Clara_M
09-25-2019, 12:59 PM
One woman told me she divorced her first husband who was some banker or something like that and was so much happier with her hairdresser husband. Sure she had money in the bank that she got from her first husband but she said she truly enjoyed her life with her "poor" second husband.
I wonder if she's be enjoying it as much without the money from the first relationship?
Hubby #1 probably feels used, and possibly with some justification.
Here's what I think: a broke-ass dude (or female), who is always a broke-ass dude, will always be a broke-ass dude. It's a personality type. And it's not a personality type that one wants to be in a relationship with, either.
The willingness and motivation not to be a broke-ass dude is what matters, not the actual money itself.
There are also non-traditional variants. I've seen dudes who have "lesser" careers than their spouses, but genuinely contribute to the relationship in other ways, for example by being more flexible with their own careers, taking on more household duties, etc. In some cases, these are dudes who would have better careers but for the situation. They're basically traditional "females". I wouldn't be so quick to pass judgment on those situations, and appearances may be somewhat deceiving as to the underlying realities.
But long-term broke-ass dudes? Why not go all the way and ask the local weed dealer to hook you up with guys who like to get stoned and fall asleep halfway through the sex session?
I wonder if she's be enjoying it as much without the money from the first relationship?
Hubby #1 probably feels used, and possibly with some justification.
Here's what I think: a broke-ass dude (or female), who is always a broke-ass dude, will always be a broke-ass dude. It's a personality type. And it's not a personality type that one wants to be in a relationship with, either.
The willingness and motivation not to be a broke-ass dude is what matters, not the actual money itself.
There are also non-traditional variants. I've seen dudes who have "lesser" careers than their spouses, but genuinely contribute to the relationship in other ways, for example by being more flexible with their own careers, taking on more household duties, etc. In some cases, these are dudes who would have better careers but for the situation. They're basically traditional "females". I wouldn't be so quick to pass judgment on those situations, and appearances may be somewhat deceiving as to the underlying realities.
But long-term broke-ass dudes? Why not go all the way and ask the local weed dealer to hook you up with guys who like to get stoned and fall asleep halfway through the sex session?