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miss.a.p1600
08-24-2022, 10:15 AM
^ He can barely handle the time he has.
Take the two days (+ sometimes a bonus Fri ) and leave it alone !

This fool is trying to get him to live with us for a month so he can get along better with his mom.

So because Bertha can’t take care of her kid I have to?

Fuck them ALL.

IM leaving and he can be a full time divorced dad ……. SINGLE!!!!

Im giving him an ultimatum. Higher paying job accepted in one month or less or Im gone. I’m not going to constantly be harassed by him and his baggage

carmen_b
08-24-2022, 10:15 AM
^ Oh .... parks and other canned " family fun " stuff can be HARD !
Good for you for getting through it.
I'm totally type A and if we did it we would pull her out of school a day and line up to be the first people in hahahaha.
I wouldn't even consider it on a weekend ( I don't even like restaurants at normal hours due to crowding ).

smeca
08-24-2022, 10:40 AM
^she was no problem, so apparently kids patience extends to things they think they really really want lol. The time/travel to fun ratio is just abysmal. We are still in the car! I'm usually kinda chill but I am upset I will never get this day/evening back lol

miss.a.p1600
08-24-2022, 11:28 AM
Just told L if he want his kids to have a full time dad he can go back to live with Bertha.

That didn’t go too well.

Oof!

Shouldn’t have brought his baggage then assumed the only solution was him living with us.

L isn’t going to compensate me for dealing with his kid so why tf would I want to deal with his kid?

NO and NO!!!!!

carmen_b
08-24-2022, 12:57 PM
^ I would leave my partner too if he took any more time.

It is just a reality for me. I am often unhappy on the 3rd or 4th day she is here so I just happen to know that for me PERSONALLY I couldn't do any more than 50% . It's sustainable *now* because he gives me that option always to take a day to myself every visit. It's actually supposed to be 14 days a month but I noticed ( I can count ! ) that it's often 15 anyway and I haven't said anything about it .

miss.a.p1600
08-24-2022, 05:19 PM
^Idk what his problem is constantly testing my boundaries under the ruse of “I want my son to stay longer” “I want custody of my son”

Look first you said your ex wife was leaving town with those kids

Then a month later the bitch is back and now the custody is every weekend with a VERY SLOPPY summer schedule.

Now it’s custody of your son for a month.

Something is REALLY WRONG with him that he is acting THIS clingy with his kids and disrupting my peace via his kid custody schedule.

Gaslighting me “oh you’re upset because I simply said I want him to live with us for a month?”

No asshole Im upset with YOU and your ex wife’s NONSTOP WEEKLY childcare crisis and financial crisis. I can’t live in peace.

carmen_b
08-24-2022, 05:49 PM
^ I don't think there is really much logic to having the son there.
Maybe three days instead of the two day weekend a few weeks ? :/

carmen_b
08-24-2022, 05:49 PM
Ummmmm yes ..... having a child around with NO BREAKS is upsetting !


“oh you’re upset because I simply said I want him to live with us for a month?”

carmen_b
08-24-2022, 05:58 PM
I think we are really TRYING .

I made some cookies this morning ( I did something for the house ha ! ) and set aside about 2:30 - 6 for them today.
We had planned to go over 35 min. away for a flight lesson but the wind grounded us. We went to a hibachi place. So yummy.

I'm feeling positive towards him I would say. :)
I think he missed me when I was gone because coming back he seemed SUPER on the ball.
Planning things for THIS weekend and the NEXT . I wonder if he had some of these same stressed vibes of " can we really make it ?". I was nervous during my travel. I am realizing he may have gotten nervous too.

MEN ..... he is hinting around for sexy time earlier and it's like ..... I set aside 3.5 hours for you haha !
2:30 - 6 ! Pick and choose your time. If you wanted sexy times don't hint that I should keep a multi hour window open for family stuff.

carmen_b
08-24-2022, 06:03 PM
I will say one thing I observed from last night though. I think movies on a school night are really stupid idea.
I think they were up late last night ( past 8:30 ) because of this decision to watch a movie. DON'T do that.
Just watch two smaller shows 7-8p.m. !

miss.a.p1600
08-24-2022, 08:16 PM
^ I don't think there is really much logic to having the son there.
Maybe three days instead of the two day weekend a few weeks ? :/



Thank you for helping me see some sort of compromise that will help him with his weird full time dad obsession while keeping my sanity and savings in tact. Although I’m pretty much past my limit of fuckery I want to tolerate.

He pretty much stone walled me after I didn’t give his idea the warm welcoming response he was looking for. My world doesn’t revolve around those kids like his does.

There was ZERO logic besides his little “oh a boy needs his father” - I halfway think his son or his ex wife is manipulating L into this full custody crap. And L is probably thinking he can get out of paying Bertha child support if he keeps one kid permanently and she keeps the other kid. That’s the only reason I can think of

carmen_b
08-24-2022, 08:39 PM
^ at this point it’s hard to see any logic at all in their discussions lol

chanzep
08-24-2022, 08:42 PM
I don't think you should compromise at all! 2 days is enough! He works full-time so why would the son be there in days he's working.
You have done enough for this man. Living there for a month is insulting . They are just trying to force you into it. He will never leave, after a week the daughter will probably want to come too.
Just tell him not for now your too busy at work, give him a rough time frame . Then move out before then . He thinks he's so slick forcing his kids on you. Be slick yourself and one day just move out.

carmen_b
08-24-2022, 08:42 PM
^ Great advice.

Well ... um ... I was happy.
I felt like the evening went incredibly well.
High quality time all together and an awesome meal out.

Then ... an 8:35 bedtime and J wanted to go to bed himself at 8:45.
So..... I guess saving an hour for each other in the evening is optional now ?
Feelings are hurt.
He watched 15-20 min of tv with me but only after I said something like “ well I wasn’t expecting to be ignored after 8:30 “.
I must have seen him take 5 edibles too.
Like ... of course you are tired NOW.

I wonder if it’s legitimate or if he’s retaliating for this afternoon when I didn’t have time for sexy times. I honestly didn’t have the time. My work day was cut short 9-2:30 in this attempt I was doing to not be so strict with my hours. It was an experiment .

carmen_b
08-24-2022, 09:09 PM
I’m going to start stealing them little by little ^^^^

If I can find a similar product with caffeine I’ll spike those fucking things.

I am pissed but what am I going to do? Wake him up to tell him and have this convo while his kid is here ?

miss.a.p1600
08-25-2022, 04:08 AM
I don't think you should compromise at all! 2 days is enough! He works full-time so why would the son be there in days he's working.
You have done enough for this man. Living there for a month is insulting . They are just trying to force you into it. He will never leave, after a week the daughter will probably want to come too.
Just tell him not for now your too busy at work, give him a rough time frame . Then move out before then . He thinks he's so slick forcing his kids on you. Be slick yourself and one day just move out.

Exactly! I was thinking why a month? Why would your son need to live with us for a month? I was like I already know (judging by this shitshow of a parenting schedule that a month will turn into permanent)

One of my relatives was like “girl do not help him with those kids unless he makes enough money (aka 6 figures or more) so he can pay the house bills AND your bills too”

I PRESSED tf out of him about his job, not making more, despite having plenty of time to do so. He claimed he would get a second job. Which bring me to my next point.

SoÂ…..this mf thought AGAIN that I was going to take care of his son while heÂ’s at work not just a weekend but a fucking alleged month (which would be permanent).

mf got me ALL the way fucked up.

Not my fault Bertha CHOSE to live a a trap house in the hood. Those kids are used to the hood lifeÂ…..let them be. Not my fault his bitch ass CHOSE to rack up debt with his ex wife and now has to work multiple jobs to pay the debt. If ya only have ONE day off during the weekend that one day is your parenting time. Make her pay by taking care of the kids SHE CHOSE to have.

I refuse to pay for these peoples shitty ass choices.

If Bertha is really that incompetent and needs to live child free then her monkey ass (or L) WILL pay me 2k/ month minimum child support if I help her with her kids. I’d also charge them retroactive child support for all the weekends I sacrificed dealing with their bullshit.

miss.a.p1600
08-25-2022, 04:22 AM
I’m am SO sick of L

Everytime I’m on a good note trying to get ahead, this bitch is CONSTANTLY asking about custody of his son or kids.

So your son is going to fail in life without you hovering?

You can’t fucking figure out how to take your shared weekend custody and sit tf down?

God! I want to leave this asshole faster than he can say “I want custody of those kids”

What a shocker! Your son doing just fine in school and life without your hovering and clinging like a psychotic Mr. Mom

I seriously think his dumb ass assumed “hey let’s get custody of ONE kid so I don’t have to pay her child support”

Bitch if you don’t sit down, accept your weekend custody, pay the hoe child support (or buy what those kids need equivalent to the cs monthly amount) and GET A BETTER PAYING JOB …… I will rage against you daily till living with Bertha looks like a walk in the park.

Now I see why Bertha treated him like shit. He probably convinced her to have kids she didn’t want, told her he’d help her, then went to work at a trivial ass job - living beyond his means, racking up debt, and pretending to be oblivious to how to properly provide for a family

miss.a.p1600
08-25-2022, 04:32 AM
Bitch ass sulking and arguing with me cause I said NO to the stupid idea of having one of his kids for a month - permanent

carmen_b
08-25-2022, 06:52 AM
He booked this beautiful hotel room for today ... but he did it yesterday ... it caused a little stress on my part to get coverage for my dog. I think I found a new person to try on Rover.

I need to remind him I need 3-4 days notice even for quick 1-2 day trips out of town .
I think that should be obvious though.

carmen_b
08-25-2022, 06:56 AM
Still mad about last night.

If you can’t even save an hour of time / energy for me in the evening I look at that day as very “ low quality “.

He had probably 80-100 gummies in various jars.
I moved 10 to another spot ( like 1-2 out of each container ).
I was going to just make the supply dwindle more quickly but maybe I’ll leave them alone not sure.

miss.a.p1600
08-25-2022, 07:39 AM
^good point about saving at least an hour at night for you and J

carmen_b
08-25-2022, 07:48 AM
^ It’s a convo for sure.
I just consider a day very low in quality if we don’t see each other during day ( duh we work ) then he can’t even give me like 8:45-9:45?

I watch myself carefully ( pms time ) .
I felt like I almost screamed at him last night.:/

miss.a.p1600
08-25-2022, 07:52 AM
^i did the same to L

Stayed gone all day so I could stack money but since he was petty af about me stating his idea of gaining custody of his son was a horrible idea. I barely spoke to his ass.

You sure J isn’t pissed about something?

Try to keep cool about it. But if it continues and/or bothers you then maybe say something about it then?

carmen_b
08-25-2022, 08:09 AM
^ I’m 50/50 at this point bringing it up.
It’s more on the rare side I’d say. I’d say at least 80% of the evenings kid is here he spends at least 30-45 min with me after bed ?

I think it hit a nerve because I gave a little more time ( admitted I didn’t need to work until 5). I went to school for pick up, then we wasted some time seeing if the wind would cancel his flight ( it did ) , then we did something nice for me ( plant store ), then the super nice dinner. I think his daughter is manipulating too on the nicer dinners ( but I guess I benefit *too*). That I’ll leave alone. I gave more time than typical so I did the “ right “ thing. He can’t even give me 30 minutes after bedtime ?

I haven’t decided . Demanding a “ full hour “ might look weird even though I do believe all couples should do that.

miss.a.p1600
08-25-2022, 08:31 AM
He might just be mentally drained from work and even moreso after doing the kid thing and just want to crash right afterwards

carmen_b
08-25-2022, 10:36 AM
^ Well inefficiency would be blamed for that ( a dozen moms from our street go over to that school that could take daughter one way in the morning for example for a little spending money v.s. him taking VALUABLE business hour time on it ....... 30-34 minutes round
trip EACH WAY ).

He also could quit lingering in her room after 8 p.m.
They already watch TV together 7-8.
She is almost 10 and doesn't need Dad there while she is falling asleep. It's bordering on creepy at this point .
BUT I think he might do it just to have some quiet time too ( time on his phone ).

I don't plan to bring either up BECAUSE this was the first week back for me of school and boy does it help things FLOW .
I kind of just want to celebrate week #1 and not nit pick at anything ( I don't want my partner picking at me ).
If there is a "big" battle ........ I'll fight THAT one.

miss.a.p1600
08-25-2022, 12:25 PM
^if it’s any consolation L hovers to the brink of creepy as well.

In a number of ways.

For example…

Disrupting my peace to constantly shove the idea of full time custody down my throat then acting like a like it’s so unheard of for those kids mother to actually MOTHER. Like let that lady do her job and sit down somewhere!

chanzep
08-26-2022, 12:20 AM
So he gaslights you because you don't want to be a full time mother to a child that has a mother able to look after her child!. So rude also be suggesting that you should pay half the rent what a joke!. He wants to trap you like he did Bertha into his stressful life. Your relatives are right what they said. He shouldn't even be considering marriage and more kids when he's not earning enough. Instead he expects you to be stressed out and paying for stuff.
Just do your new job and gigg work until you move . When he's talking nonsense just block him and and visualize yourself in your own place happy . It will come. When you see the end goal you won't even care about what he is saying.

miss.a.p1600
08-26-2022, 03:40 AM
Ummmmm yes ..... having a child around with NO BREAKS is upsetting !

Ikr!

And I see a difference between custody of kids that have extended family and friends, jobs, extracurriculars

Vs L’s kids which have NONE of these options no friends, no family sleepover offers, no jobs, no after school activities = clingfest HELL!!!

miss.a.p1600
08-26-2022, 04:11 AM
So he gaslights you because you don't want to be a full time mother to a child that has a mother able to look after her child!. So rude also be suggesting that you should pay half the rent what a joke!. He wants to trap you like he did Bertha into his stressful life. Your relatives are right what they said. He shouldn't even be considering marriage and more kids when he's not earning enough. Instead he expects you to be stressed out and paying for stuff.
Just do your new job and gigg work until you move . When he's talking nonsense just block him and and visualize yourself in your own place happy . It will come. When you see the end goal you won't even care about what he is saying.

Right! That’s one hell of a “hypothetical” question and to even fix his lips to say it means he probably has thought about it but said it was a “joke” so I wouldn’t rage against him

I told him upfront “I don’t do 50/50” . Mainly because I believe men will absolutely find ways to get over. Sadly many of them are male privileged entitled and they’re constantly trying to screw women then screw them over.

He’s slick. He hasn’t asked me to pay for anything except the electricities (which I agreed temporarily until he gets the higher paying job) but my gut tells me it’s only a matter of time before him or Bertha has some fake financial crisis and he thinks it’s okay to ask me to cover more for him OR he starts trying to make me pay my “50%” with my time or my pussy (not doing that either)

His life is stressful because he makes unwise financial decisions, doesnÂ’t take initiative, turns down career opportunities so he can cling to his kids/hover over Bertha/unnecessarily parent for Bertha, turns down good advice to do things his slow inefficient way, and is lacking leadership in many areas yet turns his nose down at female leadership

I flat out told him yesterday his behavior (CONSTANT child care and financial crisis) was causing me anxiety, making me feel masculine, and I was not happy.

miss.a.p1600
08-26-2022, 04:17 AM
So he gaslights you because you don't want to be a full time mother to a child that has a mother able to look after her child!. So rude also be suggesting that you should pay half the rent what a joke!. He wants to trap you like he did Bertha into his stressful life. Your relatives are right what they said. He shouldn't even be considering marriage and more kids when he's not earning enough. Instead he expects you to be stressed out and paying for stuff.
Just do your new job and gigg work until you move . When he's talking nonsense just block him and and visualize yourself in your own place happy . It will come. When you see the end goal you won't even care about what he is saying.

I also think he was trying to “shit test” me.

Bring up the fake custody he was never going to attempt to do so he could “check my devotion” to his “perfect angels” - if I said no then I’m the selfish cunt who doesn’t care about his kids.

Either that or he told Bertha he was going to take a second job and was going to have less parenting time so she wants more child support and his dumb ass idea was instead of paying her child support just take one of the kids and host them here.

Yeah idiot that lazy kid isn’t going to raise himself so either way you run it, you gone have to pay her or pay me. My fees are more expensive so it’s cheaper to pay her little cs and let her keep her kid with her.

I hope he seeks therapy.

miss.a.p1600
08-26-2022, 05:33 AM
Ls kids are going to be over all weekend.

Pray for ya girl.

Hopefully they clean up and he takes them OUT

I plan to be working, hanging out with my girlfriends, and leveling up - I’ll give those kids 1-2 hrs like y’all suggested so I don’t seem too rude about it cause it’s not their fault it’s their annoying ass parents.

Aurora_Sunset
08-26-2022, 10:43 AM
This is precisely why I'm being such a nag about the peeing the bed/wear a pullup again thing.

Since I wasn't informed until Sunday afternoon about the accident that took place Friday night, I didn't do the cleanup this weekend. My husband swore he would after I gave him shit about it on Sunday. He never did. Now, we're leaving town for almost a week, and obviously, I can't let all that stuff sit there another week, so I went to wash it today. But after sitting for a week, I've put them through the wash twice - once with white vinegar and once with detergent - and everything - the sheets, blankets, and clothes he was wearing - still absolutely reek of piss. I'm gonna try the process once more, but if it doesn't work, we're gonna have to replace everything.

So, just to wash this stuff after the accident one time, is costing me an extra $12 in laundry. That's a third of what I budget to do laundry here for an entire month. I don't need to be spending that every time they come over, trying to get this shit out. Or replacing clothes, blankets, and sheets every other week if I can't do that. Just make him wear the damn pull-up and have a conversation with him about it. I know he'll shut down if I try to do it, because he's not comfortable enough with me for that conversation. But his father should be able to have a candid talk with him about the reality of the situation and what he can try to do if he doesn't want this to happen anymore. Both his parents are so worried about making him feel "ashamed" that they won't even have an honest, (not shaming), talk with him about it.

Of course, his mother just keeps throwing meds at it, like she does with literally every behavioral problem.

miss.a.p1600
08-26-2022, 01:31 PM
^can you all try a portable waterproof cloth (on top of the sheet)? Just have to wash the cloth and not the entire bedding.

KANECH Bed Pads for Incontinence Washable – 44 x 52 Inches - Extra 5 Layer - Waterproof Pads, Reusable Bed Pads for Adult,Children,Pets https://a.co/d/g2M5tpc

Aurora_Sunset
08-26-2022, 01:35 PM
^^ I'll see if he'll buy one. Thanks!

carmen_b
08-26-2022, 02:18 PM
^ I’d step away.
It’s on your hubby to do this extra work if he won’t make kid wear pull ups ( easiest / cheapest ).
This is a handicap at this point ( your partner needs to face it and do pull ups I think ).
Bummer but bed may need replacement .

There are also these mats you can put down if you replace mattress ....

carmen_b
08-26-2022, 02:21 PM
Have you thought of a bottle by the bed ?
It sounds creepy but hear me out ... it’s possibly done out of laziness.
Offer an empty bottle on hand by bed do he doesn’t need to get up.

miss.a.p1600
08-26-2022, 05:14 PM
I think L brought a sick kid here. I should have re-uped my secret thc supply…..anyways

He claims his daughter stated she wasn’t feeling well at school and had a runny nose. I asked him what kind of medicine she needed and I expect her to sit down in her room if she is sick. If she’s all over the house I’m leaving before sunrise, wearing masks and spraying Lysol while I’m there.

Look. Mfs! If y’all don’t quit sending sick kids here……..If I get sick, y’all bitch asses WILL experience extreme unpleasantness indefinitely

chanzep
08-26-2022, 06:46 PM
She should be at home if she's sick. My friends with kids don't send them to their dad's if sick. She deffo needs to stay in bed. She could have covid or anything how selfish.
I would do the same too with Lysol etc. Gross . I don't blame you for staying out. Turn location off and ignore him.
You can't even get a relaxing weekend in that house.

miss.a.p1600
08-26-2022, 06:57 PM
She should be at home if she's sick. My friends with kids don't send them to their dad's if sick. She deffo needs to stay in bed. She could have covid or anything how selfish.
I would do the same too with Lysol etc. Gross . I don't blame you for staying out. Turn location off and ignore him.
You can't even get a relaxing weekend in that house.

Agreed.

Girl I can’t wait till I can extricate myself from this.

Pissing me off I can’t even set up my work computer in peace. Like the daughter shouldn’t be here sick and he needs to take them OUT tomorrow!! How do I politely tell him to use that gift card and take those kids out to play somewhere so I can set my work computer up?

I’m going to wake up early/leave early, pack a suitcase now, turn off location, & just get ready for my girls weekend at the gym.

Im looking forward to LADIES only fun.

kimbe
08-26-2022, 11:39 PM
T's daughter was supposed to stay with us this weekend, but unfortunately she's got covid. She's not very sick though.

carmen_b
08-27-2022, 09:13 AM
Time sure flies when you *don't* have the kid/s doesn't it lol ?

I have just had so much fun the last two days. I don't want it to end haha !
We do still have all day today too.

It definitely threw us off to only have that very limited time on the ground together the last 3 weeks.
We are making up for it.

miss.a.p1600
08-27-2022, 11:13 AM
L seemed to think waking up this am like “hey! Can my daughter stay at the house with you while I go workout with my son” was a good idea.

Then hightailed it out.

Im beyond done with him constantly pulling this crap.

I simply said no. Mainly because I planned to leave since I assume his sick kid will be there and he’s using the house as a holding cell.

I felt bad cause she looked lonely and pitiful. She should have stay at her mothers house and L shouldn’t have left her knowing she was sick.

I don’t want to get sick and since he won’t take them OUT then my only choice to avoid the pathogens is leaving.

I also said AGAIN. If those kids are sick they need to be with their mom - and included a definition of what qualifies as sick. Snot noses, coughing, sneezing, fever, etc. Then I asked him multiple times to test her for coronavirus

Bringing sick kids over to infect everyone else all because Bertha is too lazy and L is too clingy to even care about OTHER people besides themselves and yet *Im* the selfish one. Okay mfs!

miss.a.p1600
08-27-2022, 11:18 AM
Time sure flies when you *don't* have the kid/s doesn't it lol ?

I have just had so much fun the last two days. I don't want it to end haha !
We do still have all day today too.

It definitely threw us off to only have that very limited time on the ground together the last 3 weeks.
We are making up for it.

Yes! I had a good break from L’s obligations and was like *le sigh* when it was over.

miss.a.p1600
08-28-2022, 04:55 AM
If L is expecting “family time” and not getting it it’s because he is bringing this shit on himself.

My boundary being invaded again (him allowing sick kids/people here) is kind of interfering with the 1-2 hours I planned to spend with those kids.

Now I’m only in self preservation and self-care mode

smeca
08-28-2022, 07:16 AM
Are all kids so defensive? Step daughter is so quick to make sure everyone knows she didn't do it, even for things that are not a problem. Eg we give her a smaller knife and fork at dinner, but sometimes one of us gets a small knife too. If she set the table she'll launch into how it was in the wrong section in the drawer, it's not her fault we got a small knife etc. Like girl it's not an issue. I assumed it's bc some kid is always misbehaving at school or at home so they are preoccupued with finding the right person to blame so they don't get told off. But maybe she is particularly defensive?

It's tiring bc she is more bothered about not being caught/told off rather than preventing the actual consequences of a mistake eg leaving the fridge open or something.

I guess she will learn everything isnt a blame game at our house, it's pretty calm, so maybe she'll chill out.

miss.a.p1600
08-28-2022, 08:36 AM
^ they’re defensive if they think they’re gonna get in trouble.

That’s good you let her know she can relax about it so maybe she’ll actually relax and complete the task accordingly

carmen_b
08-28-2022, 08:48 AM
^ Smeca : Is she on the shy side? More shy kids are scared of " messing up " . I think that's cute. I prefer that personality type to more hyper / sloppy ect. !

carmen_b
08-28-2022, 08:49 AM
I think J might have had a " family fun " day in mind for this Sunday but he didn't tell me what times to reserve .
We get her at 12:45 and I'd like to hit yoga about 12:30 ...... then the mall ..... lunch ...... tea ....... haha .

I was thinking maybe more linking up with them about 4 ish.

I'm still in a phase where a 7 hour window ( roughly 1- 8 ) feels like a lot.

J got a lot of attention from me in the past few days and I'd like a little window to myself. : )

I also wanted to join an astronomy group out viewing starts with telescopes but the damn thing is an hour away at starts at 8:45. My body doesn't do well after about 10:45 ( around the time I'd need to be driving back ). I don't really know anyone in this group well enough to ask anyone to carpool. It was more of an attempt to get out and meet some people.

carmen_b
08-28-2022, 10:01 AM
^ He was fine with my idea to have the afternoon to myself.
:)

For tomorrow he is trying to wrangle something being done a *certain way*.
I'll come back and explain ......

He is trouble for requesting " this certain way " from last week.
Remember when we went to eat and he took edibles then fell asleep on me as a result?
Not this week buddy. You are driving yourself EVERYWHERE as a result of last week. I love driving his car BUT I'll be coming up with errands and reasons I need my own car and to meet everywhere.

While I GREATLY appreciate the romantic gesture of this weekend ( it was super romantic ) ...... I'm removing the edible and drinking option from the table during Sun - Tues. ! If another evening occurs where he wants to go to bed 10 minutes after his daughter does .... .boy will shit fly here. I'm trying to ( tactfully ) prevent that.