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miss.a.p1600
11-22-2019, 11:04 PM
Ok so I’m back from second date

Went for food and couple of drinks.

Then back to his place.

So we made out this time - and I would test out his sex skills

Buuuuuut

I discovered.......he just got out of a relationship 2 damn months ago

So yeah I think he’s on the rebound

And #2 I purposely did not wax so I would not be tempted.

Idk. I’m just not sure what I want to do now. I don’t know if I should keep dating him.

charlie61
11-23-2019, 07:51 PM
Ok so I’m back from second date

Went for food and couple of drinks.

Then back to his place.

So we made out this time - and I would test out his sex skills

Buuuuuut

I discovered.......he just got out of a relationship 2 damn months ago

So yeah I think he’s on the rebound

And #2 I purposely did not wax so I would not be tempted.

Idk. I’m just not sure what I want to do now. I don’t know if I should keep dating him.

I met my current partner of 2+ years when i was rebounding from my last relationship of 10+ years. I didn't take my current partner seriously at first - i was kind of mean to him and was treating him as an ego boost to help me reestablish my self esteem and date-ability. But once i realized I'd accidentally stumbled upon a catch, i started investing in what i had.

Sometimes you can find the right person at the wrong time and still manage to not fuck it up. I remember being so afraid that my baggage from being with my ex would ruin everything...

miss.a.p1600
11-23-2019, 08:04 PM
Thanks Charlie

I was crying and ready to write his ass off

But I figured instead I’d just take it slow and go from there.

Just curious which one of you ended the 10 year relationship?

charlie61
11-23-2019, 08:10 PM
Thanks Charlie

I was crying and ready to write his ass off

But I figured instead I’d just take it slow and go from there.


Yeah, my intimacy issues almost caused me to screw the whole thing up. But i did my best to just enjoy what i had with my new partner and take it day by day. It was really scary for me to stay open to something that might not last. The sick part of me wanted to just end it right away to spare myself the potential of getting let down if it didn't work out. I obviously know very little about your situation, so i don't want to project my life onto yours. But maybe it's helpful to hear my experience. <3

miss.a.p1600
11-23-2019, 09:11 PM
It is helpful to know there are possibilities

I know it’s risky on my end (he claims there is no contact between them and that she broke it off with him) so ill have to make extra caution to maintain my boundaries

Carmen Elixer
11-26-2019, 08:01 PM
Was listening to Shera Seven recently & she says the men in the south are much more polite and kinder to women
Can anyone confirm this?

miss.a.p1600
11-26-2019, 09:02 PM
^it’s the “southern hospitality” thing

In Deep South country areas it’s not as rushed (so stopping to help, looking after neighbors, saying yes/no ma’am, family connectedness, etc) that is not as common in large metro places up north

Plus dudes in smaller cities/ in the south aren’t used to seeing true 10 type women so you could be extra thick, “home grown”, no makeup, no surgery, “average”, “plain Jane” and still pull plenty dudes because to them this is what a 10 looks like

Before you sell all your possessions and move to the south - There are always exceptions

Carmen Elixer
11-27-2019, 11:49 AM
Plus dudes in smaller cities/ in the south aren’t used to seeing true 10 type women so you could be extra thick, “home grown”, no makeup, no surgery, “average”, “plain Jane” and still pull plenty dudes because to them this is what a 10 looks like

Well hell I'm happy to serve up some my homegrown
midwestern poundcake
just tell me how far south do I need to go. lol
I've always wanted to go to Texas though seriously.
where shera met James
lol

[/QUOTE]
Before you sell all your possessions and move to the south - There are always exceptions [/QUOTE]

got it. lol. I'm just looking for a change in the odds. I don't mind the occasional outlier. lol

Carmen Elixer
11-27-2019, 12:43 PM
I keep saying 'I'm dating again"
but not actually dating. Like I haven't been on any dates. or
even any dating sites.

Is it still "dating" if you're just thinking about it?
It's almost like dating, but without all the hassles.

I have done one -big thing though.
I've narrowed down the area that I'm going to freestyle at.
I have decided to only freestyle in hardware stores.
I dont' need to know what these guys' favortie movie is, the last
book he read, his fave sex position, what his dream job would be
if he could come back again in a different body. I need to know what
he knows about how to fix a toilet whisper. Can he repair electricity.
Would be able to put a good sound system in the livingroom. Put
headlights & taillights in the car? Also I need somebody to talk to the
cable guy when he comes in.

miss.a.p1600
11-27-2019, 02:50 PM
^hardware stores? Look confused and I swear a dude will come out of nowhere asking to help. Hopefully it’s a fine ass dude

Carmen Elixer
11-27-2019, 07:44 PM
That is a great idea!

I see that I am going to want to come up with a list of
questions to ask when he shows up.
I'm gonna be ready for this mfr.
and yeah, I hope he's sexy asf lol

carmen_b
11-28-2019, 12:07 PM
^ good strategy

I went to Home Depot to plant shop a few months ago. I was even thinking “ I bet there’s some hot dudes here ect.”
1-2 minutes later .... hot AF guy passes.
I was taken at the time and didn’t do anything.
This works. :)

carmen_b
11-29-2019, 03:28 PM
I have a Tinder again in an effort to “ get back out there “.
I made a promising connection and then he got needy via text even after I was up front that my preference is a casual in person date / light texting only.

:/
I saw Mr NY on there 10 min ago and feel blah .
He has such a nice dick. I guess I should just be grateful I got it a couple times .
We have our similar lifestyle choices / lots in common .
Its unnerving for me to see the profile of someone I wanted.
It just makes me want to yell “ What the fuck do you want ? I will invite you on my next adventures and bang you senseless !!! How could any other offer be better than mine ?”

Anyway ... my dating intention ( if I even date ) is still lots of get to know you time.

carmen_b
11-29-2019, 03:44 PM
I wish I could just pay an escort for a similar sexual experience to Mr NY.
I think I have a bruised ego there because I offered him sex one more time in early Aug. and he didn’t bite.
I met the Aviator soon after and then M.

This photo he put up really showed his eyes / lips.

carmen_b
11-29-2019, 03:46 PM
I told the new suitor I could meet him at 7pm ( in convenient area for me ).
I don’t like it when men don’t initiate and plan so place ( and showing up !) is up to him .
I will treat myself to a drink out regardless.

miss.a.p1600
11-29-2019, 03:48 PM
So I guess it’s actually a good idea to try and meet some other guys so I don’t get fixated on this one guy

I went to this Starbucks in the business district where 70% of the time men will come up to me and give me their number. Last week a guy came up to me but he was not that attractive. I’ll get cuter and try again.

Sunday I’ll be out. Probably go to a steakhouse. Sending some signals and hopefully a hot rich guy will pickup on the signals come over to me offer to buy my drinks then get my number so he can know me better.

I’ll be making sure to hint around at my weekend festivities when that guy I’m dating asks what I’m doing. Hopefully the thought of other men possibly attracting me to them will spark a sense of urgency into him.

I’ll let that guy I’m dating reach out to me this weekend. He should ask me out for a third date soon to keep this momentum going.

miss.a.p1600
11-29-2019, 03:56 PM
I have two guys that gave me their number a long long time ago. I’m wondering if I should call them up or text them?

I keep flip flopping and I guess I will go ahead and see if I can juggle a rotation. At least 2 men with max of 4.

I’ve been thinking about this guy I’m dating WAAAAY too much and maybe this is the only way to keep my emotions in check. I like him but I don’t know where he stands or how he views me since he hasn’t asked to spend time with him since I turned down his offer for sex last weekend

miss.a.p1600
11-29-2019, 08:24 PM
Sorry I keep posting this will be the last one I’m just feeling like not as happy as before.

Ok I think I’ve finally figured it out and instead of me having a rotation which doesn’t feel natural at this moment I will just use this experience to be strong and use a 2-3 date test.

For some reason I got emotionally attached to him (way too fast) and it doesn’t feel good knowing he’s dating other people and I’m in his rotation or whatever

I feel like i need to exit left.

I don’t know if this makes me weak or if this is the right decision

I’m not sure if I’ll talk to that guy anymore after this. I don’t know if I should ignore his texts or just tell him. Like what would I say?

carmen_b
11-29-2019, 08:35 PM
^ Well ... he did ask out twice already right ?

Not sure if my advice is great but a simple suggestion of Sun. coffee or brunch might be ok.

It’s only the start. Meeting weekly is pretty standard the first few weeks.

I'm 100% not saying that you need to step in and initiate. Just maybe a small hint or something that a Sunday meeting would be nice.

miss.a.p1600
11-29-2019, 11:02 PM
^those are really good ideas Carmen but you know what ....

fuck him!

Not literally (even though deep down I want to do that but he has yet to prove his worthiness to have access to enter these divine gates of magnificent pleasure)

Yes we’ve been out twice.

And speaking of the devil he just called me .... at Midnight! Wtf?!?

I’m way to emotionally invested (and i haven’t even fucked him yet) and so I need to pull back to get myself together so I can quit rambling on stipperwebs

carmen_b
11-30-2019, 12:56 PM
^ Ew. A midnight call. Go fuck off dude.

All I'd do here is just suggest a third outing ( he may be doubting your interest ) and if you suggest putting something on the calendar in 1-2 days ... prob best you can do for now and shows your interest is there ( considering he fully planned the first two ).

It's a sad world we live in honestly where a guy would doubt interest by not getting sex on date #2. You might have to flat out say " I'm interested but would like to wait another week or two on sex most likely. "

carmen_b
11-30-2019, 12:59 PM
The dude I'm chatting with seems very successful ( if he isn't lying ). He is into the rental property game ( something I have a lot of experience with ). I am discreet about my involvement there but gave him some info yesterday that seemed to dial up his interest and make him trust me more. I think he is one of those dudes that knows he isn't *the* most handsome ( he isn't ugly to me and is 5'8'' ) so he is very forward about success to compensate. Honestly .... I can work with that if he isn't lying. Hustle is very attractive to me .

The area I'm in is very unique. There are a lot of " bigger " players here in the winter because I'm near a famous ski area. It is overall just the right season and ripe for sugaring or something that sort of rides that line ..........

carmen_b
11-30-2019, 01:38 PM
I'm honestly very hesitant to meet anyone.
I have protected my time very well in the last 4-5 weeks .

I just feel like a lot men are dishonest.
There is A LOT of pretending to be boyfriend material ( I fee like many pretend to be interested in that type of situation and think we are not smart enough to quickly catch on ).

Carmen Elixer
11-30-2019, 01:56 PM
I don’t know where he stands or how he views me since he hasn’t asked to spend time with him since I turned down his offer for sex last weekend

I would view this as him telling me
"plan on fucking me the next time. it might be a
while before you get the next chance."
" Im going to act like I don't see you to scare
you into thinking Ima fuck somebody else"

Men are always gaming, even when they act like
they're not

carmen_b
11-30-2019, 02:00 PM
^ I honestly hope her guy is a good one but just seeing what I see here I see how he might feel like her interest isn't quite there / he might need reassurance that after a couple or few more outings he will " get " something sexually. Like I said ..... its a very weird and sad world we live in. If things don't move fast many people will not wait.

miss.a.p1600
11-30-2019, 02:02 PM
^ Ew. A midnight call. Go fuck off dude.

All I'd do here is just suggest a third outing ( he may be doubting your interest ) and if you suggest putting something on the calendar in 1-2 days ... prob best you can do for now and shows your interest is there ( considering he fully planned the first two ).

It's a sad world we live in honestly where a guy would doubt interest by not getting sex on date #2. You might have to flat out say " I'm interested but would like to wait another week or two on sex most likely. "

Lol!!! Yeah I straight ignored. Trying not to get offended cause it’s like “what makes you think I’m down of midnight fuck session and I don’t know you that well yet” I assume he was drunk or whatever. Or maybe it was the end of his date and he thought I’d give him the nightcap. Either way I just wasn’t pleased with that.

I loathe planning dates. I feel like it’s a mans job. I guess I’ll figure something out. What kind of outing?

I really honestly just want to know has this mf cut off his exes for good AND is he trying to be with other women AND is he going to respect me consistently - before I have sex with him.


I would view this as him telling me
"plan on fucking me the next time. it might be a
while before you get the next chance."
" Im going to act like I don't see you to scare
you into thinking Ima fuck somebody else"

Men are always gaming, even when they act like
they're not

This is EXACTLY it....I noticed that after I turned him down for sex, he made it a point to say that he had women he "could" call up but chose not too cause he wanted something new/to start fresh. Then I noticed him say that he went with a 'friend' to the game last weekend (the day after the sex offer turndown).

I really started thinking 'oh we still talk n text daily but he hasn't asked to see me again so maybe he is dating/fucking other people'. Then my competitive nature started kicking in and I was like 'do I really want to compete for dick against some nameless/faceless heauxs?"

Then I started to feel like 'welcome to the world of men's games' ..... JOY!!!


^ I honestly hope her guy is a good one but just seeing what I see here I see how he might feel like her interest isn't quite there / he might need reassurance that after a couple or few more outings he will " get " something sexually. Like I said ..... its a very weird and sad world we live in. If things don't move fast many people will not wait.

I tried not to give him a hard rejection for his dick offer....I mean I really wanted to be with him sexually (and its rare that I'm feeling sexually attracted to guys that fast)....so I told him I wanted to get to know him and complimented him about the things I liked about him/wanted to see more of....IDK maybe he thought I was lying or something

carmen_b
11-30-2019, 02:04 PM
^ Well ask him. I would just be up front that you are looking for a boyfriend / monogamy. If he runs away ..... you've obviously got the answer.

I'm not sure if my advise is any good honestly. I thought I'd be partnered by now .

miss.a.p1600
11-30-2019, 02:22 PM
I'm honestly very hesitant to meet anyone.
I have protected my time very well in the last 4-5 weeks .

I just feel like a lot men are dishonest.
There is A LOT of pretending to be boyfriend material ( I fee like many pretend to be interested in that type of situation and think we are not smart enough to quickly catch on ).

Sometimes I wonder with men if they are all just lying . Like ..... if they were fully honest would they just say " I only intend to sleep with you a month or two " ?

I'll come back later with more thoughts. I want HONESTY first and foremost. The reason I ended up SO angry at M and not Mr. NY was the dishonesty. In my opinion what he did ( kind of forcing me to wait around for him ) in Oct. by claiming ( lying ! ) about being busy was dishonest. Mr. NY on the other hand told me he wasn't offering a relationship in Aug. ( he cited things like his transition out of his apartment ect. ) but he gave me the info clean / clear.

I am at least proud of myself for how I handled M . It took me a bit to figure out what was really going on ( I'm busy .... gotta get the info IN MY FACE for me to see it ). Once I figured out what he was doing I was just like " lets finish this entirely ". I think it threw him off that I wasn't going to offer any sort of " on again / off again " plan . The fact is ..... he was determined to ruin it. He ruined it. The end.

No I've realized that all men will disguise their true intentions because their goal is to fuck, as soon as possible, and even with as many people as possible.

If they were really honest......NONE of them would ever get laid and they'd commit suicide

Also your M guy reminds me of how I was with that old guy.....I liked him 75% but it was that other 25% that was missing (there just were no feelings of passion on my end) but rather than end it with him and be lonely and be the 'bad guy' and start over, I selfishly kept him around for the 75%. I didn't realize I was being selfish at the time, I just thought that 'maybe this is as good as it gets?' but there was the nagging feeling that we just weren't meant to be.

When he gave me the text ultimatum, and when I accidentally ran into him on a date then I knew it was over and there was no turning back.

Sometimes people need that jolt of 'its final' 'its over' to make them realize and reflect on that relationship and how to improve for the future

carmen_b
11-30-2019, 04:10 PM
^ Id like to think at least some are open to longer term.
I just seem to see so many situations where men end things over minimal issues.

I guess I’m lacking trust overall .

Carmen Elixer
11-30-2019, 04:20 PM
ap, he thot he had you so wet, and thirsty
after all that texting without asking you out
that you would jump on his dick at midnight,
He played himself

carmen, glad you didn't let that last keep
from getting back out there. keep going

miss.a.p1600
11-30-2019, 04:53 PM
^ Id like to think at least some are open to longer term.
I just seem to see so many situations where men end things over minimal issues.

I guess I’m lacking trust overall .

I assume your guys are younger? In mid twenties and early thirties?

The average young guy has no incentive to settle down - now their are exceptions - so they tend to be super picky n ready to end things over minimal issues as you mentioned

older guys start questioning the meaning of life, don’t want to die alone, and unless they’re rich then their selection is limited thus they’re not as able/willing to chase ass as young dudes. Knowing this they maturely realize they have to accept some quirks or risk being alone with no pussy for a loooong time.

Are your guys under 35?

miss.a.p1600
11-30-2019, 05:02 PM
ap, he thot he had you so wet, and thirsty
after all that texting without asking you out
that you would jump on his dick at midnight,
He played himself....

Lol!!!! Like that play on words ... well done.

He was acting like a male thot. But what’s even more weird is

1) I actually halfway tried to invite his ass out the night after our second date. Told him I was watching the game and eating cake and he should be there. He was like “oh where”. I told him it was this restaurant (an upscale place I go to a lot). I think In his mind he was going to rush over if I told him I was at home. But nooooo his follow up text was disappointing to me. I thought he’d be like “yeah I’ll come out and watch game with you” or if no something like “as much as I’d love to see you I want to plan something for next weekend”

2) he text me night before thanksgiving around 10:30ish like “who are you with?” And I told him I wasn’t alone yet (because I was with family).

I thought that would give him a clue that I’m not a booty call type woman but he went from doing these things to actually calling me at midnight yesterday

Its like he’s going backwards (not sure if he’s just that impatient) and I want him to keep the momentum moving forward. But if he’s put me into the Booty call category then I’ll unfortunately have to put him in the Next category. If I want a booty call it will be on my terms.

Maybe Carmen B is right .... I’m just going to have to flat out ask him wtf is he trying to do cause if I try to figure this out on my own I’m going to be confused as hell

carmen_b
11-30-2019, 08:50 PM
Miss P., you asked about the ages.

^ M is 32 I believe.

Mr. NY is 40.

B ( Aussie ) 40

I'm 39 ( no quoting hahaha ) . Maybe I need to go up a bit .......

carmen_b
11-30-2019, 08:53 PM
10:30 pm asking who you are with ?

Does he suspect you may be taken ?

miss.a.p1600
12-01-2019, 05:18 AM
10:30 pm asking who you are with ?

Does he suspect you may be taken ?

hmmm?

Never thought of it like that.

I think him telling me that he just got out of 4 year relationship/had a Rolodex of heaxs he *could* call up/this 2 month period was the longest he’d ever been single n not had sex kind of triggered me PLUS later told me he went to the game with “a friend” kind of pushed me over the limit.

so when he asked who are you with (even though I was with family, because after all it is the holidays) I was kind of vague and told him I wasn’t alone yet.

Maybe I should have been mature n specific and said I was still with family. Idk


also


I did tell him I usually go to bed at 10 but on weekends I *might* stay up later.

I just don’t know if I’ve crossed that threshold with him yet to be answering him after booty call hours without him thinking I’m just a booty call. So anytime he texts/calls after 10 i ignore

me ignoring is out of the usual pattern cause I always text back and answer his calls

He text me again last night about 11 - which again I ignored cause I was asleep


Oh and another thing

We text multiple times during the day and talk for about 30-45 min every weeknight. This is why I have a hard time dating other men rn cause I don’t think I’d have any extra time to give.

My point is if he were thinking rationally how could I be taken if I’ve talked to him every weeknight for past 3 weeks


But now that you mention it. Maybe in his irrational guy mind the only possible reason I said no to fucking him is cause I allegedly have a dude somewhere that im fuckiing

miss.a.p1600
12-01-2019, 05:23 AM
That’s interesting Carmen

Except for M, I would think those guys are at the age where men prefer to be settled down. Well the my guy said out the gate he didn’t want to settle down. He probably thought if he kept giving you good dick that like the average woman you’d get emotionally attached which would mean you wanting him in a relationship. So that was a no go. And the B guy sounded like a player to me. Players can be tamed but it’s HARD work n usual low ROI roping them into relationships

carmen_b
12-01-2019, 02:05 PM
Yeah , I would hear “I’m not alone “ at 10:30 pm and assume married.

I’d personally just spell it out that you need another couple dates / another week or two to go an intimate direction.
If you even want to persue it.

I think he made a *big mistake* so aggressively saying he had options. It’s 2019. We all have options. Especially women.
That’s a given / no need to throw options in anyone’s face.

carmen_b
12-01-2019, 02:07 PM
^ Ill tell you one thing too ( thanks Kinster J for this valuable lesson ). Nothing really wrong with discussing what you like sexually either before . It can really add a comfort level .
I thought maybe how he talked with me about my kinks / his / ect. would take a spark out.

It did not. It made everything smooth / very hot.

Just an idea.

miss.a.p1600
12-01-2019, 02:27 PM
Yeah , I would hear “I’m not alone “ at 10:30 pm and assume married.

I’d personally just spell it out that you need another couple dates / another week or two to go an intimate direction.
If you even want to persue it.

I think he made a *big mistake* so aggressively saying he had options. It’s 2019. We all have options. Especially women.
That’s a given / no need to throw options in anyone’s face.

Ohhhh!

It seemed like he’s playing the waiting game like still texting n calling so if/when we go on a third date he thinks the probability of fucking is high. I also heard him say he allegedly had a work trip this weekend so two weekends in a row he could have seized the opportunity

oh well

and yeah I took that as him posturing to try to prove he had options and I should be like on my toes or something. Girl in the back of my mind I was like “really dude! Do you see how good I’m looking? I could walk out your house rn and replace you quicker than your allegedly pussy Rolodex”

miss.a.p1600
12-01-2019, 02:28 PM
^ Ill tell you one thing too ( thanks Kinster J for this valuable lesson ). Nothing really wrong with discussing what you like sexually either before . It can really add a comfort level .
I thought maybe how he talked with me about my kinks / his / ect. would take a spark out.

It did not. It made everything smooth / very hot.

Just an idea.

Interesting....very interesting.

I think I have trouble with that like saying it but I can write about it all day long. I can put my sexual thoughts in written words but verbally I struggle

carmen_b
12-01-2019, 02:30 PM
^ Shows you value / prioritize sex too and aren’t just randomly waiting. But that there is an intention to it.

carmen_b
12-01-2019, 02:33 PM
I don’t have time for men.

If they can’t keep up with my travel schedule ( which no one can ) I don’t know what to say hahaha.

Going to Mexico and looking forward to some local flavors if you know what I’m saying . I’m a white girl / just a little thick . Blonde . Mexican dudes are VERY appreciative and show love everywhere I find them.
Granted they prob do with all races / sizes lol.

miss.a.p1600
12-01-2019, 02:35 PM
Haha Mexican dudes ... the best thing I ever did was learn Spanish and hustle them in club. The less English they speak the better.

carmen_b
12-01-2019, 02:37 PM
I speak Spanish . Haha
Just enough. :)

miss.a.p1600
12-01-2019, 02:38 PM
^ Shows you value / prioritize sex too and aren’t just randomly waiting. But that there is an intention to it.

I guess that’s my issue. Being celibate for YEARS made me forget the value n benefits of sex.

I can’t even tell his ass this

carmen_b
12-01-2019, 02:46 PM
Why ?
It does explain why you might want to wait another week or two.

Just saying. Almost 0% health risk with hands. Lol.

Carmen Elixer
12-01-2019, 02:55 PM
I see a who guy needs checked bigtime

He's threatened. Given you deadlines .
interrupted your sleep. and told you he
ain't investing anymore time - outside of the
sack - with you.

I personally would not answer anymore calls

Never take my advice

carmen_b
12-01-2019, 03:04 PM
^ He definitely turned a little aggressive.

I’m not defending him either. I’m just making an opinion ( as a high libido person ) that I have kind of acted like this guy lol if I’ve gone weeks without and then the person I’m “ dating “ won’t even cuddle or offer a handy hahaha ( here’s looking at you tall teacher from last fall ).

That’s all in the past though lol since my current model is no freebie dating. I just do not want to extend my time without $$incentives and $$spoiling.

miss.a.p1600
12-01-2019, 03:27 PM
^^^damn y’all assessments are good.

Yes it did freak me out when he said 2 months is the longest he’s been single with no sex because I’m thinking now he’s going to have this time line for sex which might be quicker than I’m ready for.

I like the spoiling too Carmen! I haven’t seen enough effort n investment yet to justify sexual activity lol

I’m done fucking for free and i need to see something tangible to make it worth my while. I want him to work harder for this pussy to show me proof that he’s never going back to that relationship that recently ended.

Oh and you have a point Carmen E - I am ready to walk away if I need to....with my pussy and emotions in tact lol!

Thank y’all so much your insight is truly helpful

seashell
12-01-2019, 04:43 PM
$$$ all the way. I'm trying to level up a bit so I can attract better quality guys. Not sure I'll find them in the Balkans... but who knows.

I think I mentioned R, the Albanian guy who was getting clingy. I decided to give him another chance. I'm really intrigued by him... he's in China right now, quite the world traveler. He has a cushy government job. And he's pretty cute. Just the culture here is super conservative and guys don't know how to date.

There is also K, the other Albanian guy who's been an amazing friend. We slept together a couple times, and then I told him I just wanted to be his friend. I"m not really sure, anymore. I definitely don't see him as someone serious (he's too hot and too much of a fuckboy), but I do feel like I could use some action on the side, if that's all that he wants. I don't know. I won't live in Albania forever, so it shouldn't be that big of a deal.

He's been texting me every single day. EVERY DAY. I'm really grateful for him, and the chemistry, but I just feel like one of us is going to be heartbroken at some point. Probably me.

Also, there's an adorable nerdy British guy that I've been talking to, named J, who thinks it's fun to send me voice memos so I can swoon over his accent. lol. He was supposed to come visit me in Albania for the holidays, but it's not working out. Not sure if we'll ever meet (we were basically a missed-connection on Bumble when I visited the UK), but I'll be honest, I'd go into trophy-wife mode in milliseconds if I could find a British partner.