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charlie61
11-20-2020, 07:44 PM
^lol... something wrong with him? I don't think so, honestly, from what you've described. If he were motivated enough, he'd make the change. It's just not a priority for him.

carmen_b
11-20-2020, 08:02 PM
^ Guilt though ? Why is saying he feels guilty ?

Anyway ....... it's all out there. :)

Nice ! I found that other thing you mentioned ! I don't think he will go for open but maybe I should have offered ( and still can ). The way I phrased it specifically in the letter was " With me dreading the next 5 nights of being alone out of 7 and you not wanting to offer more nights would the logical conclusion here be a separation ? "

I really just told the truth.
I said that on the weeks I see him 5 days I get bad anxiety knowing the next week I'll only sleep by my partner two nights.
It affects how I feel THAT week instead of the heavier week feeling good like it used to.

I just wanted to be straight. I didn't want to be a dick ( because he treats me well when he is around ) .
We also live in a small community. In a larger city I might be more dramatic ( just start seeing someone else and not care if he hears through the grapevine ) but reputation is important here.
The next point of course is that I truly do care about his daughter .
I have a lot of love for her and I don't want her to see any bad behavior.

charlie61
11-20-2020, 08:06 PM
I think he feels guilty for not meeting your needs, because he cares about you, but that feeling isn't strong enough to compel him to change.

carmen_b
11-20-2020, 09:26 PM
^ It's specifically in reaction to when we tried a few nights having me there when he daughter was there ( this is two months ago ) .
Maybe at that time it was actually too soon too ( 6 months not nearly 8 ) .

He said he had this horrible feeling of guilt.
He said the first day was fun ( we fooled around downstairs very quietly ) and then after that he had horrible guilt feelings surrounding it.

carmen_b
11-20-2020, 09:28 PM
He has replied to the letter.

He wants to think about it overnight ( from the perspective of my side ) and discuss tomorrow.

Sounds reasonable enough to me.

I feel he could be doing more. I mean we can offer me another boyfriend for sure.
He could also just do *more* on these harder weeks for me like sending me off to have a nice meal or spa experience or something.

I'd be open to anything he thinks of v.s. just " ok you are on your own these 5 evenings and this is the ongoing plan and we will not talk about other plans " .

miss.a.p1600
11-21-2020, 07:39 AM
Carmen, i think the element that makes the most sense to me is that you aren't getting enough quality time with him, which is unacceptable for you, personally, when you're in a *monogamous* relationship. Is this a potential way out for you? Like, offer to open the relationship up so that you can get that itch scratched? Not in a threatening way. But I'm assuming he'd refuse (likely a deal-breaker), or agree to more time with you (unlikely), and then that could be your 'out'? This just seems like a core incompatibility that neither of you are willing to budge on.

I personally move at a slower pace, so i can relate to your guy's stance on this... my last relationship lasted nearly eleven years, so to me, eight months of dating sounds and feels like nothing...i would never have had my current guy living with me for 90% of the week after eight months (and i don't have a kid). That's basically like moving in together, intimacy-wise. My partner is similar to you - the away time was really hard on him. But he was patient, and we've lived together for over two years now. Not saying you should do this.

He could have a few reasons for wanting to move more slowly. Some people really enjoy compartmentalizing their lives... play time on the weekends, work and routine during the week. Or maybe he needs his introverted social space during the week. Idk. But there's nothing wrong with the fact that you have emotional and physical needs that result in you moving at a faster pace. I just don't see him bending on this and having it go well / feel satisfying to you. Like forcing a square peg into a round hole.


So true! Men are notorious for compartmentalizing and moving slower in relationships especially if they have young kids.

I personally think he’s trying to get out of a comfort zone of sorts.

He may move out of it but he’s probably sensing your energy and rather than change to keep the relationship going smoothly, it’s could be causing doubts and fears that further keep him from moving out of his comfort zone.

You’ve made it known to him that you’d like more quality time and in order to do this he will need to have you around his daughter even more, wake up together in am, etc. Change his perception of himself from his past self to a new self, new reality/new identity with you around more and more relationship progression with you.

Now (this is just my opinion) the more you focus on this the more you repel the results you actually want. And this is the advice I will be taking myself. Can you see him showing up as you desire and if so how will you feel?

Take your mind and focus it on something else, something more helpful to you. Those 15 days you are “alone” are perfect opportunities to do things like pamper yourself, meditate or do energy work, spend extra time perfecting your career, get yourself looking extra good in case you need to explore other options in the near future.

I actually think of you make yourself less available to him he may start to wonder and move to make more time for you. Use reverse psychology on his ass lol!!

But I do think you may benefit if you give him a little extra time (like couple of xtra weeks) to change vs. expecting instant change right now. Do you think you have some time to overcome this or have you already reached your limit?

carmen_b
11-21-2020, 09:27 AM
^ I have !

I really think you are onto something !
I think he’s so wrapped up in this “ I’m a divorced Dad doing the best I can “ thing .

My family has been here and I haven’t seen him in 4 days other than a couple hours yesterday.

I thought of that too.
I’ve been slower to text back.
I wasn’t initiating any plans in the last week.
I really do think it’s all helped such as me traveling for work and not moving my family plans around to attend a social event short notice with him.

My attitude has been more “ if you want to see me then bring me a good offer “.

I never text him first either.
He is the one who checks in with me in the day each day.
:)

carmen_b
11-21-2020, 09:32 AM
^ To answer your question I’d have no issues if he promised this shift in even 2-4 weeks or some small compromise.

The rest of this month is easy. It’s our weekend ( if his ex pulls her shit together and takes her parenting time ) and then I travel for Thanksgiving.
This is more looking forward into December.
It’s more the lack of listening , not taking me seriously when I called the emergency counseling sesh ect.

He also wasn’t being proactive about getting us out of the house which we addressed already . Plans outside the house fell on me the last three weeks. He didn’t suggest a single thing. He has seasonal issues like me so we are sharing my treatment light and probably both doing a low dose anti depressant soon to try to fight winter issues together.

carmen_b
11-21-2020, 09:44 AM
I’ve been honest about how I feel and now I can see other men if he doesn’t offer something as a compromise.

I did it with full honestly not sneaking around behind his back or starting something up on the sly ( I am skeeved out when people do stuff like this ).

miss.a.p1600
11-21-2020, 10:10 AM
Small compromise sounds reasonable.

I think 2-4 weeks is a good timeframe to make step by step changes.

carmen_b
11-21-2020, 10:20 AM
^ Same. it could even be 3-4 weeks out. It's the feeling that it's just going to be this ONGOING thorn with no end that really gets me.

I'm definitely not going to be pulling at him anymore to get my needs met. I'll just invite other/s to meet those needs. Simple. :)

carmen_b
11-21-2020, 10:47 AM
He's very techy. I wonder if he sees this site come up on his wi-fi. I thought of it a bit ago and would always create a hot spot from my phone for this site but maybe he saw it months ago.

miss.a.p1600
11-21-2020, 12:03 PM
^ Same. it could even be 3-4 weeks out. It's the feeling that it's just going to be this ONGOING thorn with no end that really gets me.

I'm definitely not going to be pulling at him anymore to get my needs met. I'll just invite other/s to meet those needs. Simple. :)

Agreed.

sometimes knowing our partner could be out getting better deals/offers from others is enough to make steps towards a change/compromise (our ego wants us to be the best option so if our partner left us they'd be downgrading) but also first try some positive reinforcement, if you see ANYTHING no matter how 'small' in the move towards what you want, remember to reward for that.

carmen_b
11-21-2020, 03:58 PM
Omg . Progress
:)
He agreed to make the change ASAP .

It appears after a 24 hour review he didn’t like the separation offer or separate dick on call offer. I offered both options.

I think it’s real not a fake agreement. We went over some things he was concerned about too.

charlie61
11-21-2020, 04:58 PM
Omg . Progress
:)
He agreed to make the change ASAP .

It appears after a 24 hour review he didn’t like the separation offer or separate dick on call offer.

I think it’s real not a fake agreement. We went over some things he was concerned about too.

Wow!! I'm super curious about his concerns! Do they help explain his previous reluctance to move forward?

carmen_b
11-23-2020, 06:33 PM
^ I want to make sure this decision settles a week or two !
My happy point is that 4-5 days a week type of time frame so I think it can really work if he doesn't go back on what he said.
I want to test it first!

I want to let myself settle too.
Once he got the letter explaining this history of my upset ( that it has been over a 4-5 week progression ) he seemed to catch on better.
I think he heard " I want counseling ASAP " differently than " I'm disclosing I'm getting a new boyfriend very soon if we don't fix this " .

Part of me feels like he is lacking in being proactive.

carmen_b
11-23-2020, 06:58 PM
( Naughty Details Removed hahaha )

miss.a.p1600
12-03-2020, 12:45 PM
So the wealthier guy my friend matched me with right before L said he wanted to be my boyfriend ..... I finally googled him, turns out he is a manager at a good company probably getting paid well. Has two older kids.

He just text me asking if we could grab lunch

*le sigh*

I can’t figure out if he ignored my first text where o said I just got into a relationship, doesn’t care n why am I entertaining the thought. L’s voice echoing through the back of my kind “I’ll never do anything to jeopardize our relationship”

Great!!! Decisions .........

chanzep
12-03-2020, 02:11 PM
You should see what he is about.

lurkingtitties
12-03-2020, 03:24 PM
Have you talked to him on the phone yet? Maybe start there and feel it out.

miss.a.p1600
12-03-2020, 04:20 PM
No. Haven’t talked to him on phone yet.

Edit. I don’t know what to say so I took the bitch way out and left him on read. He text me this am like nothing happened so I guess I’ll have to go ahead and do something. I’ll just tell him I can’t do it right now but maybe later.

Some dudes are ruthless, if they do manage to steal you from your bf, now they have this notion you’re a philanderer (nevermind they initiated said philandering) so they cheat ON you if you get with them. Like they’re doing some sort of reverse justice for all the men who got cheated on.

Not to mention I’m super busy with work. (I might just tell him that) So unless he’s willing to talk about work and do business with me then I can’t focus on men who are going to be expecting endless texts, constant pics, n drop everything you’re doing to pay attention to them for the cost of a $50 date once a week.

I can barely pay attention to the situation I’m in currently.

Le sigh!!!!!

Should just move somewhere where there’s more sugar daddies n call it a day. I need to get my edge back. I apparently lost my lady cojones

carmen_b
12-04-2020, 06:53 PM
We did do the shift to experiment a couple shared nights with me and daughter here.
It's hard for me sometimes ( I will admit ) because the pacing of the evening is SO slow with a kid involved.
I'm happy he kept his word though as it was very important to me.

I didn't want to ask for something and not pitch in and help so I cut my work day by 45 min. to give him work out time 4:15 - 5:30 . I feel like the evening went well . We made some Christmas tags and she has a present for me ( this beautiful geode ) . It botched my present though ( I was planning to get her a whole box of them for Christmas ) . I guess I still can get them.

Anyway , it's 9:15 p.m. so we made it haha.

This experience has definitely made me a *little* hesitant ( the issue of his refusal to blend schedules without my push ). I'm still wondering if he was too extreme taking 8 months , if I was rushing , or if we handled it about right.

charlie61
12-04-2020, 07:32 PM
Have you talked to him on the phone yet? Maybe start there and feel it out.

Lol, we're all just like, pleeeease do aaaanything to get away from the boyfriend!!

miss.a.p1600
12-04-2020, 08:45 PM
^i should be focusing more on my career. I did tell him that I’d be super busy during this month especially

If I’m honest with myself I probably don’t really have the time to devote to dating n being in relationships right now and should be single.

The problem is his mom died this month a few years ago and he just got diagnosed with a medical condition that requires surgery also this month and it’s Christmas holidays so yeah that kinda makes it tough to ditch a person during this time frame

I’ll get it figured out soon. .

lurkingtitties
12-08-2020, 12:16 PM
I had a very successful date last night...like so successful that I’m almost in disbelief!

I’ll come back and update later but for now let’s just say I got properly turned out and my pussy is still sore today.

carmen_b
12-08-2020, 12:29 PM
Aw !!
Yes we need details !!! Lol

lurkingtitties
12-08-2020, 05:08 PM
Alright so I got back on one of the apps last week because I have been horny AF and wanted a hookup. Wasn’t feeling most of the guys in my area but then I got a request from one dude I got a good vibe from. His profile didn’t have a lot of info in it, but once we matched and got to talking it turns out he is in the same profession as me! Knows all about the covid outbreak at my job and some of the other problems the building has. It was really nice to meet someone who understands what I’m going through! He’s an immigrant from west Africa which I appreciate because there’s not a whole lot of culture where I am currently. Also 6’3” and built.

We made plans to hang out yesterday when we both had the day off. I had hurt my hip last weekend when I moved out of that apartment with the wack peyote lady and had been limping around all week so he promised to take a look at it. Homeboy made me dinner, gave me a full body massage, did some manual therapy on my hip and then fucked the shit out of me for 2 hours. :)

He owns his house-it’s a duplex with a tenant on the other side-and goes hiking all the time with his dog. We’ve been texting a lot today and he asked when he can see me again. He lives 8 minutes down the road from me. It’s sort of a mindfuck to me that I met someone who is hot/smart/has his shit together and emotionally available...I’ve been working on an exit strategy to get out of this state and then someone like that comes along when I least expect it???

Gonna take it one day at a time for now and see where this goes.

charlie61
12-09-2020, 07:29 PM
^I am so excited and happy for you!!!! Enjoy it - you never know if it could turn into something more. So exciting!

miss.a.p1600
12-09-2020, 09:19 PM
Well remember that guy I posted about here LAST YEAR this same time?

The guy I thought was so great who acted like Prince Charming and almost had sex with but turned out to be a player who tried to use me to get over his “ex” girlfriend. I am SO glad I never wasted my glorious pussy on that.

Yes that douchebag

Well I guess winter is causing him to do the narcissistic hover because I saw he text me today. his bitch ass will do this perpetual ghosting then reappear. Like boy bye!!!! Your texts will be permanently left on read

PrincessQ
12-09-2020, 09:25 PM
Alright so I got back on one of the apps last week because I have been horny AF and wanted a hookup. Wasn’t feeling most of the guys in my area but then I got a request from one dude I got a good vibe from. His profile didn’t have a lot of info in it, but once we matched and got to talking it turns out he is in the same profession as me! Knows all about the covid outbreak at my job and some of the other problems the building has. It was really nice to meet someone who understands what I’m going through! He’s an immigrant from west Africa which I appreciate because there’s not a whole lot of culture where I am currently. Also 6’3” and built.

We made plans to hang out yesterday when we both had the day off. I had hurt my hip last weekend when I moved out of that apartment with the wack peyote lady and had been limping around all week so he promised to take a look at it. Homeboy made me dinner, gave me a full body massage, did some manual therapy on my hip and then fucked the shit out of me for 2 hours. :)

He owns his house-it’s a duplex with a tenant on the other side-and goes hiking all the time with his dog. We’ve been texting a lot today and he asked when he can see me again. He lives 8 minutes down the road from me. It’s sort of a mindfuck to me that I met someone who is hot/smart/has his shit together and emotionally available...I’ve been working on an exit strategy to get out of this state and then someone like that comes along when I least expect it???

Gonna take it one day at a time for now and see where this goes.

OMG that reminds me of this guy I met on a cruise a couple years ago. He was from Europe but originally West African. He was about a foot taller than me too. We hooked up the last two nights on the cruises. Really sweet but could totally pick you up and give it to you good!

lurkingtitties
12-14-2020, 01:14 PM
OMG that reminds me of this guy I met on a cruise a couple years ago. He was from Europe but originally West African. He was about a foot taller than me too. We hooked up the last two nights on the cruises. Really sweet but could totally pick you up and give it to you good!

That sounds about right! One of my gay friends told me he finds that African men to be more respectful than American men.

Things are still going well! We had a mid week booty call lol and then hung out for real over the weekend. It turned out we both got each other gifts. I got him a hat and he got me a cute shirt. Then yesterday I wanted to stay over and make him dinner but he had to leave to go visit his grandma. I totally think that's a green flag.

It's very cool to be able to connect with someone mentally too. We talked about PT stuff for like 2 hours while we were naked in bed. He has an associate level PT degree and is applying to grad schools next year. He wants to get a DPT but is also considering PA (physician assistant) instead for the higher pay and better working conditions. I told him I think we could go into business together and be very successful.

I'm exhaaaauuuuusted now though. I'm stoked that this happened but it's a lot to process. I had trouble sleeping all week because I was so excited.

carmen_b
12-14-2020, 03:41 PM
There was another delivery to me at J’s.
A box showed up in the mail containing a very solid leather paddle that I am quite excited about. :)

Seeing the box has me excited for the upcoming week.

carmen_b
12-16-2020, 05:32 PM
^ Very pleased .

:)

carmen_b
12-16-2020, 05:33 PM
I’ve been shopping for his bday.
I’m doing whiskey glasses, molds for fancy circle ice balls, a nice high end whiskey , and possibly bath robe to enjoy it .
Men are hard to shop for .

PrincessQ
12-16-2020, 06:21 PM
That sounds about right! One of my gay friends told me he finds that African men to be more respectful than American men.

Things are still going well! We had a mid week booty call lol and then hung out for real over the weekend. It turned out we both got each other gifts. I got him a hat and he got me a cute shirt. Then yesterday I wanted to stay over and make him dinner but he had to leave to go visit his grandma. I totally think that's a green flag.

It's very cool to be able to connect with someone mentally too. We talked about PT stuff for like 2 hours while we were naked in bed. He has an associate level PT degree and is applying to grad schools next year. He wants to get a DPT but is also considering PA (physician assistant) instead for the higher pay and better working conditions. I told him I think we could go into business together and be very successful.

I'm exhaaaauuuuusted now though. I'm stoked that this happened but it's a lot to process. I had trouble sleeping all week because I was so excited.

The guy I hooked up with was def respectful. I think American men just are greedy and spoiled in a lot of ways. I've hooked up with some Jamaican guys on a cruise to and had good experiences. It seems like with American guys they are so quick to want to start fucking you while other ones from other countries at least took there time before beating it up!

lurkingtitties
12-16-2020, 06:26 PM
Oh mannn you guys...this guy has a kid.

Not necessarily a deal breaker but the way he told me was super uncool. He never mentioned anything about it in all the time we've spent together so far, then this afternoon I get a text out of the blue saying "sorry I've been distant, I have my daughter this week". What the FUCK yo.

I asked him why the fuck he didn't tell me sooner and his response was that he thought I knew and just didn't want to talk about it, because he has a bunch of kid stuff at his house. I honestly thought he had a sister or something with a kid who would stay over sometimes. Furthermore I think he was just making an excuse; easier for him to assume/pretend that I knew and avoid having a conversation about it. Spending that much time with a person and not mention your kid once-that's not something that happens by accident.

He was pretty defensive over text but we both eventually apologized. I told him I need to discuss this further in person or over the phone. My mom and several of my friends I talked to about it all unanimously said that he's probably insecure about it/probably has been burned by other women over it in the past. Everyone encouraged me to have some conversations about it and see what happens. (I was kind of expecting my mom to tell me to run for the hills tbh, lol)

My biggest reservation is that this is kind of a crappy area and I don't want to be stuck here for 10+ years while his kid grows up. Or really this country for that matter. I'm planning to start applying for a Canadian PT license in 2022.

I feel like I got punched in the stomach, repeatedly. Fuck, man.

carmen_b
12-16-2020, 06:27 PM
^ Aw !!
You should always disclose kid or kid free in bio ect.!!!!

Is it a 50% schedule ?

lurkingtitties
12-16-2020, 06:35 PM
^ Aw !!
You should always disclose kid or kid free in bio ect.!!!!

Is it a 50% schedule ?

I agree it should be disclosed. At the very least he should have told me before we met or first date.

Not sure about custody schedule yet or any details really. She looks to be about 6 based off pics and shoes in his house. (I swear I thought it was his niece or something)

One thing that's kinda bothering me is that I can tell from photos that she's mixed. Now I'm like do you even like me for me or do you just have a thing for white girls?

But that's far from the most important factor to find out about the situation.

charlie61
12-16-2020, 09:14 PM
Oh mannn you guys...this guy has a kid.

Not necessarily a deal breaker but the way he told me was super uncool. He never mentioned anything about it in all the time we've spent together so far, then this afternoon I get a text out of the blue saying "sorry I've been distant, I have my daughter this week". What the FUCK yo.

I asked him why the fuck he didn't tell me sooner and his response was that he thought I knew and just didn't want to talk about it, because he has a bunch of kid stuff at his house. I honestly thought he had a sister or something with a kid who would stay over sometimes. Furthermore I think he was just making an excuse; easier for him to assume/pretend that I knew and avoid having a conversation about it. Spending that much time with a person and not mention your kid once-that's not something that happens by accident.

He was pretty defensive over text but we both eventually apologized. I told him I need to discuss this further in person or over the phone. My mom and several of my friends I talked to about it all unanimously said that he's probably insecure about it/probably has been burned by other women over it in the past. Everyone encouraged me to have some conversations about it and see what happens. (I was kind of expecting my mom to tell me to run for the hills tbh, lol)

My biggest reservation is that this is kind of a crappy area and I don't want to be stuck here for 10+ years while his kid grows up. Or really this country for that matter. I'm planning to start applying for a Canadian PT license in 2022.

I feel like I got punched in the stomach, repeatedly. Fuck, man.

Girl, i think your read of that is spot on. I'm so sorry. Ugh. Follow your gut. If it ain't right, get out early, especially if you feel you could fall for this dude.

I don't think he needed to disclose it if he was just looking for a hookup. Maybe that's all he really wanted, and you being offended is a sign to him that you're looking for something more serious / were lowkey hoping for more with him.

lurkingtitties
12-17-2020, 04:32 AM
His actions thus far have been consistent with someone who was looking for serious/not just a hookup. I was very direct in my bio that I was looking for serious as well. He actually just texted a little bit ago to say that he hoped I felt better today (I don’t), and it’s early AF here.

Before this happened I had actually been planning to have a conversation with him the next time we got together to make sure we were both on the same page about where things were going.

carmen_b
12-17-2020, 01:35 PM
^Its sounds like he put some time in ( convo / long massage ect.)

You’ll have to feel it out and see how the schedule is because that is so key.
It can look so different person to person ( some are super disorganized and some coparents very smoothly run schedules ).

If he has her a week at a time for example I’d hope he’d get a sitter at least once in the middle.

charlie61
12-17-2020, 06:59 PM
His actions thus far have been consistent with someone who was looking for serious/not just a hookup. I was very direct in my bio that I was looking for serious as well. He actually just texted a little bit ago to say that he hoped I felt better today (I don’t), and it’s early AF here.

Before this happened I had actually been planning to have a conversation with him the next time we got together to make sure we were both on the same page about where things were going.

Ugh, i hear you. Hard not to feel deceived. Not cool.

carmen_b
12-17-2020, 10:17 PM
^ Worries me a little too . I can see just trying to make the cut ( not get immediately cut ) and mention it at end of date number one or something to at least get an in person meeting.
Waiting till after sexual is worrisome.
How are you feeling with it Lurking ?

lurkingtitties
12-18-2020, 06:24 PM
^ Worries me a little too . I can see just trying to make the cut ( not get immediately cut ) and mention it at end of date number one or something to at least get an in person meeting.
Waiting till after sexual is worrisome.
How are you feeling with it Lurking ?

Well my feelings have been allllll over the place but I think I'm more calm about the situation now that I've had some time to digest. I had a really good talk yesterday with a friend who was raised by divorced parents.

I reached out last night and told him I want to discuss things in person sooner than later. We're going to meet up on Tuesday. He offered to meet sooner but I had other stuff going on.

He was def worried that I was going to bite his head off...I have a hotheaded/ghetto side of my personality lol. I told him I was planning to bring all my crystals so it would be a safe space for both of us.

He texted me agin this morning to wish me a good day at work and we talked a little about when our jobs are giving us the covid vaccine but I haven't reached out since. I think it's probably wise to have some distance until we can talk in person.

carmen_b
12-18-2020, 08:28 PM
I didn't mention it before but I sort of lost my mind in PMS rage / sadness a couple nights ago.
J was sweet. I knew he had valium hidden somewhere and he got me one and held me .
It was very sweet. He is making jokes about it now via text.
( hides )

hahahah

No quoting please may delete this one.

carmen_b
12-21-2020, 08:37 PM
J was being weird yesterday and got a little drunk talking about wanting to make sure he was in the " top 50% of my lovers " .
I think he will sometimes get a buzz on and then get this paranoia about my sexual experience .

I was honest with him though that my sexual life is filled with some regret. Basically other than him and my other longer term partner 2011 - 2018 I wish that I hadn't had sex with anyone else. It's just a reality for me since I know I wasn't treated well by some people who were " lovers " . It's the truth for me which is why I told it that way . I think he thinks I long to be " sexually free " at times.

He doesn't really know sometimes that the nice consistent high volume of sex he gives me is exactly what I want haha.

Speaking of ..... we finally got rid of his sister and were able to properly bang it out all weekend.
I mean not ALL weekend. We had some food and watched some great tv too lol .

It's making me wonder about him now. I'm 99% sure he has only slept with his ex and me.

At the beginning of our dating I told him my # ( 7 ) and I guessed his at " 2-4 " where I was including myself.
I'm so curious now because of HIS questioning if he slept with anyone after his ex but before me haha.

In closing I would just highly recommend giving the skinny / shortish but hot techy guy a chance.
You might find that they make great $ and were not exactly fought over by women early in life.
They can recognize a good thing and will just keep giving like an energizer bunny. :)

miss.a.p1600
12-21-2020, 08:41 PM
Well remember that guy I posted about here LAST YEAR this same time?

The guy I thought was so great who acted like Prince Charming and almost had sex with but turned out to be a player who tried to use me to get over his “ex” girlfriend. I am SO glad I never wasted my glorious pussy on that.

Yes that douchebag

Well I guess winter is causing him to do the narcissistic hover because I saw he text me today. his bitch ass will do this perpetual ghosting then reappear. Like boy bye!!!! Your texts will be permanently left on read

he text me again.

talking about some “hey are you okay”

I want to say “yes bitch! I’m good....don’t bother me unless you will contribute something to my life” “I’m purposely ignoring you like how you did me last year” “now fuck off!”

carmen_b
12-21-2020, 08:47 PM
^^ I think the holidays brings the " Zombie " out of some dudes. Just ignore. Hard to do I know.


he text me again.

talking about some “hey are you okay”

I want to say “yes bitch! I’m good....don’t bother me unless you will contribute something to my life” “I’m purposely ignoring you like how you did me last year” “now fuck off!”

carmen_b
12-21-2020, 08:55 PM
^ I totally DIDN'T follow my own advice either.
Aussie B Zombied in his usual fashion and so I sent him scenic photos of the area / the listing of the luxury property I manage ect.

I don't think he was too thrilled hahahaha.
I did INVITE him to live in this desert area WITH me though in Fall 2019 but he " needed " to stay in Oz. I later found out he was working a lame-ish job and not thrilled.
I offered him an income stream here too. Oh well.

When I give him honest updates ( which I haven't in over 9 months anyway ) he doesn't seem happy so I don't know why he asks for them.

miss.a.p1600
12-21-2020, 10:24 PM
^^ I think the holidays brings the " Zombie " out of some dudes. Just ignore. Hard to do I know.

Nope not hard at all - considering how horrible he made me feel when he practically ghosted me, then strung me along with his minimal effort game, it’s going to be super easy to ignore tf out of him.

This is nothing more than a narcissistic hover n Ima grey rock/Ghost his monkey ass right back