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carmen_b
07-22-2020, 12:19 PM
I checked into a hotel and will nap and reevaluate being doing anything rash.
I was in car yesterday 6 hours 15 min or 8 hours counting as many breaks needed to make the drive alone.
I’m certainly not at my best either and don’t want to over react or say anything awful.
miss.a.p1600
07-22-2020, 02:10 PM
L is cooking for me again tonight.
He said he wanted to ask me something but is too scared lol and is going to wait till later (probably after he loosens up from some wine). I have a feeling he’s going to bring up the condom thing. I guess he’s not used to wearing them and it’s like he couldn’t stay hard because the condom but was trying to stay hard to please me.
Anyways I been meaning to get tested so might as well do it now. I’m just a bit worried about the whole pregnancy thing and while he provides what he can I just know he can’t afford to raise a kid the way I want (plus it’s way too soon to be even being in that scenario) so I prefer to keep using condoms so I don’t have to take the pill. Do they have the male pill yet?
carmen_b
07-22-2020, 02:11 PM
^ It’s so hard !
I got on the pill for J for the first time ever .
miss.a.p1600
07-22-2020, 02:15 PM
^thanks for sharing your experience.
I could be wrong but it seemed like the pill inhibited my libido (and I already have a lukewarm sex drive) ... I suppose I could chat with my gynecologist to see what the options are
carmen_b
07-22-2020, 02:40 PM
Plus it’s very early .
It might be best ( for you ) to not mess with hormones until things are very stable ect. with you two.
I didn’t get on it until over 2 months in with J.
I have concerns it’s aggravating my skin issues but am not sure since weather is also an issue.
miss.a.p1600
07-22-2020, 04:38 PM
^ok you have a good point. All this testing and gyn visits is going to take a few weeks to set up anyways so I don't want to rush into anything.
Well I'm off to wax....so I can feel confident getting oral that he owes me....It BETTER be good...........
I'll report back later
carmen_b
07-22-2020, 06:28 PM
I’m still very mad and it’s been 9.5 hours. :/
I was curious what our first fight might be and now I guess I know.
JessaJade
07-22-2020, 11:27 PM
^Hi, I just popped in to say that from your other posts it really sounds as if he was more embarrassed/uneasy about how his dad is, than about you, your routine or wanting to hide you.
carmen_b
07-23-2020, 07:01 AM
Yeah thx !! I think he’s super embarrassed about his Dad being off.
I slept on it and calmed down.
carmen_b
07-23-2020, 07:12 AM
I’m concerned he didn’t invite me to stay tonight . I did a hotel last night .
I might just stay anyway by not leaving after dinner.
I really don’t want to have this convo with him but I’m kind of set on him being willing to meet me in the middle when I’m displaced from the house sit.
We are talking two nights here . Then I have it 6 nights. I’m also not exactly waving a flag announcing I’m staying either.
Ill ask to drop my dog at 11:30 like always so I can cowork / yoga .
As if my 7-8 pound dog will disrupt his daughters time . His family isn’t staying with him so I am set this morning on not having our routine disrupted anymore. :)
carmen_b
07-23-2020, 07:30 AM
Am I the monster here ? Lol
I hope to be invited tonight because I feel a melt down coming on over this.
I am crafting a good case lawyer style lol.
Exhibit A : I am 5 hours south of my PAID OFF mountain property to continue with you !
I am tolerating horrendous heat at the worst time of year to continue riding your fantastic dick!
carmen_b
07-23-2020, 01:16 PM
^ He agreed to watch the dog 11:30-5:45 haha .
We will see how the evening goes. :)
carmen_b
07-24-2020, 08:04 AM
The issue didn’t escalate . :)
While I would have *preferred* he invited me in the morning he did end up offering after dinner.
So my little plan to check out of the hotel worked.
I just stayed out during the day which I typically do anyway.
We had nice Olive Garden takeout with his mom and daughter.
carmen_b
07-24-2020, 08:06 AM
Also I’m into plant collecting and he has lots of space and big windows.
I asked him for a “ max “ size wise if I were to bring something into his house and he said there wasn’t one. :)
If I want a huge specimen he’ll push the table or couch over for it. :)
carmen_b
07-24-2020, 08:31 AM
I’m at Lowes looking at the largest plants hahaha.
miss.a.p1600
07-24-2020, 09:26 AM
Okay so I'm back from the eve with L
He cooked for me and then some intimate time. I really like how he is always making an effort to please me. He's using words like 'forever' and meeting his family so.......
*on a side note....the past 2 nights I've gotten either texts or calls from my longtime Facebook friend in Texas who I was going to chose over L but since he was slow af to take action now I just can only be friends with him for now
carmen_b
07-24-2020, 02:11 PM
^ You snooze you lose and it seems like L treats you pretty well. :)
miss.a.p1600
07-24-2020, 02:14 PM
^Lol! True dat! I don’t know if he snoozed because he’s long distance or because he didn’t think I’d be Interested or what.
Either way,
I have to keep that in mind and just remember to keep him as a friend and maybe a business acquaintance. I called him yesterday because I missed his call two days ago when he called me at night and I was with L. During this convo he mentioned coming to my city and I had to kind of down play it. I don’t know what I’m doing here. I suppose I need to be forthcoming very soon before he starts to really like me.
Yeah L does treat me well. He’s definitely making it hard for me to even think about other guys. Today he went and surprised me with some more sweets from the gourmet candy shop
miss.a.p1600
07-25-2020, 11:53 AM
We’re hanging out again tonight
Going to meet his cousins. And then one - on - one time. He wants to take me on a real date but I’m Not sure we’ll be able to do too much with this damn coronavirus going on.
miss.a.p1600
07-26-2020, 11:54 AM
He said he would introduce me to his kids in a couple months because when we see each other around he didn’t want to have me ignore him.
Then he asked me “when we marry....” would I keep my last name or not.
He confessed last night that he felt like he had won the lottery by being with me.
miss.a.p1600
07-26-2020, 10:07 PM
We’re hanging out again tonight
Going to meet his cousins. And then one - on - one time. He wants to take me on a real date but I’m Not sure we’ll be able to do too much with this damn coronavirus going on.
Oh. Our real date consisted of axe throwing.
At first I was freaked out but slowly started having fun. He was such a gentleman carrying his gun to protect us, holding my hand to make sure I didn’t fall in my heels, and when we were inside he was picking up my axe for me each time I threw it.
Later when we went back to his place, the evening consisted of me riding his face lol.
Zofia
07-27-2020, 10:03 AM
He confessed last night that he felt like he had won the lottery by being with me.
As well he should. As well he should.
XOXO
Z
carmen_b
07-27-2020, 11:57 AM
4 months now with J .
I still struggle sometimes on the issue 6 weeks in when he was on the dating sites still and then told me about it in an attempt at honesty. That was a rough day for us to say the least . Lol.
BUT since then ( as of May 16th ) he has been a good boyfriend and a consistent partner. He corrected his mistake within hours . He saw me crying over it and then brought up the " lets be bf / gf " thing hours later . The reason I mention it is that I just wish it would have gone differently and I have a little insecurity over it.
We are at the phase now where we are getting more comfy and sometimes I don't know what to do with that. Haha.
Like ..... for months ( 3 months ) he completely hid the fact that he played video games and now he is out of that closet.
I'm not talking about anything huge here ..... just little things are changing and it's good to get comfy.
I'm always on the look out though for when *comfy* turns to not trying and complacency because my former parter and I struggled with that.
miss.a.p1600
07-27-2020, 12:07 PM
^good point about the comfy turning into not trying n complacent.
I have to remember that since I was single for so long n that was my MO. It seems like When you’re into your partner n you know they’re a catch you do your best to bring your best self more often than not....cause that risk of being heartbroken losing them to someone else could happen
I notice L making efforts to be the best he can be. He’s losing weight, sprucing up his place and his wardrobe/outer appearance and improving his mindset.
I’ve been making efforts myself too. I no longer walk around like Sasquatch and my work performance is better.
miss.a.p1600
07-28-2020, 04:48 PM
L wants me to come over for a “few minutes”
I’m not used to having sex this often and my vagina needs a break
I’d rather just lay in bed and eat ice cream.
.....Unless he has a vibrator...... THEN I might be motivated to come over for just a few minutes
carmen_b
07-28-2020, 07:38 PM
^ Ah
I wonder what he wants.
Just kidding we probably know lol.
carmen_b
07-28-2020, 07:39 PM
I’m grateful for J
He takes such good care of us ( both me and his daughter ).
We had delicious Greek food today.
Then after family day two kid free days ahead of us. Prrrrrrr.
carmen_b
07-28-2020, 07:42 PM
I wish he called me baby or babe. Lol
I might drop a pet name soon and see what he does. I asked one time if I could call him babe and he said he would prefer “ magical unicorn rainbow penis Man “ lol. That was a few weeks ago though.
miss.a.p1600
07-28-2020, 09:54 PM
Ooooh Greek food sounds tasty
miss.a.p1600
07-28-2020, 10:15 PM
I wish he called me baby or babe. Lol
I might drop a pet name soon and see what he does. I asked one time if I could call him babe and he said he would prefer “ magical unicorn rainbow penis Man “ lol. That was a few weeks ago though.
L calls me that but I have yet to call him that back. I can’t bring myself to do it yet.
You could just call him “Daddy” lol!!!!
carmen_b
08-05-2020, 08:40 AM
He fucked me so good THREE times yesterday .
Yum Yum Yum hahahah
I struggle so much when we go without for three days.
Anyway .... he made it right after I had three days of waiting. I'm very pleased. :)
We are heading to my property North in a few days. I might go one day ahead of him and leave Friday. I just can't wait for the weekend now!
miss.a.p1600
08-09-2020, 03:18 AM
We had date night yesterday
L was pissed cause we tried to go to the shooting range but it wasn’t available and he really wanted to show me how to do something I’ve never done.
We ended up shooting Pool instead and I beat him twice.
Then we ate pizza because everything else was closed for dine in or just long ass wait.
Overall it was a good night but he brought up how he didn’t like how I allegedly took hours to text him back. I don’t remember any specific time I supposedly took multiple hours to text him back and *le sigh* I just don’t want to be critiqued about my texting time responses because idk it’s annoying and I’m not a texting perfectionist. Whatever.
carmen_b
08-09-2020, 10:25 AM
^ I find that so off putting.
Especially if during business hours.
Dude fuck off I’m making $ and I’ll send ya a quick text at lunch or after 5 pm !
Lame. Hopefully he makes up for being whiny.
carmen_b
08-09-2020, 10:32 AM
We are at my cabin.
He arrived three hours later than I expected last night and I was up front it upset me.
We had some more real talk about our past selves , ex’s, more than we had discussed before.
We plan to trip in 4 hours so I shared that I was going through past trauma stuff with the ex ( my issues were earlier in the week I was obsessing with how my ex left two years ago by finding his next relationship while still me ). Usually I just let these thoughts go but it’s been a very hard week. It was an anniversary date with the ex in early Aug and that particular day was just so BIG for so long .
He was really understanding and appreciated the logic of “ getting it out “ before doing a trip haha.
We are going to walk through the forest on LSD to a secluded lake near my property. Wish us luck. Haha
carmen_b
08-11-2020, 07:47 PM
^ It was a fun and sexy time. I'll spare some details ( at least for now ) haha.
I wrote myself notes in case I experienced some panic but I didn’t .
Zofia
08-12-2020, 07:32 AM
Tuesday night, I was out at a bar drinking with some friends for the first time in a long time. BF and "the guys" were off on their own planning some sort of soccer watch party. At the bar, really we were at an outside seating area at the bar. It was a little odd, we had to go in and order our drinks at the bar and walk back out to the outside seating area. Anyway, sitting at a table just across from me was a young woman. She was making eye contact. At one point, she sat cross legged and gave me a clear view of her pussy. She wasn't wearing any panties. I had on a very short skirt, but I was wearing a thong. I had to return the favor, so I spread my legs and flashed her back. She started to play with her nipple through her top. She was definitely not wearing a bra. OMG, I was getting so hot. I decided I needed another drink and maybe a trip tot he ladies room. I went to the ladies room and took off my panties. Then I went to the bar and ordered another hard cider. After ordering, I turned around and was standing face to face with her. I almost melted, her eyes were so beautiful! She smiled and asked me if I wanted to continue our little game, or if was with one of the girls at my table. I stammered that I wanted to continue our game...and maybe more. I was blushing.
I almost attacked her right there. But, I managed to exchange phone numbers with her and went back to my friends. She went back to her table. We were both making excuses about having to go. I think everyone knew we were hooking up. I did not care. A girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do. We walked back to her place which was close to downtown. And we had a wonderful sexy time. I don't know if she and I will ever see each other again, but flashing each other in public was such a hot way to meet.
XOXO
Z
miss.a.p1600
08-12-2020, 11:22 AM
^cotdamn!!!!
I’ve had ladies bend over ever so seductively in front of me but never anything that hot!
I was playing pool with the billiards guy/longtime friend I used to date and a couple was playing next to us. The woman kept looking at me and bending over right in front of my face. I swear she was bi and I mentioned it to the dude I was with but he was oblivious.
I bet if a moment alone presented itself we could have ditched the dudes and ......
carmen_b
08-12-2020, 09:05 PM
^ Zofia is a troll ! Lol
( not really we know she isn't but is definitely lucky AF )
OMG !! hot hot hot
carmen_b
08-24-2020, 07:02 PM
I just wish ALL of life had more PIZAZZ right now. Lol.
I want to meet J in another city. I want to plan something interesting.
This whole Covid blah thing everyone is going throught reminds me of the beaches in Hawaii. After a storm the water turns brown and gross and it takes what feels like so LONG for the water to settle and that ugly to get out.
I feel like that is the world right now. Frozen in stagnation and brown.
^ I will fight it. I will add pizzaz.
miss.a.p1600
08-24-2020, 08:01 PM
I meant to add here that we had a date night this past weekend
L suggested a nice Italian restaurant.
He kind of frustrates me because he will say “order what you want” but he doesn’t realize that these are nice restaurants and I’m use to unrestricted ordering (3 courses) and also he needs to understand that in order to effectively plan, he needs to make reservations to many of these places so we didn’t get a chance to sit on the patio like I wanted.
Aside from that it was a decent night.
One of the best martinis I’ve ever had, really good pasta and bread (tons of carbs lol), and some good cookies from a cookie shop he’d been recommending for a long time. (Technically i might count this as 3 courses if you consider alcoholic drinks as one course lol)
Then later he showed me a dress he’d bought me. I certainly hope it fits and he got my size correct.
Zofia
08-25-2020, 06:40 AM
Oh girl, I feel you. Sometimes, I just want BF to take charge.
XOXO
Z
carmen_b
08-25-2020, 04:49 PM
I am stressed today . :/
J is going with his ex to get his daughters ears pierced. It's a big moment.
I feel agitated and jealous about a "family" type of outing.
I knew they were doing that .... I just thought it was like a week or so away.
She came here to get them ( at his place ) and I feel like it was in poor taste that they ride together but it of course isn't worth fighting about. He needs to put a small battery in the car too and that repair was bogged so it kind of makes sense ( no AC is impossible in this area but he could have taken my car ).
I am 99% sure this is a one off thing ( plus her birthday party in a couple weeks ) as we are together so much . I am PMSing so of course my mind is like " Yeah, she will announce she wants to reassemble the family and I'm going to lose my friend / great lover ect. "
carmen_b
08-25-2020, 04:54 PM
I still have residual trauma from my ex basically replacing me while still living with me so I'll tactfully ask if these family type outings are more of a thing than this one ( at some point ). :/
Well it's been like 70 min. now not just an hour and it'll upset me if they went to a meal or something but I am not even sure how to approach it ( or if I even will ).
miss.a.p1600
08-25-2020, 06:27 PM
I am stressed today . :/
J is going with his ex to get his daughters ears pierced. It's a big moment.
I feel agitated and jealous about a "family" type of outing.
I knew they were doing that .... I just thought it was like a week or so away.
She came here to get them ( at his place ) and I feel like it was in poor taste that they ride together but it of course isn't worth fighting about. He needs to put a small battery in the car too and that repair was bogged so it kind of makes sense ( no AC is impossible in this area but he could have taken my car ).
I am 99% sure this is a one off thing ( plus her birthday party in a couple weeks ) as we are together so much . I am PMSing so of course my mind is like " Yeah, she will announce she wants to reassemble the family and I'm going to lose my friend / great lover ect. "
I'd feel that way too if I really liked the guy
carmen_b
08-25-2020, 06:48 PM
Yeah I sort of knew I liked him .... I have known.
Now I KNOW. Lol
carmen_b
08-25-2020, 06:48 PM
No shared meal.
She panicked and came home with one earring .
Aw. :(
Zofia
08-25-2020, 06:50 PM
I am stressed today . :/ ...
I am 99% sure this is a one off thing ( plus her birthday party in a couple weeks ) as we are together so much . I am PMSing so of course my mind is like " Yeah, she will announce she wants to reassemble the family and I'm going to lose my friend / great lover ect. "
Don't sweat it. Family stuff happens all the time, doesn't mean you aren't important, but kids are important too. It's way tough to know when to let them grow up and when to "parent" them. There's a learning curve and everyone is different. So relax and know that you have that something that no one else does for him. ;-)
XOXO
Z
Zofia
08-25-2020, 06:51 PM
No shared meal.
She panicked and come home with one earring .
Aw. :(
Awwe is right. Hugs to her.
XOXO
Z
miss.a.p1600
08-25-2020, 09:31 PM
I still have residual trauma from my ex basically replacing me while still living with me so I'll tactfully ask if these family type outings are more of a thing than this one ( at some point ). :/
Well it's been like 70 min. now not just an hour and it'll upset me if they went to a meal or something but I am not even sure how to approach it ( or if I even will ).
I guess at some point soon you’d start doing these things with them (when he has the kid) vs. the mom and him together with him.
Or maybe all y’all could have gone (if you’re cool with her like that). I personally wouldn’t be opposed to family outings but I think someday in the near future you should be invited as well since you’ve already spent significant time with his kid. If you’re not invited (ex it would make the mom uncomfortable because it’s an event she planned or it’s during her parenting time) then you and him should plan some some of y’all own milestone events with the kid.
But if you ever get engaged or married then you’d definitely have a right to be invited along regardless of what the mom thinks.
Good to hear they didn’t go too far and eat dinner together as well.
carmen_b
08-26-2020, 07:16 AM
^ I am invited to birthday in a couple weeks but it’s a day I’m working and can’t move it.
I’m open to meeting his ex too anytime but not pushing the issue.