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miss.a.p1600
06-07-2022, 06:37 AM
And he has a stockpile of them.
I don’t trust Bertha to administer it. He won’t wear n95 and do it himself. He won’t make her go test them.
And I think some people don’t want to know the truth if it is positive and people getting more lackadaisical about it. I’ve never had it and if I can prevent it I will.
I’m just going to treat this as a positive case of cv since he won’t rule it out and they’ll have to stay at Berthas another 5 days. The bitch better not guilt him since he took on Mother’s Day, Memorial weekend extra 3 days for their son, and she will not send sick kids over here because she’s desperate for a break.
I got sick once when she sent her sick daughter and by the time I noticed she was sick it was too late then I got sick. Never again..,..
I’m just glad the kids aren’t so desperate to get away from her that they would lie about being sick. Thank goodness they’re telling the truth and can’t be treated accordingly
Take care of your damn kids Bertha!
miss.a.p1600
06-07-2022, 06:47 AM
I'm actually kind of surprised how hard it is in my area ( I'm still looking ) for the day time activity .
I just though it would be easy to google " kids day camp " or something .
I did find a 2 hour activity that was only $8 through my gym. That is a start.
For us though I really need something 4-5 hours each day M - F that we can sign up DAILY through summer ( I think 2 days in that range will also " hit " for J per week ). There are certain weeks we are not in town. We don't want to pay for " empty " days if that makes sense but I'm at the point where I'm thinking " oh lets just find one the pay whatever they want ".
‘you usually have to sign up a month or two in advance of the summer or your preferred camps will be booked full.
churches will provide a week of free camps
and so will the Y or local community centers
miss.a.p1600
06-07-2022, 07:20 AM
This Bertha bitch and her kids are annoying
What part of you could have coronavirus and I don’t want your pathogens are you not understanding?
kimbe
06-07-2022, 08:40 AM
I seriously thought T was joking when he launched the idea that his daughter should join us on the Miami vacation... :O :(
My reaction must have revealed my opinion on that very clearly as he more or less immediately thereafter killed the idea himself :thumbsup:
carmen_b
06-07-2022, 12:08 PM
^ hahaha
I've suggested a " hybrid " myself.
If he wants 5-6 days out of town with his daughter I'll make my own way there and join up for three.
I'm sure T's daughter can join you on a shorter duration adventure at some point !
carmen_b
06-07-2022, 12:09 PM
^ I would call creating a low romantic vibe by sharing a room an " un-vacation " .
I definitely wouldn't call a sexless chunk of time a vacation hahaha.
carmen_b
06-07-2022, 12:11 PM
I'm glad J didn't give me hell about requesting that covid test for his daughter today before she got here .
I have a big job next week and to " hire out " the role I'm doing would be over 1k
I do NOT want to risk that 1k hahaha. So he sent me a negative test result and I'm headed back to the house now haha.
carmen_b
06-07-2022, 02:52 PM
I gave 75 min. during business hours which I'm always scared will make my partner think I can give more haha.
^ That was a special TODAY only exception and we went for shave ice ( just me and her ) .
carmen_b
06-07-2022, 06:22 PM
I was pleased to see the AirBnB open Thursday so I booked it for myself. :)
I did find a 2 hour kids activity at my gym also. I offered to drop her there on my way to the AirBnB if he wanted 2.5 hours to himself work.
I'm very surprised J didn't book something 4-6 hours a day for each day she is here during M - F business hours but I'm finding easy to book little 2-3 hour things. I went ahead and did the sign up for a couple.
miss.a.p1600
06-08-2022, 06:04 AM
And he has a stockpile of them.
I don’t trust Bertha to administer it. He won’t wear n95 and do it himself. He won’t make her go test them.
And I think some people don’t want to know the truth if it is positive and people getting more lackadaisical about it. I’ve never had it and if I can prevent it I will.
I’m just going to treat this as a positive case of cv since he won’t rule it out and they’ll have to stay at Berthas another 5 days. The bitch better not guilt him since he took on Mother’s Day, Memorial weekend extra 3 days for their son, and she will not send sick kids over here because she’s desperate for a break.
I got sick once when she sent her sick daughter and by the time I noticed she was sick it was too late then I got sick. Never again..,..
I’m just glad the kids aren’t so desperate to get away from her that they would lie about being sick. Thank goodness they’re telling the truth and can’t be treated accordingly
Take care of your damn kids Bertha!
Well I misspoke and they’re all getting desperate and bugging the shit out of L to come to this house.
carmen_b
06-08-2022, 07:33 AM
^ Maybe they can AFTER they Covid test haha !
Or is it not his days yet ? No early arrivals !
miss.a.p1600
06-08-2022, 09:08 AM
^he has two days off today and Friday
He asked me if they could spend the day Thursday while he’s at work so he won’t have to shuffle them back and forth. I said yes initially but that was before everyone got sick and he is refusing to test them for coronavirus since they said “they’re fine”
He daughter reported symptoms on Sunday so I feel like she and her brother should stay at Berthas until Saturday.
He missed his parenting time this past weekend because his son was sick and now they’re begging and pushing him to pick them up. So instead of waiting until this weekend (when everyone is fully recovered) he wants to bring them over today for a 3+ day stretch where one of those days guaranteed they will be at this house all damn day because he will be at work.
I finally just sent him a text and said my piece ( do your parenting time OUTSIDE of this house or if you come here be prepared to live in COVID lockdown protocols aka in your room all day)
I’m tired of living on eggshells because Bertha has no chill AND his daughter has no boundaries
miss.a.p1600
06-08-2022, 09:12 AM
Do your parenting time outside of this house (since you refuse to test them and they’re probably still contagious from whatever it is they had) AND stop having me worry about getting sick from your kids because you have no backbone, Bertha has no boundaries and neither does your daughter.
Then he’s sitting here talking about how he has to deal with Bertha for another 10 years. Um not me , YOU chose to procreate with that.
Keep playing and letting that Bertha bitch and those kids run this house…….I’ll leave all of your asses in the dust.
kimbe
06-08-2022, 09:55 AM
I'm sure T's daughter can join you on a shorter duration adventure at some point !
The fact is that T is just staying the weekend, while I extend it towards the next weekend (same as last time due to his job). If his suggestion had been that she would go back with him, I wouldn’t have been as negative as I was, but the way he put it made me think he wanted her to stay and go back with me..
carmen_b
06-08-2022, 12:28 PM
^ I probably wouldn't dig that either. After J left I would need / want time to myself. :)
I'm kind of a time to myself hoarder though and unapologetic about it .
carmen_b
06-08-2022, 12:31 PM
J is good in meeting my requests.
They were small ( in my opinion ).
I just wanted notice if anyone comes to the house.
I guess his daughter has a friend coming over to the house from 1:30 - 5:30 . He told me a good 4-5 hours ahead.
Why does SHE never leave and go to a friends for 4 hours .......well ..... that is the question of the day for sure.
That said , happy scheduling overall. I booked myself a massage nearby at 2:30. By the time I drive it'll kill the entire 2-4 p.m. duration. I will find myself something else to do until the extra person / noise leaves.
I'm not going to apologize for these requests. I would prefer a completely quiet work space M - F 9-5 but simply letting me know ahead of time is definitely good enough. I would *prefer* 24 hours notice which would allow me to plan better but knowing ahead is good enough.
carmen_b
06-08-2022, 12:36 PM
I would REALLY like to get him on board with the idea of RECIPROCATION for play dates before the rest of the summer becomes excessive. It's probably not something I can *demand* per say but bad etiquette really gets to me.
I'd prefer an " even " tally ! Your kid comes here for 4 hours ? Ours will come to your place that same duration next week. Let us know the time and she will be there !
miss.a.p1600
06-08-2022, 08:00 PM
Update.
Thank heavens he delayed their landing at this house for a day. He did go by and visit with them.
He’s also taking off work tomorrow so I won’t be forced into watching over them an entire 8 hours on top of the unnecessarily long weekend stay for them.
I’ve watched this bih kids when they’re sick, when it’s HER mothers day, extra two days on memorial, and had to argue like hell with L to let his ex wife plan childcare at their grandmothers. I don’t give a flying fuck how much time you want to spend with your crumbsnatchers but it’s not always appropriate to host them at this house. (Like if they’re sick)
carmen_b
06-08-2022, 08:03 PM
^ It really seems like you don't enjoy watching them so I would probably stick to your guns and only do so for 1-2 hours a week.
If he needs more babysitting than that ? Hire someone !
It's really good that he listened to you and is respecting your boundaries.
It is just one of those things that could be making him mad but if you DON'T put your foot down ...... you end up angry.
carmen_b
06-08-2022, 08:06 PM
I'm feeling down again and I should probably get going with the therapy thing again. Ugh.
I just stopped going after two sessions last time.
I just feel so blah today. Like ..... this is an EASY week and I feel like I'm struggling .
I leave on the third day she is visiting ( tomorrow ) to check into the empty AirBnB at Noon.
I described this sensation to another group I am in.
It just seems like my quality of life during his daughters visits is not high ( I'd rate it a 5-6 ).
Then when she isn't here it's always very high ( a 8 - 10 ) .
SO ..... what exactly does one DO with that information ?
I think my anger about the non-reciprocal play date plan grew and I might have to discuss this sooner than I expected.
I was going to try to leave it alone a week or two. :/
miss.a.p1600
06-08-2022, 08:11 PM
^ It really seems like you don't enjoy watching them so I would probably stick to your guns and only do so for no more than 1-2 hours a week.
If he needs more babysitting than that ? Hire someone !
It's really good that he listened to you and is respecting your boundaries.
Its not them persay be me and how I get wrapped up in being this perfect domestic goddess but since he barely Supports that (by taking his sweet ass time to earn more money) then I feel like I’m only doing domestic work when it suits me.
If he’d earn more and compensate me adequately then I wouldn’t have a problem accommodating his request.
I am glad he respected my boundaries today. I know it was hard and he feels guilty his kids are doing nothing but hanging out at Berthas house while she works. Well Bertha or him should have signed them up for day camps.
if ya sick, stay where you belong! With Bertha!
carmen_b
06-08-2022, 08:16 PM
^ It also seems like they might be a *touch* on the border of the older one not being quite ready to babysit the younger one ?
I could be a little off and I'm usually all for kids getting to those independent phases as fast as possible but they don't seem totally ok alone for some reason to me. I'm sure they ARE if they figured they could do it though.
I guess I feel kind of like you describe at times as well. Maybe the ex's alimony bothers me more than I let on sometimes haha. :/
Like .... I know even with ALL our nice dates and things I cost less which is weird.
It makes me sad he doesn't give me THAT big allowance and if he did I probably wouldn't be such a crazy person about protecting my business hours. I've always been a BIG " I want to keep working person " but I think it's in part because I have never actually had the option fully !
miss.a.p1600
06-09-2022, 07:01 AM
^The older one can babysit. I guess I don’t want them thinking they can stay in this house ANYTIME their dad isn’t here. Like I don’t want them hassling to come over anytime they want to get away from Bertha (which is probably every other day). I feel like the privilege of being alone in this house is for bill paying income earning individuals. I feel like Bertha should connect with her kids more and help raise them better and they should only come over when he is off work.
If I want to go above and beyond then I’ll volunteer but only if people are not sick.
His daughter threw a tantrum and didn’t understand (or didn’t want to understand) that people get sick and plans change. So she started crying and running guilt trips. I blame Bertha for making it so unbearable that her kids are annoying as shit with no boundaries either.
Well I’ll make it up to them for feeling like they have to wait to sleep over their fathers because of my reservations about sick people coming in here. it’s not their fault it’s their stupid ass parents.
miss.a.p1600
06-09-2022, 07:46 AM
Well Carmen the only thing I can think is maybe he’s waiting until the financial obligations with her are over then he can have a bigger chunk to share with you.
Outside of having a similar setup as she did (marriage, kid, etc) then it might be a slight waiting game (until his income increases or his expenses paid out to his ex wife decrease)
Are you okay waiting another few years for his money to free up a bit?
I question this myself. Do I want to wait another damn decade (much longer than you guys set up) for this man to have more disposable income for me.
carmen_b
06-09-2022, 08:40 AM
** PLEASE DON'T QUOTE AS SOME OF THIS ONE I'LL EDIT OUT LATER **
^ I guess admittedly I don’t really need it ha.
But the amount ( over 2 k per month ) could be the factor in not working anymore.
He intends to buy an airplane with it.
The payments stop in a year and he has already decided to spend a huge amount on a plane.
I’m not sure if he will lose mojo for the plane or not.
I’m being supportive since it IS super cool to think he / we could do that but sometimes I don’t know what to think of the idea honestly . Maybe I’ll look up plane SHARE options.
I run over in my mind how actually *investing* the plane money would go. :/
These small planes are quirky too. They can get you a state or two over for sure but much longer and you are better off on a commercial plane.
It’s just a hobby for dudes I think.
I’m still waking up ha !
I AM supportive of all his hobbies including this.
I'm just putting thoughts down .
In a way though I do hope the plane thing just stays at a lesson around once a week for a bit and not a purchase anytime soon.
carmen_b
06-09-2022, 08:42 AM
I’m feeling a little better today .
I do feel like he does *very* little to help me have a quiet house.
I am just not sure exactly how firm I can be on those requests until it becomes upsetting.
For example he is taking his daughter to a fun center today ( day I have the AirBnB ). He never seems to have an awareness that when I don’t have the AirBnB that is when I could use a quiet afternoon HERE.
I am 100% having a hard time with the summer adjustment.
I really like the precision the school year brings .
miss.a.p1600
06-09-2022, 09:09 AM
^it gets better. The summer goes by soooo fast
Also with the play dates. If you think about it. The other little kid will keep yours entertained so less work you have to do. Just get a nanny cam? If it’s legal and make sure they don’t do anything harmful. So you can work from home and have play dates.
I would offer play dates but L coddles these kids so damn much that they have no friends.
carmen_b
06-09-2022, 09:42 AM
^ Yes it's only 8 more weeks really. I think two weeks has already flown by.
It's also the time of year my forest property up north is open and I LOVE going up there a few nights at a time.
Since we live in a super hot area I want to travel outside of it more over summer anyway.
Summers are rough here other than the 6:30 -10 a.m. range each day.
I feel admittedly still a little pouty ha !
I think I really worry that when I mitigate my time ( seeking out quiet space since J isn't helping me create one ) he is "Tracking" my lack of commitment to them or something. I don't think I am doing an extreme level. I typically would leave 24 hours during his daughters stays and she is around 3-4 days each time. Even IF the AirBnB is open two days I only take 1 if that makes sense. If I was leaving the day she arrived and not returning until she left THAT would be extreme . I do worry at time it is affecting his opinion of me.
I do miss the school hours getting her out of the house 8 - 3:30 BUT I think I have to respect his choice on what he is doing. I think at this time he has just chosen not to sign her up for anything so he can get some more time with her during these visits ( since he can sometimes get away with working 5-6 hours one day for example if the next day he works 8 ).
Admittedly since we had Monday - Wednesday for the last 6-8 months and then just two Sundays per month he actually had only those two Sundays per month with her as a full day. The others were just the timing of 3:30 - 8p.m. roughly that he had with her if you count school hours.
carmen_b
06-09-2022, 09:48 AM
PLUS I have alternatives for office space such as actually showing up to the real estate office that I spent $1800 to be a part of. :/
That huge fee got me an outside of the house office whenever I want so I should probably go up and use it.
Since I've already thrown down that cash THAT PLACE will be the office of choice.
I don't want to spend another dime on any other co-working space or office rental.
carmen_b
06-09-2022, 10:46 AM
For me .... the play date thing ( in it's current state ) really does piss me off.
That is just my reaction because I am struggling with ambient sound quite a bit.
I never demand or suggest she doesn't have those of course. That would be over the line.
I just ask for the advance notice so I don't have to be here since it increases the sound in the house so much.
I'm particularly upset by how they have gone down because she has had FOUR in the last 3 weeks ( 2 each with 2 different kids ) and she hasn't gone OVER to one of those houses a SINGLE time. I think I plan to just stay of it. It's really on my partner since I leave the house during them anyway. If I paid anything to live here ( I pay the lawn guy $80 a month ) I would have more ground to stand on haha.
I do want to be comfy though and J doing ZERO lately to help me with the sound stuff has been frustrating.
^it gets better. The summer goes by soooo fast
Also with the play dates. If you think about it. The other little kid will keep yours entertained so less work you have to do. Just get a nanny cam? If it’s legal and make sure they don’t do anything harmful. So you can work from home and have play dates.
I would offer play dates but L coddles these kids so damn much that they have no friends.
miss.a.p1600
06-09-2022, 07:53 PM
^I see what you mean. I personally like to be able to laser focus and not have to constantly split my attention to the multiple things a little kid would need throughout the day. If kids are around I find myself switching to step motherly mode not hustler work mode.
carmen_b
06-09-2022, 08:01 PM
I think there is a little more to the story too that I didn't share and it is that HE is also struggling with my vibe about this.
He really let me have it ( last Friday ) in this conversation .
Not in a "screaming and yelling " type of way but he got VERY upset (he ended up crying while we were talking).
Some of what he was saying was honestly not making a lot of sense ( he was listing people he pays to interact with her daughter and saying they are " better " with her or something like that ). One of these people was her music teacher ( yet another person I hate having in my house ). SOME of it was accurate because to be totally honest I did feel like my " protecting the business hours " thing went a little too far.
In talking it out though ....... I still want to mostly protect them ( I could give a couple in that range but I'm not giving 10 hours in that range ).
I guess all in all I just CAN'T see myself giving more of those particular hours up. It's a non-negotiable for me. SO I tried to offer alternatives and then he felt bad and " assured " me he wasn't after those hours.
Uh ..... why did that discussion occur then ?
carmen_b
06-09-2022, 08:02 PM
I think he would honestly like someone a little more involved and we are still in discussion about what a " middle " accurately looks like for us.
So ..... uh ..... yeah ...... I though this week would be super easy ( since it was three days ) .
:(
carmen_b
06-09-2022, 08:07 PM
I'm definitely lazer focused when working but in full honestly ..... there is some piddling here and there.
My business is still around 30-32 hours a week but I plan to share that info with NO ONE including J .
At some point it could actually take 40 and I don't want to run around multi-tasking and being sloppy with my customers.
smeca
06-10-2022, 02:35 AM
^ I know you guys are having a whole convo and i probably don't have all the details but this is stressing me out! It's entirely reasonable to keep work hours for work. Why are you being asked to do other things during hours you work? Is it bc you are at home? ('youre at home so you can be flexible'.
I've had that whole battle with myself, I get house things done too but had to figure out to have a proper start time and take it seriously). I think I saw in a post he works at home too? Maybe he can work with house noise and doesn't realise how hard it is for you to focus.
If you went to work in the office you mentioned above would he be asking you not to spend so much time at work? If he did, that would effectively be asking you to cut your hours, which is a different conversation.
Anyway, if you're leaving the house to have quiet in order to do work, that isn't you avoiding family or his daughter, it's you needing an environment you can work in. Hell when i was working in the office I starting bringing bigger and bigger headphones, or leaving my desk to work in the cafe area to shut out everyone's noise in the room lol. Honestly i find it disrespectful if my bf suggests I can do xyz bc I work at home and I'm not super busy all day every day- we are not machines, just bc every hour isn't full of work tasks you cant just snap to something else and be just as fire at work again later.
It must be hard to discuss though as you said you're not paying rent. So I wonder if this is him wanting you to play housewife bc you 'don't need' to work? But we do need a certain level of security before we give up work so it's still totally reasonable of you to protect your work hours. I would happily quit working if my bf could support us both, but that isn't looking like it's round the corner. It's hard bc we are accommodating as women but I had to accept I need to work for foreseeable future so I need to treat it as a priority, and accept I can't be the best housewife AS WELL (but I can be a great working housewife for sure lol).
I might be off the mark but just felt annoyed and wanted to share my thoughts!
So my post... my problem is idk how to bond with the kid lol. I've been uninvolved mostly but now we live far away she comes to stay for a weekend/week at a time, and we all go out together if I'm off work, but i feel like I do very little interaction. I don't wanna be mum 2.0 but I think I need to be less standoffish. Maybe it will be easier when she is getting into teen years? She's 12 but still very kiddy, and I get irate with nonsense like the other day, we're looking for cold refreshment in the city and she says she hates ice cream. I simply don't believe that!! Turns out she was thinking of a specific one and I guess didn't know there's all different kinds and flavours? Kid brains baffle me. Anyway none of us got one bc we couldn't find a place that did ice cream for us and milk shake for her. I feel like a parenting expert would have a lot to work with with us tbh lol but... phew...
Also I love the title to this thread. Someone please post here bragging and shining, give us a guiding light lol.
carmen_b
06-10-2022, 07:06 AM
^ I ended up going home ( I had been hiding at my AirBnB 2-9p.m. ), taking a Valium , and telling him I needed his help brainstorming for quiet solutions.
No one is touching my work hours.
39 of the M - F 9-5 hours are MINE.
He can have one hour in that range if he wants a work out and needs me here at the house ( he actually shouldn't because at nearly 10 years old because his child should be ok alone for his 50 min. run ).
If there is 2-3k cash sitting OUT for me to take then AT THAT POINT the hours are up for discussion to modify in the next 30 days.
If he won’t create any quiet at the house I’ll work at the real estate office any day his child is here.
I paid out the damn nose for that office anyway. It's actually probably a good thing if I popped over a couple days a week.
I am expecting him to come up with a MID POINT solution with me.
I probably can not expect full quiet 9-5 in the summer but he should at least do SOMETHING and have SOME awareness to help me create at least a quiet afternoon every couple of days.
:)
carmen_b
06-10-2022, 07:07 AM
^ Indeed haha
Very little bragging has taken place here haha
carmen_b
06-10-2022, 09:37 AM
Smeca :
I think you are frustrated over the " pickiness " .
Like ... the absurdity of wanting a shake and not ice cream.
Most places that do ice creams can make shakes as well just FYI .
Baskins Robbins does.
I would say just stay out of it if there is any pickiness.
Like .... let your partner find the " shake " if it comes down to it haha.
I don't allow pickiness with food here.
If I make something I usually make enough for everyone ( J buys most of our groceries ) .
It would be rude if I didn't make *enough* for each person but I never ask my step kid what she wants.
In my house there was a sign up in our Kitchen that said :
" There are two choices for dinner. Take it or Leave It ".
My mom put it up as a joke ...... that had truth in it. She did not fuck around with stuff like that and I don't either if that makes sense.
carmen_b
06-10-2022, 09:39 AM
You asked about bonding idea though and now you know she likes shakes.
She is 12 so you could offer something like dropping her at the mall for an hour and then going to have a shake with her.
At that age any type of ride to go see her friends is probably helpful to her.
I couldn't do that personally because we are fitness focused.
My partner wouldn't want her to be in a dessert shop and I don't want to be there either with the fitness goals I'm working on .
smeca
06-10-2022, 10:47 AM
^ well we now live nowhere near her, so she doesn't know anyone up here, it would be good to find her some friends around here, then dropping her off in town is a great idea. Next door have boys a similar age always playing football, we both think she ought to join in as she's into stuff like that. Tbf when i go do a workout in the garden she joins in a bit, tried to teach her to skip and hula hoop already so maybe I'll set her a task to keep her engaged for a bit longer .
Violethollywood
06-10-2022, 11:04 AM
my stepkids come back today. Im not mentally prepared for it . They eat sooooo much. They're going thru a growth spurt so i get it but omg . They eat constantly . I've had to buy extra food and drinks bc it doesn't matter if we buy a 40 pack of bottled water or a giant box of chips or whatever. They blow thru food like cows man. It's insane. plus with my 2 kids... not gonna lie, i miss having food stamps LMAO. Don't get me wrong, my husband pays for groceries most of the time, but he always underestimates what we need. So that's why I've started buying stuff too. Plus them kids ain't finna to eat and drink the shit that I LIKE and leave me with nothing I want. That might sound selfish but idc. We'll get 2 bunches of bananas and they're gone by monday. I just want 1 banana dammit. like does anyone get what i'm saying . im rambling lol. Im just not prepared for the bullshit this weekend. And my husband said something about us all going to some play place 2 hours away...
Like look, im a smoker when Im in a car or when Im drinking and Im like i cannot be in the car for 2 hours without smoking plus just thinking about watching all the kids at a public place like that stresses me the hell out. Fuck i need a drink just thinking about it. I'm so overwhelmed as it is.
carmen_b
06-10-2022, 11:07 AM
^ You can hide stuff in your closet.
I do. :)
I have high quality bagels up there now haha.
carmen_b
06-10-2022, 11:09 AM
Try your best to get the kids out somewhere 3-6 hours each day.
Your partner being on board with that plan helps obviously.
I don’t know their ages but my community has a summer fun thing that will cover the 8am to Noon range .
Violethollywood
06-10-2022, 12:23 PM
^ You can hide stuff in your closet.
I do. :)
I have high quality bagels up there now haha.
lol i think im gonna have to lol
carmen_b
06-10-2022, 12:29 PM
Frozen treats put in plain bags / hide in back of freezer.
They won’t even open the bags haha.
miss.a.p1600
06-10-2022, 08:09 PM
my stepkids come back today. Im not mentally prepared for it . They eat sooooo much. They're going thru a growth spurt so i get it but omg . They eat constantly . I've had to buy extra food and drinks bc it doesn't matter if we buy a 40 pack of bottled water or a giant box of chips or whatever. They blow thru food like cows man. It's insane. plus with my 2 kids... not gonna lie, i miss having food stamps LMAO. Don't get me wrong, my husband pays for groceries most of the time, but he always underestimates what we need. So that's why I've started buying stuff too. Plus them kids ain't finna to eat and drink the shit that I LIKE and leave me with nothing I want. That might sound selfish but idc. We'll get 2 bunches of bananas and they're gone by monday. I just want 1 banana dammit. like does anyone get what i'm saying . im rambling lol. Im just not prepared for the bullshit this weekend. And my husband said something about us all going to some play place 2 hours away...
Like look, im a smoker when Im in a car or when Im drinking and Im like i cannot be in the car for 2 hours without smoking plus just thinking about watching all the kids at a public place like that stresses me the hell out. Fuck i need a drink just thinking about it. I'm so overwhelmed as it is.
LOL! ThatÂ’s why I buy fruits and vegetables. These kids eat the same junk over and over again.
I come downstairs for a snack to avoid them because the daughter got sick on Sunday, L never tested them so I assume they have corona. So in theory, her day of isolation shouldn’t be over until Saturday. But since Bertha is desperate and he missed last weekend because the son was sick I suppose he is in a rush to have them this weekend.
IÂ’m just glad itÂ’s not longer than a weekend. Like what his dumb ass tried to initially trick me into.
IÂ’ll be gone most of the day and probably see them on Saturday eve or Sunday Â…. All dayÂ…Â… joy!
miss.a.p1600
06-11-2022, 06:05 AM
I think his daughter is still sick.
I’ve been avoiding her because I think she’s still sick.
She came here with a stank attitude. Look little girl you can take your sick n petty ass back to Bertha.
I don’t want your pathogens nor your attitude here.
I’m avoiding them all this weekend and staying out for work.
I don’t care about anyones feelings since no one cares about my health
carmen_b
06-11-2022, 09:21 AM
^ He really should have done a test before bringing over.
carmen_b
06-11-2022, 09:26 AM
The " I need quiet " talk went really well .
I was really worried it might piss him off but things were really getting out of control ( in my opinion ) and I wanted to face it before I became more upset.
I think he is on board with :
1. No more of the non-reciprocal playdates. I had to put my foot down HARD on that one too. I really hope he takes this seriously . There are TWO kids I expect to NOT see at the house unless his daughter is OUT somewhere else ( for at least three hours ) with these kids first.
2. He promised to try to give me more notice for any visitors to the house ( so I have more time to book something elsewhere or just prep if I want to leave ). He admitted he actually had more notice on a couple of things and didn't give me as much info as he had.
3. I *think* we are on board with booking his daughter something out of the house at least one time during her 3-4 days stay. That is SUCH a small window but I was treading lightly so I wasn't going to ask for something booked every day. At the end of the talk I just mentioned that I had found a couple 4 hours options I would email to him.
I'm kind of surprised we really had to crack into this after knowing each other SO long but a year of that was covid land.
I never had visitors ( which I loved haha ) !
Then it took until Sept. for his daughter to get the vax and the school year kind of covered us entirely.
That is why it's JUST coming up now.
I really just asked for his help in creating more quiet windows if at all possible and letting me know WHEN those windows would be for planning. I just need him to be more conscious of my mellow environment seeking I guess.
miss.a.p1600
06-11-2022, 02:11 PM
^ He really should have done a test before bringing over.
I’m just glad I have plans this weekend and will be out most of the day today and tomorrow.
Im on my period and want to shower with no one at that house. I may have to pack a gym bag tomorrow and get an excuse to stay out of pathogen city even longer.