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miss.a.p1600
03-23-2020, 12:06 PM
^ YOU want this turd that can't even offer offer affection despite various hints ?
Please come take him! He is ready with his suitcase pouting with his cat. Lol.
Aw, now I feel bad. He isn't doing well mentally with all this stuff .
I get that but I still feel like you have to keep a good attitude and FIGHT !
Yes. I’ll trade your non affectionate dude for this mobile oral sex dude who wants to “hug” me right now. For all I know his ass could have just walked out the hospital with covid
Tempting cause I’m extra horny rn. Buuuut i don’t want to take any chances rn
He must not realize is a health pandemic rn
carmen_b
03-23-2020, 12:07 PM
^ You just don't like him. :)
If you did you would have already hugged him / germed him up anyway. Haha.
miss.a.p1600
03-24-2020, 06:32 PM
^ You just don't like him. :)
If you did you would have already hugged him / germed him up anyway. Haha.
That plus I have OCD
anyone who is overly eager to meet up right now gets a complete side eye and a social distance from me
Today he sent me his coordinates of where he’s at I guess so I’d meet him.
now he wants to hug AND kiss.
miss.a.p1600
03-24-2020, 06:38 PM
Remember that guy i thought was so amazing (took me out on 2 dates, then stuck to just calling me everyday for 3 weeks then went ghost), but who turned out to be a player or narcissist or still dealing with his ex whatever.
Well he text me out the blue asking how I’m doing. Just like the corona and chill narcissist video.
I hate that he wasn’t just normal and respectable.
Before he started acting like player-ish i was really feeling him. Honestly I’ve thought about him a lot but I don’t think I can risk putting myself back out there with him again.
I hate ignoring people but I guess I’m just going to leave his text on read and end it at that. Because I don’t want to get caught up again.
carmen_b
03-25-2020, 03:48 PM
^ Aw. He reminds me of my aviator. I really really liked him. :(
I wish on your behalf he would have kept persuing but sometimes it just doesn't pan out the way we want.
The only thing I could even suggest is just asking him straight out why he feels things didn't work . You could indicate you want to try again. It does seems like you might have to spell out what you want though ( weekly dates or whatever is that would make you responsive ) because he fell short last time.
I remember with aviator he said something in his Tinder like " I want a friend. I want to take you to coffee. I want to take you to dinner " . I'm like .... perfect !! Then .... we had coffee that ONE time , he wouldn't schedule an evening date despite me specifically asking for an evening date 6-7 days after coffee outing, and he could have done dinner later if the days I suggested didn't work but he didn't !! Then he surfaces like two months later asking to watch a movie and make out ! Lol. No .... you are a 36 year old man. Make a dinner reservation or get lost. Hahahaha. I do highly suspect he might have had a primary partner and was out trolling around due to these behaviors.
carmen_b
03-25-2020, 03:49 PM
Mr. NY was here at the desert house about 2.5 hours before I got here.
We had a very nice time last night.
Of course I will be back later to elaborate on this. :)
miss.a.p1600
03-26-2020, 06:06 AM
So the billiards guy claims he’s not getting the stimulus money cause he allegedly makes over 100k
Either his ass was lying about being “broke” or he’s lying about this stimulus thing
I wish I could look into dudes bank accounts like how I’d look in their wallets at strip clubs
seashell
03-26-2020, 07:51 AM
I'm really struggling with this quarantine sitch.
English guy and I are constantly chatting, talking on the phone, doing "dates" online. It's really sweet. But I still haven't told him I'm a camgirl. He knows I used to be a stripper, and I was hoping to move in a different direction and possibly stop camming altogether... but with a potential recession ahead, I don't see any other option, really.
So... I keep finding problems with him, in my head. Like he'll like a girl's pic on Instagram, and I'll be like "OH HELL NO" but then I remember he's there for me, all day, every day. He's been so freaking sweet, and I know I need to trust him. He's not doing anything really questionable, I'm just reading into it like a crazy person.
I know he's not the problem, I'm just making him out to be the problem. But also, I guess *I'm* the problem, because I'm not sure that I can really invest myself in this unless he wants to actually call this a relationship.
I hate dating. Hate it hate it hate itttt. I just want the quarantine over so I can hop around the world again and forget all my troubles.
seashell
03-26-2020, 07:52 AM
So the billiards guy claims he’s not getting the stimulus money cause he allegedly makes over 100k
Either his ass was lying about being “broke” or he’s lying about this stimulus thing
I wish I could look into dudes bank accounts like how I’d look in their wallets at strip clubs
Yessss! My strip club had an ATM where you could see their bank balance, hehe. Omg if only dating were so straightforward!
Winged Dinghy
03-26-2020, 09:03 AM
Polyamory is hard in coronatimes. My primary partner is home all the time. The guy from my pole dance class also lives with his primary partner. Since my city is under a "stay at home" order, they can't leave to let us bang. So we had to resort to public sex. I fingerbanged his butt and had p-in-v sex and did a bunch of whippets on the levee.
miss.a.p1600
03-26-2020, 10:07 AM
Yessss! My strip club had an ATM where you could see their bank balance, hehe. Omg if only dating were so straightforward!
Ahahaha!!! I did the same thing too.....
The funniest thing is if they catch you looking....Always had to be quick n use my peripherals lol!! }:D
miss.a.p1600
03-26-2020, 10:09 AM
Polyamory is hard in coronatimes. My primary partner is home all the time. The guy from my pole dance class also lives with his primary partner. Since my city is under a "stay at home" order, they can't leave to let us bang. So we had to resort to public sex. I fingerbanged his butt and had p-in-v sex and did a bunch of whippets on the levee.
Oooh - ive been dying to have some discreet public sex....im jealous }:D
carmen_b
03-26-2020, 11:54 AM
We took the germ risk and made out and banged which I'm sure y'all figured out already. Lol.
carmen_b
03-26-2020, 12:41 PM
Loved being offered some attention and sex after going without 10 weeks.
I liked the closeness and cuddles as much as the sex this time.
I moved things forward by touching his leg on the couch leading things.
He does this thing where his dick is in like one inch in and then he wiggles it fast with his hand ...... it really works on my body and I squirted everywhere. He also had given me a handjob before so I was just ON . Lol.
I'm feeling a little salty right now because he opted for a quick visit.
I felt like we had barely settled in at all. The dogs together were admittedly not the best mix ( he has a very large Pit and my little guy was scared of it ).
I feel it was in poor taste on his part to not at least offer an afternoon hike or something together . He left after spending just one night ( the day I drove down ). He had camped out a few nights prior so I see how he could want to be comfy but this house is VERY comfy. I didn't want to put any pressure on but I did invite him another 1-2 nights.
carmen_b
03-26-2020, 06:23 PM
Still processing the dissapointment with D....
I feel sad and disappointed. I feel mad at myself too for not “ tuning in “ to clues .
He expressed this sadness about this woman only offering him an open relationship in the fall ( he claims it ended entirely mid Dec ).
Does he not put it together at ALL that you can’t just leave people sexually starving and expect all to be well ?!?
carmen_b
03-26-2020, 07:01 PM
EVERY time I have had it with him he send a text that makes me feel for him ( now .... his dad went to hospital ).
I guess I can be supportive as a friend. He really let me down so that factor is also just the reality in dealing with him.
carmen_b
03-28-2020, 06:32 PM
It was nice to have a couple sexual experiences that were not M ( the guy who was abusive ).
I don't feel like Mr. NY handled himself very well honestly ( this is like 3-4 days later and I've had some time to think ). I arrived late and I asked him like an hour prior to put sheets on the bed ( the house keeper did them but I was supposed to put them on after drying ). No sheets on when I got here . THEN .... when I was in the tub he started doing shots via video call with people from his bar he works at ( a girl of course haha ) so I am listening to this stupid call on speaker while in the tub. I think he drank too much . I thought MY body was having issues ( I felt numb " down there " ) and thought that ptsd from the abusive stuff had possibly nabbed me. I don't think so though ! I realized later he drank too much and wasn't fully hard ! Lol. I figured it was fine and we would have the next night to make up for it but he left so fast that morning.
He was supposed to save me from neglect with his dick and promised me he would but he had whiskey dick ! That is the full run down of why I'm not pleased. Maybe he got embarrassed and ran off but I really think he should have offered me another night and really made the 2nd night count.
carmen_b
03-28-2020, 06:42 PM
My new desert lover I am very pleased with. :)
Now that I am thinking back on the experience a couple days ago I am realizing that he treated me very very well. He made a lot of eye contact and really made things all about me ..... for hours . I have no idea how many times I came ( at least 6-7 ). I had eaten half an edible to enhance the experience a little and now I feel bad about that ( I should have shared it with him but didn't know if he was friendly to it ).
It was just a delicious sensual experience. So I obviously hope for a repeat.
lurkingtitties
03-29-2020, 12:22 PM
I started chatting with an MMJ grower who wants to take me out when quarantine is over, so that’s promising.
I video chatted with that guy a day or two later...he was older and heavier than the pics he sent me (strike 1). Also his grow rooms weren’t as nice as my ex’s (he was a grower too)...strike 2. He told me his ex’s daughter lived with him while she was finishing high school...I could maybe look past that, but then he said she’s staying with a friend during the quarantine. Huge strike 3 for me, that’s very irresponsible of him to allow. Finally he had workers in and out of the frame while we were chatting because his grow was at his house-strike 4.
Glad I initiated that chat sooner than later so I didn’t waste any time. I think 3-5 years ago I would have let homie take me out anyway because I do enjoy being spoiled. But at this point in my life I want true love, not just someone who wants to spend money on me.
carmen_b
03-29-2020, 01:20 PM
^ Aw. Bummer about that but it seems like he really misrepresented himself sending photos that were not current ect. !
carmen_b
03-29-2020, 02:03 PM
I want to see the desert lover but I feel like I can't reach out.
I feel like I just have all this trauma from men not trying with me bundled with the abandonment from long term partner in summer 2018 .......... I want to discuss with a therapist when the world returns to normal.
The abuse stuff I look like as more of a fluke ..... M knew I was vulnerable and probably targeted me somewhat which I see as more of a creepy thing he did v.s. anything I did.
Oh , today is Sunday, haha. I swore it was Monday. He has 50% custody of child and I remember him saying his next opening was Monday.
lurkingtitties
03-29-2020, 03:14 PM
^ Aw. Bummer about that but it seems like he really misrepresented himself sending photos that were not current ect. !
Yeah I really don't get why people do that (goes for women too)...the person you're talking to is gonna find out sooner or later!
miss.a.p1600
03-29-2020, 04:00 PM
^because they are delusional lol
carmen_b
03-29-2020, 04:18 PM
^ I had that one did it like a year ago ( the movie exec. guy ) but I really didn't care. I was going for a sugaring arrangement ( which he didn't bite on ). Haha.
Like .... dude .... you are clearly 18 or so years older than me ( my best guess ) not 10 like your ad says . BUT thanks for the very nice dinner.
miss.a.p1600
03-29-2020, 05:31 PM
Exactly!
I had dated this mid forties narcissistic dude a while back and this trick posted retouched pictures of himself 10+ years earlier, had the gall to ask me for more pics, then showed up to the date looking like a demon aged like hard liquor.
He finally admitted to Botox so he could look younger because he hated aging and also so he could try to convincingly attract young girls.
I ditched his ass once he start making ignorant racist remarks and commenting on teenage (underage) females bodies at the gym
carmen_b
03-30-2020, 04:39 PM
J the Engineer / Guitar player with magic fingers invited me tonight.
I got the address and of course googled address to spy. Very Very nice home.
Now I'm worked up and nervous but of course I'm going. :)
carmen_b
03-30-2020, 04:41 PM
My body I swear. Every time I get a little attention a UTI comes on. :(
I am really hoping it's one that fades on it's own IF that is even what this is. I'm so prone to them my Dr. recommends I don't take meds for 3-4 days anyway. Ugh, I hope I am not lagging by not calling today. Please FIX this on your own body !!!! UGH !!!!
carmen_b
03-31-2020, 01:33 PM
OMG. He is just such a good lover.
Yum. Yum. Yum. A +++++
Also .... has a music room and we jammed ( I play drums , he plays guitar ). Hot.
I'll keep some deets to myself. Probably. Haha.
I did manage to not fuck him. I went for " everything but ".
carmen_b
03-31-2020, 01:53 PM
Ok .... I'll share one moment. After the concert we put on I took half an edible.
He gave me so much touching and care on the couch that I felt like my body was " melting " and blending into the desert earth haha. That is where my mind was. Lol .
Then he took me upstairs and was licking / fingering me and I swear that I felt all my stress leave and my dark shadows left my body and " blended " into the earth below us.
I treated him to some oral both on the couch and upstairs where I tried to deep throat him ( I wasn't sure I could ) but with the relaxation of the weed it was just a perfect fit. Lol. He kept saying " Wow " . Hahahah.
So that is me trying to keep details to myself. We fell asleep in a deep cuddle .
carmen_b
04-01-2020, 09:05 PM
Oh yeah, and in the weed haze I told him I was in general looking for something more serious .... not just casual . Haha.
He didn't kick me out and lock the door so I think that is a somewhat good sign.
Out hiking today I had the visualization of my bad attitude side / dark / angry side being " lost " in the desert and not able to find me. I felt lighter. I was like .... he *didn't* lace that weed with anything *would* he ? I don't think he did . I have had strong visualizations on weed before. He popped the edible squares out of something that looked like gum packaging so it didn't seem tampered with .
Zofia
04-02-2020, 12:23 PM
BF is still in Puerto Rico. He flies out tomorrow, I'm so looking forward to holding him in my arms! Last night, I was a bad girl and made a video for him while I was in the hot tub. Nude, and masturbating just for him. He returned the favor late last night, I'm so happy!!!!
XOXO
Z
carmen_b
04-02-2020, 12:31 PM
^ Mmmmmmmmm
My Aussie I had some fun time with video until I got pissed at him in late summer. Haha.
Video fun does lead to a lot of anticipation and is a good " hold over ".
carmen_b
04-03-2020, 12:09 PM
I really didn't expect our area to be closed down though for 2-4 more weeks .
How do I have ANY assurance that he isn't just bored ?
J gave me exactly what I wanted with D ...... a fun physically fulfilling quarantine plan.
How can I find myself now anxious ?
If I see him today we are leaving the house even if it's just take out and sunset.
If it's later we could go star gazing.
His divorce happened 5-6 months ago . He mentioned it was " sudden " .
He lied about his height which I really don't care about that much now.
I'm 5'8''. He is not 5'8'' haha. Probably 5'6''. Give the shorter guys a chance everyone. They appreciate the fuck out of everything and really try ! Lol. He is hot AF too.
carmen_b
04-03-2020, 05:33 PM
D : ( you little fucking monster by the way haha )
If you don't want to hear the truth about my thoughts ........
A . Quit Texting and don't ask.
B. Don't ask when I've spent three hours by a river with the 1/2 left over bottle of wine to work through.
Lol
I told you I was a very transparent person.
carmen_b
04-05-2020, 04:35 PM
MmmmmmmHmmmm
Desert lover boy is so delicious. We wrapped a 41 hour date just now.
Movie , half dose edible , relax at his place / fool around a couple nights ago.
Yesterday a nice viewpoint back country hike I knew of ( long, 4 miles , he is in good shape ).
Opted to stay at his place another night after the hike.
He is so touchy and affectionate.
He ordered us a nice dinner and we picked it up in his beautiful Tesla and watched another funny movie.
There are some details left out to protect the not so innocent. :)
Coming back down to Earth soon.............
Zofia
04-06-2020, 07:16 AM
Well, BF got home Friday night, on time. I met him at the airport. Normally, I just do the cell phone lot thing, but this time, I wanted him so badly, I parked on a nearly empty level and met him at Arrivals. I wore my smallest black dress and highest heels. Since the airport was nearly empty, I didn't feel bad about jumping in his arms as he walked out of security! OMG, he felt so good. Thankfully, he didn't have luggage to claim, so we went straight to the car. I'll omit the details, and just say it took us a while to get out of the parking deck. ;-)
XOXO
Z
carmen_b
04-06-2020, 02:06 PM
^ niiiicccceeeee
carmen_b
04-06-2020, 03:44 PM
He made some references about doing things together in the figure ( similar hikes ) plus when the world opens he wants to go to a " proper romantic meal " .
Aw. :)
carmen_b
04-07-2020, 02:55 PM
We have plans to watch the super moon rise tonight.
miss.a.p1600
04-07-2020, 08:25 PM
So I’m removing the billiards guy from my roster.
The fact that I tell a guy I’ve been celibate and they don’t rush to help me end it was a huge signal right there.
When I dated him in the past, I got the feeling he was just trying to be with me because I happened to be the IT girl at that time.
Then with me telling him about that guy who I got into a fight with, he did nothing to back me up. I just can’t feel safe with a guy like that.
Then he’s always claiming to be broke here lately so I felt guilty that one time we went out and he paid. Actually every time we went out in the past he paid.
One one of our dates he complained how miserable he was with that woman he married and later he confessed he didn’t think he’d ever get married again and that he had a fear his daughter wouldn’t adapt well to another woman.
Idk. I think we’ll just be Instagram buddies from now on.
My time is valuable and I don’t want to waste it.
Now I have no harem at current but it’s okay, I’ll just focus on work for now.
Im mad at myself that It took me 3 months to figure this out. Like I just came to this conclusion today after second guessing myself through those yellow flags. Im going to get better at this and start making cuts sooner right? 3 weeks or less.
carmen_b
04-08-2020, 08:20 PM
Last night I ordered BBQ and he brought whiskey , weed , and we went to see the moon rise .
It was such a nice evening.
We had sex the first time Apr. 3 , then twice April 4 Sunday morning I think , then last night ( the best and most long lasting ) hahaha. I wore a sheer black robe and black lace panties and got rid of my racing stripe going totally bare. He dug it and commented via text. :)
I can't wait to see where to go from here .....
^ These are the kinds of sex #;s I'd like to keep seeing hahahah. I don't know why it was so damn hard for me to dial it in but J is just kind of handing me everything I want . Getting spoiled. :)
carmen_b
04-08-2020, 08:23 PM
D was sending notes over the weekend .
C'mon J has blown you out of the water.
He won the race , grabbed the trophy , got all the orange slices in the bucket at the finish line ..... you get the gist .
I sent a respectful text back today saying that I always felt respected with him , don't really think either of us did anything wrong , and feel we just missed each other timing wise.
carmen_b
04-09-2020, 06:46 PM
I still have the fears that J is going to pull some sort of bullshit like .... " oh ..... I thought this was just a casual thing because you are up north sometimes " or whatever the hell . Just gotta kind of roll with things I guess I see how it plays out.
Obviously ..... forgot to have the " exclusive or not " convo before the sex which I promised myself I WOULD NOT do .
But ..... I was in heat last Sat. after being tickled for two hours on the couch prior to going upstairs.
I don't really have any evidence of being treated poorly soon fyi ( he referenced a show yesterday to catch up on so we can watch together soon ). He probably mentions something about the future each day I see him ( things we will do or ideas ect. ) and sometimes even via text.
miss.a.p1600
04-09-2020, 09:53 PM
I added a different guy to my roster....Or shall I say he is in the scouting phase so not officially on my roster till they at least take me on a date or offer something
Anyhow we've been Facebook 'friends' for over 10 years and I never paid him any mind. He would DM me every now and then and I think we talked on phone a few time several years ago.
Well he hit me up on DM right before all this coronavirus stuff and not gone lie I talked to him first out of sheer boredom but then he mentioned he had a decent Job and not gone lie again I noticed his recent pics and he has a nice car so I think he may be working with some decent money
He lives in another state is the only downside but he did mention he'd be open to traveling to my city one day.
It's a start - now once this corona virus is over I can get back to letting some quality dudes hunt me down lol and add themselves to my roster.
carmen_b
04-10-2020, 08:24 PM
He was being so cool the day my family arrived and didn't ask for any attention.
( that was Thurs. )
I had no idea he had his kid Fri - Sun
I forgot in the 2-2-3 schedule that Friday was the start of the three for him.
I remember 10 years ago saying I would never date anyone with children but that was a long time ago and from what I see the scheduling with him is solid / seamless. Now I realize the person I said that about 10 years ago was *probably* doing something sketchy the entire time as the arrangement was such a mess.
I hope our plan to meet up at 9p.m. today goes well.
carmen_b
04-12-2020, 10:18 AM
^ I really enjoyed our little " hold over " meet up last night. :)
carmen_b
04-14-2020, 09:51 AM
Another nice night last night.
The sex chemicals were fully flowing for me though and I probably asked a little too more than I should have.
I just wanted to get a sense of boundaries ( monogamous ? going somewhere ? ) ..... that kind of thing.
The answer wasn't * horrible * but it wasn't quite what I wanted to hear either .
More details later. I'll try to sit and process the info a bit.
It is monogamous but he isn't ready to call it anything serious.
I'll add some more info in later but I'm going back and forth now heavily with if I should see him anymore.
It's been three weeks tomorrow . The thing that made me most upset about the conversation ( admittedly we were a little high and I sprung it on him ) is that I think he answered my info about my feelings growing a little bit with something like " I see us more like great friends who are great in bed together ".
So ..... hesitant vibes ...... but he touches me for 5 hours straight ?
Sheesh ....... I am just not sure what to do here. I am so horrified because in the flighting phase of my separation from long term partner J in Aug. 2018 he referenced that he initially thought our relationship was " casual " . So ...... his feelings grew. I would never had said we were " casual ".
carmen_b
04-14-2020, 10:11 AM
Oh ..... I did double check on the " ink dry " thing. Fully separate ( so he says ) since mid Nov.
Papers signed March 23 .... a few days before he fingered me hahahaha. I had to laugh about it.
I guess I see it all from his side too in a way. I think I'm his first lover since the separation ( 99.9 sure ). Even baked, I did catch something about " this is the most significant thing I've had in place " .
miss.a.p1600
04-14-2020, 10:30 AM
Idk I could be wrong but it sounds like he cool with a FWB for now. If he’s not ready (if I were you) I would not wait with him till he’s ready I would do my own thing and I would open up my options to other men who are ready either that or continue as things are but REMOVE any emotional attachment to the outcome with this guy.
carmen_b
04-14-2020, 11:06 AM
^ Thanks.
I'll have to sit on this for a couple days and see how I feel. I do not like FWB arrangements. They are basically free escorting. I guess I should have thought of that before sexing him up 10-11 days ago or tried to arrange something on a sugaring basis. I mean I talk that way now that I'm satiated ( due to him taking such great care of me ) . The reason I brought this up now is that I am a big believer in " building " together consicously . I like to set a vibe of talking completely open about things early on. The hope being to find a partner willing to " build " with me. Also to save myself from hurt such as with Aussie B.
He also bought great steaks last night and made us a crazy amazing brunch this morning. He goes in for video calls on weekdays like 9-10a.m. and then we can hang out an hour or so after in mornings which I like.
I will say though that are *some* mixed messages. He just pulls me in to his hugs. He is constantly touching my WHOLE body ( not just grabbing ). He is going out to buy a temperpedic pillow for me so I don't need to keep dragging mine over.