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carmen_b
08-23-2022, 01:41 PM
My former partner of 7 years made about 25%-30% more than me I would say. He paid roughly that ratio for " a little more " on our bills.
It's a little different than my current partner. If a man makes more than 100-110k I would say he doesn't even need close to half for bills unless he live in a VERY expensive area.
If someone is making 30-70k or so they legitimately probably do need their partner to do closer to 50% or so.
Sam38g
08-23-2022, 02:28 PM
My former partner of 7 years made about 25%-30% more than me I would say. He paid roughly that ratio for " a little more " on our bills.
It's a little different than my current partner. If a man makes more than 100-110k I would say he doesn't even need close to half for bills unless he live in a VERY expensive area.
If someone is making 30-70k or so they legitimately probably do need their partner to do closer to 50% or so.
Problem with paying for half is that all the cleaning, cooking, laundry, child care and such is rarely 50/50. Study after study shows that women do 4 more hours per day in unpaid labor in the home than men do. Also showed that men way over estimate how much domestic labor they do in the home. While your situation maybe different, majority of married women are not.
Which is why women's health suffers way more in a marriage or long term relationship & a man's improves. It is also 6 times more likely he will divorce or leave her if she gets cancer and no longer do housework & sex. So much so that nurses in cancer treatment centers warn the wives to prepare for this by getting a lawyer to make sure they aren't left with nothing while going through cancer treatments.
It is never a 50/50 sharing of bills or responsibility and marriage is horrible for women, it only benefits men. And over time, men can't help themselves in trying to fuck you over. Rare is it a man who does right by us.
xxxGothBarbie
08-23-2022, 02:45 PM
I refuse to pay rent where I'm at right now. Especially living in his "smother's" apt?!? Nope! I'm even starting to cook less for us bc it's too hot with no ac and why should I provide his food when all he does is blow his money on booze and dumb shit?!? I've wised up lately an he's pissed about it I bet.
miss.a.p1600
08-23-2022, 03:29 PM
Problem with paying for half is that all the cleaning, cooking, laundry, child care and such is rarely 50/50. Study after study shows that women do 4 more hours per day in unpaid labor in the home than men do. Also showed that men way over estimate how much domestic labor they do in the home. While your situation maybe different, majority of married women are not.
Which is why women's health suffers way more in a marriage or long term relationship & a man's improves. It is also 6 times more likely he will divorce or leave her if she gets cancer and no longer do housework & sex. So much so that nurses in cancer treatment centers warn the wives to prepare for this by getting a lawyer to make sure they aren't left with nothing while going through cancer treatments.
It is never a 50/50 sharing of bills or responsibility and marriage is horrible for women, it only benefits men. And over time, men can't help themselves in trying to fuck you over. Rare is it a man who does right by us.
Why tf is this the typical man though …. Why are they so obsessed with sex?
miss.a.p1600
08-23-2022, 03:39 PM
Problem with paying for half is that all the cleaning, cooking, laundry, child care and such is rarely 50/50. Study after study shows that women do 4 more hours per day in unpaid labor in the home than men do. Also showed that men way over estimate how much domestic labor they do in the home. While your situation maybe different, majority of married women are not.
Which is why women's health suffers way more in a marriage or long term relationship & a man's improves. It is also 6 times more likely he will divorce or leave her if she gets cancer and no longer do housework & sex. So much so that nurses in cancer treatment centers warn the wives to prepare for this by getting a lawyer to make sure they aren't left with nothing while going through cancer treatments.
It is never a 50/50 sharing of bills or responsibility and marriage is horrible for women, it only benefits men. And over time, men can't help themselves in trying to fuck you over. Rare is it a man who does right by us.
this is what I’m finding in men who are covert 50/50. They will offer to pay more of the shared bills but will find ways to “get the most bang for their buck” just like those cheap ass SC customer by having the lady do more other responsibilities (free childcare, on demand sex, free maid, free personal chef, free house manager, and more)
men constantly fucking ladies over = male privilege at its finest. And the reason we have ladies only spaces (which theyÂ’re constantly sticking their noses where they donÂ’t belong ex. Womens reproductive rights)
miss.a.p1600
08-23-2022, 03:43 PM
They all listen to other predators in the bars, gyms, in podcast telling them how to get over on us in every single way. How it is their right to take our youth, gas light us and abuse so they can brag to all their buddies. Their hook is to get us to fall in love with them and then start eroding our self confidence, slowly get us to want less while doing more of the cleaning, shopping, cooking and then for us to pay half the bills or more. Then say we are mothering or emasculating them which gives them the right to cheat.
Gross.
chanzep
08-23-2022, 04:09 PM
Men are the biggest liberty takers. You give a inch and they take a mile . This is why I refuse to pay a penny to live with them. If they want a live maid who they can fuck and emotionally unload on then they can pay.
A women taking care of the house is a huge contribution, why should she then have to come out of pocket or be stressed out by a job.She should only works if she want and not have a man nosing in her money. Women working and looking after the house and paying bills and up taking 90% of the load. It's unfair and these men are selfish bums.
carmen_b
08-23-2022, 04:24 PM
^ I just don't get that. If you are contributing ( even if he makes 70% of the household income lets say and you each put in your " ratio " toward a mortgage or rent ) housework should still be split 50/50 if you both work 40 hours.
carmen_b
08-23-2022, 04:25 PM
My guy does a lot but in my opinion ( and it's obviously biased haha ) I also tolerate a lot.
I made a special exception for him to date someone with a child ( at least give it a try ).
At times it is challenging to have his child around so much ( 14-15 days a month is typical ).
It's much less challenging now that school is back in. School days are very easy.
Violethollywood
08-24-2022, 08:17 AM
My former partner of 7 years made about 25%-30% more than me I would say. He paid roughly that ratio for " a little more " on our bills.
It's a little different than my current partner. If a man makes more than 100-110k I would say he doesn't even need close to half for bills unless he live in a VERY expensive area.
If someone is making 30-70k or so they legitimately probably do need their partner to do closer to 50% or so.
i live in the midwest and my husband makes great money. i do the dishes, laundry, sweeping/mopping everything plus i handle his finances as far as paying credit cards with his money --he's too lazy to pay them himself so im the one in charge of making sure bills are paid.
i make him pay me for just about everything lol not even kidding.
i used to do shit for free and then i got to thinking... im stuck at home everyday doing this shit plus work, fuck nah pay me . bc literally he comes home and relaxes and does what he wants . so yeah im getting paid for my services.
carmen_b
08-24-2022, 09:55 AM
^ Awesome ! Plus some of that " allowance " you are creating can put in a secret account and such.
Every woman should have one.
If I ever considered full time house wife stuff ( I wouldn't ) I would be the same. Like .... these services *start* at around 3k a month AND if I want helpers here and there I'll still hire them.
miss.a.p1600
08-24-2022, 05:47 PM
My relative is THE OG and married her sugar daddy and hasn’t worked in many years.
She told me (which I pretty much already knew) “if you leave a dude or if he leaves you, you need a parting gift (aka life insurance benefits, alimony, car paid off, tuition paid, etc.)
Don’t waste time with men who have nothing to provide but stress
Make sure you reaping some benefits
Dealing with men is a job in an of itself.
carmen_b
08-24-2022, 05:52 PM
I guess my dude wants his little adventure out of town.
He seemed to want to go ( it was to repair something on his car ) and make this adventure out of it.
The casino keeps sending me these rooms so I told him ok lets use one.
Then he said his appt. was cancelled.
THEN he said it wasn't cancelled .
I said .... " sorry I gave the casino room comp away " ( it's still in my account ) !
So now he can book something if he wants to.
I'll save the room for later because it wasn't smooth sailing as far as planning goes.
carmen_b
08-28-2022, 09:22 AM
My dude is back in my good graces.
Yes ..... it took some spending to get there lol !!
Jucie
08-30-2022, 11:56 AM
Men Paying ALL Your Bills
I miss one who does.
carmen_b
08-30-2022, 06:59 PM
I always feel slightly offended if he invites me somewhere and doesn't offer to pay for my airfare.
I NEVER felt this way in my former partnership ..... it's just different ( varies by person ha ) .
He didn't offer on this upcoming trip ( gasp ! ) .
I think I have it figured out for $130 round trip on frontier ( seriously haha ).
I combed through to make sure I could bring my laptop bag and send J with my actual suticase.
We are using airports 45 min. away from each other.
The only way to get free bags with Frontier is to bring an item 8 " by 14 " by 18 " ONLY .
I'm a little offended EVEN THOUGH it is even on costs.
It would actually cost me MORE to use the closer airport with J paying for my ticket .
My friend who LOVES my dog and sits him for free lives near the further out airport .
I'll kick over a $20-$30 dinner or something obviously !
I would pay more for the dog sitter close to us if that makes sense ( it would cost $150 ).
I think it's completely fair ( he is covering the hotel + concert tickets ) BUT part of me still feels pouty like ....... you didn't book me a ticket NEXT TO YOU ? If you HAD I would have booked the closer dog sitter. :(
carmen_b
08-30-2022, 07:04 PM
If this situation occurs anytime again soon I'm going to pull a " omg this huge bill just popped up " .
Like ..... just make it easy and book my stuff thx.
I'll do my job and show up looking awesome + find coverage for my fur baby .
Haha.
carmen_b
09-01-2022, 10:58 AM
I came back to this haha because my bill to get over to this city with the cheaper flight out is :
gas $50
gift to dog sitter $20
parking $60
flight itself $125
= $255
I think IF he would have just booked me that damn flight it would have been $325 and then I would have hustled to find a local dog sitter. I think I'm just salty because traveling over alone is boring haha.
I guess the above costs are totally worth it for 4 days in a city I don't visit often.
BUT also ..... it would have been more pleasant to just pay a dog sitter and use the airport closer to us I think.
Exxotica
09-09-2022, 04:43 AM
Problem with paying for half is that all the cleaning, cooking, laundry, child care and such is rarely 50/50. Study after study shows that women do 4 more hours per day in unpaid labor in the home than men do. Also showed that men way over estimate how much domestic labor they do in the home. While your situation maybe different, majority of married women are not.
Which is why women's health suffers way more in a marriage or long term relationship & a man's improves. It is also 6 times more likely he will divorce or leave her if she gets cancer and no longer do housework & sex. So much so that nurses in cancer treatment centers warn the wives to prepare for this by getting a lawyer to make sure they aren't left with nothing while going through cancer treatments.
It is never a 50/50 sharing of bills or responsibility and marriage is horrible for women, it only benefits men. And over time, men can't help themselves in trying to fuck you over. Rare is it a man who does right by us.
Financial suffering is the leading cause of divorce. The vows: "through sickness and health" are biblical and most societies dont even read them anymore so marriage is now defined by each individual couple. A man doesnt want to deal with a sick wife anymore then women dont want to deal with a sick (broke) husband.
Housework is enjoyable for many. The notion that all women are the same is offensive. Let us choose what we want in our individual households.
Nonetheless marriage rates will continue to plummet in the next 5 years. And will only continue be the norm amongst the wealthy and elite
carmen_b
09-09-2022, 02:01 PM
^ I'm not the best a domestic work so it is important to me that my partner/s will be on board with this by doing 50% themselves or be willing to hire help ( which I'm open to helping pay for ) . This way the household is on " auto " such as cleaning done every couple weeks and each person picks up food a couple times a week. My current partner covers most of what i described.
My former partner would fight me on these suggestions even though we were usually working more than 40 hours per week each.
miss.a.p1600
09-09-2022, 04:56 PM
I love being a domestic homemaking goddess ….. but only to a man who appreciates that effort/energy/sacrifice AND compensates me accordingly
These modern men today are clueless and would rather women be “getting it in the mud” like their lazy asses. Then wonder why they barely get sex from their wives. Most of them are under earning and couldn’t provide their way out of a paper bag if their lives depended on it.
I’d rather my man stay OUT of the kitchen, put the kid down, and focus solely on bringing in the bacon. With his discretionary money, I can hire out tasks that leave him free to focus on providing and being available to the queen of the house when needed.
NitaBaby
10-11-2022, 01:17 PM
https://youtu.be/W4e4WbJpPpI
How to beware of landing in the “struggle love”/sugar mommy role (unless you really like that sort of thing)
This also explains why some women consciously choose men who don’t make near as much money as they do and financially support men
I heard ZERO lies!!
neverendingkneebruises
10-21-2022, 12:44 PM
The higher & higher I feel comfortable raising my standards, the more men will jump to meet them for me. I can't believe a year ago I was begging for basic respect and now this is my life. :)
NEVER settle ladies. Go a notch above your comfort zone in what you are comfortable expecting or asking for each day. This has done wonders for me so far
miss.a.p1600
10-21-2022, 02:42 PM
I feel like if a man can’t provide adequately he needs to get his money up, accept other men (who will provide) into the relationship - cause obviously he needs help, or leave and be single since he can only take care of himself.
whirlerz
11-12-2022, 04:53 PM
The higher & higher I feel comfortable raising my standards, the more men will jump to meet them for me. I can't believe a year ago I was begging for basic respect and now this is my life. :)
NEVER settle ladies. Go a notch above your comfort zone in what you are comfortable expecting or asking for each day. This has done wonders for me so far
Ok, gonna try it^!