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carmen_b
01-04-2022, 04:22 PM
^ Yeah .... my dude is obviously unhappy at times but I firmly believe it's not *all* me.
We both made the mistake of sticking to a " Corona schedule " doing very little socially outside of the house and separately of each other in the last 3-4 months.
We have been fully boosted that entire time and I'm ashamed of us both quite honestly.
It was a fuck up but now we can attempt to correct it.
I suggested he at least try some attempts at positivity even if he is reaching ( like talking about tiny things OR good memories ) .... anything to get a positive roll going. I feel like he did listen because I received 2 texts yesterday that had " Thanks for .... " as the starting text.
Marina Starr
01-04-2022, 04:36 PM
Always up front and get the cash up front. No honor system.
I see dancing or selling pussy is no difference from people working in sales in vanilla world. What we do is just a different kind of sales.
I'm never ashamed about the money because if I did, I wouldn't be doing it. I think the "shame" comes from what we do should be freely benefit men because it's something that's so ingrained from what is expected of women. People are very comfortable when women give sex away for free but it upsets grandma when you're charging.
^ I like that. It can be good to be up front.
Like if a guy in the club asks if you have another job I like to explain dancing as my part time job .... something I do for extra fun and money. :)
We shouldn't be ashamed about the money equation !
~Carmen~
01-04-2022, 04:43 PM
Always up front and get the cash up front. No honor system.
I see dancing or selling pussy is no difference from people working in sales in vanilla world. What we do is just a different kind of sales.
I'm never ashamed about the money because if I did, I wouldn't be doing it. I think the "shame" comes from what we do should be freely benefit men because it's something that's so ingrained from what is expected of women. People are very comfortable when women give sex away for free but it upsets grandma when you're charging.
Not this grandma!
carmen_b
01-04-2022, 04:51 PM
^ Not my grandma either.
I'm pretty convinced we have a discrete " sex worker line " in our family.
I even remember as a child my Aunt doing " frequent trips to Vegas " lol.
Hmmmmmm now as an adult I know someone doing that hahaha.
miss.a.p1600
01-04-2022, 04:56 PM
Always up front and get the cash up front. No honor system.
I see dancing or selling pussy is no difference from people working in sales in vanilla world. What we do is just a different kind of sales.
I'm never ashamed about the money because if I did, I wouldn't be doing it. I think the "shame" comes from what we do should be freely benefit men because it's something that's so ingrained from what is expected of women. People are very comfortable when women give sex away for free but it upsets grandma when you're charging.
Exactly! I find that the average man in today's times expects the woman to go all out for him before he provides his worthiness of such treatment.
Just my opinion but its the only way to even out the patriarchy n male entitlement which leads them to be lazy whiny man children pillow princesses
Like NO dude that's not how it works when you want to stay with a quality woman.
Marina Starr
01-04-2022, 05:00 PM
You are a different kind of grandma :)
It's always a pleasant surprise when older people are much more accepting of sex work than a lot of these gen z and millenials hoes that claimed to be woke.
That's why I don't believe in that all talks 'wokeism' bull shit. SHOW me you're woke, don't tell me.
And on that note, the best way to be 'woke' is get their asses to work instead of playing video games at their mamas's house.
Not this grandma!
carmen_b
01-04-2022, 05:02 PM
My Grandma knew I worked at a club as a cocktail waitress and I think one time she did suggest to at least try some work where " the gals keep their tops on " lol but beyond that she never said anything.
I went to the strip club immediately after turning 21 hahaha.
I had gone earlier but had to wait to turn 21.
kamiliam
01-04-2022, 05:14 PM
You are a different kind of grandma :)
It's always a pleasant surprise when older people are much more accepting of sex work than a lot of these gen z and millenials hoes that claimed to be woke.
That's why I don't believe in that all talks 'wokeism' bull shit. SHOW me you're woke, don't tell me.
And on that note, the best way to be 'woke' is get their asses to work instead of playing video games at their mamas's house.
my grandma used to tell me “sometimes a woman just wants to get laid, doesn’t have to matter who”
miss.a.p1600
01-04-2022, 10:03 PM
^I have fantasies about it being just simple, brief, hedonistic, n no stings attached
neverendingkneebruises
01-05-2022, 10:28 AM
I'm never ashamed about the money because if I did, I wouldn't be doing it. I think the "shame" comes from what we do should be freely benefit men because it's something that's so ingrained from what is expected of women. People are very comfortable when women give sex away for free but it upsets grandma when you're charging.
!!!!!
https://i.imgur.com/faVxOdQ.png
neverendingkneebruises
01-05-2022, 10:30 AM
^ Not my grandma either.
I'm pretty convinced we have a discrete " sex worker line " in our family.
I even remember as a child my Aunt doing " frequent trips to Vegas " lol.
Hmmmmmm now as an adult I know someone doing that hahaha.
More people are related to sex workers (& not bourgeois) than they want to admit!
Women like us have always existed & have done a huge part in shaping & paving history.
miss.a.p1600
01-05-2022, 11:47 AM
I just had to deal with a male Karen today.......ugh!!!!
But the thing that bothers me is men will be aggressive trolls if they know you are a woman and you're by yourself.
Bitch you wouldn't dare act a fool like this with another man.
That's why male Karen's need to be checked by their fellow men (the few remaining ones who are normal and respect women) so they adhere to civilized standards of society
carmen_b
01-05-2022, 12:55 PM
Yes, I have a feeling my Aunt danced ( my Grandmas sister )but because of the discretion factor I don't know which is a bummer .
My parents are actually not as open minded ( just about this ha they are great overall ) so I'm pretty discrete.
More people are related to sex workers (& not bourgeois) than they want to admit!
Women like us have always existed & have done a huge part in shaping & paving history.
AChildOfBoredom
01-05-2022, 02:03 PM
Men and their fucking egos when they’re driving. Don’t even fucking get me started. Motherfuckers.
Marina Starr
01-05-2022, 02:20 PM
Count me in! As you said, they understand violence!
Men and their fucking egos when they’re driving. Don’t even fucking get me started. Motherfuckers.
miss.a.p1600
01-05-2022, 06:14 PM
^Lobotomies (with no anesthesia) and Flying BBC's (unlubed) ........ the type of violence the bad ones, like the male Karen I encountered today, deserve
Aurora_Sunset
01-05-2022, 06:24 PM
The other night, my husband went ahead of me to the bar so he could watch his football game, but I didn't want to go that early. When I went to meet up with him, I decided it was stupid to have 2 cars there, and the bar is literally less than a mile away and it was really nice out, so I chose to walk instead. In my 20s, I never felt unsafe to walk anywhere. Idk, it just never felt that way for me. But walking up one street, a main road, with a ton of lights and traffic, at nighttime, and I couldn't shake the anxiety of being "a woman walking alone." I ended up calling a friend and asking her to just talk to me on the phone for 15 minutes so I wasn't totally alone. I hate that I live in a world/society where I can't walk myself a mile down the street at night without fearing that something might happen to me. Fuck men, because it's such as hell not because of other women.
moneybags
01-06-2022, 03:11 AM
I don’t owe you an explanation. I’m in the worst mood after a bad shift at the club, and this guy gets in the elevator with me and asks me, “Are you okay?” Like no. And your dick isn’t going to make me feel better. If I was an “ugly girl” would you ask. Probably not.
ravenskyy
01-06-2022, 09:22 AM
Men are annoying. Why are they on this site? lol
neverendingkneebruises
01-06-2022, 01:11 PM
Men are annoying. Why are they on this site? lol
They literally can't help but push themselves into every single space we have for ourselves lol. Fuckers
miss.a.p1600
01-06-2022, 04:32 PM
I find that men who can’t afford to provide think that their mediocre dick n physical appearance will make up for what they lack in the financial categories
Yeah, if you’re a male sugar baby.
Marina Starr
01-06-2022, 06:06 PM
I despise when strange ass men trying to talk or strike up a conversation when they can clearly see I have earphones on and jamming to music.
I refused to take them out and will roll my eyes and watch them vamoose. I don't give a fuck if they or anyone think I'm rude.
SnuffleUffleGrass
01-06-2022, 06:32 PM
They literally can't help but push themselves into every single space we have for ourselves lol. Fuckers
Oh man. The audacity of our blue trolls still amazes me and I'm so old and retired. I thought I had seen it all in my lifetime already.
TheBrownFox
01-06-2022, 07:09 PM
Men are annoying. Why are they on this site? lol
Because we can never have our own personal space without these nosey-ass motherfuckers wanting to peek on what we're talking about. I recently joined in on a Facebook Live that was specifically for single mothers, and there was one or two MEN who decided crash the live chat to try to hit on the women on there. The admin was quick with the ban button though. :) One of the men went to my FB profile pic, and made a thirsty-ass post and left his phone number. Fuckin' gross.
And I think that so-called "finsub" guy on here is full of shit. I have a hard time believing he hasn't been able to find himself a cam model for this. Lol. He even mentioned in his post that he likes cam girls, so I don't know why tf he'd have to join this forum for that purpose. I think he's just another dude on here looking for free female attention. Finsub my ass. LOL.
chanzep
01-06-2022, 07:23 PM
Men are annoying. Why are they on this site? lol
Because they are losers. Also because they are entertained , a lot of females talk to them so they stay.
I have no desire to converse with them for free nor do I care about their opinions on anything. I don't understand why anyone talks to them. Oh well I don't look at most threads they are in. But they are everywhere even in body business smh.
TheBrownFox
01-06-2022, 07:36 PM
And while I'm on a roll...these dudes on Twitter who post stuff like "Who's selling content? I'm buying! CashApp. PayPal. Venmo." ::) LIES, and those aren't adult-friendly payment methods, liar. I bet they're expecting tons of girls to be like "ME! Pick MEEE!" Then he's gonna tell them to "DM him some free samples." Lol. Gtfoh. I saw a lot of that crap on Twitter back in 2020 during the stay-at-home order. Men be lying about everything. Haha. It's not hard at all to find cam girls who are selling content. We are EVERYWHERE. Once again, another lying-ass man trying to get some free female attention.
miss.a.p1600
01-07-2022, 08:14 AM
I tell my female relative about the male Karen who was clearly harassing me and her response “oh he was just playing and you should have removed yourself from the situation”
Ok you misogynist.
Just rationalize male douchebag behavior and gaslight my experience. If I could have removed myself from the situation I would have. And his bitch ass should never have been acting like a lowlife fool to begin with.
That’s why these assholes keep acting like this. Women like her are the reason men continue to stalk, rape, harass, annoy, etc women and why we can’t even go out in public alone because they are never held accountable for their shity behavior
WonderWoman0642
01-07-2022, 11:09 AM
Because they are losers. Also because they are entertained , a lot of females talk to them so they stay.
I have no desire to converse with them for free nor do I care about their opinions on anything. I don't understand why anyone talks to them. Oh well I don't look at most threads they are in. But they are everywhere even in body business smh.
I don't understand it either. I pretty much just check out "ladies only" at this point lol.
Marina Starr
01-07-2022, 11:51 AM
Me too! I sell virtual pussy, why fuck would I want to talk to these losers for free? The fucked up thing is they're not even decent.
I don't know why either but let me know when you do!
Because they are losers. Also because they are entertained , a lot of females talk to them so they stay.
I have no desire to converse with them for free nor do I care about their opinions on anything. I don't understand why anyone talks to them. Oh well I don't look at most threads they are in. But they are everywhere even in body business smh.
miss.a.p1600
01-07-2022, 12:35 PM
^only a handful of them are decent n helpful. Like literally 3 or 4 of them………out of the plethora of male members who sign in this forum.
It’s really sad and just goes to show how warped the male mindset is that the majority of them are not worth one millisecond of time.
TheBrownFox
01-07-2022, 01:56 PM
Typical man trying to use my Covid to his advantage to try to score himself a future date.....
On my FB post (asking someone to pick up Vitamin D3 for me and stamps, and I'll Cash App them money), he volunteers to do it. After he's bought the stuff, he PMs me "How about you buy me lunch when you feel better?" Nope. I told him I will just Cash App him money, so that's what I did. I don't like this "owing a man a date" b.s., and I don't think it's cute. That'll probably be the last time he offers to do any favors for me. Lol. I KNEW this dude (and his offers to help with this or that) was leading up to this one day. These men do these things (Offer you a ride somewhere, etc.) because they want you to "owe them" later.
Meanwhile my thoughtful lil' sister and her sweet kids left a gift basket outside my front door with cards, scratch-off lottery tickets, a word search book, etc. Now THAT was sweet, and made me smile!
moneybags
01-07-2022, 02:03 PM
^^^thus is why I don’t like nice guys. Nice guys get a bad rap not because they’re nice, but because they’re manipulating women. It’s all about intention.
Dear men, please don’t use the elevator as a place to pick up girls! Let’s us get on and off the elevator in peace.
You have to be a bitch because that’s the only way to protect your boundaries.
Until most men think, “Jesus this girl has no option to get to her apartment other than the elevator. I shouldn’t take advantage of this situation to satisfy my ego needs for attention. I understand if I say hi and she ignore me because she’s tired or just isn’t feeling good I won’t react defensively. I understand her right to be in a pubic space without unwanted attention. I also understand with these daily indignities it makes it hard to know which men have good intentions and which ones don’t.”
Until that’s in the collective consciousness of men, don’t expect me to be nice or friendly to strange men anytime soon
carmen_b
01-07-2022, 02:34 PM
^ Headphones !
You can actually have them not playing anything ( if you need to hear / safety ect ) !
moneybags
01-07-2022, 03:02 PM
^^^^babe I did have headphones in! They don’t care. I might have some bigger ones that go over the ear instead of the tiny ones that go in. I might wear those instead. I’ll let you know if they help.
I’m going to invest in large head phones and a mace gun.
Marina Starr
01-07-2022, 03:23 PM
I have said this many times but niceness doesn't mean goodness. Men use niceness as manipulations. When niceness is used with the intentions of getting what they want then they're not actually nice. That's a facade, a put on, a front.
Kindness is who they are, they do good with good intentions. There's a big difference between niceness and kindness.
carmen_b
01-07-2022, 03:25 PM
I have the big headphones ha!
It’ll eliminate 90% really.
BUT not all haha.
moneybags
01-07-2022, 04:46 PM
I have said this many times but niceness doesn't mean goodness. Men use niceness as manipulations. When niceness is used with the intentions of getting what they want then they're not actually nice. That's a facade, a put on, a front.
Kindness is who they are, they do good with good intentions. There's a big difference between niceness and kindness.
Niceness is form of repression-it’s a survival mechanism to stay safe. I’m all for peace and harmony, but sometimes I think we need to see being nice as a symptom of repression and social conditioning.
I’m just gonna have to be a cold hearted bitch for awhile. It’s not my true nature, but it’s what I have to do to protect myself unfortunately.
chanzep
01-08-2022, 01:12 AM
These men are always plotting pretending to be nice smh.
@ The Brown Fox typical example. Why can't be just help. Then suggest you but him lunch smh. Nah just take the money and bounce.
chanzep
01-08-2022, 01:20 AM
The men in here are not useful just nosy and trying to talk to strippers/ sex workers for free. I only understand the guy who is a dj being here the rest have no business. They should be on Tuscl or stay in customer conversation and be banned elsewhere. Can't even go in the lounge anymore.
They remind me of those guys who come to club and sit and the bars don't buy dances and claim they are not customers because they bore the bartenders and new girls to death .
If I want a man's opinion I go on my vanilla forums . This should be our safe place.
Marina Starr
01-08-2022, 05:03 AM
Reminded me of these old entitled losers taking they own coffee to Starbucks taking up seats and table every single fucking day without buying or tipping.
Who the fuck does that? The audacity of it all! Gutter, trashy and tacky!
The men in here are not useful just nosy and trying to talk to strippers/ sex workers for free. I only understand the guy who is a dj being here the rest have no business. They should be on Tuscl or stay in customer conversation and be banned elsewhere. Can't even go in the lounge anymore.
They remind me of those guys who come to club and sit and the bars don't buy dances and claim they are not customers because they bore the bartenders and new girls to death .
If I want a man's opinion I go on my vanilla forums . This should be our safe place.
miss.a.p1600
01-08-2022, 07:11 AM
We should all put some sort of pay to chat feature in our signatures and anytime they try to talk to us, for more than one free comment per month, they will be ignored unless they pay.
Make them pay!
miss.a.p1600
01-08-2022, 09:16 AM
My dude saying he wish I was more sexual.
Well I wish you made more money…..
Working out, doing manly tasks, being loyal, etc are all great but when you keep that money coming in and I see you’re wise with spending THAT is the most attractive thing to me because it means lifestyle as free from financial worry and doing wtf we want to do without thinking about the money. I don’t like men trying to get free sex, a free mommy, a free therapist, a free maid, on-call Uber, etc. and try to suck up your resources so you’re worn ragged/less valuable to anyone except them.
I feel like men think this is Stepford Wives and that they can get a very beautiful woman to cook clean suck n fuck on demand (which is multiple times a week for them) without putting in effort for that sort of treatment.
No money = no honey
Little money = little honey
Want the deluxe package? Come with generous amounts of money.
Change my life positively and I will do the same for you.
And NO I will not bust it wide and low to see what you will do. YOU lay your cards out first!!!!
miss.a.p1600
01-08-2022, 09:21 AM
I remember Sam mentioning in the other thread how men try to get hella free work out of you because they think they’re entitled to that in a relationship.
It’s probably the main reason a lot of wives don’t have sex or not as often.
Doing unpaid labor and the last thing a mf wants to do is bust it open for no benefits
I bet that’s why Lisa Vanderpump only fucked Ken on his birthday and sporadic holidays
carmen_b
01-08-2022, 09:50 AM
Neediness is a turn off and asking for that ( uncompensated ) time to do errands / childcare ect. would be hard ! It’s funny how men don’t see a connection ... it’s easy to see.
Make life easier = more energy for you.
:/
It seems like many men need to get used to “ no “ more in relation to time given.
If you don’t have time for xyz ... you don’t !!
I admire my dude for that. He often makes things so much easier and automated. Usually he’s got a dinner idea like 3-4 hours ahead ( deliver or pick up or somewhere in mind to go ). I still try to cook or get something picked up once or twice a week . He does consistently make life easier so it makes me more willing to work with him on things and be on the ball myself.
miss.a.p1600
01-08-2022, 09:55 AM
A lot of them have been trained to believe that providing for women makes them tricks, “*I* am so great that I don’t have to pay for pussy”, and a women is just a gold diggers if she cares “too much” about money.
carmen_b
01-08-2022, 10:10 AM
^ You are smart to not take on too much.
When you focus on your own career you will get results that can last years and years ( leading you to higher income OR just having extra to invest ).
If you give too much time to the detriment of your own career you are risking more loss than just the “ hours “ .
You risk not moving ahead and not growing !
It’s a huge risk to do domestic labor at the expense of a career for yourself .
Your own career can immediately take care of you.
If your partner randomly decided to be an ass and you slacked on your own goals that would put you compromised. If you have good goals for yourself you will always have safety and never be compromised.
A romantic partnership should never require a womans career to stop or slow down unless SHE wants to take a few years off ( have a child or try on housewife style life ).
carmen_b
01-08-2022, 10:50 AM
If a man isn't HANDING you money for domestic labor ( for you to invest on your own ) it shouldn't even be discussed haha other than how to " 50/50" that labor! Assuming the woman will do more is kind of like " hey you can hope " but just don't be surprised when reality hits you in the face lol.
moneybags
01-08-2022, 11:25 AM
The men in here are not useful just nosy and trying to talk to strippers/ sex workers for free. I only understand the guy who is a dj being here the rest have no business. They should be on Tuscl or stay in customer conversation and be banned elsewhere. Can't even go in the lounge anymore.
They remind me of those guys who come to club and sit and the bars don't buy dances and claim they are not customers because they bore the bartenders and new girls to death .
If I want a man's opinion I go on my vanilla forums . This should be our safe place.
I’ve said the same thing. I do not engage with them. You should be paying a cam model or a stripper. They’re not necessarily bad, but this should be our safe spot.
I think the reason men intrude in women’s spaces is because we’re goddesses. Women hold they key to life and love. Men need us, but we don’t need them. Single for 5 years-happily. I get lonely, but I don’t have to deal with the stress of having a man in my life.
miss.a.p1600
01-08-2022, 11:53 AM
Ever want to troll your dude (only if they do something to deserve it)?
Call them up, middle of whatever they’re doing and say “WE NEED TO TALK!!!”
And wait for their reaction
Most likely they’re going to assume you need some money, want to nag them about something, you’re pregnant etc
Wait for them to get into a tizzy racking their brain trying to figure out what you need to talk about. Then tell them nevermind it was just a prank.
Lol!!!!
Priceless.
TheBrownFox
01-08-2022, 12:07 PM
^^^^babe I did have headphones in! They don’t care. I might have some bigger ones that go over the ear instead of the tiny ones that go in. I might wear those instead. I’ll let you know if they help.
I’m going to invest in large head phones and a mace gun.
Christmas Day I was having a conversation with my sister and my grandmom about how I'm old school when it comes to headphones. I prefer the big Mickey Mouse looking ones that go on your ears, and I can't stand AirPods. I don't like putting stuff in my ears, and they hurt. You should see me on the bus looking like a damn fool, trying to listen to Daft Punk, and having those things keep falling out of my ears. Lol.
I got off topic for a minute, so let me put it back on topic...MEN ARE PIGS! Lol.