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Aurora_Sunset
09-20-2022, 06:17 AM
Bio-mom blowing up my husband with multiple texts cuz she wants him to take the kids for a few hours on Saturday so she can "have lunch with a friend." Which is probably code for a date, but honestly, who cares. She can just say it's a date lol

Anyway, he didn't want to commit to it, because he skipped out on overtime at work last Friday and Saturday because it was his weekend with the kids, so it's a good possibility that they want him to come in this weekend to make up for it. I told him to not even say it's a "possibility" because then she'll do what she did a few weeks ago regarding Labor Day, and blow him up every fucking day, asking if he knows yet. I said just tell her that you HAVE to work, full stop. If you end up not going in on Saturday - oh well. You're not obligated to keep a spot open for her.

Then he started in feeling guilty, because he does like having the kids, and he does like having them extra time. Given, especially, that I'll be out of town this weekend, he would enjoy the company if he doesn't end up working. So, I told him, "Well, you have 2 options. Either agree to it, and take them, if you're gonna feel guilty saying no. Or tell her no, that you HAVE to work. There's really no in-between with her. If you give her an inkling of hope, she'll bug you every day, expecting you to eventually do it, and put off on getting a babysitter, and then get mad if you can't."

He finally just told her he has to work. And she shot back, "I thought you only work Monday-Thursday." It's so annoying when she does that. Bitch, if we tell you no, accept the answer. Stop fishing for more details and trying to pin him for "lying" about his "excuse." It's not your right to even know WHY he can't do it. No is a full sentence.

miss.a.p1600
09-20-2022, 06:37 AM
^its not that hard to hire a baby sitter. I would have saved myself the time/hassle and just hired the job out.

Geez wtf is up with these Bertha broads. And the dudes be enabling the shit.

Aurora_Sunset
09-20-2022, 06:44 AM
^^They have a sort of "agreement" that if she needs extra childcare, she gives him "first dibs" so he can have more time with his kids if he's able.

Which is nice in theory, but annoying when she turns it into an expectation. At that point, it's not about doing something for HIM, but about HER not wanting to pay a babysitter.

Aurora_Sunset
09-20-2022, 09:00 AM
It was sweet that my stepson wanted to spend time with me and play video games together this past weekend. He was strangely well-behaved. They both were actually. Though stepdaughter spent most of the time in her room. Sometimes, she just gets antisocial like that.

miss.a.p1600
09-20-2022, 02:33 PM
^thats nice to hear.

I was thinking of planning a gathering for L’s kids and his family to thank them for hosting his kids this past weekend so I could get a break.

Still kind of frustrated that me weekend without his obligations turned into yet another obligation/stressor because he started a pissing match because L kept insisting he should hang out at night with his degenerate friends while I’m at this house contemplating my safety. I wish he’d invest more in security and his sloppy approach is burning me up.

I’m going to spend more time with my male relatives and beef up my security so he knows what time it is. Just in case.

But anywho L doesn’t want to reciprocate and host his family’s kids (which I’d rather host them because they have more quality home training) and I’m like look here dude, I need to keep your family open for childcare when I need a break.

carmen_b
09-20-2022, 02:48 PM
^ I personally wouldn't invite anyone over but that is my own personal quirk.
I'd rather meet and bring pizza to a park or something.

carmen_b
09-20-2022, 03:24 PM
We had a nice time today.

I'll keep some details to myself lol .

What is with schools letting kids out early though hahaha ? Like ..... really ?
I guess she was out at 1 for some reason ?

miss.a.p1600
09-20-2022, 06:52 PM
^ I personally wouldn't invite anyone over but that is my own personal quirk.
I'd rather meet and bring pizza to a park or something.


good point. Maybe we can host a movie night OUT and he’ll be more willing

It’s odd. Well not really. Doesn’t mind bombarding others for childcare for his “innocent angels” but won’t return the favor for his own family’s kids

miss.a.p1600
09-21-2022, 12:13 PM
I am having a hard time shaking the feeling of L’s recent pissy passive aggressive behavior towards me.

He said he would adjust his attitude but today, he confessed that if he took an out of town job he’d worry that I’d be having men at the house he pays for while he’s gone. He also said he’d just sell the house and he’d prefer I move out.

His insecurity and refusal to pay rent unless he’s physically there would be an easy way out for me. I just hope he understands that would be the definite end of our relationship. I’m really bothered by his perspective but it just solidifies that I don’t want a man who thinks like this.

chanzep
09-21-2022, 01:30 PM
That's really rude he's saying A. Unless your underneath him every night your going to be with someone else.
B that he would sell your home not caring where you would live.
This is for someone he wants to marry and have kids with and he expects you to motherhood kids!.
It's disrespectful he's showing he doesn't care about you or your well-being if your not in his bed every night or watching his kids. Disgusting no respect.

My ex is crazy but would pay the rent while he worked away . Even after we properly split he paid because of pandemic. He didn't want me to be homeless.
This isn't husband behaviour he's supposed to take care of you wth . It's insulting after how hard you try to play wife with him and his kids. I would tell him to go and sell the house .

carmen_b
09-21-2022, 01:45 PM
That’s insulting he thinks you are a cheater.
Yuck.

Relationships can survive and thrive even if someone is out of town 7-10 days a month.
How often is this ?
If he took the opportunities you’d be happier !

miss.a.p1600
09-21-2022, 02:28 PM
That's really rude he's saying A. Unless your underneath him every night your going to be with someone else.
B that he would sell your home not caring where you would live.
This is for someone he wants to marry and have kids with and he expects you to motherhood kids!.
It's disrespectful he's showing he doesn't care about you or your well-being if your not in his bed every night or watching his kids. Disgusting no respect.

My ex is crazy but would pay the rent while he worked away . Even after we properly split he paid because of pandemic. He didn't want me to be homeless.
This isn't husband behaviour he's supposed to take care of you wth . It's insulting after how hard you try to play wife with him and his kids. I would tell him to go and sell the house .


I didn’t object when he said this crap.

Im ready to be free from him especially if that’s how he thinks.


That’s insulting he thinks you are a cheater.
Yuck.

Relationships can survive and thrive even if someone is out of town 7-10 days a month.
How often is this ?
If he took the opportunities you’d be happier !

Yes. I would be happier because I wouldn’t be smothered by him and have to deal with his obligations and he could provide better.

I think it’s two weeks at a time.

I’m honestly just reaching my breaking point and in the preparation stages to leave.

chanzep
09-21-2022, 02:53 PM
If he is too lazy to go out of Town and make the money he's supposed to as a father and a husband then he should just say that. Not make out your some wild whore who will disrespect the home. Trying to make you out to be the issue.

He shouldn't be getting married if he doesn't trust the person he claims love. Him saying he would kick you out over nothing says alot. You have done nothing but try to make things work with him. You don't deserve . You were being nice trying to plan things for his family and his kids .

Your will be away from him soon all will be better.

Aurora_Sunset
09-22-2022, 03:08 AM
A thing that really bothers me when I bring up issues with the kids/their behavior, and I think the reason I tend to get kinda "over-the-top" about it, is because my husband never responds to my concerns in what I feel is an "appropriate" way. He never responds to a concern or frustration with saying he'll do something about it- even if it's just talking to them or enforcing something when I'm not home or trying to keep an eye on them. If an intervention doesn't work instantly, that's one thing - they're kids. They take time to learn. But he doesn't even show a thought of trying.

For instance, a couple months ago, I brought home a really old toy from my childhood when my parents were cleaning out my childhood home. It's very delicate, and I don't want it to be played with. I just brought it home with me for nostalgic reasons. I tried to hide it in the back of our closet so my stepdaughter wouldn't even see it, but she did, and, of course, tried to play with it. I told her no, that it was old and fragile, and not a toy to be played with. However, I don't trust her to leave our stuff alone even after she's been told no, because of the way she's been acting lately. So, I tried deep hiding the toy by cramming it into a box - which ended up fucking it up anyway... I saw that last night and got pretty upset about it. I said, "This wouldn't have happened if I didn't have to HIDE this from stepdaughter, if she could just keep her hands off things that don't belong to her." Instead of my husband being sympathetic and saying something along the lines of "I'll have another talk with her about it/I'll keep a closer eye on her when they're here/I'll enforce that she's not supposed to go into our room when we're not in there," he just shrugs and goes, "Well, that's her."

Same thing with the bedwetting without a pullup. I brought it up for weeks with him completely blowing me off, until he saw stepson have an accident for himself when I wasn't home.

If he at least TRIED to come up with a game plan, or actually followed through on me asking him to talk to them/enforce something when I asked, I don't think I would be nearly as critical or snappy when something comes up.

miss.a.p1600
09-23-2022, 07:04 AM
I’m planning on doing A LOT of self care this weekend

Visiting friends, family, making a couple of solo outings.

Thankfully L is chilling out on his clingy side AND taking his kids back to their mom early on Sunday.

I feel slight twinge of guilt that I’m going to a 5 star restaurant, I could invite them along too but I am doing so AFTER his kids go back to their mom. I wish that lady (and L) would invest in those kids more and get them more refined. His daughter isn’t that bad and likes to get dressed up but they’re both extremely picky (constantly complaining about expensive food cooked by highly trained chefs cause their palate is calibrated to cheap junk) and his son is always rough around the edges.

Anywho I’m not concerned about any of them and I’m just going to enjoy my time this weekend.

miss.a.p1600
09-23-2022, 12:04 PM
Ls kids are coming over today. He’s off work.

I’ll be 100 percent honest.

I am getting off work and THE LAST thing I want to do is have to deal with loud needy kids. I may just dip out so I can get some quiet time to decompress after a long day. I REALLY wish he’d be considerate and sign them up for after school enrichment or at the least take them out somewhere instead of having everyone hovering, clinging, hunkering down at this house.

miss.a.p1600
09-23-2022, 02:08 PM
Ls kids are coming over today. He’s off work.

I’ll be 100 percent honest.

I am getting off work and THE LAST thing I want to do is have to deal with loud needy kids. I may just dip out so I can get some quiet time to decompress after a long day. I REALLY wish he’d be considerate and sign them up for after school enrichment or at the least take them out somewhere instead of having everyone hovering, clinging, hunkering down at this house.

Thank heavens I get a 2 hour break before they get here. And Bertha agreed to drop them off AFTER she gets off work.

These people must have taken their “happy” pills or something. L respecting boundaries and Bertha understanding the assignment.

miss.a.p1600
09-24-2022, 07:09 AM
I thought about working from the house today. But with L in a constant pissy state and him/his kids lingering at this house I decided I will work from another location

carmen_b
09-24-2022, 09:06 PM
I definitely feel so lost sometimes. I have been out on the road and been super busy but I feel like I'm not sure if I miss J and it's making me paranoid. I guess it's only been three nights away and I return tomorrow after only 4 nights away.
He's also been sick. It's probably a good time to be apart for a bit.

Sometimes I really wonder about cashing out my home up North and upgrading somewhere ....... like ..... quickly in early 2023.

I guess I can really see two versions of happiness. If he IS happy with me ( with the new and improved me trying harder thing ) and it really FLOWS I think I can be happy that way.

I also see kind of an alternative way of just being SOLO for a year or two in order to really crack into WHAT I WANT ( mostly travel it always is hahaha ).

Maybe I just miss my family. I added on a day to the trip to get a little more time with them ( and also because day 1 was a crazy 6-7 hour driving day, day two was like 4 hours, and day three was a totally absurd 8 hours driving and 2-3 hours out with clients ). I was exhausted and really needed to limit driving to an hour today. :/

I need to work with my therapist on ways to just not DREAD the days his daughter shows up. She really doesn't do anything that terrible! It's more like I get bored that my life is a "family life " for a few days . I think he catches those vibes ( my anxiety ) and assumes I'm " not the right fit " at times . If I'm acting really enthusiastic it feels like I'm faking things but maybe I need a little fake it till you make it type of energy. He's doing A TON of what I asked for too ( being mindful of keeping the house quiet , letting me know ahead of time when I WILL get quiet time alone, ect. ) !

kimbe
09-25-2022, 12:30 AM
Maybe I just miss my family. I added on a day to the trip to get a little more time with them ( and also because day 1 was a crazy 6-7 hour driving day, day two was like 4 hours, and day three was a totally absurd 8 hours driving and 2-3 hours out with clients ). I was exhausted and really needed to limit driving to an hour today. :/


Take care, that's a tough schedule!
Earlier I used to take this crazy busy trips, but now I will usually leave on the afternoon the day before and rather take the costs of an extra night.

miss.a.p1600
09-25-2022, 05:25 AM
I thought about working from the house today. But with L in a constant pissy state and him/his kids lingering at this house I decided I will work from another location

Got several hours free from him/his obligations and when I got back to the house, he left and took them with him.

Helped me get a couple hours of self care without them in the way.

I was about to praise him. And I’m glad he stepped out of the way this part of the day.

But of course he does something stupid and cancels out the positive.

I wake up this morning and he rushes out of the house to workout. Leaving his kids here. Granted they are asleep but I don’t like the fact (and I have told him I don’t like it) he up and leaves them kinda forcing his agenda and kids on me.

he works out daily now so staying with his kids when he has them is the right thing to do. These aren’t my kids and it’s not my parenting time and idk if they’re in they’re rooms doing nothing, it’s the principle. Bitch why are you constantly forcing yourself and your kids onto me???

so to me this is yet another boundary violation.

i was going to change my brunch and invite him along but this right here has me changing my mind. I’m going out solo fuck him.

miss.a.p1600
09-25-2022, 06:12 AM
It really annoys tf out of me when L lets his kids stay up all damn night, eat junk food late night, and leave crumbs dirty plates in the kitchen.

carmen_b
09-25-2022, 07:24 AM
Yes, I stayed and just lingered around my home town haha for 24 hours to get that one day where I only had to drive an hour.

I underbid the job but I'm just so precise ( basically if I say I'm doing it .... yep .... I'm doing it haha ).

I think I remember those clients booking like 8-9 months ago too just when the business was starting to come back. I was grateful for EVERY retainer paid at that point ( probably a factor why I under quoted ). I think I had my eye on the trip just being a low profit but FUN trip with partner and that didn't work. It's find enough for the business I guess. It will make us look " fancy " that we were in demand that far away and get nice content up for marketing.

I looked into flights and flight / hotel / car for 48 hours ( all I needed to get the job done ) was about $950.
I did it for $280 haha ( $200 in gas and $80 hotel ) !


Take care, that's a tough schedule!
Earlier I used to take this crazy busy trips, but now I will usually leave on the afternoon the day before and rather take the costs of an extra night.

carmen_b
09-25-2022, 07:34 AM
Does his gym possibly have a kids area ? Mine does.

The working out thing I will always make an hour for ( it's kind of mean to reduce sometimes work out time to under 5 hours a week imo ). Haha. Actually typing that out I realized if he actually has them 2 days it doesn't matter ( my point about it ) ha.


Got several hours free from him/his obligations and when I got back to the house, he left and took them with him.

Helped me get a couple hours of self care without them in the way.

I was about to praise him. And I’m glad he stepped out of the way this part of the day.

But of course he does something stupid and cancels out the positive.

I wake up this morning and he rushes out of the house to workout. Leaving his kids here. Granted they are asleep but I don’t like the fact (and I have told him I don’t like it) he up and leaves them kinda forcing his agenda and kids on me.

he works out daily now so staying with his kids when he has them is the right thing to do. These aren’t my kids and it’s not my parenting time and idk if they’re in they’re rooms doing nothing, it’s the principle. Bitch why are you constantly forcing yourself and your kids onto me???

so to me this is yet another boundary violation.

i was going to change my brunch and invite him along but this right here has me changing my mind. I’m going out solo fuck him.

kimbe
09-25-2022, 09:44 AM
^ Yep, and domestic flights are so expensive now I’ve rarely consider them for trips within a day of driving.

miss.a.p1600
09-25-2022, 07:01 PM
Does his gym possibly have a kids area ? Mine does.

The working out thing I will always make an hour for ( it's kind of mean to reduce sometimes work out time to under 5 hours a week imo ). Haha. Actually typing that out I realized if he actually has them 2 days it doesn't matter ( my point about it ) ha.

Sadly no kids area open on the weekend at these gyms and even if there were (I think I mentioned it before) his ass acted like he was dumbfounded someone else should look after his kid

He’s really just continuously digging his own grave at this point.

Im making a note of this and this is going onto my list of “why are you breaking up with me?”

miss.a.p1600
09-25-2022, 07:30 PM
I definitely feel so lost sometimes. I have been out on the road and been super busy but I feel like I'm not sure if I miss J and it's making me paranoid. I guess it's only been three nights away and I return tomorrow after only 4 nights away.
He's also been sick. It's probably a good time to be apart for a bit.

Sometimes I really wonder about cashing out my home up North and upgrading somewhere ....... like ..... quickly in early 2023.

I guess I can really see two versions of happiness. If he IS happy with me ( with the new and improved me trying harder thing ) and it really FLOWS I think I can be happy that way.

I also see kind of an alternative way of just being SOLO for a year or two in order to really crack into WHAT I WANT ( mostly travel it always is hahaha ).

Maybe I just miss my family. I added on a day to the trip to get a little more time with them ( and also because day 1 was a crazy 6-7 hour driving day, day two was like 4 hours, and day three was a totally absurd 8 hours driving and 2-3 hours out with clients ). I was exhausted and really needed to limit driving to an hour today. :/

I need to work with my therapist on ways to just not DREAD the days his daughter shows up. She really doesn't do anything that terrible! It's more like I get bored that my life is a "family life " for a few days . I think he catches those vibes ( my anxiety ) and assumes I'm " not the right fit " at times . If I'm acting really enthusiastic it feels like I'm faking things but maybe I need a little fake it till you make it type of energy. He's doing A TON of what I asked for too ( being mindful of keeping the house quiet , letting me know ahead of time when I WILL get quiet time alone, ect. ) !

i dread the days L’s kids are here. every single time. I am relieved when They’re gone back because I don’t have to worry about them dirtying up the place and their enabling lazy father getting in my way. I don’t have to get triggered when they’re up all night slamming doors and gaming /tiktoking. I don’t have to listen to them talking loudly, yelling, and whining and see L coddling them into adults that will have a hard time making it in the world.

anyways

i feel like unless the dudes have respect for the boundaries you set, see you as a partner/wife who comes first, and don’t let their guilt override their rational thought process then dreading their kids is inevitable because it means that you have a loss of control, loss of freedoms, expectations (which may or may not be realistic), reminder of the loss of money that should be spent on you but is going to the kid/the ex wife, and how you can’t give any feedback about their “perfect angels” behavior without rebuttals and arguments, etc.

carmen_b
09-26-2022, 09:15 AM
It's nice to see J work focused today.

Just got back into town and feeling good.

carmen_b
09-26-2022, 03:05 PM
He didn’t send the “ I miss you “ on day 4 though.
It’s honestly one of my biggest pet peeves and I’m not sure what to think but I do know he’s been sick.
I mentioned being hurt by it.
I’m not sure if I can “ require “ it ha but it really feels off to me ! Yuck!
He was like “ well you didn’t send feelers or hints this time “ .....
Uh ... I said two weeks ago that for me the I miss you texts are CRUCIAL to me being happy.

carmen_b
09-26-2022, 04:55 PM
He took us for noodles and that was nice.
I think I’m salty the trip was four days and only one was a kid day.
I know I need to spend time though ugh !

carmen_b
09-26-2022, 06:44 PM
I think this time on the lack of the I miss you I'm going to be totally straight. In an hour or so I'll just say " I'm feeling SO turned off and listless that I didn't hear the I miss you thing on this trip ". I'll just give my current state ( feel upset, feel low energy , would NOT be feeling this way if I was emotionally taken care of ).

I'll probably lay it on THICK . I'll tell him I've spent most of the day trying not to cry ( not true .... being pissed sure but no tears yet ).

Maybe I’ll calm down about it soon.

carmen_b
09-26-2022, 09:01 PM
I might take some details down. I feel upset but we did talk about it. He said “ welcome home “ and some other things via text. Granted they didn’t hit for me like “ I Miss You “ but it was something.

Now something else weird is coming up. I thought we had it sorted so I was hinting about fooling around being back on the table .... and he’s going back to his weirdness about not having sex downstairs ( in a room with a lock ) when his 10 year old is sleeping upstairs. That is super weird to me and we probably need to address it with a therapist.

miss.a.p1600
09-27-2022, 06:05 AM
I can totally feel ya Carmen on the emotional end

For weeks L has been arguing with me about every little thing ever since I said I did not want to be responsible for his son nor have his son live here for a month (because I knew a month would be permanent, I don’t want a kid full time that doesn’t respect authority, I don’t want to take care of another woman’s kid unless I’m being FULLY compensated for the hassle)

THEN he still had the audacity to expect sex.

I’m like look dude I’m not fucking you if you’re trying to unload baggage and make my life hard cause you won’t fulfill your role as a man.

How am I supposed to have sport fucking sex (and not charge money) that would be traumatic for me.

There’s a difference between makeup sex and “I hate you but I’m fucking you cause I’m desperate for sex” - nope not going there.

Aurora_Sunset
09-27-2022, 06:12 AM
Bio-mom still freaking out because they're still sending her bills for stepson's appendectomy, acting like insurance didn't cover anything. She keeps calling my husband, pissed off at HIM, basically accusing him of lying about having coverage at that time. Like, bitch, your kids are on 5-7 medications combined. How could you be filling all those prescriptions for them constantly if we didn't have insurance? You KNOW we had insurance. Not sure why they're insisting on acting stupid about it.

But stop freaking the fuck out. It's not like they're gonna come repossess the kid, or stick his appendix back in him if you don't start paying that bill lol

miss.a.p1600
09-27-2022, 07:34 AM
^so they use your husbands insurance and she pays what insurance doesn’t cover?

Aurora_Sunset
09-27-2022, 08:14 AM
^so they use your husbands insurance and she pays what insurance doesn’t cover?

They use his insurance, and then she pays the out-of-pocket cost up to close to $1000 a year. Once she provides the receipts saying she's hit that number, they split the rest 50/50 for the rest of the year. Then it restarts in January.

miss.a.p1600
09-27-2022, 08:27 AM
^well that’s her fault. She should have called and asked for an estimate BEFORE the procedure so she would have known in advance approximately how much it would cost.

She should be mad at herself but instead of being mature and emotionally intelligent she’s projecting and deflecting blame to your husband.

carmen_b
09-27-2022, 08:42 AM
I've calmed down a little but I honestly think that not saying the " I miss you " phrase is emotionally abusive.

I definitely need to hit it home that it can not fly here.
The 24 hour sexual shut down ( so far ) may be cluing him in.

I'm not really sure he is fully understanding it changed the entire energy of my return ( which would have been great ).

Aurora_Sunset
09-27-2022, 09:15 AM
^well that’s her fault. She should have called and asked for an estimate BEFORE the procedure so she would have known in advance approximately how much it would cost.

She should be mad at herself but instead of being mature and emotionally intelligent she’s projecting and deflecting blame to your husband.

It should pretty much be covered. My husband has called the insurance company at least 3 times about it and been assured that yes, they had insurance at the time. Of course, it's health insurance, so they'll keep "screwing up" and "playing dumb."

But I've also suggested MULTIPLE times, every single time she gets this bill, to ask the hospital for an itemized bill. Not only would it probably cut it in half (or more), but if they don't provide it in a certain amount of time, you can dispute the whole bill under the new laws about transparency in hospital prices. Why she doesn't want to take any sensible steps in getting this resolved other than calling and bitching about it to my husband is beyond me.

And yeah, sure, let him know it needs to be addressed again, but she'll BLOW UP HIS PHONE like it's this urgent emergency the second she opens the bill. It's not hexed, woman. Calm down.

miss.a.p1600
09-27-2022, 09:48 AM
I've calmed down a little but I honestly think that not saying the " I miss you " phrase is emotionally abusive.
I definitely need to hit it home that it can not fly here.
The 24 hour sexual shut down ( so far ) may be cluing him in.

I'm not really sure he is fully understanding it changed the entire energy of my return ( which would have been great ).

Men are horrible at taking hints. He’s probably going to
think you’re on your period or something

Shit maybe *Im* the emotionally abusive person in my relationship. I never tell L I miss him. But I guess if your partner expresses that’s what they need and you don’t at least try to provide it then yeah…..

miss.a.p1600
09-27-2022, 09:49 AM
It should pretty much be covered. My husband has called the insurance company at least 3 times about it and been assured that yes, they had insurance at the time. Of course, it's health insurance, so they'll keep "screwing up" and "playing dumb."

But I've also suggested MULTIPLE times, every single time she gets this bill, to ask the hospital for an itemized bill. Not only would it probably cut it in half (or more), but if they don't provide it in a certain amount of time, you can dispute the whole bill under the new laws about transparency in hospital prices. Why she doesn't want to take any sensible steps in getting this resolved other than calling and bitching about it to my husband is beyond me.

And yeah, sure, let him know it needs to be addressed again, but she'll BLOW UP HIS PHONE like it's this urgent emergency the second she opens the bill. It's not hexed, woman. Calm down.

I’d transfer my phone to the local mental health center for 24 hours. Lol!

Berthas be berthin’……..

carmen_b
09-27-2022, 01:57 PM
^ I am on my period haha !

Maybe I was just raging because of THAT and other reasons ( my day job clients have been a clown car full of jack asses this week ) .

I think there IS something to what I'm saying but maybe I was also triggered by other things and over reacting a touch. Maybe.

He did have many OTHER nice things to say like " Welcome Home " ect.

I took him out of sex jail because the trip already put us there for 4 days, yesterday was 5 , and doing 6 would probably make him have a melt down so he's out lol.

carmen_b
09-27-2022, 01:59 PM
I also gave myself permission to just do what I want today .
They get back to house at 4 p.m. and I will probably be at the gym .
Then probably go find a taco tues. deal somewhere.

I just want to chill in silence today ( well headphones lol ).
So I gave myself a pass on today ( told him I'd be out probably 4-6pm ) .

My misophonia is kicking up and it's really not her fault ( braces ) but I hate the imperfect tone of voice with the lisp thing from the braces . It usually doesn't kick up too bad but it did yesterday.

carmen_b
09-28-2022, 12:21 PM
^ Took the break yesterday so I should be able to hang today !

miss.a.p1600
09-28-2022, 12:46 PM
I wish I could throw the whole divorced dad away and just coparent with the ladies here.

Why the men gotta be so difficult

carmen_b
09-28-2022, 01:22 PM
If the two of them just found something to do outside the house 3:30-7 I wouldn’t mind.
Just throwing it out there into the universe haha.

carmen_b
09-28-2022, 04:23 PM
Well I managed to order groceries.
I was attempting to cook or get take out three times a week on average as my " contribution " so J would feel better about the flow of things here.

Now I seem totally frozen upstairs even though a hamburger literally takes 10 minutes to make.

EDIT: We survived ! Haha
He helped make them on the George Foreman and I made some potatoes.

miss.a.p1600
09-28-2022, 08:02 PM
^awesome that y’all came to a compromise

Hamburger and potatoes sound good!

carmen_b
09-28-2022, 10:13 PM
I really am trying to do our food at least three times in the week ( maybe four if one of the batches is big ha ).
He has been generous taking us out so hopefully this will off set some of that cost.

carmen_b
09-29-2022, 08:36 AM
I think I had a REALLY hard time with this visit because I was doing my work trip during the days we would have had the house to ourselves ( roughly Sept. 22-24 ) . I guess I shouldn't call it a huge loss as J was super sick anyway . He's doing better ( bad cold like 6 days and he's taken covid tests coming up negative every time ).

He also brought up the being sick thing as a reason not to say " I miss you " the 4th day of the trip. Like ..... pretend you are NOT sick and say the stuff anyway ! Duh ! Be smarter and tell a lady what she wants to hear !

So ..... a batch of 4 days to ourselves is finally here and I can't wait to enjoy it !