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Staci
09-13-2022, 03:14 PM
But I'm offering this as a plan : definitely I'll do half the dinners and I'll tell him 3-4 days ahead what I plan to do so the concern is covered ongoing.....
Maybe he just wants more home-cooked meals and thought if he commented that eating out was expensive, you might offer to cook more meals at home?

carmen_b
09-13-2022, 03:16 PM
^ I really don't want to cook more than twice a week ( roughly ) because of the mess but maybe that is what he meant ?
Maybe I'll ask him or I'll just cook a few times ?
This is why being SPECIFIC can be so good !

For example I made a day by day list of these take out specials near us ( there are certain good deals Mon. - Thurs. ) that barely cost more than groceries do. I want to get those to reduce mess.
For example there are these really good wood fired pizzas for $5 on Mondays and Tues. there is a taco place for $6 a person.
I made a list !

miss.a.p1600
09-13-2022, 03:22 PM
So a major event is coming up and since I only have the day off on Sunday I planned to have a day full of fun.

He initially said he’d drop his kids off early Sunday around noon. Now he’s like “what about we just have an hour or 2 on Saturday”

Bitch!!!!! Fuck you and Bertha!

The initial plan is good since he lied and said he’d take his kids back at 5 but didn’t take them back until 7 last weekend PLUS he’s off all weekend so they’ll most like be over right after school on Friday, all day Saturday, plus half day on Sunday.

I really am going to be stressed about my off time going right into his parenting time AND the fact he’s still not improving his job prospects and income so I want to do as less amount of work.

So let me get this straight assholes. A major event coming up, I’m working 2 jobs, and you want me to accept your kids over right as I’m getting off work AND have only 1-2 hours after I get off work on Sat.

Um how about NO!!!!

How about I go out after work Friday AND again Sunday (all day) without you.

I’m not helping you take care of those kids all mf weekend. Figure it out.

I’m going to just agree, take separate cars, then he can come back after an hour and take care of his kids, while I head to sugar daddy central

carmen_b
09-13-2022, 05:01 PM
^ He can have the " hour or two " hahaha

Damn I am really trying to sort my thoughts but its hard .
He's been gone since Sat. about 4 p.m. and I don't really feel like I miss him yet. :/
But I think maybe I just didn't get enough space to myself the few weeks prior to this ?

I mean .... it's been over 3 days. Shouldn't I *miss* him ?

miss.a.p1600
09-14-2022, 07:06 AM
He acted kinda difficult lately so it’s understandable

I never miss L but L/his kids/his ex wife acts waaay more difficult/clingy/needy than y’all’s dudes.

carmen_b
09-14-2022, 07:59 AM
^ I guess I sort of miss him now haha ?

BUT .... yes ..... the weird talk about how I was too expensive while he overspent on something else was definitely an odd send off.

miss.a.p1600
09-14-2022, 08:03 AM
I guess I’ll say that I did spend a little bit of time with his daughter

Happened to be in the kitchen and she came in and started chatting

Whew! She is long winded and very chatty.

Only downside to talking with her is her self talk is very negative and pessimistic and when I attempt to correct her and get her to see the bright side of things……she’d rather be “right” and hold onto her unhelpful beliefs.

Spent about 20 min. Offered her food and to cook with her, she declined. Whatevs.

carmen_b
09-14-2022, 10:28 AM
Did you get vibes she wanted you to tell her how wonderful she was ?
Haha
Just reading it quickly that’s the vibe I got.

miss.a.p1600
09-14-2022, 11:07 AM
^exactly. I’m more of the realist. Life is HARD and I feel like if I coddle I do a disservice.

She was complaining how hard middle school is a how she had to do homework and how she hated mondays and didn’t want to go to school.

I pretty much was like ‘suck it up buttercup’

She was like no! School is hard.

Misery loves company. I think she wanted me to commiserate with her. But I feel like if ya want to get ahead in life you have to think more positively about your outcomes. Sad cause she has to learn this negative thinking from the people in her life.

In my mind I’m like “bruh I’m done!”

smeca
09-14-2022, 11:24 AM
Carmen it doesn't necessarily mean anything if you don't miss a guy so much when they’re away. Sone people pine over it, others dont i guess. My bf was on a course for 10 days once, I'm good in my own company and I quite enjoyed having the place to my self and sleeping in the middle of the bed haha.

Miss p my bfs daughter is negative too, low confidence and self esteem, or at least in this combative 'i dont want to be pretty popular' type of vibe. I know i was similar but idk how I got out of it. Most of the work I did on myself as an adult so idk if I have anything helpful to say. It's true nothing gets easier but that sounds so doom and gloom to a teen lol D:

carmen_b
09-14-2022, 12:15 PM
School really isn't hard either ! :/

I have caught J going " Oh .... she had to sit for 7 hours in that environment " ......

Dude ...... when people get themselves working remotely like us ( him 100% and me 90% ) then they don't have to do stuff like that !
It is just reality to go to your school or job location! People tend to NOT be remote right out of high school. Like ... maybe she will since she had your tech connections BUT it is very uncommon.


^exactly. I’m more of the realist. Life is HARD and I feel like if I coddle I do a disservice.

She was complaining how hard middle school is a how she had to do homework and how she hated mondays and didn’t want to go to school.

I pretty much was like ‘suck it up buttercup’

She was like no! School is hard.

Misery loves company. I think she wanted me to commiserate with her. But I feel like if ya want to get ahead in life you have to think more positively about your outcomes. Sad cause she has to learn this negative thinking from the people in her life.

In my mind I’m like “bruh I’m done!”

carmen_b
09-14-2022, 12:17 PM
I can relate to this.
In high school I was SO into this attitude like " looks are not everything I'm a woman of substance " .

Gets out .....a bit later ....... gets naked for money haha.
I guess maybe I *would* have cheered if it was good $ !

Smeca , maybe you are right !
I do feel triggered if I don't get " I miss you " texts . Maybe it's something I need to try to get over !

Another thing he said during that weird conversation was he brought UP when I was in Montana for 8 days .....
I struggling around day 5 that I was missing him ( and not having space from my family was driving me crazy ) . All I wanted was a " I miss you " from him via text or verbally and of course he didn't do it ! So he brought it UP in the chat a week ago and he said it didn't feel right to say because he didn't have strong feelings of missing me. He referenced things being " easier " without me there. We chat openly but ....... a little harsh? Plus I FORGOT about it since Montana was Aug 14-21 so thanks for bringing that difficult day up !
We chatted about ideas to *fix* it .
He said " we are talking to move forward and MAKE SURE we miss each other ".
I wish he wouldn't have brought it up.


Carmen it doesn't necessarily mean anything if you don't miss a guy so much when they’re away. Sone people pine over it, others dont i guess. My bf was on a course for 10 days once, I'm good in my own company and I quite enjoyed having the place to my self and sleeping in the middle of the bed haha.

Miss p my bfs daughter is negative too, low confidence and self esteem, or at least in this combative 'i dont want to be pretty popular' type of vibe. I know i was similar but idk how I got out of it. Most of the work I did on myself as an adult so idk if I have anything helpful to say. It's true nothing gets easier but that sounds so doom and gloom to a teen lol D:

miss.a.p1600
09-14-2022, 02:13 PM
School really isn't hard either ! :/

I have caught J going " Oh .... she had to sit for 7 hours in that environment " ......

Dude ...... when people get themselves working remotely like us ( him 100% and me 90% ) then they don't have to do stuff like that !
It is just reality to go to your school or job location! People tend to NOT be remote right out of high school. Like ... maybe she will since she had your tech connections BUT it is very uncommon.

exactly!

my line of thinking is like girl if you can’t handle middle school, you’re going to have it even more hard in real life.

and it’s not like she’s in some rigorous prep school with honors her work is easy af. It’s middle school.

i doubt I’ll be with L much longer but I have made it ABSOLUTELY clear I don’t do dependent grown kids. Hell them being HEAVILY dependent till 18 is more than enough

miss.a.p1600
09-14-2022, 02:25 PM
That time L ruined his chance at a date with me by dare fixing his lips to suggest his son live with us for a month (aka permanently) cause he “has been clashing with Bertha”

Um….let me get this straight

You want your disobedient son (who disrespects female authority) to come here? And try to disrupt my peace and test my authority?

Nah bruh!

I’ll ship his ass off to Boot Camp so fast.

I’m going to let Bertha accept her child support and figure out how to parent the son she decided to bring into this world.

Sit down, pay your damn child support, accept your weekly parenting time, let Bertha take care of those kids, and leave me tf alone!

buttonpop
09-14-2022, 05:52 PM
All I wanted was a " I miss you " from him via text or verbally and of course he didn't do it ! So he brought it UP in the chat a week ago and he said it didn't feel right to say because he didn't have strong feelings of missing me. He referenced things being " easier " without me there. We chat openly but ....... a little harsh?


SO harsh!! if my partner said that to me, I would be really really hurt. yikes.

carmen_b
09-14-2022, 05:58 PM
^ Yes I agree it was super harsh.
I wrote down some things and we are going to have a little chit chat before anything physical occurs.

He gets back tomorrow around 5 p.m. I think ?
I assume he'd need time to settle .........

Also ..... shit .... that went so fast lol !

I hate the reminder that the ENTIRE Aug. 14-21 duration when I'm up in Montana he can't send over a single " I miss you " message.
I started to panic around Aug. 18 / 19 ?
Too much time in a row ( days in a row ) with my family so I was melting down on two levels ha.

After he said this stuff ( and WHY bring up Montana ? ) ....... is it really THAT ODD that I was just sitting around having coffee in the morning .... not going out of my way to find him ect. on our last morning together ? Honestly .... what a spectacularly stupid thing to even say .
It's " easier "?
Yes ...... being single is " easier " .
So our partners not worth the time / lack of ease that it takes ?

It doesn't seem like it will do any good to send this stuff over today or tomorrow .
Today is the dolphin day and tomorrow is a travel day.

I'm going to NEED him to explain if there was any logic at all in saying all this stuff before leaving for 5 days.

carmen_b
09-15-2022, 07:48 AM
I guess he's having a very rough travel day.
Missed flight .... closed the gate earlier than expected ?
So it's a big delay ....
He lost his phone for an hour ......

I am holding back sending something like " maybe it's Karma for being so negative " .

I also have a *slight* suspicion he was probably in the lounge at airport and cut it too close.

miss.a.p1600
09-15-2022, 08:43 AM
L said his manager is on vacation and he has to work this weekend.

I am glad BERTHA will be tasked with taking care of her kids.

I get to enjoy my time off this weekend without having to go straight into frustration that goes along with territory invasions, obligations,etc

Why This simpleminded bitch won’t send them to the aunts, grandmas, friends, etc house is beyond me.

carmen_b
09-15-2022, 09:38 AM
^ It only took two years for your message to not expect YOU to take them to get through haha !

carmen_b
09-15-2022, 09:39 AM
^ Raises a glass to your quiet house !

miss.a.p1600
09-15-2022, 03:41 PM
^ It only took two years for your message to not expect YOU to take them to get through haha !


^ Raises a glass to your quiet house !


I won’t believe it till I see it

ima pop some champagne if it is. Have a solo celebration while he’s at work

he’s taking off next weekend - good. Stop expecting my time to revolve around your kids when you’re at work.

So next weekend may be a long weekend with them here but I absolutely will disappear for some “milk” then reappear around mid evening. I’ll give about 1-2 hours (more of everyone acts right)

carmen_b
09-15-2022, 05:41 PM
^ Yeah ..... wait till we see right before opening the champagne? Haha

He TOLD you SO print out his last text or something on the subject ha !

carmen_b
09-15-2022, 05:43 PM
DAMN I feel for J and this travel day taking like one million years.
He must have gotten up at like 6 a.m. I'm assuming.
He was taking a flight from Florida to the western part of the USA .
He thought it was a Noon arrival and now not until Midnight ... yikes.

It's put a super awkward delay now into speaking with him too.
I have to go over all this in person.
I want to see what he has to say first ..... all needs to be said in person.
We really can't go over any of it while he is on a plane in the next few hours.
If he is not putting an end to the negativity ..... I will ..... by removing myself from his presence.

I travel for work Sept. 20 mid day - Sept. 23 late so we don't have much time before that.

EDIT : I guess he got back at 2am .
They hit accident traffic and missed the flight.

miss.a.p1600
09-16-2022, 04:39 PM
L said his manager is on vacation and he has to work this weekend.

I am glad BERTHA will be tasked with taking care of her kids.

I get to enjoy my time off this weekend without having to go straight into frustration that goes along with territory invasions, obligations,etc

Why This simpleminded bitch won’t send them to the aunts, grandmas, friends, etc house is beyond me.


I won’t believe it till I see it

ima pop some champagne if it is. Have a solo celebration while he’s at work

he’s taking off next weekend - good. Stop expecting my time to revolve around your kids when you’re at work.

So next weekend may be a long weekend with them here but I absolutely will disappear for some “milk” then reappear around mid evening. I’ll give about 1-2 hours (more of everyone acts right)

so as I’m leaving out the door to run an errand he’s like “oh Bertha bring the kids by here right now”

“but I’m taking them to my relatives”

I’m pissed for him randomly telling me this last minute of course. Also I thought this mf told me Bertha didn’t like driving to our house as the drop off point and here she is gleefully dropping off when it’s something L suggests.

whatever I’m not going to be played or manipulated or guilt tripped. I refuse to deal with his kids when he’s not there and he’s not compensating me for the inconvenience.

So long story short. They’re really not going to be there. Thank heavens I need a break from him and his obligations. He’s been a pissy petty bitch and I just want to leave his ass as soon as I can.

carmen_b
09-16-2022, 06:28 PM
I talked to J and will update some things.

He was being a little fussy last week but he didn’t really mean the Montana events as a *dig*. It was more concern he thought we were slipping into bad patterns.
I personally didn’t really see all that much wrong I have to admit.

He came back to a spotless house , I had done my hair red again, and was dolled up .
I left ( to go do this audition ) right as he got there haha and we talked in the evening .

I think he was too worried too quickly if that makes sense.
He seems back to himself and positive now.

I’ll come back with more details ( he got a couple warnings about negativity that are not negotiable ).

miss.a.p1600
09-17-2022, 08:00 AM
^Glad to hear it’s rolling more smoothly

I’d say it’s rolling a bit more smooth here too with L having his family host his kids this weekend while he works and not automatically expecting me to do it every time.

Only downside is I told him I was working today. Which I plan too. The the peace is so nice I just want to bask in it and not work lol!

Aurora_Sunset
09-17-2022, 04:44 PM
Bio-mom pulled my husband aside at cheerleading today to let him know that she has filed a protective order against dickhead ex-stepdad. He's been blowing up her phone, oscillating between "I love you so much, I can't live without you" to "Fuck you fucking bitch." He's showed up at her parents' house and her work, and has been threatening to get her fired and call DCS to get the kids taken away.

Part of this story was telling us that we need to remove dickhead's kid from stepson's online friends and even block him. GEE, YA THINK?

Not to gloat, but WHO'S been the one saying for MONTHS that it is fucking weird that the kids still talk to and play with dickhead's son??? I've brought it up multiple times, and I always got blown off. NO. I knew that I was fucking right. If they had split amicably, that's one thing - to let the kids maintain a relationship. But if you leave someone specifically because they're abusive, you can't let your kids keep contact! How am the only one that saw that as his manipulative way to keep tabs on her? It was his way of keeping in contact "innocently" - for the "sake of the kids" - when it's really just him hovering, trying to reel her back in.

He also made a comment to her that he "knows she's dating." I'd put money on him manipulating his punk-ass kid into asking my stepkids prying questions about what's been going on at their house and with their mom so he can keep an eye on her.

miss.a.p1600
09-18-2022, 07:07 AM
Guess I spoke too soon about things going smoothly.

It all went downhill after L sat here and argued with me like a complete bitch about how he should have the right to hang out with his male friends (one of whom I’ve never met, the other one is 600lbs homeless and depressed) AT NIGHT.

We’ve had several conversations about him not protecting me and this is yet another example.

Then when I clearly stated my issue was with the time of night he was going out, he kept trying to argue “well I haven’t seen them in a while” “I hardly go out”

After about an hour of losing brain cells dealing with this mf. He had the AUDACITY to demand I have sex with him and how he can’t be in a “sexless” relationship.

Bitch! What woman is going to fuck you if you can do bare minimum as a man which is protect and provide.

Now I see why Bertha talked shit to him this is probably the same shit he tried to do to her.

He IS the Bertha.

carmen_b
09-18-2022, 08:47 AM
^ What is the problem with the night outing ?
Is this a club ..... like expensive drinking or something ?

It seems fine to me if this is something like 9p.m. - 1 a.m. or something like that ?
I'd probably personally prefer J got back at Midnight ( just because I like him in the bed ) ha but since I trust him I would never put a "cap" on how late he can be out or who with.

I think what you are experiencing ( by not getting OUT yet ) is that as long as you are physically there he will thinks you guys are *trying* and are still together.
Just my take and it might not be completely accurate !

miss.a.p1600
09-18-2022, 09:52 AM
We live one of THE most dangerous cities

His kids just had a drive by shooting occur right next door.

Yet he keeps rationalizing “well *I* don’t feel unsafe” - after having his car vandalized after he kept going to a gym I told him didn’t have good security. Yeah must be nice having male privilege not worrying if a man is going to kidnap, rape, and murder you.

And after I had multiple conversations about not feeling protected by him, this is just another layer of “fuck you protect yourself while I socialize with my deadbeat friends”

Maybe I’m overreacting but his insistence on hanging out during the evening hours when crime is more likely to occur just doesn’t make me feel safe and then I question even more like this mf barely providing, sex not good, not protecting so I really don’t want to continue if none of my needs are being met.

I just reserved a storage unit. Cancelled my plans with family (cause this asshole argued with me all night) and going to discreetly move my shit.

I wanted to save more but he’s really pressing me to just up and leave with what I’ve got. I may need to create a separate thread on it but his behavior lately has been abusive.

miss.a.p1600
09-18-2022, 11:11 AM
^i see what you mean Carmen about me being physically here

I think

Well I did agree to go to counseling session but his dumb ass started being really negative about it. Instead of it being something positive that could help us see from each other’s perspective he was like “OMG is our relationship in shambles?we don’t have relationship issues everything is fine”

He finally did it but turned it into a bitch fest about me and hogged the entire session - in typical male privilege fashion.

carmen_b
09-18-2022, 12:32 PM
^ Very odd that the therapist is letting him hog whole session.
That is the exact reason couples therapy is a thing. To make sure EACH person gets some convo time. :/

carmen_b
09-19-2022, 07:53 AM
Everything seems pretty smooth.
Yesterday laying in bed listening to music he brought up the idea of taking daughter over to Denver to see this concert at Red Rocks. All of us.
I think it runs two days ( this would be for Oct. 10/11/return 12 ). Um ...... NOT loving the idea. I hope he drops it on his own. Didn't we JUST have issues because of spending related stress ?

And um ...... you just did a large scale trip with her . If we have the money frankly it's my turn lol.
I would ALSO like to help decide the next trip ( where / what we do ) !
Honestly I just hate the idea of getting NO privacy during a full three day trip ( I think it would be three nights ).
We had said only a week ago that we were not planning to go anywhere larger scale in Oct. in order to save?

Aurora_Sunset
09-19-2022, 08:09 AM
I told my husband 2 weeks ago that I was planning to go to a friend's after work last night and would be crashing there, as there would be drinking involved. He got a little sulky on Saturday when I reminded him and asked if I was at least coming home between work and that. I honestly wasn't planning to, because I would have to pass the friend's place to go home and then drive back the opposite direction. But I said sure, I would, because I didn't get to see him much this weekend.

When I got home, guess where he was? He was JUST dropping off the kids. It was fucking 7pm. I got mad and told him that the only reason I came home in between was to see him for 30 minutes, but I couldn't wait around all night for him. He said that bio-mom went out of town and didn't even get back until 6:30... didn't give us a heads up on it either... just assumed he could keep them until whenever on Sunday.

It was fucking rude of her to not check with us in the first place, but also, that's what happens when he's just willy-nilly with the schedule. He hasn't enforced a set time to take them home on the weekends for several months, so now she just assumes it's whatever.

carmen_b
09-19-2022, 08:27 AM
^ Yikes. You know how I am about schedules.
I personally think it's a respect thing too.
She assumes he isn't busy and doesn't have a life ( that is what her actions are saying ).
I would see if he would set a FIRM return time haha ( I make them sound like a DVD ) for next week.
She very well could be doing this on purpose ( so the two of you can't plan to have a few quality hours ect. ).

carmen_b
09-19-2022, 12:17 PM
I'm SO proud of us!
We FINALLY did a full therapy session.
As you know if you've done it .... it's really just background and getting to know you.
Not 100% sure the therapist is right for us but we will talk more later today about it.

carmen_b
09-19-2022, 12:36 PM
Today feels a little awkward I'll admit.
Today was my one day to see J's daughter ( because I leave on a trip tomorrow for 4 days roughly for work ).
I obviously didn't see her last week much when they were traveling.
So .... now the grandparents I guess are popping in to see her and getting her right after school up to 7:30 p.m.?
He just told me this yesterday.

SO .... things shifted YESTERDAY and we ended up with a bonus window together ( as of last night ) that was 4-7:15 p.m.!
This morning ..... he set up a flight lesson at 4-7 p.m.
I guess we are just shoving a quick hour or something in for intimacy before I travel at like 2:45 - 3:45 ? I'm not sure he is seeing HOW offensive this is to reduce my three hour bonus window to a little 60 minute window.

Would other people be offended ?

BUT .... he also made it through the counseling appt. so I'm trying to keep an open mind to this. I guess he does sort of *need* the lesson ? His first solo flight is tomorrow. I mean I don't want him to go to it unprepared but I feel like maybe he could put the lesson to tomorrow and the solo to Wed ?

Aurora_Sunset
09-19-2022, 12:36 PM
^^I know he's been more lax with the return time on Sunday ever since he stopped working on Sunday evenings/nights. He doesn't see a point taking them home at 2pm (the time they're technically "supposed" to be back at their mom's) if he's not doing anything else that night, and most of the time I'm not home until later. But I still think he needs to pick a time and stick to it unless it's something that's asked about and scheduled in advance. He feels bad treating it like he's "watching the clock" to "get them out" or something, but it just makes sense to have a structure that everyone can rely on each time.

The kids never appreciate the extra time or anything. They'll whine just as much about going home at 6pm as they do about 2pm. We can give them a whole extra night and day here and not take them back until Monday night, and they'll still whine and drag their feet just as much.

carmen_b
09-19-2022, 12:37 PM
Unrelated ..... sometimes I will admit to thinking if might be best to pull the plug.
I get frustrated I think that we are not engaged. It's been over two years. Eh.
I don't really *want* to lose him. I also don't love the idea of another 4-6 months not engaged.

carmen_b
09-19-2022, 12:39 PM
It 100% makes sense. Maybe he can aim for the 4-5 p.m. window EVERY TIME ?
I feel like if it's not precise the ex will just be like " bring them at 11p.m. " and create difficulty.


it just makes sense to have a structure that everyone can rely on each time.

The kids never appreciate the extra time or anything. They'll whine just as much about going home at 6pm as they do about 2pm. We can give them a whole extra night and day here and not take them back until Monday night, and they'll still whine and drag their feet just as much.

miss.a.p1600
09-19-2022, 01:39 PM
Unrelated ..... sometimes I will admit to thinking if might be best to pull the plug.
The main reason is that I get frustrated I think that we are not engaged. It's been over two years. Eh.
I don't really *want* to lose him. I also don't love the idea of another 4-6 months not engaged.

Girl I feel ya

carmen_b
09-19-2022, 01:47 PM
Our little window ended up being 2:45-4:20 so it reads a little better to me than just an hour.

EDIT :
.... I failed at sexyiness .
I was heartbroken about the longer window being taken away and felt non-functional.
I tried ( like I put on lingerie at 2:45 ) but just felt meh.

miss.a.p1600
09-19-2022, 02:40 PM
I told my husband 2 weeks ago that I was planning to go to a friend's after work last night and would be crashing there, as there would be drinking involved. He got a little sulky on Saturday when I reminded him and asked if I was at least coming home between work and that. I honestly wasn't planning to, because I would have to pass the friend's place to go home and then drive back the opposite direction. But I said sure, I would, because I didn't get to see him much this weekend.

When I got home, guess where he was? He was JUST dropping off the kids. It was fucking 7pm. I got mad and told him that the only reason I came home in between was to see him for 30 minutes, but I couldn't wait around all night for him. He said that bio-mom went out of town and didn't even get back until 6:30... didn't give us a heads up on it either... just assumed he could keep them until whenever on Sunday.

It was fucking rude of her to not check with us in the first place, but also, that's what happens when he's just willy-nilly with the schedule. He hasn't enforced a set time to take them home on the weekends for several months, so now she just assumes it's whatever.

Berthas gone Berth……that’s pretty typical Bertha behavior.

L acts like Bertha when he says he will take his kids back at 4 or 5 and here it is 7pm and they’re STILL there creating messes and lingering like him.

I know I can’t make it about myself but I want to fucking unwind and not have to chase after kids on my cotdamn off days. I also think kids need to be taken to their primary home in ample time to prepare for the upcoming week. Those kids are barely getting by in school.

Granted his daughter is more of a type a and ready to leave at the set times but dudes and their sloppy schedules…..ugh!!!!

carmen_b
09-19-2022, 04:21 PM
I’m glad my pussy has my back lol

She was like ... nope!

carmen_b
09-19-2022, 04:27 PM
Damn maybe I am hard to live with . :/
I kind of don’t want to be there when his parents bring her back at 7:30.
I’ll just be annoyed people are there making noise.
I feel like 8:10 is a good return time for being settled in already.
I don’t know ! lol
I still need to have her open my present .

My dog and I hit the road !
We will come back 8:20.

miss.a.p1600
09-19-2022, 07:21 PM
^^I know he's been more lax with the return time on Sunday ever since he stopped working on Sunday evenings/nights. He doesn't see a point taking them home at 2pm (the time they're technically "supposed" to be back at their mom's) if he's not doing anything else that night, and most of the time I'm not home until later. But I still think he needs to pick a time and stick to it unless it's something that's asked about and scheduled in advance. He feels bad treating it like he's "watching the clock" to "get them out" or something, but it just makes sense to have a structure that everyone can rely on each time.

The kids never appreciate the extra time or anything. They'll whine just as much about going home at 6pm as they do about 2pm. We can give them a whole extra night and day here and not take them back until Monday night, and they'll still whine and drag their feet just as much.

that must explain why L does the same shit.

Not gone lie…..coming from a stripper background someone who watches the clock….im totally watching the clock. If he’s gonna linger and be sloppy scheduled on Sundays, then im gonna self care and/or disappear so I don’t have to deal with it or get into multiple circular arguments about how “they’re just kids” “they don’t have me around all the time” “fill in guilt trip here” that prevents him from providing structure those kids need.

miss.a.p1600
09-19-2022, 07:26 PM
I’m glad my pussy has my back lol

She was like ... nope!

I’ve had multiple pussy protests

I’m sorry but I’m not going to be laying around with a wet ass and nothing to show for it. I do not fuck on demand just cause I’m in a relationship. I don’t do “easy access” cause these men don’t respect it if it was cheap n easy.

Acting like a tool, douche, incel, petty pissy hoe, etc will keep the pussy on lockdown

I don’t understand how hard is it for men to get through their thick skulls that if they want sex they need to come correct.

*this just me though everyone has a right to do it how they please

carmen_b
09-19-2022, 07:45 PM
^ I do feel bad about my strong reaction.
It's like .... there was a *reason* BUT of course it's MY time that had to be compromised right ?
I mean I'd say squeezing in that extra flight lesson before taking a plane out by yourself probably IS a pretty damn good legit reason.

The puss disagreed and was just not having that today .

Fuck his flight instructor lol ! Dude texts that the plane " freed up " ..... probably a cancellation and he wanted 90 minutes of time to get paid for .

I *did* try to give him some lovin ' too ! I'm a vibe girl THROUGH AND THROUGH and even with it she was like " NO ".

carmen_b
09-19-2022, 07:55 PM
This woman in another group was like " it's always a new and unique excuse " .

hahahah


“fill in guilt trip here”

carmen_b
09-19-2022, 08:06 PM
Also I stalked the Aviators Plane Inventory lol
He actually has two small ones J might be interested in.
I am not sure I really care THAT much about avoiding him in business.
I'm still salty three YEARS later that he lazily suggested a " movie and make out " as a 2nd date.
What an idiot ! I should have raked him over the coals at that time lol.
If he had the BALLS to admit that he was just a turd I'd more easily forgive than some stupid excuse " I was going through a hard time blah blah blah ".

Edit to add : I don’t seem in trouble for hiding until 8:20.