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carmen_b
11-19-2021, 10:50 AM
^ No I meant that I feel like men have turned into babies.
They are not stepping up , asking women out, planning dates , and following through.
It could be dating apps doing this though ( making them scared to approach in real life ).
^ If you are guy who can do these simple things I imagine your dating life is pretty awesome. :)
I agree with you too that looking nice isn't *always* an indicator.
TheBrownFox
11-19-2021, 02:15 PM
^I enjoy the male attention I get when I'm at the karaoke bar. However when a guy is in my personal space (Please back the fuck up with your gross alcohol breath) and has repeatedly offered to buy me a drink after I've declined, and then he proceeds to tell the bartender to get me a drink anyway, I have a huge problem with that. This happened with a man who literally told me that he wants to see me drunk. I vented about this to other people there, and they shrugged it off with "Oh, well his son just passed away...and he's drunk." I'm sorry for his loss and all, but now every time I see him, I'm still gonna have that first impression of him being a creep. And tbh, men act like that even when they're not grieving.
Also, when I turn a man down (from getting my number), it'd be nice if they'd stop saying stupid shit like "Why? It's because I'm White, isn't it?" Lmfao. All the White guys I've been with, and you're gonna ask me some stupid shit like that? LMAO. No, tf that's not it. Learn how to take "no" for an answer, and move the fuck on. :P
miss.a.p1600
11-19-2021, 02:52 PM
^I hate when men don't listen.
Decline a drink and they buy one anyways hoping to get you liquored up
carmen_b
11-19-2021, 03:48 PM
^ Spin it on their dumb asses and tell them you want food instead lol.
I still don't do bars much . I just can't stand the environment without being paid ha .
I'd rather go to the club where I KNOW all my food and drink is covered AND my time hahaha.
Too bad regular bars don't have dancer drinks ( you can make $10 every time a guy buys one ) lol.
I can see you getting frustrated with the Karaoke environment because that experience is something you just can't duplicate at home so it kind of HAS to be a public experience !
whirlerz
11-19-2021, 04:53 PM
@Indie: He just wanted to insult, what.a.PIG!^
naomi_doll
11-19-2021, 08:46 PM
Thanks Customer Conversation for reminding me how selfish men are. We talk about the overwhelming violence and abuse we face regularly and the men all come running "but.... but.... what about ME???? I'm not bad!!! :wide-eyed"
kamiliam
11-19-2021, 09:10 PM
Thanks Customer Conversation for reminding me how selfish men are. We talk about the overwhelming violence and abuse we face regularly and the men all come running "but.... but.... what about ME???? I'm not bad!!! :wide-eyed"
Really loving how they are proving the point with every post and not getting it. Also re-enforcing on a personal level, why I won’t date a client let alone marry one.
naomi_doll
11-19-2021, 09:14 PM
Really loving how they are proving the point with every post and not getting it. Also re-enforcing on a personal level, why I won’t date a client let alone marry one.
lol I was so tempted to highlight your reply where you said "please don't 'not all men' this" and then where he literally said "not all men" in his reply. But I'm trying to not waste my energy.
And I agree, they just don't see us as diverse people with full personalities. Just sex hungry or cool to show off.
TheBrownFox
11-20-2021, 01:15 AM
^ Spin it on their dumb asses and tell them you want food instead lol.
I still don't do bars much . I just can't stand the environment without being paid ha .
I'd rather go to the club where I KNOW all my food and drink is covered AND my time hahaha.
Lol. I've done that before, and it didn't work (It's not gonna work on a guy who just wants to get you drunk). I've said "But you can buy me some chicken fingers instead!" Lol. And of course he refused. I've had some other guy pay for my mozzarella sticks though after he offered to buy me something.
Marina Starr
11-20-2021, 06:43 AM
When men say 'not all men', I tell them not all men are bad but women don't know which men are bad until they've proven otherwise.
Genuinely decent men don't need to broadcast they're good or respectful they show it with their actions because no man is gonna tell you who he actually is but his actions are the only things that matter.
I take men as they showed me, I don't give them the benefit of the doubt or talk myself out of believing who they really are when they showed me the first time.
Women also need to take responsibility when they put themselves in situations over and over again for men to hurt them. I mean, why must men show you who they are for 50th times for you to get it?!
lol I was so tempted to highlight your reply where you said "please don't 'not all men' this" and then where he literally said "not all men" in his reply. But I'm trying to not waste my energy.
And I agree, they just don't see us as diverse people with full personalities. Just sex hungry or cool to show off.
GlamLifter
11-20-2021, 08:37 AM
^ Think like a celeb. Hoodie and huge sunglasses ha !
They can't harass what they can't even see haha.
I'm ruthless though too like Kimbe mentioned.
I need to dress up for my job so I'm not going to be going out looking like a frump.
I just say " no thanks I'm taken " .
I like to see men having some balls anyway because I often feel they don't with women .
I admire those who dare to confront them, I just want to disappear right there..
Marina Starr
11-21-2021, 07:12 AM
A lot of vanilla hoes don't believe me when I said I don't allow men to talk to me unless I want them to and I have absolutely no problem telling men 'don't talk to me' or 'don't bother me'.
'
They let men inconvenient them when these men show their thinly veiled politeness and 'just wanted to start a conversation'.
I swear to God when I get real bitchy, men are completely enamored. It must be because they know it's never a dull moment with bitchy bitches.
Nice girls get left in the dust, lol.
ravenskyy
11-23-2021, 03:13 PM
Trying to figure out how to live with someone that I hate and resent. I hate my husband so much, I can no longer hide it. I'm so mean and bitchy towards him and I feel bad for it, but I'm making no effort to stop. I wish that he would just disappear. I have to work 2 jobs because this lazy, selfish, asshole quit not one, but two freaking high paying jobs, due to "stress". And yet, I'M supposed to work TWO jobs and deal with the stress of everything going on before he left his job, plus now the additional financial stress.
He won't shave. He won't get a haircut unless I schedule the appointment. He just sits on his ass, works his basic ass job and thinks cutting his income in half has NOT impacted us. I have made it clear that it has and he has done nothing to help. Must be nice to not see the world falling apart around you.
carmen_b
11-23-2021, 03:26 PM
^ Aw! :(
TheBrownFox
11-23-2021, 03:32 PM
My dad even warned me (during my teen years) that dudes ain't shit. Lol. Those weren't his exact words, but I remember him telling me that guys only want one thing.
My grandmom (May she R.I.P.) used to tell us that we need to stay away from "them nasty, mannish boys." LOL!
LoveyD
11-23-2021, 03:38 PM
@Raven The hell was he thinking? Did he do anything to manage this stress (besides quit) ?
That would irritate me too.
whirlerz
11-23-2021, 03:52 PM
I'm sorry, Raven!
He sounds depressed, but y'all have kids, so he needs to step up to the plate!
Anyone in the family that could talk to him?
I'm sorry, Idk what to suggest..
I hope it gets better, soon!
ravenskyy
11-23-2021, 03:54 PM
@Raven The hell was he thinking? Did he do anything to manage this stress (besides quit) ?
That would irritate me too.
Nope. I have been trying to get him to see a therapist for years. I even asked him to talk to his dad. He wouldn't do it. He finally called and got an appointment with a therapist, but it's too late now. I have told him twice now that I hate him and all he's done is schedule a therapy appointment. I don't even care anymore. I'm so angry. I am so miserable. I'm trying to work but it's so hard to focus when it's slow on cam and when I have a slow day at my day job, and all I can think about is how much money I need. If it wasn't for my kids, I would work all day, every day. Anything to be away from him!
Everything he does annoys me. Any noise he makes, pisses me off. Things that used to be cute are starting to make me so mad, that I want to scream. I wish that I had never met him.
Sorry, I just really really need to vent and I have absolutely no one to talk to.
whirlerz
11-23-2021, 04:16 PM
Aw, that is fine, you vent away, dear!
I sure hope it gets better for you, SOON!
Luci Fer
11-23-2021, 06:02 PM
Ah men! *breathes in a fresh breath of air*
Could you imagine if I were available at the hotel? I would've had to see this loser. When I finally get back to dating in vanilla life, I feel for the men I choose. There will be a wall they'll have to earn to break down.
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wow. Sudden, non-reasonable aggressiveness always surprises me so much. Really makes me wanna grab something heavy and suddenly hit the guy.
miss.a.p1600
11-23-2021, 07:01 PM
Trying to figure out how to live with someone that I hate and resent. I hate my husband so much, I can no longer hide it. I'm so mean and bitchy towards him and I feel bad for it, but I'm making no effort to stop. I wish that he would just disappear. I have to work 2 jobs because this lazy, selfish, asshole quit not one, but two freaking high paying jobs, due to "stress". And yet, I'M supposed to work TWO jobs and deal with the stress of everything going on before he left his job, plus now the additional financial stress.
He won't shave. He won't get a haircut unless I schedule the appointment. He just sits on his ass, works his basic ass job and thinks cutting his income in half has NOT impacted us. I have made it clear that it has and he has done nothing to help. Must be nice to not see the world falling apart around you.
I know the feeling.
Im not at the point of hating him yet but I do feel constantly annoyed n irritated especially when I have to repeat myself n they don’t listen.
Girl I “disappear” multiple times mostly at random and for a couple hours and I doll myself up n make him wonder.
The more they keep fucking up, the longer the disappearing act will be till it’s not an act n there is a final “disappearance”
moneybags
11-23-2021, 09:49 PM
wow. Sudden, non-reasonable aggressiveness always surprises me so much. Really makes me wanna grab something heavy and suddenly hit the guy.
What an asshole!
Men forcing conversation. I’m in the elevator and this guy is forcing small talk.
It’s settled earbuds and a mask everywhere I go. It’s just so annoying that I have to do these things to be left alone. I hate that I’m nice partly out of fear if I reject them I’ll have problems with my neighbor. He seemed like a nice enough guy. I think he’s just lonely. I didn’t get a creepy vibe. I hope he leaves me alone. Earbuds and masks everywhere. Also, I’m just gonna be rude. Because every time I give these guys an inch they take a mile. I don’t hate men, but I’m very angry and resentful right now. Just leave me alone. I’m literally doing a workshop on all the trauma men have put me through. Yeah, I’m just gonna be a bitch. It’s not my true nature, but even just being neighborly gives them the wrong impression.
Luci Fer
11-23-2021, 11:33 PM
Women also need to take responsibility when they put themselves in situations over and over again for men to hurt them. I mean, why must men show you who they are for 50th times for you to get it?!
Golden. This not just affects these women badly, but brings the worst out of men.
Luci Fer
11-23-2021, 11:45 PM
What an asshole!
Men forcing conversation. I’m in the elevator and this guy is forcing small talk.
It’s settled earbuds and a mask everywhere I go. It’s just so annoying that I have to do these things to be left alone. I hate that I’m nice partly out of fear if I reject them I’ll have problems with my neighbor. He seemed like a nice enough guy. I think he’s just lonely. I didn’t get a creepy vibe. I hope he leaves me alone. Earbuds and masks everywhere. Also, I’m just gonna be rude. Because every time I give these guys an inch they take a mile. I don’t hate men, but I’m very angry and resentful right now. Just leave me alone. I’m literally doing a workshop on all the trauma men have put me through. Yeah, I’m just gonna be a bitch. It’s not my true nature, but even just being neighborly gives them the wrong impression.
oooh elevators ;D You can't get out and have to handle the convo. I was in elevator with two guys (didnot know them), when one of them asked me ''Girl, has anyone told you that you are beautiful?' I said: 'yeah'. I think he expected something different, because he confused and said 'well, it's true' and got silent. I feel like if I said something like "oh awwww thaaaaank you!' the conversation would be different. Also I noticed that men react funny when you smile, have you ladies noticed it? They seem to think you smile because of THEM. bahahahah delusional fools. ;D I found out it's cool to keep Wednesday Addams face when talking to guys, it keeps the right distance. They hardly approach.
carmen_b
11-24-2021, 10:24 AM
Omg do the not realize you are literally trapped? ^^
Idiots haha.
lilylilylily
11-24-2021, 01:17 PM
Lol reminds me of years ago an ex talked me into renting an apartment in a high rise building on the 17th floor. I'd walk down and up 17 flights of stairs every time I'd go out just to avoid my elevator anxiety and all the nosy neighbors Lol. Thank God I only lived there 2 years
WendiStarr
11-24-2021, 01:48 PM
I was finally able to get back on fet and omg! Finding a local sub is harder than I thought. Lots of far away guys wanting someone to Domme them virtually, guys into ANR who want to be breastfed (cringe, I hate nipple stimulation and anyone sucking on my nipples), or Dom guys who think it would be hot or fun to have sex with a pregnant woman. I'm not interested in any of that. I just want my pussy licked in person, in real life.
carmen_b
11-24-2021, 02:54 PM
^ Can not wait to hear these updates.
Do you have any cues in your information ?
I'm just curious what phrases ect. are being used.
I think on FetLife you can just say " FemDom " and list that as your only interest. :)
Maybe for the more vanilla sites .... " Being Worshipped " . Experiences players will pick that up. :)
Luci Fer
11-24-2021, 02:59 PM
Lol reminds me of years ago an ex talked me into renting an apartment in a high rise building on the 17th floor. I'd walk down and up 17 flights of stairs every time I'd go out just to avoid my elevator anxiety and all the nosy neighbors Lol. Thank God I only lived there 2 years
I have elevator anxiety too! But mostly because of these damn doors. I know that modern elevators are just fine and they won't squeeze you in between like you are a sausage in a sandwich, but my subconscious still remembers these old terrible elevators from my childhood, they used to close whenever they wanted, so now when these doors open, I can't help but jump in asap like a psycho ;D
funny, I never felt worried about using them with strangers, because if I feel like I don't wanna join someone in their exciting elevator trip lol, I tend to wait longer or use stairs, just like you. Besides, it's good for the butt!;D
lilylilylily
11-24-2021, 03:59 PM
Exactly. I was was still dancing at the club back then so I didn't mind the butt workout I'd get every time I left the house
Marina Starr
11-24-2021, 05:35 PM
When men say shit like they don't like when women wear a lot of makeup. As if they wouldn't look at beautiful women with a lot of makeup.
They really think that women wear makeup just for men.
The majority of women wear makeup for other women. I do not mean to attract other women.
It's more of 'hey girl, love your make up', 'Love your lipstick, where did you get thatt?', 'I wish I could do my makeup like that'.
That sort of context because that's one of many ways women bond.
Luci Fer
11-24-2021, 06:58 PM
When men say shit like they don't like when women wear a lot of makeup. As if they wouldn't look at beautiful women with a lot of makeup.
They really think that women wear makeup just for men.
The majority of women wear makeup for other women. I do not mean to attract other women.
It's more of 'hey girl, love your make up', 'Love your lipstick, who did you get thatt?', 'I wish I could do my makeup like that'.
That sort of context because that's one of many ways women bond.
yeeees! So true hahaha most of men can't say if you wear bb cream or not. They say 'oh your skin is so nice ' lol! They can only see fake lashes and bright eyeshadows, and here they start whining about 'too much makeup'. Go to a church then and find a nice wifey with naked face for yourself!
(girls who don't use makeup, I don't mean to offend you in any way! I take 1 or 2 days off from wearing it sometimes and the feeling is good)
And i love it when women tell about their tricks in doing make up and new trends and things overall. It's truly a bond.
There are guys who know more than other men about it though, and I find it hot :)
somechick99
11-24-2021, 09:21 PM
I'm 27 years old and recently met a really cute guy when out one night. He looks around my age and we hit it off immediately. He was texting me nonstop for a few days until finally age came up and he revealed to me that he's 23. I admit that's a lot younger than I usually go for but my last few bfs were older than me and still immature af so I told him I didn't care, but now he is visibly talking to me way less.
I have no kids, I've never been married and he told me blatantly I look way younger so what gives? Like seriously wtf. I'm pissed
miss.a.p1600
11-25-2021, 08:04 AM
^cant please em all!
Don’t be pissed just tell him “cool. I thought you were way taller and richer.” And never call or text him again.
indiegirl
11-25-2021, 09:37 AM
*smile from hell* I decided to follow through with this guys NONSTOP request to have a photo of me holding my ID. The fuck? He said "He wants the truth" in broken english because a bunch of girls scammed him and I obliged. Never been asked for an ID photo in 12 fucking years. Obvi I didn't say that. Took two selfies and it wasn't enough for him. There's people that try to take over your account on this site with ID photos and he may be one of them. He's been begging for more photos to make sure "it is the truth" LOL shove your truth up your asshole. Here's me buying into this loser and regretting it later. I put red paint from my phone afterwards since this is the internet but SERIOUSLY?! Do you need photos of my asshole to make sure I'm real? He was trying to take over my account on PD.
I'm documenting my life lesson. For any ladies out there who escort, never do this shit. They can open up an account with a full blown selfie holding your drivers license for ad verification. And there are men out there who constantly do this and send their stable out to take appointments which ruins your reputation or send it to the ad site to get access of your password. I'm thankful I just posted my face in the ID.
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whirlerz
11-25-2021, 11:05 AM
Wow, Gorj!
They sound like idiots
carmen_b
11-25-2021, 11:23 AM
On a better note than the troll is your hair toned pink ? Omg love it!
indiegirl
11-25-2021, 11:38 AM
On a better note than the troll is your hair toned pink ? Omg love it!
I'm having a problem with lighting LOL! I dunno if it is the new extensions but all my photos are turning into pink hair LOL. I don't get it LOL!! It's a darker blonde. In my last photo I had to put in black and white because my hair looked pink in it LOL.
LoveyD
11-25-2021, 03:39 PM
Gorgeous! ^^ I like your top, too.
Glad you did not show your personal info. Guys are such scumbags.
chanzep
11-25-2021, 09:42 PM
Gorgeous
indiegirl
11-26-2021, 12:58 AM
Gorgeous
I just hope my post helps ladies in the business out there because mannn the game is always changing over time is one thing I've learned. It's been a major problem on the ad site I'm on now to the point the moderators tell you not to respond to texts or emails with links to click into so these guys can access your ad profile. And if you didn't read their warning disclaimer your account is suspended for a month. I get group chats almost weekly about my account being "suspended" and to click in the link when it's literally a scammer. Not everyone reads directions.
Meh I had a female who kept calling me babe asking for me to see her husband. Girlll I'm not doing a 2 on 1 situation where I find parts of my body in separate bags watching from above. And why are you calling me babe? Every man does that.
LoveyD
11-26-2021, 10:20 AM
So last night Safe Parking hooked me up with 2 vegan meals, and I could only eat half of one. So I saved them to donate to other homeless people who are worse off them I am.
I rolled over to the Starbucks this morning and there is a shopping cart I drop my donations in because I didn't want to put them in the trash. I hate seeing homeless people having to suffer the indignity of searching through a trash can to find their meal, so I place it in the shopping cart
with an unused wrapped fork instead bc I figured it's more sanitary , especially during these times where covid is still spreading rapidly. I've done this before and saw that the homeless folks find and eat these meals which is great, because I know they aren't going to waste.
Some tRumpy fuckwad who looks like he just rolled out of self parking himself gets out of his truck to lecture me about how I need to put leftover food in the trash. WTF?? Who is he, the trash police? I don't waste food. It's a sin. And I'm not going to commit that sin by callously throwing food away. I blatantly ignored his ass because I knew that getting in the mud with him was exactly what he wanted. I strolled by calmly and went into the Starbucks to get my coffee
I knew ignoring him would be the very reaction that he would hate the most.
If he wants to waste food, then he can get up and throw the food into the trash himself. Because I refuse to.
My revenge was showing him he can't control me, no matter what kind of tantrum he throws.
I checked to make sure the food is still there. It is
Good. Seriously, who does guy think he is? Does he get off on telling women what to do? Apparently.
"Big Boss Man" can go fuck himself. Let him eat out of the damn trash!!!!
Why can't men mind their own damn business??!!
miss.a.p1600
11-26-2021, 10:41 AM
^good for you ignoring him.
Some people with pent up misplaced energy just looking for an argument, a fight, etc.
It’s orgasmic to them.
It’s good to NEVER let them cum/DENY them the orgasm they crave. hahahaha
LoveyD
11-26-2021, 10:45 AM
^^ I said one thing to him. "I'm leaving it here for someone" and if that wasn't enough then tough shit. I don't need to explain anything further to him. One day the universe will find a way to force HIM to eat from a garbage can. Fuck that guy.
WendiStarr
11-26-2021, 12:50 PM
BD and his threats. I hate him so bad!!
Luci Fer
11-26-2021, 02:14 PM
indie, you are so beautiful!<3 damn that mf sounded so suspicious, why the fuck he wants ID proof, it's ridiculous! I am super paranoid about such things, even if it's requested by companies, because I know where such photos might end up...in darknet. With internet nowadays people who are tech savvy can do crazy things if they have other person's facepic/ID.
Besides, isn't it enough for such guys that they found you through a right site? Like, it's already guaranteed that you are real. Idiots.
Luci Fer
11-26-2021, 02:22 PM
I don't waste food. It's a sin.
I always feel the same lol. I am not religious, but I just can't waste it, it' almost painful for me to throw food to garbage. I like the idea that the things you don't need anymore can be useful for others. Same with clothes.
So cool you ignored the loser. He just wanted attention. It's the best thing to do in such situations, and that fact they know you realize their presence but still ignore them...mmmm oh yeah ;D
whirlerz
11-26-2021, 02:34 PM
My roomie I like (giving up on that tho)
Front door was open, I went to shut it, & saw he was outside, bending over his car so of course I look to check out his fine ass, he sees me lookin:-[
LoveyD
11-26-2021, 04:17 PM
I always feel the same lol. I am not religious, but I just can't waste it, it' almost painful for me to throw food to garbage. I like the idea that the things you don't need anymore can be useful for others. Same with clothes.
So cool you ignored the loser. He just wanted attention. It's the best thing to do in such situations, and that fact they know you realize their presence but still ignore them...mmmm oh yeah ;D
Any day I have extra food I am going to leave it in the shopping cart next to the bus stop just to spite that motherfucker lol And every time he sees me doing it it will be just one more reminder that idgaf how he feels.
Marina Starr
11-27-2021, 09:25 AM
LoveyD: to answer your question, it's not possible for a lot of men to leave women alone because women are still view as second class so that makes us easy targets for men to bother and talk down to.
You did the right thing by not giving him the reaction and attention he desperately needed.
The best way to deal with TRASH is to not give any attention.