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xxxGothBarbie
01-03-2021, 01:46 PM
Someone I use to stay with here & there had a bad roach problem & I got so sick of it that I couldn't stay there anymore despite it being free :( I literally had an audience of roaches when I'd try to cook in the kitchen, it SUCKED! I told her too that I'd help with the defogging spraying etc but she wouldn't do it. She also never opened her windows in fear that her dam cats would get out somehow ugh
It's no wonder she was always sick bc you need fresh air! Dunno how in the world ppl can live with roaches & filth!
AChildOfBoredom
01-03-2021, 01:47 PM
Every time I look at this thread, I become more and more thankful that I managed to dodge that bullet.
xxxGothBarbie
01-03-2021, 02:04 PM
So. Been chomping at the bit here, to post, internet wonky w/the snow..
Pull up a chair, gonna be long :)
Here's the latest fallout/bs, (in no particular order):
The cutie upstairs (my crush) rented the little house behind me (w/his boss) for an office..the B that lived there had to move cause of some quirky county zoning bs..not a bad thing for me anyways (more on this later). It can't be lived in, the heat has to run cause of the well in there..
Btw, the place's FULL.OF.ROACHES..the maintenance fogged 2mo ago, I offered to fog since then, landlord declined..::)
The Kitchen, here. Holy.fuckin.Hazmat!:yuck::yikes::wide-eyed
53800
53801
53802
There's more, U get the picture.. Just dumped more boric acid powder around..notice, BOTH sinks full, they can't even move to one, to let me use..
I gave landlord my previous list, he did have maintenance guy bring the salt, after I told him I'd have a problem paying if I can't get my car out of the lot::)
Im gonna have to do whatever it takes to gtfo out of here, there's absolutely NO POINT of me discussing anything w/ANY of them whatsoever, (especially LL) believe me, I've tried..a waste of time. They.dont.CARE, roaches, filth doesn't matter to them..Just ignore them from now on:). I still have to live w/them:( Silent warfare?:no:
I have to pay big to live here, + storage, eating out cause can't deal w/kitchen, so..
Im working now, there's gotta be someplace decent I can get for my self, time to fire up the Asus, use encoder, part time job, food delivery.
Eventually, I see this place heading for condemning.
Anyway, sorry for the novel, best to All
Thanks I!
Reminds me of how elder landlady & her man child son lived at my bf's place i was just at. She had this stupid thing (rule) about not putting dishes on our side of the sink bc she couldn't use the faucet if it were there LOL yet the bitch has put HER dishes on our side and left it there *eyeroll* I'm so glad to be out of that hellhole ugh Nasty ass ppl!
She & her son would both leave food out that was half eaten on the counters, no wonder they had a mice problem once! She never cleaned either, always just sat on her ass & ate sweets. Always came in the kitchen when she'd hear us too and try to get all chummy, no thanks lady I don't like you!
My last week there she was going around telling my bf that she kinda had a sore throat blah blah & apparently had been coughing alot more than usual. Yet she was NOT keeping her distance from us! I got so mad I started talking shit knowing that her son was in the room next door & would prob tell her what I said. I hoped he did bc she is not careful about covid.
indiegirl
01-04-2021, 03:01 AM
He did wash the dishes (after them sitting all day).
Not the garage tho, it's gross, I'M NOT fuckin' taking it out..he can do it saw him take 2 bags out from his room. (He uses excuse of his knee). I rarely even throw anything in there, I use my own.
Ha, the maintenance guy told me that was bs over the phone!
I don't see any roaches (that doesn't mean we don't have) I check & keep the boric acid going!
Girllllll been there.. the dishes and crap not disposed is my biggest pet peeve ever. I'll get a fork or a cooking device laying out rarely nowadays not physical dishes with females. Women roomies are more interested in cleanliness other than cleaning the house themselves at all. Sure mine don't clean the house for sterilization/upkeep but it's better than a male roomie. The worst was living with my brother way back when I was super young (all of those living with men in this forum good luck)....he would just dump dishes/cups in the sink like nobody was gonna deal with it and it was trash. Boy I had to deal with it. I had the convo of "move it to the dishwasher immediately so I can do the dishes and his brain never received it during multiple conversations. His fiancee gets to deal with that cleanliness issue now :). Many guys are messy to live with compared to women.
Sitting on a cold upraised toilet accidentally because he decided not to shut the lid down nor clean his pee mess up. LOL I do not miss.
carmen_b
01-04-2021, 09:31 AM
Well off to give my housemate $250 for the room for first half of Jan. that I won’t use a single day in the first half of the month.
Haha
#notsalty
AChildOfBoredom
01-04-2021, 02:19 PM
I’ve been fortunate as far as roommates go, but neighbors could be real shitheads. Apartment living is the worst, especially when you live next to two lonely ass dudes who always seem to be creeping on you. The building had a little courtyard and people were freaking out one day because there was a Copperhead snake in the courtyard. So they (including the creepy ass bros) were gathered around a distance away from it just staring at this snake. I have no problem handling snakes, so I found something to pin its head down with, picked it up, and before I took it out of the courtyard, I walked over to and held it out towards them and asked if they wanted a closer look. You wanna see two ‘grown men’ run off screaming like toddlers, that’ll do it. They left me the fuck alone after that.
xxxGothBarbie
01-04-2021, 09:54 PM
He's not my roommate per sy more like my hotel neighbor down the hallway really. He keeps fucking coughing like mad & walking up & down this hallway all dam evening & stressing me out about covid. I've had to walk this hall more times today than I've wanted to bc I'm that paranoid. Why doesn't he stay in his dam room if he's gonna cough constantly?!
Im gonna bounce on Thurs bc between the high surge here in LA Im waaay too paranoid to stay here another week just bc I want privacy for a bit before going & staying with a relative. PPL annoy the fuck out of me with this crap! I dunno how any of you are dealing with living with others in the same house bc of covid, I'd be beyond paranoid with high anxiety rn omg. Im wearing 2 masks at a time with sunglasses to walk down this hallway Im that scared.
xxxGothBarbie
01-07-2021, 06:48 PM
Well.
Caved in & brought the empty dumpsters back, (btw garbage p/u was Monday) I had put notes up for the lazy POS upstairs (w/the gf that's over) conveniently ignored. There was a full bag in the kitchen,.I couldn't take it anymore.
What if we got a code violation for the dumpsters sitting up front, (we've had 2 already for other stuff) & the county decides we have to GTFO?? No, they don't care or think of that, but if you have issues find a place (background check) lots of luck!
Also, someone had the balls to already dump their garbage in the empty, & Fucking leave it there?? I asked the molster to do it yesterday, "Oh, if I remember"?::)>:(
Im just getting my own mail from now, working almost 3 jobs, my neck hurts from car accident.
Their mail can sit in the leaky, wet mailbox & fuckin' ROT!
That's why the old witch that lived in the back asked me to get her mail, her grandson, won't do shit
Dam girl you need to move out asap! That place sounds so infuriating! If it were me I'd been kicked out already for blowing up at everyone LOL
lurkingtitties
01-08-2021, 05:27 AM
I’m contemplating asking my landlord if I can start paying rent for the empty bedroom and using it to grow weed. With 2 adults living here I could have a lot of plants going in there at once, legally. Would be a big expense to start though, and I’d have to look into if I’d need some kind of grower license to be allowed to sell to the dispensaries here.
whirlerz
01-08-2021, 06:32 AM
Dam girl you need to move out asap! That place sounds so infuriating! If it were me I'd been kicked out already for blowing up at everyone LOL
IKR!
There's actually 1 decent guy here, he helps w/stuff like the dumpsters..
Today, just now, he put salt on my steps & bought me a new outdoor mat, he said it's too slippery.
He also bought a mat for the front
whirlerz
01-09-2021, 10:32 AM
Ok, I get that you're cooking (on top of yesterday's uncleaned up slop):yuck: do you HAVE to continually SLAM cabinet & microwave doors??>:(
Of course, they'll leave their dirty filth sitting there
carmen_b
01-10-2021, 05:43 PM
I didn't / won't use the room at ALL Jan. 1-15 :/
There was surplus AirBnB space so ....... waste.
BUT I will need 5-6 nights Jan. 16-30 .
I guess it's not a total waste.
I am kind of agitated with J over this.
It's our main " issue " and otherwise / overall it's all good except for this !!
I told myself I'd just stop talking to him at 10 months ( Jan. 26 ) if he doesn't just offer to let me eliminate this room rental.
It's so good otherwise though I worry I'd go back on it !! ^^
I easily have 8-12 days open at the AirBnB's ALWAYS per month and sometimes even more. It is just that they might not line up on the EXACT day ( Sunday ) when he first gets his daughter a few days each week. He likes to have that first day as no overnight for me which I'm totally fine with ( and willing to rent the cheapie hotel in town if needed if one of two AirBnB's I manage are not vacant ).
It would be nice to not need this room after Feb.
Maybe this adjusted schedule he has going will shift something.
Renting a room IN ADDITION to all this vacany with the AirBnB's just seems really wasteful.
whirlerz
01-11-2021, 06:03 AM
Aha hahaha!
This idiot on my floor, again tripped the circuits..
I know cause the power in my bathroom's out, my crush guy (electrician) was helping him, I thought this was solved!>:(
So I said, F it, Im NOT touching it (I have fusebox in my room). He saw me in the kitchen, asked me to turn it on
He asked me to turn it on, I said, NO, you won't help with dumpsters so no. & ask the maintenance guy, he's the one that told me to do. that!
Idiot runs a fuckin' heater AND a microwave in a bedroom, there's microwave steps from his door in the kitchen.
Yeah, I'm a B. THANK YOU.
whirlerz
01-11-2021, 12:24 PM
Ahahaha!
Just home from pt job, cash my sm check, _ he asked me again!
Told him get & put the dumpsters back, which he did!
So, I turned it back on , "Don't do it Again"!! :)
carmen_b
01-11-2021, 05:07 PM
So was that extra from cute roomie for you ?^
whirlerz
01-11-2021, 11:02 PM
So was that extra from cute roomie for you ?^
NO. I asked him, & he made it crystal clear it was for him. PIG.
I mean, fine, I get it, you're doing good, but yeah, shove it up some one's ass?
How stupid I feel. I blocked his #. :-[
Also, took the mat & put it by the other entrance, he put a mat there too, I put by his nasty office door, the little house in back. He'd given me a tape measure, I gave that back too . Stupid, maybe, but makes me feel slightly better.
carmen_b
01-12-2021, 08:37 AM
^ I’m shocked honestly he would say he gave extra knowing you are struggling . Very odd .
carmen_b
01-12-2021, 12:40 PM
^ Lame !!
Hey we’ve all been disappointed by a pretty face / body on occasion !!
Moving ON !! I really thought he had your back ( threw in Like $50-$100 for you or something )!
Oh well!!!
carmen_b
01-12-2021, 12:41 PM
Off to go pull $250 out for 2nd half of month !
Haven’t stayed one day yet. :/
But I think I’ll need about 6 nights in next two weeks so not a total waste.
LoveyDovey
01-13-2021, 03:30 PM
I put my 30 days in today.
whirlerz
01-14-2021, 12:50 AM
So, the guy upstairs left his stuff all over, (again). He's been off work because of the other guy having the virus..yet he still can't be bother to do anything, probably cause his girl's over::)
I'm going talk to him tomorrow, I'm trying to take care of the sick guy, (I make him food & light shopping) cam, & look for a work from home job..give me a fucking break here
carmen_b
01-14-2021, 11:05 AM
At least I have stayed one night at the place is spent $500 on in Jan. ! Lol
I do plan to be there this Sat / Sun too after wrapping this road trip with J so at least it's currently at a nightly average of $165 ish hahahaha.
My friend is Vegas was insisting that if I don't use the room more than 3 days in the month to just stay there a week straight Jan. 23-30 in order to bring the average to $50 a night and tell J why I'm doing this. I'm not really sure that approach will work or if I have the heart for it but I do see what he is saying.
indiegirl
01-14-2021, 11:32 AM
I put my 30 days in today.
What are your official plans? It's great to move.
LoveyDovey
01-14-2021, 01:38 PM
What are your official plans? It's great to move.
My house, once again, stinks like fried fish. 29 more days!
I plan on staying in San Diego for another 6 months,. After that, I am not sure. It all depends on the covid situation. I then may move to L.A. if my work there picks up.
Right now I am looking for a clean, quiet place in SD with maybe only 1 other person, 2 max in a covid safe household. I'm hoping to find a place with my own bathroom or entrance.
The only reason why I settled for the place/shithole I'm in now was because at the time I moved in, my car was broken and I was borrowing my son's car to work. So I had to find a place to stay that was close to my son so I could walk to borrow his car. Also, it was in July, and during the summer it's harder to find a place around here that's decent. So I'm hoping to move while it's still winter, when places are easier to find.
Now that my car is repaired, I don't necessarily have to live so close to kiddo anymore, even though I still prefer to.
Right now I paid 800 for my room. I'm finding way nicer places online for the same price so heck yeah I want to get out of here. I'm going to take photos of this place so you guys can see what a dump it is.
carmen_b
01-14-2021, 03:17 PM
If you can at all swing it try to bump up to $900 budget .
Sounds so similar to Hawaii. Renting a ROOM is $800-$900.
carmen_b
01-14-2021, 03:18 PM
I could easily stay where I am for 5-6 weeks. Obviously I’m hoping partner will just see that there is enough vacant AirBnB space to call it good and not need this weird alternate space I only use 3-5 days a month.
Alternatively ( just looking ahead ) I’d like to cap my stay at another 6 weeks and shift towards a situation with just one roommate who works 9-5 or get serious about buying down here. If I end up buying / setting a household up and dragging stuff down here I will not go forward with partner anymore. That to me is beyond stupid . It wouldn’t hurt really to get a property down here financially but I just can’t imagine not setting up a home with my partner!
I also want to move about 15-20 closer to the more busy area of town in about 6 weeks . I hope to have my damn real estate license by then. I like my rural setting but there will be more business just a touch over.
AChildOfBoredom
01-14-2021, 03:20 PM
I was looking at rental costs here. While not So Cal prices, I gotta say I let the Irish woman off pretty easy as far as that goes (she’s the only contracted renter here).
carmen_b
01-14-2021, 03:27 PM
I got SO lucky ! The more luxe AirBnB was open Jan 1-12! It was so nice having the big one that whole time. :)
carmen_b
01-14-2021, 04:45 PM
^ Child she is probably grateful and knows she is getting a deal. My renters get a good deal at the home I pay the mortgage on. When I had a move out with no notice I panicked and just wanted someone in asap hahaha. NEXT time I will actually rent it at market.
AChildOfBoredom
01-14-2021, 10:14 PM
^ Child she is probably grateful and knows she is getting a deal. My renters get a good deal at the home I pay the mortgage on. When I had a move out with no notice I panicked and just wanted someone in asap hahaha. NEXT time I will actually rent it at market.
I didn’t really know what I was doing. Her money helps, but I don’t really need it, so I just kinda made an educated guess based on what I expected the increased upkeep cost of her being here to be (and actually overestimated it a little). So, yeah, compared to what others are paying, it’s a great deal. She gets a decent-sized bedroom, a bathroom pretty much to herself, a room that’s furnished for her, including a TV with a Roku, WiFi… and a couple fringe benefits. Cat companionship, since the cat started sleeping in her room ever since I got the dog, and since I just subscribe to Dollar Shave Club instead of buying expensive razors, I just got a handle for her and let her use those, plus I stock the toilet paper in her bathroom, her laundry gets done for her by the others, etc.
whirlerz
01-16-2021, 08:28 AM
Well, thanks to King Baby Asshole upstairs (the guy w/gf) he left his shit in the sink 3 fuckin' days.
I left him a note under his door, like he'll give a shit. I took.a pic of note
It was a blender, which I sliced open my thumb, thank u very much!>:(
My hand I use all the time
It took a LONG time to stop bleeding, I put, peroxide, hand sanitizer & its has a band aid now..
Just now see I have a smaller cut as well on other finger:(
So pissed whhyy, trying to cam before Landlord gets here to bitch me out for late rent. He wont care do anything or even talk to the guy.
Idk, I just wanted to keep kitchen clean:(.
My bad.
indiegirl
01-16-2021, 12:40 PM
LOLLLL any time I see a long black hair I know I can't blame it on me if a long hair is stuck on the shower wall or somewhere obvious. It's one of their hairs. I feel like "fuck this blonde hair" hahaha if a hair falls and I have to pick it up. We all know it would be mine. I only have hispanic roommates LOL
carmen_b
01-16-2021, 01:59 PM
Well I'll get NO alone time in the next three days I estimate BUT I am moving through school regardless.
I'm in my room with noise cancel headphones on tight ! Ha.
As soon I started the class my ( a married couple ) roomies started fighting about something !
Not my problem. Turning up the headphones haha.
carmen_b
01-16-2021, 02:01 PM
I have renters leaving one of the AirBnB's on Monday so I'll use it as my quiet office space all day.
whirlerz
01-16-2021, 02:18 PM
Well, thanks to King Baby Asshole upstairs (the guy w/gf) he left his shit in the sink 3 fuckin' days.
I left him a note under his door, like he'll give a shit. I took.a pic of note
It was a blender, which I sliced open my thumb, thank u very much!>:(
My hand I use all the time
It took a LONG time to stop bleeding, I put, peroxide, hand sanitizer & its has a band aid now..
Just now see I have a smaller cut as well on other finger:(
So pissed whhyy, trying to cam before Landlord gets here to bitch me out for late rent. He wont care do anything or even talk to the guy.
Idk, I just wanted to keep kitchen clean:(.
My bad.
Yea, he just left me a NASTY note: don't Touch oe break anything else (didn't know I broke any thing, maybe a cheap glass. pig
He'll probably tell his grandma, (she used to live in back, in a little house, its rented as an office by the other dude upstairs) & she'lk come stab me or something
whirlerz
01-16-2021, 02:52 PM
So, I see I did indeed break a glass
I put a yellow sticky note I said "Im sorry it was an accidental, how much is it"?
LoveyDovey
01-16-2021, 04:48 PM
So not only is this place a dirty dump, but they're so careless about turning off lights, etc. that now we aren't allowed to use the washer/dryer BC the utility bill is too high. I'm always turning shit off. And at 1 am last night they decided to blast club music and I had to ask my housemate to close his door so it wouldn't be so loud. Ugh. 29 more days...
Good news is that I found a place that I went to check out. It's $100 less and super clean and nice, and I'll have my own bathroom! With hiking trails nearby too! I liked the dude who owns the house. He apologized for it being so dirty but from what I saw, it was spotless. Putting my application in today or tomorrow. Wish me luck!
whirlerz
01-16-2021, 04:58 PM
Good luck!
I always turn lights off, landlord doesn't care, but rhey could ve considerate
whirlerz
01-16-2021, 05:30 PM
So, I see I did indeed break a glass
I put a yellow sticky note I said "Im sorry it was an accidental, how much is it"?
So I just went out to kitchen, after the note^ & the broken glass, which I offered to pay for.. every thing gone.
Just had to act like a scary D*ck, huh
Everything's gone
xxxGothBarbie
01-16-2021, 09:37 PM
Thought I'd add to this that since I've been back in a hotel with my own private bathroom & room I am SOOOO much happier. Ya it's expensive but what isn't right now? Also the beauty part is , I can leave anytime I like & return at my leisure. Eating out is pricey but I've been eating less & losing weight slowly so I guess thats a plus. I just wanted to say that I'm done with roommates for a while.
Wasn't realizing how stressful living with others was until now. I can tell a difference with my body & my depression.
carmen_b
01-16-2021, 10:29 PM
Nice ! ^
indiegirl
01-16-2021, 10:47 PM
Thought I'd add to this that since I've been back in a hotel with my own private bathroom & room I am SOOOO much happier. Ya it's expensive but what isn't right now? Also the beauty part is , I can leave anytime I like & return at my leisure. Eating out is pricey but I've been eating less & losing weight slowly so I guess thats a plus. I just wanted to say that I'm done with roommates for a while.
Wasn't realizing how stressful living with others was until now. I can tell a difference with my body & my depression.
Totally know the feeling. It feels great not having roommates when you want to shower, walking around naked LOL, or go in the kitchen. Not having to do that small talk conversation while doing chores/bringing in groceries. Just peace and quiet. You're so lucky to live alone! Miss that.
LoveyDovey
01-17-2021, 06:04 AM
Thought I'd add to this that since I've been back in a hotel with my own private bathroom & room I am SOOOO much happier. Ya it's expensive but what isn't right now? Also the beauty part is , I can leave anytime I like & return at my leisure. Eating out is pricey but I've been eating less & losing weight slowly so I guess thats a plus. I just wanted to say that I'm done with roommates for a while.
Wasn't realizing how stressful living with others was until now. I can tell a difference with my body & my depression.
So glad to hear this! It's so nice not having to deal with gross people.
carmen_b
01-17-2021, 09:36 AM
Yesterday was so nice.
No one was here about 1-6 pm
Today though , bleh. I noticed they go to church Sunday about 10-Noon. I was looking forward to that time! Now the church is on the TV loudly !! :(
Haha
indiegirl
01-17-2021, 10:12 AM
Good luck!
I always turn lights off, landlord doesn't care, but rhey could ve considerate
Are lights on all the time an issue in the living room, kitchen, bathroom for most people? I keep them on so nobody trips and sues me lol.
carmen_b
01-17-2021, 07:34 PM
My roomies are traveling Tuesday eve to Thursday eve
It will be nice to have the house to myself. Oddly this week both AirBnbs are fully sold so I didn't expect ANY alone time.
It was this hidden bonus. I offered to take both of their dogs haha. Just me and THREE fur babies.
I hoped they would return favor when I go to Vegas again in two weeks . Maybe they will take my dog a couple days.
carmen_b
01-18-2021, 09:58 AM
^ Now that I know I have whole house to myself 48 hours I feel less agitated about spending the $500 this month.
I do have to admit that with J having his daughter 4 days this week it’s nice to spend two solo and two with them. 4 days straight would be a little much.
carmen_b
01-18-2021, 10:02 AM
My housing situation would be so perfect if the woman worked outside the home haha !!
Like recently the husband was here and I barely noticed him ! He was out working in garage ect!
He is gone now but she is here and I have heard her ( talking to cleaner loudly or on phone at various times ) ALL morning !!
I like her too haha ! It’s just NEVER quiet when she is here.
carmen_b
01-18-2021, 10:05 AM
They got a new dog too. Another rescue.
So it’s now three dogs to three humans!
BYOD required to live here haha.
LoveyDovey
01-18-2021, 02:26 PM
This place is so gross and I can't wait to GTFO.