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Devastating Divyne
10-16-2003, 01:36 PM
The borrowing: stop lying and swearing right after you ask to borrow something that 2morrow you are going to Kmart, walmart, walgreens to buy your own. I work every now and then and I refuse to believe that in two weekends you haven't made enough for a box of baby wipes.
If you borrow something (geez I must like you): don't make me hate you when I come back to work and somebody else has my shit on. Newsflash: just b/c I don't work everyday doesn't mean I'll never come back and see it. What I started doing is holding one of their nicer outfits for collateral from anybody who borrows from me that way I don't get too burned.
The trolling pervert row thing: down in the mid-south and a few other select places its acceptable and not a faux pas at all, but in lots of places is a definite no-no. If a girl is new, don't assume she knows and automatically bitch her out.
Don't ask me to borrow or give you any of my prescription medication so you can get a buzz on or get slung. I don't care if you pay me, I need it for medical stuff not getting high. What exactly do you need to *borrow* my Nasocort for? If I was interested in getting high I'd put blow up my own nose, not allow you to use my nasal spray and then use it after you've used it to clear out ur own cokey nose and left residue in there.
There is no such thing as borrowing a tampon or baby wipe, like when you buy your own you're going to give me just one back.
When you have used so much hair spray that you have those little mist beads on your hair and noone in the dressing room can see five feet in front of them, you've used more than enough. Do not run your fingers through your hair and then go out and do polework afterwards. We're all gonna either stick to it or slip off of it.
The newbie lost and found is self explanatory. It is not for tired ass hoes who don't wanna buy their own costumes. Its for the newbies who come in wearing Kmart bra and panty sets that we are trying to help out. If lazy girls take out all the outfits there's nothing left for new girls.
Veronika
10-16-2003, 01:55 PM
I have to relate the "attack stripper" story.
This actually happened when me and my boy and another female friend went as customers to the Men's Club here. This girl (beautiful girl, btw) finally sits down with us and immediately starts telling us how she got out of jail that morning (between gum snaps) in explicit detail - I was very glad to know that she was free of lice [puke]. Every third word was an expletive, I swear. Without anyone asking for a dance (it happened to be my girl friend who was along that wanted one), the new song starts and she shoves my boyriend, unasked, back into his chair and gives him a bored airdance. To add insult to this whole affair, she stands up when she was done and just held her hand out waiting to be paid then walks away. We haven't been back and won't be as customers.
She to this day is known as the "attack stripper" and cab drivers re-tell the tale.
NYCjacqueline
10-16-2003, 02:46 PM
Gotta agree with the makeup thing. The housemom brings in a ton of makeup and girls still ask to borrow things.
Another problem is girls who demand tips on stage (don't know if someone mentioned this or not). I know of 2 girls who used to do this, and it was not only tacky, but embarrassing. One girl stomped her foot on stage and said "Look at me!" and then bent down and pointed at the guy to tip her - she was basically pissed that no one was paying attention to her.
eek.
lestat1
10-16-2003, 02:54 PM
Many strippers have BAD MANNERS :P. It's unknown if they do it on purpose or they don't know the rules, but the sooner you learn the better!T his is stuff to avoid us stepping on toes and pissing off our colleagues.
Like these:
1. Don't feed all of your desparate sob stories to customers.
2. Never call out a manager in front of a customer.
3. Unless you are attacked, avoid hitting customers.
4. Don't take up the whole make-up counter
etc.
Girls/customers-know any more?
Kisses
Juliette de Sade
Good thread! We could probably use one for customers that combines all of the other posts & threads on the topic. Anyway, after reading some posts in other threads (and being a smart-ass) I feel the need to point out that #3 above, rather than being a rule is really more of a law. It's just a pet-peeve of mine...the number of men and women I see/hear who think it's okay to hit someone just because they may deserve it or are offensive. Oh well...at least I learned something new: "checking one's ass for TP lint." :D
velvet
10-17-2003, 04:31 AM
[email protected]'s post. good one
Juliette_deSade
10-17-2003, 04:50 AM
Don't do your friggin' drugs out in the open! I'm not suggesting that you guys do drugs, but my GOD! What a pet peeve it is for me when A customer makes a funny face and says "Hey do you smell that????"
Also, please...no asking another girl if you can touch her breast. Implants or not. No girl really wants to be groped like a lab subject. We gotta deal with enough of that on the floor to just have a random chick in the dressing room tell us "Hey you have GREAT TITS!!!! can I feel them?"
Fuck that noise.
Don't blow your nose out there if you have a cold. Sounds weird, but I see that a lot. Hmmm.
Lestat, Lestat. What a funny hairy guy.
Juliette de Sade
sol_de_pr2
10-17-2003, 05:21 AM
Hmm, thought I had posted something here last night...
Emily
10-17-2003, 05:26 AM
actually, I wish girls with colds wouldn't show up to work, but I know that will never happen....and I know why
doc-catfish
10-17-2003, 05:35 AM
This is probably an obvious one, but after my trips to Vegas to OKC, I have to speak out on alcohol usage by dancers while on the job.
If a gal has a drink to loosen up, then thats fine, but if she NEEDS a drink (or other intoxicants) to loosen up, she's clearly in the wrong line of work.
Another thing since were on the subject of intoxication.
When you're in the VIP room, private dance area, etc with a customer, PLEASE don't act in a noisy and obnoxious manner that is going to disturb your co-workers ability to do her job for her customer. A gal dancing for me in OKC had to give a not so subtle hint to her clearly inebrated co-worker next to us, that screaming the lyrics to Pearl Jam's "Alive" (the song being played) was messing up her concentration. ::)
azuredee
10-17-2003, 05:31 PM
Just a few more comments from my experience...
Clean your hands after applying lotion. I'm a pole monkey and would rather not break my neck.
If your ass, stubble, etc. itches, scratch it in the dressing room, not on the floor.
Wash your hands after peeing. I don't care how much hand sanitizer (sp?) is in your locker back in the dressing room.
Asking aside...do not go through my bag and use my things while I'm out on the floor. I HATE walking in and seeing some new girl going through, trying on, using my things and saying 'oh, is this yours?'.
Do not chew gum on stage.
Do not lay across the stage, picking your nails, and then go and bitch to everybody about your sucky day.
This is a job that can be very entertaining and a great time for everyone involved. Have fun or find something else to do for work.
DAISYlicious
10-17-2003, 08:57 PM
If you don't want to lend your stuff out, just say "I would but it's not mine."
It's an easy out.
Bella21
10-18-2003, 07:27 AM
Wow... I can't BELIEVE how many posts there are on borrowing stuff! I can't believe girls do that so much. I don't care if they want to borrow my lotion or baby wipes but I think it's really weird when someone needs to borrow your shoes or outfits :( Yck.
NawtyGirl
10-19-2003, 05:13 PM
My biggest pet peeve lately is when girls ask to use my cell phone, like there isn't a PAY PHONE in the club to use. Or even worse, when I see them on their own cell phone earlier in the shift, talking away until their battery runs down, and then want to use mine next!
I don't mind letting someone use my phone in like a life or death emergency, but yelling at your boyfriend, drug dealer, kids, chatting with your friends etc. is not one of them. Pay your own phone bills and get a damned cell phone charger!
I have never, ever lent out or borrowed stuff like shoes or panties. Yuck!
Devastating Divyne
10-19-2003, 08:12 PM
This reminds me of two things: People who ask do you have an extra (fill in color) gstring that I can borrow. Or the person who lends an outfit and offers the matching panties like the person would actually wear em. You'd be surprised how many people actually do though.
The phone thing: b/c I am in school and on the highway a lot I have a shitload of minutes. Like 3000 day and unlimited nites and weekends. Somebody always wants to borrow my phone which is no big deal b/c long distance is free and most people usually tip me to use it. The thing that kills me is how on weekend nites people will call me back, i don't have a memphis number, from a memphis or tn phone at like 6am or 8am asking who is this or what area code is this. Or worse yet, the ones who ask to speak to some dancer like I put the bitch in my purse and brought her home with me so at 8am when I'm winding down, taking a bath, eating breakfast or whatever when U finally call her back I can just whip her out my bag and put her on the phone with you. RETARDS! All kinds of people were leaving me messages. I started changing my message on fri and sat that says "if you are returning a call received last nite I hung out at the xxxx club all nite last nite and seven million people used my phone and I don't know you."
Anastacia79
07-03-2007, 09:38 PM
how about not striking up conversation with girl as she is speaking with customer, not blocking doorway of VIP/dance area when other girls are trying to get back there with the custy before another song starts...
gingerlee
07-03-2007, 09:41 PM
Holy shit this is an old thread....
PaigeDWinter
07-03-2007, 09:45 PM
Holy shit this is an old thread....
It's ALIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIVE!!!
Sunshine73
07-04-2007, 02:17 AM
Please do not ask me how much money I have made so far. Please do not ask to borrow my mascara or lip goo. And no you may not use my flatiron without my permission.
Oh and can you maybe not grab my boob/ass/as I walk by? I have to deal with enough shit from customers. Please don't add to it. Thank you.
Lysondra
07-04-2007, 02:33 AM
Please do not ask me how much money I have made so far. Please do not ask to borrow my mascara or lip goo. And no you may not use my flatiron without my permission.
Oh and can you maybe not grab my boob/ass/as I walk by? I have to deal with enough shit from customers. Please don't add to it. Thank you.
THIS shits me. I can't STAND it. Don't you fucking ask how much money I make, don't try and count my dances.. actually, don't effing try to LOOK at my money! In what world is that polite to do? Why are you not making as much money as me? Because you spend all your time counting MINE!
LatinaRose
07-04-2007, 08:27 AM
Don't change your tampons hovering over the trashcan in the dressing room!!!!!!!!! [puke]
Ugh yes! That is so disgusting. Furthermore, don't cut your tampon string with the same scissors everyone has to use. At least trim it before you put it in your pussy!!! I can't understand how so many girls can take those scissors and cut the string right between their legs, then put em back. 5 minutes later another girl does the exact same thing with the exact same scissors.
Oh, and please spray your body spray on YOUR BODY. Not in a 5 feet wide cloud around you. I don't want to smell like you!!!
Sunshine73
07-04-2007, 11:07 PM
Please don't take 5 minutes collecting your stage tips from customers sitting at your stage. Collect your money and then get down. It's really hard for me to do my pole tricks while your ass is in the way and you're just shooting the shit with the customers while I am trying to do my set. End your set, get your money, and then get down. Should take 2 min. tops.
StevieStar7
07-05-2007, 12:08 AM
Please, Please make sure your toilet paper, baby wipes and tampons all make it INTO the toilet and FLUSH that Shit!!! I don't care to come into the stall you just used, and seeing that shit on the floor or still in the toilet, that you did not flush!!!
Dottie Rebel
07-05-2007, 01:30 AM
Don't invade another dancers' stage. This one was a new low for me to witness. A new, not entirely high class dancer marched up onto my stage one night this week, said, "Let me show you how to make some money", threw me onto my back and licked my pink pocket through my thong.
This, apparently, is how you make money. Well, I did get all of three dollars that set, so maybe I'm too quick to blow off her advice. ::)
GGGRRRRRRR!!!! I can't repeat this enough! Quit oggling my makeup bag like a fucking vulture and asking me if you can borrow shit! I won't hesitate to tell you NO. Make your own damn money and buy your own damn shit!!!
Can't repeat this enough, either. Stop asking me how much I am making or how much I have made, etc, etc. It's none of your damn business! Also, I don't giva shit how much you're making, either...GOOD FOR YOU!!! Do ya wanna fucking Girl Scout cookie???
Also, stop spying on me all night and staring me down while you are giving a dance/dances for a custy, while I am sitting there chilling and having a great time with mine. I'm not trying to compete with your ass. Don't eyeball me while you're on stage, either...Why the fuck are you so interested in what the hell I am doing all night, anyway, Bitch??? Once again...I don't giva shit if you're making money. I ask again.....Do ya wanna fucking Girl Scout cookie???
Stop hiding, bitching, whining, and moaning in the dressing room about how tonight sucks and you're not making any money. Get your ass out there and make the best of it!!!
gingerlee
07-05-2007, 08:15 AM
Can't repeat this enough, either. Stop asking me how much I am making or how much I have made, etc, etc. It's none of your damn business! Also, I don't giva shit how much you're making, either...GOOD FOR YOU!!! Do ya wanna fucking Girl Scout cookie???
I don't want to know how much you are making, but may I please have a Girl Scout cookie anyway? I love those things! ;D
^LOL! Sure...what kind? Peanut Butter or Chocolate Mint? :D
Dottie Rebel
07-05-2007, 05:18 PM
Chocolate mint! Frozen! No...SAMOAS!!! Dammit, I can't have any of them!
OH GOD! *swoons 'n dies*
OOOOooooo...I like em' frozen, too!!! YUM-MEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!! ;D
gingerlee
07-05-2007, 06:23 PM
I'll take a box of frozen Samoas. Yum!
GoddessNico
12-16-2021, 02:30 PM
BUMPING THIS! Any other input!?
I don't know what I do wrong but I haven't made friends with any ladies. I know people are tired after work, but going out to eat as a group after would be cool.
DeathAndTaxes
12-16-2021, 02:41 PM
I always find it funny when you communicate with each other, calling dibs on me right in front of me as if I were deaf/blind or something, that said it stops being funny when I remember the kind of drama that can generate...
moneybags
12-17-2021, 03:15 AM
BUMPING THIS! Any other input!?
I don't know what I do wrong but I haven't made friends with any ladies. I know people are tired after work, but going out to eat as a group after would be cool.
i would invite girls out to eat after work, but don’t take rejection personally because you have no idea what’s going on in their personal life that makes it so they don’t want to hang outside of work.
sarah101
12-20-2021, 07:36 AM
Don't let one jerk spoil your night. There is always going to be jerks.