View Full Version : Do you have any regrets
charlie61
01-12-2021, 11:03 AM
^Right, great points!! I think it's complicated by the fact that a lot of dancers handle the money as under-the-table money, so they usually aren't able to put it into investments. 30% tax is hard to swallow when you have bills to pay and are working a job without much societal support and acknowledgment.
And also, what 18-20 year olds are super great with money, whether they work at a grocery store or in a club? I was lucky to grow up with good financial advice from my mom, so i started a Roth IRA at 18. Which is kind of rare. But even with that benefit, and even though i feel like i saved pretty well, i could have saved so much more cash. That said, i don't have any regrets. I still came out way ahead compared to where i would've been with a vanilla job, and i had fun with what i bought. It helped me learn what i do and don't enjoy...i could do everything from buying a pet to taking my sister out for sushi to buying photography equipment. Sure, i bought a lot of junk, too, but to some degree, that's part of having fun in life. I don't want to restrict my spending and live like a clenched-up raisin until I'm 65, and then start enjoying what life has to offer. It's all about balance.
jack0177057
01-12-2021, 05:04 PM
I did everything I was supposed to do - college, law school, law firm, etc., and I still have many regrets. Sometimes my regret is not working harder to get an ivy league degree. (Which would not have made much difference, except for the prestige of having an ivy league diploma on my wall.) Other times, my regret is that I sacrificed my childhood dream of being an independent artist filmmaker for the financial security of a legal career.
There are always a hundred 'what if?' questions we ask ourselves. Every time we come to a fork in the road, we are forced to make 1 choice, and to forego the other roads. The older you become, the more you wonder about those other roads could have taken you - love, money, happiness?
But, you can't live your life in the past obsessing about 'what could have been'. Whatever path you took, it taught you valuable lessons, even if they were hard lessons. You have to learn from them and keep moving forward.
I grew up poor and I used to think the only way to rise to upper middle class was to pursue college/grad school degrees and become a lawyer, doctor or CEO. Now, I know better. I've had clients that are wealthy and happy and never stepped foot in a college. They forged their own path. Just one case in point - I know a high school drop out that got pregnant at 17. She got on youtube and talked about being an unwed teen mom. Other pregnant teens started following her. Within a few years, she was making more money than most college-grad professionals with her youtube channel. She shared her challenges and experiences as a teen mom and she gave advice to other teen moms and recommended affordable baby products. She could have spent the rest of her life regretting her 'poor life choices', but, instead, she was too busy becoming a successful youtube influencer.
Raven88
03-07-2021, 03:53 AM
I regret falling in love with a douchebag 9 years ago. He wasted years of my life and really hurt my self esteem which took me a long time to repair
LoveyDovey
03-08-2021, 06:23 PM
^^Same. I wasted my to e on douchebqgs. Focusing on healing myself and my life before I date anyone else. Then I'll attract someone who is a good guy and treat me with the respect I deserve. Time to focus on me.
AChildOfBoredom
03-10-2021, 04:12 AM
I kinda have a different take on it. I haven’t wasted my time on douchebags. While that may seem like a good thing, it also means I haven’t been through the “live and learn” of it, and I think it makes it difficult for me to discern if someone may actually be worthwhile. So, I just dismiss everyone. So, it could easily be possible that I may have met “the one”, but paid absolutely no mind. I think that experience to your claim makes you more cognizant of what the right qualities are, whereas I always just figure everyone is a douchebag.
miss.a.p1600
03-10-2021, 08:11 AM
I regret not learning about finance and investing sooner.
Well at least I know now and can show young people the same.
AngelCake
03-22-2021, 01:47 PM
I regret not stripping when I was 18 and went to college instead. I also regret trying to get fat in my mid 20s so men wouldn't look at me and stop trying to assault me.
DeathAndTaxes
03-23-2021, 11:22 PM
I deeply regret this past weekend, the only thing that keeps me sane is that I am confident I was targeted and victimized, that I cannot think my way out of anything if I am chemically blocked from thinking to begin with.
At least posting here helps for a minute or two.
Luci Fer
03-24-2021, 02:16 AM
I regret I did not go to see The Prodigy live when I had a chance! I could afford good tickets but thought 'nah, some next time'. Then boom- Keith Flint died. I was so frustrated. Next time, oh yeah. In next life. (fuck, I am still frustrated about it) After that I take every damn chance to see my fav musicians live. And I NEVER regret it lol.
305gurl
03-27-2021, 09:33 AM
Not knowing sooner about buying name-brand products at discounted prices and selling them for a profit at different countries.
Would have a huge inventory in my prime if I listen to a friend years ago.
Kylie8585
03-28-2021, 09:05 AM
I think for me I'd say I regret not getting into this industry sooner. I had a better body years ago and wonder what I could've done. I still do well but can't help but get a little jealous when I see the bodies of some girls I work with. They can just eat snacks right in front of me and still not gain anything!
mm621
04-15-2021, 09:57 AM
I regret spending all my early dancer money on stupid shit I didn’t need (clothes, partying, makeup, vacations), despite having the best intentions to save. Those were probably my best earning years, considering I had more freedom (and energy) to work longer hours and more days... But in my early 20s, I was making good money and was enjoying the fact that I could essentially blow $400 and think, “that’s okay, I’ll make at least that tonight.” Too much of that mindset does nothing for your future financial freedom/net worth, and now I literally have nothing to show for those early years. I’m gonna try and audition at a new club pretty soon and get back in the game, but with a serious mindset to save and invest the money (okay, buy a rental property or two and reinvest the stripping money for when I’m truly ready to give it up lol). I’ve already had my spending spree fun, and now it’s time to play catch up and make the money while I’m still relatively young. Lol
I also regret not having stronger boundaries in my 20s.. in the club and real life. I put myself in the stupidest (and possibly dangerous) situations because of my naivety. I also let people take advantage of me/push my boundaries, because I didn’t want to hurt THEIR feelings. I’m older now, and look back on those times and shake my head.
It is what it is tho! Can’t take back the past.. you can only learn and grow from it. ��
I regret not getting involved in the adult industry when it was at its prime; I was 18 in the mid 2000s. Like most women I was brainwashed by pick me women and men so my self esteem was low. I wish I would have had an “over the semester glow up” and finessed the industry at its prime. I want to do it now and it way harder, esp escorting.