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carmen_b
06-25-2019, 09:17 PM
Yes, he seemed to cut it after I mentioned the issue with coercion / non consent in my past but how odd I had to mention it.
We do have a ton in common but I haven't *decided* yet whether I'd like to take it fast or slow on the sex thing . I need more info.
I'm not kidding .... hugging him and kissing him on the couch my body actually had this incredibly calm response like " this is home " which may sound nuts but I felt SO comfy. Then the next day I remember crying because " I didn't need my hard edges anymore ". Haha. This dude brought out some crazy thoughts quickly !
seashell
06-26-2019, 05:09 AM
I've been debating whether or not to open up about my job, as well. It's so hard, every single time. It never gets easier. But these days I'm better at associating with open minded people. No jerks allowed. :) The other person's reaction always says more about *them* than it does about you.
Update on the Albanian friendzone guy. He's such a freaking sweetheart! I don't have a washing machine, so he drove me to his friend's house to do laundry, sat there with me while we waited an hour for my laundry to be done, and we just chatted and laughed the whole time. He taught me how to count to 100 in Albanian, lol. Then he drove me to one of the nicest places in the city, schmoozed his way past some security guards, and we walked around this very fancy neighborhood where all the rich people live. It was really fun. He opened car doors for me and paid for my drinks again. Once again, I'm pretty sure we're not dating, but I've never had such an overly friendly non-aggressive male friend. :D
Going to hang out with the Polish guy again soon. And I can't remember if I mentioned that I didn't make it to Serbia, but I'm going next week... dear goddd I hope all of my plans work out this time. I really want to see my adorkable Serbian lover boy. If we also end up in the friendzone, or if he has a new girlfriend or something, I'm going to be crushed.
carmen_b
06-26-2019, 10:20 AM
^ Damn I want a friend like the Albanian guy. Sounds so fun !
Yes .... I am in the big time debate about opening up sooner v.s. later .
I need more info because I really don't want a risk of ruining something ( I may just quit again and not mention it at all if things get more serious with someone ).
seashell
06-26-2019, 10:40 AM
^Same, I have a vanilla job that I can replace camming with if need be. I would probably still cam secretly, because... gotta pay them bills ;)
Winged Dinghy
06-27-2019, 06:59 AM
Went on a date with the most amaaaaazing woman last night! She's an aerialist/gymnastics coach/drummer/doula who I met around 10 years ago. We move in the same social circles but have never been close, until we matched on Tinder. Anyway, we had an incredible first date last night and are planning to hang out again this weekend. She also danced briefly at Barely Legal and is thinking of coming to work with me at Hustler.
The whole time we were on the date I couldn't believe this total fox was into me. I still can't!
seashell
06-27-2019, 11:17 AM
^Aww that sounds like you had a great time! :D I love alternative girls like that. She's probably thinking the same thing about you hehe!
Ladies, I need advice. I keep pining over this really sweet, smart Serbian guy who's been giving me mixed signals for the past year. I invited him to go to a festival next weekend, and he took all day to respond. I was on the edge of my seat waiting for his text. He just messaged me back that he wants to go with me, and I'm like, over the moon excited. We've been mostly friends with benefits, because I used to turn down all of his invitations to do anything other than get drinks or sleep together. I'm really excited because I like him, I like music festivals, and it seems like nothing can go wrong.
But when it comes to boys, I'm way more emotionally up and down, than I'd like to be. I get really sensitive about goodbyes, and I know I'm probably not in a good place mentally to have an amazing time with him, then say goodbye, and go straight back to my country for an undetermined period of time. It's always so heartbreaking. It makes me sad already, just thinking about it. I don't really plan on unloading my feelings on him, but even just leaving will be hard.
Do you take the risk or spare yourself?
carmen_b
06-27-2019, 12:07 PM
^ You probably already know how I would answer. Haha
Is there a possibility for you guys to do the gf / bf thing if that's what you want ?
Such as you moving back there or him coming to your area ? Do you even want that ?
I am trying to think more in terms of long term plans but mostly I just heavily chase who I'm the most attracted to . I'm trying to shift my focus to creating something now that will be proud of 3/6/9 months out.
seashell
06-27-2019, 02:22 PM
^Yeah, I could move to Serbia if I chose. I do plan on moving to his city next year, anyway. I think I'd be happy to be in a relationship again. I'm in a good place with the rest of my life, everything feels like it has finally come together. But I still have "nomad" brain, and a part of me gets really clingy to people and places.
That is a smart way of thinking. Like focusing on shorter goals with that person? I like to plan in the long term, but I'm not great at it, as soon as it involves other people lol
miss.a.p1600
06-28-2019, 09:49 AM
The young dude asked me out again .... to dinner
Not sure if I should say yes
carmen_b
06-28-2019, 04:28 PM
I think it might be something with Dog Dad / Travel J. We have been in touch by text all week.
I am really digging him. ;)
We are both workaholics ( he describes himself as recovering but I know he worked 63 hours this week ).
I'm mostly recovered working more normal hours currently.
So it took us about 10 days to arrange date 1 .... it'll be 6 days between date 1 and 2 .... that's fine at the start anyway.
We just said a few minutes ago via text that we both want more frequency ..... not waiting nearly a week to see each other .
I am worried he will be turned off by dancing but I don't want to be dishonest . He called me Babe by text this morning . Will I ruin our cabin experience if I tell all my secrets tomorrow ?!?
At this point, I'm just dancing for a *little* extra money anyway ..... do I just keep my damn mouth shut about it or disclose ? I am already stressing feeling dishonest for not saying I was in Wyoming the last two days .
His texts this week have all been heavy in the getting to know me stuff .... no dirty talk or anything. Of course that is a turn on and is making me want to pounce.
carmen_b
06-28-2019, 05:03 PM
B is back in his usual style of bullshit lol.
Sending me multiple " hey Baby " texts this week ... asking how I am doing ect.
I think he is pretending he didn't see the text I sent him a week ago .
When he asked how I was I said " I'm getting back out there dating ect. ".
carmen_b
06-30-2019, 05:25 PM
I told Dog Dad / Travel J about dancing ( both the past history and doing it here and there ) last night on the cabin trip and explained my views on complete discretion.
He didn’t care. ;)
Also, the dogs got along.
His response was incredibly sweet. He said something like " I am comfortable if the work is a performance and your emotional / physical connection is with me ". He did mention he would be " interested " in seeing me at a club ( no one ever has ) but he didn't overkill the situation at all with questions or being focused on it. It was awesome.
Winged Dinghy
07-01-2019, 06:56 AM
Had a second date with the hot gymnast/drummer chick! We went to Hustler Club's charity car wash and washed cars; then we went swimming at a topless pool, then we went to my place and smoked weed/drank wine/had sex.
I'm soooo smitten!
carmen_b
07-01-2019, 10:44 AM
omg , dream day !! ^^^
carmen_b
07-01-2019, 12:05 PM
Anyone want a crack at this one ? I wonder if this is the beginning of a sexual issue ..... or just nerves?
So we are fooling around at the cabin of course and I am wondering about our sexual " fit " . He was going for sex without getting me off first which I just don't really understand. Am I wrong here ? I think I have been extremely spoiled by this string of really skilled lovers .... like with B his greatest joy in life was getting me off a bunch of times ( and he would comment on each encounter for days ).
I am not sure what to think as we are SO well connected in all these other areas. I am wondering if I should just have sex with him but when we tried at the cabin I wasn't really feeling it. I really do hope it works and I hope this works out but I was worried having sex like that ( I don't come from penetration and I don't think my body has miraculously changed over night on the issue ) would be a bad " lead in " to our sex life.
I was really up front about my panty / fabric fetish thing and he went to take them OFF fairly quickly instead of doing the teasing I was looking for ..... ??? I'm confused here for sure. He also didn't bring condoms to our first overnight adventure ( I had them ). When I handed him one, he didn't put it on ?
I am wondering if I should just call it due to this even though all the others areas with us are so spot on ?
charlie61
07-01-2019, 12:42 PM
Anyone want a crack at this one ? I wonder if this is the beginning of a sexual issue ..... or just nerves?
So we are fooling around at the cabin of course and I am wondering about our sexual " fit " . He was going for sex without getting me off first which I just don't really understand. Am I wrong here ? I think I have been extremely spoiled by this string of really skilled lovers .... like with B his greatest joy in life was getting me off a bunch of times ( and he would ever comment on it for days ).
I am not sure what to think as we are SO well connected in all these other areas. I am wondering if I should just have sex with him but when we tried at the cabin I wasn't really feeling it. I really do hope it works and I hope this works out but I was worried having sex like that ( I don't come from penetration and I don't think my body has miraculously changed over night on the issue ) would be a bad " lead in " to our sex life.
I was really up front about my panty / fabric fetish thing and he went to take them OFF fairly quickly instead of doing he teasing I was looking for ..... ??? I'm confused here for sure.
I am wondering if I should just call it due to this even though all the others areas with us are so spot on ?
Sounds like he just needs more guidance in the moment! Tell the boy what to do while it's happening to give him a clue! I'd give him another chance for sure.
Winged Dinghy
07-01-2019, 01:43 PM
^^^yeah, agreed! First-time sex is always the most awkward. IMO it can only get better.
miss.a.p1600
07-01-2019, 02:53 PM
Anyone want a crack at this one ? I wonder if this is the beginning of a sexual issue ..... or just nerves?
So we are fooling around at the cabin of course and I am wondering about our sexual " fit " . He was going for sex without getting me off first which I just don't really understand. Am I wrong here ? I think I have been extremely spoiled by this string of really skilled lovers .... like with B his greatest joy in life was getting me off a bunch of times ( and he would comment on each encounter for days ).
I am not sure what to think as we are SO well connected in all these other areas. I am wondering if I should just have sex with him but when we tried at the cabin I wasn't really feeling it. I really do hope it works and I hope this works out but I was worried having sex like that ( I don't come from penetration and I don't think my body has miraculously changed over night on the issue ) would be a bad " lead in " to our sex life.
I was really up front about my panty / fabric fetish thing and he went to take them OFF fairly quickly instead of doing the teasing I was looking for ..... ??? I'm confused here for sure. He also didn't bring condoms to our first overnight adventure ( I had them ). When I handed him one, he didn't put it on ?
I am wondering if I should just call it due to this even though all the others areas with us are so spot on ?
Sounds like he is used to getting his own pleasures AND used to women letting him go in raw.
if he can’t follow simple instructions when it comes to female pleasure and protection then it’s not a good look.
If you feel compelled to give him another chance you’ll have to be really blunt
carmen_b
07-02-2019, 01:09 PM
I'm going to give him another try tomorrow. If things feel " lacking " ( his enthusiasm for getting me off specifically ) I will cut it.
I had posted that in a bad mood and had kind of forgotten that he did get me off ( twice if I remember right ) the first time we were together physically just over a week ago.
I suspect I may have made him a little nervous as I was super comfy with him right away and I told about my kinks / preferences.
I thought it was a good thing to " put it all out there " but I see now how I may have brought nerves into the last encounter.
Dude is deserving of some sex. I am very much looking forward to some too. ;)
He plans nice outings in advance, took sex work in stride, and is 100% on board with the nomadic life.
I got my country boy y'all big truck and everything ( and 5th wheel travel trailer ). Haha
Between both of our adventure / touring toys we will never be bored.
Something else that is currently *working* is the plans to see each other about twice a week which feels perfect to me.
He's too busy himself to be overly needy or ding my work life.
Vyanka
07-03-2019, 10:10 PM
I'm wondering if I'm talking to a troll, bc the guy I just met sounds so damn dreamy and it's been a while that I've had the beast mode" wanna hop on that cock asap" sexual attraction like that. Omg. This guy is HOT! He is 50 and looks like he's a 35 yr old actor... hello silver fox. Wants something long term and exclusive, NO Kids, divorced... his wife cheated and faked the child was his. It was his best friend's. Scandalous! :-/
We shall see until I meet him in person. I still have to know more about this fine gentleman. My options will still remain open, of course.
miss.a.p1600
07-03-2019, 10:15 PM
I'm wondering if I'm talking to a troll, bc the guy I just met sounds so damn dreamy and it's been a while that I've had the beast mode" wanna hop on that cock asap" sexual attraction like that. Omg. This guy is HOT! He is 50 and looks like he's a 35 yr old actor... hello silver fox. NO Kids, divorced... his wife cheated and faked the child was his. It was his best friend's. Scandalous! :-/
We shall see until I meet him in person. I still have to know more about this fine gentleman. My options will still remain open, of course.
^cotdamn!!! Let the best friend go in raw?!? Wow!
Oh damn! Don’t want to get too far off topic. So I cancelled the date with young dude for legitimate reason and I guess he didn’t take it well at all and I haven’t talked to him since.
Welp! Guess it is what it is.
If these guys play their cards right I should have a date with some other guys lined up in the next week or so.
Vyanka
07-03-2019, 10:18 PM
^cotdamn!!! Let the best friend go in raw?!? Wow!
I know right...
It took him 3 years to heal from that mess.
carmen_b
07-04-2019, 12:29 PM
^ V .... Damn, I hope he's not a troll.
His situation sounds heart breaking but if he seems to be healing from it, why not try it ?
carmen_b
07-04-2019, 12:35 PM
I did end up hopping on that D . ;)
So glad I did it. We got it out of the way haha. I enjoy him but have my concerns as mentioned in confessions .
I think it might be me being a little weird though. I am spoiled I think after my trio of Mr Tall, kinkster J, and B . Immature to be comparing lovers to current situation .... I know it is AS I'm doing it.
He's very sweet. I told him I would have take out ready ( he worked late ) so my dumb ass goes to the chinese food place, finds it closed , and heads to the brewery to " wait 30 min " with a beer . He arrives starving. HE buys us dinner and immediately forgives me for not having the food ready like I had told him.
We are still learning about each other. I got some attention and I shouldn't be greedy. He apologized on the lacking in fingering thing .... he said he wasn't aware that's what I needed to get off ( I thought I had said something ). I think it will sort itself out.
Just another little random sidenote .... he was unprepared for this sleepover just like at the cabin. No overnight bag. No toothbrush ( I gave him one ). No sexy supplies ( I thought maybe he'd bring his fave condoms or something ).
All in all I'm glad I got some sex. Haha.
miss.a.p1600
07-04-2019, 02:09 PM
^done that before
Well I promised to cook then accidentally let the noodles fall in the damn sink because I didn’t hold thenstrainer on right. The dude ended up taking us out to eat.
Vyanka
07-04-2019, 03:00 PM
^ V .... Damn, I hope he's not a troll.
His situation sounds heart breaking but if he seems to be healing from it, why not try it ?
Oh, if he's real I am. I'm very much into zodiac sign compatibilities... and I know Capricorn men like to rush into things. While Gemini(me)are afraid of commitment, so they gotta make sure before taking that sealed leap.
miss.a.p1600
07-04-2019, 07:42 PM
Well the old dude asked me out again after his failed attempt from two weeks ago so I might go out with him this Saturday.
carmen_b
07-05-2019, 11:25 AM
Damn it. Here trying to play it cool . Haha. I wish he lived closer.
I feel like anything other than a sex and movie binge on this holiday friday is unacceptable.
I think he is at work. I am not going to ask because I want him to keep initiating outings.
carmen_b
07-05-2019, 12:05 PM
Just some random thoughts ....I love this settled routine of almost having a bf ( I think he is already pretty much ) . I worry I will " mess it up " somehow but he has shown a lot of kindness to me already. I have had the self control to not suggest the sex and movie binge. I'll continue to play it cool. Haha. I know Sat.'s are a good night for him to get together ..... I will keep myself entertained and not send anything over .
carmen_b
07-05-2019, 12:08 PM
My reply to B's " I miss you " text this morning :
" Hmmmm I'm not sure that is really true considering we could have met up for a month in Brisbane 2 weeks ago".
I told him I was seeing someone.
miss.a.p1600
07-05-2019, 08:10 PM
^lol! He snooze he lose....
carmen_b
07-05-2019, 09:51 PM
^ Exactly. He knows me so I think he knows what the quick follow to " I'm seeing someone " is.
I do not think he will be asking for more updates but who really knows. Hahaha.
It's pretty hot how my dude plays hard to get ( he isn't really playing, he's just legitimately busy and it's hot AF ).
Today ( yeah I said I wasn't going to ) I sent a message saying to "come cuddle naked" around bed time.
90% would have replied " on my way ". He's gonna make me wait till Sunday. All is good. I can wait.
Vyanka
07-05-2019, 10:46 PM
Oh, if he's real I am. I'm very much into zodiac sign compatibilities... and I know Capricorn men like to rush into things. While Gemini(me)are afraid of commitment, so they gotta make sure before taking that sealed leap.
Ok, I blocked the dude. Last he told me his fantasy was to have a settled life with me. Um, what.. I haven't even met you in person yet and the next day, there he is, online probably searching or talking to someone else. ::)
Buddy, don't play these "you are the one I want to settle with" games. If that were the case, your dating profile would've been deleted. I'm not a naive little girl to be played with.
I have no patience.
carmen_b
07-05-2019, 11:00 PM
^ He did say it was a fantasy though ?
I wonder why he hasn't asked you out already ? If you chatted for more than a week and no date invite , I'd block him too. Could be married / seeking attention / who the hell knows.
miss.a.p1600
07-06-2019, 04:53 AM
Ok, I blocked the dude. Last he told me his fantasy was to have a settled life with me. Um, what.. I haven't even met you in person yet and the next day, there he is, online probably searching or talking to someone else. ::)
Buddy, don't play these "you are the one I want to settle with" games. If that were the case, your dating profile would've been deleted. I'm not a naive little girl to be played with.
I have no patience.
Reminds me of that young dude. He gone tell me “I’m not dating other people” n shit trying to make it seem like he’s off the market but in reality his thirstbucket self was just trying to run game. Because I’m my mind I’m like we’ve only been on 1 date, known each other a good two weeks and I guess this is the line you tell women to trick them into thinking you want monogamy so they’ll fuck you faster.
“Men” and their ridiculous games.
miss.a.p1600
07-06-2019, 07:43 PM
So just got back from date with old dude.
Hadn’t seen him in almost a year.
I redirected him anytime he touched me in ways that would annoy the fuck out of me before.
And aside from that it was good conversation and drinks and appetizer cause I wasn’t really hungry.
Gave him a peck on the lips at the end. And I guess I realize with the young dude who basically tried to have a full on make out session with me on the first date that while that feels/felt good it’s just too much for me to be doing on the first date if I want more than sex.
I still haven’t heard from young dude and I’m not going to worry myself about it like I did before because I realize I tried to delude myself into thinking a young dude could be anything more than just sex. Maybe I should have just rode his face and called it a day. And I probably would have had he not had his petty passive aggressive ignore moment after I cancelled our date. And I guess he bailed once he realized I’m not that naive and I’m not going to chase him either.
I got better candidates who can provide.
carmen_b
07-08-2019, 08:11 AM
( moving from confessions )
I'm trying to figure out if this dude *really* does work as much as he says or if he's up to something shady .
Date 1 : He took me out near my hood ( one hour from him ). Best date of 2018-2019.
lots of communication in between to next date
Date 2 : 24 hour overnight date a week after date #1 ( yeah, that's how I roll, haha )
lots of communication ,
Date 3 : Dinner near me 4 days ago , sex at my place
lots of communication
Date 4 : I invited him here for take out . I was wearing LDB , full makeup , no bra, sexy panties.
My invite was not only related to dinner. I'm pretty disappointed he didn't fool around with me. He left at 8:45p.m.
Other notes :
Picks Up phone when I call ( doesn't do the shady guy thing where they always need to call back 15-30 min later )
I've said I'd be happy to drive to him so he doesn't always have to do the driving ( he referenced needing to clean ).
Bottom line ...... I don't seem to be getting that fun sex binge phase I'd hoped for with a new boyfriend 2-3 weeks in . I will see what he does ( I indicated he should come back up today ) . I'm feeling 50/50 on it right now about staying and chatting with him about what's next or just leaving him.
carmen_b
07-08-2019, 09:05 AM
Bleh. Had to heart to heart with B last night ( embarrassing , may delete ).
He was upset I was seeing someone and so I had to ask again why he put so little effort into us being together geographically.
I told him to be totally honest / transparent even if I didn't want to hear the true answers.
It was nerves / a sense of pressure with leaving . I told him about my frustrations where it seemed he was unwilling to even hear my ideas on how to make it work. He doesn't want to see anyone else ( so he says ) . He asked if I was saying I was seeing someone as a ploy to make him angry. I told him that I said it due to wanting to be honest and transparent.
In my opinion he hasn't made good decisions in Australia the last 6 weeks.
Update : I guess he is working ? Installing / removing office furniture .
JessaJade
07-08-2019, 11:20 AM
^Something seems off with this new guy (bearing in mind I haven't read through all details yet). I think it's surprising that you're not in the 'fun sex binge' stage especially as you got the first encounter out of the way on Date 3...to come over for Date 4 and not be excited about going for round 2 seems so strange on his part.
carmen_b
07-08-2019, 11:26 AM
^ YES !!!!!
THAT'S exactly why I've been stressed today ( and distracting at work and on SW lol ).
I *had* a very high comfort level until last night. We are both very busy with only a couple times a week to meet so I thought it was on for sure.
He might just not have quite enough time for me ( or maybe not quite the enthusiasm I'm looking for on the physical side ) and that's 100% ok. I do know what I'm looking for though and will find it .
I'll know more in a day or so. I do wonder sometimes if stripping freaks him out and he was trying to " play it cool ". Yesterday was the first day he knew I worked the night before ( I disclosed stripping on date 2 but didn't tell him anything about when I was going etc ) .
charlie61
07-08-2019, 12:22 PM
^I still think this dude is married! He had sex with you and is now in the "guilt stage" where he's lavishing his wife/ partner with attention, then he'll come back to you once that wears off, and the cycle continues. Am i crazy? Things are just not adding up! Seems like something is holding him back, and it isn't work (men will make the time for dating and sex above all else, lol)...
carmen_b
07-08-2019, 12:27 PM
I am wondering about just going to the address I found in my online search and doing some re-con.
Or maybe having a delivery sent there and see if anyone answers ?
What's the fastest way I can figure this the hell out?
carmen_b
07-08-2019, 12:36 PM
Hmmmm. Well I asked him. Told him " there is no wrong answer " and that a " friend suggested he might be married or taken " due to some of the things we have chatted about.
He claims the work thing. I told him that all he needs to get rid of me is to offer a love triangle and I'll be out.
He knows I'm traveling soon. He knows these 4 days are the time to pounce. I'm already unhappy and it's only been 3 weeks so I should just admit it and go from there. He says he is married to his job.
I *could* drive to the address I have ( two hours round ) and knock but I'm not sure how worth it this even is. I liked him because he was a heavy instigator / dominant style. I'm not sure I have the energy for stalking. I just want my bean tickled haha.
charlie61
07-08-2019, 12:57 PM
^ Yep. This is SUPER possible. I am wondering about just going to the address I found in my online search and doing some re-con.
It's tricky though because I'm so easy to find online ( my family is easy to find through my links ) and I'm a closeted sex worker. Maybe just cut losses and figure he " got me " ? That would figure that the ONE person who could smoothly organize a nice dinner date and follow up dates is ( maybe ? ) married.
Actually if he's a sketchy fuck, I might just go out him anyway for fun and then tell my family about stripping ( since hell of payback would likely follow ). Lol.
Charlie , if you called this I will be highly impressed. I honestly just thought he was a workaholic.
Ugh, I'm really hoping I'm wrong! But i think it's easier to be right when I'm just on the internet reading limited details about the situation. It's harder to see the forest when you're on ground level, in the middle of everything, like you are!
He of course wouldn't admit to being in a relationship because he'd be terrified you'd 'out' him, just like you're afraid he'd 'out' you about sex work.
Workaholics in new relationships find ways around their work schedule to offer attention. If he's a workaholic, I'd expect that he would've been upfront about how his work has been an issue in past relationships (perhaps he has said this already?), and I'd expect him to be an expert at juggling his busy schedule with a new relationship (sending you sexy texts between meetings, asking you to lunch during his brief moments not working, working weekends to offset quality time spent with you on date nights, having you over for the evening while he works on his laptop)... even workaholics are usually more excited by a new, high-libido lover than by their work... they'll prioritize the lover and find other times to squeeze in work.
Unless he's socially awkward, young, and/or inexperienced, my bet is that he's in a relationship or that he's just not that into you (the latter seems unlikely). It's also possible that he's dating a few women but not being upfront about it (if he did recently end a long relationship, maybe he's going nuts on dating a variety of women). Shrugs.
Glad you're keeping us updated!
charlie61
07-08-2019, 01:00 PM
Hmmmm. Well I asked him. Told him " there is no wrong answer " and that a " friend suggested he might be married or taken " due to some of the things we have chatted about.
He claims the work thing. I told him that all he needs to get rid of me is to offer a love triangle and I'll be out ( with no fuss either ).
I think THIS might be the reason I always SWORE I wouldn't date people from this particular conservative place. I don't want to blanket stereotype but they all seems to have sexual issues ( not just what I've seen but friends also saying so about people they see ). I am not sure I believe him either. Something definitely doesn't add up. I'm only asking him to leave work at 6p.m. for example today instead of staying until 7. If I'm offering to drive to him ( which I am as long as I can avoid traffic and time it right ) .... what does he have to lose ?
He knows I'm traveling soon. He knows these 4 days are the time to pounce.
I'm not sure why this stuff always happens to me. This is the kind of things I'm talking about ( why I'm considering therapy again .... like maybe I'm not seeing something ). I'm already unhappy and it's only been 3 weeks so I should just admit it and go from there. He says he is married to his job.
I *could* drive to the address I have ( two hours round ) and knock but I'm not sure how worth it this even is. I liked him because he was a heavy instigator / dominant style. I'm not sure I have the energy for stalking. I just want my bean tickled haha.
Agreed 100% that since you're already unhappy, you should end it. Three weeks in should be blissful! This guy is already taking up so much emotional energy and giving very little in return.
If I'm completely wrong about my theories above, that still doesn't change the fact that you're dissatisfied. You hit the nail on the head.
carmen_b
07-08-2019, 02:15 PM
Hmmmmm
I don't really think he is married.
I just don't. I do think he neglected me and that is it's own issue. I will look some things online up " sign of dating married guy " ect.
I can figure it out with this address I have but I just feel so " meh " and " who cares " on it.
I just want to cry. He was up front in his online profile that he works a lot.
I assumed he would adjust once he met an understanding and flexible partner.
carmen_b
07-08-2019, 03:30 PM
Man I hate men right now so much.
That said .... if a sugar daddy with a HIGH ( actually high , not once a week ) libido fell out of the sky, boy would I take that offer !!!
carmen_b
07-08-2019, 06:12 PM
I’ve sent this today :
“ Let's have a transparent chat soon. We need honesty as a factor here. I can't offer monogamy with such infrequent sexual attention comfortably. I'm just saying this in general terms / knowing myself.”
I guess I wanted to put out an " s.o.s " type message out before breaking it off.
I wasted the whole day on this bullshit. I am embarrassed.
charlie61
07-08-2019, 08:52 PM
^Yeah, good call. Maybe, like you said his profile stated, he truly is just married to his job. :/
carmen_b
07-09-2019, 05:31 PM
Now that my “ boyfriend “ ( yawwnnnn ) has failed me , I’m off to meet up again with the gent from NY who offered the drink outing and awesome handjob a few weeks ago .
I did genuinely like him but faded when J came in so strong with his dinner invites, big truck, and then the solid presentation on why he'd be a great boyfriend ( only to disappoint ).
:)