View Full Version : Dancing, career or pastime?
DeathAndTaxes
05-27-2021, 09:17 AM
Just don't * expect * her to quit . She may simply just not want to !
Lol that is why I never ask them to quit, problem solved! I love a challenge but at the end of the day putting my feelings (not of jealousy, but of ego) over her's is selfish, I am happy if she is happy doing what she wants.
mellowmutt
05-27-2021, 09:17 PM
If you hope she will quit and live with you / have a " normal " type of relationship with you then talk openly about the idea.
We did.
Just don't * expect * her to quit . She may simply just not want to !
Fine by me! She loves being a dancer, I love and respect her, and never asked her to quit -- just put it aside for a while because global death virus.
It sounds like you are at the " end " of the pay for arrangement type of relationship and that's totally fine ! It sounds like you had some good times during Corona times anyway. It seems like you enjoyed everything ( just may not have had quite the ending you hoped for ). You seem to have the time and budget for some pretty good adventures so just count that as a plus. :)
Thank you! But now I'm really confused. The assumption here is that I must have wanted her to quit stripping. Is that par for the course when you gals have someone OTC? That they expect you to quit now that you're with them? To the point I can't be taken at face value when I say I'm not like that?
I am like that when it comes to porn. Prolly why my ex-pornstar friend appreciates me helping her get out of that life, the realities of it now vs. even a decade ago are harsh. I didn't know that about her when we met (I don't go for porn, so I didn't recognize her, or realize she was a household name). I would never have had speakerphone conversations with James Deen and Ron Jeremy and her about "leave now" otherwise.
There's two guys who've been trashed by the media a lot recently. I don't believe any of it. Off-topic, sorry.
mellowmutt
05-27-2021, 09:23 PM
FWIW, I met her in a grocery store when she was working as a wrangler / trail guide at a dude ranch. So she already had one foot out the door.
mellowmutt
05-27-2021, 10:42 PM
Since I brought it up (lol), we had already met on SA about a month earlier but didn't realize it until halfway through our first date -- grocery-store pickup ftfw. This was five years ago (we're so on-again off-again), she's 27 now and two years removed from porn (but still dances and escorts). We were living together when we mutually decided we just couldn't anymore and broke up... 18 months ago.
I made such a mark out of myself at the inception of my last relationship. When I asked her what she did for a living and she said "model" it was a half-truth, I didn't know she was a stripper until our third date, but by then I was her side-hustle she never intended to be with for 18 months. Because, being a guy, I just gotta blurt out that life story pretty early on in a relationship. Gah. Totally set myself up for this, foolish is as foolish does, but never woulda happened without the damn pandemic.
Everyone can be narcissistic to one degree or another. What I believe now, is it's only a problem for those without empathy. I've had a manly cry with two of the "biggest" dudes ever in porn, over not just what happened to my friend but how typical it's getting, that I can't believe they're rapists.
Thanks, group. This has been better, faster, cheaper, and more informative than therapy. At the cost of looking like a fool on the Internet, meh.