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carmen_b
01-15-2023, 10:08 AM
^ He did seem to make a plan for Sun. ( just to point out ) !
I think it's obvious he is trying to guilt with the " get rid of " comment instead of saying " I made plan xyz for them " lol !
Like it will even work !

miss.a.p1600
01-16-2023, 08:49 AM
^yeah that was a stupid comment

And no he can never run a guilt trip on me about those kids. His ex wife can run those guilt trips on him but that shit don’t work on me cause those arent my kids that I’m legally obligated to.

The thing is I wouldn’t mind helping him every now and then IF he would chill with forcing it on me without my consent/advanced knowledge/lack of compensation.

The fact that im rarely involved in preplanning is what makes me not want to deal with him or his kids. He’s acting insecure about me not accepting his kids but he’s behaving in a self-defeating way (by forcing his kids on me EVERY weekend/EVERY holiday even when he’s at work, they’re sick, etc)

I’m glad af he made a plan for them besides sitting around this house all mf day. FINALLY used his critical thinking skills to get his childcare needs met without inconveniencing me.

carmen_b
01-16-2023, 09:28 AM
I really SHOULDN'T with this thread lol !
J would say that too. When I suggested the summer activity stuff he would mention " getting rid of her " .
Um ..... well .... letting her linger during our work hours worked SO WELL.

^ You could always ask too.
If he wants your help a few hours mention you had your eye on the nail place or something and could he cover " xyz " . That would drive the point home. :)

I felt like J did that with me over the summer ....
I'm really not going to be involved with how our household runs over the summer ?
His stupid thing where he must have hosted 3-4 play dates without having the parents reciprocate ...... omg ..... just wtf ! I will say he at least told me about those in advance so I could leave.

miss.a.p1600
01-16-2023, 09:48 AM
^yeah im going to start vocalizing my needs if he brings up his parenting/childcare needs

I think he’s going to hit back with “damn I gotta pay for xyz and give you money before you help me with my kids?”

Just like he assumed sex was on-demand/ “free” cause we’re “in a relationship” I honestly think he assumes his nanny services for his kids should also be on-demand/ “free” cause we’re “in a relationship”

Whatever self serving thoughts he’s having Im definitely going to mention it (cause of him/those kids/that ex wife get what they want you best believe I’m going to get what *I* want if I have to help them in any capacity), next time, like you said to “drive the point home”. Good idea.

carmen_b
01-16-2023, 09:51 AM
" Yes , exactly ..... if you cover my nails at place xyz I'll help you a few hours . I LOVE feeling like my man is taking care of me. Plus I want to look good for you. "



I think he’s going to hit back with “damn I gotta pay for xyz and give you money before you help me with my kids?”

miss.a.p1600
01-16-2023, 09:51 AM
I really SHOULDN'T with this thread lol !
J would say that too. When I suggested the summer activity stuff he would mention " getting rid of her " .
Um ..... well .... letting her linger during our work hours worked SO WELL.

^ You could always ask too.
If he wants your help a few hours mention you had your eye on the nail place or something and could he cover " xyz " . That would drive the point home. :)

I felt like J did that with me over the summer ....
I'm really not going to be involved with how our household runs over the summer ?
His stupid thing where he must have hosted 3-4 play dates without having the parents reciprocate ...... omg ..... just wtf ! I will say he at least told me about those in advance so I could leave.

how did you respond to the “get rid of” comment?

i flat out ignored him but in the back of my mind I thought it was weird considering how obsessed he is with being a super mom to those kids. But as you mentioned it was some weird guilt thing he was trying to make me feel.

It’s really stupid they say that especially when you’re trying to help them
enrich their kids lives, have fun, socialize with kids their own age vs wasting time; being inefficient; sitting around all day watching the paint dry

carmen_b
01-16-2023, 09:54 AM
^ I was calm and explained I was trying to create balance not just a " get rid of " vibe.
The prior summer she had 6 hours of scheduled activities out of house a day M - F and it flowed perfectly.
The fact is ...... he knows he fucked up ...... he just was refusing to admit it. He didn't want to face the fact that *because* he helicopters she is not as independent as other 9 year olds . It *was* creating a stressful impact to his work day.
Early summer was the time was business was BACK from covid. No one was getting my time M - F 9-5 without paying for it .
Kids get bored around the house and bored kids are on their worst behavior.
These things like school break camps and summer activities are GOOD for kids.

miss.a.p1600
01-16-2023, 10:30 AM
^at least J acknowledged the fuck up.

Maybe if his kid was older (or if there was a non-working/retired adult helping during work hours) then having them at home all summer would not have been as stressful

The last several months L rarely acknowledges or apologizes when he fucks up

I don’t think he will realize he’s fucking up until after I leave, he goes through a string of women, and comes to the conclusion that he can’t use women as his free nanny and sex slave. No woman wants a man who is so consumed with his kids (expect her to be too) then has nothing to offer after he’s done playing supermom

carmen_b
01-16-2023, 10:37 AM
^ No, ha ..... he DIDN'T .
He would never admit that HIS actions made the summer super difficult.
He *knew* it but he never verbalized an apology.
He probably would have fucked up the previous summer as well but I found her the morning activity and his ex found her the afternoon one. J did nothing ( but once she was signed up he gave her two of the rides required and I did one of the daily rides ).

miss.a.p1600
01-16-2023, 01:35 PM
^thats so sweet of you to offer the driving.

I suppose I’d rather offer a ride than have to attend to them constantly (or get triggered seeing them lounging around/being obnoxious all day with oodles of idle time while I’m hustling my ass off) if they’re around the house.

WendiStarr
01-16-2023, 07:51 PM
Oh gosh.. boyfriend's 13 year old son came right out and said that it makes him uncomfortable that his dad and I are having sex when we're not married. He said that he thinks we shouldn't be doing that because we're not married. I asked if his mom has a boyfriend and I guess she doesn't believe in bringing anyone she dates around the son. Allegedly she believes that no one should ever bring anyone around their son until marriage. What kind of crap is that. Boyfriend said that they had premarital sex before he was born so he doesn't get why he's bothered by it. It all just sounds odd and like this ex wife is pushing some religious shit on the son because I don't know why a 13 year old would even bring that up. I said that I am willing to meet his ex wife ( if really it's her behind this bs as I suspect). I guess she said that she doesn't want to meet me unless I marry him. Why wouldn't she want to meet me when I am clearly not just a one night stand or booty call? My boyfriend has been calling me Mrs. (his last name) and we've been spending a lot of time together, introducing to relatives and such, talking about a future.

miss.a.p1600
01-17-2023, 06:26 AM
^conservatives think this way

I get it. I’m in a conservative area and folks think the same way around here.

Getting married is just one way to ensure either/both of you will be around and not just dip in, cause havoc, then leave after kids/family get attached.

Do you want to marry your bf? I think if you’re gonna be long term, and you envision a family with him, then y’all might as well consider it (or at least get engaged and have him buy you a ring). Hell we ain’t getting any younger.

But of course when it’s the right timing for you and if you truly see a future, not when people are hounding you about it or because of religious/moral guilt.

miss.a.p1600
01-17-2023, 07:32 AM
I’ll admit I am glad I had a weekend free from L and his obligations since he can’t figure out how to send his kids to his/his ex wife’s LARGE family.

Not having to deal with loud ass kids all over the house, not having to share bathrooms, not having to see L coddling those kids while neglecting the house maintenance I asked for weeks ago, was MAGNIFICENT!!!

And Thanks to L and those kids for staying OUT of this house on MLK day. Everyone should experience FREEDOM on the holiday.

miss.a.p1600
01-17-2023, 09:37 AM
L talked about how his weekend with his kids was great and fun.

Bruh good for you!

I do not regret going out of town, avoiding you trying to trample my boundaries/expecting free nanny obligations to your kids while you worked, and totally enjoyed my peace that I knew I wasn’t going to get while your enabling n placating your ex wife !!!!

carmen_b
01-17-2023, 03:21 PM
Wendi :
People have to just " get on with it ".
If they are not actively going to church every weekend there is not reason to act like this ( where adults can't bring more serious relationship around ).
I had that issue with J when he was hesitant to " blend " more. At 7 months together he wasn't making a plan for me beginning to stay over when his daughter was there a couple weeks later. I told him later in the month I'd be seeing other men then if I was only sleeping next to him 15 days a month. I think he had until the day month #8 started to decide.

I mean ... act like a religious nut if you ARE one.
In my case, J has videos out talking about atheism ha ..... so the religious / conservative stuff is not congruent at all. He also has the huge " A " tattoo.

carmen_b
01-17-2023, 03:23 PM
Nice to see you bounced Miss P.
I always liked leaving a couple days on J's daughters 4 days visits.
Like .... holy fuck .... those are LONG visits.

WendiStarr
01-17-2023, 05:17 PM
^ At this point, yes I would marry him if he asked me right now, even though we haven't been together long. Just everything with him has been total opposite of the hell BD put me through. My bf said that he will marry me if we're still together by October but we'd have to figure out the housing situation. I just don't get the religious crap and the whole not wanting to meet me thing. If BD was dating someone and bringing my kids around another woman, I sure as heck would want to meet her because I'd want to know what kind of person is possibly influencing my kids. With my oldest daughter, I met her dad's gf. I get along fine with her because she is actually a sweet lady who has her shit together and doesn't appear to be a drug addict or totally mentally unstable or a danger to my oldest daughter in any way. It gives me peace of mind to know that and I don't know why bf's ex wouldn't care unless she's maybe jealous/not over bf or just doesn't concern herself with anything once the kid is gone back to dad's, an "outta sight, outta mind" type of thing perhaps.

carmen_b
01-17-2023, 07:10 PM
^ I personally loved not meeting / knowing J's ex.

What I needed to know was the pick ups times !
We only met one time when I mistimed leaving to the gym.

In a way though ..... I wonder if she might have warned me about some things .

miss.a.p1600
01-17-2023, 09:57 PM
^ At this point, yes I would marry him if he asked me right now, even though we haven't been together long. Just everything with him has been total opposite of the hell BD put me through. My bf said that he will marry me if we're still together by October but we'd have to figure out the housing situation. I just don't get the religious crap and the whole not wanting to meet me thing. If BD was dating someone and bringing my kids around another woman, I sure as heck would want to meet her because I'd want to know what kind of person is possibly influencing my kids. With my oldest daughter, I met her dad's gf. I get along fine with her because she is actually a sweet lady who has her shit together and doesn't appear to be a drug addict or totally mentally unstable or a danger to my oldest daughter in any way. It gives me peace of mind to know that and I don't know why bf's ex wouldn't care unless she's maybe jealous/not over bf or just doesn't concern herself with anything once the kid is gone back to dad's, an "outta sight, outta mind" type of thing perhaps.


Could be they don’t necessarily care for the relationship (maybes she’s immature or still
hurt by him moving on with your idk) but will tolerate it you’re married bc that’s a “higher ranking” status and shows yall are serious about providing stability and family unit for the kids.

miss.a.p1600
01-17-2023, 10:00 PM
^ I personally loved not meeting / knowing J's ex.

What I needed to know was the pick ups times !
We only met one time when I mistimed leaving to the gym.

In a way though ..... I wonder if she might have warned me about some things .

I ain’t trying to meet Bertha either (unless she acts mature, tells me the cons of being married to this dude [which at this point I’m already familiar], and arranges more activities/family meetups with her kids more often so I/this house can have a break from her kids an occasional weekend) because that broad contributes nothing except providing basic care of her kids on the weekdays as she should.

I was open to it in the beginning but I think L ruined it by putting women against each other to feed his own ego

miss.a.p1600
01-17-2023, 10:11 PM
Nice to see you bounced Miss P.
I always liked leaving a couple days on J's daughters 4 days visits.
Like .... holy fuck .... those are LONG visits.

Yes!!!! No cooking/cleaning after his kids, no loud ass noises/talking, no 2am gaming,

The only way I can be semi satisfied is if I travel out of town SOLO on weekends. As many as my budget will permit. And if I have to stay in town I’m going to leave and go to upscale events that aren’t appropriate for kids or if kids are allowed L would have to do a lot of work/pay costs to spruce up his kids appearance

i know that since he’s starting a new position/need work benefits for his kids, he’s limited on time he can take off and i think he’s too cheap to pay for travel for himself plus two.

miss.a.p1600
01-17-2023, 10:15 PM
Nice to see you bounced Miss P.
I always liked leaving a couple days on J's daughters 4 days visits.
Like .... holy fuck .... those are LONG visits.

Girl I’d lose my shit if L had 50 % custody. I definitely would not live him at all if he did. I ain’t aging before my time dealing with kids who have minimal home training an L is letting tjem
exist free of full training n guidance.

miss.a.p1600
01-18-2023, 06:48 AM
This dude and his ex wife are a complete mess.

Inviting his kids to this house EVERY weekend/holiday to “pacify” his ex wife, then leaves his kids by themselves or tries to pawn them off on me and my family members.

My mom stayed in town a few months back and this fool was like “ima see if your mom can pickup my son from school”

Um did my mom offer to help or you just can’t figure out how to take care of your kids without ditching them off on people who aren’t you’re free babysitter.

Stop being cheap and forcing your agenda (free labor from any female you know who is desperate enough)! Pay for your kids to participate in activities on the weekend and pay your ex wife gas money to take them. Ffs! How hard is that?

This is why your obtuse self will be left in the dust.

carmen_b
01-18-2023, 10:31 AM
Yes I think I was really impressed with what J had pulled off professionally and all logic went out the window. Plus our great sexy chemistry. He let me down here and there with his more casual attitude towards us but I just held on for those things. In many ways we DID work incredibly well together. He actually seemed to lose it hard when my business came back in Spring last year and I didn't have as much time ( I had told him that would happen for months ).

Granted ..... if he would have actually WORKED WITH me on the overwhelm I was feeling without taking so much offense that could have been another option. Oh well.

I'm not great with IG and only have one for my business. I finally figured out how to block him on there . I don't want to see his updates or him seeing what I'm doing.


Girl I’d lose my shit if L had 50 % custody. I definitely would not live him at all if he did. I ain’t aging before my time dealing with kids who have minimal home training an L is letting tjem
exist free of full training n guidance.

miss.a.p1600
01-18-2023, 03:51 PM
Yes I think I was really impressed with what J had pulled off professionally and all logic went out the window. Plus our great sexy chemistry. He let me down here and there with his more casual attitude towards us but I just held on for those things. In many ways we DID work incredibly well together. He actually seemed to lose it hard when my business came back in Spring last year and I didn't have as much time ( I had told him that would happen for months ).

Granted ..... if he would have actually WORKED WITH me on the overwhelm I was feeling without taking so much offense that could have been another option. Oh well.

I'm not great with IG and only have one for my business. I finally figured out how to block him on there . I don't want to see his updates or him seeing what I'm doing.

THIS is exactly how I feel.

These dudes are operating as if they’re bachelors/single dads and get highly offended from any suggestion of how they can be more efficient/better parents for their kids/better partners.

Like I cannot sit back and say nothing about your ex wife PURPOSELY acting like a cunt who herself wants to “get rid of” her own damn kids and thinks this house is her fucking free personal daycare.

I can’t say nothing about those kids thinking this house is their 24/7 respite care from their mom whenever she’s annoying and they don’t want to abide by any rules.

I can’t say anything when I can NEVER get a weekend/holiday/sick day and want a QUIET empty house.

But no those kids ain’t paying bills here, that ex wife ain’t fucking him so why do they deserve rights to this house more than I do?!?

This is the reason it won’t work for me and L either. If he was willing to set some boundaries with his kids and ex wife AND be more generous financially then I could work with him.

But these divorced men with dad guilt are pretty much useless. You’ll always be second fiddle and expected to do more work than it’s worth.

If I ever do marry I want a man who understands and places his marriage first as the main priority not just some sidekick allow for his divorced dad / guilt / overcompensation for his ex wife and needy kids sideshow.

carmen_b
01-19-2023, 09:21 AM
^ I totally could have worked with J if he would have listed to my suggestions to have me " tagged in " for two days a week on average. That was a " lets try this for now " suggestion. It's very POSSIBLE that if I could have had a breather I would have wanted more " family " time after a couple months.
1-2 days a week would be " all him " which seemed fair .
He was just so caught up in this whole " but C doesn't LOVE my daughter " thing .
He went on a text rant too on one of his stupid follow the band trips ( I bet he was on drugs when he sent it ) saying he hoped I would be " an important piece of his daughters life " . Then of course THAT rant was followed up by MORE texting about how I didn't give enough sex ect. ! That toxic entitlement was getting REAL.
He couldn't wrap his head around that exhausting me was NOT a sustainable way to do things.

Um ...... are you forgetting that your daughter has TWO parents, extended family , friends , teachers , coaches , ect. ?
Her world is NOT going to implode if I take a day or two break during the visits. The world will still turn if I'm doing something satisfying for me 1-2 evenings a week.

We actually had a GREAT start with a lot of respect in the house and ZERO arguments or " rough " days of bad interactions .
I personally think he made a huge mistake but I'm just moving on . I do love having the kid free life again.

miss.a.p1600
01-19-2023, 09:33 AM
^ I don’t get why these men try to shove their kid agenda down a woman’s throat vs just ease into things and consider their partners needs just as important as those kids needs.

I am honestly starting to think these dudes just want a free nanny (and take the pressure off themselves [and ex wife that they’re paying cash/alimony]) Fr - there is no benefit to being a step-mother especially just as a gf/fiancé unless dude is making it worthwhile (listening to their partner, implementing feedback and being efficient in their parenting, etc.

If they don’t want to improve their parenting skills to bring peace in the home they share with their partner then they may as well just remain single and hire a nanny and escort.

For J - I think it was not healthy to think sex was going to resolve a problem. Idk why men think this. You may have been able to get him to see your perspective up to 24 hrs post sex but after that, be right back to his pushy shenanigans

miss.a.p1600
01-21-2023, 02:03 PM
Thank heavens!

L asked if his kids could come over at 8pm - before he got off work (at 11pm)

I said not this time because he asked about it super last minute and I wanted my time to unwind after work but of course I made it seem like this was for the benefit of his kids (he shouldn’t have them out past dark, they’re not missing anything especially if he’s not here)

He accepted NO for an answer

So I offered for them to come over early NEXT Friday when I have time to mentally prepare for it.

I also didn’t want him or those kids/ ex wife thinking I was going to sacrifice every weekend. Those kids up in this house while he isn’t here is at MY discretion since I’m the one that has to be responsible. No amount of guilt trips will work on me.

carmen_b
01-21-2023, 02:14 PM
Nice.
He accepted the No and didn’t really lose time with them.
Next Fri.you can make yourself some plans ha.

carmen_b
01-21-2023, 02:16 PM
Oh I thought it was Sunday.
I still get Sun anxiety.
It always meant that either his daughter was there ALL day or it was the last day of our run with just us .
He had 50% of Sundays and always M to W.
My body started to relax realizing its Sat.!

^ Weird how our bodies “ hold “ stuff!!
The day of the week stuff is months old!!

miss.a.p1600
01-21-2023, 07:50 PM
Nice.
He accepted the No and didn’t really lose time with them.
Next Fri.you can make yourself some plans ha.


OMG

totally didn’t think about just up n leaving next Friday before they get here.

i still have a hard time handing them the keys to an empty house on weekends considering even I don’t get that luxury. So they’ll have to deal with me and my rules if they want to come over.

I’ll wait till L arrives so I can “disappear” on ALL of them. Maybe leave in Sunday at 3pm so he gets the hint to take them back EARLY evening (or live that single dad struggle) and I won’t reappear till they’re gone.

I do have to reiterate again early Friday drop offs are on a case by case basis - at my discretion (and implement hella rules so they’ll be less likely to accept and drive me up wall coming into my space being loud n shit) so they’re not expecting it every weekend

miss.a.p1600
01-21-2023, 07:51 PM
Oh I thought it was Sunday.
I still get Sun anxiety.
It always meant that either his daughter was there ALL day or it was the last day of our run with just us .
He had 50% of Sundays and always M to W.
My body started to relax realizing its Sat.!

^ Weird how our bodies “ hold “ stuff!!
The day of the week stuff is months old!!

Girl I am so ready for those kids to go back on Sundays and yes I’m more at peace when they’re at their mothers house where they belong.

A part of me wished their mom would have just stayed out of town like she said she would so that I wouldn’t have to deal with the every weekend/every holiday obligation.

I think I’d rather have the holidays and summer (I’d leave during the summers so I’d only have to deal with the holidays)

But in reality I’d much rather have a man with no kids.

miss.a.p1600
01-22-2023, 09:02 AM
Every. Single. Time. These kids are here in the weekends they are loud af well into the late evening hours.

L is a weak disciplinarian. They are constantly doing what he tells them not to do.

Why tf does he have to tell them to stfu EVERY weekend, every 15minutes?!?

They need to go back to Bertha.

I’m going to leave here soon so I don’t have to deal with their behavior that L is too weak to check. Let his ass deal with it.

miss.a.p1600
01-22-2023, 09:07 AM
I think I’m capped out at dealing with L plus his kids for ONE day and ONE night.

Anything more sends me into “Either they need to go or I need to go”

Honestly I wish it was them cause I’m the one paying bills/working all week and I shouldn’t have to inconvenience myself cause L has no boundaries and weak parenting skills

But this just reminds me of how I need to stick with my plan to get my own space.

miss.a.p1600
01-22-2023, 11:54 AM
L thought it was appropriate to have his daughter in my room while I was gone.

She found a coke under the bed that I was hiding from them so they wouldn’t be sneaking the drinks at night and staying up all night.

Next time yall gone find some dildos, pussy pleasers, and nipple clamps you keep letting that kid poke her nose where it doesn’t belong.

carmen_b
01-22-2023, 11:56 AM
^ Right ?
This women in a stepmom group was asking about keeping kids out of room and I'm like " it should look like an adult store blew up in it " .
Dicks here .... dicks there ...... dicks everywhere ! Lol
One suctioned on the wall , one peeping out of the covers, ha !

miss.a.p1600
01-22-2023, 11:58 AM
^ Right ?
This women in a stepmom group was asking about keeping kids out of room and I'm like " it should look like an adult store blew up in it " .
Dicks here .... dicks there ...... dicks everywhere ! Lol
One suctioned on the wall , one peeping out of the covers, ha !

Ahahahaha!

Good idea!

Got some vibrators and tampons under the bed ….. “horrifying” discoveries for the nosy people who dare poke around under there.

miss.a.p1600
01-22-2023, 04:40 PM
Thank heavens L Consulted with me about his kids being here early while he was at work, accepted NO for an answer, took his kids back PROMPTLY and 4pm AND got them out of this house mid day AND took everyone out to dinner yesterday

I have no clue what has happened to him to make him improve.

Aurora_Sunset
01-24-2023, 12:57 PM
Oh I thought it was Sunday.
I still get Sun anxiety.
It always meant that either his daughter was there ALL day or it was the last day of our run with just us .
He had 50% of Sundays and always M to W.
My body started to relax realizing its Sat.!

^ Weird how our bodies “ hold “ stuff!!
The day of the week stuff is months old!!

I get the same sort of "Sunday anxiety." Either it's Sunday and I'm ready for them to go back to bio-mom's and antsy about "what time are you leaving", or I realize that the kid-free weekend is over.
It really is like a weight has lifted on the Monday after they leave and I realize we won't have them again for 2 weeks, and like a dark cloud has appeared for the entire week on the kid-free Sunday when I realize they'll be here the following weekend. I felt horrible thinking it - I'm glad I'm not the only one.

Aurora_Sunset
01-24-2023, 01:00 PM
Stepson was way better this past weekend.

Bio-mom talked to the school twice, and they're assigning a personal teacher that will be with him all day. He had a really good week, and wasn't shitty and disrespectful while he was here. I put in the effort to sit for a couple hours each night and listen to him when he wanted to show me everrrrrything in his Pokemon game and make me watch play-throughs on Youtube.

Boring as hell to me, but I hope that by showing interest in the things he's interested in, he'll feel more supported over here instead of like a "weirdo."

miss.a.p1600
01-24-2023, 01:55 PM
^Awww that’s so sweet of you to spend more time with him especially knowing how rough he had it at school

miss.a.p1600
01-24-2023, 01:59 PM
I get the same sort of "Sunday anxiety." Either it's Sunday and I'm ready for them to go back to bio-mom's and antsy about "what time are you leaving", or I realize that the kid-free weekend is over.
It really is like a weight has lifted on the Monday after they leave and I realize we won't have them again for 2 weeks, and like a dark cloud has appeared for the entire week on the kid-free Sunday when I realize they'll be here the following weekend. I felt horrible thinking it - I'm glad I'm not the only one.

God I wish L had only every other weekend.

Bertha traipsing her ass back in town with those kids, moving less than 10 min away, running guilt trips on him, acting bitchy towards her kids, and acting extra needy (so L chooses to do 80% of the parenting work) just put a huge black stain on my desire to be with him long term

miss.a.p1600
01-24-2023, 02:01 PM
Carmen what’s the stepparent forum you use (if you want to say) since I’ll definitely need to chat it out with people who’ve been there.

miss.a.p1600
01-25-2023, 11:23 AM
I noticed L’s daughter had her eyeglasses on the kitchen counter and I told L she needed to place them in her room so she will remember to take them with her

He’s like “nah it’s fine”

Then I notice those damn glasses after she’s gone.

Bruh! This is not your kids territory or a cotdamn kiddieland mf! I don’t want their shit laying all around when they’re here and definitely not when there not here.

I don’t want to see or hear or think about those kids until the fucking weekend (and I barely want to deal with them then).

I wish Bertha would go out of town like she said in the beginning…..and take her kids with her.

carmen_b
01-25-2023, 11:29 AM
I know. I've been straight up jealous of Auroras stuff before ha knowing it was 4 days a month instead of 15.


God I wish L had only every other weekend.

Bertha traipsing her ass back in town with those kids, moving less than 10 min away, running guilt trips on him, acting bitchy towards her kids, and acting extra needy (so L chooses to do 80% of the parenting work) just put a huge black stain on my desire to be with him long term

miss.a.p1600
01-25-2023, 11:32 AM
^another time I discovered his daughters glasses on my desk and I handed him the glasses and he was like “just let her leave them there”

Um why tf does this dude think it’s okay to let his daughter litter my WORK desk

I said NO this is my work desk please do not let your kids in my work area and handed the glasses back to him.

Bitch! Accept your noncustodial parenting role and sit down somewhere

miss.a.p1600
01-25-2023, 04:04 PM
Lordt Jesus please help me figure a way to make more money + maintain my sanity till I can walk tf out.

Note to self: NEVER settle; say what you want

miss.a.p1600
01-25-2023, 04:06 PM
This dude was rushing me off the phone so he could talk to his kids.

…..the same kids that call incessantly every single day 9 times out of 10 to ask him to buy something

Look just don’t even call me, talk all day and night to your kids (cause that’s who you’re in a relationship with) while I line up my next sugar daddy

carmen_b
01-25-2023, 04:06 PM
This lifestyle isn’t worth it even with a very generous partner..,

( I’m talking 50% custody )
I bet I could have done the 4-8 days a month things easier but who knows . :/

miss.a.p1600
01-25-2023, 04:12 PM
^yeah I’m still mad at J for acting like some entitled twat and he’s delusional if he thinks the average woman is going to put up with that crap.

You tried your best to be good to him and his kid so you’re lucky you left him when you did because he seemed to take you for granted many times from what you described

L is next.

Divorced dads with kids are the LAST ones to be acting like they’re the prize.

Um having no peace when I want, having no control in my own home that I pay bills in, adjusting my entire existence around some kids I have no rights to/can’t disciple/don’t listen or respect you cause they most likely have a cunt for a mother, yet they have all rights in my relationship is almost feeling like so inferior it’s depressing af yet these men are level 10 delusional to think being with them n their headache filled baggage is the pinnacle of a woman’s existence