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trustfundkiller
11-20-2018, 12:20 AM
My ex of two years randomly messaged me on Facebook and we're texting now. We have plans to get together Wednesday night. He was a really good boyfriend and he treated me like a princess but things ended on a sour note. He apologized for the way he left things. Idk how I feel. To say I have my guard up would be the understatement of the century. I've moved on and I don't have any interest but I am intrigued. I don't know if I should leave the past in the past or give it a chance and see if maybe things work out this time around...

seashell
11-20-2018, 05:21 AM
^I've been texting my ex, too. We broke up around this time last year, when we moved to different countries. We were still on good terms, but a few months ago I had to tell him that I couldn't handle talking to him anymore because I still had strong feelings for him. I unfriended him on facebook to give myself some space. Then last week, I added him again, and he's been initiating a lot of conversations with me. He wanted to video chat, but I couldn't at the time. I don't know, a part of me is hoping that one day things will work out. If he'd let me, I'd pay for him to come visit me abroad, but I feel like that's too forward to say right now. I've never quite been in this kind of relationship limbo, where we both care about each other but can't be together. (He hated living abroad, we tried it.)

In other news, the part of me that's trying to move on has been on dating apps... I hit a dating milestone -- I got a girl's number off of Tinder for the first time! I haven't really hit it off with any females since I've been single, it's not easy being in Serbia and not speaking the language. There's no real LGBT scene, and being a foreigner makes it seem like you just want a hookup. She's really cute, a musician who plays cello, which I think is sooo hot. Curious to see where this goes. :)

carmen_b
11-20-2018, 09:35 AM
^ I am also curious to see where it goes with the cello girl. :)

carmen_b
11-20-2018, 12:50 PM
His note was boring anyway.

I think I would have only been happy with it if it was something like " I made the wrong choice and want to take you out tomorrow ".
It was more of this weird vibe of " things are not serious / might be over with this person in a few days for all I know " as if I am willing to wait ( I'm not ).

I just sent a quick thing back that said " I was really enjoying getting to know you . Maybe the timing was bad. This is lacking that fun romantic inertia that I was looking for . It's not a good feeling that I wasn't prioritized. "
I also mentioned I thought it was strange last week to not just see us both if nothing physical happened yet with either of us but I respected his choice .


I’m not even opening it till 6p.m. when I'm done working ( I work in commission sales , my man drama has derailed my hustle before ).

carmen_b
11-21-2018, 09:53 AM
It's about time !

My offer to meet at the Brewery next to my house ( and then come here and cuddle ) actually worked for once.
Another J .
J the referee .
He is sweet. Bought our drinks / nice conversation. His day job is working for a non-profit ( it's a great cause ) and I found that adorable. I was a little embarrassed sending the " we can come here and cuddle after " text over but he was smooth in executing it so he must have liked the idea.
As soon as we left the place, he put his arm around me.
I made him tea and got some snuggles. He didn't stay long. I would definitely see him again in a dating situation. It seemed like he had a bit of a cold, I went for a quick kiss but I think he was trying not to get me sick.

I'm definitely cautious of anyone I meet through a site ( my info is still off, this was executed because we had been chatting a couple weeks already ).
I greatly appreciated that he actually seemed 6'1'' like he said ! Ha.

seashell
11-21-2018, 03:08 PM
^Aww that sounds like a sweet date!

I was feeling a little lonely today since I don't have anything going on for Thanksgiving, so um... I had a busy day! XD I now have 2 more girls' numbers, I invited the Serbian guy to come visit me for a couple days (he agreed it would be fine to be friends with benefits), and I'm currently making plans to go out with a different Serbian guy who lives in my neighborhood.

I met him about 6 months ago, and he was really sweet and cute, but I left the country before we really got to know each other. He and I were both new to the city and trying to meet people (not date), so we wandered around for hours together, had some drinks, and he walked me home. It was kind of confusing to me, like we were walking alone together on a beautiful night, and I don't really do that with platonic male friends. I don't know if he's still just looking for a friend, but I was attracted to him. There might be some tension when we hang out lol.

seashell
11-21-2018, 03:40 PM
It's settled, we're going out for drinks on Saturday (drinking the local alcohol, rakija, and he said he'd teach me some Serbian... Omg I am so weak for foreign boys), and Mr. Friends-with-Benefits is coming over next Tuesday for a few days. Yay!

miss.a.p1600
11-21-2018, 08:38 PM
one of my male co-workers asked me out.

Now normally I would not get involved with anyone from the office BUT he has helped me tremendously in dealing with workplace bullies, cracks all kinds of jokes about said bullies, keeps me company when I'm alone, walks with me to my car (especially when its dark outside)and pretty much shows himself to be a gentleman. He's probably just offering dick but I have appreciated him helping me out on many occasions at the office.

I wanted him to suggest a place - since he is paying lol - but he left the first date idea up to me and I am hoping I don't go too far out of his budget

carmen_b
11-21-2018, 09:34 PM
^Very nice! ;)
Hope it is fun. He seems like he won't be pushy or weird since he's helped you so much ( obviously likes you ).

carmen_b
11-22-2018, 01:54 AM
So ..... there's this funny twist on tall teacher.

I did this search for his email name really quick to find the message and reply a few days later ........ and my email pulled up an email from him dated 2007 !!!
I had a personal ad in this city 11 years ago that he tried to reach me on! I've only been single here twice ( 2007 and now ). Weird.

I might send it to him but might not ( the pictures he emailed sucked , that’s probably why I didn’t reply 11 years ago !).

carmen_b
11-23-2018, 08:50 PM
^ I'm forwarding him his reply ( and the bad photos ! ). It's just too funny.
Ugh, if only those photos from 11 years ago were better ! I don't know if I had even OPENED it or I just didn't due to them not clearly showing his face! ;0

carmen_b
11-24-2018, 11:16 PM
The tall teacher messaged back about the " blast from the past " personal reply from 2007......
He said :
It’s nice to see this message from the past, and the pictures to go along with it. Your recent message came as a pleasant surprise. I wasn’t exactly expecting to hear from you again. I hope you’re having a nice holiday break. I had my biggest and best day of the year ( regarding a fitness goal ) on Wednesday, and I had a nice Thanksgiving. Since then, I’ve been working on a variety of projects around the house, accomplishing a bit more than could have been expected. How’s school treating you? I hope you’re staying warm this evening.
J

Arialandre
11-25-2018, 04:43 AM
I think I'm finally over Work Away guy. We had a bit of a talk, we were thinking of doing a "just sex" thing. But you know, I don't think that I actually like him. Like, lately, talking to him just pisses me off and I don't like his attitude. So I actually feel really great. He's away at work and was going to message me when he get's home but... I'm over it. His bullshit FINALLY outweighs the incredibly amazing physical feelings. Thank GOD. So now I don't care if he messages me when he gets back or not. Oh and he told me that he "DOESN'T EAT PUSSY". Thank god I found out about THAT.

Another potential sugar daddy is landing back in Canada this week. He lives here but works internationally. So we'll see how that goes.

seashell
11-25-2018, 08:13 AM
Had an interesting night with the local guy. We went out for drinks, had some shots and beer, and then wandered around the city. He's really fun and easy to talk to. At one point we were walking by the river, and he asked if I was cold, then invited me to come over to his place. LOL. So I did, and he gave me some liquor that his family made... I've had this kind of thing before, and it was really delicious, but his liquor was like lighter fluid. Oh my god. So he was pretty shy about making a move, and I guess alcohol was his strategy... eventually we started making out, and had sex. It wasn't anything magical... but he did have an amazing cock.

I don't know what to make of him. He seemed interested and interesting, and I would like to see him again. He's a little inexperienced, but that makes me trust a guy more. He also was a gentleman, paid for everything, including my cab home. And he has such a thick accent, I looove it!

seashell
11-25-2018, 08:18 AM
I think I'm finally over Work Away guy. We had a bit of a talk, we were thinking of doing a "just sex" thing. But you know, I don't think that I actually like him. Like, lately, talking to him just pisses me off and I don't like his attitude. So I actually feel really great. He's away at work and was going to message me when he get's home but... I'm over it. His bullshit FINALLY outweighs the incredibly amazing physical feelings. Thank GOD. So now I don't care if he messages me when he gets back or not. Oh and he told me that he "DOESN'T EAT PUSSY". Thank god I found out about THAT.

Another potential sugar daddy is landing back in Canada this week. He lives here but works internationally. So we'll see how that goes.

What is up with guys who are against oral sex? It's 2018, dude!

carmen_b
11-25-2018, 11:24 AM
Good for you! Nothing wrong will just " calling it " when something isn't quite right !


I think I'm finally over Work Away guy. We had a bit of a talk, we were thinking of doing a "just sex" thing. But you know, I don't think that I actually like him. Like, lately, talking to him just pisses me off and I don't like his attitude. So I actually feel really great. He's away at work and was going to message me when he get's home but... I'm over it. His bullshit FINALLY outweighs the incredibly amazing physical feelings. Thank GOD. So now I don't care if he messages me when he gets back or not. Oh and he told me that he "DOESN'T EAT PUSSY". Thank god I found out about THAT.

Another potential sugar daddy is landing back in Canada this week. He lives here but works internationally. So we'll see how that goes.

carmen_b
11-25-2018, 11:25 AM
It sounds nice.


Had an interesting night with the local guy. We went out for drinks, had some shots and beer, and then wandered around the city. He's really fun and easy to talk to. At one point we were walking by the river, and he asked if I was cold, then invited me to come over to his place. LOL. So I did, and he gave me some liquor that his family made... I've had this kind of thing before, and it was really delicious, but his liquor was like lighter fluid. Oh my god. So he was pretty shy about making a move, and I guess alcohol was his strategy... eventually we started making out, and had sex. It wasn't anything magical... but he did have an amazing cock.

I don't know what to make of him. He seemed interested and interesting, and I would like to see him again. He's a little inexperienced, but that makes me trust a guy more. He also was a gentleman, paid for everything, including my cab home. And he has such a thick accent, I looove it!

carmen_b
11-25-2018, 11:27 AM
I can NOT make up my mind about what I am doing !

Part of me is like " No, don't accept ANY bad behavior " ( offers to just hang out / anything that isn't a more formal style date ) but then the other part of me is like " Send messages about wanting something casual to the best looking men you've talked to ".

If it wasn't for the IG / YouTube personality guy ( 1 orgasm ) and the carpenter ( 2 orgasms ) I would just be at SUCH a loss, haha!
That's only an average of getting off one time a month with another person since my break up . I need to fix this.
I would have given the teacher crazy marathon sex. He really missed out.

Arialandre
11-25-2018, 11:05 PM
Oh my god, I love you guys. This thread gives me life.

cyberstripper
11-26-2018, 12:40 AM
I was just gonna say I love you ladies too.

seashell
11-26-2018, 12:43 PM
This is officially "slut week" for me...

Slept with guy #1 on Saturday, now guy #2 is visiting me for a few days with the express purpose of sleeping with me. Guy #1 asked for a second date, and seemed amused that I have such a busy week, and can't see him until the weekend... lmao

In all fairness, I was dating each guy seriously, but one of them will be moving overseas. So this is, um... the transition period. ::)

carmen_b
11-26-2018, 02:47 PM
^ ;)

carmen_b
11-26-2018, 02:48 PM
I'm keeping expectation low with teacher. He is back with his good advance planning which makes me prrrr ..........

I basically spelled it out for him in my last email that I'm a physical drought and it's been almost comical trying to end it.
If he can't take THAT clear as day hint, there isn't much else I can do.

I will just keep relationship expectations very low.

I'm having anxiety about going somewhere I can't easily park ( a sports arena ) but I'm trying not let my weirdness ruin the evening before it begins.

carmen_b
11-26-2018, 09:39 PM
Another big YAWN on the teacher.

On the plus side, the game wasn't that bad ( it wasn't crowded ). I learned to take the train in my home city which I have never done.

To fully explain, he has an issue with his ear that makes him unable to drive. It's called M.I.ni_er_es disease think ( the periods / dash are to make this not googleable ) . I wonder if it makes him self concious sometimes. He can have issues such as dizzyness come on quick. So far, I have never seen anything that wasn't completely normal .

I think he's just akward. I find him really attractive ( very tall and lanky ) but I think he is just very slow moving or low libido/asexual.

I leaned in to him a bit at the game and took his arm outside which led to a little hug outside .
He seems to like everything I do to initiate touch but declined my offer to come up for tea ( it was only 8:45p.m. ) !
He plans really nice dates, so if he wants to plan another one, maybe I'll go but won't wear the nice underwear next time .

Since he seems to like everything I do , I'll just tell him next time ( if we see each other again ) " I want you to come to my house and cuddle " or " I want to kiss you ". I might even have to add more clarity like " I see relationship potential " with us.

He's a mathemetician and very linear in thinking ( I think that might be why his date plans are so detailed and why he calls them dates ). He likes really clear messages.

charlie61
11-26-2018, 10:57 PM
This thread is so fun to read! I love the details.

seashell
11-27-2018, 07:38 AM
Grrrr... I woke up today and realized I have strep throat. Slut week is canceled... or at least postponed.

I had to tell my FWB not to come visit me. He was able to get his bus ticket refunded. We've been chatting all morning, and he's been very comforting and helpful. On my end, there has been a lot of fever-induced sexy talk. I should probably stay away from chatting with people for now, lol.

carmen_b
11-27-2018, 08:54 AM
^ Nooooooo !
:(

carmen_b
11-28-2018, 06:05 PM
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Arialandre
11-29-2018, 12:06 AM
So Work Away guy messaged me today. He said that he was SUPER humiliated and felt like a complete failure after our first time. Is it terrible that after all the damn stress I’ve felt dealing with him, finding this out made me GLEEFULLY happy? And then the conversation was going ok, but then he pissed me off again and I unleashed some ice cold bitch. And I feel so happy!

Ugh, he just gets under my skin. One minute I want him pushing me up against the wall and the next I just want to backhand him and make him cry.

carmen_b
11-29-2018, 01:11 AM
^ They have us whooped girl ( teach and work away ).

Pussy Power ! Haha

Take back the power !!!

I told you he was dying of embarrassment - as he SHOULD be ! I think you can train for that , send him some tutorials .

carmen_b
11-29-2018, 01:35 AM
delete

( sorry if TMI , may tame it out in the morning , don't quote please )

Arialandre
11-29-2018, 01:57 AM
^^ Yes! I HATE not having the upper hand with a man. It’s like, they were BORN with the upper hand and it just pisses me off when all of a sudden it feels like you’re chasing them. Like they don’t have enough power in the world? And everything relationship wise always seems to be on their terms, so fuck those guys.

I am determined to put him back in his proper place. Reducing him to an insecure dribbling mess, determined to make me come in order to redeem his past failings, terrified of disgracing himself once agin by coming too quickly, and desperate for my affection and approval. And then I’m going to make him buy me something pretty.

Puts a smile on my face just thinking about it. ;D

^ I was going to quote until I saw your last line, hahahahaha. That sounds so good! Mmm delicious delicious moves.

carmen_b
11-29-2018, 02:19 AM
^ I would honesty just ignore work away for 3-7 days.

What I would do it just say something like " Oh, what I really had in mind was a relationship that looks more like ( whatever you want here ) " and then just fade.
If he really wants to step up , all he has to do is do it. He knows where to find you. He knows what you want. ;)
You've got to be serious about it though as he might not step up.

carmen_b
11-29-2018, 02:22 AM
Side Note: If this week seemed like high volume for me ..... it absolutely was.
I had a light day job work week for the first time in 6 months . We all see how I spent the time. Haha.

Arialandre
11-29-2018, 02:45 AM
^^ Hahaha! That's exactly what I did 2 weeks ago.

I've been ignoring him for almost 2 weeks. I set up parameters with him and then decided that I don't really care if I see him or not. So I ignored him for a week and then he messaged me this past weekend. I responded and then went back to ignoring him and he only lasted about 3 days before messaging me tonight, asking me if I still wanted to see him when he got home, fessed up about being embarrassed and feeling like a failure and really wanting to be able to please me, and not wanting to fail again, etc etc. So I responded and it started out ok before he annoyed me again, repeatedly, so I slapped him down each time. And now I'm just going to keep on ignoring him.

So either he will pull his head out of his ass or he won't and I'll never see him again. Either way I'm cool with it. Oh and this isn't even about dating, this is a (potential) "just sex" situation. I've accepted that I could never date him, he just gets me hot. It's just that if we do decide to do the just sex thing, I want to make sure he understands who's in charge, and that he is blessed to be allowed anywhere near my body.

carmen_b
11-29-2018, 01:27 PM
^ If you do the just sex thing, jerk him off and then try for sex 5-10 minutes later, haha. I'm sure you've thought of this.

carmen_b
11-29-2018, 10:08 PM
Guys .... I'm in such a phase of being upset. ;/
I feel like I wasted so much time and energy on these efforts.

Teacher is the bulk of it. Since I don't really know what the source of his hesitation is I just wrote him a quick note saying that I enjoyed meeting up with him again but it seemed like we were going nowhere and that I can feel his hesitation. I told him I wanted to pursue 2nd dates with the others I'd met and that I can see we probably are not going to work.

Of course I cried over it though. This is not for the faint of heart. Maybe something about D giving me exactly what I wanted last night really made me realize he has treated me BADLY. He knows I was craving physical affection and chose to not offer any for whatever the hell reason he has. I'm putting him in the " I hate him " basket .

Arialandre
11-30-2018, 12:04 AM
Guys .... I'm in such a phase of being upset. ;/
I feel like I wasted so much time and energy on these efforts ( those considering online dating should really be aware of what a time suck it can be ).

I'm not sure quite why I feel upset. Probably the teacher is the bulk of it. Since I don't really know what the source of his hesitation is I just wrote him a quick note saying that I enjoyed meeting up with him again but it seemed like we were going nowhere and that I can feel his hesitation. I told him I wanted to pursue 2nd dates with the others I'd met and that I can see we probably are not going to work even in a casual capacity.

Of course I cried over it though , ugh. This is not for the faint of heart. Maybe something about D giving me exactly what I wanted last night really made me realize he has treated me BADLY. Resurfacing / then declining my offer to come over even though it was early.
He knows I was craving physical affection and chose to not offer any for whatever the hell reason he has. I'm putting him in the " I hate him " basket .

Oh sweetie, *hugs*. I'm so sorry that you're feeling sad. Don't feel alone, I spent hours today crying too. Dating, internet or otherwise IS hard! Having specific needs, trying to let people in, being disappointed, it's an emotional rollercoaster NOT for the faint of heart. I'm so proud of you for being honest about what you need, and not being afraid to tell HIM that you are moving on because he is not meeting those needs. Emotional honesty is TERRIFYING, but in the end I think that it will get you what you("we"/people) need. Sometimes we can't always put a finger on why a romantic interests actions feels like a stab to the heart, but you acknowledged it and you faced it head on, and that makes you brave as fuck!

seashell
11-30-2018, 01:32 AM
^Carmen, I feel ya. Dating is so stressful. You have to put yourself out there and be vulnerable, but you don't really know the person you're dating, and it's so easy to have a bad experience. There are so many jerks and clueless men out there who have no idea how to treat a woman.

I've cried so many times over this FWB. That's why I don't want to date him seriously, haha. He alternates between being sweet and cold, and is constantly talking about other girls. So fuck that, I'm focusing on dating other people. :P He wants to come visit me on Sunday since I'm feeling better now. That should be fun, but I'm also nervous about getting too attached again. I've had a lot of difficult goodbyes with this one, since he lives in another country and I never know if we'll see each other again.

It's funny, but the two guys I've seeing, I originally started talking to back in May. XD That's how picky I am with dating... I find a rare good person, and cling on, haha. Most of the profiles I see on dating sites/apps just don't appeal to me, I see red flags everywhere. I'm probably doomed to be single haha

seashell
11-30-2018, 01:47 AM
My Tinder profile currently says that I'm looking for friends & drinking buddies, and that is how I met both of these guys XD It's not that I don't want to date, but I would rather make friends first since I'm alone out here.

I just got a couple of messages from girls in my city... Finally, not several hours away! I'm excited but not really sure if I ever want alcohol again (was sick as a dog this week). Coffee meetings only. :)

Arialandre
11-30-2018, 02:48 AM
Work Away guy and I had a long talk tonight. And I am SO freaking happy. Like, I feel peaceful and... just so damn happy.

I decided to admit to him that last night he hurt my feelings, which is why I was so mad. (Admitting that is SO hard for me. I hate letting people know they got to me). But after I told him he apologized straight up. He didn’t defend himself, he didn’t dismiss my feelings, he just apologized for hurting me and told me he hadn’t meant to. He told me how important he believes communication is and asked how he could be better at communicating with me the way that I need. And then actually listened and ACCEPTED the feedback I gave him. He said that at times he can be terrible about getting his thoughts out right and can come across as an asshole but doesn’t mean to. And you know... I think that I really believe him. We REALLY talked and It. Was. Perfect.

We’re still doing just sex, but I think that we may have finally hit a balance of calm, happy, understanding. So I’m going to try to use this opportunity to put all the drama in the past and go into this from the place we found ourselves in tonight.

Arialandre
11-30-2018, 07:28 AM
He messaged me again this morning. Yes the conversations were only a few hours apart but we sleep/work weird hours. So for him picture talking to me before bed then again when he woke up. *Note: I was full on planning to not message him after last night to ignore him for a few days but he came to me ok? Lol

It was another PERFECT conversation. And he took my communication ideas to heart because he used them, AND he thanked me for them again. And he apologized again for things he did that I told him upset me the other day. And did I mention that the conversation was perfect? We joked and teased, and just felt like... friends. It was like the great conversations we had before the “drama incident” but BETTER.

God, I feel so zen.

carmen_b
12-02-2018, 10:47 AM
I saw J the computer scientist last night ( 2nd meeting, this is the one I met last Monday at the Brewery ).
I was just getting back from my hot spring adventure and we had planned on it .
I came back too tired to go out .
I ordered us some food and we watched a movie that was so crass / funny - Late Bloomer on netflix.
My dog pounced on him and took MY cuddle spot ( the arm closest to me on the couch ) . We had to reconfigure to put the dog on the other side and me on an arm.

We snuggled in my bed for the longest time ...... totally active cuddling. This is the fellow nomad but he's been in this city longer than me.
We kissed a little 3-4 hours into the cuddles. Slow / easy / non-pushy.
There were some moments where he was touching my stomach and the top of my panties where I was incredibly turned on but we kept it mellow.
I'm glad he found me ( I wasn't paying attention to my online efforts much but he super liked me on Tinder 9-10 days ago ).

carmen_b
12-02-2018, 12:47 PM
I have to admit ( as annoyed by this fact as I've been before ) that I do kind of see how men are addicted sometimes to seeing different women.
I absolutely love the affection from both D and J. They both smell amazing.

I imagine I probably won't see D again ( I suspect maybe he's involved just due to such lack of availability ).

I'm pretty sure I'll see J again. We had such great conversations last night including things like confessing to having long time internet friends ( ha ! ) , having alter ego's ( youtube for him , I didn't elaborate on mine .... wasn't ready to disclose sex work ), ect.
I always need time to settle in and see how I feel but now I'm thinking that I really liked the way he kissed me. Super slow / easy / non startling / a little eye contact.
I sacrificed half my sleep for him ( we were up till 3:30 and my alarm was set at 8 for a day job client ) and it was 100% worth it.
Another thing I like about him is he reached out TWICE this week to see me . Follow up is HOT.
I was only able to see him Sat. but I appreciate him reaching out for sure. My girl boner dies without it. Haha.

Arialandre
12-02-2018, 11:41 PM
I have to admit ( as annoyed by this fact as I've been before ) that I do kind of see how men are addicted sometimes to seeing different women.
I absolutely love the affection from both D and J. They both smell amazing.

I get this. I need some kind of harem situation where I see multiple men but they are all dedicated to me, ha! There were things that I LOVED about day trader guy. Very polite, extremely well mannered, had a ton in common, amaaaaazing oral skills, and a great conversationalist. But meh, there were also some dealbreakers.

I’m starting to move over to the camp of believers that expecting to get all you need from one person is unrealistic.

Update: J sounds nice. I'll think positive thoughts for you about J

seashell
12-04-2018, 01:38 PM
I spent the past couple days with the anthropology professor. He came over to my place... but it was kind of a disaster... the bed was really small for two people, and my dog needed to be taken to the vet. I confirmed that I really am not interested in anything serious with him. We slept together and cuddled, but honestly, I just don't like his personality that much... ::)

Right after he left, I texted the local guy. I basically lied and said I was out of town over the weekend, and he said next time I want to go on a trip, he can drive me. LOL. He's been really sweet and generous. We agreed to hang out tomorrow night. I'm so curious to see where this will go.

I have to admit, having two guys around was awesome. I think it's *goodbye forever* with the professor, but I should be able to hang out with the local guy until mid January. Then my visa will end, and I'll have to leave the country. :( Sigh... but I'll just be a few hours away. I know I shouldn't like him that much, especially when he got me wasted the last time we hung out, and he wasn't that great in bed, but we do have a lot in common. Teaching, traveling, literature, being nerdy introverts... he reminds me of my last boyfriend, but with a much better job and personality. And I really miss having a boyfriend. The holiday season makes me feel like it's time for marriage and kids, asap. I hope I'm not giving off desperate vibes.

I'm a little sleep-deprived, and decided it would be a good idea to ask about the local guy on a psychic app. XD I admit it, I looove these things, and I also do psychic work as a side gig. I paid $10 for a love reading, and now I just have to wait for them to deliver the video. The suspense!~

lynn2009
12-04-2018, 07:59 PM
LADIES.
I matched with a cute lawyer from Harvard and he clerks for Elizabeth Warren omg.

Well this rapidly devolved into a big disappointment. We made plans last Sunday evening to get drinks on Tuesday. Monday afternoon he messages me on the app and asks if we can push it to Thursday. Yeah, sure no problem. Wednesday afternoon he says sorry to ask again but his week exploded and could we push it back to the weekend? I said sure again, but I am not too into bars on Fri/Saturday nights so could we get coffee instead? Then nothing for days. I messaged him Sunday afternoon to ask if he still wanted to meet up or not and he did reply right away to say sorry for the delay, but he's still swamped with work and can't make plans yet. He said he thought he'd be able to make plans yesterday afternoon but now it is Tuesday night and still nothing.

Arialandre
12-04-2018, 08:08 PM
Well this rapidly devolved into a big disappointment. We made plans last Sunday evening to get drinks on Tuesday. Monday afternoon he messages me on the app and asks if we can push it to Thursday. Yeah, sure no problem. Wednesday afternoon he says sorry to ask again but his week exploded and could we push it back to the weekend? I said sure again, but I am not too into bars on Fri/Saturday nights so could we get coffee instead? Then nothing for days. I messaged him Sunday afternoon to ask if he still wanted to meet up or not and he did reply right away to say sorry for the delay, but he's still swamped with work and can't make plans yet. He said he thought he'd be able to make plans yesterday afternoon but now it is Tuesday night and still nothing.

*hugs* This sounds disappointing. I can see how he could be busy but I’m really sorry that he keeps pushing your meet back. If you guys do get together I really hope that he turns out to be the nicest guy ever and fantastically worth it.

carmen_b
12-04-2018, 09:44 PM
Ugh. Just wanted to send some good vibes even though I don't know what to suggest. :/


Well this rapidly devolved into a big disappointment. We made plans last Sunday evening to get drinks on Tuesday. Monday afternoon he messages me on the app and asks if we can push it to Thursday. Yeah, sure no problem. Wednesday afternoon he says sorry to ask again but his week exploded and could we push it back to the weekend? I said sure again, but I am not too into bars on Fri/Saturday nights so could we get coffee instead? Then nothing for days. I messaged him Sunday afternoon to ask if he still wanted to meet up or not and he did reply right away to say sorry for the delay, but he's still swamped with work and can't make plans yet. He said he thought he'd be able to make plans yesterday afternoon but now it is Tuesday night and still nothing.

carmen_b
12-04-2018, 09:46 PM
Making progress guys!

My phone dinged and I was hoping it was J the computer guy not the teacher ! It was ! I like that my instinct went that way. ;)

I'm a phase of being highly nervous though. I'll just try to let things flow.

I really liked that last week has asked me to get together twice. I reached out yesterday to let him know I wanted to see him later this week if he was up for it .

I'm in a weird phase though because I like him but I also NEEDED these last three days to myself. I just did. So hopefully it's not off putting .