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carmen_b
12-23-2022, 04:33 PM
N strikes again.
He wants this day time lunch date.
Um .... ok .... so I waste business hour time and scramble to get there.
First thing out of his mouth ( well one of ) is his transparency spiel about seeing other people.
Dude ......
#1 ..... I didn't ask.
#2 ..... I was with Hot For Teacher 6 hours last night and half of it was in bed lol
N, you can relax.
You aren't the only slut in the building.
Enjoy your lunch.
We did have a nice convo about the horrors of step parenting that we witnessed.
Our former partners both " helicopter " ha.
carmen_b
12-24-2022, 09:16 AM
^ I have zero plans to stop seeing Tall Teacher either.
whirlerz
12-24-2022, 11:02 AM
Well, after dropping 1k on my car, (yesterday a battery), it WILL.NOT.START..I don't need anything today, but, WTF
service call wait, 2 - 3hrs..I really just want to see what wrong now
God*** guy upstairs' latest lay is drunk out her mind, (he just literally carried he bk in the house, she fell & in the hall, I didn't see it but my plant were on their sides, & dirt everywhere...Nice>:( just cleaned it up
I just texted him to give me a jump, HA!
NOT happening, he's now in the bathroom w/her, she needs to go to a Hospital!
miss.a.p1600
12-24-2022, 04:16 PM
N strikes again.
He wants this day time lunch date.
Um .... ok .... so I waste business hour time and scramble to get there.
First thing out of his mouth ( well one of ) is his transparency spiel about seeing other people.
Dude ......
#1 ..... I didn't ask.
#2 ..... I was with Hot For Teacher 6 hours last night and half of it was in bed lol
N, you can relax.
You aren't the only slut in the building.
Enjoy your lunch.
We did have a nice convo about the horrors of step parenting that we witnessed.
Our former partners both " helicopter " ha.
This phrase says it all!!!!
As I sit here listening to this dudes son gaming and talking all loud n shit and all I want to do is put some ultra strong duct tape on his mouth. and ban him from coming over if he can’t stfu
Then this little mf ran into my room without permission. Ima have to correct that real quick.
These jokers are NOT going to stress me out on the holiday.
I put this in the man bitching section because I want to bitch about men who weren’t raised correctly trying raise sons incorrectly.
Not here not today!!!!
You AND yours son gone come correct!!!!
carmen_b
12-24-2022, 06:15 PM
^ Put a lock on the door.
carmen_b
12-24-2022, 06:32 PM
N, you have no idea how lucky you are to touch me and experience my touch in an intimate way without paying or offering the BF label.
It was a very special exception so DON'T BLOW IT .
Be cool . Ha.
miss.a.p1600
12-25-2022, 09:27 AM
I feel a slight twinge of guilt after I bought myself a necklace, showed the box to L, and he was like “is this for me?”
I think he thought I bought him a wedding/engagement ring.
Should have never showed him a jewelry box
Dreamqueen
12-25-2022, 10:04 AM
Well, after dropping 1k on my car, (yesterday a battery), it WILL.NOT.START..I don't need anything today, but, WTF
service call wait, 2 - 3hrs..I really just want to see what wrong now
God*** guy upstairs' latest lay is drunk out her mind, (he just literally carried he bk in the house, she fell & in the hall, I didn't see it but my plant were on their sides, & dirt everywhere...Nice>:( just cleaned it up
I just texted him to give me a jump, HA!
NOT happening, he's now in the bathroom w/her, she needs to go to a Hospital!
Could it be the alternator?
That's why my 3 new batteries all went dead.
whirlerz
12-26-2022, 11:58 AM
Possibly.. It's running now, no shops open, of course today..I Googled it, could be. several things :(
I left it running for an hour, got gas & fast food..
I can't take being trapped in the house, I was camming, but eh.
Wow, 3 batteries?
There's a great battery place by me, Batteries Unlimited, pd 108 for a 179. battery, installed.
moneybags
12-27-2022, 01:59 AM
^^^darn that sucks. I just had to replace my battery too. I had it under warranty thank goodness. I’m sorry. I hope you can find a good mechanic.
I thought you all would like this
https://youtu.be/Talxk4T8TGQ
Dreamqueen
12-27-2022, 09:48 AM
Possibly.. It's running now, no shops open, of course today..I Googled it, could be. several things :(
I left it running for an hour, got gas & fast food..
I can't take being trapped in the house, I was camming, but eh.
Wow, 3 batteries?
There's a great battery place by me, Batteries Unlimited, pd 108 for a 179. battery, installed.
Glad it's not your alternator (the car would never start if that was the problem).
I'm with AAA, so my battery is under warranty.
The alternator was draining them.
Hope it's nothing serious in your case.
Car problems have been the bane of my existence.
I have to get a more reliable car.
Anyone want to buy a Mustang?
Lol
whirlerz
12-28-2022, 03:17 PM
Ooh, had a Mustang, (yrs ago) nothing but probs!
So, bc of holidays/weather I basically can't get my car in to be looked @?!>:(
Made a Monday 7am appt. @ local dealer, 7am, they're open to 9pm, it has to sit awhile to see wtf's wrong:(
WendiStarr
12-29-2022, 08:16 AM
BD's relative was lurking on my FB, saw my latest profile pic of my bf and I. It's a really cute picture and I'm sitting on his lap, even though if was cold because we were outside in downtown Detroit at nighttime. Now BD has been blowing up my email inbox with emails from 1am-8am about how sorry he is and how bad he misses me, begging me to break up with bf, begging me to please not marry bf, etc. I think BD must have gave up sleeping because he has been sending that shit at all hours of the night and morning. Bf thinks it's funny and has been calling me by my name and bf's last name.
Violethollywood
12-29-2022, 08:44 AM
I had this customer that kept bragging about how much money he makes and sending me proof of it right. The mother fucker couldnt even send me more than 100 and this fuck was making well over 70k a month if not more. He owns several businesses in Jersey. Anyway, he kept wanting to talk to me for FREE and didn't want to pay me, so I ghosted him. Like you're not going to flash how much you fucking make in front of me and then expect me to talk to you for FREE and take my fucking time away from paying customers, like GTFOH. I can't even tell you how pissed I was and this loser has been cheating on his wife clearly left and right . It just irritated me all the way around. He's ugly and rich and selfish and stingy.
I'm annoyed lol. But whatever.
carmen_b
12-29-2022, 09:07 AM
^ Disgusting. Clearly just getting a thrill out of " lets see if she will really TRY for this ".
Gross. Give me the makes 50k a year customer with $300 in his hand NOW any day.
99% sure he is LYING about what he makes as well.
miss.a.p1600
12-30-2022, 07:27 AM
^speaking of libido killers ….
Men with kids and said men who are also horrible disciplinarians
Dreamqueen
12-30-2022, 10:08 AM
Ooh, had a Mustang, (yrs ago) nothing but probs!
So, bc of holidays/weather I basically can't get my car in to be looked @?!>:(
Made a Monday 7am appt. @ local dealer, 7am, they're open to 9pm, it has to sit awhile to see wtf's wrong:(
Luckily I've never had problems with the 2 mustangs that I've owed.
I bought this one in 97 brand new, and it just started having problems when these desert mechanics got their paws on it.
Only 100 thousand miles on it, so it shouldn't be problematic.
I'm just going to buy a Toyota Camry and call it a day.
I'm sure mechanics will fuck that car up too.
Le sigh.
miss.a.p1600
12-30-2022, 01:18 PM
I had this customer that kept bragging about how much money he makes and sending me proof of it right. The mother fucker couldnt even send me more than 100 and this fuck was making well over 70k a month if not more. He owns several businesses in Jersey. Anyway, he kept wanting to talk to me for FREE and didn't want to pay me, so I ghosted him. Like you're not going to flash how much you fucking make in front of me and then expect me to talk to you for FREE and take my fucking time away from paying customers, like GTFOH. I can't even tell you how pissed I was and this loser has been cheating on his wife clearly left and right . It just irritated me all the way around. He's ugly and rich and selfish and stingy.
I'm annoyed lol. But whatever.
Men who brag about money but don’t spend it most likely ain’t got it to begin with or they’re sociopaths/narcissists who are financially abusive aka they might actually have the money but never intend on spending n get off on seeing how far women will go for the mere promise of money
carmen_b
12-30-2022, 08:44 PM
^ If you are going to wave a steak in my face you'd better give me a bite OR A CHUNK .
carmen_b
12-30-2022, 08:44 PM
I hate both of my supposed lovers.
What the fuck did I do wrong ? Ugh !
N sent me this rambling pile of bullshit last Monday I think it was . He said he is having feelings for this woman who hosted a Christmas party . Um .... did I ask ? What part of the poly orientation do you not understand? Being a good partner to ME does not include sharing details like this. Sigh. Maybe you could consider spending 5 minutes asking what *I* might like in our arrangement since you are one of MY partners. Dipshit.
buttonpop
12-30-2022, 09:48 PM
^did you communicate to him that you didn't want to know the details about his other partners?
i think the default is tell-all in poly relationships unless otherwise stated. but even then, it should probably be stated. it's all about communicating expectations.
if you didn't want to hear that though, that definitely stings. that sucks, I'm sorry.
kamiliam
12-30-2022, 10:37 PM
Agreed that over share is the default. Some get off on it and they mean it innocently enough, or they think it builds the bond. Some are just trying to fuck with you, because lately too many men use poly to control and play mind games.
carmen_b
12-30-2022, 10:47 PM
^ I'm leaning towards just backing off.
It just seems in poor taste.
Like ... ok .... I got some *touch* last Tuesday ( which I needed ) but I didn't get a high level of emotional care at all.
I guess I'll just say I don't want to know details.
OR I might just say something like " well you said you were developing feelings for this person so I was backing off ". Doesn't that logic seem correct ? Feelings so big you need to report them to your other partner/s ? Um .... maybe just make THAT person your gf then and leave me alone. I care about BOTH my partners. I would NOT give a feelings report to one about the other.
miss.a.p1600
12-31-2022, 09:21 AM
One of L’s friends is in a poly or open relationship and his main woman expressed to him she does NOT want to know all the damn details.
It’s good you recognize that now.
I find the average man horrible at open n poly relationships because they are operating from male privilege (self centered, lacking empathy for women, not good at communicating/listening, etc)
miss.a.p1600
12-31-2022, 09:22 AM
This video of a man describing how hypocritical most men are and how A LOT of them WILL cheat for the most asinine reasons.
https://youtu.be/TkKLjBr9jLM
Cue to the 2:04 mark
carmen_b
12-31-2022, 09:41 AM
^ N doesn't seem great at Poly vibes .
I'm all about fairness. I was giving them fairness in time too ( two - ish evenings per week each ).
I just wasn't sure where the intimacy stuff would land or work ( which I told him last Monday ).
I mean ..... I'm gonna want that D at some point. So do I get BOTH of them ? Safer sex convos need to be had .
I am not 100% I can even do poly with him but that is how I have looked at things the last couple weeks ( two partners with no favoritism to the other ).
I think he needs to focus more on what I want lol.
Quit suggesting these stupid day time outings. I have THREE jobs currently dumbass.
It's hustle time.
moneybags
01-04-2023, 04:49 AM
I’m sorry I don’t feel bad if young men feel lonely. Men have been mistreating women then get mad when women don’t want to date anymore. But then we’re blamed if we “choose” wrong. Im tired of the war on women and men playing the victim. I do feel bad for men who really haven’t done anything, but it’s their responsibility to deal with the hand their dealt. You won’t get me to feel bad “for lonely men”. Go to therapy. I’ve been to therapy for years because of men and the patriarchy. We’re all responsible for our happiness.
Women-especially black women have had to deal with real oppression and you want me to feel bad for lonely men. I feel bad, but they need therapy. Maybe men’s support groups? Women have had to fight for their rights. Men are gonna have to fight for themselves on this one.
https://youtu.be/P_hnB11wBMc
LoveyD
01-04-2023, 07:05 AM
^^ money, I totally agree. You can't just shit all over women and be a crybaby when we won't date you anymore. Life does not work that way. If you're lonely, get a therapist. And I am so so so tired of being blamed because I "chose the wrong guy." No, that is incorrect. Men choose to behave the wrong way. That's what's up. But if I'm going to be blamed for choosing wrong, then fine. I guess I just won't choose men anymore and I will choose myself. Because then I know I'm making an amazing choice.
carmen_b
01-04-2023, 02:56 PM
^ I'm kind of in agreement here too lately.
There is A LOT of bad behavior out there .
It's no wonder women are extra cautious. You need to be .
moneybags
01-06-2023, 12:40 AM
As a topless therapist I can attest. Men need therapy.
https://youtube.com/shorts/NBLbviCnpuk?feature=share
TheBrownFox
01-06-2023, 12:09 PM
^^ money, I totally agree. You can't just shit all over women and be a crybaby when we won't date you anymore. Life does not work that way. If you're lonely, get a therapist. And I am so so so tired of being blamed because I "chose the wrong guy." No, that is incorrect. Men choose to behave the wrong way. That's what's up. But if I'm going to be blamed for choosing wrong, then fine. I guess I just won't choose men anymore and I will choose myself. Because then I know I'm making an amazing choice.
57881
This shit is so on point! And that "A Woman's Mind" FB page posts a lot of good stuff like this.
moneybags
01-06-2023, 07:55 PM
I had a shit ton of patriarchal trauma come up. I emailed my therapist but she hasn’t emailed me back. I couldn’t even work because I knew if one of those guys were disrespectful I’d lose my shit. I’m glad I honored myself and stayed home. I journaled a bit. I feel better. I really need to find a therapist to help me process the trauma of being a woman. It’s not one big event that bad my in my pain body-it’s the collective hatred of women and the gaslighting. The false equivalency-women are just as bad. Suppressing my truth and coddling the fragile male ego just to stay safe. I’m so tired of all of it!
I think it was triggered by the news of Andrew Tate. It’s good news, but I’m gonna have to cut off one of my incel regulars. He’s becoming too much. At first I was okay with the role play, but I didn’t realize he was imitating Andrew Tate. Him wanting to “Own” me wasn’t just Sub/Dom role play. It’s much more misogynistic. I’m kinda scared of him. I’m slowly going to distance myself from him as much as possible.
I’m reading energy medicine for women and am doing some healing work on my own. There’s quite a few ways to protect your energy that I’ll use when I’m working.
Oh well. I’m just gonna be for awhile and turn off social media.
carmen_b
01-06-2023, 08:00 PM
^ Men can really pull and drag energy down.
I think of men being disrespectful in the club ( trying to get more time than their $ should yield ).
Gross.
I think of my former partner being SO needy that I was a part time sugar baby in a way but constantly EXHAUSTED ?
I can't even explain my situation to anyone because I feel like everyone will just go " well you only worked 20-25 hours a week for over a year , HOW could you be so tired ? "
I'm glad you are doing some energy protection work.
We certainly need it with how men often act.
carmen_b
01-06-2023, 08:04 PM
This is what I'm often on the site complaining about. Ok .... men .... don't offer relationships and don't offer anything substantial. Just don't be SURPRISED when certain women get to a point where they have HAD IT.
^^ money, I totally agree. You can't just shit all over women and be a crybaby when we won't date you anymore. Life does not work that way.
moneybags
01-06-2023, 08:15 PM
^^^id like to create a spiritual community for women to recover from the patriarchy in Colorado. Probably 10-20 years off. We need sacred spaces to heal. In fact strip clubs can sometimes feel like a sacred space. In the sense we have power and community in that space.
Many of us spiritualist are trying to get out of the system. I’d like to link up with other spiritualist and get something going. You’re all welcome to come. We can be the wise women and tribal elders of the community. LOL
Probably won’t see the matriarchal switch happen in my lifetime, but these men wouldn’t be so angry at women if they weren’t so afraid of losing power.
LoveyD
01-06-2023, 09:35 PM
This is what I'm often on the site complaining about. Ok .... men .... don't offer relationships and don't offer anything substantial. Just don't be SURPRISED when certain women get to a point where they have HAD IT.
Exactly! When men learn to make it a safe and stable situation for us, and when they learn to treat us with the respect that we deserve, then maybe they'll get a shot. Stop wasting our time, stop expecting us to be your mommy, stop the lying and cheating, gaslighting, taking advantage of women, the manipulation and control, and maybe we will be excited about going out with you again. Have something solid to offer and if you don't, keep it platonic and keep it moving. Stop just jumping in for sex, bro. It ain't happening.
miss.a.p1600
01-07-2023, 05:27 AM
This is what I'm often on the site complaining about. Ok .... men .... don't offer relationships and don't offer anything substantial. Just don't be SURPRISED when certain women get to a point where they have HAD IT.
this is kinda what I was hinting at in the thread I created. Why give them anything especially sex (that they expect for free)
todays men aren’t offering much. whether in or out of relationships.
They’ll offer just enough to rope ya in then once they think you’re “locked in” with them then they do less and less. Just enough so you’ll stay but not enough to be satisfied.
carmen_b
01-07-2023, 07:49 AM
^ Personally , I think you can find what you want. Higher income men are out there ( or even mid level like 70-90 k ) .
If you don't like the lower income guys just skip over them entirely and stay the course. Only accept dates where you know their job title ( and can give a quick google to find out more ) . Men are harsh with women as well. Imagine dating with an extra 40-80 lbs above your ideal weight. That is basically what the " less successful " guy is doing. It's well know women like guys who are more solid providers but if they insist on NOT do that ...... there will be some trouble in dating. It's similar to the trouble a woman would have carrying a lot of weight and not taking good care of herself. It'll be possible to find a good partner but more *probable* if you are top of it and looking good with a gym routine ect. !
miss.a.p1600
01-07-2023, 09:51 AM
^ Personally , I think you can find what you want. Higher income men are out there ( or even mid level like 70-90 k ) .
If you don't like the lower income guys just skip over them entirely and stay the course. Only accept dates where you know their job title ( and can give a quick google to find out more ) . Men are harsh with women as well. Imagine dating with an extra 40-80 lbs above your ideal weight. That is basically what the " less successful " guy is doing. It's well know women like guys who are more solid providers but if they insist on NOT do that ...... there will be some trouble in dating. It's similar to the trouble a woman would have carrying a lot of weight and not taking good care of herself. It'll be possible to find a good partner but more *probable* if you are top of it and looking good with a gym routine ect. !
I agree.
I live in a shitty area where finding good men with higher paying professions is like a needle in a haystack.
I used to be RUTHLESS about only dating established men but found most of them to be players and some of them just as tight walleted as working class men.
Anyways, I know now that dating just for “LOVE” is not worthwhile either. These working class/average men have more baggage and expect “modern progressive women” to help them with everything including financial. So when these old women tell you 50/50 with men is a scam that’s because it is. Men are notorious at getting over on women and they half the time don’t even do it consciously. Male privilege is ingrained in them since birth.
Once I end this relationship, I’m going back to my original standards of no dependent kids, must own a home, luxury car, assets, and lifestyle THEN ill grow to love him if he’s providing to adequate standards
With L’s new job he is now slightly above average but I am less than thrilled about the nonstop child obligations on his time and finances. His raise is only beneficial to him, his ex wife, and kids. So I’m still motivated to find a man with more to offer.
carmen_b
01-07-2023, 09:53 AM
^ Maybe something " in the middle-ish " income wise .
I do find that dating in the over >120 k ish category men get get quirky and fussy for sure.
I have seen it personally.
miss.a.p1600
01-07-2023, 10:14 AM
^ Personally , I think you can find what you want. Higher income men are out there ( or even mid level like 70-90 k ) .
If you don't like the lower income guys just skip over them entirely and stay the course. Only accept dates where you know their job title ( and can give a quick google to find out more ) . Men are harsh with women as well. Imagine dating with an extra 40-80 lbs above your ideal weight. That is basically what the " less successful " guy is doing. It's well know women like guys who are more solid providers but if they insist on NOT do that ...... there will be some trouble in dating. It's similar to the trouble a woman would have carrying a lot of weight and not taking good care of herself. It'll be possible to find a good partner but more *probable* if you are top of it and looking good with a gym routine ect. !
At least women out here know they’re not their best selves and move accordingly
These men, on the other hand, are delusional af (know they got hella baggage) and still expect women to bend over backwards for them, help them pay bills, cook for them, clean after their nasty asses, help them take care of their kids, work a job, then fuck their brains out daily/on demand.
carmen_b
01-07-2023, 10:31 AM
^ Oh I agree with the sheer delusion.
I've witnessed many 50k a year guys with dad bods acting picky and entitled.
Um ...... don't. Ha.
kimbe
01-08-2023, 01:11 AM
Sometimes his horniness annoys me just a little..as we arrive the place we're having dinner, it's obvious he wants to get head before we leave the car..
I'm of course way too kind and fulfills his wish and somehow it turns out a lot more messy than usual. >:(
carmen_b
01-08-2023, 09:39 AM
^ I remember feeling like that with J .
Things turned negative for me when he cut me off from spoiling and some of the larger scale decisions around the house.
I don't think your partner would do that but I can relate to that " oh .... ok " vibe. :/
It can be so challenging because OF COURSE we want to be an amazing partner ugh !
WendiStarr
01-09-2023, 11:40 AM
BD sent $400 and said he's not paying child support anymore. He said that his lawyer instructed him not to pay anymore since foc takes forever/up to a year to finally enforce it.
Staci
01-09-2023, 11:56 AM
BD sent $400 and said he's not paying child support anymore. He said that his lawyer instructed him not to pay anymore since foc takes forever/up to a year to finally enforce it.
If you know where he works you can notify the state agency and they should send an order to his employer to deduct the support from his checks.
I had a friend who was owed over $11K in back child support and the state didn't enforce it because he kept changing jobs. Every time she would find out where he was working and report it to the child support division of the state agency, he would change jobs in order to avoid paying.
moneybags
01-09-2023, 01:25 PM
^^^some places will hold the driver’s license for back child support. In a state where forced pregnancy is legal, you’d think they would step up child support enforcement. I honestly don’t know what they’re doing now in days.
kimbe
01-09-2023, 01:47 PM
^ I remember feeling like that with J .
Things turned negative for me when he cut me off from spoiling and some of the larger scale decisions around the house.
I don't think your partner would do that but I can relate to that " oh .... ok " vibe. :/
It can be so challenging because OF COURSE we want to be an amazing partner ugh !
Yes, that!
And I know he thinks I am. He’s a good guy, he definitely deserves it.
TheBrownFox
01-09-2023, 04:01 PM
If you know where he works you can notify the state agency and they should send an order to his employer to deduct the support from his checks.
I had a friend who was owed over $11K in back child support and the state didn't enforce it because he kept changing jobs. Every time she would find out where he was working and report it to the child support division of the state agency, he would change jobs in order to avoid paying.
I've been in the same boat (Except I'm dealing with the state of Maryland waiting to hear updates back from the state of New York), and even though my son is 19 now...my bd still owes $35,000+ in back child support (court ordered). I'm so tired of having to take a one hour bus ride to the child support office just to ask them "Any updates on my case???" Because of trying to get a hold of someone over the phone is a nightmare. The dude keeps changing states. I'm sure his mother knows where he is, but of course the bitch won't say where. She's one of those Christians who just likes to say things like "I'll pray for you" and "God is in control." LOL.
whirlerz
01-09-2023, 05:03 PM
OMG, I just read this, what a disgusting PIG
https://www.ndtv.com/india-news/he-said-passenger-on-air-india-pee-offenders-reaction-3674914
https://www.ndtv.com/india-news/i-drank-because-what-mumbai-man-told-co-flyer-after-peeing-on-woman-in-air-india-flight-3675400
Anyone doing this to me would need a hospital stay, at the very least..