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moneybags
05-05-2020, 01:55 AM
I lost 20 llbs. I'm feeling damn good. Good for you. I hope it's not because you got sick?
carmen_b
05-06-2020, 01:30 PM
Ok ..... feeling on the edge of tears here.
The unemployment thing is something I'm still struggling with.
They didn't seem to look at the ( well documented ) history of small business earnings at all.
Something I received in an email mentions " incomplete " history and references this small side job ( NOT my main job which I was clear about ).
I honestly don't know if I'll receive anything at all. I am preparing for that as well. I obviously will continue to fight it because I paid taxes and deserve pandemic help as much as anyone.
With my parents ..... I will be asking them to LOG IN every day and join me in this damn fight. I am not happy with how they handled things so I'll just keep asking and asking and asking for a 2nd set of eyes on it . This is something I should have had help with all along.
carmen_b
05-06-2020, 01:38 PM
Add to the insult for me that my life is actually set up to live on $1500 a month ( really ! ) .
As an experiment in cheaper living / self sufficiency I have been living like this since Jan. !
If I could just get $300 a week in assistance I'd actually be alright !
I just don't have the energy to fight with the self employment thing today.
I provided taxes / docs that were asked for.
I was just so desperately hoping it wouldn't be a horrific fight .
carmen_b
05-06-2020, 01:57 PM
Oddly I'm taking some joy in the house sit. I cleaned the kitchen today.
I found an ongoing person for the lawn and paid them for first trim as a gift to home owner ( now they will come every two weeks and fully automate this for the owner ).
I will find and pre-screen cleaners next. They just lost their cleaners.
At least it's something productive that's going well and not a shit show.
I will have saved 2k ish between March 20 - May 20 roughly by being here.
That whole time , I have only had to leave once for three days last weekend and will need to leave again next week Mon - Thurs.
baer45
05-06-2020, 08:09 PM
I’ve been watching puppies on YouTube today. It’s fun and relaxing.
Adrienne7
05-06-2020, 08:27 PM
I went for a run. Then later I had 2 glasses of wine and ate an entire small domino's pizza. Sooo... I guess they cancel each other out? Plus I watched porn while baking cookies. Weird day.
BlkSharpie
05-06-2020, 08:43 PM
I went for a run. Then later I had 2 glasses of wine and ate an entire small domino's pizza. Sooo... I guess they cancel each other out? Plus I watched porn while baking cookies. Weird day.
Weird day? Sounds like #LifeGoals to me! :D
MintChocolate
05-06-2020, 08:55 PM
I've been kinda sad ya'll trying to fig out what my next steps will be...
So I just been listening to the Ganesh mantra and decided to go on a weight gaining journey.
Been doing some reading too...
This not having a set schedule is horrible! I sleep at all the wrong hours. 3 hours here and there and I have to fix it. I try to stay up but I literally pass out for an entire episode at least most days. I hope I can pull it together this week.
indiegirl
05-06-2020, 11:04 PM
I love when I just finish cleaning my room and it smells so fresh and clean. Felt like darth vader with my new washable mask while I picked up bulk chicken thighs. Not sure what they're saying about a meat shortage or rise in price. Everything was fully stocked including beef/pork/etc. and they're the same price if you know where to go?
Adrienne7
05-06-2020, 11:17 PM
This not having a set schedule is horrible! I sleep at all the wrong hours. 3 hours here and there and I have to fix it. I try to stay up but I literally pass out for an entire episode at least most days. I hope I can pull it together this week.
Yes, totally. The last 2 months I have been going to bed at like 3 or 4 in the morning and sleeping until 10 or 11. Can't seem to get a normal schedule back. Without having to be anywhere, I've reverted back to my teenager night owl schedule. It's gonna SUUUUCK when I have to get back to a 6am wakeup for work and school someday.
WendiStarr
05-13-2020, 12:52 PM
I'm going fucking nuts at this point trying to work from home while taking care of a baby, cook, clean, etc. I'm working 11-12 hour shifts to support my family. I want this virus shit to be over with so I can hire a babysitter.
tempest666
05-13-2020, 10:19 PM
Good for you. I hope it's not because you got sick?
Oh no. I'm actually sticking to a consistent sleep and workout schedule
kortneykay
05-16-2020, 07:34 AM
Very well. I'm getting into shape. Settled in Europe, stunning new apartment and reaping the law of attraction success I envisioned for myself 5 yrs ago. I signed a lease at the beginning of the crisis but made sure my location was accessible to everything. The country has very low numbers and we're now allowed out of our cages without permission after being on 24/h lockdown 90% of the time. I still have goals to complete before summer's end so I'm focused on treating my finances, body, mind, and environment with extra care. I rest, I drink water, exercise and do self-care. I have a pretty dope schedule that allows me to hustle both hard, and play hard. Looking forward to what the next few months bring. For now I'm staying focused on the quarantine glow up and changes my body will be going through.
DonaDiabla
05-17-2020, 10:10 AM
Actually, I am pretty good overall. At the beginning, I stocked on tons of supplies for four months.Just working on more passive income, my diet, and my condo. I stocked up on tons of fruits and vegetables. I have been trying new workouts. I upgraded my water heater and other electronics. In addition, I am trying to plant my garden.Now, I am trying to make as much passive income as possible. This time is allowing me to focus more on making as many goodie bags, clips, and etc as possible. For example, I focus on creating more content to upload on my second life stores.:)The possibilities are endless for me.
chanzep
05-17-2020, 01:02 PM
Nothing much going on but feeling very positive today.
lynn2009
05-17-2020, 02:16 PM
So I have been using baby wipes for over a month now and long ago gave up trying to find toilet paper. However, Aldi had toilet paper yesterday and I bought some. It is super thin but I guess better than nothing. I still need to find hand soap...I am out and have been using body soap for each hand wash and it is drying out my hands like crazy.
Elektra Luxx
05-17-2020, 06:09 PM
So I have been using baby wipes for over a month now and long ago gave up trying to find toilet paper. However, Aldi had toilet paper yesterday and I bought some. It is super thin but I guess better than nothing. I still need to find hand soap...I am out and have been using body soap for each hand wash and it is drying out my hands like crazy.
I prefer baby wipes.
AChildOfBoredom
05-17-2020, 10:16 PM
If you have to pay for your own plumbing repairs, you won’t for too much longer.
The Amish girl was furloughed. She’s still working, but her hours got cut substantially, so now she’s worried out of her mind. She’s been having difficulty sleeping, and I woke up and heard her pacing around. So I’m trying to calm her down. I think she’s overreacting. She should know by now I’m not going to kick her out if she loses her job, but she’s still so apprehensive about ‘English’ life and it probably hasn’t helped her talking to coworkers of hers who aren’t sure if they’ll be able to get by if this continues. I tell her she need not worry. We look after our own in this house.
buttonpop
05-19-2020, 10:19 PM
Haven't posted on sw for a few years. I quit dancing when I graduated college and moved to a state with no good clubs, but I still read ladies only threads from time to time. Ive been reading through old threads lately to get away from my social media feed and my heart goes out to you all.
I am trying not to completely break down. I feel like I did everything right-- I literally pulled myself up by my bootstraps-- but I'm back at square one again. Worked myself to the bone to get through college without loans. Graduated with the highest GPA in my class and started a business and literally built it from the ground up. Turned a small profit last year, but this year my business was about to blow up. We literally had a Superbowl commercial!! And I am not even kidding you (A local bank featured us as an example of a small local business that they supported, so technically the commercial was for the bank but we were 99% of the commercial). Then the pandemic hit and everything I built is in smithereens. Lost a $20,000 contract on week 1 of the lockdown. My state has not set a definitive date when group events can resume which puts my entire year in jeapordy (my business revolves around large events and festivals). Didn't qualify for any SBA loans or PPP because we don't have employees, it's just my girlfriend and I, and we didn't have enough business credit history to qualify (that's what you get for investing your own cash into a business instead of taking out a business loan. Smh). My business is in serious risk of going under.
If that wasn't bad enough, in addition to owning a business I also do freelance writing and 2 of my main gigs just pulled their contracts because of funding issues. My girlfriend works in a medical clinic and has been furloughed for 3 months. Neither of us have seen a dime of unemployment and they haven't even told me if I'll qualify or not yet since I'm self employed.
I have been living in poverty my whole life. When I danced I spent 60-70% of my income on college tuition, so even when I was making good money dancing I still lived like a pauper driving a 35 year old junker car and wearing thrifted clothes. This was supposed to be the first year of my life that I didn't live on the absolute minimum a person can survive on. And now I'm back to square one again, my business on the verge of collapsing, no steady or reliable freelance work in sight, and no guarantee that I won't be homeless in the next few months.
My heart is completely broken.
kortneykay
05-19-2020, 11:03 PM
They just pushed our 5pm curfew to 9pm here, no permission needed now as we had to text 24h before going anywhere with our passport #, previously. You either got a yes, or a no and only 1-2 hours to shop, get what you need. All the restaurants are fully open to the public. Before you'd have to use a food delivery service. I'll wait and see if there's a wave of new covid cases before I mingle full time. I run errands, walk, exercise, go to the lake/park but as for socializing with crowds I'll wait and see if anything happens. If it doesn't, I'll participate. The borders are still locked here so I know new cases arent going to happen. However, with everyone rushing out again (1 mil people here), I want to see if anyone passes it. We've had extremely low #s and no new cases have happened. Only less than 35 people died here totally from covid and there's 1 person left in the hospital. 600 people got better who were sick.
lurkingtitties
05-20-2020, 07:45 AM
^^Amazing how people complying with strict lockdown orders drastically reduces the number of cases! Who would have thought???
Americans have been disappointing AF in their response to far milder lockdowns.
moneybags
05-21-2020, 01:46 AM
Haven't posted on sw for a few years. I quit dancing when I graduated college and moved to a state with no good clubs, but I still read ladies only threads from time to time. Ive been reading through old threads lately to get away from my social media feed and my heart goes out to you all.
I am trying not to completely break down. I feel like I did everything right-- I literally pulled myself up by my bootstraps-- but I'm back at square one again. Worked myself to the bone to get through college without loans. Graduated with the highest GPA in my class and started a business and literally built it from the ground up. Turned a small profit last year, but this year my business was about to blow up. We literally had a Superbowl commercial!! And I am not even kidding you (A local bank featured us as an example of a small local business that they supported, so technically the commercial was for the bank but we were 99% of the commercial). Then the pandemic hit and everything I built is in smithereens. Lost a $20,000 contract on week 1 of the lockdown. My state has not set a definitive date when group events can resume which puts my entire year in jeapordy (my business revolves around large events and festivals). Didn't qualify for any SBA loans or PPP because we don't have employees, it's just my girlfriend and I, and we didn't have enough business credit history to qualify (that's what you get for investing your own cash into a business instead of taking out a business loan. Smh). My business is in serious risk of going under.
If that wasn't bad enough, in addition to owning a business I also do freelance writing and 2 of my main gigs just pulled their contracts because of funding issues. My girlfriend works in a medical clinic and has been furloughed for 3 months. Neither of us have seen a dime of unemployment and they haven't even told me if I'll qualify or not yet since I'm self employed.
I have been living in poverty my whole life. When I danced I spent 60-70% of my income on college tuition, so even when I was making good money dancing I still lived like a pauper driving a 35 year old junker car and wearing thrifted clothes. This was supposed to be the first year of my life that I didn't live on the absolute minimum a person can survive on. And now I'm back to square one again, my business on the verge of collapsing, no steady or reliable freelance work in sight, and no guarantee that I won't be homeless in the next few months.
My heart is completely broken.
People like you don’t fail. All that matters is that you get back up once this is all over. You’re still young. You have plenty of time to rebuild. Honestly your biggest obstacle is getting back up after having the rugged pulled out underneath you. Sorry for your loss.
whirlerz
05-21-2020, 10:21 AM
So, right after eating, up pulls septic tank truck (it had overflow w/the rain).
I mean, glad it's here, it was needed, but..:yikes::yikes::yikes: the SMELL!!!
TG for a/c
Today's my B. Day/:O
Pokahantas
05-21-2020, 10:44 AM
Start camming. You can make some quick money. It helped me out a financial hole. So sorry you are going through this. Your story is so inspiring. Please don’t give up and stay strong. Things will get better.
Haven't posted on sw for a few years. I quit dancing when I graduated college and moved to a state with no good clubs, but I still read ladies only threads from time to time. Ive been reading through old threads lately to get away from my social media feed and my heart goes out to you all.
I am trying not to completely break down. I feel like I did everything right-- I literally pulled myself up by my bootstraps-- but I'm back at square one again. Worked myself to the bone to get through college without loans. Graduated with the highest GPA in my class and started a business and literally built it from the ground up. Turned a small profit last year, but this year my business was about to blow up. We literally had a Superbowl commercial!! And I am not even kidding you (A local bank featured us as an example of a small local business that they supported, so technically the commercial was for the bank but we were 99% of the commercial). Then the pandemic hit and everything I built is in smithereens. Lost a $20,000 contract on week 1 of the lockdown. My state has not set a definitive date when group events can resume which puts my entire year in jeapordy (my business revolves around large events and festivals). Didn't qualify for any SBA loans or PPP because we don't have employees, it's just my girlfriend and I, and we didn't have enough business credit history to qualify (that's what you get for investing your own cash into a business instead of taking out a business loan. Smh). My business is in serious risk of going under.
If that wasn't bad enough, in addition to owning a business I also do freelance writing and 2 of my main gigs just pulled their contracts because of funding issues. My girlfriend works in a medical clinic and has been furloughed for 3 months. Neither of us have seen a dime of unemployment and they haven't even told me if I'll qualify or not yet since I'm self employed.
I have been living in poverty my whole life. When I danced I spent 60-70% of my income on college tuition, so even when I was making good money dancing I still lived like a pauper driving a 35 year old junker car and wearing thrifted clothes. This was supposed to be the first year of my life that I didn't live on the absolute minimum a person can survive on. And now I'm back to square one again, my business on the verge of collapsing, no steady or reliable freelance work in sight, and no guarantee that I won't be homeless in the next few months.
My heart is completely broken.
xxxGothBarbie
05-21-2020, 01:54 PM
So far , so good. My health is good which I'm far grateful for right now. After I get an important piece of mail in the next few days I will be finally leaving this living situation for good & hopefully finding something affordable that will allow me to cam again & get everything back on track. My sudden wave of intense depression is stemming from no space from bf (since neither of us work away from home) & of course other things that can be fixed once I leave here. I'm praying for the best situation for myself right now given the circumstances.
chanzep
05-21-2020, 04:43 PM
Happy birthday whirlez xx
buttonpop
05-21-2020, 10:36 PM
People like you don’t fail. All that matters is that you get back up once this is all over. You’re still young. You have plenty of time to rebuild. Honestly your biggest obstacle is getting back up after having the rugged pulled out underneath you. Sorry for your loss.
Your post nearly brought me to tears. Thank you for saying that. <3
Edited when I saw this other reply:
Start camming. You can make some quick money. It helped me out a financial hole. So sorry you are going through this. Your story is so inspiring. Please don’t give up and stay strong. Things will get better.
Camming isn't for me because I'm working towards a dream career in a very public facing industry. dancing is easier to hide, so I'll probably dust off my heels and go back to travel dancing as soon as the money comes back into the clubs again. Thank you for the tip though <3
I don't plan on giving up. I was born to make the most out of adversity. I have been using every single day of the lockdowns to work, either on my business or finding more freelance work, giving 110% at my remaining contract so when the layoffs come they know to keep me around, and on a creative project that could lead to $$$ down the road.
Thanks for your encouragement everyone. It felt good to vent but wallowing won't get me anywhere.
tempest666
05-23-2020, 02:54 PM
Fanfuckingtastic. I lost 20 pounds and I can't wait to show it off.
Morrigan
05-23-2020, 04:17 PM
Fanfuckingtastic. I lost 20 pounds and I can't wait to show it off.
Fuck!!! I think I actually found that extra 20 of yours temp,
moneybags
05-25-2020, 01:43 AM
I’m super stressed. Like I said a million times I can’t wait to see my sex worker friendly therapist. It feels like all the self-care in the world isn’t helping. Spent all day doing yoga, journaling, and meditating-I feel better, but not like my normal self. I figure we’re literally in a life or death situation, so I can’t expect much of myself than just surviving right now. I’ve set my daily intentions to the bare minimum. If I get out of bed, eat, meditate, do my gratitude journal, go for walk, shower, and just get on cam for any amount of time- I’m going to consider it with the same amount of admiration as if I climbed Mount Everest. I can’t expect to function at pre-pandemic levels. Frustrating as hell.
carmen_b
05-25-2020, 05:36 PM
^^I feel like that !
I just feel so NON-FUNCTIONAL with all this stuff .
I think many people are just EXHAUSTED from not earning AT ALL or not earning enough.
carmen_b
05-27-2020, 11:50 AM
Hey, I got a small win and this info may help someone else.
If you have a mortgage most lenders are offering 3-6 month deference ( you'll replay via a plan after or put on back of loan ). I believe they actually HAVE TO do this by law. This is not something they are advertising.
^ I just was approved for 90 days of this.
It does make me sad to need this but the fact is I do need it and it will help.
I am hoping they don't come back in three months and ask me to pay double but I just need help so much that not needing to make that payment is what I opted for.
carmen_b
05-27-2020, 11:54 AM
Tourists are slowly coming back to this area ( they are where i make 90% of my income ).
Everyone is just dying for a return to somewhat normal .
In the last 10 weeks my business has lost 22k retail and about 11k profit.
That is just the amount I know was booked too ( not counting any new customers that might have been with us April / May if the zombies hadn't attacked ).
Button, I think you mentioned a similar #. It kind of makes you feel SICK thinking of it BUT no family members had health issues ( yet ). That is also a huge win. The $ will eventually come back.
moneybags
05-29-2020, 06:03 AM
^^^Sorry for your loss. The money will come back.
My depression was kicking my ass, so I make small daily goals. Like getting out bed! Big Win! I did a lot of self-care and feel better. I’m not paying attention to the negative thoughts in my head and focusing on gratitude. It’s hard! I’m doing my LOA work. I did not want to go on cam, but I made myself do it (practicing opposite action). I made a little coin. My goal really was just to get comfortable with camming. It’s a lot different than dancing, but I’m so glad these guys can’t touch me! I just plugged in my LOA money affirmations on my headphones while I’m on cam-helped a lot!
This is one hell of a crisis to go through, but I’m determined to bounce back.
carmen_b
05-29-2020, 11:55 AM
I had a bad day yesterday and just am chalking it up to accumulated stress.
I mean ..... this has been a LONG time ...... 10 weeks now on a very very limited income ( for me that has included card advances , parents loan , former SD gift I didn't want to ask for ). At *some* level I know it's an emergency situation but on the other ..... it *feels* like a failure. A business that isn't earning is depressing. I do feeling exhausted often.
My dad ( not SD but actual dad haha ) helped me by calling the IRS to get my stimulus payment sent to new address. I feel very hopeful about that now.
I am still fighting with my state to get unemployment. They are requesting a 2019 schedule C ( to get it I'll need to estimate it ). My income is very similar to 2018. I wish they would just push it through. I'm sick of fighting for everything.
carmen_b
05-29-2020, 11:59 AM
Positives :
I found some healing spaces in my new city ( a yoga / meditation place I'm excited to try really soon ). Also a beauty school which I consider a healing space because getting your hair washed / dried / styled for like $8 is such amazing self care.
moneybags
05-30-2020, 04:23 AM
^^^ jealous. I’d love to get my hair done. I did it myself and it doesn’t look bad, but it doesn’t look good either. To these guys I’m just a blonde with big tits so they don’t give a shit, but I do!
Doing a bit better. I just try to do a little bit more than the day before.
carmen_b
06-04-2020, 09:03 AM
I think I might be making some progress. I got an email saying the Pandemic Unemployment Amount for me ( weekly ) was determined at $211. So ..... I think I get that and $600 a week ?
I'm very excited if I'm reading this right . It's been 10.5 weeks of making almost nothing.
I have that email yesterday which seems very promising but I don't have anything deposited into my account yet.
BambiCutie
06-04-2020, 09:54 AM
Left my crazy ass, psycho Family and finally got our own separate place.
Ms. Crazy has tried so hard to fight back for that loss of narcissistic power supply.
She will never be invited over, because she is capable of anything when going through power withdraws.
On a more positive note, I have been feeling so much better!! :goodvibes
Can finally breathe and not feel trapped under her narcissistic whining and manipulation.
The ability to sleep and work without stress has been drastically incredible!
Now time for healing.. :meditate:
moneybags
06-04-2020, 10:26 AM
^Yay!!!
https://youtu.be/HCvdfM6FV1Y I’m working on manifestation. Here’s a video about it manifesting in today’s crazy world.
AChildOfBoredom
06-04-2020, 10:01 PM
I’ve been barraged lately with people telling me I should consider taking a vacation.
moneybags
06-05-2020, 01:27 PM
I’ve been barraged lately with people telling me I should consider taking a vacation.
Because your stressed? How weird. I don’t think I could relax even on vacation. Sounds stressful worrying about staying safe. I’d just rather chill at home.
AChildOfBoredom
06-05-2020, 11:50 PM
Because your stressed? How weird. I don’t think I could relax even on vacation. Sounds stressful worrying about staying safe. I’d just rather chill at home.
No more than usual. They tell me I’m just trying to do too much and I never take a breather. Just the way I am.
moneybags
06-06-2020, 12:09 AM
No more than usual. They tell me I’m just trying to do too much and I never take a breather. Just the way I am.
Me too! It's just the way I am-Type A personality. My idea of a vacation is like a retreat. I don't take a lot of vacations, but take blocks of time to do stay at home retreats where I just journal and meditate. Unless someone is paying for my vacation, I'm not likely to enjoy it that much. Like it has to mean something to me to leave me house. There's got to be a really good reason to pack all my belongs and unpack my belongs somewhere else.
AChildOfBoredom
06-06-2020, 12:12 AM
Me too! It's just the way I am-Type A personality. My idea of a vacation is like a retreat. I don't take a lot of vacations, but I block of time to do stay at home retreats where I just journal and meditate. Unless someone is paying for my vacation, I'm not likely to enjoy it.
I think I could enjoy a vacation, so that’s not really it. I just have so much going on, and I’m not really keen on going overseas on vacation. I know it sounds silly and it’s not the same thing, but the one time I went overseas, I kinda got blown up, so it puts a little bit of a bitter taste in my mouth when it comes to seeing the world.
carmen_b
06-08-2020, 12:52 PM
I think it's been 5-7 since they determined my amount. I'm set up for the auto deposits . I haven't had a deposit yet.
I'm frustrated with this again. It just seems to never be ending. Am I actually EVER going to get some help?
carmen_b
06-08-2020, 12:53 PM
On the plus side a day job customer paid me 1k in cash on Friday which felt AMAZING . It feels like what 4-5k used to feel like haha.
ioienvyioi
06-08-2020, 01:39 PM
Im doing ok for now. I'm working my regular job and doing doordash. I also am seeking a home equity loan again after a failed attempt. Doing your taxes as a stripper and proving your income sucks. I am hoping with this new contact I am trying I can get approved. If worse comes to worse I will sell my house. Currently I rent it out and get some money for it. I don't really want to sell but it is what it is. I have way too much credit card debt to pay off. Also I am working on losing 15lbs bc I think I'm too fat to dance. I know its not that bad but I won't return to work till I lose it. I started a new diet so I'm going to stick with it.
(Proud of you Tempest for losing weight!! I know I can do it if you did! I just gotta get there)
buttonpop
06-10-2020, 09:20 PM
I think it's been 5-7 since they determined my amount. I'm set up for the auto deposits . I haven't had a deposit yet.
I'm frustrated with this again. It just seems to never be ending. Am I actually EVER going to get some help?
I feel your pain. Me and my girlfriend have been filing for unemployement for 12 weeks now. Neither of us has recieved any money yet. They owe my gf $8,000. I dont know how much they owe me because they haven't even told me if I qualify or not, but I'm pretty sure I'm owed at least 4-5,000.
Our landlord is raising our rent an exorbitant amount (Literally 40% of our current rent) and we can't afford to move into a cheaper place because we dont have any money for a deposit. We only have 1 month of living expenses left before we are both compeltely broke. I've heard other people in my state who've been waiting 11 weeks have had their cars reposessed-- so I guess I should feel grateful we have at least a month left until things get bad. Its hard not to feel hopeless.