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miss.a.p1600
02-25-2020, 07:48 PM
Sooo the clingy guy offered (again) to give me oral pleasures. He claims he’s really good at and judging by how thirsty he is I think he just might be.
I tried everything I could think to turn him off. Told him I was wearing a onesie lol, that haven’t waxed, that I’m celibate etc. And do you know this mf said “I’ll come to you and you don’t even have to give me your address” n “as long as it’s clean n fresh, all I need is 5 min”
Bruh! 5 min?!? Either he is lying about how good he is or he is a pro pussy eater
Then he said he’d do it anywhere except a church lol! He said he’d eat pussy in the car, in the movies, at work, etc.
One of my fantasies is to get oral sex in the movie theater
I wish I could give in but my rational mind is like I really don’t know this dude what if he runs his mouth what if I run for Mayor one day and he come out the woodwork like “yeah she’s a stone cold freak and I ate her pussy in 2020!”
carmen_b
02-26-2020, 01:12 AM
I’m pretty sure ever powerful woman in politics has had some killer pussy eating.
Just don’t give pictures and your future campaign should be safe.
trustfundkiller
02-26-2020, 09:24 PM
Would you cut a guy from a dating app off if he said he'd call you in the evening and then didn't? It's 9PM, so not exactly evening anymore. Even if he calls later, I feel like it sets a bad tone, especially for the first conversation ever. Is this the kind of person who is always late? Is he disrespectful of my time because he doesn't care? Does he have approximately 28 other phone calls scheduled tonight? Men are usually on their best behavior in the beginning, so if he's already not calling when he said he would...
Idk if I'm overthinking this or not, but I feel like the little signs in the beginning are indicative of how things could be in the future. I'm probably going to "fall asleep" and if he calls, text him back in the morning. Train him to call earlier.
carmen_b
02-26-2020, 10:47 PM
^ Yeah, I wouldn't answer after 9 / 9:30 tops.
Yes, he should call when he says. It gives you indication that when he says he will be somewhere for example that 1.5 hours of your time won't be wasted getting ready and getting there.
carmen_b
02-26-2020, 10:50 PM
Look like B crossed another state border. One more to go haha.
He still has not formally said " Oh, by the way I'm in the USA and approaching your state . "
I should probably block the # and block him on IG. I loved him so much.
Mr. NY is DTF if I want after my naughty little notes ( fueled by Mai Tai's I told him the truth .... that the last time we fucked I craved his dick for weeks ).
Lol. I am just not sure what I will actually do.
I should probably put the energy towards something that could be more substantial if he isn't offering it.
I give so much energy output ( my clients at day job / sex work clients ect. ) that a small treat for myself such as approaching a former lover with the idea of maybe a weekly get together doesn't seems like the *worst* idea either.
miss.a.p1600
02-26-2020, 11:06 PM
Would you cut a guy from a dating app off if he said he'd call you in the evening and then didn't? It's 9PM, so not exactly evening anymore. Even if he calls later, I feel like it sets a bad tone, especially for the first conversation ever. Is this the kind of person who is always late? Is he disrespectful of my time because he doesn't care? Does he have approximately 28 other phone calls scheduled tonight? Men are usually on their best behavior in the beginning, so if he's already not calling when he said he would...
Idk if I'm overthinking this or not, but I feel like the little signs in the beginning are indicative of how things could be in the future. I'm probably going to "fall asleep" and if he calls, text him back in the morning. Train him to call earlier.
Not necessarily
some guys hell people in general say “oh I’ll call you back at x time” not like they are blatantly lying but they forget, or they’ll remember after it’s too late or whatever
now if it’s a habit that means they say stuff that sounds good but don’t follow through and/or they are playing mind games
Look at patterns.
But yeah I agree I don’t like guys to call me too late in eve after about 9 or 10p it’s a wrap for me. I put my phone on DND so I won’t be tempted to answer
Sounds like you’re doing the right thing. If he calls too late just call him back in am telling him you’re getting back to him, fell asleep early cause you had to (go to doc, study for test, attend a meeting etc) and just now realized he called.
miss.a.p1600
02-26-2020, 11:14 PM
Look like B crossed another state border. One more to go haha.
He still has not formally said " Oh, by the way I'm in the USA and approaching your state . "
I should probably block the #.
Mr. NY is DTF if I want after my naughty little notes ( fueled by Mai Tai's I told him the truth .... that the last time we fucked I craved his dick for weeks ).
Lol. I am just not sure what I will actually do.
I should probably put the energy towards something that could be more substantial if he isn't offering it.
I give so much energy output ( my clients at day job / sex work clients ect. ) that an small treat for myself doesn't seems like the *worst* idea either.
i think your intuition is telling you something here
carmen_b
02-26-2020, 11:25 PM
^ Yeah ..... I think I will do the " right " thing . No attention for either since neither stepped up and offered the bf / gf connection.
I am just wondering if I'm ...... missing something ..... or shooting too high or something because no one has really offered that to me in 6 months or more . As soon as fall M became my boyfriend he stopped banging me randomly. M started abusing me as soon as we were getting comfy. I might need a therapy round again to do some sorting out before I try with anyone else.
I would really like some male companionship and I'm wondering if there is something I need to adjust sometimes.
miss.a.p1600
02-26-2020, 11:33 PM
Shooting too high?
carmen_b
02-26-2020, 11:37 PM
I wonder if I'm not meeting the " pretty enough " requirement.
Specifically with the Teacher from a year ago that I was obsessing over, and B , and Mr. NY.
I'm completely natural ( no plastic surgury / not even teeth work ect. ) and I'm wondering if it might be time to just " freshen " my look with a mini smile makeover or a little skin work. I think part of it is just this real CURIOUS side . Like .... I want to know why there is this " oh it's ok to just let her go " attitude even if I don't like the answer . My friend V thinks I'm crazy for that but I'm just very curious.
I just get confused that no one seems to want to move forward with me .......
I also wonder if my work trips make me " cast off " as a candidate but I could keep them to 4-6 days and be home 24-26 days a month if I wanted to ! I might " rebrand " myself as someone who only travels like 2-3 days a month for work and then a 2nd trip will " just come up " haha. I just wonder if a crisp rebrand might help.
I am interested in someone on Tinder in my home city and he wrote and mentioned that he wasn't sure if he can travel as much I was planning to and he was wondering if we are looking for different things so it got me thinking. I would like to snuggle and get F$^ed on a consistent basis way more than finding the next excursion!
2 hours of plane sleep did not do me good. Hopefully I'll have fresh eyes on this tomorrow.
Shooting too high?
carmen_b
02-26-2020, 11:48 PM
*NO QUOTES PLEASE*
D ( former sd ) really impressed me this whole week. We got together often in the evenings and conversation flowed . He spoiled me rotten , makes plans, ect.
He drove me to my work days also dropping me off in his luxury ride and impressing my clients .
There is this real *comfort* there .
His behavior is everything I want but I struggle with the physical connection side. He is a true gentleman and doesn't push but he does let me know he wouldn't mind intimacy. Our little excursions make me feel so sexy and comfy. Our conversation flows. He is truly interested in enhancing my life and being a part of it at some capacity . It's hard to explain here . We were holding hands / some snuggles but I just feel a " no " coming from my side moving the physical beyond that.
^^^ NO QUOTING please AS I'M GATHERING THOUGHT HERE .
miss.a.p1600
02-26-2020, 11:57 PM
Girl this is EXACTLY how I felt with the old dude.
How I felt around him most the time was amazing. He was a real man and always offered to help (in any way he could) when I needed, felt I could tell him anything and he wouldn’t judge or run off, and I never had to worry about paying for things when I was with him.
Just could not bring myself to have physical intimacy with him. He had zero finesse skills and sometimes he didn’t listen which made me further think that he was a bad lover.
Once he started complaining about never having sex, I knew our time was quickly coming to an end.
miss.a.p1600
02-27-2020, 12:03 AM
I honestly don’t think guys care as much about physical appearance as we think they do. Well groomed yes but everything else is subjective really and there are plenty of guys who like natural n “home grown” n “girl next door” type of look
As far as travel - if you want the guy to travel with you then a 9-5 type guy or guy with rigid work schedule will have to be eliminated from your roster
carmen_b
02-27-2020, 12:13 AM
I don't even care if they can travel . I want consistency. I feel like my last 12 months of dating has just been that I get to a point of feeling comfy and my cuddles / comfort / sex I was excited about is then taken away.
I get access to the forest property just 70 min. outside the city and can live there for free starting April - Oct.
I think I'm getting nervous about feeling my departure from the city being close and wondering if I just need to get a city apartment too.
My thought on this subject I guess is that the dude should have a comfy place anyway and we will have my little get away place for small mountain trips. Like ..... I love to eat , love to F$^k, come with a free mountain cabin , and a free ( sometimes ) desert vacation home too . How is this not a killer deal ?!? Haha. I wonder if I should downplay some things ?
** AGAIN NO QUOTE HERE as I'm gathering thoughts so damn tired ***
JessaJade
02-27-2020, 02:17 AM
^I can see why you feel frustrated about things - you seem really 'together' career-wise and it makes sense that you want some consistency with a reliable suitable partner.
Men are so weird though.
I would say maybe your thought of downplaying things sounds like a good idea, at least for the first few/several months with someone, IMO. Maybe it's your nature to be very organised but it seems you end up doing a lot of the 'work' with some of these men. And they maybe take things for granted because you have 'offered' so much?
miss.a.p1600
02-27-2020, 05:48 AM
Yeah consistency is important.
I think Jessa has a point.
You seem like a very kind person and have a lot going for you. You also are okay with taking the lead and take action.. Guys are usually supposed to be the action takers especially in the beginning. Somehow your guys end up getting too comfortable too soon and take minimal desired action. Similar to what she mentions as the downplay, let them make offerings for you. Wait till theyve done some legwork, made offerings for you, made some efforts etc. before mentioning/showing your killer deals.
I’m almost certain that how you act with your sd is how you should act with regular guys. That’s why the sd is so enamored with you. There’s parts of you he feels like are unattainable plus you’re letting HiM do the work/make the offerings.
Also when dating, as Sam mentioned, there are no shortage of lackluster quality men. Most of Today’s men weren’t raised as well as they were back in the day. You may have to filter through a lot of frogs to land up on your prince. Just continue to be strong and try not to get too jaded or cynical in the process and continue refining your dating methods
miss.a.p1600
02-27-2020, 07:16 AM
Also your perception on people wanting to move forward with you.....notice how you said you think “no one” wants that?
Be careful of self fulfilling prophecy
It may be helpful to reframe it....into something more like the guys you’ve met so far may not want to move forward but there are billions of other men out there who want what you want, you are getting closer to meeting them.
carmen_b
02-27-2020, 01:38 PM
I had very little sleep on the plane and slept better last night.
I do have fresh eyes on it and just don't care today. Haha.
I actually think I might need to aim * higher * in a way maybe towards men with a little more success and the schedule organization to match. I will report back with some experiments. :)
The reason I say that is because like you pointed out Miss P ..... D's behavior is so spot ON to what I'm looking for ( he does not have time to screw around with scheduling which means it's very organized for both of us ).
I don't mention the properties FYI on first few dates ( obviously ) as a way to not attract the turds of the world hahahaha. I am low key and evaluate things. After a few good dates I let them know more about my work trips / seeking company on them *if* their schedule is compatible. If they are a 9-5er they would have to take 2-3 hours off Friday off to swing one of the trips . If they prefer to not do that I just go alone, no big deal at all. In fantasy land if they can swing 4-5 day trips that is what I really would like . Once my clients pay to get me to these places ( and 2-3 nights hotel always is included ) I might as well enjoy a day or two there v.s. just a quick turn and coming right back home. I do think fall M might have been more drawn to my mountain spot than to *me* which could explain some of that weird behavior where he was amazing up in the mountains and then a couple wash in the city.
carmen_b
02-27-2020, 02:49 PM
Thank you for pointing that out . YES .... after a few good dates I do spend 2-3 weeks going " Ok , this is where he pulls away for some random reason ". I still behave normally but maybe I am sending a slight vibe or signal.
I probably just need to check in with myself and think " what do I want to know about him ? Do I want to move forward ? Does he ? "
Also your perception on people wanting to move forward with you.....notice how you said you think “no one” wants that?
Be careful of self fulfilling prophecy
It may be helpful to reframe it....into something more like the guys you’ve met so far may not want to move forward but there are billions of other men out there who want what you want, you are getting closer to meeting them.
carmen_b
02-27-2020, 02:57 PM
I will be a little naughty here and admit that it * did occur * to me that maybe I could just set up some time with Mr. NY and B.
I like them both as lovers ( a lot ) so it could be a very enjoyable 2-3 weeks . Haha.
I am currently leaning more towards focusing on creating that bf / gf link though. Giving them time probably does not move me towards that.
I think on Mr. NY I have until Monday to decide. He works today through Sunday. It's hard to decide what to do haha. Like .... I genuinely thank him for those experiences this past summer where Mr Disappointment wasn't fucking me enough and he stepped in to remedy it somewhat but I worry his services may distract me from what I'm after.
seashell
02-27-2020, 03:13 PM
^Sounds like it would be a great few weeks! But yeah, definitely would hold things back from the relationship dynamic. Also, I agree that you probably need better quality men who have their lives together. You seem like you're very on top of things, and your partner will have to be on your level.
I'm still talking to the Englishman every day. I'm planning to come back to England next week, which will likely be the last time we get to see each other for a couple months. His family will be gone, so we can stay at their house for free, and he offered to pay for my flight/some events -- I was IMMEDIATELY turned on and ready to say yes to anything. I didn't think I was all about the money, but fuck it, I'm about the money. This guy has been splitting bills with me, and if he can be that good of a lover AND pay for me... my panties are flying off. Now I just have to follow through and make sure he actually spends. I don't want to take advantage of a sweet guy who's younger than me and also really good to me in other ways, but I'm the girl, goddamn it!
Also, I'm in Serbia right now, and posted about it on my social media. N, the Serbian lover boy, messaged me... and I'm too afraid to even click on it. I don't want to have to tell him that I can't hang out. (Englishman is the only guy I want to be with right now.) I only kinda-sorta want to sleep with N... he's not even that great in bed... but I admit that I totally want his validation. I think he's a cool guy, funny and smart and hot, and I wish we could be friends without the benefits part. Sometimes when we've hung out, I've felt like absolute shit about myself, because I know that he's always surrounded by hot Eastern European girls, throwing themselves at him. But I'm still moving to his city soon, so... avoiding him would be a bummer. Is it stupid to try to turn a friend-with-benefits into a normal friend?
miss.a.p1600
02-27-2020, 06:25 PM
I know you said not to quote but your post 1120
Sums up everything I’ve been feeling with the clingy guy and the Billiards guy. The physical aspect that I’m craving right now but I don’t think either would make ideal long term partners. Clingy guy would probably drink my bath water, calls me daily checks in during the day, he legit offered to Uber his tongue skills but he’s too thrifty and thirsty. The billiards guy we have good convos and I can tell him anything but I think he is jaded about women and possibly turning into a misogynist idk.
When I think of marrying I want a dude that has qualities of the old guy (always agrees with me n has my back, offers resources to make my life easier, and a real provider).
I just haven’t seen much from either guy that gives me protector provider husband qualities so it’s like am I training myself to accept less than what I want or to settle for what I can get right now till/if something better comes along.
miss.a.p1600
02-27-2020, 06:30 PM
No seashell that’s not weird. As long as he doesn’t have feelings you could be friends but if he has an emotional attachment then it may be best to cut it off altogether because things get complicated if one party starts catching feelings but the other doesn’t
carmen_b
02-27-2020, 06:35 PM
I think I will invite B to be of use to me.
Ride his face / take advantage of his fingering game ect.
I mean .... I’m not *with* anyone.
Wouldn’t it best to treat myself? Lol
miss.a.p1600
02-27-2020, 06:47 PM
I think I will invite B to be of use to me.
Ride his face / take advantage of his fingering game ect.
I mean .... I’m not *with* anyone.
Wouldn’t it best to treat myself? Lol
Meanwhile my ass is here contemplating getting oral sex from an eager dude like I’m making life decisions n shit
I don’t know why I cant make up my mind!!!
im so horny I masturbated twice thinking about it.
Why can’t I ever complete my own challenges????
carmen_b
02-27-2020, 10:11 PM
^ I can’t either !
I may do some invites for Sat or Sun.
I was gung ho " I'm gonna get F#$^ed the moment I step off the plane ! " and now nothing is really resonating with me .
:/
B went North anyway to Canada not south to my area . Probably for the best.
carmen_b
02-28-2020, 10:39 AM
I think some dating troubles are related to what will be a walk of shame if I do even put something together. In my home city I had planned to stay with family during March until the forest property opens up. I have no privacy. I should probably rent a room in the city for March. I figured it wouldn't hurt dating life for just a month but not I'm faced with the reality of not wanting to answer the " where have you been ? " questions.
Winged Dinghy
02-28-2020, 03:25 PM
I went to a Mardi Gras ball with the guy from my pole dancing class. We ate shrooms and molly and I led him around on a leash. Then we left and I pegged him. He asked me to tuck him in bed, so I did, and we decided to do a little bit of ketamine as a nightcap. He said, "It's not very good k, do a lot of it." We both did huge lines.
Well, that k was not weak. I fell into eternity. I didn't know if I was living or dying but he was there. We shared a lot of nonverbal, visual communication (which he confirmed after we had both come out of it). It was a profound experience that neither of us saw coming. We agreed we are lucky to have found each other.
carmen_b
02-29-2020, 08:56 AM
^ Jealous of every single thing you put up basically .
Prrrrrr.
carmen_b
02-29-2020, 08:58 AM
I am looking forward to this date tonight.
I did turn Tinder back on ( with a plan to use it very minimally haha ).
I have talked to D for about 2 weeks ( before Hawaii ) and he has caught my attention in a few ways .
I'll explain later if the date goes well. A couple small things are that he actually brought attention to the fact that he can't travel often ( he is a 9-5er ) and he wanted to make sure I was ok with it before meeting . Being honest! Haha. He is also a plant dad ( 24 at current count ).
seashell
03-01-2020, 10:04 AM
^honesty is worth a million points! sounds like he's serious. :)
I'm going out with the Serbian boy in a few hours. I'm kinda nervous. But also, I think he will be a really nice distraction from all of the chaos in my life right now. He probably expects sex, so... that should be interesting...
carmen_b
03-01-2020, 12:15 PM
The date was nice.
My go to ( Brewery haha ) .
Good conversation and great hug at end. He is a true gentleman I think. I could see him kind of moving his hands nervously figuring out " what was next " after a few hours. He is a foodie which I love. He mentioned something I hadn't tried ( which is very very rare for me ). We decided to call it a night . Great hug. I had a buzz on and sent a text a minute later that he smelled great. We collectively figured out cuddles will be on the agenda for the next date.
Definitely will let him be the leader . :)
I think he will step up.
I guess I like gentle engineers haha.
It's *nice* you know to take some time and not have the dude push for physical . It surprised me and I had a pout for 10 -15 minutes driving back but then I'm like " hey ..... this is how it probably should be ".
miss.a.p1600
03-01-2020, 12:40 PM
Sounds awesome glad it went well for you!
Winged Dinghy
03-01-2020, 05:43 PM
^ Jealous of every single thing you put up basically .
Prrrrrr.
I really don't know how I got so lucky. It's like a gift from God/the universe/whatever you want to call that mystery.
miss.a.p1600
03-01-2020, 06:09 PM
The billiards guy hit me up on text on Friday at 5pm asking about meeting him for happy hour.
Bruh! Wtf?!? Too last minute.
Then no mention of meeting another time in next couple of days.
This mf is clueless af. I could have gave up my celibacy for him but the way he is moving slow af, I’m just about over it and losing my patience. But the moment I start being forward, taking the lead, is the moment he will probably start acting like a fuck boi.
Then I have the clingy guy who text me today saying he wanted to meet me today.
Why are dudes so mentally n socially challenged?!?
I will not meet no mf last min same day - that is like boyfriend privilege.
miss.a.p1600
03-01-2020, 08:42 PM
I feel like I need to delete and block both their numbers
carmen_b
03-01-2020, 09:26 PM
^ I notice a small pattern though.
Are you not giving alternative days / times ?
I wonder if you aren’t giving them the options because you are not interested?
If you are not that’s 100% ok. :)
I feel like there is a 99% chance that if you WERE interested you would tell them " I'm open Tues. and xyz time " or something that would lead to a meeting.
carmen_b
03-02-2020, 01:30 PM
^ Ah, he reached out . :)
Perfect timing a couple days post date to schedule next. Love it.
He's a little shy I think because he sent something about the weather, I ignored it because of business hours lol and then he sent something an hour later saying he had a great time and wanted to get together again. I offered him tomorrow evening. :)
carmen_b
03-02-2020, 01:35 PM
My Hawaii friend I guess is spying on my Facebook ( something he admitted two days ago ) . Lol.
Tighetning that damn thing down hahahaha. Dude .... you are 57 .... you shouldn't even have social media. Haha.
trustfundkiller
03-02-2020, 03:56 PM
I ended up talking to the guy from the night before. He ended up texting me around midnight after I fell asleep and said he had just got back from work (at midnight?::)) and asked me if I'd like to talk on the phone tomorrow. So, that's what we did and we really hit it off! We have a lot in common. He's from Israel but he's been in the US for 14 years. He's a multimillionaire and has a successful company. I Googled him and everything he has told me checks out. We're going to video chat this week and hopefully meet within the next few weeks. I'm playing the game flawlessly because these are the kind of credentials I want in a husband. I'm still not getting my hopes up though. I met him on Luxy which is a dating app for women to meet millionaires. I've met guys on there before and it went well, but I feel like the guys on there are hoes.
He's 43, so maybe he's over that but ehh...there's a part of me that think all dating app guys want is sex. Plus, I feel like if you're a man in your 40's and never married, it's because you don't want to be. Or something's wrong with you.
We'll see.
miss.a.p1600
03-02-2020, 05:23 PM
^theres no shortage of male THOTS lol
trustfundkiller
03-02-2020, 05:28 PM
^theres no shortage of male THOTS lol
They stay plottin and thottin well into middle age lol
miss.a.p1600
03-02-2020, 07:03 PM
^^^ahahahah!!! And when they’re not plottin’ n thottin’
They’re thottin’ n boppin’
carmen_b
03-03-2020, 12:38 PM
I am going to the fancy gym in town and doing some jacuzzi time / sauna / getting ready there hahahah.
I just want to be really de-fuzzed and confident for date #2 and feel like a couple hours in that fancy place will get me feeling amazing.
I didn't want to disclose that my stuff was packed up in storage haha but I told him he would have to host if we end up going for a movie after Thai food.
I think it's a good idea anyway to always see a guys place ( probably even before the making out step ) because it's always the taken or married ones that can't seamlessly host and it can tell you a lot about someone seeing living space.
miss.a.p1600
03-03-2020, 08:53 PM
Well - billiards guy finally called me, without me having to call him 50 - 11 times
my suspicions have been confirmed
Actually I had inklings but second guessed.
sadly he is a 50/50 type dude.
*Le sigh*
Ill date him for the meantime but i know if he’s stuck in his way about that, I need to look for a backup.
carmen_b
03-04-2020, 11:19 AM
^ You had the candid convo with him ?
carmen_b
03-04-2020, 11:21 AM
The date went " just ok " I guess. He is a very very sweet person I think .
There might be something there but I kind of just feel numb being touched ect. ( I think it's ptsd from M's crazy behavior ).
Sometimes I just think D will flip out and become abusive even though it really does not seem like it.
carmen_b
03-04-2020, 11:27 AM
This morning I feel like it went " just ok " . We went for Thai food and it was delicious. I will admit it was a little akward that he didn't just immediately grab the bill. I paid for a tasting round at the Brewery on date #1 so he knows that I contribute.
For dinner, I put my card up and said he could decide what he wanted to do with dinner ( split it or not ). It was only $25 + tip . I guess I'll admit to feeling off that he didn't just grab it right away ( he paid but he should have grabbed faster lol ). At the very least, I have a new Thai place on my list. The food was good / huge portions.
He definitely did offer me some great cuddles at the house white watching a movie. I have mixed feelings about his shyness. I scooted closer on the couch to him and put my hand out more to initiate touch. He seems to genuinely enjoy touching and cuddles. We kissed a little bit.
Maybe we should have prepped better though. He admitted his condo was more cluttered than he would have liked ( he's trying to organize this other room and boxes were in the living room ). I thought it was a little weird that he knew 6-7 hours ahead that he would be hosting if it went that direction but he didn't have anything prepped for us to drink. I had Vodka in the car and bought a mixer on the way to his condo.
I do like his touch though. He was running his hands up and down my arms and then whole body kind of giving me that sensual touch that was missing from M . I haven't really been cuddled well in like 6 months ( not an exaggeration because fall M was not into it and psyco abusive M was not into it ).
carmen_b
03-04-2020, 11:33 AM
I think it's hard for me to relate / feel bonded until something sexual happens. Haha.
Maybe something to explore with therapist later.
miss.a.p1600
03-04-2020, 12:01 PM
This morning I feel like it went " just ok " . We went for Thai food and it was delicious. I will admit it was a little akward that he didn't just immediately grab the bill. I paid for a tasting round at the Brewery on date #1 so he knows that I contribute.
For dinner, I put my card up and said he could decide what he wanted to do with things for dinner ( split it or not ). It was only $25 + tip haha. So .... I guess I'll admit to feeling off that he didn't just grab it right away ( he paid but he should have grabbed faster lol ). At the very least, I have a new Thai place on my list. The food was good / huge portions.
He definitely did offer me some great cuddles at the house white watching a movie. I have mixed feelings about his shyness. I scooted closer on the couch to him and put my hand out more to initiate touch. He seems to genuinely enjoy touching and cuddles. We kissed a little bit.
Maybe we should have prepped better though. He admitted his condo was more cluttered than he would have liked ( he's trying to organize this other room and boxes were in the living room ). I thought it was a little weird that he knew 6-7 hours ahead that he would be hosting if it went that direction but he didn't have anything prepped for us to drink. I had Vodka in the car and bought a mixer on the way to his condo.
I do like his touch though. He was running his hands up and down my arms and then whole body kind of giving me that sensual touch that was missing from M . I haven't really been cuddled well in like 6 months ( not an exaggeration because fall M was not into it and psyco abusive M was not into it ).
I would have felt off too!
I remember dating a guy who turned out to be a narcissist. One of the dates he tried to pretend like he 'forgot' his wallet.....Girl I damn near wanted to punch him in his jugular.