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moneybags
03-01-2022, 03:08 PM
^^^thats what I was doing! I’m better myself and I don’t like giving my energy away! Oh well. Lesson learned. I don’t care who he is. I’m never giving my time and energy away again. At least, he gave me some free stuff. But totally professional from now on. I know AS SOON as I lose interest he’ll try to pull me back in. Men just want what they can’t have, and then when they get it they take it forgranted. Not all men, but yes most men.
moneybags
03-01-2022, 05:42 PM
^^^i also seem to have a problem that guys who like me think they aren’t good enough for me so they sabotage the relationship or don’t even try to make an effort. He probably wants to play it safe. That’s okay. I’m firm in my decision to move on. I just know when I do. He’ll start being flirty again, and I’ll just have to not engage or get my hopes up.
I’m gonna go no contact and find another doctor. I deserve better than this! I didn’t start this shit! I bet when he doesn’t he see me for awhile he’ll wish he wouldn’t have started engaging the way he did. Don’t start something you have no intentions of finishing. Playing games and jerking my feelings around. Men only think with dicks.
moneybags
03-03-2022, 02:29 PM
Thanks!
I saw him today. I held strong to my energetic boundaries. It’s not easy. I feel like the universe is testing me to see if I learned my spiritual lesson.
carmen_b
03-03-2022, 06:33 PM
^ You are so smart . I don't think many women would have the self control to not get dicked around by a good looking Dr.
There is something just so compelling about those successful types that it makes you just be like " oh whatever I will just see what happens ".
BUT .... it is so smart to keep this well thought out. Then you will NOT just get stuck in the role of mistress or some lame-o grey area ( not girlfriend ).
In a way he is nasty and unprofessional doing this ( being flirtatious with you ).
moneybags
03-03-2022, 07:18 PM
^^^Titles and money mean nothing to me. I’ve had the experience of being married to a rich and success guy and he’s was toxic AF. I’d rather struggle than be with a toxic man.
Yeah. It was unprofessional. He even said something about me seeing another doctor. Maybe he feels guilty. He should!
I forgive but I don’t forget. I love myself unconditionally and I’m very happy as a single woman EXACTLY because of this! I value my peace above all else.
I might get another doctor. The doctor and client relationship is very sacred, and he broke that trust. I’m not saying he’s “bad” just that’s there’s consequences for flirting with your patients. I’m an adult woman and I’m not gonna like call the board on him-that’s petty as fuck. He’s very good at what he does, but I probably should find another doctor if there’s one available. No one is perfect, but he crossed the line. That’s why you’re never supposed to date your patients.
miss.a.p1600
03-05-2022, 10:37 AM
Most men seem like they do want their ego stroked (as well as their D.)
Case in point, mine, I got my car work done for the $ he owed, however, I feel that w/all I did, he should have paid for some of the parts (200.+, he didn't).
He totally got off on the attention /stuff I gave him, that's fine, cause I am done, I'm keeping away from all the rooms & working on my self.
This is where you have to give him less or equal to (preferably less) what he gives to you. Otherwise they WILL take advantage and expect you to be like a surrogate mommy/sugar mommy
#iaintyamommy
moneybags
03-05-2022, 11:30 AM
^^^^They call them crushes because they crush you. I’m taking to my therapist about how to move forward. I’m just trying to not think about him and focus on money right now. It When love is real it makes you a dummy.
It’s possible he could break up with his girlfriend and ask me out in the future, but I can’t get my hopes up. He’s gonna have to work really hard to get back into my good graces-vacations, shopping, and fine dining. I won’t accept anything less after he broke my heart. I’m not a gold digger-but the only way to know if it’s real and keep things fair energetically is making him pony up $$$. Until he starts giving me money, I’m not catching feelings for him again.
Thanks for letting me vent. I’ll get over him. It’s just gonna take time.
miss.a.p1600
03-05-2022, 11:44 AM
^its lust
And I agree. Women have been trained by society to be ‘nice’ but that niceness can easily be taken for weakness by men who have no qualms using your weaknesses to their benefit. Unfortunately for them, we have to hit them where it matters …. their wallets (to even out the score). Otherwise it’s too easy to be left with wet ass, cold heart, low self esteem and nothing to show for having to deal with these men who weren’t raised properly.
moneybags
03-05-2022, 01:12 PM
I’m just a fantasy to him.
I don’t expect vanilla men to be as bad as guys at the club, so it really throws me off my game. I just need to treat men like they’re all the same. I know there’s good guys, but you don’t which ones are good and which ones are bad, so you just have to treat them all the same until they prove otherwise. The fake woke nice guys like him are the worst. That pretend like they respect women when they’re really just manipulative and sneaky to get sex. He isn’t any better than the guys I meet at the club-even if he is a doctor.
I’m putting all my energy into getting my pro card. Success is the best revenge.
You can have your basic bitch and your boring life. He’ll probably marry her because he’s too weak to stand up for himself and do what he wants with his life and he’ll just be like all the miserable married men that come to our clubs that don’t get sex from their vanilla wives anymore.
I’m done venting for awhile. Thanks for listening guys I appreciate it. Talking to my therapist tomorrow and I’m sure in a month I’ll be like, “oh my god this guy is so lame why did I ever like him.” LOL it just takes time
moneybags
03-06-2022, 03:58 PM
I talked to my therapist and she helped with boundaries moving forward. I’m just not getting too personal while we’re working together and not taking his flirting seriously. If he wanted to date me he’d have to refer me to another doctor, so until that he does that I just won’t take his flirting seriously. I’ll have to not get my hopes up either. Which is emotionally exhausting, but as an athlete I need the best sports medicine doctor and in a small town I can’t find another one. I’m just gonna have set boundaries with him and with myself. Ugh!!!
Being sexy can be a curse sometimes.
Thanks again. It’ll take discipline, but i can handle this.
Marina Starr
03-07-2022, 12:00 PM
For those of you that have a crush on someone, how do you get over them? Do you find it easier to avoid seeing them completely or give into what you feel and see them as much as you can?
I can't remember the last time I had a crush on a guy. That's been many many years. That's like back when I was in middle/high schools.
carmen_b
03-07-2022, 12:34 PM
^ If I like a guy and he doesn’t make a move ( for whatever reason ) I cut him off entirely!
I have made a couple exceptions ( for example one person I tried with and it wasn’t a great fit romantically but he is a casual friend now ).
90% of the time I remove entirely from my view. I usually tell them why too ! It’s part of my process ha.
Marina Starr
03-07-2022, 12:42 PM
I would entirely do the same but I know there are girls that have to see their crush to get over. If they avoid then the crush becomes more intense, lol.
I'm lmao off discussing this topic because I stopped have crushes once I started doing sex work. I think a lot of it has to do with seeing so much of men and I'm pretty bold.
I look and stare so infatuation doesn't happen.
^ If I like a guy and he doesn’t make a move ( for whatever reason ) I cut him off entirely!
I have made a couple exceptions ( for example one person I tried with and it wasn’t a great fit romantically but he is a casual friend now ).
90% of the time I remove entirely from my view. I usually tell them why too ! It’s part of my process ha.
carmen_b
03-07-2022, 12:54 PM
^ really ?
I always feel so disappointed if someone I like doesn't step up ( asking on dates ) and then going into a relationship if he doesn't take clear actions to move it forward I get disappointed too.
I feel like it can " release " those bummer vibes if you just tell the person their actions were a bummer to you personally.
Then you free up your energy to move ON.
Marina Starr
03-07-2022, 01:04 PM
Yes for me! I feel that crushes start out as infatuation and idealization of the person we assume our crushes to be.
So when I'm able to look at men as often and as much as I want I don't have false infatuation. I'm also celibate and happily single so no sex is no problem.
^ really ?
I always feel so disappointed if someone I like doesn't step up ( asking on dates ) and then going into a relationship if he doesn't take clear actions to move it forward I get disappointed too.
I feel like it can " release " those bummer vibes if you just tell the person their actions were a bummer to you personally.
Then you free up your energy to move ON.
Marina Starr
03-11-2022, 08:56 AM
When I know a guy has a crush on me but kinda shy. If I see him out and about, and we're happen to be there at the same time,
I always make sure to make them blush by saying their name out loud as they're leaving. Love drawing attention to them by mercilessly teasing. "BYE JOSH" "BYE WILL!" "BYE STEVE!"
moneybags
03-15-2022, 09:58 PM
I’m still sad about by my crush. I decided happiness is the best revenge.
I’m still angry. He’s in a position of privilege and power and to toy with his patients feelings for his own ego-yuck. He’s lucky I’m not a petty bitch. One day, he’s gonna fuck one of his patients, and she’s gonna take him to the board to get his licensed pulled.
It’s gonna be weird and awkward for awhile, but nothing really happened. That’s the energy I’ll have every time I see him. Nothing happened- it was just flirting. Keep focusing on living my best most amazing life.
Luci Fer
03-15-2022, 10:36 PM
I’m still about by my crush. I decided happiness is the best revenge.
I’m still angry. He’s in a position of privilege and power and to toy with his patients feelings for his own ego-yuck. He’s lucky I’m not a petty bitch. One day, he’s gonna fuck one of his patients, and she’s gonna take him to the board to get his licensed pulled.
It’s gonna be weird and awkward for awhile, but nothing really happened. That’s the energy I’ll have every time I see him. Nothing happened- it was just flirting. Keep focusing on living my best most amazing life.
Money, I really wish you to keep a cold mind in your situation. It can be a source of emotional suffering, as I imagine. But you will go through this and get stronger:) Maybe you 'll get him without even trying, the roles will be switched and you will keep calm heart and peace of mind while he 'll be the one feeling all that range of emotions. The Universe is mysterious place after all.
AChildOfBoredom
03-16-2022, 04:46 AM
They call them crushes because they crush you.
Not if you crush them first! Like insects.
This makes me think back to when we took on a contract (fortunately, a short term one) for a garbage company. There’d be times we’d get just hordes of maggots coming out of those, because we were al,ost never so fortunate to get them in a state where they’d been cleaned out. So we’d sweep them into a pile, then take our MAPP gas (basically, propane on steroids) torches and roast them. Which is how I prefer to treat lecherous men. Proverbially, of course… if I ever actually buy the flamethrower, then we’ll see if it remains proverbial.
moneybags
03-16-2022, 06:05 PM
Money, I really wish you to keep a cold mind in your situation. It can be a source of emotional suffering, as I imagine. But you will go through this and get stronger:) Maybe you 'll get him without even trying, the roles will be switched and you will keep calm heart and peace of mind while he 'll be the one feeling all that range of emotions. The Universe is mysterious place after all.
It’s really better to detach and not have any expectations at all. Just focus on myself. That’s the healthiest way to deal with relationships in general.
My friend told me when she quit trying so hard is when she found her husband. So who knows maybe if I quit caring about him then maybe down the road we could date once I get done with school. He talked about hiring me after school. I’m Not getting my hopes up about anything in the future-if it happens it happens.
For now lots of self love and detachment. I’m gonna be be totally ZEN!
carmen_b
03-16-2022, 06:18 PM
^ Sometimes we need to use our minds to get away from a guy when the puss is saying to jump in !
Which you did so effectively with " Dr . Love "
:/
He is probably a bat shit crazy narcissist anyway v.s. a " confused " guy running around.
I'm trying to joke and make you feel better !! It IS unprofessional of him .
moneybags
03-21-2022, 10:53 AM
Ugh…he’s acting distant now. It’s all for best to have a professional relationship anyways. I’m pretty much over it.This is why don’t entertain men for free. I’m just focusing on my goals and self love. It’ll be alright. I just need to not take it personally.
moneybags
03-21-2022, 11:57 AM
^^^ Nope! Healthy women don’t respond to games.
Real love feels good. It doesn’t make you feel bad, confused, or doubtful. I have a thing called self esteem and self respect.
Thanks for your support. I probably dodged a bullet. I barely know the guy. I’m just gonna grey rock. Be kind, but not too personal when I have to work with him.
This is why I don’t date. This is why I’m single. I don’t have the time or energy for men unless they are adding value to my life. Either you want it or you just playing. Obviously he was just playing me.
The fact I feel so bad around him tells me EVERYTHING I need to know.
Marina Starr
03-21-2022, 01:21 PM
Don't you also think when you start ignoring a man first you get the upper hand? I feel when you ignored them, they work harder to get your attention. It's reverse psychology. When you give them too much attention they will take you for granted because they don't have to work for it!
That's cause he's not getting the attention he wants from you.. He's probably hoping by doing that, you'll ramp up attention!
Mine acts all, golly gosh wow, but I'm not letting myself be fooled by his manipulation.
Marina Starr
03-22-2022, 06:56 PM
Looking back, do you know what's so fucking hilarious to me? I used to google what are the signs/body language that he likes me?
Then we both would turn this shit into stupid games by avoiding eye contact but will catch glances then ignore each other and start all over. You get what I'm trying to say.
All this shit would turn a crush into an obsession. Feeling anxious, nervous when he's around. Avoid looking at him, lmao.
Looking back I feel so foolish giving guys that I used to have a crush on so much of my time and energy but none of it was their fault because I'm the one who gave over my power.
Selling pussy completely put a stop to that. Now I just look. I don't know why but when I just look, I feel that gives me the upper hand. Not shy or anxious with or by any man so crush doesn't happen. This is the air that alpha bitches give off that men find so intimidating and sexy at the same time.
carmen_b
03-22-2022, 07:14 PM
Tell us more because I'm picturing a pretty in shape dude here......
:)
Note : I am NOT enabling . Especially when he didn't ask you out in a straight forward way. It was curiosity about the type.
So, I started thinking, I have a type, he falls into that..
Marina Starr
03-23-2022, 04:45 PM
One of the biggest signs that you are over your crush is when you're indifference toward them. You wish them well as you would with the average human being.
Saw my ex-crush at Starbucks today. We used to crush on each other for a long time but nothing ever happened. He was there with his wife. I don't think she knew about us, lol.
I told her she's so pretty and they made a beautiful couple as I randomly would to people I don't even know. That made me feel really good that I was able to say that without feeling like I'm still being held hostage to what was.
That didn't just happen overnight. It took time, growth and maturity.
moneybags
03-23-2022, 05:08 PM
I’m not talking about my crush anymore-here or with anyone else. I’m focusing all my time and energy on myself. I refuse to entertain any thoughts or entertain him.
I did a really good job of being friendly, but not too friendly today. I have a feeling once I flip the script he’s gonna be chasing me, but I will maintain my boundaries. It really does seem they only want you when you walk away, but I’m not a toy any guy can pick up and put down when they are lonely, bored, or horny. If a man wants my time and energy he has to earn it.
I refuse to give my energy to any man who is not adding value to my life-mostly in terms of dollars. Show me the money!
Marina Starr
03-24-2022, 11:51 AM
Will it be more difficult for you if the two of you just have sex and get it out of the way, lol? I know plenty of women that say they will be okay with just sex but they always end up catching feelings with men their have sex with. I know men can just fuck and it's totally fine but women are wired differently.
Good for you! ^
Eh, mines a little more complicated.. He's under my roof, also is our default maintenance guy..
Which I need him for several things, (some repairs) not the least of which is the circuits being tripped by the clueless assholes here, (the fuse box is in my room::)) when we can coordinate our time (he has to come to my room:lovestruc)
He's been going thru a rough patch, (lost his phone, he got another) got locked out of his car yesterday, so he asked me to drive him to gas station a couple times (he needed more tools).
Honestly, it was fine, I know he didn't want to bother me, but no one else would help, (including the jacked up fucks upstairs that borrowed his spare truck for months!)
I really wasn't busy, so..
Anyway, soo fucking HOT.
I know I shouldn't, but I want him :(
Even more complicated, I consider him a friend too. /:O
Marina Starr
03-24-2022, 12:35 PM
Hoes don't get shy :)
Just flirt with him and use your body language to convey what you want. For example, touch and gently rub his shoulder and thank him for being so helpful.
Men are very good at reading physical hints. If he doesn't reciprocate then I would let it be and not push it.
Do not flat out asking 'Can I please have the dick?
https://i.ibb.co/qNm0Lff/200.gif (https://imgbb.com/)
Marina, I'm soo down, him tho, Idk.. He's very sexual..
I thought of trying to seduce him, when he does my work, or flat out asking him, but soo shy.. I'd die if he turned me down, Idk we'll see!
Yes, catching feels is a possibility, I think I already have.. :(
Edit: he does throw little 'hints' here & there, not sure if he's teasing or what!
moneybags
03-24-2022, 04:53 PM
I wish I could be a hoe. I get in my feelings. Ugh. I agree if I was rejected by my crush I would die. It’s one thing that he didn’t ask me out. If I threw the kitty at him and he said no I couldn’t ever look him in the eyes.LOL.
I’ll have to live vicariously through Whirlez. I can definitely see having a fling with a maintenance guy. I’ve probably watch too much porn. I definitely don’t think he’d turn you down, but I agree it could get messy if you all see each other every day. Kinda be hard to fuck some dude and then pretend like nothing happened when he comes over to fix something.
Marina Starr
03-24-2022, 05:05 PM
Is this crush the doctor that has a girlfriend?
I wish I could be a hoe. I get in my feelings. Ugh. I agree if I was rejected by my crush I would die. It’s one thing that he didn’t ask me out. If I threw the kitty at him and he said no I couldn’t ever look him in the eyes.LOL.
I’ll have to live vicariously through Whirlez. I can definitely see having a fling with a maintenance guy. I’ve probably watch too much porn. I definitely don’t think he’d turn you down, but I agree it could get messy if you all see each other every day. Kinda be hard to fuck some dude and then pretend like nothing happened when he comes over to fix something.
moneybags
03-24-2022, 06:12 PM
Is this crush the doctor that has a girlfriend?
I’m so embarrassed. Bad I know! You can’t help you fall for though. For the record, I didn’t know (and he intentionally withheld) he had a girlfriend until recently. The look on his face when he brought her up-so much guilt…LOL. I hoped maybe it wasn’t that serious and they were breaking up soon or something, but I decided to just move on from him.
I seriously entertained the thought of just saying fuck it and have a fling anyways, but my conscience always stops me from having a good time…LOL.
Marina Starr
03-24-2022, 06:27 PM
Don't be embarrassed. Nothing is off limits here, lol.
Are you sure of what exactly you want from him and what your intentions are? Intentions create reality. I'd hate to see you get hurt.
When men randomly throw their wives/girlfriends in the conservation then it's most likely they're trying to say 'hey im taken but still open to having fun...)
Same if they go out of their way to withheld.
The odd thing is, they would fuck you in a heartbeat but the moment you ask about their wives/girlfriends that bring up so much guilt and all sort of feelings, lmao.
It's true you can't help who you fall for but it's also good to look at things objectively.
I’m so embarrassed. Bad I know! You can’t help you fall for though. For the record, I didn’t know (and he intentionally withheld) he had a girlfriend until recently. The look on his face when he brought her up-so much guilt…LOL. I hoped maybe it wasn’t that serious and they were breaking up soon or something, but I decided to just move on from him.
I seriously entertained the thought of just saying fuck it and have a fling anyways, but my conscience always stops me from having a good time…LOL.
moneybags
03-24-2022, 08:00 PM
^^^ive learned the hard way I can’t have casual sex.
I live a peaceful, abundant, and happy life most of the time. I’ll just have to be content with self pleasuring for now.
Yes. I do think Dr. Dreamboat mentioned his girlfriend as a way “to be honest”, but be still was hitting on me afterward he mentioned her. Nope! That totally doesn’t feel in alignment with my higher self. My lower self wanted some dick, but my higher self knows I deserve better.
It ain’t always easy or fun to do the right thing, but the higher road lead to higher places.
moneybags
03-25-2022, 08:10 AM
I think I might do 30 days of no contact. I found a new Dr. Hopefully this one doesn’t try to screw me too.
carmen_b
03-25-2022, 08:13 AM
^ I can't do casual sex either. I get attached.
It's a challenge these days to try to make sure the guy in interested in a relationship.
Many dating coaches say to not even get to the sex point unless you are in a committed relationship.
Men take advantage of " blurred lines " and women being afraid to ask where things stand.
Marina Starr
03-25-2022, 08:22 AM
I can't do casual sex either. In fact I can't do sex at all because I'm celibate by choice. I have no problem getting dick.
However, I love trolling men by asking how their wives or girlfriends are doing because I know they love this question so much!
#marrieddick
#attacheddick
Marina Starr
03-25-2022, 08:35 AM
Everyone has a timeframe of when they want to fuck and that's their prerogative but I always wonder if a guy is good in bed if he wanted sex too soon. I wonder if he'll take his time making sure I'm happy and satisfied.
Will he cuddle after sex? Will he get me chick FIL a?
Will he get me Starbucks? These are very important to me.
moneybags
03-25-2022, 11:08 AM
Can you clarify lose it? Men lose interest before sex?
I also decided once I move on-it’s over. Friends and lovers have one chance to be in my personal life, and if they mess it up I’m not giving people another chance to hurt me. I don’t care what there excuse is. It’s hard enough for me to open up to begin with, and if I take a risk emotionally and you mess it up then I won’t do it again. Fuck this crazy making bullshit. That’s exactly what it is-women are crazy because men make us crazy. Ugh.
I’m gonna boss the fuck up and make him regret not leveling up with me. Grrr!
Marina Starr
03-25-2022, 12:29 PM
YES, it's very satisfying when you completely ignore men that play hot and cold. It is breadcrumbing when it's purposely done to manipulate.
The fuck up shit is when men think women with high self-esteem would want to be with men pretending to not like them when they actually do, lmaoooooooooo!
carmen_b
03-25-2022, 03:32 PM
^ Who wants to eat crumbs ? ! ? Boring !!
Gimme Steak ! Then some Dick !!
Marina Starr
03-27-2022, 01:07 PM
Ladies!!! Do you prefer a man with a nice looking face or perfect body, and why?!
moneybags
03-27-2022, 02:19 PM
Ladies!!! Do you prefer a man with a nice looking face or perfect body, and why?!
Body. I don’t necessarily need a guy to be Mr. Universe. I’m an athlete, so I want someone else with a nice body.
moneybags
03-29-2022, 11:53 AM
I keep giving him clues I’m a stripper ha ha ha. He blushed so hard when I mentioned going out to the strip club with my friends. I’ve mentioned talking pole dancing classes too. Ha ha ha. Im not going to out myself. I’ll let him marinate on that. If he’s gonna tease me I’m gonna tease him right back. Two can play this game.
In all seriousness, I got my old thing back. I don’t give a fuck if he likes no or not. Im happy with my life. Im a liberated woman.
miss.a.p1600
03-29-2022, 11:56 AM
Ladies!!! Do you prefer a man with a nice looking face or perfect body, and why?!
Both?
Body because I can just close my eyes at night and leave early am before I have to wake up to him, if he’s jacked up in the face.
But the sloppy body is going to look and feel unsatisfactory
if he’s got money and he’s willing to spend it, I can overlook the less than 6 out of 10 face n body.
Just my opinion though
Marina Starr
03-29-2022, 11:57 AM
You could also casually, drop strippers in conversations and see what he say.
I keep giving him clues I’m a stripper ha ha ha. He blushed so hard when I mentioned going out to the strip club with my friends
moneybags
03-29-2022, 12:24 PM
You could also casually, drop strippers in conversations and see what he say.
He says he doesn’t judge, but who knows how he really feels. I don’t care. I was just amusing myself. I caught him off guard . He said he’s never been. I believe him. He’s very vanilla.
Afterthought:I keep silently laughing by how much I made him blush
Marina Starr
03-29-2022, 01:05 PM
A lot of people say they don't care until you actually tell them. I know men that have no problems going to strip clubs but totally not okay with their women stripping.
I don't think there's a right or wrong way, you just do what you think it's best.
He says he doesn’t judge, but who knows how he really feels. I don’t care. I was just amusing myself. I caught him off guard . He said he’s never been. I believe him. He’s very vanilla.
Afterthought:I keep silently laughing by how much I made him blush
moneybags
03-29-2022, 01:39 PM
I thought about sending mine a pic in my new blk rubber skirt, but eh
LOL….does he know you cam?