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carmen_b
09-29-2022, 10:34 AM
Does the sound of a quiet house ever get old ?
I can answer that ! NO ! :)

miss.a.p1600
09-29-2022, 03:01 PM
Agreed!

I LOVE a quiet house.

I enjoy my solo time.

No messy people, no loud noises, no boundaries being invaded, no expectations, no obligations——-just freedom and peace

kimbe
09-30-2022, 12:23 AM
^Definitely! Company is fine, but I also enjoy being by myself..

miss.a.p1600
09-30-2022, 10:18 AM
L is working this weekend.

I will rage if he leaves those kids here this weekend while he is at work.

miss.a.p1600
10-01-2022, 02:02 PM
^thank god he didn’t bring them over last night

However he said he was going to tell his ex wife to bring his kids here while he’s at work because now his bitch ass is scared of the area

When I fucking told him several months ago that area is no good.

Whatever I won’t be here cause I wasn’t informed IN ADVANCE

so I will give him the same respect he gives me = NONE! I’ll be out so I won’t have to deal with him or his kids

chanzep
10-01-2022, 02:09 PM
His kids live in the hood then he has to go there. He's being ridiculous . Tell him to go get them.

chanzep
10-01-2022, 02:10 PM
Let him wait until after work and give you more time. I agree give him respect he gives you none. I would go out tonight and ignore him.

miss.a.p1600
10-01-2022, 02:41 PM
His kids live in the hood then he has to go there. He's being ridiculous . Tell him to go get them.

THANK YOU!

This is exactly my point. His bitch ass ain’t scared. not after I complained about being in fear of gun violence in this city and pushing his big slow ass to get a move on that higher paying job and he gaslights me saying “oh there is violence everywhere” “I don’t live my life in fear”

So when his son “allegedly” witnessed gun shots he launches into “no one should have to live in fear” “I feel for my poor son he is scared”

i wanted to hit him with his line “oh there is gun violence everywhere” “he should continue on and not live his life in fear”

I think he’s doing the shit on purpose knowing I don’t want them here unless he’s here. If he really is scared then he needs to do what I asked and move his big slow ass into higher paying jobs to live in better areas.

I honestly think he’s just Acting like a petty passive aggressive bitch cause I won’t fuck him.

well I won’t fuck you cause you won’t provide to a satisfactory level, you try to make me spend ALL my free time with you (and you act like an ass) helping you take care of your kids, you don’t lead and when I take the lead you don’t listen, AND now you act like a pissy bitch

He needs therapy.

Im tired of wasting my free therapy minutes on someone who acts clueless to womens needs, not trying to change.

Bruh is straight up acting like an incel and Bertha can have his ass back

miss.a.p1600
10-01-2022, 02:47 PM
Sorry but I don’t have any sympathy for his son not after the way he refused to show any empathy for me for THE EXACT same issue.

I also think his son is lying because his son is trying every trick in the book to live here. Getting into fights with his mom, doing horribly at school, nothing working so he pretends to see gang members shooting and thinks L is now going to come rescue him.

All I can think is you’re raising your son to be a weak little bitch. He should be training to be the “man” of the house and instead he is encouraging him to be fearful and leave two females behind.

Unless his son was actually a victim of gun violence he does not need to live here because he is constantly scared. His mother should have acquired better housing and L knew those kids were going to that area with here yet he never objected.

Guess those kids going to be scared again, they can have this house at night by themselves cause I’m peacing out tonight.

chanzep
10-01-2022, 06:21 PM
Sounds like his son is learning his ways. After You move out he can move in!.

miss.a.p1600
10-01-2022, 07:48 PM
Let him wait until after work and give you more time. I agree give him respect he gives you none. I would go out tonight and ignore him.

Went out this evening and enjoyed a meal…..by myself. It was great. No obligations no baggage.

L claimed he was going to adjust his attitude but I can’t help but think he’s going to be right back to his antics in another few days.

You’re right chanzep I gotta get out of here before his son (learning from his manipulative parents) fakes a crisis and lands over here permanently without my consent. I refuse to have some overgrown ass male teenager disrespecting my authority, wasting my electricities, eating my food, disrupting my peace, and being a bump on a log.

Ima leave his ass faster than he can say “my son is staying here”

I can barely deal with L everyday let alone deal with his son.

chanzep
10-01-2022, 08:37 PM
I'm glad you had a nice night out.
He's probably saying he will adjust his ways so he can try for sex. Leave him some lotion . He is who he is. You known him for what 2 years? You encourage him to get a better job and his answer is to insult and threaten to kick you out. I don't get the moving in of the son. You said he doesn't discipline so what the point!. He's expecting you to look after him. I bet he won't want the son there once your gone.The child needs to be with his mother not move because he's being bad . He shouldn't be teaching him to plot and manipulate .
Don't worry just imagine yourself in your new place deciding which guy to let take you out . Or even just chilling in peace after a successful week making money.

miss.a.p1600
10-02-2022, 05:53 AM
Agreed. Especially your last paragraph.

I confess I can’t wait until his kids go back and he is back to work

carmen_b
10-02-2022, 07:38 AM
^ I agree. When you move out and L puts it together that women are REALLY turned off by full time kids ..... the son will just " magically " go back to the Moms at least half time.

carmen_b
10-02-2022, 07:45 AM
Good and Bad to report here.

I'll share the good first. I was shooting with a photographer in Vegas yesterday and we had done the nice hotel room thing the night prior.
SO LOVELY . The place is amazing.
We carved out about 24 hours to spend there ( roughly 4p.m. Friday to 4 p.m. Sat. ) via a late check out .

Then we had an incident.
J was taking some pics of me on the way out of the casino hotel ( our stuff to the side as we are on out way out ) ..... and this woman comes up and offer to take our picture. She takes SUCH A CUTE one of us and is super friendly but drunk . My patience is dying for the drunken convo but she is flight crew and we get to talking. I'm just kind of over it minutes later but she is still there after 6-7 minutes ( and I'm not getting the pics I want during this time ha ). That is why she was a witch I think. She ends up kind of pushing adding her on FB on us ha and it sparks J's mind that he doesn't have one . Minutes later we are having a yucky conversation in the parking lot while my make up I just did for the shoot is in danger of melting off my face ! He brings up on the way down that he misses FB and wants to have his back up and I'm immediately like " ok are you unfriending the ex ? " . He wasn't "sure" about which direction.

He hasn't put it up but I still feel like for me this is a HARD line. I do not want her to be able to put a comment up or interact with him at ALL on there . He is tech savvy and could hide all our photos from her easily enough but FB is notorious for changing settings up and not having things as private as you think. I explained to him that I wanted a " privacy bubble " and made the motion with my arms showing how she should be OUTSIDE the privacy bubble. I think it might have helped to explain things. I am really dreading having this subject potentially come up in the next few days.

Yuck.
I just feel like this carried over into my shoot . I see *why* the subject was brought up ( this lady is in our face at the moment ha ). I told him it was in poor taste to get into the convo as I'm on way to try to do something creative that I RSVP'd for 4 weeks ahead.

I just hated that . I wish we have just said " no thanks " to her idea of taking the picture of us. Then we wouldn't have had this uncomfy chat ruining THAT particular day.

miss.a.p1600
10-02-2022, 08:50 AM
^i hate that. Just when ya think things have been resolved and they pull a 52 fake out.

Dudes be having LONG memories.

And men simply don’t care about starting arguments/disturbing your mental state right before you have something important to do/somewhere to be.

carmen_b
10-02-2022, 08:54 AM
^ I had taken him gambling ( we left UP yes ) and he had drinks.
I'm hoping it's just a blip and maybe he wasn't thinking.
I was feeling panicked and it hurt the vibe of my shoot but I pushed through . I'm not a flake so if I RSVP for a project I will be there on time and ready.

I pretty much told him in the parking lot I'm not sure I could deal with it.
I would *try* though to keep an open mind about having a conversation about it .

J can be a pushover and the drunk ladys energy was also affecting me.
He was listening to her rambling stories and not helping me shut it down.

I just can't really picture it ( the lack of privacy ).
I told him if it happens I will add her also and be friendly.
I really don't want that lol. I want the " two separate houses " and total privacy vibe.

I'm not sure he is really putting all the pieces together. It's not *awesome* that she is taking $2500 out of our household per month but I don't think it much when it's all " out of sight and out of mind " . I do want to see what other people think.

miss.a.p1600
10-02-2022, 08:59 AM
L barged in and claims “me and the kids are heading out in an hour…. You’re welcome to come if you want”

Um thanks (you finally get the picture that sitting on your flabby ass letting these kids lay around this house like bumps on a log is a waste and an annoying intrusion of my space) but no thanks (see below).

Not feeling the kid thing today. I’m still in self care mode after dealing with his shitty comments and behavior the past few weeks. Plus I’m more focused on the hustle up and out since playing housewife is not something he appreciates or comprehends how it would benefit him.

Mf you want someone to help you pay bills well then Ill pay my own bills but I refuse to be feminine for you (no free childcare, no “family” time, my off time is mine to do as I please, and btw I’m too tired for sex)

Hearing his kids talking loud as fuck and slamming doors and Im and beyond ready for them to head out.

carmen_b
10-02-2022, 09:39 AM
^ He got them OUT and he invited you so you are not excluded which is pretty good behavior ( it doesn't excuse the other weirdness but still ha ).

I am feeling relieved vibes that his daughter will only be here 3 - 8 p.m. basically Mon, Tues., Wed. ( for my calendar ) in the next 6 days. Since I don't do any morning stuff ( he gets up earlier and starts work earlier and I start at 8:15 ) they are already gone in the mornings to drop at school. I do feel guilt sometimes for enjoying the " lighter " impact weeks but it is what it is I guess. Summer was ultra heavy impact .

miss.a.p1600
10-02-2022, 10:42 AM
^Giiirl IMO dealing with divorced dads AND their kids is HARD MF work.

If I ain’t being properly compensated, I spend less and less time entrenched in it.

carmen_b
10-02-2022, 10:52 AM
^ I AM somewhat properly compensated .

I hope we don't have to have a convo this week at some point about this stupid subject after we supposedly squashed it last March ? I REALLY don't know if I can do it ( on the off chance he pops it back up and won't unfriend her ). When I packed my stuff in March and went to the AirBnB I was prepped to stay there for DAYS or ongoing when he wouldn't take my request seriously last time. Just put the damn thing up ( maybe a new one ) and start fresh ? She won't even know there is a new one for a bit and he could block so she doesn't really even find out I think.

When I left it wasn't a threat ..... it was stepping out of a situation that I COULDN'T DO since I viewed it as massive disrespect to me. I don't really see myself able to do this even if I try to keep an open mind. I really just can't see it.

carmen_b
10-02-2022, 04:59 PM
^ He hasn't brought it up today .
God just be smart and LEAVE IT ALONE J !
For the love of Jeebus just do the easy thing on this one.

I'm really not sure what to do on it honestly .... I kind of want to pretend the parking lot convo didn't happen.

I guess on one hand I do kind of see the logic of ushering in a new more friendly vibe.
It will include ALL of us being connected though if it comes to that !

miss.a.p1600
10-02-2022, 08:11 PM
What I mean by compensation is not necessarily financial but it can be. It can simply be a lady having all or most of her needs met. If her needs are financial then yes

miss.a.p1600
10-03-2022, 08:13 AM
L took his kids back at a decent hour before nightfall (like he should have been doing in the first place when I first suggested it but got gaslit when I said anything)

Thank god I only had to deal with them a day and night.

L makes their presence unbearable by trying to force me to spend all my off time losing brain cells with them, not making them clean, etc.

But thankfully his son and daughter stopped taking showers here so I don’t have to worry about that lately. And thank heavens he took them OUT.

He better not dare ask they spend the week here on Fall break. Idgaf if their home is located the new Gang Headquarters. They better go to auntie and grandmas house.

He’s still pissing me off by not planning those kids being here and I really didn’t like how he acted like a weak bitch too scared to go pick up his kids in the hood at night but that’s where your kids sleep at night though. Wtf kind of leadership is that? But since I left that night and did my own thing. And he didn’t dare hassle me like he usually does. I’m not as concerned

carmen_b
10-03-2022, 01:25 PM
^ It honestly sounds like he is finally learning ( maybe not happily ) that the work of parenting is on HIM.
Crazy idea right .... that HE as the actual parent should be doing it ? Lol.

carmen_b
10-03-2022, 01:27 PM
I was able to talk about my concern over the potential FB thing with therapist today and it was nice to talk about it ( AND other things ).

Everyone in this situation NEEDS therapy ! Book your appts. now haha.

miss.a.p1600
10-03-2022, 01:46 PM
^ I agree. When you move out and L puts it together that women are REALLY turned off by full time kids ..... the son will just " magically " go back to the Moms at least half time.

When divorced dads with kids DELUDE themselves…….

miss.a.p1600
10-03-2022, 01:49 PM
I was able to talk about my concern over the potential FB thing with therapist today and it was nice to talk about it ( AND other things ).

Everyone in this situation NEEDS therapy ! Book your appts. now haha.

I NEED mine. But my go-to therapist only has times when I’m on the clock.

FML!!!

carmen_b
10-03-2022, 01:49 PM
^ yes, no one looks at full time kids like " this will be a great deal for me " hahaha.
Plus it's just not fair. If both parents are able bodied and sane ( enough ! ) a time SPLIT is what is fair.

Having 45% here ( 14-15 days a month ) I value EVERY day it is adults only around here.

chanzep
10-03-2022, 01:52 PM
Carmen I understand you not wanting him to be friends with ex on Facebook . I don't think it's necessary . They communicate via phone I'm guessing for childcare stuff?

miss.a.p1600
10-03-2022, 01:57 PM
^ It honestly sounds like he is finally learning ( maybe not happily ) that the work of parenting is on HIM.
Crazy idea right .... that HE as the actual parent should be doing it ? Lol.


^ yes, no one looks at full time kids like " this will be a great deal for me " hahaha.
Plus it's just not fair. If both parents are able bodied and sane ( enough ! ) a time SPLIT is what is fair.

Having 45% here ( 14-15 days a month ) I value EVERY day it is adults only around here.

Girl his ass thought he could get over on me having me cook, clean, take care of his damn kids, fuck him into oblivion every day, and do ALL the work FOR FREE.

Plus he was trying to be cheap (do all the childcare himself) to get out of paying his ex wife child support. Really dumb imo. Those kids need someone who will PROVIDE for them not just sit around the house all day.

With the help of ladies of stripper webs I stood my ground and held my boundaries and he backed tf up.

Knowing his ass he’s probably plotting his next burden the throw on me.

chanzep
10-03-2022, 01:58 PM
He better hire a au pair of maid! And maybee sex services too!

miss.a.p1600
10-03-2022, 01:59 PM
Carmen I understand you not wanting him to be friends with ex on Facebook . I don't think it's necessary . They communicate via phone I'm guessing for childcare stuff?

I agree.

You know my opinion.

Facebook is the devil! Lol.

I refused to add L on FB because I already knew what type of mess that would turn into. So I feel ya

miss.a.p1600
10-03-2022, 02:02 PM
He better hire a au pair of maid! And maybee sex services too!

Agreed. Men totally be trying to get over in every aspect of a woman’s life. And damn….. Wtf is wrong with these men thinking sex is owed to them ?

carmen_b
10-03-2022, 03:03 PM
I obviously agree and feel it isn’t needed!
They coparent fine and send pictures ect.

Carmen I understand you not wanting him to be friends with ex on Facebook . I don't think it's necessary . They communicate via phone I'm guessing for childcare stuff?

carmen_b
10-03-2022, 06:53 PM
I think J was salty because I sent to the noodle place ( our Monday tradition ) but I didn't drive with him. So he couldn't take an edible.
I wonder if he will say something about it lol .
If I had to place money on it..... it's so hard to tell ......maybe 50 / 50 , ha.

Then I went to the pedicure place next door since I had my own car.
I think the woman maybe had a 6th sense that I needed to get away because she let me linger in the massage chair forever without even coming and giving the " they are dry " ( ahem get moving ) vibes. I was there over an hour easily.

Meanwhile a woman in my step mom group worked a 11 hour shift and the next morning BAKED a cake for a kids b-day.
I told her she should have sent her partner to the STORE for a cake.

chanzep
10-03-2022, 07:24 PM
I'm sure he will be fine.

Baking and working long shifts!, For step kids ! . No way I would only do that if a single mother. These men are too lazy. Women need to demand more .

As for men thinking they are just entitled to sex! They are not. Men have been paying for it since the beginning of time. Either in cash or by providing. This podcast weird men's groups generation think they are owed. I don't think so most of them are useless and can't even do traditional manly things yet they expect housewife

that work too while raising kids. Ridiculous .

carmen_b
10-03-2022, 07:39 PM
Exactly
They pay their partner by being a provider ( better providers get better looking partners ). This has been going on forever ha.

Or just give a lady some $$$$$ lol.

carmen_b
10-04-2022, 10:34 AM
^ He didn't mention the separate cars .... yet . Haha. I really hope he doesn't because he doesn't *have* to take an edible before every dinner. What is with people ?
I LOVE food stone cold fucking sober.
LOVE it.

carmen_b
10-04-2022, 10:36 AM
I think this week will actually be pretty easy .
Today with might see a pirate ship (haunted) thing and tomorrow she has a play date at the house.
He knows that is an auto " I'm out " type of situation so I can book something for myself tomorrow.
Doing my " roughly two days a week " thing has been working out really well .

EDIT TO ADD :
I'd actually like today to myself too haha but since I only saw them for an hour at dinner yesterday so I'm going to try to visit to visit at least an hour today. I just feel sick with this cold. I'd LOVE to just watch a couple movies right after 5:15 and go get some take out lol. J just doesn't do SUPER lazy days like that. I think it's one of the hardest challenges of living with him , ha.

I've found that if I NEED to be lazy at a specific time and have my heart set on it something local that isn't IN the house is best like a movie theatre. Driving to my AirBnB ( I think it's vacant today ) takes 30 -35 minutes each way.
The drive plus gas ( I think it's like $14 now to get over there in my SUV ugh ) off sets the relaxing.

carmen_b
10-04-2022, 03:23 PM
^ This is getting a little picky.
Earlier I had suggested the haunted ship for TOMORROW .
Tues. is BOTH taco Tues. AND cheap movie day ..... that's a solo day lol !

But he told me that the playdate was scheduled WHEN I mentioned my idea for tomorrow evening.
Um ..... how long has he known about it ?
That irks me because now I'm paying more for my movie outing tomorrow ha if I go that direction .

carmen_b
10-04-2022, 05:17 PM
I wish they had plans out of the house this evening ha.
They don’t. I’m not sure what saying that is going to do.
I brought them each a taco.

Aurora_Sunset
10-05-2022, 06:49 AM
Went on a bit of a rant this morning, and maybe it's a bit petty, but with inflation the way it is, honestly, it's a hill I will die on lol

My husband spends too damn much on groceries for the kids.

Today, I spent almost $100 on NON-FOOD essentials, and a few cooking basics (like olive oil). And when I was complaining about it, my husband chimed in that "now I know how he feels" because every time he buys groceries for the kids, it's almost $100 for a single weekend to feed them.

That's because he loads them up with junk and brand-name shit that they don't need. First of all, stop spending almost $9 on a 12-pack of soda that they'll inhale in one day. They don't NEED soda. If you really want to treat them, buy them each a single bottle on Saturday and be done with it. I then went on a rant about how they won't eat stuff that isn't the "brand" that they're used to. Honey Nut Cheerios, Ritz Crackers, etc. It's nonsense, and frankly, it's something I think they need to learn. That the off-brand stuff tastes exactly the same in most cases (and in a lot of cases, literally IS the exact same thing, packaged by the exact same company in different boxes), and we don't throw away money on the more expensive stuff just because it's "brand." Stop raising spoiled, bougie kids. And if they're really gonna do the picky kid thing and refuse to eat the crackers or the cereal, then save one box of the brand-name thing and refill it with off-brand stuff before they come over. They will literally not be able to tell the difference, because there is none. But stop throwing away money on this crap when food prices are this high.

carmen_b
10-05-2022, 07:26 AM
^ Totally agree there !
Set ONE soda out per day for each of them.
Put the cheap cereals in Tupperware or the old boxes haha.

carmen_b
10-05-2022, 08:10 AM
I'm just SO on board with this play date plan today because I have the 3-6 p.m. window for myself guilt free. :)
Solo dinner and movie here we come !

carmen_b
10-05-2022, 08:11 AM
J mentioning " I hate school " when we are discussing the haunted pirate ship ( best hours to go ).
WELL ...... I luuuuurrrrveeeeee it !!!
We can save the ship for Sunday since it's ALL school nights this week prrrrrrrrrrrr .

Aurora_Sunset
10-05-2022, 10:07 AM
Reiterated to husband that he needs to start helping with shit around here, like cleaning, on his days off - YES, even when the kids are over - in fact, EPSECIALLY when the kids are over.

He always uses the excuse that he was "busy with them" all day. I told him they're 7 and 10 years old. They're no longer at the ages where they need to be watched and tended to constantly. Stepdaughter spends most of her time in her room, and stepson spends most of his time in front of the living room TV. What is "doing" all day that takes away his ability to do things around the house while I'm at work? The real answer is sitting on his ass with his son. He wants to claim they keep him soooo busy all day, and yet, stepdaughter is the more likely of the two to get into things she's not supposed to and he never even notices until well after she's made a huge mess or ruined something. You're not "watching them all day," dude. So, if you're not going to do that, you may as well make yourself useful.

I'm not saying quality time isn't important, but the things I ask him to do around here would literally take all of 20 minutes to maybe an hour if he was thorough about the whole list of things that need to get done. Why should it be my responsibility to take an hour out of MY time 4 nights a week AFTER WORKING 10 HOURS, to do EVERYTHING, instead of him stepping up and using a couple days on the weekends to do half of it? It's not like he does it even on the weekends they're not here, so he needs to stop using the kids as an excuse.

Maybe this belongs more in the Man Bitching Thread lol

miss.a.p1600
10-05-2022, 10:49 AM
Went on a bit of a rant this morning, and maybe it's a bit petty, but with inflation the way it is, honestly, it's a hill I will die on lol

My husband spends too damn much on groceries for the kids.

Today, I spent almost $100 on NON-FOOD essentials, and a few cooking basics (like olive oil). And when I was complaining about it, my husband chimed in that "now I know how he feels" because every time he buys groceries for the kids, it's almost $100 for a single weekend to feed them.

That's because he loads them up with junk and brand-name shit that they don't need. First of all, stop spending almost $9 on a 12-pack of soda that they'll inhale in one day. They don't NEED soda. If you really want to treat them, buy them each a single bottle on Saturday and be done with it. I then went on a rant about how they won't eat stuff that isn't the "brand" that they're used to. Honey Nut Cheerios, Ritz Crackers, etc. It's nonsense, and frankly, it's something I think they need to learn. That the off-brand stuff tastes exactly the same in most cases (and in a lot of cases, literally IS the exact same thing, packaged by the exact same company in different boxes), and we don't throw away money on the more expensive stuff just because it's "brand." Stop raising spoiled, bougie kids. And if they're really gonna do the picky kid thing and refuse to eat the crackers or the cereal, then save one box of the brand-name thing and refill it with off-brand stuff before they come over. They will literally not be able to tell the difference, because there is none. But stop throwing away money on this crap when food prices are this high.

Im all for having empathy and what not but I HATE when men do this especially when it come to working and spending money.

And men most of the time are wasteful with money especially when it comes to their kids. They act like they have no clue how to bargain hunt or save and they let those kids run their wallet.

Shit ima pull some kid like tactics (tantrums, begging, crying and more) and see if I can run that wallet too.

miss.a.p1600
10-05-2022, 10:51 AM
Reiterated to husband that he needs to start helping with shit around here, like cleaning, on his days off - YES, even when the kids are over - in fact, EPSECIALLY when the kids are over.

He always uses the excuse that he was "busy with them" all day. I told him they're 7 and 10 years old. They're no longer at the ages where they need to be watched and tended to constantly. Stepdaughter spends most of her time in her room, and stepson spends most of his time in front of the living room TV. What is "doing" all day that takes away his ability to do things around the house while I'm at work? The real answer is sitting on his ass with his son. He wants to claim they keep him soooo busy all day, and yet, stepdaughter is the more likely of the two to get into things she's not supposed to and he never even notices until well after she's made a huge mess or ruined something. You're not "watching them all day," dude. So, if you're not going to do that, you may as well make yourself useful.

I'm not saying quality time isn't important, but the things I ask him to do around here would literally take all of 20 minutes to maybe an hour if he was thorough about the whole list of things that need to get done. Why should it be my responsibility to take an hour out of MY time 4 nights a week AFTER WORKING 10 HOURS, to do EVERYTHING, instead of him stepping up and using a couple days on the weekends to do half of it? It's not like he does it even on the weekends they're not here, so he needs to stop using the kids as an excuse.

Maybe this belongs more in the Man Bitching Thread lol

Typical divorced dad - kicking back and chilling on the weekend.

He should Either make those kids help or he should clean up for all 3 of them himself. I’d prefer the former.

smeca
10-05-2022, 11:00 AM
Aurora, ^pretty sure SAHMs do all of this WITH children. That's out of order of him to let you do it all.

Anyway, quality time comes in many forms. I've been learning men bond with others best over doing some problem solving together, overcoming an obstacle. Getting some chores done is an obstacle :) If my bf has jobs he needs to get done on his time off and his daughter is here, he will simply have her join him to help, and teach her in the process.

On cleaning, I have written down all the individual tasks, each take 5 minutes or bigger jobs of 10-15. So I pick one or 2 I have time for and tick it off. Its on my work task manager webpage atm lol, but I'm going to put them on a noticeboard in the kitchen so they can also see what still needs doing and that they are only 5-15min jobs.

Idk if this will help. These weak excuses annoy me bc we tend to get so much done bc it needs doing!!