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seashell
02-02-2019, 12:16 PM
Nnnoooooo! My Irish guy might be moving to the UK. We might never see each other again.

I'm sad.

He's vacationing in nearby Croatia, and I was just texting him to see if he could pick up something for me while he's there. He said he has an interview online, and if it goes well, he needs to fly to the UK from there. He said he'd let me know if he came back to Montenegro. He offered to pick something up and mail it to me, which was nice. He's a casual lover boy who is also a gentleman.

Ugh, traveling sucks. I need to park myself in one place and date locals.

carmen_b
02-02-2019, 04:49 PM
omg, doesn't it suck balls to date as a traveler sometimes ?

Ugh. ;(

I'm a very strange place of *dare I say* satisfaction with dating ? I'm INTO Ginger Boy and I have good vibes about it.
J is offering his " services " basically whenever ( he seems to need 1-2 days notice and rarely will come over the same day ).
I'll turn Tinder and Pof off ..... no need to chit chat with others right now.
I left town to strip so I'll re-cap with each in 4-5 days .

carmen_b
02-06-2019, 09:41 PM
Back in town. Bleh. Drained. ;/
Issue with a massage customer and an issue with a dancing customer ( blech ).

I am leaning towards not seeing J.
He " can't " be my boyfriend because he leaves to Austin after getting the PHD in Sept./Oct. - that is forever away ( in my book ).
I usually demand boyfriend status before anything sexual so this is an experiment.

carmen_b
02-06-2019, 09:57 PM
Um ...... yeah ...... may not work out with my Ginger.
I know he's going to some remote places ...... but 5 days of no text. ;/

For whatever reason , I see a note saying " Delivered " or " Read " on his .
I've kept communication brief ( I also go to National Parks for work or near them and it's annoying with limited signal to receive a lot of texts ).

seashell
02-07-2019, 06:34 AM
^I'd wait until he comes back, you never know. There is legit terrible reception in national parks. I dated a guy once who was really into hiking and mountain climbing, and had the same problem.

I wish you luck with Ginger!

It turns out I don't have an STD, thank freaking god. Back to meeting boys! I've been talking to this really cute Albanian guy on Tinder, he's been messaging me every day, but he lives pretty far away. He seems really sweet, handsome, has a good job... I'm starting to get suspicious about why he's single, or if he's just one of those fuckboys who happens to be very good at hiding it.

carmen_b
02-07-2019, 09:17 AM
^ Thanks. He texted. He has made his way to Texas ( to be honest I knew northern Nevada was a bad idea ). I didn't want to suggest his trip route though . He should have headed straight south.

carmen_b
02-07-2019, 11:41 AM
And .... cue to having life balance problems ALREADY haha from only three shifts back dancing.

I need to travel 2-3 hours away for privacy so even a two day trip is really a LONG three day thing ( counting the day driving back in the morning plus that day is toast for recovery ). I'm kind of stressing out that I should be making sure to pack it up and travel either Fri or Sat. even though *really* I should probably try to have my own life and wait about 8 days to go back up. If I hit it HARD like I did last time I really could do this just twice a month for a bit.

carmen_b
02-07-2019, 07:10 PM
The cop can so SUCK IT. Guess where I went for the job today ?
The Brewery where he didn't share his appetizer! I got paid to eat and drink there.

carmen_b
02-08-2019, 06:41 PM
J .....

So I got off again about 6-8 times ( no idea how many ) and got my fill of snuggles.

( most sexy details now erased )
;)

TheBrownFox
02-10-2019, 10:41 AM
Men...lol. You could make a comment to Guy A (who you used to date, but is just a friend/fuck buddy now) about how another guy (Guy B) was in your Facebook Messenger inbox trying to hang out/hook up with you, and BAM...all of a sudden Guy A is asking you out on dates and messaging you more. Guess I just became a lot more desirable in your eyes, huh...

carmen_b
02-10-2019, 01:41 PM
^ Certainly some weird behavior out there. Maybe a bit of a cuck your guy A?


I " sift " them by offering my schedule details ( evening date openings ) 3-5 days ahead.
If they are not organized and POUNCE ...... done.
I swear this method cuts 90% of the crap.

carmen_b
02-10-2019, 01:44 PM
The ginger ...... we exchanged some really sweet words ( including that we were both kind of " there " with each other ).
I realized later I didn't realize what his " there " meant.
He's probably just one more day away from here.

TheBrownFox
02-10-2019, 07:26 PM
Maybe a bit of a cuck your guy A?

No, not at all. Just realizing what a good thing he has in front of him, I think, and trying to make some moves before someone else snatches me up. We just recently saw that movie Glass...he asked if I'd like to see that new movie US with him next month...and we're going to a Valentine's Day murder mystery dinner on Thursday.

carmen_b
02-15-2019, 07:44 PM
Ginger is back ! Went out to eat again ( I like that he arranges food outings ! ). ;)
FINALLY got his hand down my panties.
Got off a few times.
And a little oral too. ;)
Nice cuddle fest. He's really open and forward ( wanted to know what I like, wanted to talk about our kinks ect ).

I'll admit .... he has a strange kissing style. Kind of " licks " right away instead of kissing with just lips and slow intro .... maybe I can fix it by just asking for some more teasing style kissing.

miss.a.p1600
02-17-2019, 10:10 AM
So I agreed to meet up with this guy for a date today. Last time we went for the coffee. So this time he is saying he’s open to whatever I chose.

Problem is idk wtf to chose? I don’t go out around town often so I really don’t know what is going on. Fml!!! Why does this seem so hard?!?

carmen_b
02-17-2019, 11:03 AM
^ dinner ! ;)

miss.a.p1600
02-17-2019, 02:23 PM
Yes girl. I’m a foodie so def gotta grab something to eat.

I spent an hour trying to research places then he finally text with 2 dinner options. Agh! I hate seeming like I’m indecisive but hell I don’t know his budget or his tastes yet. Oh well hope that doesn’t count against me.

I hope he made reservations cause I hate waiting in lines

Now what to wear cause it’s cold af. And getting dolled up a bit.

I’ll report back in t minus 6 hours

miss.a.p1600
02-17-2019, 08:21 PM
Ok. Went to a nice restaurant and got some food and drinks and dessert

Plus he paid for my parking

So he earned some points tonight.

And I kissed him. Ahhh! With tongue!!!!!!!

carmen_b
02-17-2019, 08:42 PM
^ Yeah! :)

Miss_ShaSha
02-18-2019, 07:45 PM
New exclusive guy booked a stay at a well known fitness center & spa for our first time intimate. I'm a fitness instructor & he gets major points for booking a room at this spot.

Dude, we indoor cycled together (my certification) which he suggested. More points.

He treated me to hookah & dinner at an almost 5 star lounge haha. Cool points.

& he satisfied every sexual desire.

I'm like: LOA fucking works!

I'm so grateful to have met a great guy.

Miss_ShaSha
02-18-2019, 07:46 PM
Ok. Went to a nice restaurant and got some food and drinks and dessert

Plus he paid for my parking

So he earned some points tonight.

And I kissed him. Ahhh! With tongue!!!!!!!

Nice!!!

carmen_b
02-22-2019, 09:32 PM
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Miss_ShaSha
02-23-2019, 10:08 AM
My feelings grew for my Techie Ginger ( he's also a J so that's what I'll called him ). Haha.

I don't feel quite right arranging another play time session with my grad student kinkster J. I put it off ( legitimately I was out on the road 4 days but now I've been home two and I'm kind of just trying to hide from him so I don't have sex with him first and then end up in a moral debate when Techie Ginger gets back in a few days.

The thing I don't feel *quite* settled on is that we have known each other almost a month now ( even though a lot of that time we haven't been in the same town ) and I feel like it's time already to make short term future plans ( plan some travels together instead of apart in the next couple weeks). That's a big part of what drew us together I think. We are both nomadic and location flexible. I hope we just start building " our " travels in soon. I've been in 3 states in three weeks and he's been in 5 .
We would have a bad ass life on the road together I think ( at least part time together ). I want to talk to him about spending some time with me in a frequent work location for my day job ( desert location where I always have a nice house booked ).

It's been a week with NO communication ( a weird thing to get used to ).
He is off having an intense wilderness experience in Wisconsin.

I had the DTR talk when my ginger kept insinuating sex. That was only after 15 days knowing each other and 6 dates. We are exclusive now. I think it's a good time to define some things and express your needs to see if yours and his are compatible. Actually, the sooner you define things the less time is wasted.

seashell
02-23-2019, 10:51 AM
All the gingers in this thread!

I love it!

No dates for me, just living vicariously through everyone here. ;)

carmen_b
02-24-2019, 12:29 AM
Miss ShaSha, that timing sounds perfect. Nice and fast / seamless.


I had the DTR talk when my ginger kept insinuating sex. That was only after 15 days knowing each other and 6 dates. We are exclusive now. I think it's a good time to define some things and express your needs to see if yours and his are compatible. Actually, the sooner you define things the less time is wasted.

Miss_ShaSha
02-24-2019, 12:50 PM
Hey, thanks for this info. Yes, I saw him 8 days ago before his wildlife tracking adventure and told him I was interested in a relationship. We decided to wait a bit on the sex thing.
He didn't say " well lets do a relationship " but did reference " exploring a relationship " so it seems positive.
I hope when I see him again ( in a few days I'm thinking ) we will have this chat as it's just TIME to start phasing in some together time on the road.
I've actually put another big goal on hold in favor of flexible living ( hopefully nomadically somewhat with him ).
If we hit the desert together and have some killer adventure, I feel it will be worth it.


I left town so I wouldn't end up fucking the other guy pretty much. I also wanted an adventure v.s. just sitting around waiting .
I picked the weirdest ( for me ) destination ! Vegas . Lol. Omg. I have a couple friends there and we will hang for a couple days but I'm going to try to work in a club Tues. / Wed. and am terrified . I usually go to wild middle of nowhere places!

See .... this is part of my uneasiness. I think he's returning tomorrow or Mon. because he said " a week " . I'm in a phase of doubt if I can hang with a guy this " wild " but it's also really hot at the same time ( and gives me time for my own things ).

Miss ShaSha, that timing sounds perfect. Nice and fast / seamless.

Right on! It sounds like he's definitely interested. That is a plus. He sounds fun...and fun isn't something I usually pass up. I hope you two are able to make plans soon. I can't wait to hear an update.

Miss_ShaSha
02-24-2019, 12:59 PM
Surprised the shit out of SO yesterday. I treated him to an almost 5 star Greek restaurant then VIP seating at the local comedy club plus drinks. He was like "you're paying?!?! Are you sure?" He's paid for all dates so far, so after the hotel, spa, and hookah lounge date I thought it'd be nice to show him thanks.

The food was bomb. He's a huge Greek fan and he loved the sausage & potatoes. Then VIP seating at the club was perfect as he's a shy ginger and I'd rather view the show than be a part of it, so I chose seats further back. Seriously, all 3 comedians were talented. I laughed so hard the whole show.

Best part was back at his place. He served me sexually & I was in awe. He's super conscientious & aims to please.

He treated me to breakfast this AM at Whole Foods and wanted to hike the nature preserve in town, but I need to cam today. Anyway...super awesome date.

carmen_b
02-25-2019, 05:49 PM
^ omg , I love your updates ( also if these venues are Austin by chance, I might PM you for the names haha )

It seems like there is a lot of " aim to please " energy that comes up in this thread. I SWEAR as sex workers we can " read " who will be generous.

Miss_ShaSha
02-25-2019, 08:18 PM
^^Likewise! I'm in Dallas :( isn't it nice to have someone who aims to ensure you're pleased? I feel respected due to it.

I hear you on the planning. I like men who plan ahead & keep the commitment. I'm sure he'll contact you soon.

carmen_b
02-27-2019, 01:20 PM
So .... I might have lost Ginger Techie.

I invited him to do a couple things and got a text back saying he feels that we are " conversationally akward " and he feels like it's been enough time. I don't even fully know what that means but did tell him my ex had a forceful speaking style so if I interrupt or interject it might be a " left over " habit that I'm fixing.

That's just a guess. I'm just going to leave it for now. He does agree that we could have some amazing adventures and that there is a very strong attraction.

I think he might have some serious issues ( he is forthcoming that father was abusive and he has a history of other abuse ). You can tell he has " worked on " himself a lot pulling himself up the ranks in life ( has those left over insecurities ). I wanted him to relax and just be himself. He's very intelligent and seemed pretty thoughtful so I was willing to take a chance on him. I am serious about creating a conscious relationship and structured partnership.

I'm trying not to obsess over details ( such as if the no sex thing before his big trip factored in .... we seemed to agree to wait together .... I didn't force the waiting ).

He also said on his PodCast that his " dream woman " would be the type to not give a fuck such as ( in his words ) " a retired sex worker " or someone who would just dye their hair bright red .
I wasn't ready to tell him about my past and current sex work ( and I'm not going to now, it's my thing to improve MY life, not a " wild card " to impress a guy ) .
He seems either sex work friendly or possibly a formerly addicted customer ( could really be either with the statement ).
He considers himself a feminist.

He's just a really interesting mix.
I should only have to try so hard to " sell " it to him .
We should be in the carefree fun sex marathon zone at knowing each other 4 weeks.

Miss_ShaSha
02-27-2019, 03:51 PM
^^Well fucking said! Girl, you are the right woman for many good and secure men. Finding them? Oh it's such an endurance sport...dating. You're so very graceful about this and fuck, that's hard to do when you experience a bit of rejection.

I'm still looking forward to your updates. Seriously tho...you could write a book about your dating adventures and I'd be the first to buy it!!!

carmen_b
02-27-2019, 06:22 PM
That's a sweet reply. I've been crying most of the day.

I think he blocked my number.

I would say he wins the conversational akwardness award for not checking in at all after going on what could be a life endangering expedition.
I'm just having the hardest time believing it. I would have fucked this guy non-stop for days ( not kidding ) if he had only checked in and scheduled a date ! ( tears hair out )
How can he even be sure ? We have only had three dates ( and only 1 with any physical interaction ) in 4 weeks.

carmen_b
02-27-2019, 06:32 PM
I do realize that it's probably absurd to be this upset.
I have two other lovers but I though he was the emotional connection and was going to be the next big relationship.

charlie61
02-27-2019, 07:32 PM
That's a sweet reply. I've been crying most of the day.

There is probably more to the story that I'm not seeing.
Conversationally akward ? The only thing I can think of is holding back my sex work info ( for a bit ).
I sent him a final text disclosing that info ( nothing detailed just " former sex work I was going to get to and some dabbling out of my retirement " ). Of course, I tried to call ..... but straight to voice.

I would say he wins the conversational akwardness award for not checking in at all after going on what could be a life endangering expedition.
I'm just having the hardest time believing it. I would have fucked this guy non-stop for days ( not kidding ) if he had only checked in and scheduled a date ! ( tears hair out )
How can he even be sure ? We have only had three dates ( and only 1 with any physical interaction ) in 4 weeks.

Like you said... that's so much drama and difficulty for your first 4 weeks.

Sometimes baggage can masquerade as depth. Sometimes shared complications can masquerade as a true connection.

I say good riddance.

Miss_ShaSha
02-27-2019, 09:05 PM
I do realize that it's probably absurd to be this upset.
I have two other lovers but I though he was the emotional connection and was going to be the next big relationship.

It's not at all absurd to embrace feelings of loss & sadness. You have good reason to feel sad. He's not fully reciprocating (pretty absurd on his part) & that hurts.

Embrace the pain like you have been, but put a time frame on it then distract yourself. You are worthy. I'm sending good vibes your way.

carmen_b
02-27-2019, 10:48 PM
Who thinks this heartbreak will make me cancel my meeting tonight with " Mr. Tall " from the confessions thread ?

If it was no one you are dead right. :)
Bring that 6’8” 6 pack body to mama.

Miss_ShaSha
02-28-2019, 05:26 AM
SO wanted to take me out to dinner, so last night I showed up at his place at 7pm. I showed up 3 min early hungry as fuck looking forward to eating 771 calories. Like usual he was ready and thank god as I hadn't eaten since 3pm when I had 3 cuties and 32 ounces of water.

He mentioned I looked stunning in yoga pants and gave me a huge hug. I was already melting. He thought Pei Wei would be a great place to eat as they have low carb meals with all calorie breakdowns on the menu. He was right, the menu was catered to my current eating situation and was able to decide on the Ahi tuna avocado salad which he agreed to get also. We both had a glass of alcohol.

The best part of dinner was his ability to actively listen and empathize. I mentioned a good friend in SoCal just revealed she has uterine cancer and I'll be committing 15 min a day to meditate for her and visualize her successfully removing cancer cells from her body. He chimed in that positive affirmations and sending good vibes is infinitely helpful. We then discussed the efficacy of positive thinking. Gosh, he is a pleasure to converse with.

After dinner I did a naughty dance for him. I'm not a stripper so it wasn't great, but he couldn't keep his hands off my legs (I wore a pair of stockings he purchased for me). He was extremely excited. After the dance he gave me a massage that felt amazing. I was able to lay back and relax. & during sex we engaged in a lot of dirty talk. His talk, period, turns me on.

I really like this shy ginger. Spending time with him elicits happiness and thank goodness as for 2 years I struggled to find a secure man.

Bananabunny
02-28-2019, 05:27 PM
I'm finally having my first S/O since last July <3 He's a lil younger than me which is fine and he's got himself a job for this year which I'm proud about! After years of having troubles at school and being bullied (just like me) I'm glad he can leave it and finally make some money...I only want the best for him!! He also wants to introduce me more to the LGBT community which I'm thankful about! As a bisexual with barely any homosexual friends I'm feeling grateful for this oppurtinity! I used to hide my sexuality for so long...

He's FTM trans and has dificulties with his body which I understand. I don't need sex, I'm fine with masturbation so we bascially are a celibate couple. We are going to the pride parade this year together, it will be my first time there ♥ Hope to find myself many new friends there! And to keep traveling with him ♥ He's such a cute muffin lol

He doesn't knows I cam tho, Imma tell him hopefully soon...I hate being a liar in real life. On the internet lying is no problem for me as a camgirl, but offline I HATE it...

carmen_b
02-28-2019, 08:11 PM
Well .... if there is a balm for a broken heart, I'd say getting your pussy eaten for a good two hours or so ( with a few breaks for snuggles ) and being told you are so beautiful multiple times is an excellent start. Thanks Mr. Tall. I'm so glad I tripped on my way to Vegas and fell onto your face.
; )

miss.a.p1600
03-01-2019, 07:40 AM
2 hours?!? Omg! The dude with that kind of tongue stamina is the dude I will marry

Miss_ShaSha
03-01-2019, 08:51 AM
Well .... if there is a balm for a broken heart, I'd say getting your pussy eaten for a good two hours or so ( with a few breaks for snuggles ) and being told you are so beautiful multiple times is an excellent start. Thanks Mr. Tall. I'm so glad I tripped on way to Vegas and fell onto your face.
; )

Hahahaaa RAD!

carmen_b
03-01-2019, 02:23 PM
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Miss_ShaSha
03-02-2019, 09:22 AM
SO wanted to see me last night. I expressed I couldn't afford to eat out and party as I'm spending a lot on moving in, but he said he'd take care of it as he really wanted to spend time with me.

We had Fadi's Mediterranean and brought our own bottle of wine. Yesterday was really tough mood wise. I had only got 5 hrs rest, was bossed around by my landlord, and sales were shit on cam. I expressed I was a bit bummed and low on energy. He was kind and patient.

I needed to talk about and process the conversation and recent rude interactions I've had with my housemates. He validated my concerns and also provided some perspective so I could see it wasn't anything personal. Gosh, I like engaging with him as he's understanding and resilient.

We spent almost 2 hours at the restaurant talking health and fitness plus music while enjoying the wine we brought. It was a most pleasant evening and a great way to end a really tough emotional rollercoaster ride.

carmen_b
03-02-2019, 11:25 PM
That Ginger dip shit made a refreshed Tinder profile I stumbled on with all new pictures and a line about " please for the love of god be a good conversationalist and banter with me " . Hahaha. Omg.
It's so strange how two people can come out having two different experiences. I would have said " we are just getting to know each other " .
He can not seem to shut up about my terrible " conversation abilities " omfg.

( by the way I work in for sales day job and in my sex work I regularly get customers who say they love talking to me ..... so ....... )

Ok .... breathing ..... moving on.

seashell
03-03-2019, 05:41 AM
^Wow, Ginger sounds like a self-entitled prick. You traded up! :)

i've been texting N, the Serbian guy who I liked but was keeping things casual with. He's usually pretty sweet, a gentleman, pays for everything... but oh my god he is the worst texter. He is constantly on Whatsapp, it shows when he is active, and he waits days to respond to my text messages. It's really pissing me off. He'll make up some BS excuse or apology each time.

I don't think of him as anything more than a fuck buddy now, but seriously. Most of my lovers have manners, lol. I feel petty for also ignoring him for days, but you get what you give.

miss.a.p1600
03-03-2019, 09:58 AM
That Ginger dip shit made a refreshed Tinder profile I stumbled on with all new pictures and a line about " please for the love of god be a good conversationalist and banter with me " . Hahaha. Omg.
It's so strange how two people can come out having two different experiences. I would have said " we are just getting to know each other still " ....... he can not seem to shut up about my terrible " conversation abilities " omfg.

( by the way I work in for sales day job and in my sex work I regularly get customers who say they love talking to me ..... so ....... )

Ok .... breathing ..... moving on.

Damn! I guess this how these mfs be doing in the Tinder culture. Sounds similar this dude (aka demon in human flesh) I dated a couple years back and I happened to see his profile pop up with a new picture but he looked older and uglier. I think they can tell if you look at their profile and best not to give them any satisfaction. But if that’s what you needed for closure then so be it.

I may have a date (with a former coworker-not the one I was lusting over but another one who was very helpful and nice), if this dude can get his planning skills together, tomorrow. He suggested somewhere to eat. Thank goodness no coffee date. It better be a good restaurant. I’ll report back.

carmen_b
03-03-2019, 12:13 PM
^ I don't think he saw that I looked at it ( I really don't care ) because it was Tinder.
He just came through again in my " choices " ( this time with completely different info and pics up ).

If fact, I actually DO hope he saw mine because I was using it to rustle up customers three hours out of town ( it even said on it " Entertainer " in hope some dudes would ask ).

I think my " in love " feeling came mostly from the fact that he was the only other digital nomad I've ever dated.
I've always dreamed of having an " on the road " life with someone and he is the first person I've dated who could have actually done it ( and seemed willing ).

Ginger was so over the top on our make out / fingering adventure too. Like .... holding me down and growling ( like a bear ) hahahah. I know he's doing it because of his " wilderness man " thing he has crafted. It was fine , I can take growling but I was kind of like " this is silly ".

Anyway ..... in better news ...... 3-4 days till I'm back to the desert and Mr. Tall . ;)

seashell
03-03-2019, 04:15 PM
^I can relate to the digital nomad thing. The Irish guy that I spent like two days with, is a digital nomad, and he became instantly more attractive because he understood/fit into my lifestyle. I was ready to have his Mexican-Irish babies. But he was also kind of weird in bed. Like... good... but he had a really small peen and was very technical. Like he had done prior research on female anatomy. haha

N apologized for being a slow-to-reply douche. Oh well, he has a big peen and was pretty fun in bed. I'll put up with his BS as long as he's willing to be my lover boy while I'm in Serbia, and possibly help me with local things like finding an apartment.

charlie61
03-03-2019, 05:56 PM
That Ginger dip shit made a refreshed Tinder profile I stumbled on with all new pictures and a line about " please for the love of god be a good conversationalist and banter with me " . Hahaha. Omg.
It's so strange how two people can come out having two different experiences. I would have said " we are just getting to know each other still " ....... he can not seem to shut up about my terrible " conversation abilities " omfg.

( by the way I work in for sales day job and in my sex work I regularly get customers who say they love talking to me ..... so ....... )

Ok .... breathing ..... moving on.

What an asshole. Sounds like he had some self-confidence issues, and the lack of conversational chemistry with you brought up some of those insecurities. A confident conversationalist can converse with anyone. Like, even if you happened to be awkward, if he were a good conversationalist, he would've been able to coordinate a good conversation. He clearly has some work to do there.

And how does he not realize that it's not that *you* have an issue... it's just a chemistry thing. When i meet someone i don't vibe with, my thought process is "you're probably great, and I'm great, but we aren't great together... no biggie!" I never think, "something is wrong with this person."

Miss_ShaSha
03-03-2019, 06:03 PM
What an asshole. Sounds like he had some self-confidence issues, and the lack of conversational chemistry with you brought up some of those insecurities. A confident conversationalist can converse with anyone. Like, even if you happened to be awkward, if he were a good conversationalist, he would've been able to coordinate a good conversation. He clearly has some work to do there.

And how does he not realize that it's not that *you* have an issue... it's just a chemistry thing. When i meet someone i don't vibe with, my thought process is "you're probably great, and I'm great, but we aren't great together... no biggie!" I never think, "something is wrong with this person."

Well fucking said.