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miss.a.p1600
01-10-2023, 09:22 AM
BD sent $400 and said he's not paying child support anymore. He said that his lawyer instructed him not to pay anymore since foc takes forever/up to a year to finally enforce it.
He warned you he was going to stop paying
Hes lying about the lawyer. No legit lawyer (even the sleezeballs) is going to advise a man to not take care of his kids. Reputable Lawyers are going to advise to do *something* rather than nothing. If he did give your bd that horrible advice you need to report/publicly blast him AND the lawyer for shitty advice that will get your bd held in contempt of court.
The truth = using state enforcement does take a long time and these snakes use that time to further advance their sinister agenda.
always stay one step ahead
*Pro tip - you can get retroactive child support (plus interest) all the way back from the day you conceived. You need a HIGH QUALITY lawyer to help you drain that dude for every dime he owes you/y’all’s kids
miss.a.p1600
01-10-2023, 09:29 AM
If you know where he works you can notify the state agency and they should send an order to his employer to deduct the support from his checks.
I had a friend who was owed over $11K in back child support and the state didn't enforce it because he kept changing jobs. Every time she would find out where he was working and report it to the child support division of the state agency, he would change jobs in order to avoid paying.
This is disgusting that men pull this crap to hurt the women but they really hurt the kids doing this.
Women should still do what they can to enforce and report these lowlifes every step of the way.
My dad who is in his 70/80s said one of his associates got hit for child support once he retired. He dodged it for decades then upon retirement got hit in the wallet as he deserved.
Dudes gone pay up sooner or later.
Staci
01-10-2023, 11:04 AM
This is disgusting that men pull this crap to hurt the women but they really hurt the kids doing this.
Women should still do what they can to enforce and report these lowlifes every step of the way.
My dad who is in his 70/80s said one of his associates got hit for child support once he retired. He dodged it for decades then upon retirement got hit in the wallet as he deserved.
Dudes gone pay up sooner or later.
My ex had gotten a girl pregnant that he worked with at McDonald's when he was sixteen while in HS. She was eighteen. She quit working there and he had no idea that she had been pregnant until the child was seven years old and he got hit with the back child support for all those years. It came as a really big shock!
He stepped up and did the right thing (took out a loan to pay the back support) and met his seven year old son for the first time. They are close now, but he missed the first seven years of his life. It just didn't seem fair.
TheBrownFox
01-10-2023, 11:37 AM
LOL when incels get triggered on a woman's social media post. I wonder how long it'll be before the rapey comments start up.
Also, I think it's funny when people think that calling you a "single woman" is an insult. Honey, with all the shit in the dating pool these days, being single is a blessing, not having to deal with some man's b.s. But you go on continuing to think you're special. Most of you dudes are useless, and can't thrill a woman the way a vibrator can. LOL.
whirlerz
01-10-2023, 12:05 PM
Maybe it'd be helpful to have a child support thread?
My friend had that issue, her son's now 40, I don't think they ever got after his dad, who's now deceased, I think he/she should've gotten his social security too?
moneybags
01-10-2023, 12:35 PM
He warned you he was going to stop paying
Hes lying about the lawyer. No legit lawyer (even the sleezeballs) is going to advise a man to not take care of his kids. Reputable Lawyers are going to advise to do *something* rather than nothing. If he did give your bd that horrible advice you need to report/publicly blast him AND the lawyer for shitty advice that will get your bd held in contempt of court.
The truth = using state enforcement does take a long time and these snakes use that time to further advance their sinister agenda.
always stay one step ahead
*Pro tip - you can get retroactive child support (plus interest) all the way back from the day you conceived. You need a HIGH QUALITY lawyer to help you drain that dude for every dime he owes you/y’all’s kids
He’s full of shit. No lawyer would say that.
Threaten your BD with this in Texas they’ll revoke his license. If it’s revoked in Texas he won’t be able to get in in another state-I think. When I forgot to pay a minor ticket in FL my license was suspended and I couldn’t get a license in KS.
https://www.dps.texas.gov/section/driver-license/delinquent-child-support-revocation
If he sent you that he wasn’t paying CS in a text save that for the judge
Aurora_Sunset
01-10-2023, 12:41 PM
He’s full of shit. No lawyer would say that.
Exactly. My husband's lawyer, even before everything was "legally figured out and mandated" for his child support, told him to pay something in good faith every week or every other week so that he wouldn't get hit with a bunch of back-payments later. It also shows he's serious about being in his kids' lives. If he wants to fuck about and not support them financially, he'll have a flimsy leg to stand on if he wants to try to get any sort of custody/visitation later.
moneybags
01-10-2023, 12:44 PM
My ex had gotten a girl pregnant that he worked with at McDonald's when he was sixteen while in HS. She was eighteen. She quit working there and he had no idea that she had been pregnant until the child was seven years old and he got hit with the back child support for all those years. It came as a really big shock!
He stepped up and did the right thing (took out a loan to pay the back support) and met his seven year old son for the first time. They are close now, but he missed the first seven years of his life. It just didn't seem fair.
I do think that’s unfair. There should be a limit if a mother intentionally withheld the information from the father, or choose to raise the child on their own. Obviously the system has some errors and it’s unfortunate when men are hurt. This is the story the men’s rights advocates will point out and say THE WHOLE SYSTEM IS RIGGED AGAINST MEN. I know there are toxic women, but usually women are the ones that get hurt by the the system. In fact the biggest reason women are in poverty is because they are single moms. So let’s not get it twisted. Women suffer more when it comes to single parenting.
Staci
01-10-2023, 01:16 PM
I do think that’s unfair. There should be a limit if a mother intentionally withheld the information from the father, or choose to raise the child on their own. Obviously the system has some errors and it’s unfortunate when men are hurt. This is the story the men’s rights advocates will point out and say THE WHOLE SYSTEM IS RIGGED AGAINST MEN. I know there are toxic women, but usually women are the ones that get hurt by the the system. In fact the biggest reason women are in poverty is because they are single moms. So let’s not get it twisted. Women suffer more when it comes to single parenting.
Oh, woman definitely do and I wasn't trying to distract from that.
moneybags
01-10-2023, 06:01 PM
^^^i know. I’m just processing my rebuttal to the “men’s rights” movement. They cherry pick anecdotal evidence and make up theories about how bad they have it.
We need a dealing with incel and “men’s rights” thread.
TheBrownFox
01-10-2023, 10:32 PM
OMG, my bd has Facebook Marketplace listings (Showing what town he's in...in New York) where he's selling a cell phone and a car, and he has the license plate number of the car showing in the photos. GOTCHA! LMFAO! This motherfucker owes me $35,000+ in back child support.
moneybags
01-10-2023, 11:14 PM
OMG, my bd has Facebook Marketplace listings (Showing what town he's in...in New York) where he's selling a cell phone and a car, and he has the license plate number of the car showing in the photos. GOTCHA! LMFAO! This motherfucker owes me $35,000+ in back child support.
who hoo! There needs to be a reality show. Like cheaters. We could call it deadbeats
LoveyD
01-11-2023, 06:19 AM
^^ deadbeats! OMFG I love it! My BD can have a cameo, that's for sure.
miss.a.p1600
01-11-2023, 06:59 AM
LOL when incels get triggered on a woman's social media post. I wonder how long it'll be before the rapey comments start up.
Also, I think it's funny when people think that calling you a "single woman" is an insult. Honey, with all the shit in the dating pool these days, being single is a blessing, not having to deal with some man's b.s. But you go on continuing to think you're special. Most of you dudes are useless, and can't thrill a woman the way a vibrator can. LOL.
I used to feel soooo insecure about being single (when all my friends had bfs, and later in life, husbands)
a lot of women out here bragging and shit, knowing good mf damn well they’re stuck with ain’t shit men.
Most of the men out here aren’t worth two seconds of time.
Id rather be single than deal with these mens lackluster performance in career and in bed. PLUS the older you get, the more baggage (and more delusions of grandeur) these men have.
Hard pass on 85% of men in America.
LoveyD
01-11-2023, 08:03 AM
^^ agreed. I feel, at this point, as a 49 year old woman, that I would rather remain single than devalue myself again. These women who think that having a man proves or increases their worth are delusional.
SnuffleUffleGrass
01-11-2023, 09:46 AM
My boyfriend is having a health scare and he's being dramatic. Bless his heart.
neverendingkneebruises
01-11-2023, 09:33 PM
https://www.tiktok.com/@rebecca_larsen/video/7167793051849477418
Chilling
moneybags
01-11-2023, 10:15 PM
I used to feel soooo insecure about being single (when all my friends had bfs, and later in life, husbands)
a lot of women out here bragging and shit, knowing good mf damn well they’re stuck with ain’t shit men.
Most of the men out here aren’t worth two seconds of time.
Id rather be single than deal with these mens lackluster performance in career and in bed. PLUS the older you get, the more baggage (and more delusions of grandeur) these men have.
Hard pass on 85% of men in America.
You never know what someone’s relationship is. I use to get jealous, but I don’t know how they are behind close doors?
My last crush was hitting on me having a GF (he never told me about for 3 months) and now they’re engaged! At first I was broken hearted but then I realized SHE’s stuck with this guy forever. Sure she can take half his shit after they get married. But he flirts with other women behind her back and leads women on think he’s single. Like I was sad and embarrassed, but now I’m so grateful he’s getting married and not my problem. Emotional cheating is still cheating in most relationships. I know everyone has different rules, but I’m pretty sure they don’t have an open relationship. The only reason HE STOPPED is because I made him stop flirting with me only after I got my heartbroken thinking he was single and interested in me. I feel bad for her. It’s only gonna get worse after they’re married. He’s gonna cheat on her all the way with the next woman who enables him.
I’m proud of myself for having integrity. I’ll never be a man’s side chick. He was so manipulative. I can see how “weaker” women could “fall into being a side chick” or “have an affair” these dudes are slick. They’re so deceiving and manipulative!!! They’ll use any thing they have going for them to get some. Unfortunately, I’ve learned to not trust men. I don’t care who they present themselves to be.
All that glitters is not gold.
neverendingkneebruises
01-11-2023, 11:48 PM
^^ I've been making friends with single older women and from what it seems the wife is the side chick in 9/10 marriages especially if the man has money. Hard pass lol
LoveyD
01-12-2023, 07:19 AM
^^^ this is why I'm not getting married. Men will get married and flop their dicks around everywhere while I sit there and be loyal and not even look at another guy. My loyalty and integrity are never met and reciprocated and it winds up becoming an imbalanced shitshow where I look the fool. I agree, hard pass.
SnuffleUffleGrass
01-12-2023, 07:38 AM
https://www.tiktok.com/@rebecca_larsen/video/7167793051849477418
Chilling
It's the truth though.
I lived it and was lucky enough to be able to bail.
Conservative women are gullible people. IMO
carmen_b
01-12-2023, 08:57 AM
^ Wow , viewed the vid. SO powerful.
A great reminder to ALWAYS have your own money, investments , routines, hobbies, and a LIFE !
A true partner won't have a problem with ANY of that.
I truly fear for women who depend on men and don't have their own investments in motion.
miss.a.p1600
01-12-2023, 11:24 AM
When men try to gaslight you for “being selfish” when these mfs are CONSTANTLY calculating and manipulating and gathering intel for their own self interests
God forbid I actually focus on myself and take care of myself.
moneybags
01-12-2023, 02:54 PM
I wanted to report I’m doing great at setting boundaries with my sports med doctor. I’m very professional and don’t engage with him in a personal way. when I talk to him about work-because most my injuries come from work-I’m very matter of fact. I don’t entertain him at all with “stripper stories”. If you ain’t paying my bills I ain’t gonna give you free entertainment. I’m not rude or mean. I just keep things really professional and avoid getting too personal with him You’re a doctor do your job. Instead of think with your dick.
I will never let him forget we have a professional relationship! If he ever makes sexual advances towards me again I will call the board on his ass.
LoveyD
01-12-2023, 04:09 PM
When men try to gaslight you for “being selfish” when these mfs are CONSTANTLY calculating and manipulating and gathering intel for their own self interests
God forbid I actually focus on myself and take care of myself.
My ex C would do this. He would get upset if I got up in the morning to go out on a beach run because that would mean that I wasn't around for him to have sex with. He would whine and complain that I was expending my energy on taking care of myself. The man never worked out or exercised and clearly was threatened when I would focus on my own needs. He was such a pain in the ass. God no wonder why I'm so happy being single.
moneybags
01-13-2023, 06:45 AM
^^^^same. A healthy relationship sounds good, but to date I’ve never experienced one. It was always men just wanting to sleep with me or worse abuse me. It’s really everytime I give a guy a chance I get burned everytime.
My life is much better being single.
Rejection is Gods protection. I’m so happy I’ve moved on from the whole situation. M is still being “nice” to me, but I just keep things as professional as possible. I don’t need THAT type of drama in my life. What irks me is this dude could have handled the situation differently in a way that would have prevented harm to me-his patient-and his fiancé. But he was only thinking with his dick, so he hurt everyone and made irreparable harm to me his patient. A “nice” girl wouldn’t be able to deal with him, but as a stripper I have no problem calling men out for their shitty behavior. I mean at anytime he could had a conversation with me about dating outside of work but instead he deceived and manipulated me to get female sexual attention
-he just wanted to have his cake and eat it too, and now I would never even want to date him if he was single. I’ve forgiven but I won’t forget.
Im so glad Im not in a relationship with him (feel sorry for his fiancé) and I can eventually leave this situation when I move. Right now it’s just boundaries.
Thanks for listening. I hate that this situation has been an ongoing issue in my life.
But that men for you. I don’t want problems, and they can’t do anything without their dick getting involved. Causing ME unnecessary drama.
I’m done taking about it. It’s time to focus on other shit. Like living my best life. I definitely an not letting him waste anymore of my time or energy than he already has.
Ugh!
carmen_b
01-13-2023, 08:40 AM
Certain men are determined to undervalue your time.
It's as if it is their favorite hobby or something.
No!
When men try to gaslight you for “being selfish”
carmen_b
01-13-2023, 08:43 AM
J would do this. If I tried to balance the week by taking an afternoon or evening for my self care he would have an issue. Admittedly though .... sometimes I *was * taking 2-3 of these self care sessions a week ! It was typically more than 1 a week.
I hope he has had some struggles dating. I bet he's gonna find out quick that women DO NOT like the 50 / 50 custody lifestyle. I hope he is learning some lessons. Self care is non-negotiable. If a man complains about my self care routine I'll double it up. Instead of an hour for the gym Mon. , an hour for yoga Tues., an hour for therapy Wed., I'll create a need for entire evenings for myself lol.
My ex C would do this. He would get upset if I got up in the morning to go out on a beach run because that would mean that I wasn't around for him to have sex with. He would whine and complain that I was expending my energy on taking care of myself. The man never worked out or exercised and clearly was threatened when I would focus on my own needs. He was such a pain in the ass. God no wonder why I'm so happy being single.
carmen_b
01-13-2023, 08:47 AM
I'm really sorry you've experienced the extreme side of the behavior spectrum. I do think good men who CARE are out there.
It takes SO MUCH work to weed through options that are not great. I do see why women choose to just be single and celibate. I get tired of fighting against " relationship resistant " men . Hey ..... if you feel THAT unsure ...... well I'm already wheels up and driving away.
A healthy relationship sounds good, but to date I’ve never experienced one. It was always men just wanting to sleep with me or worse abuse me. It’s really everytime I give a guy a chance I get burned everytime.
miss.a.p1600
01-13-2023, 10:17 AM
J would do this. If I tried to balance the week by taking an afternoon or evening for my self care he would have an issue. Admittedly though .... sometimes I *was * taking 2-3 of these self care sessions a week !
I hope he has had some struggles dating. I bet he's gonna find out quick that women DO NOT like the 50 / 50 custody lifestyle. I hope he is learning some lessons. Self care is non-negotiable. If a man complains about my self care routine I'll double it up. Instead of an hour for the gym Mon. , an hour for yoga Tues., an hour for therapy Wed., I'll create a need for entire evenings for myself lol.
No woman in her right mind is going to take on another woman’s kids into her home without some sort of benefit
And that’s the problem. Men out here expecting FREE labor (free nanny/maid/cook/therapist/etc) and “free” sex on demand.
Delusional divorced dads are THE WORST because they EXPECT women (on top of all the other relationship expectations) to help raise their kids all up in your space - n you have no rights regarding those kids despite any investment you put in them, yet these same narcissistic, misogyny, cheap ass men provide NOTHING in return for all this thankless free labor and free sex.
carmen_b
01-13-2023, 10:27 AM
^ I'm currently seeing someone with no kids.
He sent me the CUTEST photo holding his 5 week old nephew.
:)
They expect you to " love " their kids which is almost impossible without the biological link and YEARS ( plural ) of family blending.
Living with kids who are not yours = a MASSIVE sacrifice you are making for your partner.
I'm sure it's incredible if at *some point* you feel that love. You feel the sacrifice FIRST .
miss.a.p1600
01-13-2023, 10:44 AM
^i never thought about it like that but that makes sense why some of them are so pushy about forcing their “accept/love my kid (by another woman)” agenda then get offended when it’s explained to them how much baggage they’re bringing esp if they’re not offering much in return.
80% of divorced men = severe delusions of grandeur
Mainly because they act clueless as to the sacrifices their new woman has to endure.
carmen_b
01-13-2023, 10:53 AM
^ Maybe N had these delusions.
He actually thought I would sit around and wait ( more than a month ) for the gf title?
Uh no ......
He was DAMN LUCKY I even offered considering his oddly placed custody schedule ( 7:30 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. usually Tues and Fri pick ups )? wtf
The days are not back to back it impacts FOUR evenings ?
^ Complete delusion for sure.
Anyway ..... the person I'm seeing today said he'll be off at 5 sharp ha.
miss.a.p1600
01-13-2023, 11:02 AM
^sounds delusional to me …. When men with baggage act like *they* are the prize
carmen_b
01-13-2023, 11:03 AM
^ On NYE he was asking .... " how can we modify so you are comfy " .
I get it .... he was trying in his own way.
My requested modification was not seeing each other anymore.
miss.a.p1600
01-13-2023, 11:12 AM
^yeah dudes fucking up in the beginning/honeymoon phase seems self defeating
carmen_b
01-13-2023, 11:15 AM
^ I would let my head spin like .... " what does he WANT " ?
Then I was just done. Later .
moneybags
01-13-2023, 11:44 AM
I'm really sorry you've experienced the extreme side of the behavior spectrum. I do think good men who CARE are out there.
It takes SO MUCH work to weed through options that are not great. I do see why women choose to just be single and celibate. I get tired of fighting against " relationship resistant " men . Hey ..... if you feel THAT unsure ...... well I'm already wheels up and driving away.
I definitely know there’s good men. I’m not a man hater despite all the trauma I have from men. I’ve just made a rational decision to focus on living my best life and not waste anymore of my precious time or energy on relationships. It’s not always easy being independent, but at least I’m at peace. I rarely meet any guy who is worth the risk. We risk more than are hearts:domestic violence, pregnancy, etc. What do you have that’s so great that I should be willing to risk everything for??? I worked hard for my independence. Why would I give that up so easily?
I agree. There’s a shortage of available women, so if I was a guy I would want to do whatever I had to keep her. I’ve noticed is guys regret relationships ending way after the break up. They learn quickly being single is hard. Getting sex is hard, but it’s usually not until there’s irreparable harm to their previous partner do they really understand the grass ain’t greener on the other side.
Men need therapy. The problem is we get used as therapist. I just refuse to do it anymore. I think that’s my new dating rule-you must be in therapy or have been to therapy for me to date you. I shouldnt have to deal with all your unresolved childhood
shit.
My doctor told me his younger brother can’t find a girlfriend. I didn’t say anything, but it’s clear that girls are fed up. I’m just waiting to see how bad things get between the opposite sex. We’re like collectively in a Cold War with each other right now.
miss.a.p1600
01-13-2023, 01:00 PM
^I thought about it today how I am DONE with men with kids. Even if they’re over 18 they’re still most likely gonna be on the payroll, taking your share in the will, fighting you if you inherited anything (see Anna Nicole), and driving a wedge in your relationship
Only a small percentage of men really understand how to put their spouse as a priority when they have kids from a previous relationship vs these delusional dudes who act like they are the prize/their world operates around their kid/and their spouse is just a sidekick along for the concubine lifestyle
I started think how am I gonna find a man over 50 with no kids though?!? That’s going to really narrow the dating pool for me.
miss.a.p1600
01-14-2023, 05:30 AM
My ex had gotten a girl pregnant that he worked with at McDonald's when he was sixteen while in HS. She was eighteen. She quit working there and he had no idea that she had been pregnant until the child was seven years old and he got hit with the back child support for all those years. It came as a really big shock!
He stepped up and did the right thing (took out a loan to pay the back support) and met his seven year old son for the first time. They are close now, but he missed the first seven years of his life. It just didn't seem fair.
Yeah I concur, that doesn’t sound fair
LoveyD
01-14-2023, 07:21 AM
Not only have I been more at peace since I am not in any sort of relationship, but I'm also a lot less stifled too. More productive. I can go and do whatever I want whenever I want without somebody whining about how I'm not there to do this or that for them. Or worse, they try to compete with me. They can't just know what my goals are and support them. They have to compete against me and make it into a competition sort of thing.
moneybags
01-14-2023, 07:30 PM
^^^^eewww. I noticed my ex was like that. He’s low key jealous of me because I’m living in my truth. I’m not competing with anyone. Just living in alignment with my higher self.
kimbe
01-15-2023, 01:17 AM
Sometimes I wonder what goes on in a man's head, we're about to have a nice dinner out, and just before eating, he wants to get head in the restroom (restroom are great at this place though). I mean, I don't mind doing him this favor, but doesn't it cross his mind that it might not be the perfect appetizer >:(/:O
carmen_b
01-15-2023, 10:42 AM
^ I mean .... it's ok to say you had *that* in mind for after dinner as well .
Sometimes it's nice to focus on just the outing ....
moneybags
01-15-2023, 09:31 PM
Damn…my mom invited a guy over and he grabbed her crotch on the first date! Men are trash. My mom is disabled and can’t leave the house. I told her to send me a guys drivers license next time. He stopped when she told him no, but still! My mom said she was though he was safe because he was a girls sports coach…yuck!
In the flip side, we had a good feminist mother daughter bonding moment.
kimbe
01-16-2023, 12:33 AM
Damn…my mom invited a guy over and he grabbed her crotch on the first date! Men are trash. My mom is disabled and can’t leave the house. I told her to send me a guys drivers license next time. He stopped when she told him no, but still! My mom said she was though he was safe because he was a girls sports coach…yuck!
In the flip side, we had a good feminist mother daughter bonding moment.
Hope she's OK!
Well, I don't blame her, but the history of male coaches and abuse is long..
kimbe
01-16-2023, 01:01 AM
When I'm about to make my morning coffee and I discover he hasn't cleaned the espresso maker.. >:(
miss.a.p1600
01-16-2023, 07:56 AM
^since when do the average men clean to satisfactory levels? Lol
speaking of which I get highly triggered when they avoid cleaning (especially bathrooms that THEY mess up more than women), expect women to clean after them, then when they’re called upon to clean after themselves, they do the absolute bare minimum them act like they just scrubbed a mega mansion for days.
kimbe
01-16-2023, 11:57 AM
^ I mean .... it's ok to say you had *that* in mind for after dinner as well .
Sometimes it's nice to focus on just the outing ....
Of course I could have, but it's something about seizing the moment you know.. ;)
kimbe
01-16-2023, 12:00 PM
^since when do the average men clean to satisfactory levels? Lol
I won't complain in general, he's actually quite good at cleaning. To be honest, he does most of the cleaning at home.. ;D