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Arialandre
12-24-2018, 11:07 PM
^ What ?! No food !
Just have him take you to a spa for a massage and lick your pussy for an hour. Haha.
Let him eat.
Hahaha, I let him eat breakfast eventually. The point is, you say your sorry, well PROVE IT, because words are cheap.
Spa and an hour of oral are so basic, and they are GOOD things, I don't believe they should be associated with punishment. Those kinds of things should be treats. Like, if you're very good I'll ALLOW you to take me to the spa and go down on me.
For example, he came back cash in hand and bought me the lingerie, but then I told him he's not actually going to get to SEE it on me until I feel like he's earned it. He was totally thrown at first because he never imagined I would find a way to throw up another barrier. But then he told me that I was absolutely worth it and he was willing to work for it.
I think you have to keep in mind that I'm a Domme, and my dominant personality is who I am, not just a role I play for work. So my scale of knowing how far a man may be willing to go in order to make me happy may be a bit skewed because men have done some unbelievable shit simply to amuse me.
So, no breakfast until I allow it may seem totally crazy, (and if you're coming into the situation cold it won't work) but he didn't realize how much he'd enjoy being bossed around until he suddenly found himself being bossed around, and he's absolutely LOVING the challenge.
carmen_b
12-25-2018, 08:16 PM
^ Yesssss. He seems to be digging it.
It's amazing how much men can love domination.
carmen_b
12-27-2018, 10:37 AM
Blocked the cowboy intellectual.
I don't need stupid excuses and to get caught up in time wasting.
carmen_b
12-27-2018, 10:38 AM
Movie guy better get me the request for what evening to hold open soon or he won't be able to get on my schedule. ;)
I turned my profile to hidden again.
lynn2009
12-27-2018, 07:43 PM
I'm going to be a buzzkill. Sorry.
Not my story, but copy/pasting from another forum I read. Please stay safe!
The title says it all, but here are the details for those of you who like to slow down on the highway and gawk at an accident:
Met a man on Tinder about three weeks ago. I was honest in that I’m recently out of a brief relationship and am ready to date, am unsure what I’m looking for currently, but am open to all possibilities.
We chatted for a while, we FaceTimed (which I hate, but it was actually kinda cute), and we set a date for early afternoon today. We decided to grab a few drinks and wander around a bit, possibly culminating in some ice skating.
We bar hopped a little. Conversation was solid, we were flirting, there was a little contact but nothing crazy (hand on the small of my back when we were leaving one spot, my hand on his leg briefly while we chatted at spot #2). After the third bar (at which I didn’t have a third drink but he did), we decided to walk to one of the pop up skating rinks in the city. As we left the bar I grabbed his hand and held it as we walked. Things were fun.
Until he pulled me into an alley, forced me against the wall and tried to aggressively kiss me. Initially I kissed him back, but he got really handsy, and I’m not all about that in public, so I gently suggested we go to the skating rink. He said “Don’t lie to me” and then he had one hand around my throat and the other down my pants. I will not go into further detail, but I am currently sitting at home with pants with a missing button and mascara all over my face.
Women of DOT: No matter how strong you think you are, you are no match for a man. I sincerely hope nothing like this happens (or has happened) to any of you. I have no recommendations for how to avoid it, as it took me completely by surprise and I had zero seconds to react.
So I’ve deleted Bumble and Tinder. Gonna spend a lot of time in the gym. Gonna play a lot of video games and read a lot of books (any suggestions?).
Happy holidays?
Edited to add, since so many are asking:
After I called my two best friends, I called the police and gave them all the info I could. It’s crazy. I always thought I’d be one of those level-headed chicks in a horror film who figures everything out and lives. Turns out I become a blubbering idiot who can barely call herself an Uber.
Edit #2: A very sincere FUCK YOU to the person who dm’ed me to ask what I wore on the date.
carmen_b
12-29-2018, 11:43 PM
A three day road trip is a bad idea with someone you've only texted / chatted up for a week and known in person a couple hours right ?
It was the cop I met. ;)
We definitely got ahead of ourselves in conversation.
My dad also found out I was going to this ( slightly warmer area ) and wants to go .
Maybe I can propose a split type of trip .... a couple days with my dad and then have him meet up with me last couple days.
A more " mini " trip .
baer45
12-30-2018, 06:43 PM
A three day road trip is a bad idea with someone you've only texted / chatted up for a week and known in person a couple hours right ?
It was the cop I met. ;)
We definitely got ahead of ourselves in conversation.
My dad also found out I was going to this ( slightly warmer area ) and wants to go now, haha.
Maybe I can propose a split type of trip .... a couple days with my dad and then have him meet up with me last couple days.
A more " mini " type trip .
I am going to say no. I won't go on a road trip with some potential date that I just met.
baer45
12-30-2018, 06:44 PM
A three day road trip is a bad idea with someone you've only texted / chatted up for a week and known in person a couple hours right ?
It was the cop I met. ;)
We definitely got ahead of ourselves in conversation.
My dad also found out I was going to this ( slightly warmer area ) and wants to go now, haha.
Maybe I can propose a split type of trip .... a couple days with my dad and then have him meet up with me last couple days.
A more " mini " type trip .
I am going to say no. if it's me, I won't go on a three-day road trip with some potential date that I just met. But i don't know the person.
carmen_b
12-30-2018, 09:08 PM
^ Yeah. He has connections in the area. Maybe we can meet up there for an afternoon or something.
The activities sound really fun ( hikes and scenic driving in his big truck ).
I don’t want to put weirdness on us by going together but would love to meet up with him if we will both be there.
baer45
12-30-2018, 09:48 PM
^ Yeah. He has connections in the area. Maybe we can meet up there for an afternoon or something.
The activities sound really fun ( hikes and scenic driving in his big truck ).
I don’t want to put weirdness on us though going together .
Always prepare your way out if things don't go well. If you ride with him, you are stuck.