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Djoser
02-11-2021, 03:48 PM
There's certain women that when they tell me the manager said they can leave, I go check with the manager immediately. Same with "I can't go onstage next, I'm doing a VIP!" :rotfl:

The ratio of men and women lying, men and women being jealous, men and women being manipulative, is about the same.

But the violence is not the same (despite some guys claiming it is), and it needs to stop.

Clara_M
02-12-2021, 01:36 PM
The ratio of men and women lying, men and women being jealous, men and women being manipulative, is about the same.

But the violence is not the same (despite some guys claiming it is), and it needs to stop.

I agree that the lying and stuff is about the same.

On violence, there's also the factor that "bare knuckle", men have much more of an ability to hurt women than the other way around, so the injuries will be disproportionately female no matter what.

Djoser
02-12-2021, 02:41 PM
I agree that the lying and stuff is about the same.

On violence, there's also the factor that "bare knuckle", men have much more of an ability to hurt women than the other way around, so the injuries will be disproportionately female no matter what.

Yes that too. I simply cannot comprehend men who want to hurt women. It needs to stop.

LoveyDovey
02-12-2021, 11:09 PM
I will agree that women also lie a lot too. I'm certainly not saying that they don't. There are a lot of b****** out there that I can't trust, that's for sure. I wish people were raised better LOL

LaurenAus
02-13-2021, 10:28 PM
I will agree that women also lie a lot too. I'm certainly not saying that they don't. There are a lot of b****** out there that I can't trust, that's for sure. I wish people were raised better LOL

that and wish everyone got therapy

moneybags
02-14-2021, 03:51 AM
that and wish everyone got therapy
Therapy is for people to deal with people who refuse to go to therapy...lol.

DeathAndTaxes
03-16-2021, 03:35 PM
Alright inside tip about relationships from a random dude.

1) Pay attention how he treats other women, not men because that is pure noise, but how they treat other women, the waitresses, the friends, the family members. That is how you will be treated when the honeymoon phase is over.

2) Jealousy, that is a tricky one you are going to have to work hard to massage that ego, vanilla girls will not have to worry about this and it is a shame but it is reality. It is work, but it is not impossible. Only the most secure men (like the 0.001%) can be maintenance-free.

3) Keeping a platonic friendship, platonic, there is no real hint except open communication, men don't like to talk about our feelings, you are going to have to be good at it and nip it in the bud before it ever starts. Don't hate friends for falling for you there are infinitely worse things in life than feelings (but the way people overreact about them is the reason we keep them to ourselves).

In short relationships are work. Have a good strategy, put in the effort and you can get ahead, leave it to blind luck and you are likely to lose.

TheBrownFox
03-16-2021, 10:43 PM
I agree! They seem to think sex work of any kind whether it's dancing, camming, pso, etc isn't a "real" job. They think that we genuinely are interested in dating any and all customers and use it to justify cheating. There's the Captain Save a Ho guys out there who pretend like they care and want to "save" us, when really they just want to get in between your legs. Heck, even non-sex work related men are not trustworthy. I've had a guy who was my friend from when I was 4 years old turn creepy after 22 years of platonic friendship. Any rare decent men amazes me anymore.


This. Dudes who know you IRL don't know how to act when they find out you cam, etc. They find out you're in sex work, and BAM! Watch how differently they treat you. If they didn't treat you like a piece of meat before, brace yourself. Now whenever they talk to you that's all they fucking care about. Turning any conversation with you sexual...wanting to know the name of the sites you're on, and they will not let the shit go. Saying things like "You should let me do a show with you sometime...*wink, wink*." *Eye roll* Nope. I keep IRL (in real life) stuff and people separate from sex work. I'm not giving details about that stuff with ANY person who knows my real name/where I live/used to work/etc., and has the ability to come into my free chat and blurt that shit out whenever they want. It's also why I have my state blocked. Yeah, yeah, yeah...I know geoblock isn't 100% foolproof. I don't care. I use it.

BambiCutie
03-20-2021, 11:57 AM
Notice the good majority of men want a nice woman, will go for the most attractive looking woman they find, then will bitch and moan creating the "Can't make a Wife out of a hoe."

54429

moneybags
03-20-2021, 02:21 PM
Alright inside tip about relationships from a random dude.

1) Pay attention how he treats other women, not men because that is pure noise, but how they treat other women, the waitresses, the friends, the family members. That is how you will be treated when the honeymoon phase is over.

2) Jealousy, that is a tricky one you are going to have to work hard to massage that ego, vanilla girls will not have to worry about this and it is a shame but it is reality. It is work, but it is not impossible. Only the most secure men (like the 0.001%) can be maintenance-free.

3) Keeping a platonic friendship, platonic, there is no real hint except open communication, men don't like to talk about our feelings, you are going to have to be good at it and nip it in the bud before it ever starts. Don't hate friends for falling for you there are infinitely worse things in life than feelings (but the way people overreact about them is the reason we keep them to ourselves).

In short relationships are work. Have a good strategy, put in the effort and you can get ahead, leave it to blind luck and you are likely to lose.

any hot tips on not getting murdered?

Im sorry, but not sorry. At first I ignored this post, but I think it shows your ignorance about the threats we face everyday.

Most women experience violence in an intimate relationship this is why we don’t trust men. They are statistically speaking the greatest threat to women’s health. I think you mean well, but your comment is shifting responsibility to women when it’s not our fault.

I think the problem with this kind of post is male fragility. Anytime a guy has to face the reality the men perpetrate against women they immediately go into explaining to women how not all men are that bad and what woman “should” do about it rather than accept it. We’re speaking our truth. The truth is ugly.

Lastly, I don’t hold you or other men personally responsible for the trauma that other men perpetuate, but when men dismiss or minimize women’s traumas by mansplaining (especially in a emotional support forum for sex workers!) it’s retraumatizing.

In fact I went to a women’s meeting where we talked about logical errors in thinking. One is generalizations “men can’t be trusted” although it is a generalization to be aware of you have to look at it in a nuanced way. If that generalization keeps a woman safe then there’s nothing wrong with being leery about men.

TheBrownFox
03-20-2021, 05:11 PM
I understand why whirlerz stated earlier that this probably would've been best placed in the Ladies Only section. I have a feeling it would've gotten even more replies there from ladies who are more comfortable speaking their mind in that section. Otherwise that's when this "mansplaining" stuff will occur, as well as men feeling like they need to constantly remind us "Well not ALL men are that way!" :P

indiegirl
03-20-2021, 06:52 PM
There's certain women that when they tell me the manager said they can leave, I go check with the manager immediately. Same with "I can't go onstage next, I'm doing a VIP!" :rotfl:

The ratio of men and women lying, men and women being jealous, men and women being manipulative, is about the same.

But the violence is not the same (despite some guys claiming it is), and it needs to stop.

Sounds like me. Both management and staff "sure you can dance to that song"....*plays something completely different*....doesn't work if they informed other staff in advance. Used to throw mints from the bar bowl at that MF-er and he put the thong song on stage for me or Who Let the Dogs Out song. I was livid. And that's the same DJ who asked me for sex in his car. *puke* nothing in life is free.

moneybags
03-21-2021, 01:40 AM
With all due respect I think Djoser is making a false equivalency. That’s quite deductive to say men lie and women lie? I see what he means, but that’s quiet a simplistic.

I do agree all people are capable of perpetuating against others. So I can agree with that, but women have experienced abuse on a different level than interpersonal relationships. We experience abuse on a daily basis from men. We’ve normalized to the point we don’t even think it’s that bad.

Again. I don’t think someone who hasn’t lived as a woman can ever REALLY understand waking up and going for a jog and getting your mace ready and hoping you can just be left alone and not have to deal with too much harassment that day.

“Women have been oppressed for millennia. Oppression is traumatic. If trauma is genetically transmitted, it may explain why women without any trauma history they could recall displayed trauma symptoms and adaptations.” -Patriarchal stress disorder

I’m not trying to argue, for the sake of arguing. I’ve spent all March studying women’s issues. So I have a lot to say on this topic is all. I’m really passionate about women’s empowerment. You can’t fix a hole in the wall you can’t see so...

SnuffleUffleGrass
03-21-2021, 06:46 AM
Notice the good majority of men want a nice woman, will go for the most attractive looking woman they find, then will bitch and moan creating the "Can't make a Wife out of a hoe."

54429

A lot of men are intimidated by having a too-beautiful woman. She attracts TOO much attention from other men. Now "guy" has to deal with other men trying to take her away.

I've noticed among men, most think it's okay to steal someone else's woman if she's willing to leave him. Women get hit with a lot of judgement for "man stealing"....It's not the same among hetero men.

On topic men tend to have more cut-throat competitive views on problem solving. Hence they're not easy to reason with when they attach less sentiment to their decisions.

Vyanka
03-30-2021, 10:01 PM
Most ppl can't be trusted. Men or women.. You gotta go by vibes and gut instincts. They never lie. I believe they are plenty of good trusting men out there. I've met a few and personallyknow some. And the ladies, some are just as bad as men now a days but hide it way better.

Vyanka
03-30-2021, 10:04 PM
I will agree that women also lie a lot too. I'm certainly not saying that they don't. There are a lot of b****** out there that I can't trust, that's for sure. I wish people were raised better LOL

Word. :yes:

Djoser
03-31-2021, 12:51 AM
Sounds like me. Both management and staff "sure you can dance to that song"....*plays something completely different*....doesn't work if they informed other staff in advance. Used to throw mints from the bar bowl at that MF-er and he put the thong song on stage for me or Who Let the Dogs Out song. I was livid. And that's the same DJ who asked me for sex in his car. *puke* nothing in life is free.

The Thong Song?? :rotfl:

That sucked way the hell back when I first started DJing, it still sucks now--but thankfully I haven't heard it in many years. I might play it if you put a gun to my head.

No, doesn't sound like you--though I don't really know you. Most of the women I was referring to don't bother much with reading or writing, much like the kind of dipshit DJs and managers you describe. Trust me, I've had to work with the motherfuckers. Daytona was a lot worse than down here though.

Djoser
03-31-2021, 01:20 AM
With all due respect I think Djoser is making a false equivalency. That’s quite deductive to say men lie and women lie? I see what he means, but that’s quiet a simplistic...


Well I didn't figure you'd want to read a lengthy essay about the various differences men and women experience dealing with the opposite sex. Fuck that :D

Yes, the violence against women is real. I've gone to the wall to stop it, and probably will again. The men claiming that women can get violent too are a fucking joke.

This really belongs in Ladies Only.

LoveyDovey
03-31-2021, 08:26 AM
When I left my ex, he tried to kill me. My father held me at gunpoint when I was 4. So yeah I don't trust men unless they give me a reason to.

AngelCake
03-31-2021, 03:29 PM
Lmao i havent trusted a man since I was a child. The majority of my experiences with men in or out of this work has been nothing but traumatic.

Fuego
08-05-2021, 09:15 PM
I rather value the thoughts of any man who would like to show an example of how he treated a woman in the sex industry with equality, honesty, love, and respect. I would love to hear some success stories. I know this whole subject is delicate and i am trying to treat it in a supportive manner.. Everyone here has their own story to tell...I think there is alot to learn from really listening to what others have to say

Dezire, this is for you,



I’m a white-collar successful professional just over 30. Pre-COVID I frequented the big dance clubs in Vegas and connected with some badass chicks in the sex-industry. We’re not all bad ladies, maybe one-track minded at times, certainly have our bad eggs, but think we all just want deep belonging with one another and don’t know how to go about it sometimes. This is my story with a certain lady:



I remember this girl in particular from her walk, there was a sense of purpose and grace about her movements that caught my attention as she walked up to me. I was sitting and enjoying some drinks with my food as our eyes met. My gaze was fixed as I enjoyed the view that was in front of me, a slight coy smirk crossing my face. She beams a “hello!” I say my hey back, our expressions relaxing into one another, embracing the moment. There's a slight pause before she blurts "You're cute!" (I know). Me: You are too, beb. I reply. After, we get into conversation, heavily flirting and teasing each other. The vibe was intimate and playful, getting to know where we’re from, family, likes and dislikes. She told me what side of town she lives on and I told her to be careful with that info cause I might shit in her mail box later. Lol :p



At this point her and I are in our bubble, cozied up on the couch together. Maybe after an hour and a half or so I noticed she looked cold so I wrapped my coat around her. She has a cute response, smiling and telling me how I'm not just an asshole, lol. She mentions how she wants to dance for me. We change topics but I make it a point a few minutes later to take her to the back for $100 / 15 min. In the back she gave me a fun, sexy and elegant dance.



So we're hanging out after, exchanged numbers, met up for some breakfast on the strip. She spent the night and we enjoyed each other's company and woke up cuddled up. I caught her an uber home and told her to text me when she got home. Her and I still hang out from time to time. We'll cook together over a couple glasses of wine and stuff like that. What she does isn’t a concern, it doesn’t come up, it doesn’t need to. Truth is I don’t care, I just care about her. Even though we’re not dating and I’m upfront that it will never happen for a myriad of reasons unrelated to her dancing, I always got her back regardless.



The point of this isn't necessarily to bring up some random day in the life but really that regardless of what we do, we deserve to be treated well and loved. Felt like as a man I should say that we're not all shitheads, lol.

trustfundkiller
08-05-2021, 09:23 PM
To be fair, I don't trust any stranger male or female. Trust is something that must be earned over time. It's not given freely. But, men can cause more harm to us. Biologically men are bigger and stronger, so I fear men more than women from a survival standpoint.

laurielegs
08-05-2021, 09:38 PM
Whenever I have fully completely trusted a man they always disappoint. I see women taken advantage of so much, seems it always eventually happens.

A woman should always protect herself emotionally, physically and financially.

eagle2
08-06-2021, 01:14 AM
I thought this article might be relevant:

8 Signs You May Be in an Abusive Relationship

https://femmefrugality.com/signs-abusive-relationship/

One other thing to watch out for is drug or alcohol addiction.

A suggestion if you're seriously considering getting involved in a relationship with someone. Do a background check.

National Domestic Violence Hotline:

https://www.thehotline.org/

Selina M
08-06-2021, 03:16 PM
Whenever I have fully completely trusted a man they always disappoint.

"I like that we say "Oh man" to express disappointment, because men are, in fact, disappointing."

Riverdale is a terrible, trashy show, but Cheryl Blossom had a fantastic line there.

Anyways, I don't trust men as a whole primarily in the sense that they are almost always trying to make things lead to sex or at least a date. It's never just that they want to be platonic friends. I think I know ONE guy who is friends with lots of women and legitimately doesn't have an ulterior motive with any of us. Any male friends I have at this point are either in serious LTRs/married, gay, or have been around since high school.

I can't even assume that dudes knowing my SO or being married means they don't have a motive. They're just biding their time usually.

This happened even just a month ago. Our married neighbor we'd known for a while, that talked to my SO way more than he did to me, waited until my SO was out of town and left me his number so we could "have the dogs have a playdate". During our few brief text convos, neighbor started lowkey talking shit about my SO plus kissing my ass.
2 weeks later, his wife apologizes for him being a creep/backstabber and tells us that they're divorcing because he's been cheating on her.

So yeah, case in point. I was annoyed and disappointed because one of my dogs LOVES his dog, and now they can't play anymore. I was literally bitching about "I just wanted the dogs to have a friend but no, guys gotta hit on me".

WendiStarr
08-06-2021, 08:15 PM
Just because someone has a clean background check doesn't mean they're not a bad guy. Bad guys can pretend to be good. They can seem nice, caring, loving, be working in the medical field, seem like a good person until you move in together, get married, or God forbid get pregnant. Pregnancy is one of the most vulnerable times in a woman's life. It's also when her spouse or boyfriend is most likely to become abusive and kill her. I'm lucky my wealthy, p.o.s. medical professional ex with a clean criminal background didn't kill me, although he tried to make me miscarry by pushing me down the stairs. No criminal record because money talks and shit walks. There's this saying about put a man in a room full of women and he'll be in Heaven. Put a woman in a room full of men and she'll be terrified.

eagle2
08-06-2021, 08:32 PM
I agree. Even if nothing shows up in a background check, you should still be very cautious. At least if he does have a criminal record, you'll find it in a background check, but even if he comes up clean, there's no guarantee that he's not going to be abusive or have other issues.

miss.a.p1600
08-06-2021, 08:33 PM
My motto right here .... Khia says it all....


https://youtu.be/UbSFoxHYuJA

laurielegs
08-07-2021, 12:36 AM
Just because someone has a clean background check doesn't mean they're not a bad guy. Bad guys can pretend to be good. They can seem nice, caring, loving, be working in the medical field, seem like a good person until you move in together, get married, or God forbid get pregnant. Pregnancy is one of the most vulnerable times in a woman's life. It's also when her spouse or boyfriend is most likely to become abusive and kill her. I'm lucky my wealthy, p.o.s. medical professional ex with a clean criminal background didn't kill me, although he tried to make me miscarry by pushing me down the stairs. No criminal record because money talks and shit walks. There's this saying about put a man in a room full of women and he'll be in Heaven. Put a woman in a room full of men and she'll be terrified.

Really sorry to hear that happened to you Wendi. (((hugs)))
The sad thing is, even if you've been together for years often a man will turn on you as you show signs of aging, or as you said, after you move in together or get married or get pregnant they can turn into a totally different person. I saw this way before I ever worked in the adult industry. Happens in all income levels and walks of life.

I used to work in a hospital and witnessed many men leave their wives and girlfriends when they were diagnosed with cancer or a disabling disease. Most often the women would stay by their partner's side. Rarely did they ever abandon them. I often wonder why and think - how could they just heartlessly leave their life partner like that?

Not only have I seen it happen to others I've had it happen to me, more than once (as I'm sure a lot of us have). I will never ever fully trust that way again and will always take steps to protect myself.

It's horrifying to see someone you once loved and adored turn into a completely different person. Often I find it's a sign they are seeing someone else behind your back. Sometimes it's even worse when they are a professional like a doctor or respected member of society because they are nearly always believed and defended by others no matter what the evidence shows.

BambiCutie
08-07-2021, 10:08 AM
So sick of investing trust in a man, only for them to go silent or act shocked when I naturally react towards their cocky, arrogant attitude or call them out on their obvious bullshit.
Also dislike those that randomly pause when talking or ending everything in a question, they just come off as a sarcastic asshole that like making shit awkward in an attempt to lower confidence in the other person.
Btw I can appreciate cute, beautiful, sexy girls, but if you have to constantly tell me how cute a girl is in detail or mention your ex in every, little flashback I'm going to nut punch you to the curb.
Aside from this, I am becoming very bitter regarding giving trust and always keep a distance between being physically or emotionally involved. I don't think I can trust another guy again after my separation is final.

StellaRose
08-15-2021, 11:21 PM
Btw I can appreciate cute, beautiful, sexy girls, but if you have to constantly tell me how cute a girl is in detail or mention your ex in every, little flashback I'm going to nut punch you to the curb.

So this is definitely NOT relationship advice from me, but whenever a guy likes bringing up some ex I LOVE countering with a story of my own just to watch them squirm. }:D They hate it so much, okay then why bring that type of subject up.

DeathAndTaxes
08-17-2021, 05:26 AM
I know ONE guy who is friends with lots of women and legitimately doesn't have an ulterior motive with any of us.

I mean I have a lot of female friends where clearly there is no ulterior motive, because well I know me. That said the obvious explanation is that I am not attracted to them.

I think the reason why platonic male/female relationships are rare is because the average male is not motivated to befriend women if there is no sex involved, creating new friends takes effort/resources/time, but I am pretty natural at it so I find platonic socializing fun, if anything I behave more like a gatekeeper and don't lead-on to prevent drama.

That said if I am interested, there is no ulterior motive because I am pretty upfront on what I want.

DeathAndTaxes
08-17-2021, 05:30 AM
So this is definitely NOT relationship advice from me, but whenever a guy likes bringing up some ex I LOVE countering with a story of my own just to watch them squirm. }:D They hate it so much, okay then why bring that type of subject up.

Probably because their story is bullshit, the rules of three is a good starting point, his partner count is probably a third of what he claims, or there is a 33% chance his story is true.

Sam38g
08-17-2021, 06:26 AM
No men can not be trusted and what some men have posted in this thread is complete bullshit.

Men lie way more than women...https://www.news24.com/health24/mental-health/news/who-are-bigger-better-liars-men-or-women-20200123-2

Men through out history have fucked women over.. and now you have religion bullshit that still tries or in some countries force women into marriage & having numerous kids.

Women have only been able to vote for the past 100 years. It was only in the 1960s did women were able to have a bank account and in 1974 were discrimination laws put in place for us to be able to have credit. Before that women also need permission from their husbands to even have a job & they paychecks belonged to him. Women were not able for the most part own property or wealth, it either belonged their fathers or husbands. Men through out history enacted laws to keep all the money, wealth from women. Why should we trust you now?

When men lie, women are raped & killed. Men simply do not fear us physically harming them the same way we have to fear them. How many women lie & have more than one family?

Majority of wealth is all owned by MEN.

Only 8% of CEOs are women.

95% of rapist are men

95% of murders are men

Majority of serial killers have domestic violence in their past

30% of men are physically abusive to their female partners. 60% of cops are physically abusive to their female spouses. Women in the sex industry are also 60% more likely to be physically abused by their partners. So men coming here to tell us how to be better women to find a good guy is just insulting.

50% of men are verbally abusive to their female partners

You are more likely to be killed by your male partner during pregnancy than any other time in your life span.

Men get paid more & higher raises than women. When women work 20% more hours than men do at the same job. And women do ask for raises just as much as men do, but are turned down for them more.

Less than 7% of world leaders are women.

95% of police are men.

100% of women deal with sexual harassment.

Marriage is way better for improving men's lives & horrible for women.https://www.news24.com/health24/mental-health/news/who-are-bigger-better-liars-men-or-women-20200123-2 So men need to stop acting like they are some prize, cause you are not. Even if you are tall dark and handsome and make $100,ooo to $250,000 a year, the poor women who marries him will suffer and it will be bad for over all general health.

Women are NOT JADED!!! it is called wisdom. The male population has done nothing to earn our trust.

The happiest group of women is over 50, no kids & single.

DonaDiabla
08-29-2021, 03:33 PM
Interesting thread. Personally, I felt it was an waste of time to put trust and faith into men. Even as an little girl; I was taught not to put trust into those who didn't care helping me grow. Plus my own family history taught me it would foolish to put faith into men just because they spoke politely or dress nicely.Men aren't gods and I don't put them on the pedestal. Plus, I don't let them rule over my life. Indifference allow me to only put trust into those who will walk across the fire for me. Most men will not and I accept this.
Plus, there's literal billions of them...so why put trust into one who you won't remember in your old age? I know that I don't. I am not going to remember those who couldn't help me as human being.Why give men such power over your psyche? Most of them will never be worth your time nor energy. I don't put one ounce of faith, trust, or even positive energy into beings who can't reach their potential. This is true of most men. Plus, 90 percent of them are poor and can't help you in your time of need anyways. Just my two cents.

WanderingWoman
09-06-2021, 01:03 PM
One thing I will never understand is when Women defend violent men. One time someone followed me home while I was walking my dog then pulled his car sideways to block me between his car and my door and kept saying " I have been watching you walk all the time " He then started walking towards me with something in his hand I screamed Baby Come outside (to my fake "guy"). I immediately called a neighbor friend terrified and she said this "Well that's because you are so pretty" also not the first time something like that happened.

IGMO
09-07-2021, 10:01 PM
I think a lot of men initially are okay with their gf or wife being a dancer/ camgirl but then their own insecurities creep in and they will start picking fights over your line of work. You could be the most loyal woman ever and they won't believe that you just do this line of work for money . They'll think you're cheating on them. I've dealt with it myself . It's annoying as hell

Male ego at work. They want to believe that women are just sex driven as them. That’s where slut shaming stems from. They’re not even mad that sexwork is profitable for us. They’re just mad they can’t profit off of it as easily as we do

DeathAndTaxes
09-29-2021, 09:39 PM
Male ego at work. They want to believe that women are just sex driven as them. That’s where slut shaming stems from. They’re not even mad that sexwork is profitable for us. They’re just mad they can’t profit off of it as easily as we do

I mean I would not call it easy work, lol. Just from observation it is easily more hard work than my current job.

I don't think I have ever been insecure, don't know if I am weird but I can legit only remember only once being jealous in my life and that was when I was a dumb kid. Maybe I just learned early to nip negative emotions in the bud. So much so that I have to FAKE being jealous, they beam up they reaallly like jealousy as long as it is not accompanied with threats, demands, endless fights etc.

Luci Fer
09-29-2021, 10:08 PM
I mean I would not call it easy work, lol. Just from observation it is easily more hard work than my current job.

I don't think I have ever been insecure, don't know if I am weird but I can legit only remember only once being jealous in my life and that was when I was a dumb kid. Maybe I just learned early to nip negative emotions in the bud. So much so that I have to FAKE being jealous, they beam up they reaallly like jealousy as long as it is not accompanied with threats, demands, endless fights etc.

As a part of a play jealousy can be fun! There are just some stupidly maniacally serious bastards who get jealous and ruin the shit, sometimes with really dramatic consequences.

DeathAndTaxes
09-29-2021, 11:22 PM
As a part of a play jealousy can be fun! There are just some stupidly maniacally serious bastards who get jealous and ruin the shit, sometimes with really dramatic consequences.

Oh trust me I know, it is kinda sad that my ideal relationship is one with zero drama with deep conversation, but might as well poison the relationship. I supply some really good fake jealousy, and there is always something exciting going on, drama might as well be catnip.

Luci Fer
10-01-2021, 01:40 AM
Oh trust me I know, it is kinda sad that my ideal relationship is one with zero drama with deep conversation, but might as well poison the relationship. I supply some really good fake jealousy, and there is always something exciting going on, drama might as well be catnip.

Yeah, you gotta keep it not too cold to freeze it and not too hot to burn it ;D

DeathAndTaxes
10-01-2021, 06:12 PM
But it is almost always towards the upper bound. Edging is key, edging her to the limit, and pulling back only to ramp it up again, it legitimately feels like a fight, and then it feels like a make-up without it really having the negative repercussions, because the jealousy was completely fake, why would I be insecure?

I remember agreeing with Charlie how excitement and legitimate danger don't really have to go hand in hand, you can create excitement out of anything, even manufactured drama.

Luci Fer
10-02-2021, 04:27 AM
^Sounds very unhealthy and pretty manipulative to manufacture drama just to keep a relationship "fun". It is kind of ironic though that in a thread about trusting men a man comes in to share how he regularly fools his partner. You're not helping lol

why not if his woman is acknowledging the game? I think it feels different way when it is unhealthy. It is constant fatigue and disappointment when it's unhealthy, without proper sex, with passive-aggressive remarks all day long.
What's wrong with good passionate fight and makeup? Some couples just have such temper. And it is about trust. If she trusts him, and he trusts her, they can play the games that might seem 'unhealthy' to others.

DeathAndTaxes
10-04-2021, 01:39 PM
I am fairly certain that I don't have an identical twin brother (or a brother for that matter) so it is automatically assumed it is is all playful nonsense in the end. Winking also helps put the message across

Trust is about more than just words, it is a legitimate psychological and emotional foundation. I mean do any of you get mad at the fact that your favorite movie actor is not really the character they play as? Is that a breach of trust?

eagle2
10-04-2021, 02:58 PM
Trust is about more than just words, it is a legitimate psychological and emotional foundation. I mean do any of you get mad at the fact that your favorite movie actor is not really the character they play as? Is that a breach of trust?

When an actor is playing a character, it's well documented that the actor is portraying someone else on the screen. I do get mad when a celebrity portrays himself one way in public, but is a completely different person in private. See Bill Cosby.

miss.a.p1600
10-23-2021, 09:29 AM
Male ego at work. They want to believe that women are just sex driven as them. That’s where slut shaming stems from. They’re not even mad that sexwork is profitable for us. They’re just mad they can’t profit off of it as easily as we do

Exactly cause if men could sell dick (if selling dick was profitable) their asses would do it in a heartbeat.

Men would have a brothel on every corner, prostitution would be legal in all states, and there would be free abortions in every cvs n Walgreens.

Men are the biggest hypocrites and only agree to things when it benefits them financially or sexually.

So trusting men? = Hard no to 82% of men

DeathAndTaxes
11-01-2021, 04:16 PM
Exactly cause if men could sell dick (if selling dick was profitable) their asses would do it in a heartbeat.

Haha, I am pretty sure this is a demand side problem!

Thinking about it a bit more, how would one even advertise such services? dimensions, lasting power, curvature, it does not help that dick pics are considered sexual harassment. It's like buying magic beans lol.