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Dreamqueen
10-21-2022, 09:45 AM
Today, a guy at work walked past me and said, "Smile! It's not that bad." I immediately responded, "How do you know?"
Granted, this was someone I'm relatively cool with so he kinda just gave a "Daaaang" but otherwise didn't seem to take it too personally or fight me on it. But I think I've found my new go-to line the next time anyone tries this.
Like, how the fuck DO you know? You have no idea how my day or life is going.
I love that response.
I'm going to use it from now on.:thumbsup:
carmen_b
10-21-2022, 10:00 AM
It seems like you guys are getting into toxic territory ...... but that is JUST from little snippets here.
Like .... maybe it's time to move on ?
This marks day #3 I haven't been able to start back to working again bc everytime I try this week, "dickface" is trying to sleep & is bitching about the damn light being on. Even though about a month ago when I worked at night, he compromised and wore a sleep mask with his head set on to drown out my calls, so wtf changed?!
I can't help but be furious at him right now. Add that to him telling me that fucking me "was like a job" *eyeroll*
I snarkily pointed out tonight as he bitched about the light being on that "ya it's cool, you'll just be supporting me that much more & I will make your life hell while I'm trying to get out of here".. Mess with me mfer and it won't be worth it in the end. I know he's prob ready for me to move out which is fine bc so am I BUT he doesn't seem to get the fact that I NEED TO WORK to make such happen......
I've already stopped buying groceries to feed 2 people. I fucking hate these asshole men I seem to get stuck with UGH!
carmen_b
10-21-2022, 10:02 AM
I hate that my plants are with J and I worry he is fucking them up.
I should probably send care instructions over but I'm kind of hoping whatever watering he is doing is just going to be enough. I don't want to communicate with him.
moneybags
10-21-2022, 11:05 AM
One of my clients is stalking my vanilla social media . Ugh. I deleted it but it’s creepy. He’s an incel too. He’s got serious mental health problems. I deleted my account. I’m too busy for social media, so I’m okay with it. Anyone have any ideas of dealing with crazy strip club regulars? I think I need to get a separate phone for work because the way the algorithms work it links these guys to my vanilla social media. I’ve gotten way to relaxed with my safety. I think I’m gonna get a separate work phone so there contact isn’t even my phone at all and get a burner phone for work. I’m not sure.
carmen_b
10-21-2022, 11:30 AM
^ It was SUCH disaster for sex workers when google voice starts " pulling " contacts. Yuck yuck yuck.
SnuffleUffleGrass
10-21-2022, 12:05 PM
My poor boyfriend is becoming a mental mess. Ladies if you ever marry or settle down always keep an huge emergency savings fund. Seriously.
moneybags
10-21-2022, 12:22 PM
My poor boyfriend is becoming a mental mess. Ladies if you ever marry or settle down always keep an huge emergency savings fund. Seriously.
That they don’t know about-safety deposit box.
miss.a.p1600
10-21-2022, 01:46 PM
My poor boyfriend is becoming a mental mess. Ladies if you ever marry or settle down always keep an huge emergency savings fund. Seriously.
Girl you can say THAT again…..
ALWAYS keep your own (your own savings, your own account, your own car, etc)
I don’t think I’ll EVER live with a man again and if I do I will absolutely keep my own real estate (In my name that is MY property)
carmen_b
10-21-2022, 01:49 PM
Oh no ! Depression ? You seem like you are a supportive partner, I hope he gets some help !
My poor boyfriend is becoming a mental mess. Ladies if you ever marry or settle down always keep an huge emergency savings fund. Seriously.
carmen_b
10-21-2022, 01:51 PM
Same. I created my own housing insecurity I feel when I moved in with J.
I mean I guess ..... you take a risk and move in and some point. That's what people do.
BUT ..... I wouldn't be surprised if I keep my house for YEARS and just put a couple room mates in or something if I were to live with a man ( keeping a room open for myself at any point for a full year or two). I never want to experience housing insecurity again. I'm not sure it's worth the savings.
I don’t think I’ll EVER live with a man again and if I do I will absolutely keep my own real estate (In my name that is MY property)
neverendingkneebruises
10-21-2022, 05:52 PM
Men are getting AWFULLY bold nowadays. Waiting for the bus and one of them drives by I ask someone nearby if it goes to X and he says yes I say thank you and go to sit down on bench since it's not my bus yet.
He follows me and sits on the same bench "Can I sit here?"
I just said "yea I mean it's for public use."
"What's your name? Do you like sex?"
I was immediately disgusted. "Dude, what the fuck is wrong with you, I'm a STRANGER. Have some respect for yourself" I got up and walked away, had to stand to wait for the bus. Also not that it matters but I was literally covered head to toe with no makeup on, hair not done. (Edit: also in broad daylight, right on a college campus....) He seemed surprised I told him off so I wonder how many poor girls he has harassed that are too afraid to say/do anything back. :(
Seriously WTF is up with this behavior??? I can't even go out anymore without getting literally harassed at least once. I don't mean just complimented, flirted with or hit on (yall know me always on the prowl �� looking for men to scam) I mean straight up HARASSED. Pls bring back shame. At least just for men since they can't control themselves. Fucking disgusting. I'm over porn/hookup culture. Not that I think anything is wrong with those things in a vacuum but it is making so many men openly depraved. It'd be hilariously pathetic if these weren't the same "men" getting frustrated that they "can't " get laid & shooting up schools because of it.
WendiStarr
10-21-2022, 06:22 PM
Not 1, not 2 but 3 time wasting fuckers today that no showed. 1 of them was a former reg. Why bother booking and going through screening, only to go m.i.a. the day of your appt? One of them even confirmed 2 hours before, messaged that he was on the way, and still no showed. I don't get it. The former reg tried to see me 4 hours after he was supposed to see me and I was in PJs eating dinner by then.
miss.a.p1600
10-21-2022, 08:35 PM
I noticed this dude not buying groceries for whatever reason.
Cool. I hope that expectation isn’t on me cause I’m going to buy my meals out (in sugar daddy headquarters where it will be easy to get my meals taken care of).
lilylilylily
10-21-2022, 09:06 PM
Some guy that I went on a couple dates with a few months ago, (our last date I told him off because he was annoying, told me he loves me etc..) anyway he texted a few times since saying he's sorry, blah blah but I ignored him. This time he said pls let's start over. I finally said, ok let's be friends and see how it goes, he said ok.. Guess what, never heard from him again lol
chanzep
10-21-2022, 10:23 PM
Miss P I wouldn't buy groceries or pay bills in that house. It's his house and he made it clear he would sell it rather than let you relax and enjoy alone while he works away to earn more like a real man. He would put you out. He makes out he's doing you a favour for paying the rent, he's not he will pay that if you live there are not. Your the one doing him a big favour buying groceries and paying bills saving him money.
I would eat outside the house . I know it's not the best but your moving so won't be too long. Probably cheaper than buying lots of groceries .
SnuffleUffleGrass
10-22-2022, 06:32 AM
One of my clients is stalking my vanilla social media . Ugh. I deleted it but it’s creepy. He’s an incel too. He’s got serious mental health problems. I deleted my account. I’m too busy for social media, so I’m okay with it. Anyone have any ideas of dealing with crazy strip club regulars? I think I need to get a separate phone for work because the way the algorithms work it links these guys to my vanilla social media. I’ve gotten way to relaxed with my safety. I think I’m gonna get a separate work phone so there contact isn’t even my phone at all and get a burner phone for work. I’m not sure.
Oh yeah a work phone just for club customers and other work related stuff is ideal.
My Man Bitching- Boyfriend dared to sass me about my coffee brewing skills. The nerve!!!
xxxGothBarbie
10-22-2022, 08:31 AM
I hate that my plants are with J and I worry he is fucking them up.
I should probably send care instructions over but I'm kind of hoping whatever watering he is doing is just going to be enough. I don't want to communicate with him.
Sounds toxic. Move on. You can buy more plants.
miss.a.p1600
10-22-2022, 08:35 AM
Miss P I wouldn't buy groceries or pay bills in that house. It's his house and he made it clear he would sell it rather than let you relax and enjoy alone while he works away to earn more like a real man. He would put you out. He makes out he's doing you a favour for paying the rent, he's not he will pay that if you live there are not. Your the one doing him a big favour buying groceries and paying bills saving him money.
I would eat outside the house . I know it's not the best but your moving so won't be too long. Probably cheaper than buying lots of groceries .
Precisely
I could buy them but I have to prove a point that if he can’t afford fucking groceries and to maintain this house without my money then he needs to get a higher paying job and cut back on frivolous spending or risk me walking out. Period.
I am not anyones mom. I’m not captain save a bitch made man.
I have to let him figure out how to be a better man. If it means me eating out in fancy areas and possibly meeting other men who can provide better then so be it.
I am so thankful for this forum. Ladies here have totally helped me maintain and strengthen my reasonable boundaries.
carmen_b
10-22-2022, 08:37 AM
^ I'm working on figuring out how to get them ( sending someone else for them ).
They are living things I've had 2.5 years so I want THEM if that makes sense. Or at least some of them and the hardest to move ( one is 5 feet by 5 feet ) going to a local plant lover. Maybe I'll donate the huge one to a nursing home or DV shelter or something like that.
carmen_b
10-22-2022, 08:41 AM
^ With the groceries it's so easy to barely eat at your house really. Get things like breakfast bars / bagels and hide them somewhere haha.
Then just buy little sandwiches out or a nice meal out like you said. He is really not buying ANYTHING for the house ? Like even he gets a little batch of groceries and then you do ? Very odd.
It sounds like he is probably getting into the thought pattern that I think J was ...... which is " well she must be SAVING so much money living here " .
Not really due to the extra time if someone is super needy lol .
miss.a.p1600
10-22-2022, 08:41 AM
^im a plant lover too
I let my mom keep one of my plants when the power went out here for days during ice storm and I instantly regretted it because she dropped one and damaged it. Then was so unapologetic which pissed me off. And I cried for days.
Get your plants as soon as you can otherwise it’s up to him whether he takes care of them or not.
Dreamqueen
10-22-2022, 02:04 PM
My buddy called to catch up yesterday.
He's the one that
I mentioned who married a woman for her money, so he didn't have to work anymore.
We got into it.
The reasons why they almost split up recently?
She gained weight and is bitchy and aloof.
:O
Dude, she's entering menopause (early 50's).
She's now developed glaucoma and still works on the computer.
He's complaining that she never wants to do anything and just lays on the couch after work and watches tv.
I ask about his daily routine?
He tells me that he takes several naps during the day, goes to the pool and the park, and watches his favorite t.v. shows.
See the irony?
I flashed back to why we broke up when we were dating.
We were on a trip.
I was walking back to our lounge chairs from the pool.
He made a comment that if I were 10 pounds thinner, I'd be perfect.
I was 120 pounds.
When we got back home I immediately broke up with him. That was 1992.
His poor wife, is all I've got to say.
She probably feels trapped with this ogre for a husband.
The nerve of it all. >:(
Everyday I thank God for being single, and to be fortunate to afford to live alone and make my own money.
neverendingkneebruises
10-22-2022, 02:40 PM
^ my worst nightmare.... omfg
Reading that made me drier than the Sahara desert
chanzep
10-22-2022, 04:05 PM
The cheek of him.
Dreamqueen
10-23-2022, 10:31 AM
^ my worst nightmare.... omfg
Reading that made me drier than the Sahara desert
The cheek of him.
Ikr?
He's a Virgo too, and very blunt.
In the bedroom?
Crawls on top and pumps away until he's done. No foreplay or anything. Ugh!
I was always underweight.
Would BEG the universe to reach 100 pounds.
I'm too skinny, and, now I'm too fat?
Well, which one is it?
Make up your mind.
carmen_b
10-23-2022, 02:18 PM
^ Disgusting.
I have men say the stupidest things too ( body shaming category ) .
Like ..... clearly this body is fine I've cashed in on it for the last 15 years lol.
I won't even get into it but the gist of the details but I always always smart enough to ignore men like this after ONE comment.
Aurora_Sunset
10-23-2022, 02:30 PM
Today, a guy at work walked past me and said, "Smile! It's not that bad." I immediately responded, "How do you know?"
Granted, this was someone I'm relatively cool with so he kinda just gave a "Daaaang" but otherwise didn't seem to take it too personally or fight me on it. But I think I've found my new go-to line the next time anyone tries this.
Like, how the fuck DO you know? You have no idea how my day or life is going.
For the next 2 days, whenever I arrived in the morning, this guy would make a comment, "Oh, I'm not even gonna say good morning to you cuz you're gonna be like' how do you know?'" Or "Is it a good morning or not? I don't wanna make you mad by saying it is."
lmao, dramatic much?
Btw, that's not what you said, motherfucker. I wasn't responding to "Good morning." I was responding to the demand to "Smile" because "It's not that bad."
If he had just walked past and said good morning, I wouldn't have said, "How do you know?" I would've just fucking said good morning back.
Nobody "got sassy" because you said "good morning," dude. That's NOT what you said or what I was reacting to. It was explicitly because of your demand to smile.
Men will really do anything to avoid acknowledging what we were upset about, even altering the 'memories' of the interaction, or what actually set us off. ::)
chanzep
10-23-2022, 03:47 PM
What a weirdo he is.
Dreamqueen
10-24-2022, 10:21 AM
^ Disgusting.
I have men say the stupidest things too ( body shaming category ) .
Like ..... clearly this body is fine I've cashed in on it for the last 15 years lol.
I won't even get into it but the gist of the details but I always always smart enough to ignore men like this after ONE comment.
That's exactly what I was thinking, and wanted to say to him.
He never knew that I was a sex worker, so I kept tight lipped about it.
Being so much older now, I can't/won't keep my mouth shut.
neverendingkneebruises
10-24-2022, 02:09 PM
For the next 2 days, whenever I arrived in the morning, this guy would make a comment, ......
Before I were a SWer I had a coworker like this, I ignored him 1st time he told me to smile, the next day when he did it again I stared him dead in the eyes and said "my dad died, asshole." He didn't do it since LMFAO
miss.a.p1600
10-24-2022, 08:53 PM
FINALLY this dude took his ass to sleep before me. But, the mf is taking up 3/4 of the bed. Um there will be absolutely no accidental cuddling. THIS is why I hate men rn.
I purposely talked to him only about the job ALL day today, forced him to listen to female empowerment music this entire weekend. Reparations part 1 bitch!
neverendingkneebruises
10-24-2022, 09:45 PM
Normalize lying to and manipulating men to get into their pockets just like they do to get into our pants.
Dreamqueen
10-25-2022, 09:35 AM
I was invited to a meetup by the host of the podcast that I was a guest on.
He's flying in next month for it.
It's quite a distance away, so I was going to rent a car and hotel.
He just had a meetup over the weekend and live streamed the entire thing.
What I saw was a bunch of grown men in their 40's, and 50's acting like hooligans.
They were not only drunk and obnoxious, but they were making fun of other patrons in the bars they were in.
They filmed breaking into storage crates that were in the back parking lot at the venue they rented.
I could go on and on about what fuckery I saw them get into, but I think you get the idea.
Thank God I saw this.
I would've been so pissed if I spent money on gas, meals, etc just to be amongst such man babies.
Ugh.
whirlerz
10-25-2022, 02:11 PM
Fuck these idiots I live with (3 of us total including me rn, since Boopsie and Whoopsie the pig couple moved out)..
1st off, Mr Former crush, who, after using me for rides/food etc (my fault too) & me asking him to please give me my missing lamp part to ignore me, fine, I'll replace it, & you can pay me..
Mr Stoner upstairs has been flushing paper napkins down the toilet, (we've a septic system), Then proceeds to clog the kitchen sink w/food bits (took me 20 minutes to unclog) AND dirtied the stove...if anything happens, landlord won't bother.
Guess what? The burners are removed, & are in my room!
Also, no one is taking up/bringing back the dumpsters..
I put a note in the bathroom about not flushing anything but tolliet paper, going to put one up about the dumpsters.
Disgusting. PIGS.
TheBrownFox
10-25-2022, 02:20 PM
Men and their poor hygiene (Shouldn't have to remind you to take a fucking shower), and spraying fucking Axe body spray without having had a shower first. Ugh. Men throwing away their crumpled up paper towels in the tiny bathroom trash can, but not pushing it down into the trash can, so now it's at the very top and dangling over the edge of the trash can...making it LOOK like the trash can is full when it actually isn't. Men getting pee on my toilet...and then when I go to lift up the toilet (to clean it with bleach) I see the damn pee dripping. UGH, that grosses me the fuck out.
TheBrownFox
10-25-2022, 05:01 PM
FUCK. After using the toilet, he decided to spray a bunch of Axe body spray to cover up the smell. WTF. Air freshener is there for a fucking reason...use it! Now I gotta breathe in this fucking Axe spray.
neverendingkneebruises
10-25-2022, 07:59 PM
Delete
indiegirl
10-25-2022, 11:02 PM
I swear I went to the grocery store to shop in peace late tonight and the cashier who always has to follow me when I see him to spark a conversation saw that I was avoiding his cashier yet again and I purposely went to self checkout. He decided to go there instead and then he wanted to help give me bags and talk to me. FECCKKKKK! Please leave me alone. Creeps me out. Even when he is on mop duty, I'll avoid the aisle he's in and he'll rush through with a mop of fury just so he can say hi and talk to me once again or ask me what I've been up to, where have I been, do I still live here?" NOOOO please. I'm finishing my grocery shopping up at another further away store on Thursday where he won't be.
Dreamqueen
10-25-2022, 11:42 PM
Today was the first day I've been outside since July 7th, but it's most likely going to be the last.
I walked over to the laundromat to get quarters, which is only a block away.
Men working in the meridians harassed me, and as soon as I got to the main street, men in cars passing by slowed down and tried to talk to me.
I'm agoraphobic, with PTSD.
Too many triggers out there.
Nope.
Can't do it.
Can't be out there in the world anymore.:'(
neverendingkneebruises
10-26-2022, 12:46 AM
Today was the first day I've been outside since July 7th, but it's most likely going to be the last.
I walked over to the laundromat to get quarters, which is only a block away.
Men working in the meridians harassed me, and as soon as I got to the main street, men in cars passing by slowed down and tried to talk to me.
I'm agoraphobic, with PTSD.
Too many triggers out there.
Nope.
Can't do it.
Can't be out there in the world anymore.:'(
They're been seriously rabid since covid times. :(
Fuckers fried their brains with porn even more during quarantine
I don't like leaving the house now unless it's for work or I'm with a friend. I feel safest that way anyways tbh.
Aurora_Sunset
10-26-2022, 09:37 AM
Men and their poor hygiene (Shouldn't have to remind you to take a fucking shower), and spraying fucking Axe body spray without having had a shower first. Ugh. Men throwing away their crumpled up paper towels in the tiny bathroom trash can, but not pushing it down into the trash can, so now it's at the very top and dangling over the edge of the trash can...making it LOOK like the trash can is full when it actually isn't. Men getting pee on my toilet...and then when I go to lift up the toilet (to clean it with bleach) I see the damn pee dripping. UGH, that grosses me the fuck out.
I have really been trying to hammer it into my husband's brain the last 2 weeks how fucking GROSS it is when he and/or his son miss the toilet and get piss all over the floor and base of the toilet. I've gone in there to pee, stepped in the stickiness in front of the toilet, and immediately left for the other bathroom and limped in to wash my feet. Absolutely nasty. On top of it, our 2 black cats will then get all their cat hair stuck in the piss. So, the base of the toilet and floor are this disgusting sticky, urine/cat hair mess.
I've dragged him in there twice this week to point out the urine spots all over the floor even though I've already mopped that floor twice in the last 5 days. I told him to get it together, start cleaning up after himself, or sit the fuck down when he pees. Just because men CAN stand while peeing, doesn't mean they SHOULD. It's much more hygienic to sit.
kimbe
10-26-2022, 09:50 AM
Obviously I’m lucky, I live with a very hygienic dude..
Dreamqueen
10-26-2022, 09:56 AM
They're been seriously rabid since covid times. :(
Fuckers fried their brains with porn even more during quarantine
I don't like leaving the house now unless it's for work or I'm with a friend. I feel safest that way anyways tbh.
Rabid is a perfect way to describe it.
It's not only off putting, it's down right scary.
You're lucky that you have a friend to go with you.
Bill Maher has a YouTube podcast that I 'tried' to watch the other day.
I say tried, because he was saying how women should be thankful that random men hit on them.
How if they were ugly they wouldn't get any male attention.
::)
Is he serious?
I had to turn it off.
Remember that Israeli guy who's been sniffing around?
Radio silence when I mentioned that I was sick from a migraine.
A week later (last night), I got a text asking how the other half of the power couple was?
Gee, I don't know.
Maybe if I thought that you really gave a shit about me, I'd tell you.
After yesterday's outing fiasco, and being on cam and phone the rest of the day and night, I really just want to block him.
What I'm doing instead is to just ghost him.
Hermit mode activated.
Violethollywood
10-27-2022, 09:42 AM
customers have been getting on my last nerve this week. i'm just so over it. I keep getting guys who have these disgusting violent fantasies and i have to ban them or report them and they argue with me that it's not rape or this or that when it clearly is . I just wish i could reach thru the screen and kick them in their nuts.
miss.a.p1600
10-27-2022, 10:21 AM
The dude FINALLY calls himself applying, interviewing, and getting job offer for extra 20k/yr
And his dumb ass taking about “I need to think about it”
Bitch! Wtf is there to think about?
chanzep
10-27-2022, 11:08 AM
He's crazy.
miss.a.p1600
10-27-2022, 01:36 PM
He's crazy.
^certified. I wish i could have him committed.
i hope he is trolling.
If not I’m going to “think” about the hot movers I’m actually going to hire so I can leave and be with someone who is already making the salary I desire minus the baggage kids n ball n chain ex Bertha
moneybags
10-27-2022, 03:01 PM
I second the annoying customers. This guy offered me $100 for my number so I gave it to him at the club. LOL. He texts me during clinicals and I was so pissed! I have a LIFE dude. You paid for my number anything else is gonna cost you. I told him it’s only for work. I got my new phone and I’m changing my number this weekend and I’ll never give a regular my real number again. Ugh. In fact that’s how I’m selling my vip. I’ll give you my number and maybe one day we can meet otc-not really.
honestly most men give us no choice, but to be gold diggers. Like with my chiropractor I wasn’t thinking initially he’s a doctor I wanna drain his wallet, but after he tried to fuck me and then told me later he had a girlfriend-now fiancé! I’m so glad I didn’t fuck him and I put a stop to his bull shit. if he ever did break it off with his girl and want to date me id make him pay for it this time. I’m tired of these guys playing games with my heart. Every fucking time I give a guy a chance I regret it-Everytime!
i know not every guy is like this. I’m really thankful for the nice guys. I love my DJ and the bouncers at the club. I tip them really good because they take of us girls and listen to us complain about men all night LOL. But overall the masculines need to get their shit together.
I’m really done with men. If you ain’t paying my bills I don’t care about you. I don’t want to be that way, but that’s to only way a girl can make it in this world without getting screwed over by most guys.
carmen_b
10-27-2022, 03:07 PM
^ I can not currently date men in a civilian sense.
AChildOfBoredom
10-27-2022, 04:34 PM
Once again, the shit they’ll say right in front of you when they assume you don’t speak the language. Not just about me this time, but also the new girl, who was with me.