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miss.a.p1600
01-30-2020, 06:46 AM
^^Ooooh! That sounds like a super cute date!

The Albanian guy kept trying to invite himself over for a booty call, so I ended up telling him I can't, because of the English guy. I really like English dude, and I don't want to mess things up. I don't know what Albania really thinks about this, but he hasn't texted me since then, lol. Oh well. I thought he was a cool friend, but I guess he really did just want to fuck me all this time, and nothing more. He had a small peen, anyway....

England is coming to visit in TWO DAYS. I'm freaking out.

Hate when guys try to do that. I had this one guy calling me after 9 on the weekend a couple times and I assumed he was attempting a booty call - I ignored his calls

carmen_b
01-30-2020, 10:55 AM
I took my online stuff down for now.

I am so sick of the platform and when I look back on 2019 ( I met everyone online and no one in person I think ) there is this trend of men seeing me, deciding I am not good enough for whatever mysterious reason , and no one really offering to scale up to a boyfriend situation ( other than my fall " M " who was just a terrible boyfriend and then my winter " M " the abusive guy ). They were boyfriends but they sucked haha !

I am just wondering if there is an overall flaw with connecting online and have just pulled the plug on it.
In the time I save , I plan to restart volunteering work, and " get out there " in person . I really do have a BLANK slate to work with. I might as well try to enjoy it and just embrace that .

^ That probably sounded negative. I'm not very far into my morning coffee haha. I just meant I'm trying new things!

whirlerz
01-30-2020, 01:09 PM
Well.

Here I am lol.

Tomorrow, I'm supposed to go out for coffee w/hot guy upstairs (I know! ::)

I cleared my schedule, so we'll see:lovestruc:hyper:

seashell
01-30-2020, 01:50 PM
^Oooooh! A hot coffee with a hot guy!

The Englishman has officially arrived in my country. Omg. I'm so nervous. He's letting me plan all the activities, I'm kind of his tour guide. He sounds a little dusty, though, so I'm wondering if he's going to pay for me.

I need to stop dating broke guys, having sex too soon, and self sabotaging. I'm finally at a point in my life where I'm not a complete walking red flag. Now we'll see if Englishman has any big red flags... should be an interesting weekend.

miss.a.p1600
01-30-2020, 02:25 PM
^Oooooh! A hot coffee with a hot guy!

The Englishman has officially arrived in my country. Omg. I'm so nervous. He's letting me plan all the activities, I'm kind of his tour guide. He sounds a little dusty, though, so I'm wondering if he's going to pay for me.

I need to stop dating broke guys, having sex too soon, and self sabotaging. I'm finally at a point in my life where I'm not a complete walking red flag. Now we'll see if Englishman has any big red flags... should be an interesting weekend.

I’m cracking up over here.

But you may be on to something. Whenever I want to be absolutely sure the dude is gone pay, I let it be his idea to ask me out and plan the whole thing.

Worst case, like Carmen mentioned just keep some money in your wallet with your half of whatever y’all buy.

This is what I like about old dudes. Get you a man at least 10 years older (hasn’t been ravaged n destroyed by some ex Bertha financial dominator) and they already know what time it is. They feel so lucky to be with a pretty young woman- they gleefully come out their wallet

Anyhow hope it’s an enjoyable weekend for you!

miss.a.p1600
01-30-2020, 07:33 PM
Ok so the guy I met while grocery shopping 2 days ago might be a no.

One is that he double and triple texts
Two is that he invites me to hang out with him but doesnÂ’t ask my schedule first (which is opening for rejection)
Three is one of the places he asked me to go with him is a Mexican spot with cheap happy hour

Now IÂ’m not against happy hour but like Mexican happy hour just not a good idea to me. He didnÂ’t ask me what kinds of food I like he assumed I like Mexican.

I told him I couldnÂ’t go because my work week is hectic. IÂ’m working tonight and I have a job early in am so I am not going to be out at the bar drinking liquor.

This guy is younger than me and his age is starting to show already. I may have to tell him I just got in a relationship or something

IÂ’m not sure what is up with this dude.

He said he works 2 jobs 80 hrs a week but yet he finds time to text me all the time (double and triple texts) and asks me to meet up with him even after i tell him I have work etc. I guess since IÂ’m not working 80hrs like him I should have time right? Wtf?!?

Then he is always telling me his schedule, when he is free, etc. instead of asking me when IÂ’m free.

His game is not as good as I thought initially.

Then he asked me what I’m doing for Valentine’s Day and I said I’m definitely getting chocolate (I mentioned an upscale chocolatier) his ass gone say something about putting chocolate on my body. Naw bruh!

Then couple hours later he had the gall to text a drawing of a man giving a woman oral sex. No privateÂ’s showing but still! What makes him think he can text me that? He’s teetering on the edge of getting blocked

Honestly I could use some head from a bonifide pro tongue freak but IÂ’m not getting sexual with any dude that fast.

This may be the perfect time to tell him I don’t have sex before marriage }:D

carmen_b
01-31-2020, 10:02 AM
I hope the bowling guy cancels tomorrow or just forgets.
I think I want 2-3 weeks off again. :/
I won't cancel on him though ( that's extremely rude especially when he scheduled that 5 days ahead ).

AChildOfBoredom
01-31-2020, 10:53 AM
I’m a little on the fence here. One of our bouncers asked me on a date last weekend, and on the one hand, I really don’t like it, but on the other, he does have more imagination than the typical lackluster “dinner and a movie” date. Little bit younger… 25… don’t really expect anything would come of it. And he realized I was uncertain when he asked, so he suggested I take some time and think it over. I think it’s going to be a no from me. I’m sure I know what the endgame there is.

miss.a.p1600
01-31-2020, 12:15 PM
I’m a little on the fence here. One of our bouncers asked me on a date last weekend, and on the one hand, I really don’t like it, but on the other, he does have more imagination than the typical lackluster “dinner and a movie” date. Little bit younger… 25… don’t really expect anything would come of it. And he realized I was uncertain when he asked, so he suggested I take some time and think it over. I think it’s going to be a no from me. I’m sure I know what the endgame there is.

If the bouncers name is Tyrone

He’s probably looking for a stripper to fuck ...... long dick style


https://youtu.be/OQ9W7yh_4DA

I’m kidding

But seriously some of the bouncers are interesting the only downside is working with them daily if shit doesn’t work out. Then it’s annoying to see them all the time.

carmen_b
01-31-2020, 01:33 PM
I feel resentful and irritated at any text chit chat .
It's just an update of how I feel . I know I'm not in a good place to date or offer anyone much time.

miss.a.p1600
01-31-2020, 01:38 PM
I’m not sure if I want to date men that have daughters (especially school aged) because it would seem if I get close then they might instantly get jealous of another female

miss.a.p1600
01-31-2020, 01:50 PM
I swear I think this guy is autistic or a horrible listener. I told his ass I could not hang out with him this weekend because I have family obligations and work.

And you know what his ass does?

Texts me his schedule. Then texts me again asking if he can see me today.

I’m going to tell him about himself and if he doesn’t get a clue he’s getting blocked

carmen_b
01-31-2020, 02:18 PM
^ It sounds like something must be wrong with him .
It's Friday so he should have this scheduled a few days ahead anyway.

If you even want to pursue it I would offer him Mon. or Tues.
He seems to also be offering an outing in a neighboorhood you are not big on so I would even say something like " I'm open Mon. or Tues. evening in area xyz if you'd like to meet ".

In full honestly I rarely leave my neighboorhood when I'm in my home city. The reason is that it is the " best " in my city and it's the urban core . I have a higher comfort level in this area than going out to the suburbs . It might be a little snotty but I expect the guy to come to me and most do. There is more fun stuff to do in this area anyway than scattered across miles in the outskirts of town.

miss.a.p1600
01-31-2020, 03:12 PM
Thanks Carmen! I need to get better at saying what I want vs. ignoring n ditching

He mentioned an upscale restaurant that he went to with his family members and how they were clueless about the prices and he was allegedly the only one who could afford it and i told him that is one of my favorite spots. He said we should go there but then I could have swore I heard him say we could split a meal. I’m Like nah bruh!

Plus he claims to be working 80hrs a week so like wtf is he working 2 min wage jobs or something?

In the middle of his triple texts last night he sent me the yelp of his condo location (wtf? I hope he didn’t think I was coming over lol) and it looks like a regular apartment complex. Plus he said his brother is his roommate. I just feel like if he *needs* a roommate to survive then I’m not down. I’m too grown to be dating men that don’t own houses and don’t live on their own

I think he might not be on my level financially.

Plus

I want kids (he doesn’t) and I want to be a 50s housewife and I can just get the vibe he expects the woman to work

I’ve got to just tell him it’s not going to work and do it soon.

Going back to my sugar daddy plan. If they ain’t making offerings of financial nature/making my life easier financially then I can’t do it.

“Siri - how do I end this?”

miss.a.p1600
01-31-2020, 03:16 PM
^ It sounds like something must be wrong with him .
It's Friday so he should have this scheduled a few days ahead anyway.

If you even want to pursue it I would offer him Mon. or Tues.
He seems to also be offering an outing in a neighboorhood you are not big on so I would even say something like " I'm open Mon. or Tues. evening in area xyz if you'd like to meet ".

In full honestly I rarely leave my neighboorhood when I'm in my home city. The reason is that it is the " best " in my city and it's the urban core . I have a higher comfort level in this area than going out to the suburbs . It might be a little snotty but I expect the guy to come to me and most do. There is more fun stuff to do in this area anyway than scattered across miles in the outskirts of town.

Sometimes it’s okay to be a little snotty. I think guys like that anyways

miss.a.p1600
01-31-2020, 05:59 PM
OMG!

I just saw that dusty ass racist narcissistic sociopath I mistakenly dated 4 years ago (till I came to my senses) while I’m at the gym

I want to throw up. Gross! Now I want to cancel my membership

AChildOfBoredom
01-31-2020, 07:45 PM
I declined. What point is there in trying when I feel nothing at all?

And what the hell did I just watch?

carmen_b
01-31-2020, 08:49 PM
I am in such an anger loop with men.

I was spying online on this person I am sort of interested in . He shares the same first name as the Aviator so I go on FB to search for him and see the Aviators damn new ( sexy ) sunset profile photo . He is folding his arms and I'm trying to zoom in and see if there is a wedding ring. Lol. I remember him lying to me about his full name!! Wtf ? I am just tripped out all over again like ...... yeah .... if he is married he has incentive to lie. If he isn't ..... what is it about ME that made him think I didn't deserve his real info ?

I hate to be that lady that kind of just rolls around town and is like " fuck off " every time a man looks over ....... but I'm kind of just there.

The person I was spying on is " Mr. Mountain Man " hahaha. He trains birds for a local organization , wears fur coats he makes himself, and has a tipi ( really ! ). Hahahaha. I sure could use a good connection to the earth ( such as being held down and being fucked by the fire in the tipi ). Those ideas are getting ahead of myself. He is also a little heavier and now I associate having a few extra pounds with having a super low libido ( thanks for nothing fall " M " ) !!

carmen_b
01-31-2020, 09:00 PM
I already got yelled at in this other online forum. This girl was saying her boyfriend hadn't fucked her in three months and I said to leave or offer an open relationship ! That's all I said ( the gist of it anyway ). I got this lecture about " well he might have former abuse / be depressed ect. " ! I just pointed out that if she wanted sex she should leave ! I didn't say to rape him or force him ! Why is everyone sticking up for these guys who ( literally ) are NOT DELIVERING ? Hahahaha. This is why I'm only on SW.

seashell
02-01-2020, 03:43 AM
I am in such an anger loop with men.

I was spying online on this person I am sort of interested in . He shares the same first name as the Aviator so I go on FB to search for him and see the Aviators damn new ( sexy ) sunset profile photo . He is folding his arms and I'm trying to zoom in and see if there is a wedding ring. Lol. I remember him lying to me about his full name!! Wtf ? I am just tripped out all over again like ...... yeah .... if he is married he has incentive to lie. If he isn't ..... what is it about ME that made him think I didn't deserve his real info ?

I hate to be that lady that kind of just rolls around town and is like " fuck off " every time a man looks over or try's to speak ....... but I'm kind of just there.

The person I was spying on is " Mr. Mountain Man " hahaha. He trains birds for a local organization , wears fur coats he makes himself, and has a tipi ( really ! ). Hahahaha. I sure could use a good connection to the earth ( such as being held down and being fucked on the furs in the tipi ). Those ideas are getting ahead of myself. He is also a little heavier and now I associate having a few extra pounds with having a super low libido ( thanks for nothing fall " M " ) !!
That's so crazy about the Aviator... it honestly sounds like he might have some sociopathic tendencies. Some people just lie for the fun of it, you know?

seashell
02-01-2020, 03:56 AM
I went out with the English guy yesterday. We had the best time! He's really sweet, funny, and outgoing. We went to the mountains, got lunch, played some mini golf, and then went downtown for some dinner and drinks. We literally spent 12 hours together, could not stop talking, and shared quite a few stories and laughs. Around midnight, we ended up climbing up one of the landmarks in the city center (one of those historic statues of a man on a horse), sat there and looked at the scenery for a while, and had our first kiss there.

Such a great night. Oh my god. I am the happiest girl right now. I'm also really turned on thinking about him... we barely kissed, he was really outgoing but held back when it came to touching me or kissing me. He told me that he had been nervous around me, he'd wanted to hold my hand or kiss me throughout the day, but he didn't really try that until very late in the evening. It was all very innocent. (Which, thank god, I needed that after the men I've been coming across lately.)

Today, we're supposed to hang out in about an hour, and go to the beach. He's here until Monday, so... I guess we'll see where things go. :)

miss.a.p1600
02-01-2020, 06:35 AM
I took my online stuff down for now.

I am so sick of the platform and when I look back on 2019 ( I met everyone online and no one in person I think ) there is this trend of men seeing me, deciding I am not good enough for whatever mysterious reason , and no one really offering to scale up to a boyfriend situation ( other than my fall " M " who was just a terrible boyfriend and then my winter " M " the abusive guy ). They were boyfriends but they sucked haha !

I am just wondering if there is an overall flaw with connecting online and have just pulled the plug on it.
In the time I save , I plan to restart volunteering work, and " get out there " in person . I really do have a BLANK slate to work with. I might as well try to enjoy it and just embrace that .

^ That probably sounded negative. I'm not very far into my morning coffee haha. I just meant I'm trying new things!

I think the main flaw with dating online - ESPECIALLY young dudes under 45 - is that they have a flawed yet perpetual “grass is greener on the other side” mentality. In their simple ass minds they can “collect” women and if a woman displays anything I mean any quirk they don’t like they figure they’ll just hop back online and quickly match up with someone else. For these guys they think women are easy to get and therefore easy to dispose of. They also have an “instant gratification” mentality when it comes to sex and are notorious for expecting sex by 2nd date.

Once in a blue moon you will luck up on a guy with a reasonable mature mindset online.

I personally know of at least one marriage from non traditional dating so it can happen but it is just rare and you have to tighten the filters if you want to keep doing online dating.

Perhaps after your break maybe trying both at the same time and see how that works?

carmen_b
02-01-2020, 09:20 AM
Sounds fun Seashell !! ^^

whirlerz
02-01-2020, 10:36 AM
Well.

Here I am lol.

Tomorrow, I'm supposed to go out for coffee w/hot guy upstairs (I know! ::)

I cleared my schedule, so we'll see:lovestruc:hyper:

Well, didn't happen :(.

He works a lot, he works by contract too.

I still left a pop tart up by his door today.
Idk, we'll see I guess. :-\

Probably not the best idea, lol, since we're roomies but he's so hot & nice

carmen_b
02-01-2020, 10:50 AM
^ Could be hot.
My friend from Hawaii dated her room mate , then married him, moved to California and had his baby . :)

carmen_b
02-01-2020, 10:52 AM
i'll get back out there eventually ! I'm just exhausted and feeling depressed / uncomfy .
I am staying with family trying to save money but I think it isn't working . I am not settled and not making what I normally would.

I was trying to avoid a lease ( I have a unique place I can stay for free starting in May ) but I am just dreading three more uncomfy months in my city . I probably need to settle now ( asap ) . I think this will help me feel better and relates to dating life somewhat. I could stay in the free place now but it's a cabin high up in the forest with no running water in winter. It's not exactly a sexy situation without water.

whirlerz
02-01-2020, 11:43 AM
^ Could be hot.
My friend from Hawaii dated her room mate , then married him, moved to California and had his baby . :)

That is fucking WILD!

But, you know, on one level it makes sense, you've already gotten to know the person

miss.a.p1600
02-01-2020, 03:32 PM
Dude keeps quadruple texting me.

I’m tired of being nice and I’ll respond when I’m ready. Then I will tell him about himself

He has a kid but I get the feeling he barely gets his kid cause he has so much time to work 80hrs whilst texting n trolling for pussy nonstop

miss.a.p1600
02-01-2020, 03:57 PM
I could have lined up a date this weekend but my dumb ass hinted the billiard guy (my longtime “friend”) should take me out again. He asked when I was free then I realized my weekend was filled. Now i guess i gotta ask him .... grrrr

carmen_b
02-01-2020, 05:38 PM
I feel relieved because I think I'm out of the bowling date. ;/
I just want to veg.
I'm sure I could have pushed it along but all I said was " it sounded great " and then I planned to just show at the time / place he said . I just felt relief about it when I did not get that info today .

My anger with men is a ball. There is so many to be mad at ( literally have a list of 6 or so that I feel did me wrong in 2019 ). Haha. I probably need to write some sort of letter to each one as a way to " get it out " and then burn them or put those letters away somewhere.

I am most likely venturing back into therapy too just for a refresh.

carmen_b
02-01-2020, 06:50 PM
The person who is kind of tripping me out right now is Mr. NY !
He is the one I saw in Aug. and we had a few sexy experiences . I just don't " get it " with him in a way. He was obsessed with the national parks and I was always getting sent in the direction of a few for my day job all the time ( free places to stay 80% of the time).

He was in touch in Dec.

I just told him some things about travel plans but I am still wondering why he wouldn't give me more sex last July / August ( it was only twice ).
I think maybe it's because he knew I was looking for a bf / gf connection but I did offer a casual situation ( with the intention to date still and find the connection ). I just don't understand with him sometimes. I don't know why I'm trying to solve the mystery now either. :(

I am just working some of this stuff out in my head. He had a big dog ( Pit Bull ) and mine is tiny. Maybe he was worried about the dogs too but that wouldn't eliminate more sexy time. Now I am wondering if he was in an " open " situation and maybe didn't disclose it. When I was in the desert last week I tried to write him but my phone deleted the messages ( I guess it does for things older than 30 days ). My I-Phone essentially outsmarted me reaching out.

miss.a.p1600
02-01-2020, 07:20 PM
I’m really disturbed now because I’ve been trying to figure out of Billiard guy/longtime “friend” could really be husband material for me.

He doesn’t play mind games, i can be open with him/tell him anything, he accepting of women working in adult industry, has a decent job with benefits, seems trustworthy and loyal (not the philandering type) etc but.........a couple things are showing up as yellow flags

1. He joked about being a pimp; allegedly had a sugar mama when he was younger; joked how I should be making money for us; and took hella long to set up our meeting I guess to see if I’d pay

2. He said he mistakenly married this woman and divorced shortly after and said how miserable he was that he doesn’t think he’ll ever get married again

Idk if I should open up pandora’s box with him again or just keep it surface level/non emotional whilst looking for plan b

miss.a.p1600
02-01-2020, 07:29 PM
I could be wrong but I think your NY dude sensed/knew that you wanted more than he could offer.

You then offered casual but that wasn’t what you *really* wanted deep down and he knew that; you knew that.

Rather than get your hopes up or risk you getting emotionally attached off a casual agreement then he had to withdraw

Also could have been possible he wasn’t truly single.

One more thing, guys do a “well timed pull back”. They dip out while things are good, causing the woman to wonder what went wrong and have this feeling of “unfinished business”. Notice how I said “while things are good” - this is so that they can do what they do/test waters/dabble in pussy then come back days/weeks/months/years later and pick back up like nothing happened

Anyhow don’t rack your brain too much over that guy. It’s better to have ended it with someone who wasn’t right for you after a couple of escapades than to be fully dickmatized and loosing sleep

carmen_b
02-01-2020, 10:21 PM
^ Do you really think Billiards guy was going to try to get you to pay ?

That seems a little weird.

carmen_b
02-01-2020, 10:34 PM
( DON'T QUOTE PLEASE, NEED TO REMOVE SOME FOR PRIVACY LATER )

Yeah, maybe he was just doing the right thing.
Sensed I wanted more and then when I offered the " one more time " freebie he didn't feel right about it.
I just trip out because I have NEVER ( not exaggerating ) in my life ever offered casual like that. It was just that one time with him.
I thought it would be an instant yes . How was he so SURE it wasn't worth pursuing more?
Oh well .... maybe it was something about the travel style being a mis-match or something. Like .... my version might not be adventurous enough for him ? I usually get a comped VRBO property on the trips. Maybe that's too " fluffy " for him? It just seemed like it could have been so fun. We could go places together.

Well .... my phone didn't outsmart me. I found his # in the contacts list . I texted him a few photos of the last desert trip and he texted back with some recent photos. He was very close to the desert areas I was last week. ;/
I knew I had an insti

I have to just let it go. Ugh. I just wonder sometimes if I blew it offering to get on birth control the third time he was at my house ( to fully explain there was a lot of Whiskey involved and also a weed edible ).

Raises a toast to him .......

Damn. The dick on him. Lol. I know I have not stropped talking about it for months hahahaha.

carmen_b
02-01-2020, 11:09 PM
Miss P : I wonder if the " two jobs " guy is really taken ? I mean ..... who really works 80 hours ?

carmen_b
02-01-2020, 11:12 PM
Remember when I turned my zip code to try to catch that professor again ?
Guess who saw that change haha ? MR. Disappointment ( barf !! ) . It's his town too.
He texted so it's this weird circle for me.

miss.a.p1600
02-02-2020, 06:31 AM
^ Do you really think Billiards guy was going to try to get you to pay ?

That seems a little weird.

yes girl. We’ve gone out several times in the past. We dated about 10 years ago and he wanted to be with me but I was emotionally unavailable. He ended up marrying the woman he had a kid with (backwards as hell marrying her after the kid is like a few years old but whatever) shortly after we dated. He divorced her after a couple years because he claims he was miserable being married to her.

Then during the summer we went out once but before we met, he joked about how we could go out but he allegedly didn’t have any money (now is that I think about it he’s getting on my nerves with all this joking). He works a decent job, has decent house n 2 cars, his ex wife made more than him, we don’t live in a community property state, so I don’t think she destroyed him financially but idk.

I think he was hinting I should pay but thankfully he’s paid for all the times we went out. He also has been making these comments that make me think he might be one of those 50/50 type dudes. I’ll have to keep asking questions.


Miss P : I wonder if the " two jobs " guy is really taken ? I mean ..... who really works 80 hours ?

That would actually be a relief for me.

But with him texting me his work schedule daily, the way he is clinging to me (constantly asking me to meet him, quadruple texting me) I think he is thirsty and either hasn’t had a woman in a while, trying to quickly replace some woman, or he has Aspergers - maybe a combo

He mentioned that his ex fiancé/baby moms sued him in court - I assume child support, etc. And he’s involved in some other legal matter so he had to come up with extra money to pay off lawyers.

Once I find out his last name I may do a court record search-if I’m still dealing with him because he’s starting to annoy me with his clinginess


He also said he was trying to come up with extra money to pay for extra equipment for his 2nd job/side hustle.

But with the way these dudes be lying......ya never know .......

miss.a.p1600
02-02-2020, 06:57 AM
Lol Carmen! I often think about dick I didn’t get or the mind blowing pussy eaters I only had 1 time - with the guys I turned down (cause they were married or whatever but I did let them seduce me up to a point) - so I know the feeling.

I should have charged them money then proceeded anyways.

I’ve only had a couple of memorably good sexual experiences in my life so when I get successfully seduced (and I’m hard to seduce) my mind tells me no but my body tells me YES!

Anyways

If the NY guy is that good of a lover then he is probably experienced with women and those type of guys are intuitive. It is also a fallacy that all men will always want sex and will never say no. Sometimes they can be like women in that aspect and act all reserved regarding sex - for a number of reasons

If you think about it in reverse, you wanted a ONS or NSA with a guy, he agreed but you sensed he wanted an emotional connection (by things he was doing and saying) you’d have to end it because/before someone would get attached/hurt.

carmen_b
02-02-2020, 09:25 AM
^ I still do want to fuck him one more time honestly and I might. :)
Or I might leave it alone. I will try to.

I had this experience last night where I kind of just sat and meditated and said goodbye to my lovers during the first half of the year in 2019 in my mind ( kinkster J, crazy ginger J , D the cop even though he didn't offer anything physical , desert J " Mr. Tall " , and Aussie B ) . I do feel better mentally releasing these people . Each of them I wanted " more " but there was honesty for the most part. No one really lied other than Aussie B who led me to believe he was coming back to the USA at certain times and crazy Ginger led me to believe a relationship was happening in my opinion when he was just circling back to my town to try to get sex ( he ended up back with his TX partner ) . I do think back fondly about J the Kinkster and how honest and respectful he was ( and a great lover ) .

I acknowledged to in my mind that there were probably people I interacted with who probably wanted more from me.
I kind of just sat with my experiences of each one and tried to mentally let it go.

I want to do the same thing with the 2nd half of 2019 but I was falling asleep !

carmen_b
02-02-2020, 09:35 AM
I'm packing up to go strip all next week.
So personal life is on hold !
Might as well charge for my wonderful company and conversation !
Whoever can afford it can have it. ;)

miss.a.p1600
02-02-2020, 09:42 AM
Lol @ falling asleep

Kind of similar to you NY (with regard to availability and sex skills) was My ex coworker (Mr Tall Dark N Handsome) who gave me pleasurable oral several years ago. His wife ended up calling him right as we were about to get into it so he left. I fantasized about him for a long time then years later we ironically ended up working together again. I wanted to finish what we started because i KNEW he could provide pleasure but i got the vibe he was like the office player (married dude fucking all the pretty coworkers and possible bragging about it) plus dealing with married men just for sex is not worth it, so I left it alone and ended up connecting with that other coworker (Mr Emotional Game Player) who claimed to be single but played perpetual string along mind games.

Deep down I really wanted mr tall n dark but I didn’t want to feel jealous (with him flirting with other female coworkers) and wanted to show that I was desirable by other males so I attached to mr emotional game player (before I realized he played games)

To this day I still think about mr. tall n dark - I’d probably be fucking a guy, close my eyes and think about fucking him. He’s the subject of a lot of my solo pleasure material

Anytime I think of my challenges (lack of intimacy, men acting cheap, men’s annoying behaviors, etc) with dudes my mind defaults to “how easy it would be to pull up to a club, experience male energy/touch - while maintaining celibacy, charge them accordingly (and not have to go through this long ass waiting game before they start spending money).

Good thing you can go to the clubs.

carmen_b
02-02-2020, 09:52 AM
^ Sounds like you might want to get back out there too ! :)

It's winter obviously ( barf ) so I have to time these trips to avoid storms.
I can't go Monday for example and have Tues and Sat. scheduled as driving days to get near my club and then back .
It's is kind of funny that stripping is this surrogate sometimes for a personal life ( I am mostly retired and tend to dance way less when I'm partnered ).

I was having some really down feelings the last 3-4 days but I feel better today. I'm going easy on myself. I mean .... three weeks ago I successfully got away from an abusive guy so that is a lot to process.

whirlerz
02-02-2020, 01:33 PM
https://66.media.tumblr.com/d61befe19e371c4fad455a2966d0fe9c/tumblr_psr8w5KeXx1wxnfn4o1_500.jpg

carmen_b
02-02-2020, 03:59 PM
^^ AND reporting it HERE of course !!!

carmen_b
02-02-2020, 04:07 PM
Now that this thread it reminding me..... I haven't had a good tongue lashing in awhile.
M did it ONCE for me at the beginning of Dec. Lol.
It might be time to find someone who really knows how to serve a lady ..........

miss.a.p1600
02-02-2020, 06:17 PM
^ i got a self proclaimed pussy eater (The Guy I Met in Target) buuuuut he is coming off like a stage 5 clinger

Which is sad cause I could totally use some good head rn myself

miss.a.p1600
02-03-2020, 08:33 AM
I think I’m over vanilla dating at current.

seashell
02-03-2020, 12:26 PM
Omg you guys... I had a lot of sex over the past two days... and did in fact ride English guy's face.....

This weekend has been a complete blur. I really, really like him. I mean, I think this might be an actual relationship in the making.

We both have really great chemistry, and were completely inseparable for 4 days straight. We talked in a very mature way about how this felt different from dating other people, and made plans to spend time together in the future, whether I go to visit him in England, or he comes back to Albania, or we just travel together in Europe.

We had some really fun dates, over the 4 days that he was here. We both agreed it would be good to take things slowly and not have sex, but last night, things took a turn. I didn't plan on having sex with him, but he was just so sweet and let me take complete control over the situation, respecting my boundaries, not pushing me in the slightest... he would have been very happy with just a few dates this weekend, I know it. But when a guy is so nice, it makes him even more attractive to me. I ended up making a bet with him during the Superbowl, that the loser had to sleep naked. I lost, and he told me he'd give me a "get out of jail free card" or would trade places, lol. But eventually, we did end up having sex, and he just completely blew my mind.

Turns out he has an enormous cock. It's really freaking big, not like painfully big, but almost. And he's really, really good in bed. He went down on me, and then had me ride his face, and tried to figure out when I like.

Today, we tried to make plans to hang out again in the future. I will probably see him in a couple weeks, and fly to England as a layover before I visit the US.

I'm so, so happy right now. He just left for the airport... I'm really curious to see what the future brings.

carmen_b
02-03-2020, 12:29 PM
^^^ omg !!!!