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carmen_b
08-08-2022, 10:51 AM
Part of me wants to go hide out tomorrow .
Like .... whatever ..... I made it solo 5 days already.
6 wouldn't hurt haha !
I don't plan to do that though. I don't think J would be too keen to hear of me being over the AirBnB or at the casino hotel on his arrival back day ( my cheapie room offer is still good haha ) !
I assume he would want me here lol.
I do plan to PLAY NICE tomorrow.
That means even if his sister is here cluttering up the space haha I am PLAYING NICE .
^ As you can see I totally haven't been giving myself the " talking to " regarding this hahaha !
I plan to be OUT Noon to 4 in case lingering around the house is a thing .
I really don’t want another fight about this subject.
I don't do well during the 9 - 5 business hours if the overall vibe isn't $$$$ making !
I'll just leave and find an office with others who think the same.
carmen_b
08-08-2022, 03:45 PM
Damn I just can not wrap my head around this .
I wish I either " had " to leave town for two days to work haha or his sister just couldn't visit.
I mean ..... school starts WED.
Who really cares if she gives us a couple hours for a window tomorrow .
THEN she will be here Wed. and LIMITING our first long 7 hour day time window that I have been DYING FOR .
Back to playing nice hahahah
Just getting those thoughts out !
I know I just have to let it go and not be an ass about this.
I can't " now allow " house guests as that would be totally nuts.
miss.a.p1600
08-09-2022, 04:41 AM
I can’t explain how beyond satisfied I am without his overbearing presence and his loud needy obnoxious kids for the past two weeks.
It further made me realize I don’t want to deal with him AND his ex wife baggage AND his kids AND his underperforming career/income ….: YES the grass will be greener on the other side.
miss.a.p1600
08-09-2022, 04:47 AM
L pulls the same crap with his kids.
coddles the fuck out of them so they’re scared as shit to simply go outside and play. Like kidnappers are going to want TWO bad ass clingy needy whiny annoying kids.
then he’s too cheap to take them OUT anywhere.
so the stay at the house like a holding cell.
Ls daughter on endless TikTok and his son gaming 24/7
I've brought it up multiple times. I even brought it up right at the beginning of this summer, and how it's fucking ridiculous that we never go anywhere when we have them because "god forbid, it cut into stepson's 'sitting on his ass' time." I know we're not an "anti-screen time" family, but I suggested that we might need to start setting limits to establish a new boundary, because it IS absolute bullshit that his son has a legit meltdown when we make him leave the house for a few hours - to do something FUN, no less. I told him to stop letting his one kid hold the rest of the family hostage just because his life revolves so heavily around video games to the point he can't handle doing anything else. My husband's response was basically to tell me that if me and stepdaughter wanted to get out of the house, I was "free to take her." Oh gee, can I? Can I spend MY money entertaining your kid just because you let your son walk all over you? That doesn't even address my concern that we should occasionally get out and do bonding things as a FAMILY.
I think part of it is that HE doesn't want to get out and go anywhere on his days off, and he thinks since we can't really "send them outside" at our apartment building, that he just has to "deal with them being inside all day" until we have a house with a yard.
Anyway... it's an ongoing debate. I did what I had to do this week, because it was better than trying to change years of this behavior by myself that my husband won't help correct - on a day when I truly just didn't want him to fucking embarrass me. This was the first time I was seeing these people outside of work, and I didn't want that hanging over my head.
They've really just kept to themselves all day lol Didn't argue with me when I asked them to shower and brush teeth. Haven't picked any fights with each other or gotten into things and made a mess. I'll probably go out and make lunch soon, and then my husband will be home shortly. He was supposed to work until 4:30 today, but I bugged him to come home 2 hours early so I could still get stuff done today.
miss.a.p1600
08-09-2022, 07:19 AM
It's probably worth tracking a few hairs down and sending it all in lol !
Ughhhh!!!!! I’m a seriously over here googling “discreet dna paternity tests” lol and so far it looks like it can’t ethically (perhaps even legally) be done without parental consent.
FUCK!
I guess he will have to figure out the hard way after he’s spend countless hours and tens of thousands coming to the aid of his alleged narcissistic ex wife and her co-dependent shenanigans
Good thing I won’t be around to figure it out or be subjected to said shenanigans either way.
miss.a.p1600
08-09-2022, 07:26 AM
https://youtu.be/JfmzXsWH65U
miss.a.p1600
08-09-2022, 07:52 AM
Damn I just can not wrap my head around this .
I wish I either " had " to leave town for two days to work haha or his sister just couldn't visit.
I mean ..... school starts WED.
Who really cares if she gives us a couple hours for a window tomorrow .
THEN she will be here Wed. and LIMITING our first long 7 hour day time window that I have been DYING FOR .
Back to playing nice hahahah
Just getting those thoughts out !
I know I just have to let it go and not be an ass about this.
I can't " now allow " house guests as that would be totally nuts.
Shit I’d totally organize a “girls luncheon” then dip out after an hour to go back to work. And to make sure the aunt takes the kid. I’d offer some movie tickets, gaming center tickets, zoo tickets …. For 2 (aunt and niece).
I would have created evites and everything.
Hit her ass up for some childcare in exchange for the free room and board and invasion of territory
If you leave town for two days J would be laser focused in to your well timed departures lol!
carmen_b
08-09-2022, 08:50 AM
Well I'm pretty charmed at the moment.
I didn't expect him back until 11a.m. today but at 4:30 a.m. I heard the garage door open.
He must have rustled up a better flight or something and didn't stay near the airport like he thought.
He returned in the middle of the night to snuggle me.
:)
carmen_b
08-09-2022, 10:43 AM
It wasn't too bad . We had like 9a.m. - 11:30 to ourselves.
Then headed to the office .
The fight about " being upstairs with the door closed " just can't continue and it has to die.
I'm definitely not *happy* that he didn't schedule today ( full day ) for just us and he is well aware of this ........ but trying to move forward.
Shit I’d totally organize a “girls luncheon” then dip out after an hour to go back to work. And to make sure the aunt takes the kid. I’d offer some movie tickets, gaming center tickets, zoo tickets …. For 2 (aunt and niece).
I would have created evites and everything.
Hit her ass up for some childcare in exchange for the free room and board and invasion of territory
If you leave town for two days J would be laser focused in to your well timed departures lol!
miss.a.p1600
08-09-2022, 10:54 AM
^I May be biased to you because I can relate but his argument about the door being closed is ridiculous.
You are under no obligation to entertain HIS kid during HIS parenting time.
Jeez he’s really digging his heels in on something that is a non factor.
I remember my aunt used to pick my siblings and myself up and host us (in addition to her kids) at her house she shared with her husband. She probably didn’t consult him and simply saw kids who needed time, affection, and a bit of fun.
Guess where my uncle was…..I’d see him for a good two minutes then he’d bounce. Whatever. I didn’t care as long as one person did.
If you have no control of when then kid comes over, for how long, then it’s justified to take some of the control over your environment by doing what suits YOU as long as you’re not neglecting or abusing the kid.
His daughter wasn’t neglected because he was there (helicopter parenting) and he should have been doing the work to keep her entertained (because he chose to keep her at home during his summer visits knowing good n well y’all both work) or hired someone vs expecting you to do it all day multiple days a week.
carmen_b
08-09-2022, 11:05 AM
^ Oh it wasn’t something he mentioned at all.
He actually never DID expect that much time from me. He would ask for like 60-90 min. just once a week or something and I would end up getting mad. I think I was just perpetually on edge during summer because I just am not used to seeing kids allowed to linger around the house ( as you can see from my posts we did NOT grow up that way ).
I am used to focused work roughly 9 - 5 !
It’s more for me ( leaving the house ).
I HATE a non-focused vibe during 9am to 5pm!
He also has the day off .
I don’t have today off.
I want an actual work environment .
I’m fighting the urge to just not come back until the house is the way I want !
Ha. Currently I plan to come back at 5 though.
carmen_b
08-09-2022, 11:07 AM
I also asked him if he planned to have either day as our “ usual “ 9-10 pm duration to ourselves.
He said he will try to lead at least one day that direction.
I guess that’s probably my most hated thing about a house guest.
The day drags and then at 8:45-9 pm we STILL are not solo.
If he will work with me ( one day is fine ) , I’ll be happy with that.
Aurora_Sunset
08-09-2022, 12:51 PM
carmen, I honestly don't get why he's so upset about you being upstairs with the door closed during your WORK hours. Sure, you could've rented an office space, but you shouldn't have to. What's the difference in you being gone at an office 9-5 or creating an undisturbed "office space" upstairs 9-5? Either way, you were marking yourself "unavailable" during work hours. I would think that he'd understand that "working from home" doesn't mean being available 24/7 from home, since he works remotely too, doesn't he? I don't get why it's such a big deal for you to protect your work zone.
carmen_b
08-09-2022, 12:53 PM
Shhhhhh The BIG secret though is that I actually CAN pull off working like 30-32 hours haha.
I just don't want to give any of those hours and I know it's probably super picky. It's just MY time. If I have a couple hours to spare I can spend it on self care or going and finding things to do around town. That is my secret haha.
Ugh. I guess the school thing tomorrow is actually only two hours ? Wtf. I thought tomorrow was day #1 of the garage sound at 8:05 and an empty house until 3:15 ( well empty if he didn't approve a house guest lol ) ! I was dreaming of the garage sound opening at 8:05 tomorrow ugh !
^ I think at some level he knows that I don't always use the full 8 hours haha BUT I just am not offering anything in that range .
That time is FOR SALE only ( venmo, card, or CASH always works ).
smeca
08-09-2022, 12:58 PM
So I suggested going to the beach this weekend with bf's daughter while he works- she wont want to walk for long in the forest and I don't want to go to a 'family fun zone' swim session at the pool lol, so we get to swim in the sea (and keep cool!) and do whatever else. He thought it was very sweet. He said I'm quite good with her, we get on but i call out her bs... I just thought I stay uninvolved and occasionally snap a little when i get too annoyed D: So weird how different our perspectives are.
carmen_b
08-09-2022, 01:00 PM
There is just something about it that he finds triggering.
I had a bad attitude though ( he claimed I would come downstairs to get a drink or food and " glare " at them ) .
^ At times I probably did honestly. It wasn't really any intentional bad vibes. I think it was just that I had a VERY strong preference that she be out of the house 4-5 hours M - F . I wasn't even expecting 7 hours like school . I thought my anger level was more internal but I guess it was noticeable . It just seemed safer to not EVER have a work day where she is lingering around because I hate it ( this will apply to any random days off of school too ).
I actually don't mind the office. It is probably GOOD at times for me to leave the house .
I am having some mental health issues and they tend to get even worse if I don't shake up my environment a little.
Everything is maintained and managed. I DO need to be actively on top of it ( therapy + work outs + self care ) .
I think I just REALLY need to do some thinking again about the subject. I'm questioning the relationship somewhat currently but I still actively LOVE him if that makes sense. I just don't like the lifestyle we had over the summer and it brought me down a lot. I was SUPER spoiled I realized from the 8 months or so prior always having Mon - Wed. with her ! Those were ALL school days . Then we had two Sundays ( only 2 actual full days of her being there ). It just felt so easy. Summer felt SO hard.
I remember my friend V keeping her condo for 5 years ( dude with kids ) and I was like " wow that is so expensive " .
Now I'm just like " Wow V is fucking brilliant. I had no idea she was my smartest friend ! "
I think she waited or something until they were OUT . It reminds me . I'll have to ask her about it.
carmen, I honestly don't get why he's so upset about you being upstairs with the door closed during your WORK hours. Sure, you could've rented an office space, but you shouldn't have to. What's the difference in you being gone at an office 9-5 or creating an undisturbed "office space" upstairs 9-5? Either way, you were marking yourself "unavailable" during work hours. I would think that he'd understand that "working from home" doesn't mean being available 24/7 from home, since he works remotely too, doesn't he? I don't get why it's such a big deal for you to protect your work zone.
carmen_b
08-09-2022, 01:07 PM
He can get away at times with working like a 5-6 hours a day .
I do get jealous sometimes ( high salary plus he can delegate things out to the point people don't know he's missing ) !
It kind of sucks at times to watch but then ..... it is so beneficial at times also !
I think I would say there is a *touch* of jealousy that crops up because he rarely uses this flex on a day he has entirely with ME.
Having a ton of flex ....... it's more rare on my days .
:/
I think it will keep the peace to just have me gone ( then I'm not judging what he is doing ha ) until 5 today.
Then tomorrow I'll do the same 10-5.
carmen_b
08-09-2022, 01:17 PM
That's nice of you !
So I suggested going to the beach this weekend with bf's daughter while he works- she wont want to walk for long in the forest and I don't want to go to a 'family fun zone' swim session at the pool lol, so we get to swim in the sea (and keep cool!) and do whatever else. He thought it was very sweet. He said I'm quite good with her, we get on but i call out her bs... I just thought I stay uninvolved and occasionally snap a little when i get too annoyed D: So weird how different our perspectives are.
carmen_b
08-09-2022, 01:25 PM
So .... in closing of this novella ..... ha ........... Thursday is the first REAL day of school. Ugh.
carmen_b
08-09-2022, 02:25 PM
The AirBnB is open today and tomorrow.
I am not going to say I didn’t glance at the calendar.
It’s comforting to know it’s there in case I need it . :)
I know I wrote so much haha and I'll probably delete at least half of it.
Today was ...... fine ....... I guess lol !
I returned at 5 and then we went somewhere to eat.
He had me drive by his ex's place to bring in this box or something ( I guess the daughter got a snake and supplies were in the box ) .
No...... don't ever ask me to do that again . I'm NOT comfy with going between the houses to take care of anything .
But .... in the moment with us all ready to leave for dinner I wasn't going to mention it *in* that exact moment.
Dinner went ok .
We actually did get a chance to snuggle and watch our show ( early at 8p.m.)! It seemed like his sister was doing the usual extensive routine ....but then.... no ..... not really. They were BOTH waiting for him at 9p.m. to watch something. I assumed his daughter would be in bed after our show ended. Dude..... bedtime is 8:30 wtf . BUT I was not going to argue since I hadn't seen him in forever and he *did* work with me on what I hate the VERY most about having someone over here.
Well ..... I have a massage tomorrow at 11a.m.
Then a Walmart pick up with my AirBnB restocks.
I will be over at the empty AirBnb " doing my errands " from 1 -6 p.m. most likely ha !
I guess I'll just see how it goes. I'll go if invited anywhere interesting tomorrow I guess ?
In a way I feel completely hurt that it was just one thing after another and then he did the icing of a house guest. :/
BUT ..... I know that I can't say no entirely to house guests. I just wish the timing would be been different.
He is being sweet and since we only have the two days solo together ( 12th and 13th ) I got a hint she was shopping for some show tickets the 12th and the 13th he said we will do pretty much whatever I want.
I do see an effort being made which I appreciate.
miss.a.p1600
08-10-2022, 06:15 AM
That’s great he’s making an effort to be more considerate of your needs as well.
Someone please tell me why tf —- as I’m dozing off to sleep —— this mf is like “oh Rasputia next door neighbors house got shot up and a bullet went through the house with the kids”
You tell me this fuck shit while I’m trying to get my rest?!?
First of all, this conversation is the wrong timing
Secondly, I could give a fuck because your dusty ass ex wife CHOSE to live in that neighborhood knowing what kind of clientele it brings. This bitch is from the hood, lived in the hood her whole life, and aYou chose to impregnate a a hood bitch who is comfortable in the hood.
And finally if you want to rescue your ghetto “queen” and her hoodgrown offspring (because you feel sorry for them and guilty about divorcing) then go right ahead. Go back to Rasputia, do her job for her, run around like a chicken with your head cut off trying to be a full time dad to the point you have no drive no hustle and will forever be at your same job, with your day 1 hood bitch, living the hood life with her.
I’ll be moving to greener pastures and won’t have to deal with any of y’all’s constant hood crisis.
miss.a.p1600
08-10-2022, 08:20 AM
carmen, I honestly don't get why he's so upset about you being upstairs with the door closed during your WORK hours. Sure, you could've rented an office space, but you shouldn't have to. What's the difference in you being gone at an office 9-5 or creating an undisturbed "office space" upstairs 9-5? Either way, you were marking yourself "unavailable" during work hours. I would think that he'd understand that "working from home" doesn't mean being available 24/7 from home, since he works remotely too, doesn't he? I don't get why it's such a big deal for you to protect your work zone.
Agreed 100%
The problem most likely is men are results oriented. If ya said Mon-Wed 9 to 5 is what you set as your workday then if you didn’t have 20 clients booked or if he didn’t hear you making calls or if you didn’t brag about your numbers that day he probably assumed you were just in the room tiktoking or whatever whilst avoiding his daughter.
That’s probably why he made a huge deal out of this.
But regardless I think if you’re in the room with the door closed 90% of the time his daughter is there then that should be your prerogative.
If he wanted ‘bonding time’ he can work with you on setting a planned opportunity for it each week.
Anyhow I know your moving forward and hope he makes step-mommimg more easier for you
carmen_b
08-10-2022, 08:48 AM
^ Yes, currently the 9-5 M - F range isn't really up for discussion.
That's MY time.
I will give him an hour to work out though in that time ( it's only an hour ).
Even that though I don't entirely agree with. His daughter is almost 10 so I think she should start learning it's ok to be home for an hour ( or two 30 minute chunks if he wants to jog and check on her at a mid point ). I don't think someone else *needs* to be here but I'll still do the work out hour if he wants it.
Certainly ..... I can be tempted by a *very* interesting activity of some sort ( and then make up a few hours on the weekend ) but that time will not be given for just chit chatting around the house.
It's a FIRM boundary for me and he needs to accept it.
Since I work in full commission sales my mind has to kind of be " on " and in the flow to answer my phone and try to SELL when it's the right timing for it.
I feel like I'm finally out of this schedule slog too. :)
The time we have to ourselves is finally IN view ( starting Friday ) !
Today I'll work from my AirBnB Noon to 4:30 .
I talked to my Mom too and she was like " well imagine if you had a store front " .
I'd have to keep the doors open during the hours people expect ( duh ).
I think his offense to the situation is something he just needs to get over in his own mind.
Just because HE want's to multi-task it doesn't mean that I do. I think we are turning a corner on it !
carmen_b
08-10-2022, 08:51 AM
I told him the same. Set aside a 2-3 hour chunk anytime outside of my business hours and I'll make it happen !
Agreed 100%
If he wanted ‘bonding time’ he can work with you on setting a planned opportunity for it each week.
carmen_b
08-10-2022, 08:52 AM
I don't do TikTok. It's FaceBook and Stripper web haha.
he probably assumed you were just in the room tiktoking or whatever whilst avoiding his daughter.
carmen_b
08-10-2022, 08:53 AM
^ I think you are right too about your thing.
L shouldn't have even mentioned it because what are you going to do ..... be like " oh they might not be SAFE so lets them move them ALL in with us " hahaha .
carmen_b
08-10-2022, 08:54 AM
I'm not sure about J's private piloting thing. It's SO expensive ( absurdly ) ha.
It does get him / everyone out of the house though !
That is where they are now !
miss.a.p1600
08-10-2022, 09:09 AM
okay so I had a discussion with him - on a better time - and he asked her “what are YOU going to do”
Good. Hold Rasputia accountable for HER actions.
Again L you chose to impregnate a hood bitch so this is the hood life you and her signed those kids up for. Not my problem to solve. Let that bitch figure out how to do better so those kids can have better.
All he can to is pay the insurance premiums, “rescue” them only during his parenting time (aka off days only), and say some prayers.
I’m still planning for my plan b options so I can dip out the moment they try push L into doing full custody.
That’s great he’s making an effort to be more considerate of your needs as well.
Someone please tell me why tf —- as I’m dozing off to sleep —— this mf is like “oh Rasputia next door neighbors house got shot up and a bullet went through the house with the kids”
You tell me this fuck shit while I’m trying to get my rest?!?
First of all, this conversation is the wrong timing
Secondly, I could give a fuck because your dusty ass ex wife CHOSE to live in that neighborhood knowing what kind of clientele it brings. This bitch is from the hood, lived in the hood her whole life, and aYou chose to impregnate a a hood bitch who is comfortable in the hood.
And finally if you want to rescue your ghetto “queen” and her hoodgrown offspring (because you feel sorry for them and guilty about divorcing) then go right ahead. Go back to Rasputia, do her job for her, run around like a chicken with your head cut off trying to be a full time dad to the point you have no drive no hustle and will forever be at your same job, with your day 1 hood bitch, living the hood life with her.
I’ll be moving to greener pastures and won’t have to deal with any of y’all’s constant hood crisis.
miss.a.p1600
08-10-2022, 09:12 AM
^ I think you are right too about your thing.
L shouldn't have even mentioned it because what are you going to do ..... be like " oh they might not be SAFE so lets them move them ALL in with us " hahaha .
Exactly. He brings these problems to me like I’m his mom and I’m going to rescue them both. What pisses me off the most is his timing. He is notorious for bringing heavy conversations at the worst times. Like saying he wanted custody of his son while we were on a romantic date, telling me about Rasputia’s hood sagas while I’m about to fall asleep and want to have good thoughts, or bill payments in front of the kids. Just inappropriate!!
And Rasputia’s crisis are not my problems to worry about. I’m not going to stress myself every other week about some obligations that aren’t mine and problems I didn’t chose to create.
He probably was hoping I’d say that. I’m going to offer they move in with him full time right as I’m moving OUT and into my own place.
carmen_b
08-10-2022, 09:18 AM
^ I wouldn't even engage in conversation about this topic.
Try to keep him sticking to the PROMOTION topic at work haha.
miss.a.p1600
08-10-2022, 09:27 AM
^ I wouldn't even engage in conversation about this topic.
Try to keep him sticking to the PROMOTION topic at work haha.
Agreed.
Last night when he brought it up I ignored him the first time to prove a point that “I am sleeping so don’t disturb me with this mess”
Then he said it again “Did you hear me? The kids house got shot up”
I was like “oh for real! Damn!” …. And drifted off to sleep
I brought it up today to make it seem like I care (I mean I hope they don’t get hurt but it is what it is - hood ex wife living the hood life that she and those kids are used to)
And when he started talking about it I just put the phone down and didn’t engage too much in that topic.
Then just as you mention, the topic was changed to his career and us moving as well. He agreed if he can’t find higher paying local jobs he will travel. He should just go ahead and travel while the employer is willing to pay him and the position is open.
anyways I do have to secure my move out options because it’s only a matter of time before he hammers me about taking in his kids full time. Something I am absolutely against but if he wants to have kids hanging all over him and run a daddy day care he needs to do that on his own or with a woman who is cool with that.
Ls baggage is becoming a liability especially if he’s not taking these higher paying jobs
miss.a.p1600
08-10-2022, 12:58 PM
Asshole hasnt given me his work schedule so not only do I have no clue when he is coming and leaving this house I have no clue about his kids coming and leaving either.
This i think is on purpose to get me back for isolating from him and his kids so I didn’t catch COVID
He randomly showed up at the house while I was napping and scared the fuck out of me. Said he decided to come to the house in the middle of the day because he had to leave work and pick up his son and take him back to berthas house. Guess he’s doing solo carpool in addition to all the other crap Bertha has him out here doing. Whatever don’t dare ask me to do any school carpools. And stop randomly popping up at this house when you have no purpose to be here. GIVE ME SOME FUCKING PEACE YOU OVERBEARING SMOTHERING ASSHOLE!
I think he is being nasty.
carmen_b
08-10-2022, 02:21 PM
^ :)
Nasty ! hahaha
miss.a.p1600
08-10-2022, 02:23 PM
^he finally gave me his work schedule
Keep playing mf! You’ll find yourself sexless for another 2 weeks.
carmen_b
08-10-2022, 02:24 PM
^ I don't know.
He's just addicted to disorganization or something.
No one seems to quite figure out what it is.
Well we are surviving here.
I'm chilling at the quiet AirBnb until at least 4 p.m. haha and then I think we have dinner and movie.
We can live through that !
That'll get us through two days.
What the hell though is going on tomorrow ? Is this sister going to be around all damn day lol ?
I'd like some time with my dude please now that the first school day ( for real ) is finally in session .
I'm so scared. My dog is going to the vet and they might have to take a few teeth out tomorrow.
I guess I shouldn't be worried about the house and if it's empty. I'll be terrified from the time I drop him until his pick up.
miss.a.p1600
08-10-2022, 02:27 PM
^He’s never attended schools / worked jobs / dealt with professional women where he had to be accountable, organized, plan, etc.
Then when I tell him planning is better for everyone (at least for me aka the queen of the household and the person who takes care of your needs if you act right) he doubles down and does it his sloppy inefficient disorganized random spontaneous way.
Fucking ridiculous!
Awww hope your doggie is okay
miss.a.p1600
08-10-2022, 02:43 PM
Quiet Airbnb for a few hours sounds delightful
carmen_b
08-10-2022, 07:15 PM
So ..... picture a guitar acoustic style and slow ( campfire style ) .
I wrote a song .........
" Summer is over it's a beautiful thing.
Hear that school bell .... hear that school bell ring.
Their out of the house!
Their off the couch !
It's a miracle that summer is ovveerrr ! "
I hope you all enjoyed.
Orginal song and music by Carmen
miss.a.p1600
08-10-2022, 07:54 PM
Haha….. love it!
Here is my rap song
(Cue gratuitous ass shaking and heavy bass music)
Yo L,
Ya ex wife is no good
Wtf was your dumb ass thinking, knocking up a bitch from the hood
You could drop that zero
And if you get your money right, you’ll be my hero
But You got hella baggage
And you know what?! Bertha can have this
I ain’t ya momma
You wont get a free ride from me, I’m bout those commas
So you want to be a full time dad?
Whatever boy, come get your baggage cause I ain’t dealing with all those kids who are bad
Try to stick me with YOUR obligations
Shit! Fuck that. The only sex you deserve is masturbation.
Now L, get down on your knees
Worship this pussy and say “pretty please”
I might let you have a taste
But ALL the bills, you’ve gotta pay!
You got child support.
Well that sucks now give me double or I’ll see you in court.
Give me what I want
Or I’ll turn into a mega cunt
I won’t argue, I won’t fuss
I’ll simply leave your ass in the dust.
miss.a.p1600
08-10-2022, 10:41 PM
So right before sex, L thought it was a good idea to bring up how “terrified” his kids are being at Berthas, how they’ve “barely” been over here, etc all in effort to guilt me into having them here / entertaining them on Saturday while he’s at work.
He is off Friday, and Sunday so his plan is to pick them up Friday after school and take them back Sunday night so they can get 3 days over here n don’t have to be “shuffled around”
Well take off work Saturday then!!!! Shit. Or compensate me for the work/effort.
Or here’s an idea, go hang out with them after work Friday. Then wait until until you are off work on Saturday evening to pick them up. Wtf. How hard is this? Why are you inconveniencing me because you work that day and Bertha/those kids live in the hood
He was like “I want to see them!” ….. and how are you going to SEE them when you will be at work on Saturday unless you bring them to your job? And I don’t want to see them until your parenting time begins (when you are OFF WORK) not one day sooner.
I don’t care if you missed your weekend last two weeks bc corona hit. Stop trying to triple up and quadruple up at my expense.
Look, it must be tough knowing your ex wife lives deep in the hood. But that is the life she chose and it is NOT my problem. She can use her next paycheck to MOVE to a more appropriate living condition.
Plus Bertha flat out said “I do not want that woman around my kids” …. Well bitch your wish is my command!
carmen_b
08-11-2022, 10:17 AM
^ Give the Big Berth what she wants and enjoy your Sat. !
carmen_b
08-11-2022, 10:18 AM
Right now I'm phasing myself back in slowly ha.
We had three days and I set aside a couple hours each day the last two.
Then tonight we will probably all do dinner or something.
GUESS WHAT is going on right now ?
Did you guess IT ?
ME WORKING FROM HOME in silence !!!!
After my Montana trip I'm up for some longer durations .
Now that school is back in session it will help my burn out.
I think my friend thought I was kidding when I said I'll be at the recreation center in January holding my credit card out for summer sign ups.
miss.a.p1600
08-11-2022, 11:21 AM
^ Give the Big Berth what she wants and enjoy your Sat. !
LOL @ Big Berth. I’m going to have to add that to her name in the temporary Rolodex
As a compromise of not having them here all 3 days and slowly losing my shit. I agreed that if Big Berth does the work of transporting them to this house I will enjoy my Saturday Morning but come back at 3pm and give them 3.5 hours here while L is at work.
This should work for everyone as the kids get at least 24 hours, I don’t have to have the full obligation while he’s at work, L doesn’t have to immediately after work run to the hood and cater to those kids and Berth only (my needs count too), and Big B gets a couple hours break Saturday if SHE does the leg work.
I think he is being nasty by constantly asking me to host them while he’s at work. Then getting pissy if I say ‘take off work that day’ or say no.
i will give 3.5 hours not an entire day.
carmen_b
08-11-2022, 11:24 AM
^ I think that is pretty fair.
I'm currently only comfy with about 2 hours alone but I'm still in the summer burn out thing definitely.
miss.a.p1600
08-11-2022, 11:25 AM
Right now I'm phasing myself back in slowly ha.
We had three days and I set aside a couple hours each day the last two.
Then tonight we will probably all do dinner or something.
GUESS WHAT is going on right now ?
Did you guess IT ?
ME WORKING FROM HOME in silence !!!!
After my Montana trip I'm up for some longer durations .
Now that school is back in session it will help my burn out.
I think my friend thought I was kidding when I said I'll be at the recreation center in January holding my credit card out for summer sign ups.
‘yes! I’m glad school is in session too because now these dudes HAVE to have boundaries and can’t press their sloppy summer agendas
Ls kids HAVE to go back Sunday night and can’t last minute add extra time before or after the original planned time.
Get ready to Bounce when those damn long ass holiday breaks hit. I’m going to plan some solo events away since I already know this house is the new holding cell for those kids and I want a break sans kids every so often.
miss.a.p1600
08-11-2022, 11:31 AM
^ I think that is pretty fair.
I'm currently only comfy with about 2 hours alone but I'm still in the summer burn out thing definitely.
GIRL I cried a little inside when his 2 week isolation was up.
let me know how burned out I was also of his constant cling factor. Even worse when mf is clinging with their needy equally clingy kids.
I feel ya on the burnout
carmen_b
08-11-2022, 05:40 PM
In a way I feel like it's amazing my relationship is still standing.
We had three days with his kid here, then the 5 days he traveled alone, then three days with his kid here.
We FINALLY have two days to ourselves tomorrow.
I'm not going to lie ..... it has been ROUGH ( just feeling sheer frustration over being restricted for time ) .
carmen_b
08-11-2022, 05:53 PM
Omg ..... I need to talk to him about some of these travel ideas.
I am considering reducing my Montana trip to 16-21 or so instead.
I was planning roughly Aug. 14-21.
:/
Ugh. I really don't want to mess with it . There were some reasons I was departing the 14th. I can land 2 hours south of the AirBnB my family is staying at and someone in a car will be RIGHT THERE at that time moving North already . I wouldn't feel right asking them to back track on the 16th so I'd have to take a bus for 2-3 hours haha. I'm torn. I know we are super restricted for time but I'm not sure I want to mess with it.
miss.a.p1600
08-11-2022, 07:59 PM
I feel like the wall is closing in and it’s just a matter of time before I have to leave. It’s like his kids are pushy as fuck and he doesn’t bother to check them.
He stupidly tells them his off days. Then plays games with them and beats around the bush making them beg and ask constantly.
And his kids are expecting to stay at this house even when he is not here and at work all day. I would leave but I don’t want them roaming all over my house doing whatever and using up my resources and setting the expectation that those kids come here when L is not here.
He brought up today “my son was like ‘I’m coming over Friday and I’m leaving Monday” …… um the hell you are! You don’t run this house I do. And, Bring some electricity money when you do come because I’ll be damned you keep touching my thermostat.
I am so glad my therapist said “if his goal is to spend time with them, he not spending time with them when he’s at work all day is he?” I threw that point up right in his face and shut him up real quick.
I also have a news flash for you. Your son is more concerned with gaming 24/7 and getting a break from crazy Bertha than he is with seeing you.
Im tired of having this battle with him, his ex wife and his kids. How hard is it to send the kids to Berthas family when she needs a break and he is at work???
carmen_b
08-11-2022, 08:17 PM
^ You are catching the son.
I bet Bertha doesn’t let him laze as much. It’s probably why he wants your place constantly .
I’d kill the WiFi or something or limit gaming to an hour.
I say that but then he’d probably be annoying and I’d end up giving it all back ha !
L just doesn’t seem willing to work with you.
Can’t he just do his two days then a bonus third day somewhere else ? :/