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miss.a.p1600
10-05-2019, 07:41 AM
I have to drop the guy I'm with soon. I'm attracted to his face but the extra weight and other stuff bother me. He is fun to hang with bc we like the same things but he is fucking needy. Dude. If I can't hang every week don't whine about it. Maybe if I liked him 100% I wouldn't give a shit?? Lol. Ugh.
His mother called me his gf. Ugh. No. We never agreed to be exclusive yet. Way too soon and way too soon to have met her too!!
Yeah I remember the old dude i was dating would constantly whine about “i need to see you more than once a week” in my mind I’m like “I’m good” but it did come off as clingy and needy especially since I worked a lot and he did bare minimal to help me with my bills so I could free up time for him.
Then he called me his girlfriend without asking my first if that’s what *I* wanted
miss.a.p1600
10-05-2019, 07:51 AM
^I'm so perplexed by how many dudes like this are out there. Are they just intimidated by your sexual confidence? I feel like you're offering the fantasy to so many guys, and they're all... coming up short.
I think it’s one of those weird phenomena when something you really want eludes you but when you’re not making active effort....those are the moments you get thrown dick for days
miss.a.p1600
10-05-2019, 08:16 AM
Yeah, fingers for solo time. But that still doesn't come close to Hitachi orgasms! Sigh.
Have your partner use your hitachi on you?
miss.a.p1600
10-05-2019, 08:18 AM
Meanwhile I'm here in Mr. Talls town ( I don't think he's here ) just sitting here dealing with these memories of the best pussy eating of my life.
#1 sexual regret of 2019 is not fucking him ........
don't mind me ..... lol
Whatever lucky lady pounced on him when he moved back East ...... we HATE her. Hahahaha.
I’ll never forget 2 of the best pussy eaters of my life.
Sadly though 1 was married and the other turned into an out of this world asshole.
MissTay
10-05-2019, 08:35 AM
I’ll never forget 2 of the best pussy eaters of my life.
Sadly though 1 was married and the other turned into an out of this world asshole.
Lucky! My X husband never ate my pussy so when I left him I quickly found out there are guys out there that enjoy doing it although i've come to find out some are bad at it too! lol
I have this one guy that will eat my pussy but prefers to eat the booty instead and while that does feel good it's not going to be something I want done all the time but every time we hook up it's the first thing he does. I don't wanna lose him because the dick is amazing but it's like no matter what I say he just says "it will be alright". Like I have to prep down there before every hook up. Why can't we just meet for a quick booty call??
miss.a.p1600
10-05-2019, 09:08 AM
I had one guy who never ate my pussy.
Which is why I’d never fuck or do anything sexual with him again.
Yeah most guys are subpar at eating pussy. They just do it cause that’s what they think women want and they haven’t tried to master their technique.
But the stone cold freaks!!!! Oh they LOVE eating pussy and do it well. Mmmm gots to come across a bonafide pro pussy eater.....life changing!
That one dude went down then came back up and was like “mmmmm tastes sooo good” then went back down eating pussy like it was his last meal.
The married dude I think was exciting cause of the taboo and the curiosity of me doing something I’ve never done before. That was my first and probably last time messing with a married dude simply because i don’t feel like getting involved with affairs that can turn messy. I don’t want to have to fuck up a Bertha bitch who runs up on me after discovering her cheating husband is a no good low down sex fiend and she married community dick. I think the dude should get his ass kicked but instead it’s usually the women fighting each other.
NitaBaby
10-05-2019, 09:52 AM
The married dude I think was exciting cause of the taboo and the curiosity of me doing something I’ve never done before. That was my first and probably last time messing with a married dude simply because i don’t feel like getting involved with affairs that can turn messy. I don’t want to have to fuck up a Bertha bitch who runs up on me after discovering her cheating husband is a no good low down sex fiend and she married community dick. I think the dude should get his ass kicked but instead it’s usually the women fighting each other.
I hate to call it a bucket list item but it's one I had to cross off the list a few times. I'm cool on it now, married men are safe around me. But yeah I think the sex was constantly amazing only because it shouldn't have been happening so I definitely relate to that. Can't call myself a hoe if I don't do some hoe shit.
carmen_b
10-05-2019, 03:04 PM
My top two are Mr. Tall and Kinster J. I had a really good early 2019. ;)
M actually is pretty good at it too.
I’ll never forget 2 of the best pussy eaters of my life.
Sadly though 1 was married and the other turned into an out of this world asshole.
carmen_b
10-05-2019, 03:06 PM
That's the thing. It can't be faked. They live for it ( the ones who love it ) . Haha.
Pussy Worshipers are the BEST . Best Best Best.
But the stone cold freaks!!!! Oh they LOVE eating pussy and do it well. Mmmm gots to come across a bonafide pro pussy eater.....life changing!
That one dude went down then came back up and was like “mmmmm tastes sooo good” then went back down eating pussy like it was his last meal.
carmen_b
10-05-2019, 03:09 PM
That's some bad karma with the married dude BUT no lecturing haha .
You can never take THEIR word for it " I have an arrangement ect. " either!
Glad to be out of town. I think I get bored in my home area and maybe that's part of the problem .
carmen_b
10-05-2019, 03:22 PM
I do think of this. We ALL know really aloof women who are swatting off guys they " don't have time for ".
I really worked in terms of effort and sometimes it just doesn't seem like I got enough return in 2019. I had consistent company ..... but it felt like I didn't really reach anything substantial until M. I had fun dating but it took so much time !
I think it’s one of those weird phenomena when something you really want eludes you but when you’re not making active effort....those are the moments you get thrown dick for days
lurkingtitties
10-06-2019, 07:20 AM
Carmen I'm starting to get annoyed with M on your behalf. He seemed like a good match for you at first but a pattern is def starting to form where he doesn't spend enough time with you, redeems himself but only *after* you have a meltdown, and then the cycle repeats. It does make sense that he might be avoiding you to hide a drinking problem.
Plus the fact that you have been reaching out to other guys is kinda the writing on the wall yanno?
carmen_b
10-06-2019, 10:46 AM
^ Um ...... yeah ..... seeing all of it.
I did really let him have it a few days ago . I spelled out that I expected plans ( a meal out or flowers ) as a first step to even staying together.
^ We will see if he can rise up to what I am asking for. Maybe I admittedly expected " more " with the label of boyfriend / girlfriend ( which is something he asked for last Sunday ). I hoped the first week of that label would be " more ".
I KNOW I'm not too off base here either. I work 50-55 hours a week ( have for the last 4 weeks and will 1-2 more before my schedule returns to normal ). We decided together to see each twice a week . I couldn't offer more and was up front about it 3-4 weeks ago. I'm really not sure what he will do. He admitted to not managing his time well . I just don't know if he will actively change it.
seashell
10-07-2019, 12:11 PM
It sounds like he's coasting along and not putting in the effort. Drives me nuts when guys are half in, half out.
Just popping into this thread because I'm finally back in Serbia, and about to hang out with the sexy Serb lover I used to post about all the time. He's a conundrum to me... I don't think I like him in a serious dating way, because I have seen more of his personality, and he's not quite what I'm looking for. But he is fun, and he has a great cock... So there's that.
I've also been talking to this Serbian girl for a long time, and we're finally going on a date. I am really excited! She's a lawyer, kind of butch with short hair. I will let you all know how it goes :)
Also, I just met a handsome older guy on my flight. He works in the government, travels a lot, and seemed nice enough. He seemed kind of shy at first. I'm wondering if he's recently divorced or something... He seemed kind of clueless for being as attractive as he was.
carmen_b
10-07-2019, 12:29 PM
^Whoa. Envious of that roster.
I woke up today feeling a lot better.
I need a partner not a life coaching client .
I fight my own battles with depression and I KNOW that being indecisive is the WORST for it .
carmen_b
10-07-2019, 01:39 PM
I may welcome celibacy back into my life.
I get a hit of sex chemicals and really do become obsessed with that next hit.
It may be time to free up my energy .
seashell
10-07-2019, 03:46 PM
I may welcome celibacy back into my life.
I get a hit of sex chemicals and really do become obsessed with that next hit.
It may be time to free up my energy .
Same! I mean, I've been celibate for about 6 months, so I'm already there. But I know what you mean about getting that "hit." For me, it's like a rollercoaster of love hormones that takes up so much energy. I can't just sleep with a guy and go back to my normal routine... But also, there's always that question of whether I *should* put in the effort for this one guy, whether he's worth obsessing over. I'm really picky and usually pick pretty promising people, to date. So of course I want to keep them around. I just wish it were easier to turn my brain off when it wants to obsess over dudes who it knows are bad for me.
Also, being celibate made me focus a lot more on friendship. It has been kind of great. :D
carmen_b
10-07-2019, 10:42 PM
He was here and we chatted . I think he might have gotten cold feet. He was single a long time before meeting me ( 3-4 years I think ) .I found myself suggesting a weekly meet up instead of twice a week ........ just something to take the pressure off but maybe not a full break .
Just chatted. No sex. He admitted the idea of traveling together scared him too. I'm not dealing with winter ( at least 1-2 months of it I want to be gone ) and just wanted to be up front. He calls me " honey " and " sweetheart " . We both almost said " I love you " at the cabin 8 days ago . I forgot about it until he brought it up and confessed he almost said it .
carmen_b
10-08-2019, 09:52 AM
Slept on it and I know I have to end it. I feel bad doing it before his birthday ( the 9th ) .
Keeping it together really required me to not be myself much at all ( it's just " me " to send pervy messages and notes if I haven't seen someone in 3-4 days ).
He mismanaged his time so drastically in the last few months there is so much to clean up. I think something has just shifted. When he was here last night I didn't want to be touched at all. I'll chalk our cabin adventures up to being a fluke ..... a different vibe in the mountains or something. In the city he is a completely different person and he sucks here. We disagree heavily on condom use too. He thinks they are terrible and we should go do testing / BC. That seems like something to do when everything is else is *completely* dialed in ( a final type of relationship step ) to me, NOT for a weekly only lover.
I know the once a week thing ( even temporary for a couple of weeks ) won't do it for me. I'll have a great time, be good for a few days , and then be craving intimacy for 4 days / mood dropping / irritation rising. I would not be pleasant to deal with .
seashell
10-08-2019, 03:35 PM
^Aww it's hard to end things, but it sounds like it will be a weight off your shoulders. You'll open the door for a better match to come in.
I just spent the evening with my sexy Serbian lover boy. I think we're both opening up to each other more. We had a really good time just talking and laughing. When I first saw him, he had this big smile on his face... It was really reassuring to see that we had a genuine connection.
And he is sooo freaking hot, in bed.
I'm probably going to move to this city later this year. I should be back in a couple of weeks, for Halloween. But honestly... I am verrry nervous to get attached to him again. I can't handle getting hurt, right now
Also, I'm currently in a hostel, and had to do the walk of shame with my sexed up hair in front of about 6 guys who are staying here. Lol.
carmen_b
10-09-2019, 07:55 PM
Stuck to my guns. No birthday get together with him.
( I do not want to meet his disorganized crazy family ......... seems for the best )
seashell
10-13-2019, 01:48 PM
I just met with the Albanian guy today. I almost canceled on him, because he's kind of awkward at texting, and I wasn't sure if we were going to click. But he's super sweet and adorable! He's only 30, which surprised me because I thought he looked older when I first met him. I just turned 31, so that's perfect for me. He's just a few inches taller than me, and is kind of small framed, but I'm into it.
We talked about hanging out again in the future, possibly traveling together. He seems very normal, and I definitely could see us spending a lot of time together. Really glad I gave him a chance!
He also said that he had noticed me in the airport, long before we were seated together on our flight. I was surprised, because it was about 3am, and I definitely had been up all night, NOT feeling cute in the slightest. lol
And as luck would have it, I instagrammed a pic from tonight, and the Serbian guy instantly responded. I can't stop thinking about him. I'm actually extremely happy to have this new Albanian guy to focus on, because he seems a bit more trustworthy and not as much of a fuckboy. I hate being this obsessed with a guy. I was single and carefree for so long, and it was bliss. But I do miss having a sex life, so...
miss.a.p1600
10-13-2019, 06:46 PM
I’m thinking of getting back on the dating app I used to meet the old dude.
I’m convinced there will be some potential sugar daddies on there if I play my cards right.
It will be weird if I see him on there though.
carmen_b
10-14-2019, 10:05 AM
Nothing is resonating with me other than maybe considering a sugaring type of connection.
I don't really * need * the $ like I have before. It is just the spoiling element that I like.
Maybe I should keep all men interaction in the club though and keep it simple.
carmen_b
10-14-2019, 10:22 AM
15 days ago M and I had returned from that cabin outing and he came over to help watch my dog two weeks ago when I was on a film set all day. That is when I last saw him in a nice / normal state. I was laying on the couch after a 12.5 hour day and thinking " I found someone " . I was almost crying from the gesture of him making food when I was exhausted and helping with my fur boy that afternoon.
I don't even fully know what happened to him ( maybe scared of the boyfriend / girlfriend label ....he did ask).
I know it was right to see if he would initiate the next outing .......... which of course he didn't because he never does ..... he always lets me lead. THAT is why I had the meltdown 7 days ago. I am just kind of sitting with this stuff and sorting it. It was right to step back and just quit the effort . I still feel like it would have been so nice if he drew his own conclusion that I was too valuable to lose and a formal apology came about followed by a request for a date.
carmen_b
10-14-2019, 05:57 PM
It’s my fault too though.
I did do the epic meltdown / break up threats on day 7 of not seeing him.
Really didn’t appreciate him not making plans I guess.
Oh well, at the time it felt right.
seashell
10-15-2019, 01:48 AM
^I tend to get really emotional with guys really soon, too. Dating is so stressful.
The Albanian guy seems to be a clinger. He wants to hang out multiple times this week. I barely met you, dude. Back off.
Having second thoughts.
carmen_b
10-15-2019, 08:56 AM
^ Yeah, once a week seems about right the first few weeks.
carmen_b
10-16-2019, 05:46 PM
If it isn't M lurking.
He admitted he was stupid and expecting twice a week is totally reasonable ( duh ! ).
He went to his birthday outings with both friends and family alone ..... seems he did not enjoy it as much as he thought.
;)
seashell
10-19-2019, 07:08 AM
^Hehe! He knows he screwed up ;)
Ugh, I have a huge acne breakout and I'm supposed to see the sexy Serb in a couple days. Whyyy...
carmen_b
10-19-2019, 09:19 PM
Did an outing with him Thursday. I took him to a hot spring for a late b-day gift.
Here it is 48 hours after that outing ( planned by me ) and he hasn't reached out to even plan something in a day or two. I planned the last thing and half our chat was about how no initiating on his part was killing it for me. In the chat he asked to keep the boyfriend / girlfriend status. If I were him I would have asked me YESTERDAY or early today to keep some time open Sunday or Monday evening.
I also feel like it was a lie by omission to keep seeing me ( if he knew he couldn't keep up libido wise ).
Maybe it's a gift. I can get rid of my apartment and to a cheaper country .
I can just fully focus there .... not have a long distance thing to get back to.
carmen_b
10-20-2019, 02:26 PM
Well shame on me anyway. Not really sure why he wanted a gf so much when the basics ( just getting together smoothly ) are something he struggles with.
I am starting to think the ladies on here who are outspoken against dating and men in general are onto something.
I refuse to plan the next thing. If I do nothing I bet it would a whole week until he reaches out and by then I'll be over it so I'm just calling myself single today and getting ahead of it.
miss.a.p1600
10-20-2019, 03:21 PM
^ you sure it not finances?
When I was strapped for cash I would not plan stuff cause I’d be insecure about not being able to spend
carmen_b
10-20-2019, 05:48 PM
^ Maybe ?
Maybe I’ll just wait a bit.
carmen_b
10-20-2019, 07:34 PM
But ... I did sign him up on door dash.
( on his phone)
And we live in a resort ski area .... you can’t walk a block without seeing a bar or restaurant help wanted sign.
I’d be happy with a $5 afternoon movie .... a $2 Tuesday beer ... you get the idea. It’s the lack of inertia not the cost of an outing . I’m the queen of free / cheap entertainment. He could honestly just ask me if that's what it is.
miss.a.p1600
10-20-2019, 08:54 PM
If it is finances....
It’s a pride thing; an ego thing. Maybe even a denial thing.
seashell
10-21-2019, 02:01 AM
^If it is finances, (from personal experience with my broke ex) he might not be OK with you taking the lead financially. It does get in the way of his pride.
carmen_b
10-21-2019, 09:03 AM
I don’t know much about those details. I do know he had a phase of getting hours cut.
I think he is back to full time this week.
Why not just get something else part time ?
I don’t get it. It’s hard for me to watch someone operate in even a phase like that ( even temporary ).
To me being financially tight is an EMERGENCY and should be treated like one IMMEDIATELY.
It might be finances somewhat but I think there is more to it ....
carmen_b
10-21-2019, 09:38 AM
He has brought up concerns that I'm not sexually generous enough to him . We seem to be caught in that loop of me being irritated that I assemble most of the get togethers / not really being happy. I guess I should have walked a week or two ago but it was hard ( we seemed to both be really sincere in our apologies when we talked ).
miss.a.p1600
10-21-2019, 01:26 PM
Well some people operate better under pressure but others react like chickens with their head cut off in times of emergency.
If it’s the latter could be poor decision making under stress leading to continued possible financial strife
I have not a clue what not sexually generous means but if that’s what your intuition is telling you.....you know the situation a lot better than anybody since you’re experiencing it
carmen_b
10-21-2019, 01:39 PM
I think it's best to walk away. It was really hard to choose since he is very sweet in person.
It should just be SO sexy and fun at this point.
I will really need time to process and won't date for awhile .......
He hasn't asked for any time with me in the next few days so he won't get any.
For the best I guess?
Mr. London just texted ( one of my fave club customers ) and let me know he's headed this way.
The club he likes is three hours from here . It will be worth it to go see him. ;)
Road trip ! Yes! Haha.
miss.a.p1600
10-21-2019, 03:05 PM
Gotta go with your gut!
seashell
10-22-2019, 04:37 AM
I feel like I'm so fucking dramatic, but...
I'm in Serbia. There's a fortress where a big music festival takes place every year. I vented over the summer about how I wanted to go and hang out with N, the friend with benefits, but couldn't make it. I saw on Instagram that he met a girl at the festival, she was traveling and lived at his place for a couple weeks. I was totally devastated, she was a gorgeous Instagram model, and she's exactly like me, this traveling artist/musician. I felt like I couldn't compete with that, and over time, he kept making it obvious that they had a friendship on social media.
Anyway, she lives in another country, and I'm here in Serbia now. I went to the fortress and was so freaking depressed at first. I just can't stop feeling like I'm chasing after this jerk, who has better options anyway.
He's not a jerk, but you get it.
Anyway, we have never done much other than sleep together, go out for drinks, or walk around the city. He has invited me out to do all kinds of things or travel with him, but I always say no, because... I dunno. I like him more than I want to. But today he invited me to a movie. I'm dying, you guys. I don't want to like him. I really really like him.
I think I'm going to have to stop seeing him, I'm just not ready for anything other than being friends with benefits.
ETA: Ah fuck... I can't not hang out with this awesome person. I need to know what happens next. We're hanging out tomorrow.
seashell
10-22-2019, 04:38 AM
Also, I'm sitting in a hostel right now trying not to cry in front of my 19 year old male roommate. XD
carmen_b
10-22-2019, 11:27 AM
^ Aw !
He's getting to you ! If he tries to transition to more serious things, why not go with it ?
seashell
10-22-2019, 12:21 PM
^ Aw !
He's getting to you ! If he tries to transition to more serious things, why not go with it ?
Yeah, I probably would. I'm just insecure. I've had some difficult breakups and really sad goodbyes, because of traveling over the past few years. I no longer feel like I can open up emotionally at that level. But some people are worth it.
seashell
10-23-2019, 09:18 AM
We hung out yesterday, and he let me spend the night since I have a crappy hostel, lol. It was nice to see him! Sometimes the chemistry is amazing, sometimes it's a little off, and I'm not sure why. We cuddled a little bit. He's never been that affectionate before. And in the morning, he drove me back to my hostel. We're going out again tonight, for the movie.
But my period just started... So I guess there's not going to be any sexy time tonight, lol.
carmen_b
10-24-2019, 03:28 PM
I'm just going to be " busy " every time M reaches out ( if he even does ).
Oh, he finally reaches me yesterday which is Wed. ( I'm now a state over and at the club ) and wants to see me Thursday . No.
I guess I transitioned into hating him.
carmen_b
10-24-2019, 04:26 PM
I hadn't opened Tinder in 3 months. I opened it when I got back to my city and the THIRD person is Aviator " B " who has added a fake name and new info.
:(
There must be HUNDREDS of dudes single on it from 3 months ago OR new to it . WHY him as the third pick ?
I feel like the app is fucking with me.
carmen_b
10-25-2019, 01:30 PM
Don't you just love it when you call someone out on their shit ?
I told M last night " Since you don't act like a boyfriend , I had already assumed we were done . "
Hahahaha
Excuses ensued.
I will celebrate tonight with a great meal and glass of champagne.
UPDATE : Steak finished. Off to find the bubbly. ;)