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carmen_b
03-03-2019, 08:59 PM
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miss.a.p1600
03-04-2019, 06:17 PM
I may have a date (with a former coworker-not the one I was lusting over but another one who was very helpful and nice), if this dude can get his planning skills together, tomorrow. He suggested somewhere to eat. Thank goodness no coffee date. It better be a good restaurant. I’ll report back.

Well this mf did not go through with said date...I don’t know if I should give him 1 more chance or give up on him. He claimed he was helping a family member but he did not tell me this until I did what y’all suggested in last thread I posted (I find link in a moment) and asked if we were still on for today. Granted he’s a younger dude but still I just wonder if these are real occurrences (which if they are I still feel it’s polite to give a heads up so) or if these are made up excuses and he’s just not serious.

Either way I’ll be off to find some more date worthy dudes

carmen_b
03-04-2019, 10:35 PM
^ Cut him.
Really .... if he can't put a time and place on the calendar and stick to it, what does it say ?
If he's extremely hot .... you'll have to judge for yourself haha .

carmen_b
03-04-2019, 10:36 PM
^ Taking my own advice by the way. A tall Australian 6'4" and good looking came through on my Tinder and we have chatted. I'm going to cut him just for not stepping up and requesting a date . We have chatted 8-10 days now. I'm bored.

( admittedly though with Mr. Tall in the desert motivation to date is low .... I'd rather just go play with him than put any time or effort here )

carmen_b
03-04-2019, 10:53 PM
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miss.a.p1600
03-05-2019, 11:55 AM
^ Cut him.
Really .... if he can't put a time and place on the calendar and stick to it, what does it say ?
If he's extremely hot .... you'll have to judge for yourself haha .

Yeah I guess I’ll just demote him text penpal which is basically all he’s been anyways. He’s decent looking just not sure about his financial level and I prefer older/established but I was willing to still give him a chance but he’s definitely blowing his opportunity with me.

Met a guy in coffee shop who offered to take me to dinner. Not sure if I should accept his offer. Though I am a bit disappointed that none of the 3 guys I’ve been dealing with have been serious about spending time in the past 2 weeks or so.

miss.a.p1600
03-05-2019, 04:41 PM
^ Taking my own advice by the way. A tall Australian 6'4" and good looking came through on my Tinder and we have chatted. I'm going to cut him just for not stepping up and requesting a date . We have chatted 8-10 days now. I'm bored.

( admittedly though with Mr. Tall in the desert motivation to date is low .... I'd rather just go play with him than put any time or effort here )

Are you/have you messaged something clever to get him to ask you on date or you just going to ignore him?

carmen_b
03-05-2019, 09:02 PM
I'm truly BUSY ( my day job is kicking into season plus I'm out of stripper retirement ).
I need a guy who is CLEAR and FAST with intentions ( like unfortunately Ginger was ).
Sucks Ginger had serious first date game.

So ... there's a little insight to my mind haha. Where some women probably want time and lower key, I love SPEED . I've always been that way for as long as I remember in my dating life.

I am staying off the apps ect.

miss.a.p1600
03-05-2019, 09:50 PM
I like speed too. Hell I ain’t got all damn day to be playing around cause this biological clock is ticking and I refuse to allow a dude to waste my time and youth lol

I love it when dudes show their masculinity and take action to claim an opportunity with me.

So the young dude apologized for not being available for our date and seemed to have a genuine reason. I may forgive him if he does a real date here soon.

miss.a.p1600
03-06-2019, 11:51 AM
I met up with young dude for coffee. He offered to buy me something but I had shown up earlier and already bought my own stuff.

I am attracted to him but..........I don't think he can offer me the luxury lifestyle I want (at least not right now).........I am torn!

carmen_b
03-06-2019, 11:47 PM
Oh the younger ones can just be SO FUN though. ;) ^

carmen_b
03-07-2019, 10:54 PM
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AChildOfBoredom
03-10-2019, 05:45 AM
I let myself get pressured into another one of those double dates on Thursday, just to shut her the fuck up.

I don't know what the fuck she was thinking, but they went off somewhere and I was left alone with this guy. How that went?

I ended up pepper spraying him.

miss.a.p1600
03-10-2019, 11:08 AM
^Omg!!! Wtf?!?

I planned a “date” with several lady friends Friday then this guy I mentioned on the previous page (who took me to nice restaurant, paid for my parking, and we ended up kissing) I will call him Mr. Politician

I hadn’t heard from him in a couple weeks so he texts me out of nowhere like what are you doing tonight? I’m like bruh! I got plans with the ladies.

Then he asks all these details like where and when. Saying he and his friend might meet up with me. I tell him the details but deep down I’m thinking my lady friends might get pissy with me for inviting dudes when they left their bfs and husbands at home.

Thankfully he changed his mind or whatever but he claims he had to stay at home with his kid.

I was relieved but pissed at the same time. Like how you gone try to make plans with me last minute, interject yourself into my plans, then cancel .... in my mind I’m like “dude get yo life together ...”

carmen_b
03-10-2019, 08:16 PM
^ Not smooth at all.

carmen_b
03-10-2019, 08:42 PM
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miss.a.p1600
03-10-2019, 08:44 PM
^^^haha we both have some young dudes on our roster

Ok so met up with young dude again cause he was the only one who seemed like they were actually trying to see me. He’s also 10 - 11 years younger than me.

The thing I like about him is he seems very good at communicating and it’s a good challenge for me to get better at that but also intimidating because he might see how much I kind of suck at that in relationships.

He also has the same ideals about kids/marriage. I’m not getting any younger and want a man who is ready for marriage and kids. And he seems like we’re on the same level with that topic.

After our “date” he text me and said “what do you want from me/where do you want this to go?” And I have never had a guy ask me and I don’t know how to respond? What does a guy mean when they ask you this? Wtf do I say?

charlie61
03-10-2019, 09:13 PM
^^^haha we both have some young dudes on our roster

Ok so met up with young dude again cause he was the only one who seemed like they were actually trying to see me. He’s also 10 - 11 years younger than me.

The thing I like about him is he seems very good at communicating and it’s a good challenge for me to get better at that but also intimidating because he might see how much I kind of suck at that in relationships.

He also has the same ideals about kids/marriage. I’m not getting any younger and want a man who is ready for marriage and kids. And he seems like we’re on the same level with that topic.

After our “date” he text me and said “what do you want from me/where do you want this to go?” And I have never had a guy ask me and I don’t know how to respond? What does a guy mean when they ask you this? Wtf do I say?

Tell him the truth! Let him know that you're intrigued and would like to see him again.

miss.a.p1600
03-10-2019, 09:38 PM
Oh ok....I was confused as hell.

Like I heard my guy friends saying women asked them that when they wanted to be bf/gf after dating for a while and I'm like we've only met up twice so he can't be asking me that yet. And when I tried to get some context on why he was asking me that, etc. all he just said so he would know how to proceed because he doesn't want to guess or make assumptions.

So it's not THAT question is more of a do you want to continue to meet up/date, do you want to be friends/acquaintances, do you want to be nothing

AChildOfBoredom
03-11-2019, 01:56 AM
^Omg!!! Wtf?!?

He grabbed me and kissed me, I pulled away, he pulled me back and tried to grope me. I managed to get out of his grip, and I was reaching for whatever… you can’t carry a firearm in any place where alcohol is served and consumed in North Carolina, so I had my knife and pepper spray on me. I reached the pepper spray first. He started walking towards me, so I hit him with the spray, ran to my car, grabbed my Glock, and left the parking space while I called my friend to find out where she was. So I went to where she was, told her we had to go. Her date tried getting in the car, so I let him see that I was armed and told him I don’t trust him any more than I do his friend, and he’s not getting in my car.

carmen_b
03-11-2019, 12:32 PM
Miss P : I like the sound of your younger guy.
Tell him what you'd prefer from him ( such as boyfriend or just casually dating ). I think that's what you wants to know. He sounds respectful. Also, his foot rub offer might be a foot fetish thing and if it is and he is actually good at foot massages .... whoa ... golden ticket here.

carmen_b
03-12-2019, 07:49 PM
I’m going to come back and edit out most about Ginger and Mr. Tall. I’m so disappointed by both.

Spent some time crying after that stupid drive back. I think it's 40% exhaustion, 50% upset that Mr. Tall didn't just join me and play house for at least a few days out of the 6 days , and only 10% that I actually thought something would *really* happen with him. I'm going to just keep at it continuing to pull myself together.

miss.a.p1600
03-12-2019, 08:10 PM
aww....sometimes a good emotional release (via crying) is much needed.

I cried over one of my former coworkers, the one I had a mega crush on, after he declined my offer to meet up outside of work. He gave me no explanation or anything so I couldn't tell if he didn't want to get tangled up with a coworker, if my idea was lame, if he had a secret wife/gf, or if he just wasn't into me. I can handle being 'rejected' when its someone I never have to see again but at the time we worked together and seeing him every day was awkward as I tried to dial back my interactions so I could control my emotions.

AChildOfBoredom
03-13-2019, 02:46 AM
I’ve been thinking, and I don’t know if it’s for the better or worse. About dating. And wondering if it’s really what I want, even if only for a sense of normalcy in my life, or am I quaking under pressure from what others want for me? I’m really questioning this.

I badger others to get on Tinder, Bumble, etc. but I had to virtually had to be dragged kicking and screaming to put up my own profiles on there, then I refused to pay for the paid services, and I just ignored them until my friends pestered me once again, then they got annoyed when they saw that I had all these people in queue (but I didn’t know who they were because, again, I’m not paying for that shit). So they tell me, “look at some profiles”, so I do and I just start swiping left on everyone until they pester me again to “at least give someone a chance”. So I swipe right on a couple at their insistence, get some matches, and I just can’t force myself to find any interest. But I have fun with it. The end of last night’s conversation, for example. We got to a point where I was getting bored (which never takes long), so it went like…

Him: “So what are you doing now?”
Me: “Answering Satan’s call”
Him: “WTF?!”
Me: “Satan. My cat”
Him: “You have a cat named Satan??”
Me: “Yes, he’s the alpha of my 12 cats”
Him: “Oh, shit”

*he unmatches*

I thought it was hilarious… everyone else is just like, “what the fuck is wrong with you?”.

It’s just as well. I’d have no problems finding guys who want to smash. I don’t think finding ones ready to deal with me in full form would be near as easy. I think I’m just going to declare myself ‘off the market’. I really don’t feel like I’m missing anything.

carmen_b
03-13-2019, 08:22 PM
Eh , I had a nice day today. Thanks for the jack off material Mr. Tall. Haha.

Goodness ..... I love how his long arms would just hold my thighs .... he would touch me all over while going down on me. Omg. Such dexterity . Maybe a drummer, haha.

Yeah .... totally thought about his little gentle choke hold on my neck during the recent "self care session". It's a bummer I didn't get more in person time but got some excellent " material " anyway,

He sent me a bunch of messages while I was on way home .... and called to make sure I got back safe.

What do you guys think ? Taken right ? He has all the time in the world it seems to text and call but only 90 minutes on a 6 day trip in person? We have chatted about a lot more than dirty talk. The power outage in Venezuela ( he's a prepper so finds this quite fascinating ) and now we are texting about how I used my own water and food supply in Tsunami conditions. It's not just dirty talk though I do love that. I guess I'm giving him a break because I do know he is hoping for that East Coast job .

carmen_b
03-15-2019, 04:44 PM
Tonight I will take myself on an anti-date. Instead of the potential disappointment I'm going to the gallery stroll in my city and probably out for a nice beverage solo. I think it will be enjoyable.

It WAS ^^ !! I'm home at 9:45 p.m. with my dog and we plan to go to bed early. Can't get much nicer than that!

Miss_ShaSha
03-15-2019, 06:32 PM
Ginger abandoned me. We had an agreement of seeing each other at least twice a week. Seriously, twice a week is very easy. I'm low maintenance. The first time he cancelled and we had a just one time that week to meet I let it slide, but when he pulled it this week I put on the brakes: I let him know I didn't like his behavior and we needed to talk. He took 3 days to get back to me. THAT is abandonment and I don't play that game.

My last words were: "I need my heels. They make me a lot of money. When can you drop them off?" He said: "Tomorrow some time". I said: "Give me a timeframe." He said "before 12pm". I said "Drop them off then I never want to see you again".

If those heels seriously didn't make me a grip on cam I'd never see this guy again. But fuck, it's my property and fuck the bullshit...I'm not gonna drive all the way to his house to fuckin get them. I'm so fuckin pissed LOLOLOL. Seriously, I feel like fuckin Hades. HELLLLLLLLLLL hahahahahaaaaa.

I'm taking a long break from dating and just focusing on making this fuckin money. I don't have time to deal with shitty sales on cam AND disrespectful men hahahaaaa.

carmen_b
03-15-2019, 08:10 PM
^ OMG , I'm so damn sorry. It sounded so awesome from your posts here. More to come later on this.

Ok, back.

1. I wouldn't even worry about the shoes if he doesn't easily offer them ( hopefully he does, $100 ya know, good heels aren't cheap ! )

2. Go easy on yourself. This could be a combo of he felt like things were moving too quickly or various other reasons. It's sounds cliche to say self care ..... but self care seriously.

Do you feel sure it's done or if he resurfaced in a week or so would you still want to try something ?

carmen_b
03-16-2019, 03:04 PM
On one hand ...... it would be so nice to have some company and companionship today. ;)
On the other ....... it's 4 p.m. and I told australian man that I'd pick him up at this train stop if he was coming ( he lives 40 miles north and doesn't know the city area well ).

I refuse to baby him haha. If he shows .... he'll get a great brewery tour and a fun outing . If not ...... I will go for some beer myself and see who is out.
I stalked him online and felt satisfied with that screening to invite him to stay.

carmen_b
03-17-2019, 08:02 PM
Met up with a different person but I'm keeping the deets to myself.
I think I'm going to keep some details out in the next few weeks because I have had so many " fails " in the thread ha. I'm starting to think it's a bad luck thing .

I watched some Matthew Hussy ( relationship coach ) vides on YouTube just to " refresh " my game. He mentioned a break the ice trick on sitting NEXT to someone at a square table instead of across . I'm so glad I did that today. I always prefer that set up and I feel like it's such a good trick for comfort / hearing the person better / clipping awkwardness .

miss.a.p1600
03-18-2019, 09:44 PM
So the young dude wants to meet up with me and I like how he is actually taking action compared to the other 2 dudes.

He said I could chose the time and place. Not sure where to go and what to do though

carmen_b
03-19-2019, 11:24 AM
^ If he's young maybe suggest someplace mid-range but still nice ?

miss.a.p1600
03-19-2019, 11:28 AM
^ If he's young maybe suggest someplace mid-range but still nice ?

Great idea. Part of me is like I should never date him cause he’s not established but the other part of me is I like he seems like a good dude.

I thought about museums cause today is free and maybe have him buy me some lunch cause I love to eat.

Oh btw....he said he wanted to reschedule cause he had to take care of a family member

Part of me is pissed because I think he waited till last minute to tell me this. But the other part of me is relieved cause it’s 2 hours I have to myself to run errands, etc

Oh well he better have his ass ready for the next time.

AChildOfBoredom
03-19-2019, 11:31 AM
So the young dude wants to meet up with me and I like how he is actually taking action compared to the other 2 dudes.

He said I could chose the time and place. Not sure where to go and what to do though

Well, is his idea of an adventurous date walking on the beach and holding hands, or is he more the type who'd rob a bank and get into a high speed car chase with the police?

I think the latter would actually be a welcome change for me. I keep getting set up with some incredibly dull people.

Miss_ShaSha
03-19-2019, 12:06 PM
^ OMG , I'm so damn sorry. It sounded so awesome from your posts here. More to come later on this.

Ok, back.

1. I wouldn't even worry about the shoes if he doesn't easily offer them ( hopefully he does, $100 ya know, good heels aren't cheap ! )

2. Go easy on yourself. This could be a combo of he felt like things were moving too quickly or various other reasons. It's sounds cliche to say self care ..... but self care seriously.

Do you feel sure it's done or if he resurfaced in a week or so would you still want to try something ?

Thank you for the support. You provided perspective & good advice. Yes, I've been engaging in a lot of self care.

He dropped them off at my doorstep. I'm happy to say he is a decent individual. He didn't even have to do that.

I thanked him by text. I do not want to have anything to do with him. Abandonment is not ok with me. It's a huge red flag.

I'm going to take a month long break before attempting to reestablish my dating profiles. I've learned something from this & that's a plus.

Good luck in your adventures. I am really pulling for you. I hope when I resurface & visit this thread next you have had plenty of good dates.

carmen_b
03-19-2019, 07:56 PM
There is one person I'm not sharing the deets on ....... ;)
( he was forward about wanting a relationship and that he is a "boy friend" type )

I did see the Australian. Lots of fun. The picture of the bed must have worked haha because suddenly he was in my town. Ha. Our tour ended up being one brewery in my hood. I went back to change from my dress into pants / long shirt on the way since the sun was setting and we didn't make it out of the house. ;)

trustfundkiller
03-21-2019, 05:37 AM
I'm adDICKted and DICKnotized by this guy I'm casually seeing and it's not good at all because I'm moving over 2000 miles away in 2 weeks :( I should just cut him off before the addicktion gets even worse. I won't get graphic but I think he's the best I've ever had, or at least top 2.

I have minor feelings for him and it's hard for me to catch feelings for anyone. This is the absolute worst timing too. I thought for sure I wouldn't be into him (I was so close to canceling our first date and going to work instead) which is why I even gave him a chance despite knowing that I'm moving so soon. Sigh, the joke is on me.

Oh well, what's the Dr Seuss quote? "Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened."

carmen_b
03-21-2019, 09:29 AM
^ I hear ya. If you look back, I only had a few adventures with my tall desert man but ended up in tears over not getting MORE .
It's so easy to get addicted ! Ugh.

carmen_b
03-21-2019, 07:31 PM
The Australian was a *little* lazy in bed BUT he's charming . We didn't do anything crazy, just stuff with our hands. The part that didn't sit right with me is that he was kind of going for the hand job thing first before working on ME ! I was surprised he suggested going first before me ( he took care of me but 2nd ).

In the morning .... he went right for ME ...... I was on my period too which I warned him about and he wasn't squeamish in the least. He still got me off a few times. I think I definitely want to see him when I wrap up this " special week " in 2-3 days lol.

carmen_b
03-21-2019, 07:53 PM
Ok ... I'll reveal a little about mystery man ( A ) .
Younger than me. Also a business owner. Organized . First meet was on St. patty's and he had a plan to meet at a quiet location without crowds ... my kinda guy. Yummy crepes ( we shared a meal one and a dessert one ). Damn , he's fine as hell. Dark hair / deep green eyes.
^ K ..... that's all your getting.
***** No quotes please. **********
This is the one I'm keeping most deets to myself. May delete soon. Total gentleman. No physical action beyond hugs at end. I've seen him twice.

carmen_b
03-22-2019, 09:41 AM
God ..... Mr. Tall just called. He did get the east coast job and will leave in about 14 days. I think I had better leave that whole situation alone. Even his voice makes me melt. ;/
I do not have an interest in moving to New Jersey. Also, I was not invited haha. The reason he called is that he is leaving his hotel job ( a well known chain ) and he knows I travel a lot. He wanted to book me in for hotels in the next few months with his employee rate. Aw. Sweetheart.

I really really want to date one person and dig into something deeper . It is really what I'm going for in the end.

seashell
03-26-2019, 01:21 PM
So much hotness in this thread...

I just have to share my dating frustrations. I'm in a little seaside village, not many people speak English, and I have gone two months without getting laid. It's probably a good thing, but damn.

And my dating apps were blowing up with guys from England over the weekend, I guess there was a sports event nearby. But every time I messaged them, they're like "Oh by the way, I'm leaving tomorrow." Sad face.

carmen_b
04-02-2019, 08:54 PM
It was the Aussie ( B ) I ended up doing a few 20-24 hour dates with.

It's a 50/50 though now ( I'm pissed because he is back from a 4-5 day trip and didn't schedule anything with me yet ). I really enjoyed him but my my intuition is not giving me the boyfriend vibe. I told him I liked him ( when laying in bed late last Wed. ) and might have scared him .
He seemed to like that I had nomadic potential ( one of my income streams travels with me and one doesn't ).

I have concert tickets tomorrow and invited A.
I got to know A a little better the last few days via text. I knew he seemed " freshly hurt " or something ( but confident still ) so I asked all the questions I wanted by text. On our dates it seemed like we never " cracked through " the surface so I just asked that way instead. His 10 year relationship ended a few months ago. He charmed me with those dates he took me on. Even if we just have fun at a concert I will be happy.

carmen_b
04-02-2019, 09:26 PM
B ( the Aussie ) texted finally. I told him via text I was looking for longer term potential and potential to travel together. I asked what he was looking for.
He doesn't owe me anything obviously. I brought sexuality in and my emotions got involved. I took the risk knowing it was a risk.
Now I want a boyfriend out of it but if he doesn't I'm cool putting it in the " fun experiences " basket . I mean ..... we chatted 4 weeks before meeting ( I was out of town all the time and I even invited him to join me on the road ) so he knows me beyond this two weeks in person.

carmen_b
04-03-2019, 10:55 AM
I have really set my life up to travel on a dime ( my place can easily be rented out / my income goes with me ). I did commit to one job a month in the next three months in my home area but that's only ONE day ( I can fly it, hit the job, fly out in three days if needed ).

I thought this would impress everyone but it doesn't seem to be doing much. Oh well.
I really thought with some effort ( and boy have I put in the effort ) I would find that travel guy match.

The reason I need a lot of proactive planning is that I have to decline certain jobs and take the more mobile ones if I want to travel.

charlie61
04-03-2019, 11:52 AM
I have really set my life up to travel on a dime ( my place can easily be rented out / my income goes with me ). I did commit to one job a month in the next three months in my home area but that's only ONE day ( I can fly it, hit the job, fly out in three days if needed ).

I thought this would impress everyone but it doesn't seem to be doing much. Oh well.
I really thought with some effort ( and boy have I put in the effort ) I would find that travel guy match.

The reason I need a lot of proactive planning is that I have to decline certain jobs and take the more mobile ones if I want to travel. As flexible as things are ..... deciding last minute isn't. Maybe I'll just stay where I am and chase the $ hard.

Yeah, i think it's partially tough because people who travel constantly have a reputation for treating partners the same way. *Sometimes* the "i love traveling" preference really says a lot about someone's personality, not just their preferences.

Obviously this isn't always the case, but i wonder if you're fighting a bit of stigma there. Many travelers i've known have been flakey, selfish, always looking for the next big adventure (and willing to bounce if their current partner isn't up for it), unable to settle down, unable to enjoy daily normalcy, unable to budget, haven't done any self work because they're 100% focused on changing external circumstances whenever they get uncomfortable with internal emotions... the list goes on! Again, just stereotypes. But it could make dating tough. Like, how would someone even be able to get to know a person who's always leaving for another city? It's hard to find that lifestyle fit. Even men who travel a lot for work usually travel to the same handful of cities repeatedly. Consultants are the closest i can think of to fitting that lifestyle *and* making good money.

carmen_b
04-03-2019, 06:00 PM
^ This is SUCH A GOOD POINT.

I was having this intuitive feeling to try to just be more settled but it didn't occur to me to just **spell it out** that I take relationships and financial responsibility seriously . I'm a business owner and home owner so they have an idea but I think clarity will help.

What I'm the most interested in doing ( still ) is trips 1-2 months to cheaper locations such as back to Thailand ( where I can afford to work 20 hours a week instead of 40-45 ) . ;/

charlie61
04-03-2019, 07:29 PM
^oh, man, I'm so glad my post was helpful to you - i was worried it might offend you! Whew! :hug:

carmen_b
04-04-2019, 03:24 PM
Well I took A to the concert and he's such great arm candy but I'm not sure if we are a personality or sexual fit ( fooled around, didn't have sex ).

carmen_b
04-09-2019, 08:33 PM
B ( the Aussies ) fingering game is getting better and better as he is learning my body.
And damn .... it was great to start with .
Even getting over this cold he smelled so amazing.
We had an intermission so he could go to an NBA game - I was so sad to miss this game but I'm sick.
;)
Mmmm. More sex with him ( this time it lasted longer ). I enjoy him a lot . We are probably doing a food tasting ( he loves to explore the city so we sometimes go to two places ) tonight.