View Full Version : What do you bring to the table?
miss.a.p1600
04-21-2022, 05:54 AM
I refuse to make a man a to do list. He's not a fucking toddler and I'm not his mommy. ::) These men don't need to do lists at their jobs so they are obviously competent enough to figure out what needs to be done, why do they need their hands held at home? If they are really clueless bc of how they were raised or whatever, they can Google one if anything. I cannot think of anything more emasculating for him and embarrassing for me. As a wife/girlfriend nothing would repulse me more & men wonder why they are in sexless marriages. I know this because I've been through it and almost nothing gets rid of the romance & spark in a relationship faster. Either he acts like a real man & does his share of managing AND executing, or helps pay up for hired help. Or I walk! :)
Once their asses get past a certain age, that memory starts declining……those written checklists may come in handy.
This would be a good thing to see what the guy brings to the table ….. how well does he listen, take initiative, and execute
neverendingkneebruises
04-22-2022, 01:58 PM
Once their asses get past a certain age, that memory starts declining……those written checklists may come in handy.
This would be a good thing to see what the guy brings to the table ….. how well does he listen, take initiative, and execute
Oh I totally understand because I suffer from severe ADHD and I utilize checklists myself. Some which I found off of Google, they save my life LOL! My point is that he should not be putting the beast of burden on you or your relationship in any way. If you feel things are fair and stress free with however your relationship is set up, that is awesome. :) There's a difference between needing some help & working as a team, and just plain refusing to grow up & take on your share of the "load" (aka 90% of men)
moneybags
04-22-2022, 03:30 PM
never ending :
I get what you are saying !
I really didn't mean to hand a list. I just meant that if your household things are not even then change it NOW .
My womens studies professor made a list for her and her boyfriend. I think the intention was just to make him more conscious of household labor. It’s not about being a bitch. Some guys want to be woke, but they don’t know any better unless you make them aware of all the unpaid labor we do as women as part of our programming. I think that’s where a list can be helpful. Same with a household budget. It’s a good idea to sit down once a month for a date to discuss keeping the house in order. Everyone has different ideas, so instead of just expecting a man to know. It’s a good idea to discuss before moving in together, but I don’t think we’re always conscious enough to have these conversations if we grew up in more traditional families. Relationships are always up for negotiation, so sooner is better to change things before getting too serious. That’s what dating is for.
Good men are like puppies. They want to please us! We just have to tell them what makes us happy!
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Exxotica
09-09-2022, 05:33 AM
There are more women in college than men and has been since the 1980s. https://feed.georgetown.edu/access-affordability/women-increasingly-outnumber-men-at-u-s-colleges-but-why/ Which means women are getting educated in order to have better paying jobs, not the bullshit you are spouting about all of us looking for rich husbands to live off of. Your old tropes are complete and total lies.
It is women who are not wanting to get married rather than men. Due to financial freedom, so when we can make our own money & not have to depend upon men for mere survival, we are choosing not to get married at all. But men worrying about how we are all going to steal their money is just laughable.
Men and women have about the same amount of debt with men's only being slightly higher, so pathetic to say men are saving women... When both are more likely to be in some kind of debt.
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Women are more educated (which by the way doesnt mean smart but the 2 seem to always get conflated) We also hold majority of the student loan debt and opted to major in studies that pay the lowest in wages (liberal arts, arts, humanitarian, social work) etc.
We also hold more credit card debt and remain the highest consumers of shopping goods.
Nonetheless Marriage rates will continue to decline, as vasectomies rise which sounds like will be good for both sides.
Exxotica
09-09-2022, 05:36 AM
My womens studies professor made a list for her and her boyfriend. I think the intention was just to make him more conscious of household labor. It’s not about being a bitch. Some guys want to be woke, but they don’t know any better unless you make them aware of all the unpaid labor we do as women as part of our programming. I think that’s where a list can be helpful. Same with a household budget. It’s a good idea to sit down once a month for a date to discuss keeping the house in order. Everyone has different ideas, so instead of just expecting a man to know. It’s a good idea to discuss before moving in together, but I don’t think we’re always conscious enough to have these conversations if we grew up in more traditional families. Relationships are always up for negotiation, so sooner is better to change things before getting too serious. That’s what dating is for.
Good men are like puppies. They want to please us! We just have to tell them what makes us happy!
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That's a boy, not a Man. And stop "dating" your male roomates ladies.
Raven88
10-04-2022, 07:02 PM
After watching the video that was posted, I summed it up and concluded that something along the lines of " Have you ever had a real, loving, supportive relationship with a quality woman? Do you have any married/committed friends who's wives are raising children? Because I can't believe you would ask such a question if you had any experience in these areas." "It should be obvious what a woman can bring to the table"
And see what he comes up with.
It is an insulting question for sure.