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WanderingW
12-11-2022, 01:45 PM
My comeback for years has been "I don't want to be smiling at you in the fantasy" LOL
moneybags
12-12-2022, 09:02 PM
Yes, he's been getting away with it for years. And I've done/still do all of those things. And have to keep taking hour-long bus rides to the child support office just to ask these people for the latest updates on my case. Any rumors I hear from Baby's Mama #2 (who I don't exactly trust either tbh) about where he's supposedly working...I give the information to the child support office. I'm in Maryland (The court order was originally in New York). After I went into the child support office on Friday to ask for an update on wtf is going on now...they said they finally heard back from New York in November, and New York is doing a "re-direction" of my case.
Men that don’t pay child support should be on a do not fuck registry
moneybags
12-12-2022, 09:06 PM
I had to walk over to the laundromat to get quarters.
As I'm nearing the corner to cross the street, I see him.
Older, entitled male just standing there, blocking the way. He's staring at me in a stance that says, "I dare you to get by me without saying hi."
Not today Satan. Not today.
I give him the death stare and he moves out of the way.
I get to the laundromat, and right away the men in there stop what they're doing and just stare.
Silly boys.
I ignore them and walk straight back to where the change machine is.
I can feel their eyes on me.
Yuck.
For a brief moment I wanted to leave out the back door.
Nope. Must practice ignoring them, and practice my resting bitch face.
On the way home, I noticed a woman walking her dog, who was approaching me as I was crossing the street.
She was polite and just stopped in her tracks to allow me to cross in front of her.
Now, was that so hard?
Why must men be so in your face at all times?
It’s the energy behind the staring. when i stare at hot girl. It’s an energy of adoration. These men have a low vibe when they stare at us in public-nothing but bad intentions.
moneybags
12-12-2022, 09:15 PM
I’m sorry. I don’t mean to dominate the thread. I just want to get this off my chest. I feel like the only way to know if a man truly loves you is to make him pay. Talk is cheap. I won’t fall in love with an other guy unless he’s spending serious coin. I haven’t decided a number yet, but I’m really trying to raise my standards. Im so tired of being used and abused by men I feel like setting an arbitrary number of $$$ will keep me from being so stupid when it comes to love.
LoveyD
12-12-2022, 10:47 PM
^^ Make sure they give you lots of high- end jewelry, preferably with diamonds. It helps to have it and it's easily resellable or pawn - able. I like David Yurman.
Aurora_Sunset
12-13-2022, 07:51 AM
Speaking of living with men....
I'm going to start being aggressive about reclaiming some space in the living room.
My husband always makes comments and jokes about how I "hole up in the bedroom," but from my perspective, it's more like I'm being "confined to the bedroom." Because where the fuck am I supposed to do anything anywhere else? The couch is perpetually covered in food crumbs, empty wrappers, dirty socks, and blankets that are crusty and smelly from spilled food and farts. I used to try to keep reclaiming the kitchen table, but the second I clean all his shit off of it, it's just back on there the next day - papers, junk mail, a bunch of vape shit, empty cups and water bottles, anything he's recently purchased and not put away yet. And my recliner was completely covered with HIS jackets, hoodies, snow pants, hats, more socks, and all the couch pillows (because god forbid we have them on the COUCH - for some reason, no one else in this household likes pillows except for me). Yeah, I might guard my space in the bedroom, but that's because it's the only damn space that's mine. I don't actually WANT to be holed up in there all the time.
So, I've decided that every day, I'm going to move whatever shit is on my recliner to his spot on the couch.
Aurora_Sunset
12-13-2022, 07:55 AM
He also annoyed me yesterday. We were killing time walking around downtown, and he wanted to go in a kitschy knick-knack store. And then made a comment about how it was the kind of stuff that I like.
I was like, bitch???
I told him I don't even like knick-knacks. I do everything in my power to purge them as often as possible. I hate being gifted knick-knacks. I am not a person who enjoys random shit all over my shelves. It's just anxiety-producing clutter that creates more for me to dust and clean around. I said HE'S the one who's always bringing crap like this home. Don't act like it's me just because the "gendered expectation" is usually the other way around.
carmen_b
12-13-2022, 08:41 AM
^ I hate knick knacks.
You know what looks fabulous on a shelf or table ?
ONE thing and blank space for the rest of it.
LoveyD
12-13-2022, 08:45 AM
Agreed. I hate clutter. It's very Hoarders-esque.
WendiStarr
12-13-2022, 08:56 AM
Men and their testosterone driven-pissing matches. Getting ready for work and was going to take the trash out before I leave so the garbage doesn't stink up my apartment. I heard all kinds of commotion going on outside. I peeked out the window and two grown men were fighting in the parking lot of my apartment complex. I don't even know what it was about because all I heard was just a barrage of cuss words and insults between each other.
LoveyD
12-13-2022, 09:21 AM
^^ what is it with men and yelling out in public? If I'm on the phone and I'm angry with someone and fighting with them, I'll at least go into my car so as not to cause a scene. The men around here scream and yell on their cell phones and pace around the parking lot like some sort of rabid hyena. It's like dude, go somewhere private and just.. shut up.
moneybags
12-13-2022, 11:41 AM
^^^ people are crazy as hell now n days
https://youtube.com/shorts/6-vkZY30Ewo?feature=share
miss.a.p1600
12-13-2022, 12:32 PM
I hate how men act like sex is a “need” so they can use it (or the lack there of) as a means to explain their unsavory behavior (ex aggression, sexual harassment, cheating, etc)
And if they “need” sex so bad n supposedly can get it when they want /frequently then why are most of their sex skills notoriously mediocre at best?
miss.a.p1600
12-13-2022, 12:35 PM
^^ what is it with men and yelling out in public? If I'm on the phone and I'm angry with someone and fighting with them, I'll at least go into my car so as not to cause a scene. The men around here scream and yell on their cell phones and pace around the parking lot like some sort of rabid hyena. It's like dude, go somewhere private and just.. shut up.
Because they are roid raging or attention seeking
I hate when men pace around, stand over me, enter my personal space without consent, slam/throw/punch things, and other douchey power play attention seeking behavior
Like boy SIT DOWN!!!!
miss.a.p1600
12-13-2022, 01:15 PM
I am a self professed heaux.
I heaux in AND out of relationships because men will never value what they don’t earn n pay for/nothing in life is free.
if you’re not either working in adult industry or married into wealth then you HAVE to gain assets from men any legal means necessary.
Yesterday dude complained he never gets sex lol. And so I complained about his lack of financial investments which caused my pussy to dry.
Then he complained again “why is it about money with you?” “Why is this so transactional?”
Well mf “why is EVERYTHING about sex with you?”
Do his ass like the cheap strip club customers who want time/attention/arm candy and don’t want to spend a dime
You gone learn today!!! Pussy requires effort, investment, n worship……..COME CORRECT MF!
carmen_b
12-13-2022, 04:41 PM
^ While you might be experiencing sand paper puss now I have found from past experience that nothing fixes it quite like a nice restaurant reservation or shopping trip lol.
kimbe
12-14-2022, 11:06 AM
T says he would like to spend more of the time in the room cuddling and having sex.
That's not going to happen..
I'm definitely having my hours on the sun bed, in the gym (which btw is excellent!) and I want to go out in the evenings.
(He gets way more than anyone could wish for (my opinion!)).
Dreamqueen
12-14-2022, 11:29 AM
Speaking of living with men....
I'm going to start being aggressive about reclaiming some space in the living room.
My husband always makes comments and jokes about how I "hole up in the bedroom," but from my perspective, it's more like I'm being "confined to the bedroom." Because where the fuck am I supposed to do anything anywhere else? The couch is perpetually covered in food crumbs, empty wrappers, dirty socks, and blankets that are crusty and smelly from spilled food and farts. I used to try to keep reclaiming the kitchen table, but the second I clean all his shit off of it, it's just back on there the next day - papers, junk mail, a bunch of vape shit, empty cups and water bottles, anything he's recently purchased and not put away yet. And my recliner was completely covered with HIS jackets, hoodies, snow pants, hats, more socks, and all the couch pillows (because god forbid we have them on the COUCH - for some reason, no one else in this household likes pillows except for me). Yeah, I might guard my space in the bedroom, but that's because it's the only damn space that's mine. I don't actually WANT to be holed up in there all the time.
So, I've decided that every day, I'm going to move whatever shit is on my recliner to his spot on the couch.
https://www.couchconsole.com/
Do you think he'd use something like this?
miss.a.p1600
12-14-2022, 12:48 PM
I hate dealing with “vanilla” men who act like they are clueless about this simple concept:
My time/my pussy/my body/my money is MINE and if you want it…..it will cost you!!!!
You want free and easy sex/a woman to help you provide….…..go Jack off or go be with a man!
carmen_b
12-14-2022, 01:23 PM
^ High quality has a price tag to match.
Pretending you don't " understand " that concept is not going to make it change. :)
Do you get results by walking into a store with high quality items and pretending you thought everything was $20 ? Nope.
miss.a.p1600
12-14-2022, 02:36 PM
^EXACTLY!
Men are highly intelligent when it comes to
-how to procure sex
-how to have male privilege
-how to enjoy male privilege
-how to gaslight women into thinking male privilege doesn’t exist
-how to make sure everything only benefits them
They only try to pretend they don’t understand something when it comes to having to put in effort/respect women’s boundaries
Dreamqueen
12-15-2022, 10:46 AM
Saturday was the 1 year anniversary of the night that I was r*ped.
I changed my Facebook profile pic, and noticed that my R*pist gave it a thumbs up.
What the hell??
I immediately blocked him.
Has he been lurking on my page?
I've put everything on private.
Yuck.
My therapy ended a few months ago.
I'm really trying to hold it together, but I've been having heart palpitations that have come out of nowhere.
Must be PTSD.
The upcoming holiday is just adding to it.
I miss my parents.:'(
Aurora_Sunset
12-15-2022, 06:49 PM
Saturday was the 1 year anniversary of the night that I was r*ped.
I changed my Facebook profile pic, and noticed that my R*pist gave it a thumbs up.
What the hell??
I immediately blocked him.
Has he been lurking on my page?
I've put everything on private.
Yuck.
My therapy ended a few months ago.
I'm really trying to hold it together, but I've been having heart palpitations that have come out of nowhere.
Must be PTSD.
The upcoming holiday is just adding to it.
I miss my parents.:'(
I'm so sorry, Dream. That's vile of him.
Unfortunately, Facebook profile pics are always public. I learned that with my stalker a few years ago.
carmen_b
12-15-2022, 07:10 PM
+1
^ It can almost be good to do a mystery FB profile ( like you in the landscape TINY seeing mostly other stuff ) if privacy is key. I used to do that when the google voice debacle was linking up the vanilla life stuff with sex work stuff .
LoveyD
12-15-2022, 07:40 PM
I'm so sorry, DQ. That is unsettling and stress-inducing for sure. I could never have a Facebook page because of my previous stalker issues. Take good care of yourself, it makes a lot of sense why you feel the way you do.
Yet another man sat out in the courtyard in public and screamed obscenities on his phone and to passers by. Again, why can't they just go somewhere private? Like a bathroom somewhere? Why do they have to get so overly emotional and have public meltdowns like this? I nearly called the cops on him.
TheBrownFox
12-16-2022, 12:32 PM
Some dudes are rude as hell. I had to take my youngest to her 9 month checkup. Since car is in shop, I had to take Uber. It wasn't fun getting my 2 youngest ready and down the stairs. The driver dude was like,"Wow, someone's been busy. You've just been popping 'em out, huh and so young?" He made a comment on how close in age they are. He said he was smart and waited 11 years between kids. Ok, good for you, dude. Not all of us were able to plan out the timing of our kids' births.
What a gross thing for a person to say. I'm sorry. You can report him and give him a bad rating, and I believe they won't assign you that driver ever again. I've had to do that twice (With Lyft though, I think). But in my cases, they were both women.
WendiStarr
12-16-2022, 01:01 PM
BD and his multiple emails.. I copied and pasted.
"I said terrible things to you recently. I wish I could take those words back. I don’t know why I make everyone hate me. There’s no excuse for my behavior. I know I’ve lost you forever, you deserve someone great. I’m sorry I didn’t see your greatness before.
I’ll always love you. I’ll help with the kids as much as you want.
Love
(BD) "
carmen_b
12-16-2022, 04:16 PM
^ Have him drop 10k in cash off if he is so eager to help and assist.
miss.a.p1600
12-16-2022, 04:27 PM
Saturday was the 1 year anniversary of the night that I was r*ped.
I changed my Facebook profile pic, and noticed that my R*pist gave it a thumbs up.
What the hell??
I immediately blocked him.
Has he been lurking on my page?
I've put everything on private.
Yuck.
My therapy ended a few months ago.
I'm really trying to hold it together, but I've been having heart palpitations that have come out of nowhere.
Must be PTSD.
The upcoming holiday is just adding to it.
I miss my parents.:'(
similar story
I was assaulted by a male “friend” and I wish I had reported his bitch ass and had him arrested but my mind did not comprehend or was in denial about what happened
anyway I blocked him everywhere except one place and noticed him stalking my profile so I blocked him there too
ugh I hate predators
carmen_b
12-16-2022, 04:34 PM
** NO QUOTING PLEASE I'LL REMOVE TOMORROW **
^ Same.
I'm 99% sure I was stealthed by my abuser in Dec. 2019.
I did go to the rape center to do a kit . I have my case # but I never found out what happened.
I was never called in to court or anything. I didn't do an official police report either ( which I kind of regret now ).
I bet he has assaulted other people . My state has no statute of limitations for this ( I did look it up , even though its' been three years I'm considering pressing charges ). I had hoped that telling what happened to the center and getting the kit done would at least put him " on file " if had past charges ect. but I have no idea if it did anything.
miss.a.p1600
12-16-2022, 05:10 PM
BD and his multiple emails.. I copied and pasted.
"I said terrible things to you recently. I wish I could take those words back. I don’t know why I make everyone hate me. There’s no excuse for my behavior. I know I’ve lost you forever, you deserve someone great. I’m sorry I didn’t see your greatness before.
I’ll always love you. I’ll help with the kids as much as you want.
Love
(BD) "
me being petty (if I were you lol) = yes bd, you will always love this child support (whilst having lawyers draft child support order on the books)
miss.a.p1600
12-16-2022, 08:41 PM
Dude getting pissed and started a 3 hour long argument after he tried to ask me to put a trash bag in the trash can.
Bitch I’m not going fucking 50/50 on YOUR household task that is built for men. If your ass is too lazy or too feminine to do the full task TO COMPLETION then let me know and I’ll hire a really fine n sexy Manny to show you how to be a manny.
I’m really sick of this mf half ass doing a masculine task.
BITCH! How hard is it to do a fucking 5 min job of taking the trash out AND putting a new bag inside.
Stop passively aggressively leaving an empty trash can with no bag then hassling me about why I didn’t help you.
Are you fucking 2 years old or profoundly retarded to the point I have to help you complete basic ass tasks?
I said before and Ima say it again till it gets through your thick skull/until I leave your ass (whichever comes first) “I am too pretty and I am NOT going 50/50 on any tasks I have deemed masculine.”
Do 100% of your masculine task and stop being weak , lazy, passive aggressive
miss.a.p1600
12-16-2022, 08:42 PM
To continue on the post since I’m enraged….. I hate lazy ass men who half ass complete tasks or takes them fifty million years to complete a task.
And then wonder why they don’t get sex or any kind of attention from women
WendiStarr
12-19-2022, 06:01 PM
Omfg..BD is being really outrageous now that he knows I have a new boyfriend. He(BD) has been blowing up my phone about how he realizes that he made a mistake in treating me bad. He said he wants another chance. He offered me $15k to marry him. I'm just like wtf. If he just so happens to have $15k he needs to send it asap but for the kids. I'm not going back to someone who abused me. I find it comical that his jealousy is making him this desperate. I ignored his offer so then he offered $35k, saying that's the most he's willing to pay me to marry him. Ok, send it and I'll gladly accept it but not marry you. No amount of $ is worth being abused. He sent me a picture of his alleged maid and I was just thinking,"Ok, send the $ and then go pay attention to your gf". I want to tell "Guy" about this craziness but I know Mondays are his busy days that he works long hours and then takes an evening class. If he has any energy left afterwards he and his teenage son work out together and his son goes to bed at 9:30. I tend to give him his space on Mondays until later because of this. Wtf, BD.
kimbe
12-20-2022, 07:52 AM
I should probably bitch about a couple of guys in the hotel bar yesterday that wouldn’t leave me alone. But I actually had a little bit of fun with them, playing along for a while..
miss.a.p1600
12-20-2022, 08:17 AM
I’m sorry. I don’t mean to dominate the thread. I just want to get this off my chest. I feel like the only way to know if a man truly loves you is to make him pay. Talk is cheap. I won’t fall in love with an other guy unless he’s spending serious coin. I haven’t decided a number yet, but I’m really trying to raise my standards. Im so tired of being used and abused by men I feel like setting an arbitrary number of $$$ will keep me from being so stupid when it comes to love.
Agreed.
Dick and time do not count as payment (in my books)
miss.a.p1600
12-20-2022, 08:22 AM
I hate how men have to CONSTANTLY insert themselves into everything, poke their nose where it doesn’t belong/know everything, make everything about themselves, etc.
Literally cannot do anything as a women without a douchey man talking about “what about me?!?”
Um what about you? Go take care of yourself, pay for yourself, and focus on yourself and stop hassling women.
miss.a.p1600
12-20-2022, 08:57 AM
Mark my words = I am NEVER living with a man again (only multimillionaire might make me change my mind)
carmen_b
12-20-2022, 09:20 AM
A couple huh ?
Were they thinking a three way ?
Sometimes it's hard to be in a committed relationship ha. :)
I should probably bitch about a couple of guys in the hotel bar yesterday that wouldn’t leave me alone. But I actually had a little bit of fun with them, playing along for a while..
carmen_b
12-20-2022, 09:26 AM
My exact complaint about J.
Instead of thinking of sustainability he was pissed if I didn't set aside 3 nights for his child and 3 for for him per week.
Well .... sometimes that is ok but usually I want TWO evenings for myself and my hobbies per week. So setting aside three for him and two for family seemed like a great option. Instead of listening to my rational ideas he doubled down on neediness.
My doggie and I are getting settled and we will begin condo shopping fairly soon.
They’re CONSTANTLY trying to get the most “bang for their buck”
Um - I’d rather be an escort at this point!
miss.a.p1600
12-20-2022, 09:45 AM
^excessive neediness from men is such a turn off. And they’re not smart enough to figure out that acting negative and annoying is the worst way to get what they want. It actually is repulsive.
They are never rational and they’re ALWAYS gonna double down on their dumb inefficient ideas
kimbe
12-20-2022, 10:30 AM
A couple huh ?
Were they thinking a three way ?
Sometimes it's hard to be in a committed relationship ha. :)
LoL, no it was two separate occasions ;)
carmen_b
12-20-2022, 09:09 PM
^ Well I guess we know where *my* mind was lol .
indiegirl
12-22-2022, 05:14 AM
I'm forced to visit my father on Christmas eve. I bought him a candle on amazon and I decided to use the candle for myself to enjoy last night. LOL. That man has done enough in my life. It's a little too late to pretend to be my father. None of my siblings want anything to do with him. LOL.
WendiStarr
12-22-2022, 08:00 AM
It's comical how jealous BD is of BF. He(BD) left a voicemail on my phone, begging me not to marry BF. Nobody's getting married yet. We just started dating ffs but BD claimed that he could just tell that BF is going to want to marry me. He still keeps sending the empty promises of $.
A former whale decided that he's done with cam sites, nf, OF, and wants to find a real woman to date in real life so that's a bit disappointing. I bet he'll be back after Christmas though, buying up my content and calling me on nf.
Dreamqueen
12-22-2022, 10:14 AM
It's comical how jealous BD is of BF. He(BD) left a voicemail on my phone, begging me not to marry BF. Nobody's getting married yet. We just started dating ffs but BD claimed that he could just tell that BF is going to want to marry me. He still keeps sending the empty promises of $.
A former whale decided that he's done with cam sites, nf, OF, and wants to find a real woman to date in real life so that's a bit disappointing. I bet he'll be back after Christmas though, buying up my content and calling me on nf.
Oh yeah, your whale will be back.
They all come back.
I just had one reappear yesterday.
Last time I saw him he informed me that he was engaged and wouldn't be coming around anymore.
He was even bragging about the ring he bought for his fiance.
He told me yesterday that he's postponed the wedding untl next May.
Lol
All of my engaged customers have all returned within months of getting married.
carmen_b
12-22-2022, 10:35 AM
Indie : He can go present-less ha.
Aurora_Sunset
12-22-2022, 01:08 PM
Pretty pissed that I got back to town last night after visiting family since Monday, and my husband had done absolutely nothing around here for Christmas. Hadn't done any of the cleaning I specifically asked him to do, especially the kids' rooms. No wrapping. No cooking. No other decorating. He had 3 full days off while I was out of town. Why do I have to do everything around here for the holidays?
miss.a.p1600
12-22-2022, 07:29 PM
I loathe living with/having sex with the average man.
NEVER doing it again.
Here’s the thing, you either marry for love or money (both if you’re lucky)
Marrying for love is typically men without means. And it’s HIGHLY overrated.
As soon as you uphold boundaries those “nice” men who want “love” are nothing more than sex crazed cheap skates with hella baggage.
If a lady has to deal with sex crazed men with baggage ……might as well get compensated
#hoesstaywinning
#youwanttoseesomeassiwanttoseesomecash
smeca
12-23-2022, 05:28 AM
I noticed all the neighbours delivering Christmas cards were the wives. We have not been prepared at all with gifts etc, too busy, so we dont even have cards yet to post to neighbours. But I refuse to go get cards and write and deliver them. Its not from us then, its just from me. I think all neighbourly cards are done by all the wives lol.