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carmen_b
04-11-2019, 07:25 PM
^ 2nd update :
He was here for the last 2 days.
( details removed, swearing this thread is cursed lol )
carmen_b
04-13-2019, 09:43 PM
( removed as I swear this damn thread is cursed, it seems like no one who participated in the late 2018 one or this one ended up with a boyfriend haha )
carmen_b
04-14-2019, 07:27 PM
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carmen_b
04-16-2019, 08:14 PM
Bleh.
I'm not satisfied. Let me explain.
Haven't seen him since last Thursday after the 48 hour date ended. Extended an invite to dinner tomorrow near where he is ( he is a traveler without a car so I offered to get him too ..... a one hour drive ).
No response to that in 8 hours or my invite to stay over tomorrow + take one of my cars starting Friday for a few days which I sent 4 hours ago.
It just feels so miserably stalled again. ;/
I will probably just breathe and give it 24 hours . I hid the UTI thing ( out of not wanting to guilt him and wanting to not lose sex appeal ) but was in so much pain yesterday I confessed the past few days had been rough.
Good time to show up with flowers but of course ..... no.
miss.a.p1600
04-16-2019, 08:24 PM
( removed as I swear this damn thread is cursed, it seems like no one who participated in the late 2018 one or this one ended up with a boyfriend haha )
Noooo don't say that lol! Just gotta dust off and keep the adventures going. I should have something to contribute here soon if I can bring myself to venture out more
Also, not sure how many guys you are dating rn but now might be the time to open the dating pool.
carmen_b
04-16-2019, 08:35 PM
^ Might be.
Was just seeing the Aussie ( B ) as it turned sexual and I was starting to get attached. Not thrilled about his not rsvp-ing to my Ramen and Sex invite ( it was not phrased that way but perhaps it should have been haha ).
I stopped seeing A ( he was weird with his " gay act " while we were out .... it was a bit of a turn off ). I brought that crazy strong weed though. I'm not sure how to explain it but I just don't think the romantic connection is there.
I miss everything about B currently ( his smell, the accent , ..... I'll stop there before TMI hahaha ).
I showed my mom and sister his photo today. Shit just got real. I'll have known B in person almost a month. I don't want the timing to be too fast but if we are going to chat about him staying in the U.S. or me going somewhere with him ..... it has to happen soon.
carmen_b
04-16-2019, 08:45 PM
I've never sent B any sexy pics.
He passed screening with flying colors ( not being a pic hound / not overly sexual ect. )
Maybe it's time I bust some out and send to him. Haha.
Done. Now he has the naked in the tub with bubbles covering bits one and the black fishnets / heels one hahaha .
baer45
04-16-2019, 08:58 PM
I've never sent B any sexy pics.
He passed screening with flying colors ( not being a pic hound / not overly sexual ect. )
Maybe it's time I bust some out and send to him. Haha.
Done. Now he has the naked in the tub with bubbles covering bits one and the black fishnets / heels one hahaha .
Nicely done.
carmen_b
04-17-2019, 09:52 AM
I'll have to back off from the Aussie ( B ) .
Damn ..... I wish this dude would just make me his gf and make some travel plans with me.
Not happy ..... offered him an easy date yesterday ( planning 24 hours ahead )! .
Told him I'd travel over to get him . He took until this morning to reply ( said he was at a hot spring and he needs wi-fi to text ).
At 9a.m. he said he is " not sure , still trying to put plans together " or something.
It's now 11a.m. and I will decide for him. I will not commute the hour to go get him.
charlie61
04-17-2019, 09:58 AM
Maybe I'll have to back off from the Aussie ( B ) .
Damn ..... I wish this dude would just make me his gf and make some travel plans with me.
Not happy ..... offered him an easy date in a box yesterday .
Told him I'd travel over to get him . He took until this morning to reply ( said he was at a hot spring and he needs wi-fi to text ). At 9a.m. he said he is " not sure , still trying to put my plans plans together " or something.
It's now 11a.m. and I will decide for him. I will not commute the hour to go get him ( I was trying to time it to leave a 2 or 3 to avoid traffic and work from a coffee shop for an hour to make sure to be out of traffic ).
He said nothing about the photos. ;/
I still may have a convo later with him that I'd like to persue something but I get a sense that easing off ( at least for now ) is needed .
Most likely I'll cross a state line and just take the monies instead of civilian date. I am hungry for attention and the money never hurts either haha.
Ugh!! Kick this dude to the curb! Bullshit excuses for your fun date offer and no complimentary comments on your sexy photos?! Not cool.
carmen_b
04-17-2019, 10:00 AM
^ Yeah ...... granted .... our last date was 48 hours but that has been 6 days ago.
I booked a 2 hour massage as an alternative plan to dealing with him today.
carmen_b
04-17-2019, 04:24 PM
Update: yeah, post massage and still as mad at him as this morning though I do feel better about life overall.
I guess ( like you mentioned Charlie ) that lack of appreciation on the pictures AND the lack of a plan ( even if he's not open today we could have done tomorrow ).
Definitely not the time for the conversation I wanted to have ( possible relationship , my possible willingness to sign off on a work visa for him via the business I own, inviting him to live here or travel with me in May ).
Those are some heavy things. Maybe he knew a conversation was coming and is hiding.
It's funny. It makes me miss J the grad student kinkster. When HE got the fishnets one his comment was " oh my fucking god, is this real life " and then he was at the house in about 12 minutes.
charlie61
04-17-2019, 06:08 PM
Update: yeah, post massage and still as mad at him as this morning though I do feel better about life overall.
I guess ( like you mentioned Charlie ) that lack of appreciation on the pictures AND the lack of a plan ( even if he's not open today we could have done tomorrow ). It's out of my hands now as I'm in a pissed off state. He seems pretty eager to ignore me so definitely not the time for the conversation I wanted to have ( possible relationship , my possible willingness to sign off on a work visa for him via the business I own, inviting him to live here or travel with me in May ).
Those are some heavy things. Maybe he knew a conversation was coming and is hiding.
It's funny. It makes me miss J the grad student kinkster. When HE got the fishnets one his comment was " oh my fucking god, is this real life " and then he was at the house in about 12 minutes.
Yes, that's a healthy, secure man's reaction to sexy pics!
I get it that this aussie dude is hot, but it's just way too soon for him to be pulling this petty shit. Not relationship material.
carmen_b
04-17-2019, 07:19 PM
I think I will just have to go with my feelings here. I feel a strong trend of being disappointed / not feeling secure.
He has not responded to my texts with the ideas about traveling together in May ( or the offer that he can live here in May).
carmen_b
04-18-2019, 09:31 AM
At this point I'm 90% sure he will do absolutely NOTHING when I back off .
The bottom line is that I'm not comfortable seeing him when I have an " expiration date " of his flight back and no talk of connecting soon after that.
I think at a month that is enough time to either move forward or back away ( plus we chatted a couple weeks before meeting ) .
Bleh, I want to take him to a hot springs in Idaho but I'M NOT OFFERING . I am so agitated ! I would rather go myself !
All he did was ask me where I will be this weekend.
carmen_b
04-18-2019, 02:13 PM
Called the reinforcements in .
Reached out to both A and J .
B just texted from Aspen ........ he is such an ass. I am pretty grossed out at this point that I had sex with him but it was an experiment.
I wasn't sure how it would go ( I never do outside a relationship, it was a first / experimentation ).
I thought I was more upset with guys like the Teacher / Cop ( from way back ) ..... ones who never offered physical attention.
It's just one thing after another ( he didn't invite me on the hot spring trip he did , no invite to the go away dinner for his friend last night, no invite on this road trip ).
I am not going to respond .
Oh .... and I'll reveal his secret haha. He's one of the guys who " can't last " . Total 10-20 second man.
miss.a.p1600
04-18-2019, 08:44 PM
I know you don't like people to quote here so ill just say paragraph 2 / sentence 2 and paragraph 4 / sentence 3 ....... damn! seconds?!?.......sounds like you're doing the right thing to ignore him.
I'm really disappointed about Tinder culture flakester so I have to get some action going to get my mind off things.
I keep telling myself I should have some dates lined up but you know what, I'm going to hit up some happy hours in the 5 star restaurants and see what I luck up on.
I also got a guys number when I was in Starbucks like a month ago and he was asking me my favorite restaurants, saying he would take me out, not sure if its too late to see if he's worth his word or even remembers our interaction??
carmen_b
04-18-2019, 09:15 PM
No worries ...... Yeah ..... I have no experience with that " issue " ...... I figured maybe as he got more used to me it would ( hopefully ) improve .
At the very least ..... I was going to take a chance. He is really good with his hands. He is a good cuddler and kisser too.
I just wish I wasn't abandoned. It makes me angry because I know NOTHING I will do will get a deep reaction out of him.
^ I don't even know what to advise for you!
I have a really hard time not getting sexual attention but I might need to stay single for a bit.
Your happy hour idea is good. Very likely to stumble on a business guy dining alone.
That type of stuff is probably what I should have done the last few months. It's been all online and I don't think people treat each other right.
carmen_b
04-20-2019, 07:52 PM
My anger has subsided a bit which is nice.
No more civilian dating here for a bit.
On a positive note, man the free time I already have haha. I was able to maintain the day job hustle today, take the dog to the groomer, 1/2 pack for a dancer trip , and hit the Express sale at the mall .
Last night I took myself to try a new Ramen place and went the gallery stroll early. I was there for all the best snacks / drinks and bought a new piece to take home.
From B , I have some photos from Aspen and some silly references for 4/20.
He did ALMOST nothing. Lol.
For good measure I posted a pic of A and I at that concert from two weeks ago a couple days ago on FB in case he is spying.
carmen_b
04-20-2019, 07:58 PM
I texted a lot with Mr. Tall yesterday.
I should leave him alone but we have a teacher / student dirty talk series of conversations going that I am *quite* enjoying.
The texting seemed safe enough since he's on the other side of the country but then of course it takes an emotional turn.
He said : " we are a lot alike unknowingly " and " I miss you " . He referenced flying out sometime. ;/
I dig his student / teacher naughty fantasy thing. HOT as hell.
We have gone there is real life too ....I think I left that out before.
Anyway .... this time he's been referencing needing to " pass my class " and that " I will do anything " .
I told him to " come over to my house later and we could discuss it and to be VERY discrete so that he doesn't get seen " .
All he sent back was " fuck " .
hahaha
carmen_b
04-21-2019, 08:56 PM
Maybe I just will GO to Australia and chase some dudes there. OMG you guys, the accent hotness.
Oh .... and I'll confess my ignore plan lasted about 3 days. He did send an incredibly beautiful video of this red rock area today .
I just said " it's beautiful " ..... NO referencing getting together or anything!
He's still on the shit list ( at the top , ha ).
MUST NOT think of snuggles or sex or ANYTHING . I really want to let this " man free " ( at lease in a civilian way ) thing play itself out .
Also, I'm $850 short of what I was hoping to make by Apr. 24 to stay on track week by week . I need to focus and go dance.
seashell
04-23-2019, 11:03 AM
Oof... I just had the absolute worst attempted "date" in Albania. Guy was not cute in person, barely spoke English (yes it's Albania, but you wanted to hang out with me, and you know what you signed up for). He wants to meet far away from where I live, my taxi takes forever to arrive, then traffic is awful, I'm 20 minutes late... and we got all of 20 minutes together before I got a migraine and told him I was sorry but I had to leave.
I feel bad for ditching him, but honestly it was stressing me out just attempting to talk to him in extremely broken English. I have so much other shit that I could be doing besides entertaining someone who I'm not at all attracted to.
/rant
But I'm going back to Serbia in a week, can't wait to see some cuties over there. And N, my previous Serb lover boy. Yay! :)
carmen_b
04-23-2019, 11:03 AM
B has been texting a lot asking when I’ll be back from WY.
It’s none of his business !!!!
Mwahahahaha.
I might send a picture of the pole and “ when I make $1,000 “ but will prob keep up this ignore plan. Ha.
^ Update , he got the pic haha.
carmen_b
04-23-2019, 11:04 AM
Seashell : oh your location sounds amazing !!
Ugh, sounds awful . :/
Reading between the lines here you must have been bored going 20 min. out , ugh.
Been there myself haha !
He should have offered to meet you closer.
seashell
04-25-2019, 12:46 PM
^Haha... yeah, it was the longest 20 minutes of my life! XD
I like your plan, the ignore game can feel kind of great sometimes.
I just went out with a different guy, this one was pretty cute. He's Polish, and has been living here in Albania for a while. I was honestly kind of surprised at how attractive he was, because the other guys that I've met off of Tinder here were not quite "lookers," lol
He was really nice and funny. I could see him being a friend or more than that. I think I have developed a habit of treating guys as "bros," and I probably would be happier with a friend than a complicated dating situation. Oh, and something super awkward happened... he wanted to look at Google Maps on my phone, and he held it for about 10 seconds, and in that window of time someone from Phrendly messaged me, calling me "babe." >_< Cringe! There was some awkward silence after that, but he didn't say anything. I tried to act casual. No idea what conclusions he came to! When we said goodbye, he gave me kind of an awkward hug. I'm pretty confused, but he did invite me out in the future to go hiking, so whatever. I'm happy to at least have a cute guy to spend time with. :)
carmen_b
04-25-2019, 01:28 PM
Weaning myself off of penis has freed up a massive amount of time.
Miss_ShaSha
04-25-2019, 04:10 PM
I'm back to dating after that break I took (hot, active, ginger broke my heart). It's been about 8 weeks. I took a chance and messaged a premium member. Our interaction was pleasant and intelligent, so I gave him my number.
It took him 2 days to text me. I've made all the first moves: called and scheduled a first date (he agreed to one 10 days later).
I didn't mind him taking it slow as I have kind of lost all hope in online dating.
Well, after several phone conversations and plenty involved text exchanges he got the guts up and asked me last night to have lunch. I was surprised pleasantly. Well, he was early for lunch at my favorite mom & pop spot, was super conversational, and asked if I wanted to play ping pong to which I responded quickly with "hell yes!"
We played 7 games of INTENSE ping pong, had a few drinks, then he treated me to dinner. OMG, it was awesome! We have a lot in common and he was a true gentleman.
We have a wine date scheduled for Saturday night, and since today went so well he asked if I'd like to go hiking in the AM on Saturday. Sooooo, we have hiking and wine Saturday.
I'm legit giddy. Ladies, I scripted (LOA practice) that I met a man who I have a genuine connection with. Keep me in your thoughts: I'd like to settle down.
carmen_b
04-25-2019, 07:05 PM
The ignore plan seemed to work.
The cat no longer has his tounge on things I wanted to talk about.
I spelled it out ( no sexy stuff if a relationship isn't progressing ) complete with an invite to come hang as friends and sleep on the couch if he'd like to visit the city I'm in now !
^ He didn't seem to *love* that idea and referenced " no snuggling ? " .
There was some talk a couple hours ago on a fiance type of visa as a potential.
Any chance any Australian girls are reading this ? Any ideas to buy B more time in the USA or is leaving just easier for a bit ?
Miss_ShaSha
04-26-2019, 07:24 AM
^^Smart to state no sex without exclusivity :)
carmen_b
04-26-2019, 10:25 AM
^ I get so frustrated with him at times I googled "why are Australian men lazy at dating? " .
He is in touch everyday and checks in often but seems slow to arrange outings.
Some of it IS cultural. There is a more relaxed style there. For example .... when we first got in touch, I almost didn't want to meet him because he let over a week go by without asking me out. It is actually considered aggressive to ask out right away and more common to chat as friends initially there. Women can also be particularly harsh there with their " no's " which leads to a more gentle approach .... such as men trying to "feel you out " with conversations first.
Just more info I guess that supports my theory that if things fail with B ( I hope they don't ) that I can just go there and clean up with my more direct style.
Part of it too ( which I've experienced myself in Hawaii ) is that he doesn't know what he is doing. He has a flight back booked but doesn't really have anything to " go back for " . That is his phrasing which he has told me multiple times. He has referenced getting married 2-3 times ( always phrasing it as " only half joking " ).
carmen_b
04-26-2019, 08:26 PM
I invited him to see me today ( last night at 7p.m. , 24 hours notice ).
He was up to the usual games not giving a firm confirmation ( I checked in at 1p.m. to see I was going up to get him as he shares a car among friends and is 55 min. away ).
I made other plans.
The decision to walk away that I made a week ago was the right one. My intuition told me it was.
He didn't have the conversations because he didn't want to.
He didn't talk about plans to extend our time together because it wasn't important to him . I have to accept it.
chanzep
04-26-2019, 10:43 PM
The ignore plan seemed to work.
The cat no longer has his tounge on things I wanted to talk about.
I basically spelled it out ( no sexy stuff if a relationship isn't progressing ) complete with an invite to come hang as friends and sleep on the couch if he'd like to visit the city I'm in right now !
^ He didn't seem to *love* that idea and referenced " no snuggling ? " .
There was some talk a couple hours ago on a fiance type of visa as a potential ( it's paperwork that we would do in secret that can buy an Australian 90 more days in the USA ).
^ Meh .... maybe there is a wait for it ?
Another option is to go to Central America ( basically anywhere out of North America ) and that's probably the cheapest / easiest. Any chance any Australian girls are reading this ? Any ideas to buy B more time in the USA or is leaving just easier for a bit ?
That visa is not easy to get and takes a long time to be approved. You have to be interviewed and prove your in love and plan to marry. They also look into all your financials. Not worth it unless you intend to marry him.
carmen_b
04-26-2019, 11:24 PM
^ I think he can for 2-4 weeks or so then come back for 90 days? Do you know if that's the case ?
A week ago I would have been fine marrying him ( I really don't care if there is a divorce on my record if it didn't work ) but my real estate equity requires a prenup on my side ( or I need to move a property to a family trust ) . Prenups close to wedding dates are not as tightly enforceable so I'd have to really look at things.
I told him just now : " If you would like to consider seeing me exclusively then we should talk again . I assume you are seeing others as going 14 days without sexual attention has been highly agitating to me but doesn't seem to be to you . "
He wrote back and said that he is not seeing anyone or sleeping around which surprised me ( I do realize he could be lying ) .
I'm emotionally unsatisfied. I'm sexually unsatisfied.
I know my posting been overkill . His ego would just be filled to the brim if he knew so I will go back and delete a lot of it.
carmen_b
04-27-2019, 11:22 AM
I am tired of being rejected. He claims he is not seeing anyone else. I asked for a sex marathon. I assume he will do nothing as always.
I turned to Tinder last night out of boredom. I am somewhat impressed by someone ( military guy ). He is " normal " looking ( bummer ) but pictures are weird. I find that to me when I meet in person EVERYONE looks better than their pictures to me . I have multiple video clips on my Tinder and I wish everyone would. I am trying to prevent another disaster here. I told this guy that my intention would be to move slow physically and that I attach when sexuality comes into play. He said he liked it. Also pounced on a date invite ( tonight ) . Since I have no invites extended to me, I assume that it is ok to say yes. ;)
charlie61
04-27-2019, 03:32 PM
^ I think he can leave a month or so then come back for 90 days? Do you know if that's the case ?
A week ago I would have been fine marrying him ( I really don't care if there is a divorce on my record if it didn't work ) but my real estate equity requires a prenup on my side ( or I need to move it to a family trust ) . Prenups close to wedding dates are not as tightly enforceable so I'd have to really look at things.
I think he can even get a 6 month visa there and then just come back.
It doesn't matter though. He doesn’t seem “ ready “ or interested.
He’s failed me now living somewhat close to me. He seems to think it’s fine to not see each other this long.
I can’t decide what to do. I seemed to gain tight focus when I was consciously single ( that WHOLE WEEK haha ) but I want to get pounded honestly.
I may switch to sugar dating only .
I think his performance problems stress him but I feel like there are solutions.
I told him to call me so we can talk dirty and but says he can't call ( claims his is visiting with a friend / wife / family ) and staying there. Red flag ?
I told him just now : " If you would like to consider seeing me exclusively then we should talk again . I assume you are seeing others as going 14 days without sexual attention has been highly agitating to me but doesn't seem to be to you . "
He wrote back and said that he is not seeing anyone or sleeping around which surprised me ( I do realize he could be lying ) .
I'm emotionally unsatisfied. I'm sexually unsatisfied.
I know my posting been overkill . His ego would just be filled to the brim if he knew so I will go back and delete a lot of it.
This dude is very clearly intimidated by your sexuality and your confidence. You are out of his league when it comes to sexual experience and sexual confidence, and he's not comfortable with that or willing to work towards becoming comfortable with it. Ugh. Move on, 100%.
carmen_b
04-27-2019, 04:39 PM
^ Oh, I didn't really think about that !
Anyway ..... I have sent him this ( an hour before meeting this other dude ):
" You are leaving me sexually frustrated and upset here. I preferred to just see you but will reach out and start seeing others if we are not spending time together ".
^ I think it's clean and fair ( to the point ).
He has 59 minutes to take action. I think we will all know what he will do and then this will be the end of it.
miss.a.p1600
04-27-2019, 05:46 PM
^reminds me of this song ...
She is telling him he has x amount of time or he will miss his opportunity because she ain’t got time to wait
https://youtu.be/T4kAYIC5Xzo
miss.a.p1600
04-27-2019, 05:49 PM
I have plans to take myself on a date tomorrow.
I’m going to go to a fancy steakhouse bar about 6:30 ish tomorrow and see what type of men step up to the plate and approach the goddess cause it’s a rare sighting
Before that I’m going to head to Home Depot and Lowe’s and pretend to be lost looking for some random household item and see what sugar daddy comes to the rescue with his directions and suggestions for help.
I’ll report back with the results.....
carmen_b
04-28-2019, 09:40 AM
My Tinder date was gross. He was a gentleman at the brewery but had a pushy vibe to him later .
Actually I shouldn't say that. It was just not a success trying to interact with him physically. I am still hung up on B . I've got a little work to do there and will need to take some time before dating again.
So I guess I wasted that guys time a bit but he got some arm candy and gossip out of it ( military and there were a few of his associates at the brewery I picked ).
lurkingtitties
04-28-2019, 11:19 AM
Carmen I’m glad you cut B loose. He was causing you too much distress. Definitely not deserving of a marriage visa!
carmen_b
04-28-2019, 12:01 PM
Update : Uh yeah .... I failed on the physical contact front .... see the confessions thread. ;/
BUT ......I'm still firm on no more " effort " with him. No reaching out ect.
Our little adventure Sunday night might be our last unless HE makes another outing easy for me ( he made Sun. easy ) .
It's quite charming that he says he isn't seeing anyone else but I'm trying not to get roped back in.
carmen_b
05-02-2019, 12:57 PM
Eh ..... I wish B would just indulge my ideas to travel together.
I told him I'd meet him in Hawaii if he wants to spend June there together .
One one hand ..... it's been only 6 weeks in person. On the other ..... 6 weeks ? Isn't that enough time? ;/
I probably should stick to my no dudes plan. I get so unfocused.
lurkingtitties
05-03-2019, 09:36 AM
[QUOTE=carmen_b;3113219]Update : Uh yeah .... I failed on the physical contact front .... see the confessions thread. ;/ /[QUOTE]
Hehehe I went and checked it out, that was a good read!
carmen_b
05-03-2019, 11:06 AM
^ Hahaha. Yeah ...... great fun. This dude has driven me totally nuts as documented here but at least those two days were very enjoyable.
My patience with him has pretty much run out ( it's his last day in town today and airport tomorrow ).
chanzep
05-03-2019, 03:24 PM
^ I think he can for 2-4 weeks or so then come back for 90 days? Do you know if that's the case ?
A week ago I would have been fine marrying him ( I really don't care if there is a divorce on my record if it didn't work ) but my real estate equity requires a prenup on my side ( or I need to move a property to a family trust ) . Prenups close to wedding dates are not as tightly enforceable so I'd have to really look at things.
I told him just now : " If you would like to consider seeing me exclusively then we should talk again . I assume you are seeing others as going 14 days without sexual attention has been highly agitating to me but doesn't seem to be to you . "
He wrote back and said that he is not seeing anyone or sleeping around which surprised me ( I do realize he could be lying ) .
I'm emotionally unsatisfied. I'm sexually unsatisfied.
I know my posting been overkill . His ego would just be filled to the brim if he knew so I will go back and delete a lot of it.
No it is not that easy anymore. He might be able to leave and come back after a few weeks once if lucky. But deff not more than once.
He doesn't sound worth it. Another thing to consider if you marry him on that visa, you are financially responsible for him for 10 years. He also won't be allowed to work for 1st year. That is the law bringing people here. Your pre nup won't save you in that situation. I wouldn't going by what I have read here.
carmen_b
05-03-2019, 04:19 PM
^ Agreed. He has been an overall pain the ass minus some sexy times / brewery outings / foodie adventures ( which another/others can more easily provide ).
It seems I still get attached . ;/ Still same body chemistry. I thought maybe I would have changed as I got older . I was with my former partner 7 years so I feel it was worth the experiment.
I'm 100% TIRED of the U.S. too except my family being here. I've been trying to bail for a year now but got hit with horrible depression from my break up Aug. 2018 .
I have the means to go without anyone which is nice.
Thx, your explanations have helped . It's much more complex that I thought which does explain somewhat why he is so lackluster to do anything. He must be low on cash / needing to get back and work because my first idea for May (Costa Rica) was awesome and my idea for June ( Hawaii ) was amazing too. I'm well connected there. I can get us a place to stay a month no problem and get B some work under the table ( again .... a totally sweet arrangement he did nothing on ).
It's going to amazing to find a partner ( later .... I'm on a break now ) that might actually DO something with the large scale ideas I have instead of not respond.
lurkingtitties
05-04-2019, 12:27 PM
I’m thinking about dipping my toes in the online dating world. What sites have you all found to be worthwhile? I had some success on OkCupid back in 2012, and my brother met his now-wife on there. I don’t think im comfortable with Tinder.
There’s someone in my life I have serious feels for, but it isn’t an option for us to be together at this point in time. Might as well see what’s out there to keep myself busy, who knows what might happen!
miss.a.p1600
05-05-2019, 08:31 AM
I liked Bumble. I liked the concept of reaching out to dudes first. And the dude I met in there was pretty decent compared to the sociopath I met on match
But I guess you just have to do your own testing to see what site is best for you
seashell
05-06-2019, 02:16 PM
I just had a super weird date. He called it a date, so I'll use that word.
It started out great. We talked for a long time over drinks, at which point we found out that we have a lot in common. Then he suggested we go for a walk. He tried to get all cozy immediately, putting his arm around me, trying to dance with me and kiss me, and I'm just thinking... I need more time, dude. Maybe because I'm 30. I've seen some shit. I've had some epic dates, and had some amazing chemistry, and you're unfortunately not ticking either of those boxes.
I tried to just passively ignore it, avoid kissing, turn my head, and all of that. It was just ridiculous. He suggested we should sit down at a bench, held my hand, and tried to kiss me again. I just flat out told him, I'm sorry, I'm usually the type to meet someone first and then see where it goes on the next date. He didn't say much, then said he was going to leave and go hang out with his friends. At that point, I said something about how I hope he doesn't think I'm a huge bitch, and I asked if he was just looking for a hookup. I think I really dug the hole deeper, lol, but seriously! Why get all aggro just because a girl doesn't want to kiss you an hour after meeting you?
I'm 30 and he's 25, so... yeah.
Ugh. God. Where are my sweet sexy nerd boys... I miss them so much!
carmen_b
05-06-2019, 02:25 PM
^ Gross .
I feel for you .
I think the most aggravating with these types is the CLEAR ignoring of body language and vibe you give.