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TheBrownFox
10-20-2021, 10:13 AM
I've bitched about this but I have to again.
I just can't express how angry I get when men feel the need to sit in front of me be it at Starbucks, public space etc when there are so many empty seats and tables available. I'm not trying to understand this fuckery. If they're gonna sit close to me I feel entitled that they do not face me because I don't want to be stared or looked at especially early morning when I'm trying to feel peace in my own space before I start my day. I can't help how I feel so it's therapeutic when I can accept how I feel.
When this shit happens I always have to remove myself and move to a different table immediately because I can feel my rage coming.
I also dislike when I bitch about it, I get told because I'm pretty, beautiful, sexy etc. I don't give a fuck about all that
How I look should not negate how I feel.
This bugs me too...when men do it on the bus, in the movie theater, etc. ALL these other empty seats that'd allow both you and I to enjoy having plenty of personal space, and you chose THIS seat??? I know that when you buy your movie theater ticket online, they make you select which seat you wanna be in. *Eye roll* But I'd say that almost all the time, NO ONE really pays attention to that, and the movie theater employee is not gonna check to see that you're sitting in seat 4 A. Lol.
And I hate it when I'm sitting down in a fast food restaurant (Though I rarely sit down in there), and gotta deal with a group of gross dudes nearby burping out loud like they're at home.
Marina Starr
10-20-2021, 10:14 AM
Is it really friend zone or casual interaction?
I always get confused because in able for someone to be in friend zone you'd have to first consider him a friend but a friend wouldn't guilt a friend or make them feel used.
I believe if a dude makes you feel used for fucking him then he's a client. He can guilt all he wants as you smiling all the way to the bank!
Marina Starr
10-20-2021, 10:21 AM
Lmfaoo, you know there's no such thing as serendipity when it comes to men. Everything is always premeditated.
When the lights are dimmed as the movie about to start I will move my ass. Never had any issues.
This bugs me too...when men do it on the bus, in the movie theater, etc. ALL these other empty seats that'd allow both you and I to enjoy having plenty of personal space, and you chose THIS seat??? I know that when you buy your movie theater ticket online, they make you select which seat you wanna be in. *Eye roll* But I'd say that almost all the time, NO ONE really pays attention to that, and the movie theater employee is not gonna check to see that you're sitting in seat 4 A. Lol.
And I hate it when I'm sitting down in a fast food restaurant (Though I rarely sit down in there), and gotta deal with a group of gross dudes nearby burping out loud like they're at home.
TheBrownFox
10-20-2021, 01:09 PM
When the lights are dimmed as the movie about to start I will move my ass. Never had any issues.
Yeah, but the point is I shouldn't have to get up and move just because of someone else's lack of common courtesy. I'm venting about the same thing you are...personal space. It was two gay guys, so I doubt there was any ulterior motive like you're thinking. It's still a valid rant though.
Marina Starr
10-20-2021, 01:28 PM
I hate guessing so I'll ask. Did you think I was invalidating your rant?
Agreed that you shouldn't have to move. What I meant with never had any issues meaning the ushers/employees never gave me any issues if I move to different seats.
Yeah, but the point is I shouldn't have to get up and move just because of someone else's lack of common courtesy. I'm venting about the same thing you are...personal space. It was two gay guys, so I doubt there was any ulterior motive like you're thinking. It's still a valid rant though.
TheBrownFox
10-20-2021, 02:09 PM
I hate guessing so I'll ask. Did you think I was invalidating your rant?
Agreed that you shouldn't have to move. What I meant with never had any issues meaning the ushers/employees never gave me any issues if I move to different seats.
Oh, okay, gotcha! LOL. Sorry.
miss.a.p1600
10-21-2021, 07:44 AM
I really can’t tell if men are this dumb or they just act dumb when it’s convenient for them.
whirlerz
10-21-2021, 10:50 AM
I really can’t tell if men are this dumb or they just act dumb when it’s convenient for them.
Either or both? ^
So, really over where I live, & abusive roomie..
I'm too old for this, I had a tooth pulled Tuesday w/stitches/swelling & I'm fucking tired of his abuse!
He asked me what I was doing (getting packages that were left on steps?) Then, he starts bitching about he doesn't have heat, so I put my hand by the register, heart's coming in?
Doesn't say thank you, of course ::)
LoveyD
10-21-2021, 11:48 AM
Omg, don't get me started on parking spots and empty seats at the movies, lol.
I could totally relate to you enjoying your quiet time away from people in your car where you should feel at ease especially being homeless then out of nowhere you feel like you're at the fucking zoo.
LOL!!! Yes!! A zoo animal! And of course it's always a man. ALWAYS.
It's funny you should say that. Sometimes when I was onstage I felt the same way, like a zoo animal. Like I'd have moments when I'd think "is this what zoo animals feel like?" Haha
TheBrownFox
10-21-2021, 08:12 PM
I loved this quote from tonight's episode of Law and Order Organized Crime. The mob wife said to Stabler "All men are pigs. Every once in a while, one of you comes through."
Luci Fer
10-22-2021, 01:22 AM
^ Right ...... quit calling it friend zone and just call it " She never will want to fuck you " hahahah.
It's more clear v.s. a bubble you can just move out of ( and are waiting to pounce at the opportunity )!
yeees! They just can't admit the obvious lol. Friend zone its about friendship, and if she doesn't wanna fuck you, but you still stick around in hopes or expectations to get laid , pretending to be her friend - you 're a loser. As simple as that ;D
WendiStarr
10-22-2021, 07:26 AM
A former fbsm client somehow found my personal vanilla IG account. He seen my baby bump picture and put,"Pregnant again? Who's the father? Do you know?" Then he sent me a message saying that he seen that I was working and wanted to know why I wasn't seeing him. Apparently someone is still posting reviews on EM, as if I'm still working, even though I've been out of the fbsm business since November 2019. I didn't bother to respond. I quit doing fbsm last pregnancy when I was like 7 months. I definitely haven't seen anyone since then. It irritates me that some of these guys don't move on.
Also, this one annoying guy on phrendly who every day for the past week has been asking for free nude pics. You'd think he'd give up already after telling him I'd be happy to sell him some pics but I don't give out freebies. I guess at least each annoying text from him gets me closer to payout.
SnuffleUffleGrass
10-22-2021, 09:32 AM
A former fbsm client somehow found my personal vanilla IG account. He seen my baby bump picture and put,"Pregnant again? Who's the father? Do you know?" Then he sent me a message saying that he seen that I was working and wanted to know why I wasn't seeing him. Apparently someone is still posting reviews on EM, as if I'm still working, even though I've been out of the fbsm business since November 2019. I didn't bother to respond. I quit doing fbsm last pregnancy when I was like 7 months. I definitely haven't seen anyone since then. It irritates me that some of these guys don't move on.
Also, this one annoying guy on phrendly who every day for the past week has been asking for free nude pics. You'd think he'd give up already after telling him I'd be happy to sell him some pics but I don't give out freebies. I guess at least each annoying text from him gets me closer to payout.
OH girl, ignore him. These little parasite johns get a thrill out of manipulating your emotions. For some customers the ONLY experience of control in their lives is dumping on sex workers. Don't pay attention to him.
My Man Bitching- none today.
Marina Starr
10-22-2021, 03:42 PM
I spoke to my therapist today about the incident at Starbucks where the guy sat right in front of me.
She said when people do that, it can be very confrontational because we're forced to look at them.
That's like looking at a strange dog right in their eyes.
So for anyone who has trauma, that can be extremely anxiety inducing that can trigger so many emotions. Everyone reacts differently to that.
For me it was instant moods change due to being bipolar. What comes next followed by mood changed was extreme rage.
I had to remove myself from that situation to release my rage or two things would happen, I'd told him off and start throwing tables.
I was so proud of myself for that. I believe in better.
We can acknowledge and work on getting ourselves to a place of peace.
LOL!!! Yes!! A zoo animal! And of course it's always a man. ALWAYS.
It's funny you should say that. Sometimes when I was onstage I felt the same way, like a zoo animal. Like I'd have moments when I'd think "is this what zoo animals feel like?" Haha
LoveyD
10-22-2021, 06:53 PM
^^My therapist told me we can't control what other people do, but we can control what we do. Good for you for taking the reigns and doing what was best for all in that scenario. Sometimes it's just best to step away and regroup emotionally. Take a pause.
TheBrownFox
10-22-2021, 07:03 PM
56097
lmfao...
miss.a.p1600
10-23-2021, 05:56 AM
The fucked up men who are out here on the dating/adult industry scene make it tough for the genuinely good men.
carmen_b
10-23-2021, 09:16 AM
^ There can be reasons people are " perpetually " on dating sites or a long term club customer.
They often are not good. :/
carmen_b
10-23-2021, 09:22 AM
I feel like my dude had a mental blip .
He mentioned something about not having sex enough and it really shocked me because we are one of those 3-4 times a week couples ( still ) after like 18-19 months together.
I am trying to hear him out but I think I said " are you really complaining about this ?".
I was thinking " Dude take an HONEST poll. I know NONE of your friends are getting spoiled like this " . So ..... I don't know ..... I can certainly bump it up to 4 times a week or something but if I am feeling pressed and pressured it is really going to ruin something special. I'm a little nervous but hoping we get through this odd moment of commentary . I definitely hope it passes. I am just shocked that with my high drive there would ever be ANY complaining ! Women's bodies honestly NEED time off ( a day or two between sex days ) at times.
I HATE it so much when partners complain.
It always takes me time to rebound !
I might delete this. Maybe he is having a weird week .
whirlerz
10-23-2021, 09:42 AM
I spoke to my therapist today about the incident at Starbucks where the guy sat right in front of me.
She said when people do that, it can be very confrontational because we're forced to look at them.
That's like looking at a strange dog right in their eyes.
So for anyone who has trauma, that can be extremely anxiety inducing that can trigger so many emotions. Everyone reacts differently to that.
For me it was instant moods change due to being bipolar. What comes next followed by mood changed was extreme rage.
I had to remove myself from that situation to release my rage or two things would happen, I'd told him off and start throwing tables.
I was so proud of myself for that. I believe in better.
We can acknowledge and work on getting ourselves to a place of peace.
Kudos to you, Marina, for doing the right thing despite the clown!
I deal with that almost daily, (roomie) & I have ignore/step away/negate.
carmen_b
10-23-2021, 09:44 AM
^ Men need to give women space in public settings.
I think people are more lonely than ever post pandemic so he might have just been hoping for some conversation and chit chat . You MUST read the vibes .... if no convo vibes are there .... listen. :)
carmen_b
10-23-2021, 11:58 AM
I’m going to give it 24 hours ( J’s oddball comment ).
I will see if I’m more calm at the point ( 3-4 hours from now ).
My current thought is “ ya fucked up “.
I feel really hurt about the comment.
I think he did apologize or said something yesterday like “ maybe I said something too soon “.
Ya think ?!?
You literally just complained that you had sex three times in the last week .
:/
Marina Starr
10-23-2021, 02:19 PM
My old self a few weeks ago before I started therapy would have screamed I shouldn't have to move but I now understand I didn't do it for him but for my own mental health and sanity.
The moment he was no longer in front of me, I instantly felt how I was feeling before he arrived. It felt really good that I didn't have to snap to release my anger for me to feel okay. That was very freeing.
I agreed that we can only control our own actions but at the same time it's completely okay to acknowledge that other people are also blameworthy.
^^My therapist told me we can't control what other people do, but we can control what we do. Good for you for taking the reigns and doing what was best for all in that scenario. Sometimes it's just best to step away and regroup emotionally. Take a pause.
carmen_b
10-23-2021, 02:35 PM
^ Sometimes it is best to walk away ! :)
kimbe
10-24-2021, 12:24 AM
^ @carmen_b
I think men want more sex than we might think they want, it's in their nature. I also think they in many cases do not understand, or think about, the fact that women often need longer time to recharge ..
I do not think they understand that their desire for more sex often can be seen as a burden to satisfy. Like: How can sex be a burden ??
In a long-term relationship, there must be a balance, but of course you should never feel obligated to have more sex than you want.
I'm like you, I can easily go 2-3 days and that way to long for him. Every couple have to find out what works for them, but I hate having him around knowing he wants some all the time so I will just give him head, probably way too much, but I don't bother too much and it makes him happy&satisfied.
carmen_b
10-24-2021, 07:24 AM
^ Thanks.
I’m trying to work it out because originally ( when he said that two days ago ) my instinct was just like “ you have a HELL of a deal here that you might not want to ruin “. He is a really good lover too .
I could possibly make a little more time IF it’s something I want and is comfy to me.
Like you said about your guy mine is the same. A quick bj takes all of 5 minutes and he’s happy all day .
I just want to make SURE I don’t feel pressured or get into the grey area of being badgered / bordering abuse. It’s no where near there ! Just thinking ahead and being cautious.
My body really is an “ every other day “ type of vibe .
I think we will work it out because he just indicated he would like more ( wasn’t high pressure or pushy ).
kimbe
10-24-2021, 08:08 AM
^ We may be talking past each other here, but I can not understand what satisfying your partner has to do with abuse. As long as you're fine with it. Relationships are always give and take, and what counts is that both are satisfied :)
carmen_b
10-24-2021, 08:21 AM
^ What I mean is that I am cautious because I have been a victim of domestic abuse ( and it's typical for those people to " pester " their partners for more sex than is comfy ). It's just caution. This is NO where near my previous experience .
Maybe I will just give a little more attention and see how it shakes out.
I haven't decided yet!
I mean ..... I guess I don't have to " cap " things at 3-4 days a week but I need to take it day by day and see how things feel. I don't really want to " over promise " anything.
kimbe
10-24-2021, 08:22 AM
^ Ok, I'm sorry to hear, hope you work it out :)
indiegirl
10-24-2021, 09:46 AM
A former fbsm client somehow found my personal vanilla IG account. He seen my baby bump picture and put,"Pregnant again? Who's the father? Do you know?" Then he sent me a message saying that he seen that I was working and wanted to know why I wasn't seeing him. Apparently someone is still posting reviews on EM, as if I'm still working, even though I've been out of the fbsm business since November 2019. I didn't bother to respond. I quit doing fbsm last pregnancy when I was like 7 months. I definitely haven't seen anyone since then. It irritates me that some of these guys don't move on.
Also, this one annoying guy on phrendly who every day for the past week has been asking for free nude pics. You'd think he'd give up already after telling him I'd be happy to sell him some pics but I don't give out freebies. I guess at least each annoying text from him gets me closer to payout.
Erotic Monkey.....lord give me a stroke. I hate that fucking site. Caused me so many problems in the past. People were posting fake prices and showing up with like 180 bucks confused LOL. I even did the 3 finger selfie to prove it was me for removal and they never removed my reviews.
Yep some of these guys get crazy. I had one show up to my door on my day off once. He lives like 45 minutes away LOL. I was so confused and just walked by him while staring at him scared and angry. LOL.
Marina Starr
10-25-2021, 07:18 AM
Last week there was this man in a wheelchair sitting outside Starbucks that I don't know but have seen him there. He said hi and asking me how my day was going. I was being courteous and said it's good and wished him a good day. He then asked me if I had time to chat and wanted to know if I wanted to meet for coffee sometimes.
I didn't know being courteous was a sign for let's go on a coffee date. I said no and he was pressing on. So I had to tell him when women said no, that's a complete sentence. We don't owe men or anyone an explanation.
That was not expected and off putting. 'He should have sat there and drank his coffee' as New York would say.
WendiStarr
10-25-2021, 10:19 AM
^^ Omfg, Erotic monkey is the worst for that. They don't remove crap. They wanted my real name, face pictures, a and driver's license picture to remove it. I never even used face pictures at all in any of my ads or my website when I had one. Fuck all that! I think that site is run by slobbyist men and only the grossest, bottom of the barrel type of men post on there.
chanzep
10-25-2021, 07:10 PM
Some women marry monsters. Today I had 2 different men shouting at their wives when they were calling me at work. I was helping a women reset her password and this asshole was shouting all sorts of unhelpful stuff plus he couldn't heard the whole conversation. Then the other one kept shouting at his wife to "make them do it when she asked anything . STFU!!.
neverendingkneebruises
10-25-2021, 09:08 PM
Catching feelings for a guy with 3 jobs, obviously into me, gentlemanly, emotionally intelligent, respectful of women/sex workers as a whole, has a horse cock. Someone slap some sense into me like what's the catch.....
miss.a.p1600
10-26-2021, 05:54 AM
Some women marry monsters. Today I had 2 different men shouting at their wives when they were calling me at work. I was helping a women reset her password and this asshole was shouting all sorts of unhelpful stuff plus he couldn't heard the whole conversation. Then the other one kept shouting at his wife to "make them do it when she asked anything . STFU!!.
Thats the problem with men is they act like perfect gentlemen and the moment they have you “locked in” either through marriage or having kids together - some of them start acting like assholes (aka their true nature comes out) because they know you can’t just up n leave them.
miss.a.p1600
10-26-2021, 05:58 AM
I hate how men do obnoxious shit (burping, farting, talking with mouth full of food, leaving toilet seats up, leaving sock lent n pubes in the shower, etc) then when you call them out on how nasty they are and how they need to clean their act up around women they have the gall to gaslight you.
“Well at least it’s not coming out of my ass”
“Well at least it doesn’t smell”
“Oh, did I spit food on your plate”
“I’m not used to having to filter my behaviors”
Ffs go live in a frat house if you want to stay unrefined n nasty af.
When moms (and deadbeat dads) fail to raise their sons properly this is the result.
Marina Starr
10-26-2021, 07:19 AM
Horse cock is the catch. It's been said good dick will imprison you and makes you do crazy things!
Catching feelings for a guy with 3 jobs, obviously into me, gentlemanly, emotionally intelligent, respectful of women/sex workers as a whole, has a horse cock. Someone slap some sense into me like what's the catch.....
carmen_b
10-26-2021, 08:15 AM
Uh this sound way too good to not investigate further. :)
Report back if there IS a catch haha. Otherwise .... maybe the catch is being happy ha ?
Catching feelings for a guy with 3 jobs, obviously into me, gentlemanly, emotionally intelligent, respectful of women/sex workers as a whole, has a horse cock. Someone slap some sense into me like what's the catch.....
neverendingkneebruises
10-26-2021, 08:20 AM
Uh this sound way too good to not investigate further. :)
Report back if there IS a catch haha. Otherwise .... maybe the catch is being happy ha ?
Definitely gonna report back. I also forgot to mention has a provider mentality lol. I even told him I was a misandrist and he said well shit I don't blame you. 8) I've done little tests to vet him & he's passed every single one with flying colors so far. I swear if it works out I'm taking back everything bad I said about men in this thread. ::) Lol okay maybe not EVERYTHING.
carmen_b
10-26-2021, 08:28 AM
^ There are good dudes out there and maybe you found one !
He might be paying off some prior debts. That is all I can really think of for hustling so hard but a hard worker is NEVER a turn off.
miss.a.p1600
10-26-2021, 10:04 AM
Definitely gonna report back. I also forgot to mention has a provider mentality lol. I even told him I was a misandrist and he said well shit I don't blame you. 8) I've done little tests to vet him & he's passed every single one with flying colors so far. I swear if it works out I'm taking back everything bad I said about men in this thread. ::) Lol okay maybe not EVERYTHING.
he doesn’t blame you about the misandrist thing cause men know how fucked up their male species is. They know it’s more good women then good men.
Marina Starr
10-26-2021, 11:22 AM
I want a man that loves me the way Dan loves Alex.
The most romantic movie of all time. Perfect first date movie that we both would enjoy.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JS6Gw6NVgRg&t=26s
moneybags
10-26-2021, 12:37 PM
Ugh…I was going for a walk and this guy whistled at me. I fucking hate that being a woman means I can’t go out in public without men feeling entitled to harass me! I was wear basically the equivalent of hijab:face mask, hair in a clip, and fully covered from head to toe in all black. Just goes to show when I wear my slutty workout outfits it doesn’t fucking matter cause some dude is gonna ruin my day. Men are attracted to any woman with a pulse. I remember this comedian making a joke about outside of the strip clubs the neon sign says LIVE WOMEN and that’s enough of a qualifier for men. Ha ha.
Jesus
LoveyD
10-26-2021, 03:31 PM
^^ it doesn't make us feel safe when people are all hooting and hollering at us. Honking too.
Marina Starr
10-27-2021, 07:20 AM
Men told me I look like Lucy Liu. I always ask if I look like her most in 'Kill Bill'? I sure don't think I look like her at all, they say that shit because I'm Asian.
https://i.ibb.co/stYx7zy/tumblr-m30m1qx0u-B1qgcra2o1-500.gif (https://imgbb.com/)
miss.a.p1600
10-27-2021, 08:13 AM
I hate it when men try to argue then bring up non relevant shit from the past
No bitch!
moneybags
10-27-2021, 09:55 AM
I hate it when men try to argue then bring up non relevant shit from the past
No bitch!
It’s called sandbaging.
So are men mean to women they want to fuck but can’t? I had an awareness that I might have been experiencing that.
whirlerz
10-27-2021, 06:42 PM
I have a guy friend, he's good to me, but damn he won't get the shot..He's older too..
His cousin's ill w/cancer, he visits, which a fine.. except she lives w/3 other family members, only 1 is vaxxed, (she isn't, IDK if she can't or won't)Then he took her to a casino? TF?
We sit in my yard when he visits, wearing masks, but um, it's getting cold out + I don't want to get sick? Especially after my surgery .
He's afraid of the pain/side effects..I had a tooth pulled, my face was black & blue, was on pain pills, + antibiotics for a week but he's worried about a shot, but not getting sick?
He texted me about meeting, this week I didn't answer.
Marina Starr
10-28-2021, 04:16 AM
Tell him to have complete trust in Pfizer. They created Viagra after all. I tell old dudes who are vaccines hesitant that their dick can't stay hard if they're dead.
On a random note, normalize asking people if they're fully vaccinated. No, that doesn't violate HIPPA. It's no difference than asking have you had the flu shot? Measles, polio vaccines, etc.
I have a guy friend, he's good to me, but damn he won't get the shot..He's older too..
His cousin's ill w/cancer, he visits, which a fine.. except she lives w/3 other family members, only 1 is vaxxed, (she isn't, IDK if she can't or won't)Then he took her to a casino? TF?
We sit in my yard when he visits, wearing masks, but um, it's getting cold out + I don't want to get sick? Especially after my surgery .
He's afraid of the pain/side effects..I had a tooth pulled, my face was black & blue, was on pain pills, + antibiotics for a week but he's worried about a shot, but not getting sick?
He texted me about meeting, this week I didn't answer.
miss.a.p1600
10-28-2021, 04:56 AM
When men act so clueless (or they conveniently play dumb while enjoying their male privilege) n will be their true selves by mansplaining, gaslighting your legitimate concerns, acting lazy while you do all the work, starting debates n arguments with you
Then when nightfall hits they have the audacity to try to get sex from you.
Um no ma’am.
Pussy remembered your prior shenanigans and didn’t want any part of dealing with you in a sexual capacity