs that had every level of contact, including only air dances. And have made money in all. Know that you need to be a Barbie basically to make money with zero touching from dancers or customers. The women who work air dance clubs successfully that I know have 18-20% body fat, do good to crazy good stage, and are mostly veterans of the industry if not the club. The best have regulars many from days when they used to work contact...you are coming here new with no skills, an attitude, no clientele, and when people tell you good luck most money clubs are contact, they're right, the existence of no contact is because of moralistic bylaws, most places are at least one way contact now.this industry is dying compared to what it used to be. It is dying fastest in bikini and air dance bars. .Your responses have been pretty rude you have to be nice and civil to people for them to want to make money with you. Contact or not.
So good luck! lol
tempest666
03-22-2018, 12:50 AM
To get back to the OP there is no way in hell that boob grabbing won't be the norm in Tampa. It was even when I was there nearly 10 years ago.
indiegirl
03-22-2018, 01:07 AM
I have thought the same thing for a long time and can't figure it out. My problem is, I fucking hate working. I used to blow through job after job and just absolutely hate doing them. I thought it was the job for a while but it really isn't. After running my own business completely unrelated to this entertainment industry, I learned how much I fucking hate working. If it doesn't involve people then I'd be not doing substances yet still hating the job with a passion counting down the minutes I get to leave. If the job involves people I just absolutely dread it and will booze it up or get the weed out. It's a vicious cycle. I just want to nap all day. Basically I'd like to be a stay at home mom.....without having kids LOL.
Daniellaa
03-22-2018, 01:10 AM
If you're not doing as much as your club allows sorry but you won't be making much money. And your original post is asking if dancing just might not be for you but you seem to not want to accept it when 1 or 2 or 10 people tell you it isn't for you. Are you holding out until one person lies to you and tells you it seems like you're a great fit for dancing and will make plenty of money without letting customers touch you?? I guess just go for it, get hired and see how it goes }:D
We had a rabbit like you
03-22-2018, 07:26 AM
Even if you ARE a barbie w 10-20% body fat, guys will expect it..I work in a very prudish city where air dances 2 feet away is the law and nobody follows those, I had a guy complaining that all the girl offered in VIP was boob touching and she was definitely a “9 +.” This was a very upscale club. So good luck, in the mid tier and dives girls are working their butts off for 20 dollar dances allowing the extent of contact common to their club and more , just to get a competitive edge. Your lateral whoreohobia will not serve you well
thehester2
03-22-2018, 09:21 AM
Also, a lot of men already struggle with feeling like pervs when they come in, they don't want a dancer reinforcing the idea (whether or not they really are is another thread worth of arguing).
Interesting, this is something that is obviously true that I had not been able to put into words before now. If you have more thoughts on the subject from more of a how to deal with custies that have that it might make an interesting hustle hut discussion.
Taetum Jae
03-22-2018, 09:57 AM
I have thought the same thing for a long time and can't figure it out. My problem is, I fucking hate working. I used to blow through job after job and just absolutely hate doing them. I thought it was the job for a while but it really isn't. After running my own business completely unrelated to this entertainment industry, I learned how much I fucking hate working. If it doesn't involve people then I'd be not doing substances yet still hating the job with a passion counting down the minutes I get to leave. If the job involves people I just absolutely dread it and will booze it up or get the weed out. It's a vicious cycle. I just want to nap all day. Basically I'd like to be a stay at home mom.....without having kids LOL.
Omg yessss lol
Taetum Jae
03-22-2018, 10:04 AM
If you're not doing as much as your club allows sorry but you won't be making much money. And your original post is asking if dancing just might not be for you but you seem to not want to accept it when 1 or 2 or 10 people tell you it isn't for you. Are you holding out until one person lies to you and tells you it seems like you're a great fit for dancing and will make plenty of money without letting customers touch you?? I guess just go for it, get hired and see how it goes }:D
Yeah it quickly went left not my intentions or expectations and no I didn't want lies I really created the thread for future newbies too because alot of the points I already knew/follow. I guess I'm too thoughtful lol. I'm not opposed to touching period I just wanted to see if there are ways around intimate touching I know each club is different so I'm not gonna give up just yet because my first club was cool with the contact situation but the money was comical.
SuperJa
03-22-2018, 02:15 PM
Are peep shows even a thing anymore? I worked at one in Albuquerque and I loved it.
God damn I wish! Everybody I've talked to who worked one says they were a blast.
All the ones we have here now are just booths where guys go to watch porn.
Aurora_Sunset
03-22-2018, 04:41 PM
The name-calling and snark is getting out of hand quickly in this thread. I feel like Tempest answered your question originally without it intending to be directed derogatorily toward you, and was more of a general statement of the types of personalities she thinks do or don't make it in strip clubs. Things have clearly spiraled from the initial misunderstanding. OP, I wish you the best in your decision and endeavors, but if you're going to stick around here, you're going to need to follow the rules of interaction that you agreed to upon signing up. If you think someone was out of line, you should report it instead of fueling the fire.
Thread cleaned to keep original question and answers on topic
Girl Anachronism
03-23-2018, 08:00 AM
you said you don't dance in tampa but the club you mentioned is in tampa, and FYI i have read the full tuscl reviews and it IS one of the cleaner clubs around that area, by far, but boob touching is a thing there. the only other 'thee dollhouse' is in myrtle beach and it seems like there's even more contact/extras there. so either way you will have that issue.
also in response to "I just wanted to see if there are ways around intimate touching"
there can be, but with your attitude and being so new you just won't be able to make that work IMO. like i said... one girl told you to tell guys your boobs are sore cuz you're on that rag, and you seemed to think that's a reasonable idea. that alone tells me you don't have the experience needed to get away with doing less than other girls and still make money. i've worked in extras clubs and still made money without doing them but it was less than the other girls and it sucked tbh. very draining.
there's another recent thread about how much the industry has gone downhill and how too many girls are coming into stripping, escorting, camming, porn ETC with an unrealistic view of it. that is just the shitty reality. it seems as though you think that changing clubs will solve the problem but it's a problem pretty much everywhere. i highly suggest waitressing, maybe start at a smaller club to gain experience then go to a nicer one. it takes time but i have worked with some waitresses at bigger clubs who make just as much as the dancers if not more than a lot of them.
Taetum Jae
03-23-2018, 11:08 PM
you said you don't dance in tampa but the club you mentioned is in tampa, and FYI i have read the full tuscl reviews and it IS one of the cleaner clubs around that area, by far, but boob touching is a thing there. the only other 'thee dollhouse' is in myrtle beach and it seems like there's even more contact/extras there. so either way you will have that issue.
also in response to "I just wanted to see if there are ways around intimate touching"
there can be, but with your attitude and being so new you just won't be able to make that work IMO. like i said... one girl told you to tell guys your boobs are sore cuz you're on that rag, and you seemed to think that's a reasonable idea. that alone tells me you don't have the experience needed to get away with doing less than other girls and still make money. i've worked in extras clubs and still made money without doing them but it was less than the other girls and it sucked tbh. very draining.
there's another recent thread about how much the industry has gone downhill and how too many girls are coming into stripping, escorting, camming, porn ETC with an unrealistic view of it. that is just the shitty reality. it seems as though you think that changing clubs will solve the problem but it's a problem pretty much everywhere. i highly suggest waitressing, maybe start at a smaller club to gain experience then go to a nicer one. it takes time but i have worked with some waitresses at bigger clubs who make just as much as the dancers if not more than a lot of them.
Thanks Hun. Oh and the current club I'm at is about 40 minutes away from my location so not connected to Tampa but not crazy far either but I see that the same situation applies. The sore boob situation was more of a funny excuse that may help once in a while rather than something I can legit use. I'm getting a part time job like I told one girl before so I won't be dependent on dancing money.
Piper328
03-29-2018, 09:01 AM
If you leave the club feeling dirty. Not physically dirty as in covered in sweat and grime (I feel like that every night lol) but mentally/emotionally dirty, as if you were violated.
If you're uncomfortable with strangers making both rude and catcall type remarks at you, looking at you, oogling you, and feeling you up.
If you can't go a shift without getting drunk or high because you wouldn't be able to bear it otherwise.
If you're naive in general, then the club scene can actually get dangerous. A club in my home city is actually known for targeting victims of trafficking. (i've even heard some of the girls that have worked there, have assisted in picking up victims.) A lot of scary things can happen to you if you trust the wrong person, even for a second.
If you're thin skinned, insecure about your appearance or body, or don't take insults, criticism or rejection well.
If you have to think for even a moment if you're okay with showing off your body to random people every night.
If you're the type that gives in to peer pressure. My sister joked about dancing and I know she never would, but she would not be suited in this industry because throughout her life she has been the one to say yes to drinking, cigarettes, weed, getting in trouble with her friends. All it takes is one time. One customer or coworker asking if you want some cocaine or shit (which has happened to me) and then you're hooked and your life will go downhill.
If word got out that you're a stripper, would you feel embarrassed, guilty or ashamed? There are only a handful of people that know for me, but to them I'm proud and open about my job, and love talking about dancing, outfits, makeup etc for it. If everyone knew it wouldn't be that big a deal to me. But I know for some people they would hate themselves if people found out because they wouldn't be able to own it or give the boot to those people in their lives / clean their reputation in their town. Don't assume that because the club is 40 mins, an hour, 5 hours, or across the country that nobody will ever find out. As long as you do anything there is always a chance of it getting out and spreading like wildfire.
Honestly everything that you've said so far just makes me think you're better off with something else as a job. I would say if you really wanted to do sex work, try camming? Or maybe even look into something like working at Hooters. Or even waitressing at a club, like mine where the waitresses and shot girls dress sexy but don't have to deal with what the dancers have to. Just a thought.
Plutoniangirl
03-30-2018, 01:33 PM
I work in the Chicago area. It is low contact and we make money. Breasts getting grabbed will get your customer embarrassed by the bouncers. I see you are in Florida and from what I’ve heard, it’s notirioudly dirty out there. I feel like anyone can make money dancing if their atmosphere is positive as well as your mindset. Try out a clean club or even a bikini bar before going full blown strip club.
Taetum Jae
04-06-2018, 10:03 PM
I work in the Chicago area. It is low contact and we make money. Breasts getting grabbed will get your customer embarrassed by the bouncers. I see you are in Florida and from what I’ve heard, it’s notirioudly dirty out there. I feel like anyone can make money dancing if their atmosphere is positive as well as your mindset. Try out a clean club or even a bikini bar before going full blown strip club.
Yea it is filthy babe and thanks for your understanding and support I might visit Chicago one day. Your so lucky lol and your right about the positive vibes too I got a little job right now for dependable cash. I was going to start off at a bikini bar but was worried that it'll be a waste of time so I just went for the topless clubs I never did full nude but I'd definitely work at a full nude/low or no contact compared to a topless full contact club but fl of course doesn't have those here so full nude in Florida is so not negotiable.
nostalgie
04-09-2018, 02:49 PM
hey babe u can totally set ur own rules when it comes to dances u can tell ur customer to not touch ur breasts and make sure u tell him that after u get ur money up front. why let these men feel u up for x amount of dollars when u can make the same if not more not letting them touch. ?
Taetum Jae
04-14-2018, 09:04 PM
hey babe u can totally set ur own rules when it comes to dances u can tell ur customer to not touch ur breasts and make sure u tell him that after u get ur money up front. why let these men feel u up for x amount of dollars when u can make the same if not more not letting them touch. ?
Very true and trust me I can't allow it so much so to the point I'm already working a vanilla job on the side, as soon as I got my so called wake up call. I feel that it steps outside of the "fantasy" aspect to me and is far too intimate.its hard to make clean money in my state, not as bad as Cali/LA though from what I have heard yikes!
SnuffleUffleGrass
04-15-2018, 06:33 AM
Very true and trust me I can't allow it so much so to the point I'm already working a vanilla job on the side, as soon as I got my so called wake up call. I feel that it steps outside of the "fantasy" aspect to me and is far too intimate.its hard to make clean money in my state, not as bad as Cali though from what I have heard yikes!
California varies from "air dance" bars to "extras laden". It's a big state.
I had a phobia of being touched I had to grow out of.....The era of air dance bars being the norm is long over.
MistyGirl
04-15-2018, 10:34 AM
I go through these thoughts at time as well; mostly when I'm either not doing well, or run into someone who starts offending me - I need to learn better how to deal with these type of experiences.
EastCoastDancer01
04-15-2018, 03:40 PM
I really think dancers are special kinds of women and most women just don't fall into this category (no disrespect to anyone). It takes a shit ton of strength, confidence, and skills to do what we do and to make a living from it. If you are realistic, street smart, confident, and comfortable with your body and sexuality and have good people skills (including people you would otherwise find disgusting), then you should give dancing a try. And yes, getting touched/groped and getting naked in front of strangers comes with the territory, if you don't like it, you'll have a hard time. It has to not bother you. The types of women that are not cut out for dancing are ones who act entitled and like they're too good...there's really no such thing. Having that attitude will get you knocked down and put in your place.
sexyadrienne
04-18-2018, 06:46 PM
I thought it was just me being negative in my head (bad habit) or if it really is not for me? I don't really care for lapdances because I refuse to have my breast fondled (most money earning clubs allow that smh) I just can't and I fear what can happen in vip room. I'll try some more clubs before I throw in the garter lol but I doubt thee dollhouse hires black girls I really wanna dance here I'll still try it. Basically I wanted to what are some ways to know if dancing is not for someone?
This is why I started camming. I was a dancer for 5 years up until the point where I couldn't handle the constant physical contact, crazy late hours that lasted until the AM, and drugs/alcohol (it was rampant in my club). I highly suggest that you look into camming with Boleyn Models (https://admin.boleynmodels.com/ref?page=&campaign=187&affToken=ODQ=) so you can get paid every day. :)
I really think dancers are special kinds of women and most women just don't fall into this category (no disrespect to anyone). It takes a shit ton of strength, confidence, and skills to do what we do and to make a living from it. If you are realistic, street smart, confident, and comfortable with your body and sexuality and have good people skills (including people you would otherwise find disgusting), then you should give dancing a try. And yes, getting touched/groped and getting naked in front of strangers comes with the territory, if you don't like it, you'll have a hard time. It has to not bother you. The types of women that are not cut out for dancing are ones who act entitled and like they're too good...there's really no such thing. Having that attitude will get you knocked down and put in your place.
So true. If you have "lack mentality" and think everything is always going down hill, but refuse to change with the times, dancing is not (or is no longer) for you. If you believe men won't pay you for your time/ don't see why men would pay you for your emotional, mental, physical, and sexual labor, dancing is not for you. If you are super attached to your personal space/ cannot handle physical contact with people and become emotionally hurt by it, dancing is not for you.
We had a rabbit like you
04-19-2018, 09:01 AM
So true. If you have "lack mentality" and think everything is always going down hill, but refuse to change with the times, dancing is not (or is no longer) for you. If you believe men won't pay you for your time/ don't see why men would pay you for your emotional, mental, physical, and sexual labor, dancing is not for you. If you are super attached to your personal space/ cannot handle physical contact with people and become emotionally hurt by it, dancing is not for you.
Soooo true! mindset, confidencd, positive thinking, and a constant need to evolve your approach and hustle is a huge part of the job, ppl like to sneer but dancing is different than other jobs. That shit plays a huge part.
You also need to like this job to last. The money is not worth it (and you won't have 700 dollar nights every shift, sometimes you will leave with nothing) if you have to grit your teeth through every shift.
Optimist
04-19-2018, 11:14 AM
I have thought the same thing for a long time and can't figure it out. My problem is, I fucking hate working. I used to blow through job after job and just absolutely hate doing them. I thought it was the job for a while but it really isn't. After running my own business completely unrelated to this entertainment industry, I learned how much I fucking hate working. If it doesn't involve people then I'd be not doing substances yet still hating the job with a passion counting down the minutes I get to leave. If the job involves people I just absolutely dread it and will booze it up or get the weed out. It's a vicious cycle. I just want to nap all day. Basically I'd like to be a stay at home mom.....without having kids LOL.
You've got to marry rich! You need that Melania Trump plan (without the cheating douche part).
Optimist
04-19-2018, 11:20 AM
Very true and trust me I can't allow it so much so to the point I'm already working a vanilla job on the side, as soon as I got my so called wake up call. I feel that it steps outside of the "fantasy" aspect to me and is far too intimate.its hard to make clean money in my state, not as bad as Cali/LA though from what I have heard yikes!
You could always try a sexy job with far less contact like being a bottle girl at a regular club or massage girl at a strip club. There are companies that send hot chicks to different functions to host/serve. Good luck, doll.
juliette_
04-19-2018, 12:40 PM
You could always try a sexy job with far less contact like being a bottle girl at a regular club or massage girl at a strip club. There are companies that send hot chicks to different functions to host/serve. Good luck, doll.
this. even go-go dancing or light fetish work (if that's a thing in your area) could have similar earning potential as stripping at a low contact club.
whirlerz
04-19-2018, 06:34 PM
You might want to create an account on tuscl.net to get answers to that. TUSCL (the ultimate strip club list) is a site where customers review strip clubs and get very graphic about contact, extras, etc. It costs money to join, but if you submit a club review, you get a free month of membership. Spend a few hours reading club reviews and you should get an idea of what kind of contact guys expect.
Glad to see you back on here , & great avatar pic!
Winged Dinghy
04-19-2018, 07:59 PM
Hey, thank you whirlerz! It's great to be back--posting on the boards AND working in the clubs!
Oh and also for the OP, so as not to derail the thread--I thought of something else about how to tell if dancing is for you. We have so much control over our jobs as strippers. So it is entirely possible to think that dancing isn't for you when maybe just some aspect of your work environment is off. It could be you're better suited to day shift than night shift. Maybe stripping is better as a side gig for you--sometimes going in once or twice a week and working another job can take the pressure off. Maybe you haven't found the right club. Maybe you're better off traveling once a month, working a week and coming home.
Everyone on this thread has given good advice--if you have the right mindset and you're comfortable with a certain level of physical and mental intimacy, and you can deal with the roller-coaster ride income spikes and valleys, then exotic dancing might be for you. Just don't be afraid to experiment A LOT with your work schedule/environment if you get the feeling you like the job.
whirlerz
04-19-2018, 09:36 PM
This's Great advice, &gave me ideas too!^
Thanks!
Taetum Jae
04-21-2018, 02:17 AM
You could always try a sexy job with far less contact like being a bottle girl at a regular club or massage girl at a strip club. There are companies that send hot chicks to different functions to host/serve. Good luck, doll.
Never thought about that thanks mama I tried to be a bottle girl at one club but the manager said I needed a social media following but I'm like the only millennial w/o social media period my profile pic is one I took from my sister's snap chat lmao I like the filters. I think I saw an agency online for lingerie,topless,nude waitressing and bartending that really intrests me!!!
Taetum Jae
04-21-2018, 02:21 AM
this. even go-go dancing or light fetish work (if that's a thing in your area) could have similar earning potential as stripping at a low contact club.
I think the only clean/low club near me is cheetahs in Sarasota but I heard it went downhill and managers were dicks I'll still check it out though. I don't think they have go go dancing in central or south Florida but I coul be wrong.
Taetum Jae
04-21-2018, 02:42 AM
Hey, thank you whirlerz! It's great to be back--posting on the boards AND working in the clubs!
Oh and also for the OP, so as not to derail the thread--I thought of something else about how to tell if dancing is for you. We have so much control over our jobs as strippers. So it is entirely possible to think that dancing isn't for you when maybe just some aspect of your work environment is off. It could be you're better suited to day shift than night shift. Maybe stripping is better as a side gig for you--sometimes going in once or twice a week and working another job can take the pressure off. Maybe you haven't found the right club. Maybe you're better off traveling once a month, working a week and coming home.
Everyone on this thread has given good advice--if you have the right mindset and you're comfortable with a certain level of physical and mental intimacy, and you can deal with the roller-coaster ride income spikes and valleys, then exotic dancing might be for you. Just don't be afraid to experiment A LOT with your work schedule/environment if you get the feeling you like the job.
You're such a sweetie, I would love to travel dance but I'm going back to school this fall uggh I would put off school to try dancing but 1.) I can't handle the possible disappointment I get too excited too soon and 2.) I crave stability and the field I'm pursuing will provide that and the way my life is set up I need it. I tried day and night shift and there's pros and cons for both as I'm sure you know, guys not wanting to grab natural caramel colored 36 DDDs with Hershey nipples is dang near impossible in the durrty south lol. I won't hang up my heels just yet though. Dancing for old (hell young too) rich people in they're homes sounds Devine to me but I need a buddy and/or personal bodyguard to do that one girl brought that to my attention and I can't stop pondering it.
RyanXO
05-02-2018, 01:03 PM
Hey, thank you whirlerz! It's great to be back--posting on the boards AND working in the clubs!
Oh and also for the OP, so as not to derail the thread--I thought of something else about how to tell if dancing is for you. We have so much control over our jobs as strippers. So it is entirely possible to think that dancing isn't for you when maybe just some aspect of your work environment is off. It could be you're better suited to day shift than night shift. Maybe stripping is better as a side gig for you--sometimes going in once or twice a week and working another job can take the pressure off. Maybe you haven't found the right club. Maybe you're better off traveling once a month, working a week and coming home.
Everyone on this thread has given good advice--if you have the right mindset and you're comfortable with a certain level of physical and mental intimacy, and you can deal with the roller-coaster ride income spikes and valleys, then exotic dancing might be for you. Just don't be afraid to experiment A LOT with your work schedule/environment if you get the feeling you like the job.
That is a really great point. Sometimes it is the club environment. If something feels off, it doesn't automatically mean "dancing isn't for you" and I don't think it is fair for anyone to just assume it's not for you without the facts. Environment and "the feel" of a place (as hokey as that sounds) matters. I, for example, have never been that great on the night shift. I have always been able to do day shift well, even if it was slow. The day shift just seems to fit my personally better.
Optimist
05-07-2018, 07:31 AM
Never thought about that thanks mama I tried to be a bottle girl at one club but the manager said I needed a social media following but I'm like the only millennial w/o social media period my profile pic is one I took from my sister's snap chat lmao I like the filters. I think I saw an agency online for lingerie,topless,nude waitressing and bartending that really intrests me!!!
In response to your PM I hate to sound like a broken record but it's trial and error. There isn't really a state that is less contact or specific cities. I can say that most of Florida is HIGH physical contact. You can say that for far too many Southeastern spots. Then again you can say that many Manhattan spots are high contact. Sorry there is no region I can recommend as 100 % low contact.