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miss.a.p1600
08-26-2020, 04:35 PM
^ I am invited to birthday in a couple weeks but it’s a day I’m working and can’t move it.
I’m open to meeting his ex too anytime but not pushing the issue.
Yeah gotta go at the pace that’s comfortable for you :)
carmen_b
08-27-2020, 02:37 PM
Shit....
Three days ago I was PMSing and having doubts about it all ( even J ! ). I was wondering if I messed up my life overall. ;/
Last night he fingered and fucked me SO good upstairs ! Like ..... he kept just kind of gently was pushing me to " more " lol.
We had a small edible and some dinner and then went swimming nude in his pool. THEN ...... my first pool fucking . Omg.
So anyway I have adjusted my attitude and will not be leaving my situation anytime soon. Lol.
We have separated ourselves into different sections of the house to get some work done today.
Zofia
08-27-2020, 05:55 PM
Shit....
Three days ago I was PMSing and having doubts about it all ( even J ! ) and just wondering if I messed up my life overall. ;/
Last night he fingered and fucked me SO good upstairs ! Like ..... he kept just kind of gently was pushing me to " more " lol.
We had a small edible and some dinner and then went swimming nude in his pool. THEN ...... my first pool fucking . Omg.
So anyway I have adjusted my attitude and will not be leaving my situation anytime soon. Lol.
We have separated ourselves into different sections of the house to get some work done today.
And you accuse me of trolling! ;-) (I know carmen_b is no troll.)
XOXO
Z
Winged Dinghy
08-28-2020, 04:42 AM
The guy from my pole dancing studio is officially my submissive boyfriend, and we are in love. Our beach vacation was blissful from start to finish. Here are a few highlights.
-I made him eat my ass at a rest stop
-Gave him a two-liter (!) enema
-He cooked me dinner wearing only an apron while I sipped wine and did whippits
-I violated his ass on the beach
-We walked through a forest, and after I peed behind a tree, I made him lick me clean
-After that, he drew me a bath and shaved me
-I bent him over the bed and fucked him with a strap-on. I hadn't let him come for four days prior to that, so when he finally did, he said he came harder than he had in his whole life
We are going on another little trip next month. I'm so into him. He's the best. So hot. Just wonderful.
Update: This post is more true than ever. My submissive boyfriend from my pole dancing studio is lying next to me in bed naked, doing whippets. I fingered his butt but haven't fucked it yet tonight. I am wearing a cock, however, and the sun is coming up. I expect I will violate him anally in the near future, in broad daylight, possibly on my front porch.
We have been very strict and careful with covid. We are staying in our pod. Everyone should. Get tested. Wear masks. I know y'all know this. Stay safe.
miss.a.p1600
09-01-2020, 07:50 AM
I guess I kind of like how L tells me about his visions for the future and mentioned that he would always take me on dates
miss.a.p1600
09-02-2020, 10:46 AM
L suggested a virtual date.
It was a good idea, creative, and a great way to connect when face to face not possible. But kind of weird for me because I like to talk on phone/make facial expressions/or even multitask (shit you cannot do on video chat).
Plus I could hear all his chewing which was driving me insane. I do not like ASMR that much.
carmen_b
09-02-2020, 07:46 PM
Always inspiring when Winged pops in !!
I get bored sometimes but then I have to calm myself down and remind myself to work with the current world conditions.
We are doing the best we can.
We had a couple wonderful days recently.
We both had family in town over the weekend and it was funny because on day #1 when his sister came over he was like " I just want it to be us " . He said it in his pool haha.
Then on Sunday I'm like " when the fuck is everyone leaving ? " .
So ...... we like our Pod. I could relate to that statement.
:)
carmen_b
09-10-2020, 02:03 PM
I’ve been busy with work and he had daughter 4 days in a row.
I can’t wait till tomorrow. :)
carmen_b
09-10-2020, 02:07 PM
Or tonight. Today is day 4 of no sex.
I will either sneak over there at 9:30 pm or nearly kill him tomorrow.
Damn it .... too tired tonight !!
I need to get champagne and a congrats balloon. He got a new job offer a couple days ago.
His real present will be a long slow BJ his fave. There is really nothing I can buy him that would top it.
:)
carmen_b
09-16-2020, 07:56 AM
Um...
help ladies ...
read my Random Thoughts stuff ....
?
I’m unsure what to do.
carmen_b
09-16-2020, 01:12 PM
It’s Sunday I’m having this huge issue with. After already having his daughter two extra days ( to cover his Montana trip starting tomorrow ) he agreed to take her Sunday.
I was really hurt because we hadn’t had hardly any time together but I let it go because ... kids.., gotta be flexible right? It was also not for anything important and I worry he isn't inserting boundaries .
I ended up getting two hours of sleep Saturday. He told me last week to always stay at the house when I didn’t have the house sit. Then Sunday he seemed weird about me staying.
I’m completely exhausted .... and I spoke up about not feeling right about needing to go to a hotel .
I wish he would have just put me to bed at 8 pm ! :/
It was just so stupid to need to leave ( I had booked an alpaca experience for his daughter the next day ). It was her birthday.
We could have ridden over together.
He tried to fix it ( he booked me a hotel Tues ) but I’m having a hard time still .
carmen_b
09-16-2020, 01:20 PM
It’s three days later. I just can’t see myself being comfy in his house ( in the state of mind I’m in ).
I never want to experience that discomfort again so I’ll most likely rent a room *if* I even go back south to his area.
I’m trying to give him some benefit to doubt ( he suffered through a shared birthday party Saturday with his ex ) .
It will need a discussion ( most likely ) since I’m still angry 3 days later.
carmen_b
09-17-2020, 09:52 AM
Shit really hit the fan for me.
I am non-dramatic until you cross me ( really ! ) even though it may not seem so from so of my posts. :)
Sorry to blow up the random thought thread but I have been in agony over this decision . I truly believe that I am right in this case ( or " more " right than him ) and I won't keep quiet to keep the peace. I'll take truth and honesty any day over " keeping the peace " motions which will only result in discomfort later.
miss.a.p1600
09-17-2020, 02:14 PM
^Things flow much better (albeit uncomfortable at first sometimes) when you go with your intuition as you are doing now.
- I guess my dating adventures has come to a slight halt as we are grappling with the pandemic and not being able to go out and him being on a tight budget. L wanted to grill/cook for me but I'm not sure I'll be able to spend much time with him here lately with work, people around me getting sick n having to quarantine ever other cotdamn week, and feeling like a neurotic nutjob.
carmen_b
09-17-2020, 03:31 PM
He gets here in an hour.
:/
Yeah and sharing this nice motel .
I feel like the situation is impossible.
I need to prove a strong point. But what’s TOO much ?
I'm exhausted. He will need to do an Uber.
I reacted SO strongly to his very light " lets take a step back " messages even though from his side maybe there is something valid to it ?
carmen_b
09-17-2020, 08:26 PM
Also ..... dude has gone a little nuts ! He set up watering for my plants and so I asked who and he said his ex.
Ummmmmmm . No . She will NOT be over there when I'm not there ( going through my shit ect. ) . You know how women are.
carmen_b
09-18-2020, 11:56 AM
As much as I’ve complained he has done really sweet things. Coming here to this remote location and helping me today with my work day.
carmen_b
09-23-2020, 09:29 AM
We survived Montana. He stayed with me. I didn’t make him get own hotel.
There were some fun moments.
I was deeply hurt by him saying I could stay there two weeks ago ( and again we are talking super infrequently ) and taking the offer back and it's affected the last 10 days to be fully honest. I am still upset by the 13th / 14th with him sending me off to a hotel BUT it was the day before her birthday and birthday too so I acknowledge the bad timing on those days in * particular *.
We are good at talking things out but this is BIG.
I consider relationships where you don’t function as a team non-functional ( especially at 6 months ).
It’s affected how I feel a lot.
We had sex a couple times but I felt held at an emotional distance somewhat and it’s taken my sex energy down a lot. I would like to see us pass this difficult bump in the road but if he does more “ girlfriend “ only types of behaviors it will probably hurt us and I’ll leave.
carmen_b
09-23-2020, 09:38 AM
** NO QUOTING THIS ONE PLEASE **
Im on a family trip solo in the next three days so it will give some time to think.
A thing I should note so things stay in context here is that when I describe on the site how I " house sit " we are talking about a family property here. So this is MY house too that is the active VRBO . It's part of a long term retirement plan the family has in motion in addition to other properties. This is a family house and not just a " random " client I manage for . He knows this and it should give him a sense of my stability.
We are closing on another short term approved rental on Monday and this 2nd one is very nice too so it " fixes " the problem somewhat since there will be two in motion ( the chance of both being rented at same time in next few months will be much slimmer ). I am the only family member who lives near them and maintains them. The others live significantly more North ( more than just an easy drive ).
It still doesn't fully FIX my concerns though. It fixes my comfort issue somewhat. I also have other fixes in mind if for some reason sales just boom on the 2nd one. We plan to just let reservations come in as they normally would ( with most people booking 4-10 weeks ahead ).
The 2nd house openings will help but the CRUX of it is still there . My boyfriend of 6 months thinks that me staying there ONLY 2 days of the 16-17 days his daughter was there in Sept. was " too much " for him so he made sure to make sure nights #3 didn't happen . He ended up with a couple extra custody days somehow ( maybe a bribe or something for our Montana trip ).
I am glad I have the next three days to myself because I think we need it .
carmen_b
09-24-2020, 07:11 PM
Gah.
He's just so respectful and amazing in all the other ways but then I keep going back to the issue above ! ^
I ran it by my parents who also thought he was being really weird. ;/
He knows he fucked up too because he knows I'm with my family now and he was asking yesterday " Oh , did they know about that issue we had last week since you are so close to them ? " . Um yes dude I'm going to run this stuff by my fam !
These online articles are like " never have a partner sleep over when your kids are there if it's isn't serious " and it's got me nervous now. Then those same articles admit that it's not like there is a guide and you kind of have to figure it out yourselves ( duh ! ) but generally advisable to wait 3-6 months until past a separation for sleep overs ( we are way past that ).
I haven't * that * obsessively googled just lightly hahaha.
I feel like it's not *quite* enough to end it but I just feel SO differently with him now.
How he acted made me feel very alone like he doesn't really have my back and that isn't acceptable at 6 months.
carmen_b
09-24-2020, 07:25 PM
I'll have the keys to Base Camp #2 on Wed. next week and access to MY soaking tub and full game room ( air hockey , basketball , AND table tennis hahahah ) . Maybe I'll not invite HIM and this will just be my epic pad until I start it selling it by the night hahaha.
I really do hope we can move past it.
lurkingtitties
09-25-2020, 07:27 AM
Honestly Carmen I thought you guys were moving too fast in the beginning. I remember several months back you were asking the forum if it was reasonable to expect him to let you stay there all the time due to you not having your own place to stay in his area. I remember thinking “No, that’s unreasonable and entitled at the beginning of a relationship, especially due to him having a young daughter and being fresh out of a divorce” But I didn’t want to say anything because I thought I would sound like a hater. I apologize if it sounds harsh now, I’ve moved too fast before with someone who was fresh out of a long relationship and had it blow up in my face 6 months in so I get it.
I think your best bet is to pull back and just act really unbothered by the whole thing. Don’t talk about your hurt feelings and have your own thing going on. Gotta make him miss you.
carmen_b
09-25-2020, 05:54 PM
^ Yeah I think that’s great.
I’m getting past it traveling on my own now.
The new house made my confidence grow ( and I have another project in motion too ) .
We will have 6 days to ourselves by the time we rejoin up Sunday.
We don’t really need to play house. There is also a flip side where I have more time for my own projects . I think a little space would benefit us even if it’s at a cost to me and inconvenience of “ moving “ a lot between locations.
Family life type of pacing is still shockingly slow moving to me ( like just getting through a day 9-9 ) and a huge adjustment so I don’t mind having a mostly adult life again for at least a bit. I do think we were doing very well though kind of " running " our lives together.
carmen_b
09-25-2020, 05:59 PM
I like to remind myself too that I don’t HAVE to have him. He has these great qualities / makes great $ , overall treats me well but if this drives me *too* nuts ( like if I absolutely can’t stand a slow pace ) I still can make that call.
I don’t mind the extra time to work though. I’m phasing down hours in my business to make time to sell real estate.
I’m not going in it to fuck around. I want that first check. :)
carmen_b
09-25-2020, 07:40 PM
I will say though that it's A LOT to think about. His area is a really good pick for the winter but moving between these vacant AirBnB's properties ( a few nights here , a few there, renting hotels ) may not be sustainable for me for much longer.
In the perfect scenario I guess I'd stay in the new one quite often.
I do recognize though that that is my thing ( I saved about 8k in the last 6-8 months doing this but I still don't know if it was remotely worth it ). I'm exhausted and just sick of moving around. I now feel willing to pay just " whatever " it takes to get comfy .
carmen_b
09-25-2020, 07:46 PM
I am curious about this .......
I’ve moved too fast before with someone who was fresh out of a long relationship and had it blow up in my face 6 months in so I get it.
miss.a.p1600
09-26-2020, 08:00 PM
Came from a date yesterday
L took me to a fairly expensive restaurant
We went to another venue and watched the sunset
Then went to yet another venue for desserts.
He put some planning effort into it so I’m thankful
lurkingtitties
09-29-2020, 07:39 AM
So like...when you're using a dating app, what's the protocol for progressing the conversation to a phone/Facetime call and/or meeting in person? You're supposed to let the dudes bring it up first so it feels like they're chasing you?
carmen_b
09-29-2020, 08:24 AM
^ Ideally he should ask your preference ( quick meeting vs talking a week or two ) because women are different.
I tend to speed it up offering a quick drink meeting 2-4 days ahead sometimes.
I do it for speed ( I don’t have time for a lot of chit chat with someone I might not have chemistry with ).
I’m also testing for organization / reliability ( like if they just easily show up without a check in or reminder ).
I strongly believe you can get more info out of a 30-60 min in person meeting than a lot of chatting .
lurkingtitties
09-29-2020, 08:41 AM
Word. I just made a profile on Hinge maybe 10 days ago so this is fairly new for me. The one time I did online dating before (2012, lol) I made a connection pretty quick and the dude asked for my number right away so *he* could screen. Then we continued to talk/text for a few weeks before actually meeting in person. So far no one has been that forward this time around, it would be nice if somebody steps up!
lurkingtitties
09-29-2020, 08:55 AM
In other news I have to confess that I got mixed up with an ex again for the last several months, but as of yesterday have exited the situation in what I believe to be a mature and articulate manner. He lives in Maine, and I moved away in May. After I left he suddenly seemed interested again, was texting me every day, telling me he missed me, wanting to talk on the phone etc. I went back to visit last month and when I saw him tried to have a couple conversations about why he was acting that way/what his intentions were. It was kinda difficult to communicate with him and didn’t feel like it was going anywhere...then once I went home he returned to the same behavior of texting every day/trying to get me to come visit again. (I had actually told him while I was visiting that it was his turn to come visit me if he was serious about me, which he seemed to conveniently forget)
So last week was his birthday and he had some family come to visit, and I didn’t hear from him all weekend. Texted him several times and got one word answers which hurt my feelings and made me feel played. After crying to a girlfriend about it and doing some reflecting I decided I needed to formally end things out of respect for myself. I sent the following text yesterday:
“Hey listen I’ve been thinking a lot and I don’t think this pseudo relationship we have going on is healthy for me. It hurt my feelings that you’ve been texting me every day for months, and then stopped this last weekend while your cousins were visiting. I’m getting too old to let myself be strung along like that! I know you will accomplish great things and I wish you the best. Take care.✌️“
He eventually did respond and was butthurt/defensive. Told me I always create drama and that I only care about myself. I remained calm and pointed out that the appropriate response here would be to apologize for hurting my feelings which didn’t elicit the response I’d hoped. So, time to move on. I’ve carried a torch for him for a while now and I think it was partly coming from a place of low self esteem. I’m disappointed in the outcome but proud of myself for recognizing that I deserve better.
carmen_b
09-29-2020, 05:46 PM
^ It seems like you parted ways ? V.s. talking about moving together ?
How long did you see each other ?
carmen_b
09-29-2020, 05:48 PM
I decided to kind of just let things slide with J ( for now ). I mean he does treat me incredibly well . Feeds me all the damn time, comes up with little date ideas , great lover. I just can't let this combo go over my impatient streak . It's kind of calmed down anyway .
I have a friend in town ( female and not " like that " lol ) and I honestly think he is a little jealous . We are off dong some adventures.
lurkingtitties
09-30-2020, 03:47 PM
Update on Mr ACL reconstruction who was asking me for physio advice-He is taking me to dinner tomorrow night. :)
carmen_b
10-02-2020, 07:43 PM
Nice. How did it go ? ^
carmen_b
10-02-2020, 08:02 PM
We banged like crazy last night but I guess he didn't finish ? I had no idea ! I was a little high and this session lasted so long. It was crazy but I am SORE. He found this paddle kicking around somewhere and was spanking me ( the idea got started as a joke ).
I feel bad but also paranoid.
Like ..., why the viagra dick now ?
Did he take some ? Jerk off all afternoon ? Cheat ?
Was he freaked out that I LOVED the paddle ? It was our first kind of outright “ ok let’s do something kinky “ attempt.
Like ... how could he last so long ?
miss.a.p1600
10-03-2020, 05:49 AM
^similar.
Had sex for damn near 2 hours!
I could feel myself start to get sore.
I was confused how dudes can last so long but I suppose if they can control their orgasm they can make it last longer for you.
The spanking sounds really hot!
carmen_b
10-03-2020, 10:12 AM
It was but it wasn't a proper toy ! Haha. It was some sort of small paddle ( like a small ping pong thing or something ). I want us to upgrade at the naughty store very soon. :)
I feel bad but I honestly thought he finished. It kind of bothers me that he has never bought me a sexy outfit or toys for us. I'm not sure how to bring it up. He doesn't know I'm a former sex worker ( part of my retirement is just kind of never bringing it up anymore ) . Obviously I'm loaded with sexy outfits ( like 12-14 really nice ones ) but I still like new ones.
I like knowing naughty little ideas are on the dudes mind . :)
miss.a.p1600
10-03-2020, 10:17 AM
Can you just ask him to go to the adult store with you?
I’d like to believe 99% of dudes would have a hard time saying no to .....1)spending time with you 2) going to get something that’s going to indirectly benefit them
*and sometimes I fear doing too much and making him think like damn! Where she learn THIS or I can believe she dress like THAT and having his kind default to “so ..... have/would you ever ..... “ n start asking moral questions about if I’ve ever or would ever do adult work.
carmen_b
10-03-2020, 10:20 AM
^ Yeah, I think I will. :)
lurkingtitties
10-03-2020, 03:07 PM
Nice. How did it go ? ^
I would say it was successful. Dude is lucky he found me tbh because his body is all jacked up from a background in sports and it’s stuff most people wouldn’t notice. I didn’t even look at his knee because right away I noticed he was having issues with weakness in his grip and all the way up through his R shoulder girdle. We went back to his place and I worked on his neck where the issue was coming from. I could sense that he was walking around with a lot of pain for months and didn’t have anyone to talk to about it, and almost fell asleep in his bed afterwards (at like 830 pm lol) from absorbing all that energy. The chemistry was pretty on point for both of us after that :)
I’m actually going to meet up with him later tonight and told him I just want to Netflix and chill...looking forward to finally ending the dry spell I’ve been in for all of 2020!
As an aside it was a validating experience for me because it was a concrete example of what I’ve suspected for a long time, which is that I really do have a natural talent as a healer but am not cut out for traditional health care jobs because the productivity expectations take way too much out of me.
lurkingtitties
10-04-2020, 07:03 AM
Omg...homie kicked me out at 1 am! He said it wasn’t personal and that he gets anxiety sleeping around someone new. My feelings were a little hurt. He promised I could stay over next time. I hope he doesn’t stress himself out worrying about if he pissed me off. Normally I would just invite him to my place instead but I’m staying with my parents right now due to 2020 being such a crazy year.
Also...HUGE penis. Omg. The biggest one I’ve personally seen in person. He could definitely do porn if he wanted to. Ladies, if you ever get hit on by a short/stocky/muscular Jewish man, just go with it, you’ll be in for a treat. This is the second time I’ve had one of them pleasantly surprise me with what he was packing.
carmen_b
10-04-2020, 07:43 PM
I'm back again having serious doubts. :/
carmen_b
10-04-2020, 07:44 PM
I am flip flopping today.
Like .... 4 p.m. " I am leaving for sure "
6 p.m. " oh ,maybe I need to run leaving by a therapist first "
8:45 - ( he checks in by text ) .... " Oh, my Baby ! "
I just know I'm at a point where this isn't sustainable anymore. I feel like I have been given new info that I didn't have before because 3 months ago when I pictured how this would look at 6 months ( three months later ) it just didn't occur to me that I would be sleeping alone 5 nights a week every other week . This is really bothering me . He is the one doing this too. His daughter loves the new AirBnB I run and I am staying here for three weeks setting it up. She was here two days ago like " can we sleep over ? " .
I personally think he is having some guilt issues regarding being divorced and this is " coming up " this way. I think he should talk to a therapist too or something .
carmen_b
10-06-2020, 09:17 AM
Got laid / snuggled and have calmed down somewhat.
Not really sure about long term sustainability but maybe I’ll just try to have a nice settled week back in town.
Eventually ( hopefully by next weekend ) we will have to chat about some things because sleeping alone 5 nights every other week as an ongoing plan seems unreasonable with a partner you've known for 6.5 months.
It would be nice to come up with a compromise somewhere but I'm not sure what it would look like.
carmen_b
10-07-2020, 12:40 PM
Ok at least I actually called and set the counseling appt .
I’ve got one for Friday.
carmen_b
10-09-2020, 05:08 PM
I did finally talk to him. Yeah !
I think not discussing these issues is taking a stress balloon that was 80% full and then hiding my stress put the balloon to 98-99% full and ready to pop capacity. I realize that was a mistake now ( yaking so much on here, to friends, to family but then not talking to him ).
Details to come. :)
miss.a.p1600
10-09-2020, 05:58 PM
^I do the same thing - ranting to people, sometimes makes things worse, when just having a conversation with the guy is better way to go about it usually
I went on a date with L today
we went for pizza then dessert
He was a gentleman planning dates, making reservations, opening doors and whatnot
only downside was I noticed (and my intuition was telling me this) but he is under tipping when we go out. I don't know how to tackle this because I want to encourage him to keep arranging for / paying for dates
lurkingtitties
10-10-2020, 05:43 AM
So the hot but neurotic dude I hooked up with last weekend kinda fell off all week. Which I was sort of expecting with how anxious he was but also was kind of lame. He finally started talking to me again yesterday and explained that he’s been an emotional wreck all week because he’s worried that he accidentally got me pregnant. You guys, we only did mouth stuff because he couldn’t find a condom! Lol these men are work sometimes I swear.
I’m still hoping we can meet up and fuck in the next couple days though...his dick was just so beautiful and perfect that I need to experience it inside me! Even if he is nuts. I deserve some perfect dick after all the cervical cancer shit I went through last year.
I started talking to another guy that I met on a website for people who are interested in FIRE. He seems like genuine boyfriend material but unfortunately lives in Chicago, and I’m on the east coast. He’s mentioned a couple times now that he’d be willing to travel to visit me. I get the feeling he’d be sweet to my dog too if he were to visit. Def need to do a few phone/video chats for screening before I agree to that though.
lurkingtitties
10-13-2020, 06:11 AM
I did a video chat last night with the guy from Chicago. He suggested it before I could bring it up. We talked for 90 minutes and laughed a lot. He’s very wholesome which is weird for me...I’m used to dating bad boys.
The whole purpose of the video call was that he might fly out to meet me in a couple weeks. He said that if it goes well he would drive next time so he can bring his mountain bike, and that since I don’t currently have a bike he would buy one for me.
I’m an insomniac and have been bad lately about staying up too late due to being unemployed. After our convo I was so tired I went to bed at 1130 last night. I texted him and said that he’s a good influence. Lol still not sure how I feel about someone who doesn’t fight or at least lift weights, no matter how much they have their shit together!